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76. Your Marriage Isn't Over · Power Talk with Katelin Power

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  [SPEAKER_00]: Welcome to Power Talk with Caitlyn Power.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I'm Caitlyn, a certified clinical hypnotherapist who helps you clear out the BS of conscious beliefs that have been keeping you from reaching your goals.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And I show you how to upgrade your identity into the most confident, the filled you that you were always meant to be.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So if you're ready to stop playing small and joint transformative conversations around mindset, manifestation, business, wellness, and hear from the eighth girls that are out there living their dream lives, I'm so excited to have you here.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Let's get started.
• 0:36
  [SPEAKER_00]: Hi, friend.
• 0:37
  [SPEAKER_00]: Welcome back to Power Talk.
• 0:39
  [SPEAKER_00]: I have a really cool episode because we're going to be going off of two clients recently that came to me with a similar situation.
• 0:48
  [SPEAKER_00]: So what's cool about this is when that happens when two or more of my clients are experiencing something.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Similar, same, same but different, I love to bring this in to a teaching whether that's in one of my courses or on a sub sack article or here on the podcast because I believe that means that that's how yourself pointing going here here here
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  [SPEAKER_00]: our whole it-girl community can benefit from this.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: As always, everything is anonymous and anonymous, so that no one can guess anything about my clients and I make it so vague so that we can get the exact gold from it, but obviously only the people that had those sessions know that it's about them.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: With this, I had two it girls that were having reflections happen in their marriage.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So if you're new here, this is the universal law of reflections.
• 1:38
  [SPEAKER_00]: If you are out of balance in one or more areas of life, we have eight areas of life.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: If you are out of balance and limiting yourself in some way in one or more areas of life,
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You will have a reflection, which is created by your divine team, your higher self, to show you where you are out of balance, so that you can get back in to balance, and then create all the gorgeous things that you're here to create to change lives, to enjoy your life, to create money, to create friendships and love and desire and passion and playfulness.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: when you are limiting yourself in some way going, I can't have that or I am not good enough for that or that could never be me.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: This is where reflections will start to form, and if we don't kind of catch them at a smaller point, they get bigger and bigger and amplify until we stop ignoring them.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: can get overwhelmed by this and that's kind of my job to be able to simplify this as much as possible and see reflections as the biggest gift you could ever get.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And you are so lucky to be handed this at whatever amplification you got it at because this is keeping you from living a life in which you feel that you are not good enough in some way or in multiple ways
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  [SPEAKER_00]: to be a shadow of yourself, like the smallest version of yourself possible.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And then you get to the end of your life and you go, oh, whoa, I let all of this contaminate what I was here to do.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I let these people, these situations, these beliefs make me feel like I needed to be small.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I needed to dim dim dim my light because I was scared of what would happen if I shine to my brightest.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: that I needed to stay safe in that way, but I actually could have learned the universal laws used neuroscience tools in order to completely resolve these reflections.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Upgrade your manifestation field, which is your electromagnetic field, and you could have lived your life with this fear healed and no longer affecting you so that you actually were able to shine and feel comfortable and safe doing that.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: sometimes that takes repetition to create something that feels new and scary and to make it be something that you are actually enjoying and that feels comfortable, but we get to have these tools that work and make that process, that uncomfortable process of doing big things, of making the big money, of swinging for the fences and having a life that other people go, how did she do that?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: That is the life that it girls create.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And I also made an article on sub-cycle leave it below.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: That talks about if you want to have an abnormal life where people go, what did you do that?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Teach me everything you know.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: That is essentially what I'm doing in that article.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You can get your starting point there.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I'll leave it in the show notes.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You need to be someone who does have normal things.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You can't keep doing the same thing over and over and over again and expecting a different result.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: We've heard that before.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Why would you think that you're going to have a spectacular life if you don't do anything to build the spectacular?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And this is something that is easy to do.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It's not hard to do.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It just we're always taught again to do the opposite.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: To be smaller.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: To dim dim dim our light.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: to not be ourselves fully and that is by design in a lot of ways because if we figure this out that we actually can do the things that we want to do help people change lives spread light everywhere then as we know with light and dark in the world and life that's that is what the the world we live in that the darkness does not want people to know that you can be light that you can
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  [SPEAKER_00]: have a life that you enjoy living.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It's not a, like, a pipe dream.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: This is something that you get to do.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And we get to actually have it be something that becomes familiar to you.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Of being someone, again, that does abnormal, spectacular, special things.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It has an abnormal, spectacular, special life, because you are not doing what we are taught to just want, which is the bare minimum.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: you get to just have the bare minimum and be grateful for that.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It's like, no, thank you.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I will choose the it-girl-at-way.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Coming back to what my clients were bringing up with their marriages without getting into any specifics.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Long of the short is just that they were having really loud reflections in their marriage where for both of them, it was scaring them of like, is this relationship going to work?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: One of them,
