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What goes on in a Narcissist's MIND when you EXPOSE THEM · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on, beautiful people?
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  Today we're going to be talking about what goes on inside the
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  mind of a narcissist when you expose them or if you threaten
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  to expose them for who they really are.
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  If you do hear, my name is Lee Hammock.
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  I'm a self aware diagnosed narcissist and welcome to
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  another episode of The Narcissist Code.
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  Boom. Welcome back folks, welcome
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  back, welcome back, welcome back.
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  Yes, yes, yes. So what goes on inside the mind
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  of the the the old, the old noggin of a narcissist if you so
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  choose to expose them for who they really are?
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  What goes inside that that cranium?
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  What do you think? What do you think they are
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  thinking? What do you think a narcissist
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  is thinking if you are going to expose them because that Yeah,
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  The reason I'm doing this video because a lot of people ask me
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  this question. I've done similar videos to this
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  before, but this one is more in depth because y'all know I've
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  been in therapy for seven years. If you go back to my, if you
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  scroll back to the very beginning of my YouTube channel
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  when I first started doing videos in 2020-2021, my you
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  asked me the same question. And my answer in 2020 is
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  probably going to be a little bit different in 2024 as I've
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  gained more knowledge as my thought process has changed a
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  little bit. You know, it's just in that
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  space right there. So my thought process has
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  changed a little bit. You know, my, my videos are
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  never the same. You, you might see a similar
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  topic like, oh, Lee made a video about that before.
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  So you watch it like Lee, Lee spins some new fire that like
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  Lee spitting that blue fire. It's not, it's still fire, but
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  it's blue. It's, it's blue heat.
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  You know what I mean? It's blue heat, like like blue
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  wee, but that's the space some people, a lot of people fall
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  into out there, y'all. So what goes on inside the mind
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  of a narcissist when you threaten to expose them or when
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  you actually do expose them? Because this is it's not a two
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  parter, but it's A2 starter narcissistic people, right?
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  In our minds, we, we, our reputation mean more to us than
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  damn near anything, right? Our reputations are almost like
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  damn near like heir to us, right?
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  Like so much air. We we need our reputation to
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  breathe pretty much. You know, So in this space right
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  here, if you are threatening our reputation or you expose us and
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  you reveal to the world who we really are and not who we
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  pretend to be, you're taking away taking away our source of
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  oxygen. So what happens if you take away
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  somebody's source of oxygen? They cease to exist, they cease
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  to breathe. And you know what happened a lot
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  of times into narcissists in this space, they might crash
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  out. If you expose me damn near.
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  It's crazy. Like sometimes in the mind of a
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  narcissist, like they feel like if you expose them, you're like
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  you're ruining their life and you are just taking their mask
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  off and they have no reason to live.
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  Well, damn, everybody knows who I am now.
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  Nobody's going to respect me and nobody's going to care about my
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  thought process anymore. So I might as well go ahead and
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  take my life. I might as well go ahead and
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  take, take this, take this other person out of here.
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  Now I'm not making this video to scare y'all, but like, like you,
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  you just let off with a hammer, a hammer drop, like you just let
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  off with a hammer drop. No, I'm not saying that to, to
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  to build fear within you. I'm saying that so you
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  understand that some of these narcissists, if you do expose
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  them, they could take you all up out of here because they feel
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  like their life is wrong. They feel like they might not
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  have anything left to live for. So what it what, what else can I
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  do? I'm going to go ahead and hurt
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  you. I'm going to go out, go out of
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  my way to go ahead and hurt you because I'm feeling a certain
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  type of way. That's the mind of a lot of
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  narcissists right there. Yeah.
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  So that's why I just say, like to when you're dealing with
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  toxic people, narcissist people, this is the way it goes
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  sometimes. Like if you keep messing with
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  them, if you like expose them, they might hurt you or harm you
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  or they're threatened to hurt you and harm you.
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  Like you expose me, I'm going to hurt you.
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  Like a lot of narcissist like to match your energy.
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  They feel like they have to match your energy.
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  They feel like it's a prerequisite to be a narcissist
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  to be able to match your energy or to seek vengeance on you in
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  some way, shape or form. So you ruin me.
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  I'm going to try to ruin you. We're both going down.
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  Like we're both going down in this, this exposure, exposure
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  ship. If my ship is sinking, I'm
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  firing a cannonball at your ass too.
