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Rabbi Moshe Haber Path of the Just-The Path of the Pious: Character and Deeds 9.29.25 · Rabbi Moshe Haber - Daily Mussar/Weekly Perasha

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  OK, again the overall theme is becoming a casit where the idea
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  of the person is showing actually dedication in a certain
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  area. Quiens de Amar bisera Mia Milo
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  Patti bidoc petty. My entire life I never this
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  expressed displeasure in my home.
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  Which means he never schooled to his wife in a sort of derogatory
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  way. He never even this is the take
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  it to full way. He never insinuated a level of
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  upset. You know certain people they
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  never yell, but they have a yell that's way louder than the
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  actual yell and that is when they show disappointment.
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  It feels a lot worse than a yell.
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  It's just thing out there. But let's say out of deep if
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  name ish they got to tell me many.
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  I never walked in front of someone greater than me.
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  So I gave someone who's greater than me the right respect below
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  your heart deep and to not vote. I never thought to not thoughts
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  and in pure places dirty places and I was physically dirty
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  places. I never travelled for a month
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  without Toronto. If you leaned again.
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  This is very level interesting. There is a Gemara Mazeka Dioma
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  that talks about how Yom Kippur is effective once a person does
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  the Shua. Yom Kippur is effective for
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  everyone and everything to a different degree.
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  You know, it's what I said. It says you don't even need
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  Kippur if you understand, I said just to Shiva's enough.
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  A lot of says that you need Kippur as well with the Shiva.
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  And then it says if someone there's a much more severe sin
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  to be able to do to Shiva, Kippur gives them an extension
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  and then they need a 120 to complete the picture.
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  And then it says, but the sin of Gila Hashem, nothing's going to
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  help. It needs pain, the whole list.
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  So then it says what's an example Hashem?
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  Every rabbi gives an example and one of the examples the Rabbi
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  says is this, that for him walking without Toronto Vinine,
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  more than 4 amot is Hashem. Obviously it's a crazy level,
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  but the point is, is that every person's got that thing.
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  Now again, this is a rabbi who was in a time and thinking
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  about, I don't think his colleagues have that same list.
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  They had the illness and part of the concept is every person
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  carries a certain torch and our job is to step into the roll and
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  carry that torch and not, you know, ignore it.
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  So this rabbi is saying, I made sure to carry my torch of Torah
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  antivoli and to be nice to my wife.
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  I never took a nap. I don't never went to sleep
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  permanently. I never took a nap and I never
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  enjoyed the downfall of my friend.
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  Easier said than done. You have a guy who harmed you a
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  business and he stole and he's a bad partner, whatever else.
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  Trust me, there's a little bit of a good feeling inside.
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  And that guy, he's having all the time business, come on.
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  I mean, he's, he doesn't deserve to be, you know, enjoying it
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  all. Well, well, he took my money.
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  I can see that. As Rabbi said, I worked on
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  myself to not enjoy other people's downfall.
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  That doesn't mean that doesn't mean other person didn't do
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  something wrong. He did, but I'm not playing God
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  on my mind. That's his point.
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  But if you see it, don't go inside your smile and say you
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  know, just this is something else that that's something else
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  enjoying justice saying I sometimes I see the hand of
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  Hashem. So if he could be deserved, if
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  you can remove your emotion from it, simply say I wow, I saw I
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  got roamed. It bothered me for a while.
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  This guy was riding hide on my downfall and then he said
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  Hashem's hand. Look, it worked out.
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  That's something else. I never would refer to my friend
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  grand nickname. We mention this what the OK it
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  doesn't take. These are examples of Hasidut in
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  all different ways. Another example of a Hasid this
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  is from the fields like Kayemi led the Berejot.
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  He should be very careful and the laws of Berejot is not
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  related to those character examples.
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  This is simply Berejot Lizela mache beniole be cono is within
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  him and Hashem Berejot, which seem like a small and Yan.
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  What's the big deal? Why is it so powerful?
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  They really are able to shape your life and your relationship
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  between you and Asha, because every time you make it with a
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  small level of covenant, you're recognizing God runs the world.