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  [SPEAKER_00]: things have been going where they've been allowed for a minute of going like this is not going well and this feels completely different to what I signed up for when I agreed to marry this person.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: The other person has had a pretty solid situation and just have the flare up, if you will,
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  [SPEAKER_00]: in her marriage that hasn't been occurring.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So that was really scary because you're thinking for many years that things are going great.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And then this flare up happens where you're going, whoa, what is this?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Like, what relationship am I in?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: This feels completely not typical.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: and something that is really scary because I never would have thought that this would kind of pop up here.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: If you are having an experience, whether you are married or not, whether you're single or dating, if you're having an experience that makes you kind of scared of going, this feels really uncomfortable scary and I do not like this at all.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I want you to take a breath and realize that this is a reflection just like anything else.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And what we can see and recognize is that maybe you're not used to having reflections pop up in that area of life or in that that micro area of that area of life meaning.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It might have been the case that you've had reflections pop up in your kids.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: If your kids acting up or throwing tantrums, something of that sort, but you've never had a situation pop up with your husband or your wife in this way.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And so that feels really scary.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: We're all of a sudden you're going as my marriage and trouble.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Are we going to make it?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Or maybe you've had reflections pop up in your vocational area of life.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: but you've never had it happen in the relationship with your boss or with your co-workers like maybe you've had situations happen where you've had issues with your clients that you work on the projects in your company with clients and sometimes they are not the easiest to work with.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: They have you have some challenging clients sometimes.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But you've never had anything happen with your boss besides like absolute trust and a great working relationship with your boss.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And all this sudden your boss gives you negative feedback on one of your projects.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And that can feel like what is happening?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Am I about to get fired?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I remember in one of my nine to five, the most recent one I had before going full-time in my business.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And in that,
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  [SPEAKER_00]: that job.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I was treated like an absolute clean, which was very not normal for me after having several jobs in a row of pattern, which again was reflective.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I finally got to the root of that reflection and then was treated like an absolute clean in my next job that I was there for several years.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Everyone at that company treated me so well was consistently
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  [SPEAKER_00]: praising me on how great of a job I did, how lucky they were to have me working for the company.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: That was something that I truly heard on a weekly basis, but it was more like daily from someone in the company.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So that was an incredible experience for me and because of the fact that I wasn't getting reflections through there, if I ever got any sort of,
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  [SPEAKER_00]: feedback that was not absolutely spectacular for one of the projects I was doing or through client work I was working on.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It was so scary to me and it was jarring because I would go wait a minute like I'm used to getting treated like a queen.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: This feels really uncomfortable that I didn't get like
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  [SPEAKER_00]: total applause, basically, for this situation, which, again, that was just in that job.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I had many jobs previously, where it was very common and normal for me to basically be told that I like never doing good enough.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And
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  [SPEAKER_00]: being kind of threatened with my job of meaning that I was being threatened of, we'll see if this works out and having that be a consistent thing where my nervous system was on fire of feeling like at any moment, I might be losing my job.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: for months and months and months I had one employer that would make me and the other people that work there she would say that to us repeatedly of, I don't know, like you guys are so great as people, but I just don't know if it's gonna work out and that was told to me on a weekly basis.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So I totally get it.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Whatever situation you're in, the point of this episode is to drill into you, into your brain,
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  [SPEAKER_00]: that your reality is now youable, meaning it can be moved the matter in your life, can be moved and shaped into any shape that you want it to be.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So your marriage is not ruined if you don't want it to be.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Your job is not completely asked if you don't want it to be.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Your relationship, your friendship,
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  [SPEAKER_00]: you are the girl that gets to move matter and it might be the fact that that friendship is no longer serving you in meaning like in that form of like that person no longer is a match to in your life and you and that other person are going to move into other friendships that are in the highest good for everyone involved in their part in your
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  [SPEAKER_00]: life was beautiful and meaningful, but now they're going to walk away and have a similar dynamic that they have with you in a different friendship with a different person, meaning do you see how the matter moves and another person is going to walk in and take those attributes and qualities that you were holding for them.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: and take that on and that's great and that's wonderful not every person is meant to be in our life and every chapter.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And so that might be the case.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It's possible that that would be the case for your job where that matter gets moved into another job in which if your boss or your colleagues and all of them are not