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  And your ship is going to sink as well.
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  But in this thing right here, yours is going to be burnt based
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  on the truth, right? Most times you are here lying.
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  If you are here lying to expose them to ruin their life, you
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  know we need to have no chat. But they will lie.
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  They will lie like a narcissist will lie about what happened a
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  lot or narcissist will lie about who you are and what you, what
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  they've experienced with you in order to try to ruin your
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  reputation. So they're not going to fight.
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  They're not only going to match your energy, a lot of
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  narcissists are going to go above and beyond your energy.
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  A lot of narcissists are going to go past the threshold of your
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  energy and whatnot because they are hurt.
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  They are angry, They are mad as hell in these spaces and they
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  don't know what to do with it. They don't know what to do with
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  this hurt. They don't know what to do with
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  this anger. They don't know what to do with
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  this resentment. So they take it out on you,
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  Right. So a lot of them will, a lot of
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  asses out there. Yeah, this is smear campaign.
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  A lot of nurses will absolutely smear campaign you because
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  they're angry at you, because they're pissed off at you,
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  because they won't, because they feel like you've gotten away
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  with something. They they want to seek vengeance
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  on you and whatnot. A lot of nurses will absolutely
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  do that. They want a lot of asses off to
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  ruin your reputation. They feel like, well, you ruined
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  mine, so I got to get back at you in some way, shape or form.
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  You hurt me. I have to hurt you in some way,
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  shape or form. You got over, got one over, got
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  one off on me, one got one over on me.
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  I have to get one over on you in some way, shape or form.
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  That's like, you know, that's the kind of price sometimes you
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  say when you're dealing with a toxic abuse of narcissist.
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  I know people like, well, you're making a joke.
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  No, I'm not y'all know, I bring levity and things like this, but
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  that's the price that you you might have to pay some time to
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  deal with this type of person. They're going to try to ruin you
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  as well Now. So somehow if you do ruin a
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  narcissist reputation, right? Sometimes if you do expose them,
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  sometimes you if you show the world to what happens, they
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  won't do anything. Now some some of them will be
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  completely quiet and just try to let things blow over.
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  You see this happen all the time with abusers on social media and
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  celebrities. Sometimes they get exposed for
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  being abusive as hell and they don't say a word because they
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  know a lot of them understand that if I don't say a word, it
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  will go away. People will forget about it or
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  people will care less when I so choose to speak my piece or I so
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  choose to pretend like nothing has happened.
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  So sometimes, sometimes even if you expose them, their
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  reputation might not take a hit or might not take a big of a
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  might not take as big of a hit as you expect it to take because
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  people, like I said, they might not speak on it at all.
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  And if they ignore it, sometimes it just goes away.
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  Yeah, there are a ton of abusive people out there I see online
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  and have gotten exposed and they don't even speak on it.
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  They don't apologize. They just go back to making
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  videos later on, about a week or two after the initial exposure.
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  They don't care. Sometimes they don't care.
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  Sometimes they just, they want to make you feel insignificant
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  enough that your strike what you did to them, it doesn't affect
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  them at all. They want to hurt your feelings.
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  They want to make you feel like you're unimportant to them.
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  So that does happen. Some of them won't express
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  won't, Some of them won't respond at all.
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  Some of them will ignore your exposure.
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  Some of them will ignore your threat of exposure.
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  If you don't give me this, I'm not going to.
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  I'm going to expose you. They might not give it to you
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  anyway and dare you to do it. Because this is how some
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  narcissists think, right? Narcissistic people think like
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  if you expose us, we feel like we have more power than you.
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  Especially if they have some type of popularity or something
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  going on, they feel like they have more power than you.
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  So they don't think that your voice will be heard anyway.
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  So they don't, they don't care about your exposure.
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  Some of them don't care, won't speak on it ever.
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  And even even if they are not famous, even if they are not
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  celebrities, even if they just your regular run-of-the-mill
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  person, just like us, you know, they, they might not say
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  anything about it. They might just ignore it or not
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  want to talk about it when people decide to bring it up.
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  Or if you expose them in front of a lot of people, they might
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  just skedaddle. They might disappear in real
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  life. They might disappear.
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  I'm not saying they're going to go off the grid and live off,
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  live off the lamb. You know, I'm not saying they'll
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  do that, but a lot of them will banish.
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  They will pack their bags and disappear for a little while.
