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CIMC 126: I hate that my husband touches me when I feel this gross - Shame, Sex, and Healing · Dr. Danielle Difference

• 0:00
  Welcome
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  pursuit
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  living
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  life
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  abundantly
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  held
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  back
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  by
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  our
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  body
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  size
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  or
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  symptoms,
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  are
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  we
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  back
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  by
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  our
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  hurts,
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  habits,
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  other
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  obstacles
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  in
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  life.
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  Learn
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  your
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  health,
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  wellness,
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  relationships,
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  and
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  spiritual
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  life.
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  I
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  am
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  Dr.
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  Danielle,
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  your
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  host
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  and
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  practitioner.
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  And
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  this
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  episode
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  is
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  going
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  to
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  hit
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  home
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  for
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  a
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  very
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  specific
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  woman,
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  and
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  I
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  needed
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  to
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  talk
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  about
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  it
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  because
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  it
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  came
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  up
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  in
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  some
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  conversations
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  I've
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  had
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  inside
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  my
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  clinic.
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  And
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  the
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  sad
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  thing
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  is
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  this
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  isn't
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  the
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  first
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  time
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  I've
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  heard
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  it,
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  and
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  it
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  probably
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  won't
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  be
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  the
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  last
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  along
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  the
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  lines
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  of
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  this
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  is
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  what
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  this
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  gal
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  said
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  to
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  me.
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  I
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  hate
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  that
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  my
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  husband
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  touches
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  me
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  when
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  I
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  feel
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  this
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  gross.
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  And
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  in
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  different
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  terms,
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  I've
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  heard
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  this,
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  maybe
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  not
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  just
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  the,
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  maybe
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  they
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  didn't
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  put
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  it
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  that
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  way,
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  but
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  I
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  feel
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  so
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  gross.
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  How
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  could
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  my
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  husband
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  ever
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  wanna
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  touch
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  me?
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  Or
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  I
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  can't
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  stand
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  the
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  look
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  of
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  myself?
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  How
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  can
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  my
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  husband.
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  And
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  we're
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  gonna
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  talk
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  about
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  the
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  shame,
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  the
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  sex,
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  and
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  that
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  moving
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  of
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  that
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  healing
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  path
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  forward.
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  And
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  I
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  want
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  to
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  just
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  go
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  there.
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  So
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  if
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  this
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  is
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  not
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  for
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  you,
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  then
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  that's
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  totally
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  fine.
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  You
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  are
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  welcome
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  to
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  just
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  push,
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  pause
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  and
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  move
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  on.
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  But
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  these
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  are
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  conversations
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  that
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  we're
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  not
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  really
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  having
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  at
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  our
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  Bible
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  study
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  groups.
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  That's
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  what
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  I
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  want
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  this
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  podcast
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  place
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  to
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  be,
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  this
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  space
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  that
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  we're,
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  and
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  actually
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  I
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  want
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  every
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  container
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  that
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  I
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  have,
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  um,
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  not
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  just
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  the
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  podcast,
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  uh,
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  but
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  my
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  substack,
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  I
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  want
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  my
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  telegram
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  channel.
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  I
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  want
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  my
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  wilderness
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  of
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  wellness
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  and
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  I
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  want
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  my
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  clinic
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  room,
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  the
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  privacy
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  of
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  the
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  room,
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  like
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  I
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  want
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  it
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  to
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  feel
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  like
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  a
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  private
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  room
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  where
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  there
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  is
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  a
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  group
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  or
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  a
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  practitioner
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  or
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  a
• 1:40
  team
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  around
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  you
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  that
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  is
• 1:42
  there
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  to
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  support
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  you
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  with
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  the
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  things
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  that
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  you
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  don't
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  say
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  out
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  loud
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  and
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  you
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  only
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  feel
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  say
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  it
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  out
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  loud
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  when
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  you
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  finally
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  feel
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  comfortable.
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  But
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  I'm
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  wondering
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  if
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  you're
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  a
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  woman
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  that
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  has
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  been
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  here
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  for
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  a
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  while,
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  if
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  you
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  have
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  ever
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  had
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  those
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  mornings,
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  when
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  you
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  look
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  in
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  the
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  mirror
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  and
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  you
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  feel
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  disgust.
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  The
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  kind
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  where
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  you
• 2:00
  avoid
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  your
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  own
• 2:01
  reflection
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  because
• 2:03
  that
• 2:03
  woman
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  that's
• 2:04
  staring
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  back
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  at
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  you,
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  she
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  feels
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  unfamiliar.
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  Maybe
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  your
• 2:10
  bra
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  cuts
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  into
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  your
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  sides.
• 2:12
  Your
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  thighs
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  are
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  rubbing
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  more
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  than
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  you
• 2:14
  want
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  to
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  admit.
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  You're
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  getting
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  blisters
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  or
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  boils
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  or
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  infected
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  hairs.
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  And
• 2:20
  the
• 2:20
  thought
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  of
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  your
• 2:21
  husband
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  reaching
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  for
• 2:22
  you
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  at
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  night
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  makes
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  you
• 2:23
  flinch.
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  And
• 2:24
  it's
• 2:25
  not
• 2:25
  because
• 2:25
  you
• 2:25
  don't
• 2:25
  love
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  him.
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  No,
• 2:26
  it's
• 2:26
  not
• 2:26
  even
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  that.
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  It's
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  because
• 2:28
  you
• 2:28
  can't
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  even
• 2:29
  stand
• 2:29
  your
• 2:29
  own
• 2:30
  skin.
• 2:31
  Whew.
• 2:32
  I
• 2:32
  I
• 2:33
  didn't
• 2:33
  want
• 2:33
  this
• 2:33
  to
• 2:34
  be
• 2:34
  that
• 2:34
  emotional,
• 2:34
  but
• 2:34
  it,
• 2:35
  but
• 2:35
  it
• 2:35
  is.
• 2:37
  This
• 2:37
  episode
• 2:37
  is
• 2:37
  for
• 2:38
  the
• 2:38
  woman
• 2:38
  who
• 2:38
  has
• 2:38
  whispered
• 2:39
  to
• 2:39
  herself
• 2:39
  that
• 2:40
  she
• 2:42
  hates
• 2:43
  when
• 2:43
  her
• 2:43
  husband
• 2:43
  touches
• 2:44
  her,
• 2:46
  when
• 2:46
  she
• 2:46
  feels
• 2:46
  this
• 2:46
  gross.
• 2:48
  And
• 2:49
  we're
• 2:49
  gonna
• 2:49
  go
• 2:49
  there.
• 2:50
  But
• 2:51
  we're
• 2:51
  not
• 2:51
  gonna
• 2:51
  bring
• 2:51
  shame
• 2:52
  with
• 2:52
  it.
• 2:53
  We're
• 2:53
  not
• 2:53
  gonna
• 2:53
  bring
• 2:53
  a
• 2:53
  checklist.
• 2:55
  We're
• 2:55
  going
• 2:55
  to
• 2:55
  address
• 2:56
  this
• 2:56
  conversation
• 2:57
  with
• 2:57
  truth
• 2:59
  with
• 2:59
  scripture
• 3:00
  and
• 3:01
  a
• 3:01
  way
• 3:01
  forward.
• 3:02
  And
• 3:03
  I
• 3:03
  want
• 3:03
  you
• 3:04
  right
• 3:04
  now,
• 3:05
  if
• 3:05
  you're
• 3:05
  listening
• 3:05
  to
• 3:06
  this,
• 3:06
  I
• 3:06
  want
• 3:06
  you
• 3:06
  to
• 3:06
  think
• 3:07
  of
• 3:07
  a
• 3:07
  sister
• 3:08
  in
• 3:08
  Christ
• 3:09
  that
• 3:09
  is
• 3:10
  listening
• 3:10
  to
• 3:10
  this
• 3:10
  with
• 3:10
  you.
• 3:11
  Or
• 3:11
  needs
• 3:12
  to
• 3:12
  listen
• 3:12
  to
• 3:12
  this
• 3:13
  episode
• 3:14
  or,
• 3:14
  um,
• 3:15
  if
• 3:15
  you
• 3:15
  could
• 3:16
  please
• 3:17
  like,
• 3:17
  and
• 3:18
  subscribe
• 3:18
  and
• 3:19
  leave
• 3:19
  me
• 3:19
  a
• 3:19
  review,
• 3:20
  because
• 3:21
  this
• 3:21
  episode
• 3:22
  is
• 3:22
  probably
• 3:23
  going
• 3:23
  to
• 3:24
  have
• 3:25
  the
• 3:25
  capacity
• 3:25
  to
• 3:26
  just
• 3:27
  help
• 3:27
  a
• 3:27
  woman,
• 3:28
  one
• 3:28
  woman,
• 3:29
  feel
• 3:30
  seen
• 3:30
  and
• 3:30
  heard,
• 3:31
  and
• 3:32
  provide
• 3:32
  her
• 3:32
  some
• 3:32
  support
• 3:33
  with
• 3:33
  a
• 3:33
  path
• 3:33
  forward.
• 3:34
  Okay?
• 3:35
  Because
• 3:35
  that's
• 3:35
  what
• 3:35
  I
• 3:35
  wanna
• 3:35
  be
• 3:36
  here
• 3:36
  for.
• 3:37
  I
• 3:37
  want
• 3:37
  you
• 3:37
  to
• 3:37
  have
• 3:37
  your
• 3:38
  next
• 3:38
  best
• 3:38
  step
• 3:39
  forward.
• 3:40
  So
• 3:41
  I
• 3:41
  want
• 3:41
  to
• 3:41
  name
• 3:43
  what
• 3:43
  is
• 3:44
  going
• 3:44
  on
• 3:44
  here,
• 3:45
  and
• 3:45
  it's
• 3:46
  this
• 3:46
  unspoken
• 3:47
  pain.
• 3:48
  Of
• 3:49
  a
• 3:49
  married
• 3:49
  woman
• 3:50
  who
• 3:50
  feels
• 3:51
  gross,
• 3:51
  or
• 3:52
  the
• 3:52
  single
• 3:52
  woman
• 3:53
  who
• 3:53
  feels
• 3:54
  gross.
• 3:55
  'cause
• 3:55
  this
• 3:55
  applies
• 3:55
  to
• 3:56
  married
• 3:56
  or
• 3:56
  singles.
• 3:57
  How
• 3:58
  could
• 3:58
  a
• 3:58
  wom,
• 3:58
  how
• 3:58
  could
• 3:59
  a
• 3:59
  man
• 3:59
  ever
• 3:59
  want
• 3:59
  to
• 3:59
  marry
• 4:00
  me
• 4:00
  if
• 4:00
  I
• 4:01
  look
• 4:01
  like
• 4:01
  this?
• 4:01
  Right?
• 4:02
  We
• 4:02
  have
• 4:03
  that.
• 4:03
  So
• 4:03
  I
• 4:03
  want
• 4:03
  you
• 4:04
  to
• 4:04
  translate
• 4:05
  this
• 4:05
  into
• 4:05
  whatever
• 4:06
  your
• 4:06
  situation
• 4:06
  is.
• 4:07
  Um,
• 4:07
  whether
• 4:08
  you
• 4:08
  are
• 4:08
  married
• 4:09
  or
• 4:09
  single,
• 4:09
  it
• 4:09
  doesn't
• 4:10
  matter.