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  [SPEAKER_00]: able to not capable to show you the absolute appreciation and acceptance and praise you and celebrate you as how incredible you are in the way that again I just proved to you that that's possible coming from someone that never, maybe not never.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: but was rarely praised in previous positions.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I was able to create a position in which it was rare for me to not go a day without being celebrated with for the work that I did and what I brought to the table at that company.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: If the job that you're currently in meaning like
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Many positions that I was in where maybe the boss or the co-worker or the structure of that company or whatever it is Is not able to match now to the new level your app with the higher self image with the higher self love with all the upgrades that you've been working hard on in your fields
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  [SPEAKER_00]: to create this gorgeousness again in your manifestation field, all people, events, situations, opportunities, have to act out the script that you wrote into your fields.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You etched it into that field.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You can imagine this like spear around you.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And so only people that are a match now to actually respect you, appreciate you admire you, adore you, celebrate you, praise you, have to match to your life and only those people if you think of it, kind of like this energetic bubble around you that not everyone can see.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And if those bosses, people, friends,
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  [SPEAKER_00]: partners cannot walk in through the bubble like match into it because it if it's for people that can that are capable of getting you those things of what we just talked about the appreciation, acceptance of love, if they're capable of that of where they're at and their soul path, then think of them like kind of matching to it like a magnet, but for people that could not do that for where they're at currently, doesn't mean forever, but where they're at
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  [SPEAKER_00]: If they can't match that, then it's like they're going to be...
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  [SPEAKER_00]: reflected off like it's going to be like rubber where they bounce off in our blasted back from your field because they are not a match to what you have written in your field.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So this is a really wonderful thing and this is why a lot of people are told that when you're rejected from something or if you have a friend breakup or a breakup breakup or a job where you're let go,
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  [SPEAKER_00]: These are wonderful things that you should celebrate, but for our human self, it's really, really, really, really scary because again, when we do these big things, these abnormal things, these spectacular things, we have to do special spectacular things to create spectacular special results.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So when we're doing that, but we're not used to doing that yet,
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  [SPEAKER_00]: and there's always going to be things that there's these next levels that you haven't made that amount of money yet.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So that's going to feel scary and unfamiliar.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You haven't had maybe like I hadn't a job that celebrated it, you embraced you for my entire first, let's say, let me look actually.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Three months, I felt like the other shoe was gonna drop the entire first three months of my job, and that job that I was praised, celebrated and appreciated, because I had never felt that level of praise and appreciation for my work before.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: To me, I was doing that thing where I felt like I was consistently Jumpy of feeling like the other she was going to drop and at some point I was going to get negative feedback from the people I was working for and with because that's what I was used to.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So even though I had changed and upgraded my field and now was not a match to people disrespecting me putting me down
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  [SPEAKER_00]: and getting joy out of making me feel less than, I was no longer a match those things, but it wasn't familiar to my subconscious mind yet to receive and accept that phrase and celebration.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It was getting there and with every day I was getting there, it was getting their repetition repetition of being able to accept this and have this be my new norm, but it did take me three months to even feel like, oh, this isn't like a
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  [SPEAKER_00]: freak thing of I'm just being treated well as a like freak accident as a passing thing.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: This is now my new normal and I had to go Caitlin you need to accept this and see that this is now what you are a match to receive that you deserve this level of respect and appreciation and of people
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So welcoming that you're a part of their team or else you're going to repeat a past pattern by bringing the past into my current situation.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So I had to go, okay, we're going to make this normal.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: We're going to make this normal and see I deserve this every time I was complimented.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You did a great job with that.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Thank you so much for thinking of this ahead of time, the slack messages.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: that sort of thing was so new to me and I had to show myself that I deserved that in the moment and then it was something that was normal.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It was etched into my field and that was the case for the entire time that I worked there.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Even when different things happened with the job organizations of just the company remodeling and it was a startup so it was something that
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  [SPEAKER_00]: the different leaders were coming in and out and the whole time I was able to keep that level of appreciation and it's something that I know you can do because I know I did it so this is something that anyone can do if I can do it you can do it and this applies to your marriage to you see how I'm using different examples from different areas of life but the good news is if you are experiencing a reflection in your relationship let's say it's with
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  [SPEAKER_00]: your boyfriend, your wife, your husband, whoever.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: If it's happening in your relationship, the really, really great news that I want you to remind yourself of, even if you've done this work for a long time, this is still a reminder that it's so worth going.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Hey, remember her?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: This is not actually happening here, so the area of life and which it's reflecting, so you're seeing it happen in your marriage.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But it's not actually originating there.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Your limiting idea of self is actually happening in another area of life.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You do not have the reflection reflect in the area of life that it started in and this is why it's so confusing for people when they're having money issues and they go I've been working on my money beliefs for months now And I'm still not seeing my money reality move.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It's because the reflections that you're seeing in your financial area of life where more money isn't coming in or the bills are popping in or what's going on with that