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  He owns the world. He granted it to me.
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  I appreciate it. I want more.
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  All that comes out of a civil banacha.
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  All right, the shark. All right.
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  Literally, Hashem created the world.
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  He created all this sugar, all the fruit, whatever.
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  Probably a lot of sugar. I wanted this lemonade.
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  I feel good. He created it.
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  He granted it to me. I'm going to bless him, which
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  more importantly, he's like almost like a sort of asking
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  permission. He grants him permission.
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  And now he gave me the world to enjoy and I appreciate and I'm
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  going to use it for the right reason.
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  All that goes into that. That's a Hassi farmer, the Kayam
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  Milind. This is akin.
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  Others say being careful in business is being a Hassi,
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  because when you're careful in business, what happens?
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  You're careful for other people, Rosale Lamaze Shippen or Lebanon
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  Havidor. This obviously relates to God
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  and more importantly relates to your friend.
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  You understand my money is mine, physicist.
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  I can't play around. I can't steal, I can't harm.
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  I can't damage so and so his life.
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  I can't ruin his, his ability to run his family.
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  I can't impact his future. I can't harm In many ways, all
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  that is included in being careful and the laws of damages
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  and otherwise, the laws of business.
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  Rahman has some say la que me la de a votes learn Piqua a votes
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  that's important to make you into Hasid.
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  How does Piqua a vote make you Hasid?
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  It gives you the background of everything, gives you the
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  background of character, of how you want to live your life, what
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  you want to be focused on, what you want to avoid, what kind of
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  distractions shouldn't be the part of your mix, what to look
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  for in life. So in other words, developing
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  your mind in the character that makes you has seed.
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  So they gave you 3 examples, one is berahut, 1 is monetary and
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  one is overall character. And the reality is what they all
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  represent in all known way. What they all represent is a
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  person dedicated taking his life in different areas to the
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  complete full picture. But a hot has the power to make
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  you a full person within you and God.
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  You understand if a person does be a hot properly is to be that
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  will be different is to that will be different.
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  His Amuna will be different. Everything will be different
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  between him and his chambers. If a person does finances
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  properly. If a person is careful with
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  other people in business, it's not just located to money.
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  Everything between him and other people will be different because
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  he recognizes they deserve theirs and I deserve mine.
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  I shouldn't harm them. I shouldn't impact them in any
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  way. And that moves over to other
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  other interpersonal areas. It doesn't stop by damages,
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  doesn't stop by monetary business.
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  It goes to the full interpersonal relationship.
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  How can I harm another person? The same way I can't steal, The
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  same way I can't do the business and say I can't teach.
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  I can't compete inappropriately the same way I can't, you know,
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  put them down financially. I can't do that any other area
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  as well. And then overall, it's adapting
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  your character, a vote that for sure changes you and makes you
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  into a person who's thinking and that makes everything different.
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  That's a hassid. So he opens up with the next few
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  lines. Kimmelut.
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  Hassidin. That's a word.
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  That is the word we use. Hassid and hassid.
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  Hassid and hassid. Interchangeable Hassid means
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  caring for others. All right.
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  Hassi means being a pious person.
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  They're interchangeable, those words because they
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  interchangeable concepts, the way a person becomes a fully
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  whole person. The idea of this chapter is
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  actually Sue Hesse, A outline. And now de mortima, when you
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  take a person who's dedicated to caring for other people.
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  I'll give you an example. My friend told me last night.
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  I have a friend, Salie, who has a child that was born about two
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  months ago with a very serious heart effect.
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  OK, he knew while his wife was pregnant, the kids mentally fine
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  and Inchela, after three surgeries over 2 years, we'll be
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  fine. But the child, they're not going
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  to bring me lie yet, does not have a name yet.
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  I don't know if I'll say he's in his speech or not, but it's a
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  crazy thing. His child still doesn't have a
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  name, so he's not going to bring me lie.
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  I spent most of his life so far in the hospital, Philadelphia.