• 4:10
  We
• 4:10
  all
• 4:10
  have
• 4:11
  these
• 4:11
  feelings
• 4:11
  or
• 4:12
  not.
• 4:12
  We
• 4:12
  all,
• 4:12
  some
• 4:12
  of
• 4:13
  us
• 4:13
  have
• 4:13
  these
• 4:13
  feelings
• 4:14
  and
• 4:14
  so
• 4:15
  I
• 4:15
  want.
• 4:15
  To
• 4:16
  honor
• 4:16
  these
• 4:16
  feelings,
• 4:17
  and
• 4:17
  I
• 4:17
  want
• 4:17
  to
• 4:18
  just
• 4:19
  be
• 4:19
  very
• 4:19
  gentle
• 4:19
  as
• 4:20
  if
• 4:20
  we
• 4:20
  are
• 4:20
  having
• 4:20
  a
• 4:20
  conversation
• 4:21
  with
• 4:21
  a
• 4:22
  cup
• 4:22
  of
• 4:22
  coffee
• 4:22
  at
• 4:23
  your
• 4:23
  favorite
• 4:24
  coffee
• 4:24
  shop
• 4:25
  that
• 4:25
  doesn't
• 4:25
  have
• 4:25
  mold,
• 4:26
  another
• 4:27
  story
• 4:27
  for
• 4:27
  another
• 4:28
  time,
• 4:30
  but
• 4:30
  you
• 4:30
  love
• 4:30
  your
• 4:30
  husband
• 4:31
  if
• 4:31
  you're
• 4:31
  married
• 4:32
  or
• 4:32
  you
• 4:32
  want
• 4:32
  to
• 4:32
  love
• 4:33
  your
• 4:33
  husband.
• 4:33
  If
• 4:33
  you're
• 4:33
  single,
• 4:34
  you
• 4:35
  want
• 4:35
  to
• 4:35
  be
• 4:36
  desired.
• 4:37
  We
• 4:37
  know
• 4:37
  that
• 4:37
  men
• 4:38
  are
• 4:38
  turned
• 4:38
  on
• 4:38
  by
• 4:39
  what
• 4:39
  they
• 4:39
  see.
• 4:40
  We
• 4:41
  are
• 4:41
  turned
• 4:41
  on
• 4:41
  by
• 4:41
  what
• 4:41
  we
• 4:41
  feel.
• 4:43
  You
• 4:44
  want
• 4:44
  to
• 4:45
  be
• 4:45
  desired.
• 4:45
  You
• 4:46
  do.
• 4:47
  You
• 4:47
  want
• 4:47
  to
• 4:47
  feel
• 4:48
  sexy,
• 4:49
  you
• 4:49
  wanna
• 4:49
  feel
• 4:49
  soft,
• 4:50
  you
• 4:51
  want
• 4:51
  to
• 4:51
  be
• 4:51
  held,
• 4:52
  you
• 4:53
  wanna
• 4:53
  be
• 4:53
  taken.
• 4:54
  But
• 4:55
  instead
• 4:56
  of
• 4:56
  those
• 4:56
  things,
• 4:57
  you
• 4:58
  feel
• 4:58
  swollen,
• 5:00
  sticky,
• 5:01
  disconnected,
• 5:03
  and
• 5:03
  ashamed.
• 5:04
  And
• 5:05
  when
• 5:05
  he
• 5:05
  reaches
• 5:05
  for
• 5:05
  your
• 5:06
  hip
• 5:06
  in
• 5:06
  bed,
• 5:07
  when
• 5:07
  he
• 5:07
  pulls
• 5:08
  you
• 5:08
  in
• 5:08
  while
• 5:08
  you're
• 5:09
  still
• 5:09
  washing
• 5:09
  the
• 5:09
  dishes.
• 5:11
  When
• 5:11
  he
• 5:11
  wants
• 5:11
  to
• 5:11
  lay
• 5:12
  with
• 5:12
  you
• 5:12
  at
• 5:12
  night,
• 5:13
  he
• 5:13
  wants
• 5:13
  to
• 5:13
  snuggle
• 5:14
  with
• 5:14
  you,
• 5:15
  you
• 5:15
  kind
• 5:16
  of
• 5:16
  recoil,
• 5:18
  and
• 5:18
  it's
• 5:19
  not
• 5:19
  because
• 5:19
  you
• 5:19
  don't
• 5:19
  want
• 5:19
  him,
• 5:21
  but
• 5:21
  because
• 5:22
  you
• 5:22
  don't
• 5:23
  want
• 5:23
  you,
• 5:25
  you
• 5:25
  feel
• 5:25
  like
• 5:26
  a
• 5:26
  stranger
• 5:26
  in
• 5:26
  your
• 5:27
  own
• 5:27
  body
• 5:28
  and
• 5:28
  because
• 5:29
  of
• 5:29
  that,
• 5:30
  you
• 5:30
  start
• 5:30
  kind
• 5:30
  of
• 5:30
  pushing
• 5:31
  him
• 5:31
  to
• 5:31
  arm's
• 5:32
  length.
• 5:34
  It's
• 5:34
  subtle
• 5:34
  at
• 5:35
  first.
• 5:35
  Maybe
• 5:35
  you
• 5:36
  turn
• 5:36
  over,
• 5:37
  maybe
• 5:37
  you,
• 5:38
  um,
• 5:39
  say
• 5:39
  you
• 5:39
  have
• 5:39
  a
• 5:39
  headache.
• 5:40
  Maybe
• 5:41
  you
• 5:41
  just
• 5:41
  say,
• 5:41
  oh,
• 5:41
  it's
• 5:42
  been
• 5:42
  a
• 5:42
  long
• 5:42
  day.
• 5:42
  I'm
• 5:42
  so
• 5:42
  tired.
• 5:44
  You
• 5:44
  know
• 5:44
  the
• 5:44
  excuses.
• 5:46
  Maybe
• 5:48
  when
• 5:48
  it
• 5:48
  is
• 5:48
  time
• 5:49
  for
• 5:49
  activities,
• 5:51
  you
• 5:51
  keep
• 5:51
  your
• 5:51
  shirt
• 5:52
  on.
• 5:54
  Mm.
• 5:55
  I
• 5:55
  know.
• 5:55
  I
• 5:55
  just,
• 5:55
  I
• 5:55
  know
• 5:56
  I
• 5:56
  just
• 5:56
  hit
• 5:56
  somebody
• 5:56
  there.
• 5:58
  Maybe
• 5:59
  you
• 5:59
  avoid
• 6:00
  eye
• 6:00
  contact
• 6:02
  when
• 6:02
  you're
• 6:03
  undressing
• 6:04
  or
• 6:04
  dressing
• 6:04
  in
• 6:04
  front
• 6:04
  of
• 6:05
  each
• 6:05
  other,
• 6:06
  but
• 6:07
  eventually
• 6:08
  this
• 6:08
  becomes
• 6:09
  a
• 6:09
  habit.
• 6:11
  And
• 6:11
  now
• 6:11
  you're
• 6:11
  in
• 6:11
  a
• 6:12
  place
• 6:12
  where
• 6:12
  you
• 6:12
  feel
• 6:13
  guilty,
• 6:14
  you
• 6:14
  feel
• 6:14
  rejected,
• 6:15
  even
• 6:16
  though
• 6:16
  you're
• 6:16
  the
• 6:16
  one
• 6:16
  that's
• 6:16
  pushing
• 6:17
  away,
• 6:18
  and
• 6:18
  you're
• 6:19
  deeply
• 6:19
  afraid
• 6:20
  that
• 6:20
  he's
• 6:21
  gonna
• 6:21
  stop
• 6:21
  asking
• 6:22
  altogether.
• 6:24
  So
• 6:24
  what
• 6:25
  do
• 6:25
  we
• 6:25
  do
• 6:25
  when
• 6:25
  we
• 6:25
  feel
• 6:25
  this
• 6:26
  gross?
• 6:26
  And
• 6:27
  I
• 6:27
  feel
• 6:27
  like
• 6:27
  this
• 6:27
  can
• 6:27
  only
• 6:28
  come
• 6:28
  from
• 6:28
  someone
• 6:28
  who's
• 6:29
  ever
• 6:29
  felt
• 6:29
  this
• 6:29
  before
• 6:30
  because.
• 6:31
  I
• 6:31
  would
• 6:31
  not
• 6:31
  get
• 6:32
  this
• 6:32
  from
• 6:32
  a
• 6:32
  20
• 6:32
  something.
• 6:33
  I
• 6:33
  would
• 6:33
  not
• 6:33
  feel
• 6:33
  connected
• 6:34
  or
• 6:34
  like
• 6:34
  this
• 6:35
  20
• 6:35
  somethings
• 6:35
  fit.
• 6:36
  Flu
• 6:36
  would
• 6:37
  not
• 6:37
  understand
• 6:37
  this
• 6:38
  because
• 6:39
  this
• 6:39
  person
• 6:40
  a
• 6:40
  20
• 6:41
  somethings
• 6:41
  fit,
• 6:41
  flu,
• 6:42
  uh,
• 6:43
  has
• 6:43
  not
• 6:43
  had
• 6:44
  kids.
• 6:44
  So
• 6:44
  her
• 6:45
  body,
• 6:45
  she
• 6:45
  hasn't
• 6:45
  gone
• 6:45
  through
• 6:46
  the
• 6:46
  original
• 6:47
  like
• 6:47
  body
• 6:47
  shift
• 6:48
  change
• 6:48
  of
• 6:48
  having
• 6:49
  kids.
• 6:49
  She
• 6:49
  hasn't
• 6:50
  gone
• 6:50
  through
• 6:50
  the
• 6:50
  denying
• 6:51
  of
• 6:51
  self
• 6:51
  in
• 6:51
  order
• 6:52
  to
• 6:52
  raise
• 6:52
  kids
• 6:52
  the
• 6:52
  identity,
• 6:53
  uh,
• 6:54
  the
• 6:54
  identity
• 6:55
  shift
• 6:56
  that
• 6:56
  happens
• 6:56
  when
• 6:57
  you
• 6:57
  become
• 6:57
  a
• 6:57
  mom.
• 6:58
  She
• 6:59
  hasn't
• 6:59
  gone
• 6:59
  through
• 6:59
  the
• 7:00
  identity
• 7:00
  shift.
• 7:00
  If
• 7:00
  you're
• 7:01
  still
• 7:01
  single
• 7:01
  and
• 7:02
  you're
• 7:02
  in
• 7:02
  your
• 7:02
  late,
• 7:02
  mid
• 7:02
  to
• 7:03
  late
• 7:03
  thirties
• 7:03
  or
• 7:03
  forties
• 7:04
  or
• 7:04
  even
• 7:04
  older
• 7:05
  and
• 7:05
  you're
• 7:05
  single,
• 7:06
  she
• 7:06
  hasn't
• 7:06
  gone
• 7:07
  through
• 7:07
  those
• 7:07
  shifts,
• 7:07
  right?
• 7:09
  So
• 7:09
  what
• 7:10
  do
• 7:10
  we
• 7:10
  do
• 7:10
  when
• 7:10
  we
• 7:11
  feel
• 7:11
  gross?
• 7:13
  Normally
• 7:14
  we
• 7:14
  try
• 7:15
  to
• 7:15
  fix
• 7:15
  it
• 7:15
  and
• 7:16
  we
• 7:16
  try
• 7:16
  to
• 7:16
  fix
• 7:16
  it
• 7:17
  as
• 7:17
  fast
• 7:17
  as
• 7:17
  possible.