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  [SPEAKER_00]: That is actually not originating being created in your financial area of life because it's reflecting there.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: That's how you know.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Intuitively, you can go and see where is this root cause, which area of life or areas of life is this originating in so that you can go solve it there at the root and then it stops reflecting in your finances.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: That's why we go, I'm so frustrated, I've worked on this for so long, and I'm not seeing this move because it's not happening there.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So it's great news for you.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: If you're seeing it, it's not actually a money problem, or if it's in your marriage, there's actually not a problem in your marriage.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Yes, if this goes on too long, then your subconscious mind will take this on.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: To mean, I'm going through a rough patch in my marriage, which can turn into
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  [SPEAKER_00]: My marriage is not going well.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I don't know if my marriage is going to survive.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I don't have a good healthy marriage And this turns into that over time with repetition if the reflection is ignored because that is what your mind is seeing But that's not actually where the problem was created and if you didn't get to the root now We haven't even figured out what that is and so now it's going to eventually
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  [SPEAKER_00]: be a problem in your marriage plus where it was originating.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Stick with me if this is if you're new to all of us it might be a little overwhelming but I promise you with repetition like everything else the mind learns better petition just listen to this a couple times and get your resources in any of my courses we go through reflections and you really start to see
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  [SPEAKER_00]: how this works in your life so that you are no longer a victim to your life.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You see that you are the creator and that these messages higher self is trying to show you where you are minimizing yourself instead of having the maximum amount of potential in your money in love life in friendships and your family.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Every area of life, it's showing you where you've made yourself small and where you've kind of settled and said, No, I can do with less.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: That's not what we're here to do.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So it's a really beautiful powerful thing.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And then you can stop taking things so personal of taking the things in your life and having the mean things about you and your relationship or you and
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  [SPEAKER_00]: feeling like you are horrible at taxes and finances and making things mean things about yourself when that's actually not the case because again if it's reflecting there it's not actually originating there it's just it's like a mirror that when you look at yourself in the mirror
• 22:38
  [SPEAKER_00]: You're looking at the reflection of you, but not actually you, right?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Someone could, if I'm looking at myself in the mirror, you couldn't slap me in the mirror and have it hit my face Because that's not actually me, that's a reflection of me.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: If you took a photo of yourself, that's not actually you in the photo, that is a picture of you.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It is reflecting what you look like, but that's not actually where the picture was taken.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So I want you to see that here that if it's happening in your relationships, the good news is that your relationship is an F, your marriage isn't done for if you decide to put in the work and see where this is actually happening get the gold from it.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And then of course, there are physical things we have to everything energetic and everything physical.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So in order to create a manifestation of a great marriage, that will also take steps to we want to resolve the reflection of where it originated, which is not in your marriage.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And then we can create a wonderful marriage as a manifestation of putting in the actions to create a wonderful marriage.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: That might require you working on your emotions and learning how to actually process those in a healthy way and not just blowing up on your partner.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And if you've ever felt like that feeling of where you're so highly emotional and you just feel this need to say something that you know that you are not super proud of.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And it doesn't fully feel like you, it feels like it's like the emotion talking.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It's again because of the reflection in these universal laws at play.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It could also be your the your the inside out voice or your partner, which can happen a lot in romantic relationships where you have to it's like when you think about it.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: if you think about even just basic physics of like push and pull or even you know when you put batteries and a remote I just had to put new batteries and one of my TV remote to the night and you know how you have to put like the plus and the minus and a certain place because
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  [SPEAKER_00]: They won't work if you put them in on the side of the, the minus side when there's was to be on the plus side, where if you look at magnets and how two magnets will go both like snap together if they're on the right side of the magnet, but if they're on the wrong side that they push out from each other and they won't connect and match to each other.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: This is the same thing that happens with these universal laws at play.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It's like,
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  [SPEAKER_00]: We see that this happens with magnets.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: We see that this is happening.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: These laws of physics are in play in so many instances.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But then we don't think that there's universal laws in which we have to adhere to what's happening.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It just makes perfect sense when you look at it.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: If I feel the need to say something that doesn't really feel in line with what I would say normally,
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You could be acting out there inside out voice which again is a universal law that we adhere to or it could be the law of Reflections that you feel compelled to say something that you would regret later because again with the magnets You were the perfect match to their other side of the magnet of them feeling critical themselves So they need someone to match to be the match and putting my hands together like a clap
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You need to be the other person that criticizes them.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You have this in your field of being hard on yourself.