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  There's just this sort of air can be cleared and they can feel
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  like they can get away with a lot of stuff.
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  That's the mindset dynamic of a lot of toxic abusive people as
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  well. They feel like the air is clear
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  and they can get away with stuff.
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  They feel like they can harm you.
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  They feel like they can hurt hurt you and do a lot of damage
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  to you. That's the mindset of a lot of
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  toxic abusive people as well. They feel like they can just
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  disappear and it will go away. Just like a celebrity.
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  They will just ignore whatever you said or accuse them of or
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  whatever you, whatever the exposure is, right, Because
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  every narcissist is not going to respond the same way to
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  exposure. But it's a, it's a narcissist's
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  biggest fear. Like we, a lot of narcissists
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  work hard to cultivate these reputations and they will defend
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  them like they will they a lot of narcissists work hard to
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  cultivate these type of reputations and wait, they will
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  defend them to the to the, to the power.
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  They absolutely will. They will just absolutely go off
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  the edge of the earth to defend their reputation.
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  They'll threaten you, they'll harm you.
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  They'll just say, hey, look, nobody's going to believe you if
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  you say this. They will.
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  Like it's a narcissist's biggest fear.
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  But just because they're afraid, it doesn't mean that they will
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  act. Some of them will posture and
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  miss, pretend like I don't care if you tell anybody, I don't
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  care if you call the cops, call the cops.
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  Now, some of them don't care if you call the cops, but some of
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  them really do care. But they'll posture like they
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  don't call the cops. I don't give a damn.
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  Call them, call them, call them, you know, and they'll snap.
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  They'll snap and look at you like you're crazy and scare the
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  hell out of you or try to scare the hell out of you know what I
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  mean? It really just depends on who
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  you are and the type of narcissistic person that you're
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  dealing with. But every narcissist, like when
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  you expose them inside of our, inside of our mind, we really
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  are afraid, you know, we really are afraid.
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  But how we handle that fear is going to be very different.
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  Every narcissist is not going to be the same right.
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  I'll tell you y'all hear my videos before about every
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  narcissist is going to be different like a fingerprint.
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  Their little toxic fingerprints are going to be different.
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  You know every little narcissist is going to be different.
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  It's like a fingerprint. So even though we are all might
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  share the same similar fear about getting exposed, you know
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  well it's not not all. Now I don't like to speak in
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  absolutes. Some people don't care about
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  getting exposed right? They don't care, they'll crash
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  or they'll ruin their reputation some some of them will self
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  sabotage in public to ruin their own reputation to because they
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  don't care so much, right? Because some of them want to
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  just seek vengeance on you and harm you and hurt you and put
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  you in a predicament. So that's what the way some of
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  them will go right there, right? But some of them like the way
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  they handle their fear is going to be different.
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  I'm afraid as hell. I'm scared as hell.
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  So I might beg and plead for you not to.
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  I make big plea cry for you not to expose me.
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  I might try to get a reaction out of you so I can record you,
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  so I can threat, I can blackmail you to not expose me.
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  Or like I said, some of them will absolutely try to hurt or
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  harm you. You if you threaten to expose
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  them. The mind of an artist is going
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  to run, will be running rampant in these situations right here
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  because they're afraid. They're afraid of exposure.
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  It's one of a narcissist's biggest fears is for people to
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  know who we really are because we strike as a narcissist.
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  We all kind of struggle with our our own identities.
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  So if we're all struggling with our identity, it would make
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  sense in these situations for things to, you know, things to
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  go this type of way, right? This is the mindset, This is the
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  dynamic that so many people face in these scenarios when you're
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  dealing with an abusive person. So this is just, yeah, I'm just
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  making a deal because it's something to consider when you
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  are dealing with an abusive narcissist.
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  Is this something that like goes through your mind?
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  Like if you're going to expose them, just just think, well,
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  what they're going to do. I'm not saying don't expose
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  them. I'm just thinking about like,
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  because you absolutely do not have to suffer in silence.
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  You know, you suffered in silence long enough.
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  You don't have to suffer in silence.
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  You don't have to heal in silence.
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  You can heal out loud. You absolutely, you absolutely
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  are allowed to heal out loud. But just think, think about this
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  person and how they might react so you can protect yourself, so
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  you can be be prepared for their reaction as opposed to just
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  waiting in the wings to see what they're going to do.
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