• 7:19
  We
• 7:19
  jump
• 7:19
  into
• 7:20
  the
• 7:20
  latest
• 7:20
  21
• 7:21
  day
• 7:21
  thing,
• 7:22
  a
• 7:22
  fast
• 7:23
  cha,
• 7:23
  a
• 7:23
  fasting
• 7:24
  challenge
• 7:24
  like
• 7:24
  the
• 7:25
  Daniel
• 7:25
  Fast,
• 7:25
  or
• 7:26
  things
• 7:26
  like
• 7:26
  that.
• 7:27
  We
• 7:27
  go
• 7:27
  low
• 7:28
  carb,
• 7:28
  no
• 7:28
  carb,
• 7:28
  keto,
• 7:29
  and
• 7:29
  make
• 7:30
  a
• 7:30
  mess
• 7:30
  of
• 7:30
  our
• 7:31
  kitchens
• 7:31
  and
• 7:31
  our
• 7:32
  budgets
• 7:32
  and
• 7:32
  our
• 7:33
  grocery
• 7:33
  stores,
• 7:34
  and
• 7:34
  get
• 7:34
  mad
• 7:34
  at
• 7:34
  friends
• 7:35
  and
• 7:35
  family
• 7:36
  who
• 7:36
  don't
• 7:36
  follow
• 7:36
  along
• 7:37
  on
• 7:37
  this
• 7:37
  new
• 7:37
  diet,
• 7:38
  this
• 7:38
  restrictive
• 7:38
  diet.
• 7:40
  We
• 7:40
  kill
• 7:40
  ourselves
• 7:41
  at
• 7:41
  the
• 7:41
  gym
• 7:42
  or
• 7:42
  we
• 7:42
  put
• 7:43
  a
• 7:43
  standard
• 7:44
  that
• 7:44
  we
• 7:44
  have
• 7:44
  to
• 7:44
  walk
• 7:45
  every
• 7:45
  single
• 7:45
  day
• 7:45
  for
• 7:45
  x,
• 7:46
  x
• 7:46
  miles.
• 7:47
  Otherwise
• 7:48
  we
• 7:48
  aren't
• 7:48
  good
• 7:48
  enough
• 7:50
  or
• 7:50
  we
• 7:50
  actually
• 7:50
  do
• 7:51
  the
• 7:51
  opposite.
• 7:52
  And
• 7:52
  we
• 7:52
  ignore
• 7:54
  what's
• 7:54
  going
• 7:54
  on
• 7:54
  entirely.
• 7:55
  Throw
• 7:56
  up
• 7:56
  our
• 7:56
  hands
• 7:56
  and
• 7:56
  pretend
• 7:57
  it
• 7:57
  doesn't
• 7:58
  matter.
• 7:59
  But
• 7:59
  if
• 7:59
  we're
• 8:00
  real,
• 8:01
  it
• 8:01
  does
• 8:01
  matter.
• 8:01
  And
• 8:02
  it's
• 8:02
  sitting
• 8:02
  there
• 8:02
  causing
• 8:03
  stress
• 8:03
  and
• 8:03
  chaos
• 8:04
  in
• 8:04
  your
• 8:04
  body,
• 8:04
  anxiety.
• 8:05
  And
• 8:05
  then
• 8:06
  you
• 8:06
  have
• 8:06
  adrenal
• 8:07
  issues,
• 8:07
  and
• 8:07
  you
• 8:07
  have
• 8:07
  hormone
• 8:08
  problems,
• 8:08
  and,
• 8:08
  and
• 8:09
  you
• 8:09
  have
• 8:09
  cholesterol
• 8:10
  rising
• 8:10
  and
• 8:11
  you,
• 8:11
  you
• 8:12
  see
• 8:12
  what
• 8:12
  I'm
• 8:12
  getting
• 8:12
  at?
• 8:12
  Like
• 8:13
  your
• 8:13
  blood
• 8:13
  pressure
• 8:13
  gets
• 8:13
  higher.
• 8:14
  All
• 8:14
  of
• 8:14
  this.
• 8:16
  And
• 8:16
  I
• 8:16
  want
• 8:16
  to
• 8:17
  just
• 8:17
  be
• 8:18
  very
• 8:18
  loving
• 8:18
  here
• 8:19
  and
• 8:19
  tell
• 8:19
  you
• 8:19
  that
• 8:19
  you
• 8:20
  can't
• 8:20
  hate
• 8:21
  yourself
• 8:21
  into
• 8:22
  wholeness.
• 8:23
  The,
• 8:24
  the,
• 8:24
  the
• 8:25
  battle
• 8:25
  that
• 8:25
  we're
• 8:25
  facing
• 8:26
  is
• 8:27
  not
• 8:27
  of
• 8:27
  flesh
• 8:28
  and
• 8:28
  blood.
• 8:28
  It
• 8:28
  is
• 8:29
  of
• 8:29
  the
• 8:29
  dark
• 8:29
  principalities
• 8:30
  that
• 8:31
  are
• 8:31
  happening
• 8:31
  all
• 8:31
  around
• 8:32
  us.
• 8:33
  And
• 8:33
  if
• 8:33
  we
• 8:34
  continue
• 8:34
  to
• 8:34
  push
• 8:34
  our
• 8:35
  husbands
• 8:35
  away,
• 8:35
  I'm,
• 8:35
  I'm
• 8:35
  gonna
• 8:36
  get
• 8:36
  there.
• 8:36
  But
• 8:37
  if
• 8:37
  we
• 8:37
  continue
• 8:37
  to
• 8:37
  push
• 8:37
  our
• 8:38
  husbands
• 8:38
  away.
• 8:40
  That's
• 8:40
  what
• 8:40
  the
• 8:40
  enemy
• 8:40
  wants.
• 8:41
  He
• 8:41
  wants
• 8:41
  division
• 8:41
  in
• 8:42
  our
• 8:42
  marriages,
• 8:42
  division
• 8:43
  in
• 8:43
  our
• 8:43
  homes
• 8:44
  division,
• 8:44
  in
• 8:44
  our,
• 8:44
  in
• 8:44
  the
• 8:45
  church,
• 8:45
  the
• 8:45
  Capital
• 8:45
  C
• 8:46
  Church,
• 8:46
  our
• 8:46
  this
• 8:46
  US
• 8:47
  people.
• 8:48
  He
• 8:48
  wants
• 8:48
  division
• 8:49
  because
• 8:50
  it's
• 8:50
  less
• 8:50
  work
• 8:50
  for
• 8:50
  him
• 8:51
  and
• 8:51
  we
• 8:51
  can
• 8:51
  just.
• 8:52
  We
• 8:52
  can
• 8:52
  just
• 8:52
  be
• 8:53
  our
• 8:53
  own
• 8:53
  enemies,
• 8:55
  but
• 8:55
  that's
• 8:55
  not
• 8:55
  who
• 8:55
  the
• 8:55
  enemy
• 8:56
  is.
• 8:56
  We
• 8:56
  cannot
• 8:56
  hate
• 8:57
  our
• 8:57
  bodies,
• 8:59
  the
• 8:59
  temple
• 8:59
  in
• 8:59
  which
• 9:00
  the
• 9:00
  Holy
• 9:00
  Spirit
• 9:00
  actually
• 9:01
  dwells.
• 9:02
  We
• 9:02
  can't
• 9:02
  hate
• 9:02
  ourselves
• 9:03
  into
• 9:03
  wholeness,
• 9:04
  and
• 9:05
  you
• 9:05
  can't
• 9:05
  starve
• 9:06
  yourself
• 9:06
  to
• 9:07
  self-worth.
• 9:07
  I
• 9:07
  don't
• 9:08
  know
• 9:08
  if
• 9:08
  that
• 9:08
  makes
• 9:08
  sense.
• 9:09
  We
• 9:10
  can't
• 9:10
  go
• 9:10
  and
• 9:10
  starve
• 9:11
  ourselves,
• 9:12
  even
• 9:12
  though
• 9:12
  that's
• 9:12
  what
• 9:12
  diet
• 9:13
  culture's
• 9:13
  taught
• 9:13
  us.
• 9:14
  Even
• 9:14
  though
• 9:14
  that
• 9:14
  that's,
• 9:14
  I
• 9:14
  don't
• 9:15
  know
• 9:15
  if
• 9:15
  you
• 9:15
  grew
• 9:15
  up
• 9:15
  in
• 9:15
  the
• 9:15
  nineties,
• 9:16
  uh,
• 9:16
  eighties,
• 9:16
  seventies,
• 9:17
  but
• 9:17
  it
• 9:17
  was
• 9:17
  like.
• 9:18
  It
• 9:18
  was
• 9:18
  the
• 9:18
  constant,
• 9:20
  um,
• 9:20
  uh,
• 9:21
  shrinking
• 9:22
  of
• 9:22
  self
• 9:22
  was
• 9:23
  what
• 9:23
  was
• 9:23
  beautiful
• 9:24
  and
• 9:24
  that
• 9:24
  was
• 9:24
  your
• 9:24
  self
• 9:25
  worth.
• 9:27
  And
• 9:27
  you
• 9:27
  can't
• 9:27
  ignore
• 9:28
  your
• 9:28
  way
• 9:29
  out
• 9:29
  of
• 9:29
  shame
• 9:30
  because
• 9:31
  if
• 9:31
  you
• 9:31
  let
• 9:31
  shame
• 9:31
  continue
• 9:32
  to
• 9:32
  cycle
• 9:32
  and
• 9:32
  spin,
• 9:33
  it's
• 9:33
  actually
• 9:33
  in
• 9:33
  control
• 9:34
  of
• 9:34
  you.
• 9:34
  And
• 9:34
  then
• 9:34
  you
• 9:34
  begin
• 9:34
  making
• 9:35
  decisions
• 9:35
  out
• 9:35
  of
• 9:35
  shame,
• 9:36
  and
• 9:36
  then
• 9:36
  you
• 9:36
  continue
• 9:37
  to
• 9:37
  isolate
• 9:37
  and
• 9:37
  pull
• 9:38
  yourself
• 9:38
  away.
• 9:40
  Most
• 9:40
  of
• 9:40
  the
• 9:40
  women
• 9:41
  I
• 9:41
  work
• 9:41
  with
• 9:41
  inside
• 9:41
  the
• 9:42
  wilderness
• 9:42
  of
• 9:42
  wellness,
• 9:43
  they're
• 9:43
  actually.
• 9:45
  Amazing
• 9:45
  women.
• 9:47
  They're
• 9:47
  quite
• 9:47
  frankly
• 9:47
  my
• 9:47
  favorite
• 9:48
  women
• 9:48
  on
• 9:49
  this
• 9:49
  planet.
• 9:50
  These
• 9:50
  are
• 9:51
  the
• 9:51
  women
• 9:51
  that
• 9:52
  call
• 9:53
  themselves
• 9:53
  lazy,
• 9:55
  tell
• 9:55
  themselves
• 9:56
  that
• 9:56
  they're
• 9:56
  undisciplined,
• 9:56
  but
• 9:57
  they're
• 9:57
  the
• 9:57
  most
• 9:57
  highest
• 9:58
  performers
• 9:58
  at
• 9:58
  their
• 9:59
  jobs.