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  That's what he's dealing with. My friend is back and forth with
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  the child for everything. So recently the child came home
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  and that was some kind of 1 temporarily 'cause they have to
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  go back for another surgery. If I tell you what the surgery
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  is, what they do, the child was born with half a heart chamber,
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  so the other half doesn't exist. What they have to do is rewire
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  the body, rewire the body completely to figure out a new
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  way for the blood to flow for a child that's going out, rewire
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  the whole body, took from one part to another Part's a crazy
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  surgery. They did the surgery when the
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  child was less than two years, 2 weeks old.
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  Unbelievable surgeon. And now the child is home and
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  God and he's well trying. He's functioning.
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  He's being fed out of the tube because I don't think he can
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  feed normally and trying to get to a certain level of strength
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  to get to the next surgery. Now he's his friend of mine.
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  Financially is OK, but he can't afford a 24 hour nurse.
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  She couldn't afford a 25 hour nurse.
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  So we added a little while he realized it doesn't work without
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  getting one. She just got home without being
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  able to afford it. It was a major financial strain
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  and his family. Someone shows up at his door.
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  The rabbit of his community, mini community in Lakewood.
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  Someone shows up at his door last week, knocks on his door.
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  Until then I want to ask you a question of finance is an issue
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  so be honest with you. Yes He said are you willing to
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  get a full time nurse? He said I got one anyway even I
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  can't afford it. He said well let me tell you
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  from here on in money should never be your problem.
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  We have the 24 hour nurse covered from here any I was sure
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  our community we have a covered for you from here any and the
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  friend told me he said that the level I told him yesterday I was
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  I was talking to him last night. So I teased him.
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  I said it's a joke you know you die with a friend.
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  I said, you know, got a full time nurse, obviously wealthy
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  guy. He says I am, I'm very well off
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  because our people have a bottomless pit, have a
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  bottomless heart. As he told him two of you have
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  bottomless heart. And that's he said he's changing
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  the entire, his entire family, his entire mindset, everything.
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  He said for the last two months, all I've been focused on is
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  figuring out how to get a 24 hour nurse because without it,
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  my family has not been functioning.
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  So I have one is that I just had this conversation happened last
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  night at 11:00. So it comes to mind right now
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  when I read about Hesse. Cause the person who's
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  thoughtful enough to, you know, a rabbi can obviously look the
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  other way. Whoever it is with the money can
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  easily look the way they see a guy as he has a child.
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  That's not well, they want to help, they want to pitch in,
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  they want to give him cookies. But for someone to go ahead and
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  to offer an endless commitment to a 24 hour nurse, which we
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  should know is a lot of money. A lot of money is thousands of
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  dollars a week, right? And to make a commitment, it's a
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  two year process. At least they don't know how
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  long they're gonna be paying for this.
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  Maybe we'll get the government to cover it, but maybe not,
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  right? And to make that commitment,
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  we're not even thinking it twice because he feels another person
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  in need. That is the existence and
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  concept of Hassid and Hassid at the same time, because you are
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  fully dedicating yourself to care for another person.
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  It's an unbelievable story to me.
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  It's another concept of how we have to be.
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  You look out there, you find people and you go the full way.
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  That's your job in life. He told me, he said, he said, I
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  said it's a, it's the rabbi of the community.
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  So maybe he's my rabbi now. My friend, by the way, moved
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  into that town a few months ago. Is all that he knows is that
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  committee for a long term in Lakewood?
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  The rabbi is not really a real job.
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  The rabbi job is not a real job on Lakewood.
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  Why? Because it's the yeshiva town,
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  so everyone goes to the yeshiva. The rabbi is just the guy who
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  runs the shoe locally. It's not like over here or the
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  rabbi, you know, deals all your different things.
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  The rabbi is the guy who runs the shoe.
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  But this person stepped up, came over, knocked on the door late
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  at night and offered a commitment of money.
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  He's not wealthy himself. He's also a person in Coleo.
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  Probably right? Doesn't matter.
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  He decided to offer it because he knows it's my job, it's my
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  role, I want to do it fully and change my friends, family.
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  Totally right.