• 26:06
  [SPEAKER_00]: It's like you're writing in your field.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Hey, I need my other half.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I need the other.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I need a partner to act out being critical of me because I'm being critical of myself.
• 26:16
  [SPEAKER_00]: So it's like those magnets where or if you think of it like the batteries.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I'm the plus sign.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I need a minus sign to match to what I've written into my field.
• 26:25
  [SPEAKER_00]: If you look at this with your marriage, you are in some way acting out that one half of the problem, which you're seeing as a problem.
• 26:33
  [SPEAKER_00]: It's not actually a problem.
• 26:34
  [SPEAKER_00]: It's actually a huge gift with this reflection.
• 26:37
  [SPEAKER_00]: But you are acting out that one half of the problem and your partner has come in to be the other half of that match.
• 26:45
  [SPEAKER_00]: to act out the thing that you again have that whole in your field where someone has to act out and what your higher selves found to be the best for getting you that lesson of acting out within your fields of showing you that reflection.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: They have decided yours and theirs have decided that that they would be the best person to be your partner in that
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  [SPEAKER_00]: damp.
• 27:12
  [SPEAKER_00]: And it could be opted out from other people, so you might find that you go in and resolve your part of this reflection with your partner.
• 27:21
  [SPEAKER_00]: And then they might not have done the work to resolve it on their side.
• 27:26
  [SPEAKER_00]: But the good news is that it's none of your business in the way that you get to completely change your marriage or relationship, whatever reflection you're having
• 27:37
  [SPEAKER_00]: You have complete control where you can change your part of it and then if they still have a lesson to learn of that They have to go learn that from somewhere else So it might be that one of their friends sends them like a super critical text of like Hey, that was a really rude when you were late to getting drinks and now they have like a reflection with their friend But it doesn't affect you anymore and you might not even hear about it usually if you're not a match
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  [SPEAKER_00]: you won't even hear that there was another situation or maybe they have an email at work that someone was critical over them and you never even hear about it.
• 28:15
  [SPEAKER_00]: This episode is to show you if you feel like all is lost, if you feel like this is a problem that has no solution or I have tried and tried and tried and this hasn't gotten any better, it's often because you're working in
• 28:31
  [SPEAKER_00]: in which that problem that whole in your manifestation field is even created.
• 28:37
  [SPEAKER_00]: You're in a different spot.
• 28:38
  [SPEAKER_00]: It's like you're digging for a treasure over in California but the actual treasure is in Arizona and so you're like digging in this hole forever and ever and ever and never getting to the roof but it's because you weren't in the right spot.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So I want you to see that that this is good news
• 29:02
  [SPEAKER_00]: with your relationship in this specific situation.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Whatever you're seeing acted out here is actually happening in another area or areas of life and simply being reflected there.
• 29:14
  [SPEAKER_00]: So an easy way to look into this without scientifically precise intuition and doing a session would be going, how am I feeling from my partner?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And it could be, I feel completely abandoned.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It could be, I feel completely used.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I feel completely disregarded.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And just go where you feel like it is.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And you might find as you're going through this.
• 29:39
  [SPEAKER_00]: Oh, it's actually a little bit less like I'm sad and more like I'm disappointed.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And that's great.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Just follow the vein of it.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And then see where,
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  [SPEAKER_00]: am I doing that to myself?