• 9:59
  Uh,
• 10:00
  grandparenting
• 10:01
  parenting.
• 10:02
  They
• 10:02
  are,
• 10:03
  um,
• 10:03
  holding
• 10:04
  down
• 10:04
  businesses.
• 10:05
  They
• 10:05
  are
• 10:05
  holding
• 10:05
  down
• 10:05
  their
• 10:06
  homes.
• 10:06
  They
• 10:06
  have
• 10:06
  amazing,
• 10:07
  um,
• 10:07
  marriages.
• 10:08
  They
• 10:08
  have,
• 10:09
  um,
• 10:09
  they
• 10:10
  are
• 10:10
  at
• 10:10
  church.
• 10:10
  They
• 10:10
  are,
• 10:11
  they're
• 10:11
  amazing
• 10:12
  people.
• 10:15
  But
• 10:15
  what
• 10:15
  they're
• 10:15
  act,
• 10:16
  what
• 10:16
  they
• 10:16
  actually
• 10:17
  are
• 10:17
  is
• 10:17
  exhausted.
• 10:19
  And
• 10:19
  yet
• 10:19
  they're
• 10:19
  putting
• 10:20
  definitions
• 10:20
  on
• 10:21
  themselves
• 10:21
  as
• 10:21
  something
• 10:22
  else
• 10:24
  when
• 10:24
  really
• 10:24
  they're
• 10:24
  just
• 10:25
  exhausted.
• 10:26
  Exhausted
• 10:27
  from
• 10:27
  trying
• 10:28
  in
• 10:28
  different
• 10:28
  realms,
• 10:29
  from
• 10:29
  failing
• 10:30
  in
• 10:30
  different
• 10:30
  realms,
• 10:31
  from
• 10:31
  starting
• 10:31
  over.
• 10:32
  And
• 10:32
  so
• 10:32
  then
• 10:33
  they
• 10:33
  become
• 10:33
  perfectionists.
• 10:34
  And
• 10:34
  then
• 10:34
  they
• 10:34
  become
• 10:34
  control
• 10:35
  freaks.
• 10:35
  And
• 10:35
  hey,
• 10:36
  if
• 10:36
  you
• 10:36
  don't
• 10:36
  know
• 10:37
  what
• 10:37
  I'm
• 10:37
  in
• 10:37
  the
• 10:37
  wilderness
• 10:37
  of
• 10:37
  wellness
• 10:38
  too,
• 10:40
  I
• 10:40
  may
• 10:40
  just
• 10:40
  be
• 10:40
  talking
• 10:40
  about
• 10:41
  me.
• 10:43
  But
• 10:43
  the
• 10:43
  worst
• 10:43
  part
• 10:43
  of
• 10:43
  all
• 10:44
  of
• 10:44
  this
• 10:44
  is
• 10:44
  that
• 10:45
  the
• 10:45
  longer
• 10:46
  that
• 10:46
  you
• 10:46
  or
• 10:47
  I
• 10:47
  live
• 10:47
  in
• 10:47
  shame,
• 10:48
  the
• 10:49
  more
• 10:49
  it
• 10:49
  rots
• 10:51
  not
• 10:51
  just
• 10:52
  the
• 10:52
  body
• 10:52
  and
• 10:52
  the
• 10:52
  mind
• 10:53
  and
• 10:53
  all
• 10:53
  of
• 10:54
  that,
• 10:54
  but
• 10:54
  it
• 10:54
  rots
• 10:54
  your
• 10:54
  marriage
• 10:58
  and
• 10:58
  when
• 10:58
  you
• 10:59
  decide
• 11:00
  to
• 11:00
  disconnect,
• 11:02
  when,
• 11:03
  when
• 11:03
  your
• 11:03
  health
• 11:04
  disconnect
• 11:05
  becomes
• 11:05
  a
• 11:05
  marriage
• 11:06
  disconnect.
• 11:07
  And
• 11:07
  I'm
• 11:07
  just
• 11:07
  gonna
• 11:08
  say
• 11:08
  this
• 11:08
  as
• 11:09
  a
• 11:09
  blanket
• 11:09
  statement,
• 11:10
  that
• 11:11
  if
• 11:11
  you
• 11:11
  are
• 11:12
  disconnected
• 11:13
  from
• 11:14
  taking
• 11:14
  care
• 11:14
  of
• 11:14
  your
• 11:15
  health
• 11:16
  and
• 11:16
  you
• 11:16
  get
• 11:16
  heart
• 11:16
  disease,
• 11:17
  you're
• 11:17
  disconnecting
• 11:18
  your
• 11:18
  marriage.
• 11:19
  Because
• 11:19
  now
• 11:19
  it
• 11:19
  becomes
• 11:20
  this,
• 11:20
  oh,
• 11:21
  everything's
• 11:21
  about
• 11:21
  this
• 11:22
  person,
• 11:22
  and
• 11:22
  you
• 11:22
  get
• 11:23
  a
• 11:23
  caretaker.
• 11:23
  Now,
• 11:23
  I'm
• 11:24
  telling
• 11:24
  you
• 11:25
  this
• 11:25
  from
• 11:25
  experience,
• 11:27
  sometimes
• 11:27
  you
• 11:28
  can't
• 11:28
  prevent
• 11:28
  things,
• 11:30
  but
• 11:30
  heart
• 11:30
  disease
• 11:30
  is
• 11:30
  not
• 11:31
  a
• 11:31
  genetic
• 11:31
  factor
• 11:31
  that
• 11:32
  says
• 11:32
  I'm
• 11:32
  absolutely
• 11:32
  gonna
• 11:33
  have
• 11:33
  a
• 11:33
  heart
• 11:33
  attack.
• 11:34
  That
• 11:34
  comes
• 11:35
  from
• 11:35
  years
• 11:35
  and
• 11:35
  years
• 11:36
  of
• 11:36
  neglect,
• 11:36
  of,
• 11:37
  of
• 11:37
  stress,
• 11:38
  of
• 11:38
  trauma,
• 11:39
  of
• 11:39
  not
• 11:40
  taking
• 11:40
  care
• 11:40
  of
• 11:40
  yourself
• 11:41
  and
• 11:41
  putting
• 11:41
  everyone
• 11:42
  else's
• 11:42
  needs
• 11:42
  before
• 11:43
  yourself.
• 11:45
  In
• 11:45
  the
• 11:45
  name
• 11:45
  of
• 11:45
  service,
• 11:46
  in
• 11:46
  the
• 11:46
  name
• 11:46
  of
• 11:46
  providing,
• 11:47
  in
• 11:47
  the
• 11:47
  name
• 11:47
  of
• 11:47
  protecting,
• 11:48
  in
• 11:48
  the
• 11:48
  name
• 11:49
  of
• 11:49
  whatever.
• 11:51
  But
• 11:51
  really
• 11:51
  that's
• 11:51
  not
• 11:51
  modeling
• 11:53
  self-care,
• 11:54
  that's
• 11:54
  not
• 11:54
  modeling
• 11:55
  stewardship
• 11:55
  of
• 11:55
  the
• 11:55
  body
• 11:56
  or
• 11:56
  management
• 11:56
  of
• 11:56
  the
• 11:56
  body.
• 11:57
  The
• 11:57
  only
• 11:57
  thing
• 11:57
  that
• 11:58
  God
• 11:58
  gives
• 11:58
  us
• 11:58
  on
• 11:58
  this
• 11:58
  earth,
• 11:59
  um,
• 11:59
  to
• 12:00
  take
• 12:00
  care
• 12:00
  of
• 12:00
  that's
• 12:01
  only
• 12:01
  ours
• 12:01
  is
• 12:01
  our
• 12:02
  body.
• 12:04
  So
• 12:05
  I
• 12:05
  wanna
• 12:05
  talk
• 12:06
  about
• 12:07
  this,
• 12:08
  um,
• 12:09
  this
• 12:09
  scripture
• 12:09
  that
• 12:10
  I'm
• 12:10
  sure
• 12:11
  I'm
• 12:11
  gonna
• 12:11
  pull
• 12:12
  it
• 12:12
  up
• 12:12
  in
• 12:12
  ESV.
• 12:13
  I'm
• 12:13
  gonna
• 12:13
  pull
• 12:13
  it
• 12:13
  up
• 12:13
  because
• 12:14
  I
• 12:14
  read
• 12:14
  ESV,
• 12:15
  um,
• 12:16
  with
• 12:17
  this.
• 12:17
  So
• 12:18
  give
• 12:18
  me
• 12:18
  a
• 12:18
  second.
• 12:19
  Why
• 12:19
  does
• 12:19
  the
• 12:19
  app,
• 12:19
  the
• 12:20
  app
• 12:20
  is
• 12:20
  always
• 12:21
  going
• 12:21
  nuts.
• 12:22
  So
• 12:22
  I'm
• 12:22
  gonna
• 12:22
  head
• 12:22
  to
• 12:22
  one
• 12:23
  Corinthians.
• 12:24
  I'm
• 12:25
  gonna
• 12:25
  head
• 12:25
  to
• 12:25
  one
• 12:25
  Corinthians
• 12:26
  chapter
• 12:27
  seven
• 12:29
  verses.
• 12:31
  Um,
• 12:33
  four.
• 12:33
  I'm
• 12:33
  actually
• 12:34
  gonna
• 12:34
  go,
• 12:35
  I'm
• 12:35
  just
• 12:35
  gonna
• 12:36
  start
• 12:36
  reading
• 12:36
  in
• 12:36
  chapter
• 12:36
  one,
• 12:37
  and
• 12:38
  it
• 12:38
  says,
• 12:39
  this
• 12:39
  is
• 12:39
  principle,
• 12:40
  like
• 12:40
  the
• 12:40
  little
• 12:40
  title,
• 12:41
  the
• 12:41
  subtitle,
• 12:41
  or
• 12:41
  whatever
• 12:42
  In
• 12:42
  one
• 12:43
  Corinthians
• 12:43
  seven
• 12:44
  says,
• 12:44
  principles
• 12:45
  for
• 12:45
  Marriage.
• 12:45
  So
• 12:46
  let's
• 12:46
  talk
• 12:46
  about
• 12:46
  this
• 12:46
  for
• 12:47
  a
• 12:47
  minute
• 12:48
  now,
• 12:48
  concerning
• 12:48
  the
• 12:48
  matters
• 12:49
  about
• 12:49
  which
• 12:49
  you
• 12:49
  wrote.
• 12:50
  It
• 12:50
  is
• 12:50
  good
• 12:50
  for
• 12:50
  a
• 12:50
  man
• 12:51
  to
• 12:51
  not
• 12:51
  have
• 12:51
  sexual
• 12:52
  relations
• 12:52
  with
• 12:52
  a
• 12:52
  woman.
• 12:54
  Because
• 12:54
  of
• 12:55
  the
• 12:55
  temptation
• 12:55
  to
• 12:56
  sexual
• 12:56
  immorality,
• 12:57
  each
• 12:58
  man
• 12:58
  should
• 12:58
  have
• 12:59
  his
• 12:59
  own
• 12:59
  wife
• 13:00
  and
• 13:00
  each
• 13:00
  woman,
• 13:01
  her
• 13:01
  own
• 13:01
  husband.
