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When Joy Starts Feeling Like Work · UNMASKED with Wesley Farnsworth

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  And instead of resting, instead of joy, we hover over it.
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  Performance is exhausting, even when it's positive.
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  Especially when it's positive because you never get to exhale.
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  You're always maintaining it, always checking whether it's
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  still convincing. And eventually the joy starts to
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  feel like work. And that's when you find out
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  what the quiet cost is. See, this self monitoring does
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  something to us. We stop trusting our own
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  emotional signals. We begin filtering feelings
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  automatically, without even noticing that we're doing it.
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  Is it still worth sharing? Is this impressive enough?
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  Does this say something good about me?
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  And when joy doesn't pass that test, we dismiss it.
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  We overlook contentment because it's too ordinary.
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  We ignore peace because it's not exciting.
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  We chase. We chase intensity because it
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  photographs better. Slowly, we forget what joy
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  actually looks like in our bodies and what it feels like.