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Season 2 - Episode 111 - Dealing with jealous people · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim. Every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places her chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the chicken coop.
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  Ooh, so today I want to talk to you about jealous people and how
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  they try so hard to tear you down.
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  You know, this has real repercussions.
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  And if you don't pay attention to it, it can eat you up and it
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  can make you absolutely miserable because you don't
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  understand why people are being mean to you.
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  But when people are jealous, they are desperate to do
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  anything to make themselves feel better consciously or
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  unconsciously. I Dad but they will say and do
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  things to bring you to their level.
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  So it's very hard for someone to watch someone else be successful
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  or be good or be effective because they are not and there
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  they didn't maybe, you know, get the job, get the part, get the
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  role, get the guy or the girl or whatever, but they will do
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  things because of their need to bring someone down.
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  They don't want to participate in.
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  Just being neutral or saying hey I can be happy for you instead.
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  This is a well I'm going to make you feel bad about who you are
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  because I'm currently pissed off at the fact that I don't have
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  what you have. Now is this always a conscious
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  thought with people. No it's not but MN often.
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  If there is some sort of level of jealousy that's going on and
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  that's the emotion, that's driving their bus.
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  So they end up being nasty and they say things and do things
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  that affect us. In fact, us get in our head and
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  cause us to act different than we would differently than we
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  would because we're being affected by their emotion and
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  it's a very complicated situation and it's very
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  unnerving. Yes, Amelia walks up right in
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  the middle of it and has her opinion.
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  It's unnerving, huh? Amelia, it's not a good thing,
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  is it? So it's, it's one of those
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  things where you have to make a decision about allowing yourself
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  to not put yourself. Elf into a space where you let
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  them get to you. You know it is a conscious
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  thought. It is something that you have to
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  say. I choose to not participate in
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  this pattern that this person is offering to me because that's
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  effectively what happens. Someone will offer something up
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  and if you participate in it, then it's a problem.
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  You're effectively inviting this in because ultimately we always
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  have control and whether Want to admit it or not, we have control
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  care. What anyone tells you we have
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  control because we don't have to accept it.
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  I've had many times in my life, where I've been very happy about
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  an outcome that I've achieved in.
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  Someone has made a wiseass, comment or said something rude
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  to me, and ultimately, that made me feel really bad.
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  And it was, was it my fault for accepting, the comment,
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  absolutely 1000%. Was it something that I I should
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  have been able to ditch well I didn't know any better at the
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  time so you know you do the best you can with what you have but
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  now I know if someone says something and they're rude I
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  just look at it. And I say, well what's the
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  source? Where is this coming from?
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  Who is this person? Who's saying it would?
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  I want their life would I want? The way they?
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  They are to be my way. No, I wouldn't.
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  So we have to remember making the higher level choices making
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  better choices for ourselves revolves around us.
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  Being able to recognize, we don't want what they're offering
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  and we don't have to accept it, but we can't stop it until we
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  recognize it. So, when you're confronted with
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  this, the very first thing you have to recognize is this person
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  is doing this because this is something they're being mean to
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  me. They're saying something rude to
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  me because they're trying to bring me back to their level and
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  I'm not talking about some of that.
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  You ask advice to and say, hey, can you help me out?
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  Do you think this is working? Not working, do you.
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  You think you know I'm not talking about things that you
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  open the door for I'm talking about things that are random
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  acts of people giving you information or coming up to you
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  and saying things to you. And if they're not people that
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  you love and Trust then you really have to stop yourself and
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  say this is unacceptable and it's not unacceptable that
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  they're saying it to me. It's not their job to decide.
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  You know if you're going to accept it or not it's your job
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  to decide if you're going to accept it or not.
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  So you got to stop and put your foot down and say I Except this
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  for myself, not them screw them. You don't have to pay attention
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  to them, screw it. It's not your job.
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  It's between you the universe God and nobody else.
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  So you don't have to invite it in and you need to put them in
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  their place by not entertaining. It you just have to look at
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  them. You don't even have to have a
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  response. Thanks for sharing.
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  That's it. The dr.
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  Wayne Dyer. Best response ever.
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  Thanks for sharing and you don't have to say anything else.
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  So hopefully this is helpful to you.
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  Hopefully, you find something in this that you can walk away with
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  and No, remember if they're not someone that you would want to
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  be think act like want their life, take advice from then you
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  have to remember I don't have to take this.
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  I don't have to keep it. All right, my friends.
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  I hope you have a very blessed day and I will see you tomorrow.
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  Bye.