• 13:03
  So
• 13:03
  it,
• 13:03
  it
• 13:03
  is
• 13:04
  good
• 13:04
  for
• 13:04
  us
• 13:04
  to
• 13:04
  be
• 13:04
  single.
• 13:05
  It
• 13:05
  is
• 13:05
  actually
• 13:05
  really
• 13:06
  good
• 13:06
  for
• 13:06
  us
• 13:06
  to
• 13:06
  be
• 13:06
  single,
• 13:07
  but
• 13:07
  because
• 13:08
  we
• 13:09
  have
• 13:09
  the
• 13:09
  temptations.
• 13:11
  We
• 13:11
  need
• 13:11
  to
• 13:12
  have
• 13:12
  a
• 13:12
  husband
• 13:13
  or
• 13:13
  a
• 13:13
  wife
• 13:14
  to
• 13:15
  keep
• 13:15
  those
• 13:16
  temptations
• 13:16
  at
• 13:17
  bay
• 13:17
  because
• 13:17
  sexual
• 13:18
  immorality
• 13:18
  is
• 13:18
  one
• 13:18
  of
• 13:18
  the
• 13:19
  sins
• 13:19
  that
• 13:19
  will
• 13:19
  like
• 13:19
  just
• 13:20
  pull
• 13:20
  you
• 13:20
  under
• 13:21
  so
• 13:22
  quickly.
• 13:22
  And
• 13:22
  God
• 13:22
  knows
• 13:23
  that
• 13:23
  about
• 13:23
  our
• 13:23
  design.
• 13:24
  So
• 13:24
  I'm
• 13:24
  gonna
• 13:25
  go
• 13:25
  back
• 13:25
  to
• 13:25
  verse
• 13:25
  two.
• 13:26
  But
• 13:26
  because
• 13:27
  of
• 13:27
  the
• 13:27
  temptation
• 13:28
  to
• 13:28
  sexual
• 13:28
  immorality,
• 13:29
  each
• 13:29
  man
• 13:29
  should
• 13:29
  have
• 13:30
  his
• 13:30
  own
• 13:30
  wife
• 13:30
  and
• 13:30
  each
• 13:31
  woman,
• 13:31
  her
• 13:31
  own
• 13:31
  husband.
• 13:33
  The
• 13:33
  woman
• 13:33
  should
• 13:33
  give
• 13:34
  his
• 13:34
  wife
• 13:35
  her
• 13:35
  conjugal
• 13:35
  rights.
• 13:36
  And
• 13:36
  likewise,
• 13:37
  the
• 13:37
  wife,
• 13:37
  her
• 13:37
  husband,
• 13:38
  for
• 13:38
  the
• 13:39
  wife
• 13:40
  does
• 13:40
  not
• 13:40
  have
• 13:40
  authority
• 13:41
  over
• 13:41
  her
• 13:41
  own
• 13:42
  body,
• 13:42
  but
• 13:42
  the
• 13:42
  husband
• 13:43
  does.
• 13:44
  Likewise,
• 13:44
  the
• 13:44
  husband
• 13:45
  does.
• 13:45
  Not
• 13:46
  have
• 13:46
  authority
• 13:46
  over
• 13:46
  his
• 13:47
  own
• 13:47
  body,
• 13:48
  but
• 13:48
  the
• 13:48
  wife
• 13:49
  does.
• 13:50
  Verse
• 13:50
  five,
• 13:51
  do
• 13:51
  not
• 13:51
  deprive
• 13:51
  one
• 13:52
  another
• 13:52
  except
• 13:52
  perhaps
• 13:53
  by
• 13:53
  agreement
• 13:53
  for
• 13:54
  a
• 13:54
  limited
• 13:54
  time
• 13:54
  that
• 13:55
  you
• 13:55
  might
• 13:55
  devote
• 13:55
  yourselves
• 13:56
  to
• 13:56
  prayer,
• 13:56
  but
• 13:57
  then
• 13:57
  come
• 13:57
  together
• 13:57
  again
• 13:58
  so
• 13:58
  that
• 13:58
  Satan
• 13:58
  may
• 13:58
  not
• 13:59
  tempt
• 13:59
  you
• 13:59
  because
• 13:59
  of
• 13:59
  your
• 13:59
  lack
• 14:00
  of
• 14:00
  self-control.
• 14:02
  I
• 14:02
  want
• 14:02
  to
• 14:03
  read
• 14:04
  that
• 14:04
  one
• 14:04
  more
• 14:04
  time.
• 14:05
  Do
• 14:05
  not
• 14:05
  deprive
• 14:06
  one
• 14:06
  another
• 14:06
  except
• 14:07
  for
• 14:07
  perhaps
• 14:07
  by
• 14:08
  agreement
• 14:09
  for
• 14:09
  a
• 14:09
  limited
• 14:09
  time,
• 14:10
  not.
• 14:11
  A
• 14:11
  month,
• 14:12
  six
• 14:12
  months,
• 14:13
  three
• 14:13
  years
• 14:14
  that
• 14:14
  you
• 14:14
  may
• 14:15
  devote
• 14:15
  yourselves
• 14:15
  to
• 14:16
  prayer.
• 14:17
  Didn't
• 14:17
  say
• 14:17
  anything
• 14:18
  about
• 14:18
  making
• 14:18
  excuses
• 14:18
  of
• 14:19
  being
• 14:19
  tired
• 14:19
  or
• 14:19
  I'm
• 14:20
  too
• 14:20
  fat,
• 14:20
  or
• 14:20
  I'm
• 14:21
  too
• 14:21
  this,
• 14:21
  or
• 14:21
  I
• 14:21
  don't
• 14:22
  like
• 14:22
  my
• 14:22
  body.
• 14:24
  It
• 14:24
  says
• 14:24
  that
• 14:24
  you
• 14:24
  may
• 14:24
  devote
• 14:24
  yourselves
• 14:25
  to
• 14:25
  prayer,
• 14:26
  but
• 14:26
  then
• 14:26
  come
• 14:27
  together
• 14:27
  again
• 14:27
  so
• 14:28
  that
• 14:28
  Satan
• 14:28
  may
• 14:28
  not
• 14:29
  tempt
• 14:29
  you
• 14:30
  because
• 14:30
  of
• 14:30
  your
• 14:30
  lack
• 14:31
  of
• 14:31
  self-control.
• 14:31
  God
• 14:32
  knows
• 14:32
  that
• 14:32
  we
• 14:32
  have
• 14:32
  no
• 14:32
  self-control
• 14:33
  without
• 14:34
  him,
• 14:34
  and
• 14:35
  that
• 14:35
  self-control
• 14:36
  with
• 14:36
  sexuality
• 14:37
  is,
• 14:37
  again,
• 14:38
  the
• 14:38
  hugest,
• 14:39
  the,
• 14:39
  the
• 14:40
  hugest,
• 14:41
  the
• 14:41
  biggest
• 14:42
  thing
• 14:43
  that
• 14:43
  can
• 14:43
  bring
• 14:44
  down
• 14:44
  Christians.
• 14:45
  I
• 14:45
  want
• 14:45
  you
• 14:45
  to
• 14:45
  look
• 14:46
  at
• 14:46
  our,
• 14:46
  at
• 14:47
  our
• 14:47
  pastors.
• 14:48
  Satan
• 14:49
  doesn't
• 14:49
  go
• 14:49
  after
• 14:49
  them
• 14:50
  for
• 14:51
  certain
• 14:51
  things.
• 14:51
  He
• 14:51
  goes
• 14:52
  after
• 14:52
  them
• 14:52
  for
• 14:52
  sex,
• 14:53
  he
• 14:53
  goes
• 14:53
  after
• 14:54
  them
• 14:54
  for
• 14:54
  porn,
• 14:55
  he
• 14:55
  goes
• 14:55
  after
• 14:56
  them
• 14:56
  for
• 14:56
  those
• 14:57
  things.
• 14:57
  And
• 14:57
  I
• 14:57
  don't
• 14:57
  even
• 14:57
  mean
• 14:58
  just
• 14:58
  pastors
• 14:58
  that
• 14:58
  are
• 14:59
  men.
• 14:59
  I
• 14:59
  mean,
• 15:00
  um,
• 15:00
  women,
• 15:01
  women
• 15:01
  are
• 15:01
  struggling
• 15:01
  just
• 15:02
  as
• 15:02
  bad
• 15:02
  with
• 15:02
  sexual
• 15:03
  temptation.
• 15:03
  And
• 15:04
  that's
• 15:04
  why
• 15:04
  we
• 15:04
  have
• 15:04
  a
• 15:04
  culture
• 15:05
  now
• 15:05
  of
• 15:06
  people
• 15:06
  that
• 15:06
  are
• 15:06
  not
• 15:06
  getting
• 15:07
  married
• 15:07
  on
• 15:07
  purpose
• 15:07
  and
• 15:08
  they're
• 15:08
  just
• 15:08
  sleeping
• 15:08
  around.
• 15:08
  They're
• 15:09
  having
• 15:09
  open,
• 15:09
  what
• 15:09
  is
• 15:10
  it
• 15:10
  called?
• 15:10
  Open
• 15:10
  relationships
• 15:11
  or
• 15:11
  something
• 15:11
  like
• 15:11
  that.
• 15:12
  Um,
• 15:12
  all
• 15:13
  of
• 15:13
  that.
• 15:14
  But
• 15:14
  I
• 15:14
  wanna
• 15:14
  talk
• 15:15
  about
• 15:15
  when
• 15:16
  your
• 15:16
  health.
• 15:17
  Disconnect
• 15:17
  becomes
• 15:18
  a
• 15:18
  marriage
• 15:18
  disconnect.
• 15:19
  When
• 15:19
  your
• 15:19
  health,
• 15:20
  the
• 15:20
  status
• 15:21
  of
• 15:21
  your
• 15:21
  health,
• 15:21
  if
• 15:21
  you
• 15:22
  have
• 15:22
  a
• 15:22
  heart
• 15:22
  attack,
• 15:23
  are
• 15:23
  you
• 15:23
  going
• 15:23
  to
• 15:24
  be
• 15:24
  able
• 15:24
  to
• 15:24
  satisfy
• 15:25
  your
• 15:25
  husband?
• 15:26
  No,
• 15:27
  you,
• 15:27
  you
• 15:28
  aren't
• 15:28
  because
• 15:28
  you
• 15:28
  are
• 15:28
  gonna
• 15:29
  be
• 15:29
  on,
• 15:29
  um,
• 15:30
  limited
• 15:30
  restriction
• 15:30
  and
• 15:31
  I
• 15:31
  think
• 15:31
  you
• 15:31
  actually
• 15:31
  aren't
• 15:32
  allowed
• 15:32
  to
• 15:32
  have
• 15:32
  sex
• 15:32
  for
• 15:32
  a
• 15:33
  while
• 15:33
  after
• 15:33
  a
• 15:33
  heart
• 15:33
  attack.
• 15:34
  I
• 15:34
  don't
• 15:34
  even
• 15:34
  know
• 15:34
  what
• 15:35
  the
• 15:35
  rules
• 15:35
  are.
• 15:35
  I'd
• 15:35
  have
• 15:35
  to
• 15:35
  go
• 15:35
  look
• 15:36
  that
• 15:36
  up.
• 15:36
  I
• 15:36
  say
• 15:37
  rules,
• 15:37
  but
• 15:37
  the
• 15:37
  best
• 15:37
  practices
• 15:38
  around
• 15:38
  that,
• 15:39
  but
• 15:39
  I
• 15:40
  want.