• 29:51
  [SPEAKER_00]: Where am if it was disappointed?
• 29:53
  [SPEAKER_00]: Where am I disappointing myself?
• 29:55
  [SPEAKER_00]: Well, I actually feel like I'm disappointing myself in finances because I keep saying I want to build up my savings and know that I have that cushion and know like see that my money is growing because we know as you grow money then your amount should grow more money.
• 30:12
  [SPEAKER_00]: the more money that is in your account, the more money you're able to bring into your account.
• 30:16
  [SPEAKER_00]: So if you keep draining it every second of buying the shoes, buying the spa day, buying the vacation, and you drain it out, drain it out, drain it out.
• 30:25
  [SPEAKER_00]: You're going to create that situation in which you only have just...
• 30:29
  [SPEAKER_00]: just the right amount of money and not a dollar more and you'll keep creating that situation and you go, okay, I know I need a bill that I need to start showing myself that I'm someone who grows money that it actually compounds with me and is not something that goes in and it goes right back out but then you keep doing it and it's like, okay, well I'm disappointing myself with my finances, how do we fix that?
• 30:52
  [SPEAKER_00]: Okay, well I need to show myself that I'm someone that actually can build money
• 30:57
  [SPEAKER_00]: And then I need to do the action in which I actually build money.
• 31:00
  [SPEAKER_00]: So maybe I take five dollars from my paycheck this month.
• 31:04
  [SPEAKER_00]: And I keep it in here.
• 31:06
  [SPEAKER_00]: And then next month, I do $10.
• 31:08
  [SPEAKER_00]: And I see that I can actually keep growing this, where I know that I can stay with taking $100 out of my paycheck for several months and see that grow.
• 31:18
  [SPEAKER_00]: And see that just a small effort there is able to create money where I thought that a little something wouldn't make a difference.
• 31:27
  [SPEAKER_00]: what I want you to take away from this episode is a big deep sigh of relief.
• 31:34
  [SPEAKER_00]: Breathe in with me and now through your nose and then breathe out through your mouth and it's going because guess what the problem you thought you had is not a problem.
• 31:45
  [SPEAKER_00]: The problem that you thought you had is not a problem.
• 31:47
  [SPEAKER_00]: There's not an issue with your relationship or your marriage or whatever thing you've been telling yourself of if I was better at this, this would not be happening.
• 31:57
  [SPEAKER_00]: And see, okay, if there's gold here, if I was gonna dig up this gold, I know now that it's not happening in this area of life in which I'm seeing it happen.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: a little cheat cheat for you if you are new to reflections.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: If it's happening in your marriage that would be your family area of life.
• 32:17
  [SPEAKER_00]: If you are dating someone but you don't live together that's actually your social area of life.
• 32:22
  [SPEAKER_00]: So you know it's not happening there so it has to be happening in one or more areas of life.
• 32:27
  [SPEAKER_00]: and then you can go, where would this be?
• 32:30
  [SPEAKER_00]: If this had to be somewhere and you can ask your heart to help you to work with you to find this and give you a clear, definite lead on where this reflection is originating.
• 32:41
  [SPEAKER_00]: And then now you can start looking at what would I need to believe about myself, what kind of thoughts would I need to have, and what kind of actions would I need to have in order for me to no longer feel this way and these areas of life.
• 32:54
  [SPEAKER_00]: that is where you start moving towards and remember just like I was talking about with the bank account which was definitely intuitive for many of you out there of I feel like what would five dollars do or I feel like what would 6% of my paycheck do but when you start to see it bill
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  [SPEAKER_00]: that is magic.
• 33:14
  [SPEAKER_00]: You see that, oh, just a little bit of my effort actually has a huge huge result for me.
• 33:20
  [SPEAKER_00]: And I can start applying this to every area of life, of me, discounting small things, and now seeing that the small things make the big things.
• 33:28
  [SPEAKER_00]: Everything starts as small and you build and you use repetition and all the sudden, you're someone who's living this gorgeous life that people are going, how did you do that?
• 33:37
  [SPEAKER_00]: If you think that you are not someone who lives this spectacular life that does spectacular things and you don't think you're a spectacular person, you can start with the first step.