• 15:41
  You
• 15:41
  two
• 15:41
  really
• 15:42
  pay
• 15:42
  attention
• 15:43
  to
• 15:43
  what
• 15:43
  this
• 15:43
  verse
• 15:43
  is
• 15:44
  not
• 15:44
  saying.
• 15:45
  It's
• 15:45
  not
• 15:45
  saying
• 15:45
  that
• 15:46
  you
• 15:46
  have
• 15:46
  to
• 15:46
  have
• 15:46
  forced
• 15:46
  intimacy.
• 15:48
  It's
• 15:48
  about
• 15:48
  mutual
• 15:49
  devotion.
• 15:50
  It's
• 15:50
  about
• 15:51
  being
• 15:51
  that
• 15:51
  one
• 15:51
  flesh,
• 15:52
  not
• 15:52
  just
• 15:52
  in
• 15:52
  spirit,
• 15:53
  but
• 15:53
  embody
• 15:54
  and
• 15:54
  in
• 15:54
  service
• 15:55
  and
• 15:55
  in
• 15:55
  connection
• 15:56
  on
• 15:56
  the
• 15:56
  same
• 15:56
  page.
• 15:57
  And
• 15:58
  if
• 15:58
  you
• 15:58
  are
• 15:58
  allowing
• 15:59
  your
• 15:59
  health,
• 16:00
  your
• 16:00
  health
• 16:00
  issues,
• 16:01
  or
• 16:01
  your
• 16:01
  self-esteem
• 16:02
  issues
• 16:02
  due
• 16:03
  to
• 16:03
  your
• 16:03
  health
• 16:03
  issues,
• 16:04
  then
• 16:04
  that
• 16:05
  is
• 16:05
  going
• 16:06
  to
• 16:06
  cause
• 16:06
  you
• 16:06
  to.
• 16:07
  Pull
• 16:08
  away
• 16:09
  and
• 16:09
  break
• 16:10
  apart
• 16:10
  that
• 16:10
  one
• 16:11
  flesh
• 16:11
  and
• 16:11
  one
• 16:12
  part
• 16:12
  of
• 16:12
  the
• 16:12
  flesh
• 16:12
  is
• 16:12
  going
• 16:13
  to
• 16:13
  ache,
• 16:13
  which
• 16:14
  means
• 16:14
  the
• 16:14
  other
• 16:14
  part
• 16:14
  of
• 16:15
  the
• 16:15
  flesh
• 16:15
  is
• 16:15
  trying
• 16:15
  to
• 16:15
  keep
• 16:16
  up
• 16:16
  and
• 16:16
  overtake
• 16:17
  and
• 16:17
  overcompensate,
• 16:18
  and
• 16:18
  then
• 16:19
  that
• 16:19
  flesh
• 16:19
  is
• 16:19
  gonna
• 16:19
  get
• 16:20
  tired
• 16:20
  too,
• 16:21
  and
• 16:21
  it
• 16:21
  may
• 16:21
  actually
• 16:21
  tire
• 16:22
  out
• 16:22
  faster
• 16:23
  than
• 16:23
  the
• 16:23
  original
• 16:24
  aching
• 16:24
  flesh.
• 16:25
  And
• 16:26
  so
• 16:26
  when
• 16:27
  all
• 16:27
  of
• 16:27
  this
• 16:27
  is
• 16:27
  happening,
• 16:28
  when
• 16:28
  shame
• 16:29
  takes
• 16:29
  over,
• 16:29
  when
• 16:29
  you
• 16:30
  don't
• 16:30
  want
• 16:30
  to
• 16:30
  be
• 16:30
  seen,
• 16:31
  touched,
• 16:31
  or
• 16:31
  known
• 16:32
  from
• 16:32
  your
• 16:32
  husband
• 16:33
  because
• 16:33
  you
• 16:33
  can't
• 16:33
  even
• 16:33
  love
• 16:34
  yourself,
• 16:34
  you
• 16:35
  start
• 16:35
  withholding
• 16:35
  what
• 16:36
  was
• 16:36
  never
• 16:36
  meant
• 16:36
  to
• 16:37
  be
• 16:37
  withheld
• 16:38
  at
• 16:38
  all.
• 16:39
  And
• 16:39
  I'm
• 16:40
  saying
• 16:40
  this
• 16:40
  with
• 16:40
  love
• 16:41
  because
• 16:41
  again,
• 16:41
  I
• 16:41
  have
• 16:42
  done
• 16:42
  this,
• 16:42
  I
• 16:42
  have,
• 16:42
  I've
• 16:43
  been
• 16:43
  here,
• 16:43
  I've
• 16:44
  done
• 16:44
  this,
• 16:44
  and
• 16:45
  this
• 16:45
  hurts
• 16:45
  both
• 16:46
  of
• 16:46
  us.
• 16:48
  Because
• 16:49
  this
• 16:49
  is
• 16:49
  a
• 16:49
  spiritual
• 16:50
  matter.
• 16:51
  This
• 16:51
  is
• 16:51
  not
• 16:51
  just
• 16:51
  a
• 16:52
  physical
• 16:52
  matter
• 16:52
  when
• 16:53
  your,
• 16:53
  your
• 16:54
  physical
• 16:54
  body
• 16:55
  affects
• 16:55
  your
• 16:55
  spirit
• 16:56
  and
• 16:57
  it
• 16:57
  affects
• 16:57
  that
• 16:57
  oneness
• 16:58
  in
• 16:58
  flesh
• 16:58
  and
• 16:59
  that
• 16:59
  protection
• 16:59
  that
• 17:00
  God
• 17:00
  gave
• 17:00
  us
• 17:01
  to
• 17:01
  keep
• 17:01
  us
• 17:01
  from
• 17:01
  being
• 17:02
  distracted
• 17:02
  and
• 17:03
  to
• 17:03
  be
• 17:03
  tempted
• 17:04
  in
• 17:04
  the.
• 17:04
  Biggest,
• 17:05
  like
• 17:05
  again,
• 17:06
  there's
• 17:06
  no,
• 17:06
  there's
• 17:06
  no
• 17:07
  like
• 17:07
  worse
• 17:07
  sin
• 17:08
  than
• 17:08
  the
• 17:08
  other,
• 17:08
  but
• 17:09
  this
• 17:09
  sin
• 17:09
  is
• 17:09
  a
• 17:10
  trap
• 17:10
  that
• 17:10
  is
• 17:10
  like
• 17:11
  a
• 17:11
  quicksand
• 17:11
  that
• 17:11
  you
• 17:12
  just
• 17:12
  keep
• 17:12
  falling
• 17:13
  in
• 17:13
  and
• 17:13
  the
• 17:14
  enemy
• 17:14
  just
• 17:14
  loves
• 17:14
  to
• 17:14
  keep
• 17:15
  you
• 17:15
  there.
• 17:16
  So
• 17:16
  if
• 17:16
  you
• 17:16
  aren't
• 17:16
  able
• 17:17
  to
• 17:17
  even
• 17:17
  engage
• 17:18
  with
• 17:18
  your
• 17:18
  spouse,
• 17:19
  or
• 17:19
  you
• 17:19
  can't
• 17:20
  think
• 17:20
  about
• 17:20
  yourself
• 17:21
  in
• 17:21
  a
• 17:21
  positive
• 17:21
  way
• 17:22
  because
• 17:23
  of
• 17:23
  your
• 17:23
  health,
• 17:23
  that
• 17:24
  is
• 17:24
  what
• 17:24
  the
• 17:25
  enemy
• 17:25
  wants
• 17:25
  because
• 17:26
  you're
• 17:26
  distracted.
• 17:27
  He
• 17:27
  wants
• 17:27
  you
• 17:27
  fixated
• 17:28
  on
• 17:28
  your
• 17:28
  weight,
• 17:28
  your
• 17:28
  cellulite,
• 17:29
  your
• 17:29
  cravings,
• 17:29
  your
• 17:29
  failures.
• 17:31
  So
• 17:31
  that
• 17:31
  you're
• 17:31
  too
• 17:32
  depleted
• 17:32
  to
• 17:32
  even
• 17:32
  show
• 17:33
  up
• 17:33
  in
• 17:33
  your
• 17:33
  marriage,
• 17:34
  in
• 17:34
  your
• 17:34
  motherhood
• 17:35
  and
• 17:35
  in
• 17:35
  your
• 17:35
  mission.
• 17:36
  If
• 17:36
  he
• 17:36
  can
• 17:36
  keep
• 17:37
  you
• 17:37
  self-obsessed
• 17:38
  in
• 17:38
  shame,
• 17:39
  he
• 17:39
  can
• 17:40
  stop
• 17:40
  your
• 17:40
  legacy
• 17:41
  before
• 17:41
  it
• 17:41
  even
• 17:41
  starts.
• 17:44
  Do
• 17:44
  you
• 17:44
  see
• 17:44
  how
• 17:45
  your
• 17:45
  physical
• 17:46
  health
• 17:46
  is
• 17:47
  this,
• 17:47
  this
• 17:48
  responsibility
• 17:49
  that
• 17:49
  only
• 17:50
  you
• 17:50
  can
• 17:51
  do
• 17:51
  a
• 17:51
  marriage,
• 17:52
  a
• 17:52
  relationship
• 17:52
  is
• 17:52
  a
• 17:52
  hundred
• 17:53
  hundred.
• 17:54
  Because
• 17:54
  as
• 17:54
  soon
• 17:54
  as
• 17:55
  a
• 17:55
  hundred
• 17:55
  percent
• 17:55
  goes
• 17:55
  away,
• 17:56
  the
• 17:56
  other
• 17:56
  one
• 17:57
  has
• 17:57
  to
• 17:57
  give
• 17:58
  away.
• 17:58
  Some
• 17:58
  of
• 17:58
  its
• 17:58
  a
• 17:58
  hundred
• 17:59
  percent
• 17:59
  to
• 17:59
  the
• 17:59
  other
• 17:59
  side.
• 18:00
  And
• 18:01
  yes,
• 18:01
  we're
• 18:01
  supposed
• 18:01
  to
• 18:01
  in
• 18:02
  sickness
• 18:02
  and
• 18:02
  health
• 18:02
  and,
• 18:03
  um,
• 18:03
  and,
• 18:03
  and,
• 18:04
  uh,
• 18:04
  good
• 18:04
  and
• 18:05
  bad,
• 18:05
  you
• 18:05
  know,
• 18:05
  all
• 18:05
  the
• 18:05
  things
• 18:06
  and
• 18:06
  the
• 18:06
  vows.
• 18:06
  We're
• 18:07
  supposed
• 18:07
  to
• 18:07
  do
• 18:07
  that,
• 18:09
  but
• 18:09
  for
• 18:09
  a
• 18:09
  time,
• 18:11
  an
• 18:11
  agreed
• 18:11
  upon
• 18:12
  amount
• 18:12
  of
• 18:12
  time.
• 18:14
  So
• 18:14
  I
• 18:15
  want
• 18:15
  to
• 18:15
  offer
• 18:16
  you.
• 18:17
  A
• 18:17
  way
• 18:17
  out.
• 18:18
  I
• 18:19
  want
• 18:19
  to
• 18:19
  offer
• 18:19
  you
• 18:20
  a
• 18:20
  starting
• 18:21
  path
• 18:21
  for
• 18:22
  healing
• 18:22
  from
• 18:22
  this
• 18:23
  pattern.
• 18:24
  So
• 18:24
  let's
• 18:24
  kind
• 18:25
  of
• 18:25
  shift
• 18:25
  gears
• 18:26
  and
• 18:26
  give
• 18:26
  you
• 18:26
  three
• 18:27
  powerful
• 18:27
  ways
• 18:28
  to
• 18:28
  step
• 18:28
  out
• 18:28
  of
• 18:28
  this
• 18:28
  cycle
• 18:29
  today.
• 18:30
  Okay.
• 18:31
  We're
• 18:31
  gonna
• 18:32
  start
• 18:32
  today.
• 18:33
  We're
• 18:33
  going
• 18:33
  to
• 18:33
  number
• 18:34
  one,
• 18:35
  acknowledge
• 18:35
  the
• 18:35
  broken
• 18:36
  agreement
• 18:36
  you've
• 18:36
  made
• 18:37
  with
• 18:37
  your
• 18:37
  body.
• 18:40
  You've
• 18:40
  probably
• 18:40
  agreed.
• 18:43
  With
• 18:43
  some
• 18:43
  lies
• 18:44
  that
• 18:44
  have
• 18:44
  gone
• 18:44
  too
• 18:44
  far.
• 18:45
  Maybe
• 18:46
  you've
• 18:46
  told
• 18:46
  yourself,
• 18:47
  I've
• 18:48
  let
• 18:48
  myself
• 18:48
  go
• 18:48
  too
• 18:49
  far.
• 18:51
  Maybe
• 18:51
  you
• 18:51
  even
• 18:51
  told
• 18:52
  yourself,
• 18:52
  well,
• 18:52
  he
• 18:52
  doesn't
• 18:53
  even
• 18:53
  really
• 18:53
  want
• 18:53
  me.
• 18:56
  Maybe
• 18:57
  you've
• 18:57
  said
• 18:57
  I'll
• 18:58
  never
• 18:58
  look
• 18:58
  good
• 18:58
  again.
• 18:59
  So
• 18:59
  why
• 19:00
  try?
• 19:02
  You
• 19:02
  could
• 19:02
  also
• 19:03
  say,
• 19:04
  this
• 19:04
  is
• 19:04
  just
• 19:04
  what
• 19:04
  getting
• 19:05
  older
• 19:05
  feels
• 19:06
  like
• 19:07
  and
• 19:07
  those
• 19:07
  agreements
• 19:08
  create
• 19:08
  an
• 19:09
  identity
• 19:09
  level
• 19:09
  belief.
• 19:10
  That
• 19:11
  begins
• 19:11
  to
• 19:12
  control
• 19:13
  or
• 19:13
  rule
• 19:13
  your
• 19:13
  behaviors.
• 19:15
  So
• 19:15
  today
• 19:16
  you're
• 19:16
  gonna
• 19:16
  break
• 19:16
  the
• 19:17
  agreement
• 19:17
  and
• 19:17
  you're
• 19:17
  gonna
• 19:17
  do
• 19:17
  it
• 19:18
  out
• 19:18
  loud.
• 19:18
  Because
• 19:18
  when
• 19:18
  you
• 19:18
  say
• 19:19
  something
• 19:19
  out
• 19:19
  loud,
• 19:21
  the
• 19:21
  then
• 19:21
  the
• 19:21
  enemy
• 19:22
  can
• 19:22
  hear
• 19:22
  it.
• 19:22
  Just
• 19:23
  like
• 19:23
  when
• 19:23
  Jesus
• 19:23
  said,
• 19:23
  get
• 19:24
  behind
• 19:24
  me,
• 19:24
  Satan.
• 19:27
  You
• 19:27
  have
• 19:27
  to
• 19:27
  say
• 19:28
  it
• 19:28
  out
• 19:28
  loud.
• 19:29
  I
• 19:29
  renounce
• 19:30
  the
• 19:30
  lie
• 19:30
  that
• 19:30
  I'm
• 19:30
  disgusting
• 19:31
  and
• 19:31
  unwanted.
• 19:32
  That's
• 19:32
  what
• 19:32
  you're
• 19:32
  gonna
• 19:33
  say.
• 19:34
  Or
• 19:34
  maybe
• 19:35
  you're
• 19:35
  gonna
• 19:35
  say,
• 19:35
  I'm
• 19:35
  a
• 19:35
  woman
• 19:36
  made
• 19:36
  in
• 19:36
  the
• 19:36
  image
• 19:36
  of
• 19:37
  God
• 19:37
  and
• 19:37
  I
• 19:37
  can
• 19:38
  heal.
• 19:41
  You
• 19:42
  cannot
• 19:42
  heal
• 19:43
  what
• 19:43
  you
• 19:43
  keep
• 19:44
  hidden
• 19:45
  because
• 19:46
  every
• 19:46
  single
• 19:46
  time
• 19:47
  you
• 19:47
  keep
• 19:47
  things
• 19:47
  hidden,
• 19:49
  the
• 19:49
  enemy
• 19:49
  doesn't
• 19:50
  have
• 19:50
  to
• 19:50
  work.
• 19:52
  Bring
• 19:52
  it
• 19:52
  into
• 19:52
  the
• 19:52
  light.
• 19:54
  Number
• 19:54
  two,
• 19:55
  we're
• 19:55
  gonna
• 19:55
  start
• 19:55
  nourishing
• 19:56
  the
• 19:56
  body.
• 19:57
  We're
• 19:57
  going
• 19:58
  to
• 19:58
  not
• 19:58
  punish
• 19:59
  it.
• 19:59
  We're
• 19:59
  going
• 19:59
  to
• 19:59
  nourish
• 20:00
  it
• 20:01
  because
• 20:01
  punishment
• 20:02
  doesn't
• 20:02
  produce
• 20:03
  any
• 20:03
  change.
• 20:04
  It
• 20:04
  just
• 20:04
  reinforces
• 20:05
  the
• 20:05
  guilt.
• 20:06
  And
• 20:07
  instead
• 20:07
  of
• 20:07
  punishment
• 20:08
  driven
• 20:08
  fixes,
• 20:09
  here's
• 20:09
  what
• 20:09
  you're
• 20:09
  gonna
• 20:10
  do.
• 20:10
  You're
• 20:11
  gonna
• 20:11
  start
• 20:11
  by
• 20:11
  drinking
• 20:12
  half
• 20:13
  your
• 20:13
  body
• 20:13
  weight
• 20:13
  ounces
• 20:13
  up
• 20:14
  to
• 20:14
  a
• 20:14
  gallon
• 20:15
  of
• 20:15
  distilled
• 20:15
  water
• 20:16
  with
• 20:16
  some
• 20:16
  electrolytes
• 20:17
  or,
• 20:18
  um,
• 20:18
  I'm
• 20:18
  sorry,
• 20:18
  with
• 20:18
  some
• 20:19
  redmond's
• 20:19
  real
• 20:19
  salt
• 20:19
  in
• 20:20
  it
• 20:20
  or
• 20:20
  some
• 20:21
  french
• 20:21
  gray
• 20:21
  sea
• 20:21
  salt
• 20:22
  in
• 20:22
  it.
• 20:23
  You're
• 20:23
  gonna
• 20:23
  eat
• 20:24
  three
• 20:24
  protein
• 20:24
  forward
• 20:25
  meals
• 20:25
  a
• 20:25
  day.
• 20:27
  You're
• 20:27
  gonna
• 20:27
  get
• 20:27
  sunlight
• 20:28
  on
• 20:28
  your
• 20:28
  face.
• 20:28
  It's
• 20:28
  not
• 20:29
  sun
• 20:29
  sunny
• 20:29
  out
• 20:30
  today,
• 20:30
  but
• 20:30
  there's
• 20:30
  still
• 20:30
  UV
• 20:31
  rays
• 20:31
  out
• 20:31
  there,
• 20:31
  and
• 20:31
  you're
• 20:31
  gonna
• 20:32
  go
• 20:32
  get
• 20:32
  it
• 20:32
  on
• 20:32
  your
• 20:32
  face
• 20:32
  for
• 20:33
  10
• 20:33
  minutes.
• 20:34
  You're
• 20:34
  gonna
• 20:35
  go
• 20:35
  walk
• 20:35
  for
• 20:35
  10
• 20:36
  to
• 20:36
  20
• 20:36
  minutes
• 20:36
  after
• 20:37
  dinner,
• 20:37
  not
• 20:38
  to
• 20:38
  burn
• 20:38
  your
• 20:38
  calories,
• 20:40
  but
• 20:40
  to
• 20:41
  actually
• 20:41
  start
• 20:42
  balancing
• 20:42
  your
• 20:42
  blood
• 20:42
  sugar.
• 20:47
  This
• 20:47
  is
• 20:47
  what
• 20:47
  we
• 20:47
  teach
• 20:48
  in
• 20:48
  the
• 20:48
  roadmap
• 20:49
  to
• 20:49
  health.
• 20:50
  This
• 20:50
  is
• 20:50
  what
• 20:50
  we
• 20:51
  teach
• 20:51
  inside
• 20:52
  the
• 20:52
  wilderness
• 20:52
  of
• 20:52
  wellness,
• 20:53
  because
• 20:54
  we're
• 20:54
  not
• 20:54
  doing
• 20:55
  30
• 20:55
  day
• 20:55
  detoxes.
• 20:56
  You
• 20:57
  need
• 20:57
  daily
• 20:58
  direction.
• 20:59
  You
• 20:59
  need
• 21:00
  to
• 21:00
  know
• 21:00
  what
• 21:00
  to
• 21:00
  do
• 21:01
  today.
• 21:02
  You
• 21:02
  need
• 21:02
  to
• 21:02
  be
• 21:02
  able
• 21:02
  to
• 21:03
  get
• 21:03
  that
• 21:03
  in
• 21:04
  even
• 21:04
  though
• 21:04
  you're
• 21:05
  busy,
• 21:05
  even
• 21:05
  though
• 21:06
  you
• 21:06
  are
• 21:06
  insanely
• 21:07
  overwhelmed,
• 21:08
  even
• 21:08
  though
• 21:08
  life
• 21:09
  is
• 21:09
  going
• 21:09
  chaotic,
• 21:10
  you
• 21:10
  still
• 21:10
  have
• 21:10
  the
• 21:10
  responsibility
• 21:11
  of
• 21:11
  your
• 21:11
  wellness.
• 21:12
  You
• 21:12
  still
• 21:13
  have
• 21:13
  the
• 21:13
  responsibility
• 21:13
  to
• 21:14
  manage
• 21:14
  your
• 21:14
  health.
• 21:15
  That
• 21:15
  is
• 21:15
  no
• 21:15
  one
• 21:16
  else's
• 21:16
  responsibility.