• 33:49
  [SPEAKER_00]: Well, if I had to reverse engineers spectacular, what would be my first step forward into that spectacular special life that abnormal life that is
• 34:00
  [SPEAKER_00]: outside of the norm, that is outside of the average, that is outside of the bare minimum, and you can start there, and another really great spot would be to look at that Sub-Sec article, my show notes, because I just gave you the first step so this, that add on that built-on, the foundations that you just learned in this episode, remember the mine learns by repetition, do not expect the mine to completely,
• 34:26
  [SPEAKER_00]: Jump with you to a new way of being to the it grow way on your first time of trying some of these things I myself have to break things down into small parts of the puzzle and work on that puzzle until I master that part of the puzzle and I master that then I add on and then I add on I work with repetition repetition master master master this is mastery.
• 34:51
  [SPEAKER_00]: So do not expect to get this all right away because then you're gonna feel let down disappointed.
• 34:58
  [SPEAKER_00]: You again are gonna feel like you didn't do enough or you didn't do it right.
• 35:01
  [SPEAKER_00]: And then that is going to result in what we were talking about with having a reflection of criticizing yourself somewhere or having something pop up in an area of life that does not feel desirable.
• 35:13
  [SPEAKER_00]: It doesn't feel like a spectacular life.
• 35:15
  [SPEAKER_00]: We want to see and celebrate every step of this because this is how things happen where it feels like on autopilot, of course you don't need to put work in.
• 35:26
  [SPEAKER_00]: You put eye-pacctions in every day on the things that I'm intentionally manifesting.
• 35:30
  [SPEAKER_00]: And that includes the things that are scary to me right now.
• 35:34
  [SPEAKER_00]: But with repetition, they become less and less and less scary.
• 35:37
  [SPEAKER_00]: And then I'm always using hypnosis and ingredients to create things.
• 35:42
  [SPEAKER_00]: and have me be able to enjoy them and have it happen faster, where they're now familiar to my mind faster.
• 35:49
  [SPEAKER_00]: The mind does not know the difference between real and imagined, that's why you can use these gorgeous neuroscience tools, and make them real to you now before it's actually happening in your reality, and this collapses the time on your entire manifestation, and again on that dreamy life that you can have these programs running.
• 36:07
  [SPEAKER_00]: programs that these gorgeous beliefs of you know and you're deserving of things of you having financial ingredients in there of having ingredients again where I was talking about where actually creating the dream work environment or the dream marriage where you feel completely appreciated admired, adored, praised, celebrated cherished.
• 36:28
  [SPEAKER_00]: You can create these things now and then have them running so that your default is that
• 36:34
  [SPEAKER_00]: And then you can keep adding to these programs and refining and tweaking and programs meaning what is running in that manifestation field around you if you imagine it like this golden sphere that again is putting out literally signaling out like the bat signal.
• 36:51
  [SPEAKER_00]: of how you are to be treated, of how your life is to go.
• 36:55
  [SPEAKER_00]: You are emanating out those instructions at all times, whether you know it or not, it doesn't matter.
• 37:00
  [SPEAKER_00]: It's not like, oh, I didn't know, so that doesn't apply to me.
• 37:03
  [SPEAKER_00]: And that's just the difference between unintentional and intentional manifestation.
• 37:09
  [SPEAKER_00]: And I would love to continue to teach you how to refine this process, and have fun doing this.
• 37:16
  [SPEAKER_00]: And wake up every day going, what do I get to paint today?
• 37:19
  [SPEAKER_00]: What do I get to create today?
• 37:21
  [SPEAKER_00]: Because you see that you're that powerful.
• 37:23
  [SPEAKER_00]: And now life doesn't run you, you get to co-create with God who is the creator of all things.
• 37:30
  [SPEAKER_00]: The life that, again, you're here to help people change lives, and you also get to enjoy it.
• 37:35
  [SPEAKER_00]: You don't have to just wipe knuckle life or feel like that happens for other people, but not you you get to be the spectacular one So I will leave some resources in the show notes below and you are the first to hear that something new might be landing on the secret menu And it is secret.
• 37:53
  [SPEAKER_00]: It's not something I talk about on social media It is for our email family only so if you want to make sure you were the first to know about that
• 38:02
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• 38:18
  [SPEAKER_00]: You can find, I'll leave an link below to make sure that you are on that list and then just keep your eyes peeled because something is coming for you soon.
• 38:28
  [SPEAKER_00]: Thank you for being here and