• 21:17
  But
• 21:17
  you
• 21:17
  know,
• 21:17
  what
• 21:17
  you
• 21:17
  can
• 21:17
  do
• 21:18
  is
• 21:18
  control
• 21:19
  where
• 21:19
  your
• 21:19
  energy
• 21:20
  is
• 21:20
  going
• 21:21
  and
• 21:21
  reprioritize,
• 21:22
  oh,
• 21:23
  I
• 21:23
  do
• 21:24
  have
• 21:24
  to
• 21:24
  take
• 21:24
  care
• 21:24
  of
• 21:24
  that,
• 21:25
  so
• 21:25
  that
• 21:25
  your
• 21:25
  health
• 21:25
  doesn't
• 21:26
  take
• 21:26
  a
• 21:26
  backseat
• 21:27
  to
• 21:27
  what
• 21:28
  your,
• 21:29
  what,
• 21:29
  what
• 21:29
  you
• 21:29
  deem
• 21:30
  as
• 21:30
  more
• 21:30
  important.
• 21:32
  And
• 21:32
  then
• 21:32
  the
• 21:32
  third
• 21:32
  thing
• 21:32
  you're
• 21:32
  gonna
• 21:33
  do
• 21:33
  is
• 21:33
  you're
• 21:33
  gonna
• 21:33
  get
• 21:33
  in
• 21:33
  community
• 21:34
  with
• 21:34
  women
• 21:34
  who
• 21:35
  won't
• 21:35
  let
• 21:35
  you
• 21:35
  quit.
• 21:37
  See,
• 21:37
  shame
• 21:37
  grows
• 21:38
  in
• 21:38
  isolation,
• 21:39
  but
• 21:39
  freedom
• 21:39
  grows
• 21:40
  in
• 21:40
  sisterhood.
• 21:41
  And
• 21:41
  I'm
• 21:41
  inviting
• 21:42
  you
• 21:42
  right
• 21:42
  now
• 21:43
  into
• 21:43
  my
• 21:44
  telegram
• 21:44
  channel.
• 21:45
  It's
• 21:45
  the
• 21:45
  Wilderness
• 21:45
  Cafe
• 21:46
  where
• 21:47
  I
• 21:47
  talk
• 21:47
  in,
• 21:48
  in
• 21:48
  there
• 21:49
  daily
• 21:49
  or
• 21:50
  every
• 21:50
  other
• 21:50
  day
• 21:51
  about
• 21:51
  this
• 21:51
  stuff
• 21:52
  in
• 21:52
  real
• 21:52
  time.
• 21:53
  This
• 21:53
  is
• 21:53
  where
• 21:54
  you
• 21:54
  can
• 21:54
  share
• 21:55
  wins,
• 21:55
  where
• 21:55
  you.
• 21:56
  Ch
• 21:56
  um,
• 21:57
  get
• 21:57
  challenged.
• 21:57
  This
• 21:58
  is
• 21:58
  where
• 21:58
  you
• 21:58
  can
• 21:58
  start
• 21:58
  taking
• 21:59
  action.
• 21:59
  And
• 22:00
  when
• 22:00
  you're
• 22:00
  ready
• 22:00
  to
• 22:00
  go
• 22:01
  all
• 22:01
  in
• 22:01
  to
• 22:01
  get
• 22:02
  access
• 22:02
  to
• 22:02
  the
• 22:02
  roadmap,
• 22:03
  to
• 22:03
  health,
• 22:03
  to
• 22:03
  start
• 22:03
  your
• 22:04
  healing
• 22:04
  of
• 22:04
  your
• 22:04
  metabolism,
• 22:05
  your
• 22:05
  hormones,
• 22:05
  your
• 22:06
  marriage,
• 22:06
  your
• 22:06
  mind,
• 22:07
  then
• 22:07
  you
• 22:07
  can
• 22:07
  join
• 22:08
  us
• 22:08
  in
• 22:08
  the
• 22:08
  wilderness
• 22:08
  of
• 22:08
  wellness,
• 22:09
  the
• 22:09
  adventurer
• 22:10
  to,
• 22:10
  it's
• 22:10
  everything
• 22:11
  you
• 22:11
  never
• 22:12
  got
• 22:12
  from
• 22:12
  your
• 22:12
  doctor,
• 22:13
  your
• 22:13
  church,
• 22:13
  or
• 22:13
  from
• 22:13
  yourself.
• 22:15
  And
• 22:16
  I
• 22:16
  know
• 22:17
  personally
• 22:17
  what
• 22:18
  it's
• 22:18
  like
• 22:18
  to
• 22:18
  cry
• 22:18
  in
• 22:19
  the
• 22:19
  shower,
• 22:20
  to
• 22:20
  fake
• 22:20
  the
• 22:20
  confidence,
• 22:22
  to
• 22:22
  hate
• 22:22
  the
• 22:22
  way
• 22:22
  my
• 22:23
  jeans
• 22:23
  fit
• 22:24
  or
• 22:24
  my
• 22:24
  bra.
• 22:25
  And
• 22:25
  the
• 22:25
  way
• 22:26
  my
• 22:26
  husband
• 22:26
  looks
• 22:26
  at
• 22:27
  me,
• 22:28
  because
• 22:28
  deep
• 22:28
  down,
• 22:29
  I
• 22:29
  never
• 22:30
  felt
• 22:30
  worthy
• 22:30
  of
• 22:31
  it.
• 22:32
  But
• 22:32
  I
• 22:32
  need
• 22:32
  you
• 22:32
  to
• 22:32
  hear
• 22:33
  me.
• 22:34
  I
• 22:34
  need
• 22:34
  you
• 22:34
  to
• 22:35
  hear
• 22:35
  me.
• 22:36
  You're
• 22:36
  not
• 22:36
  gross,
• 22:38
  you're
• 22:38
  not
• 22:38
  broken.
• 22:40
  You're
• 22:40
  not
• 22:40
  too
• 22:40
  far
• 22:40
  gone,
• 22:43
  and
• 22:43
  you're
• 22:43
  not
• 22:43
  alone.
• 22:45
  God
• 22:45
  does
• 22:45
  not
• 22:46
  want
• 22:46
  you
• 22:46
  numbing
• 22:47
  out
• 22:47
  with
• 22:47
  Netflix
• 22:48
  stuck
• 22:48
  in
• 22:49
  the
• 22:49
  shame
• 22:49
  spiral
• 22:50
  or
• 22:50
  avoiding
• 22:50
  the
• 22:51
  man
• 22:51
  that
• 22:51
  he
• 22:51
  gave
• 22:52
  you.
• 22:53
  To
• 22:53
  love
• 22:53
  and
• 22:54
  to
• 22:54
  be
• 22:54
  loved.
• 22:56
  He
• 22:56
  wants
• 22:56
  wholeness
• 22:57
  for
• 22:57
  you.
• 22:59
  And
• 22:59
  you
• 22:59
  can
• 22:59
  start
• 22:59
  today.
• 23:00
  So
• 23:00
  step
• 23:01
  one,
• 23:01
  you
• 23:01
  can
• 23:01
  simply
• 23:02
  go
• 23:02
  to
• 23:02
  Instagram
• 23:02
  and
• 23:03
  dm
• 23:03
  me
• 23:03
  the
• 23:03
  word
• 23:04
  cafe,
• 23:04
  and
• 23:04
  I'm
• 23:04
  gonna
• 23:04
  send
• 23:05
  you
• 23:05
  the
• 23:05
  link
• 23:05
  to
• 23:05
  join
• 23:05
  my
• 23:05
  telegram
• 23:06
  group.
• 23:07
  Um,
• 23:07
  step
• 23:07
  two,
• 23:08
  you
• 23:08
  can
• 23:08
  head
• 23:08
  to
• 23:09
  substack,
• 23:09
  it's
• 23:10
  down
• 23:10
  below
• 23:10
  in
• 23:10
  the
• 23:10
  show
• 23:10
  notes.
• 23:11
  I'm
• 23:11
  going
• 23:12
  to
• 23:12
  go
• 23:12
  deeper
• 23:12
  on
• 23:13
  this
• 23:13
  actual
• 23:13
  episode
• 23:14
  in
• 23:14
  writing.
• 23:15
  So
• 23:15
  we're
• 23:15
  gonna
• 23:15
  take
• 23:16
  this
• 23:16
  conversation
• 23:17
  and
• 23:17
  go
• 23:17
  even
• 23:17
  deeper.
• 23:18
  Um,
• 23:19
  we're
• 23:19
  not.
• 23:19
  Done
• 23:20
  with
• 23:20
  this
• 23:20
  conversation.
• 23:21
  This
• 23:21
  is
• 23:21
  just
• 23:22
  the
• 23:22
  beginning.
• 23:23
  And
• 23:23
  then
• 23:23
  step
• 23:23
  three,
• 23:24
  if
• 23:24
  you're
• 23:24
  ready
• 23:24
  to
• 23:24
  do
• 23:25
  the
• 23:25
  work,
• 23:25
  get
• 23:26
  access
• 23:26
  to
• 23:26
  my
• 23:26
  roadmap,
• 23:27
  to
• 23:27
  health,
• 23:27
  my
• 23:27
  coaching,
• 23:28
  accountability,
• 23:28
  food
• 23:29
  strategies,
• 23:29
  spiritual
• 23:29
  support,
• 23:30
  and
• 23:30
  community.
• 23:31
  That's
• 23:31
  when
• 23:31
  you
• 23:31
  need
• 23:31
  to
• 23:32
  join
• 23:32
  the
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  adventure
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  to
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  inside
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  the
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  Wilderness
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  of
• 23:34
  wellness.
• 23:34
  Today,
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  all
• 23:35
  the
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  links
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  are
• 23:36
  in
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  the
• 23:36
  show
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  notes.
• 23:37
  You
• 23:37
  are
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  seen,
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  you
• 23:38
  are
• 23:38
  safe,
• 23:39
  you
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  are
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  not
• 23:40
  stuck.
• 23:41
  This
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  is
• 23:41
  Dr.
• 23:41
  Danielle
• 23:42
  and
• 23:42
  I
• 23:42
  am
• 23:42
  here
• 23:43
  with
• 23:43
  you
• 23:43
  in
• 23:43
  the
• 23:43
  wilderness.
• 23:46
  Thanks
• 23:46
  for
• 23:46
  listening
• 23:47
  to
• 23:47
  The
• 23:47
  Crying
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  in
• 23:47
  My
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  Cheesecake
• 23:48
  podcast.
• 23:48
  I
• 23:48
  hope
• 23:49
  it
• 23:49
  encouraged
• 23:49
  you
• 23:49
  to
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  make
• 23:49
  a
• 23:49
  next
• 23:50
  best
• 23:50
  step
• 23:50
  for
• 23:50
  your
• 23:50
  health.
• 23:51
  Take
• 23:51
  a
• 23:51
  look
• 23:51
  at
• 23:51
  the
• 23:51
  show
• 23:51
  notes
• 23:52
  for
• 23:52
  more
• 23:52
  information
• 23:53
  or
• 23:53
  other
• 23:53
  links
• 23:53
  I
• 23:53
  mentioned
• 23:54
  in
• 23:54
  the
• 23:54
  episode.
• 23:55
  And
• 23:55
  if
• 23:55
  you
• 23:55
  got
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  to
• 23:55
  this
• 23:55
  point
• 23:55
  in
• 23:55
  the
• 23:55
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  find
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  D-O-C-T-O-R
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  Danielle,
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  D-A-N-I-E-L-L-E,
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  the
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  doctor,
• 24:06
  and
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  tell
• 24:06
  me
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  you
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  listen
• 24:07
  to
• 24:07
  this
• 24:07
  episode
• 24:07
  and
• 24:08
  what
• 24:08
  you
• 24:08
  got
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  out
• 24:08
  of
• 24:08
  it.