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Your SOUL has a UNIQUE ESSENCE they don't want you to SEE. · Soul Salon with Ayandastood

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  Who do you compare yourself to most often?
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  And have you considered that this person,
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  seemingly so perfect from the outside, also feels deficient, feels unworthy,
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  in some way, in some area of their life?
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  social comparison is a deep pain and a wound it can feel deeply isolating and deeply shameful
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  especially when you want to be happy and joyful and feel the joy in your bones at other people
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  thriving succeeding winning especially when you want to believe there's room for all of us and
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  you want to have an abundance mindset and yet you are conditioned on scarcity you are conditioned
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  to believe it's either her or me it's either them or me it's either him or me you are conditioned
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  to believe that someone succeeding at something or receiving accolades attention applause
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  is a testament to what you're not getting their presence of publishing their work consistently
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  or being engaged or whatever you compare yourself to,
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  that that is an absence within you.
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  Their win is your loss.
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  This is the zero-sum game that capitalism and supremacy
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  and all this culture of hierarchy,
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  who's at the top of this hierarchy,
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  who's the most desired in this hierarchy,
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  desirability, desirability in many respects.
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  So this is a deep pain and wound that we carry.
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  and what I like to say is comparison is not the thief of joy because saying that telling people
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  just stay in your lane stay focused you're on your own path while I understand that this can
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  be coming from such a loving place people are trying to support you people are trying to stop
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  you from allowing other people's events of their unfolding to remove you from staying present to
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  your own people are trying to support you and staying focused on your own path I think the
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  tragedy here is the reality is we're not on our own path.
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  We do not walk the path of human life
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  on our own.
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  And if we look back to ancient times, if you told a tribe, you know, five, six hundred,
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  seven hundred years ago, you know what, you, you're on your own path.
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  They'd be like, excuse me, what?
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  My survival, my culture, my whole practice of living depends on these people around me.
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  And many of us still feel that today.
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  I feel that way with my family, a togetherness, a belonging.
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  and I know that my path is very tied to my family's path and yet also we need a balance.
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  I'm also an individual so it's both.
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  I'm a part of a collective and I'm also an individual.
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  So anyways, what I dislike about the advice to focus on your own path is it can make you feel
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  ashamed when you just can't.
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  When you see someone's video and it's popping off and you're like,
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  why are they getting the attention that I am not?
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  When you feel like someone who you've maybe
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  compared yourself to for years, everything that they win or succeed at is just a commentary
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  on how you are just not good enough.
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  And that's what this voice tells you.
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  Now,
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  I want to affirm you are more than enough.
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  You are incomparable.
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  And actually, the essence of
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  the soul of your soul that part of you is beyond comparison because it's interesting what we
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  compare ourselves to others about we don't compare ourselves to others based on how loving that
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  person is we don't compare ourselves to others based on how generous how kind how devoted
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  we tend to and this is by and large of course there are definitely deviations but we tend
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  to compare ourselves to other people through the lens,
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  the very damaging and damaged lens of the social value system
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  that we have been conditioned into since we were born.
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  We compare ourselves to others based on success defined by the society we were given,
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  receiving accolades, money, attention, institutions,
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  proving that someone is worthy degrees qualifications now these things can be so
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  magical to celebrate but all i'm trying to say is there is a deeper reality of feeling
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  of the spirit that we don't often compare ourselves according to feeling chosen by a
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  romantic partner a milestone of marriage that's something society teaches us is important
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  you could have the most incredible friendship in your life
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  and society is not really going to give you the permission
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  to be let off the hook of not feeling good enough
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  for not having a romantic partner.
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  You could experience such deep fulfillment making your art
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  but society is going to point to the people who are getting record deals
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  or with these more obvious and industry-backed markers of success.
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  so what is something about you that is just incomparable
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  I'm going to give you an example I love deeply listening to people
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  and I love to allow someone to feel truly heard in my presence now I often fail at that I often
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  fall short of that intention that value that principle but it is something that I believe
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  is incomparable about me it doesn't mean that I'm the best listener no I'm saying it's actually
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  incomparable it's so essential like of the essence it's something deeper that you wouldn't even say
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  oh they're a kind of good listener and they're an incredible it just doesn't it sort of does
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  a disservice to the whole concept you could be someone who is so generous like you just give
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  of your spirit of your time of your energy of your essence that is incomparable it would be
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  so reductive to say oh but they are more generous than you wait what does that even mean we give
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  from our own gifts of our own spirit what is incomparable about you maybe you are so present
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  like when you experience beauty a sunset a mountain range a horizon just the face of the
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  person looking at you you could feel like wow i'm so present and the cosmos thanks you for that
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  because i have this theory that the trees the mountains the buildings even are feeling so
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  neglected because we're not attending in the same way we're capturing but we're not always fully
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  attending to reality as reality keeps giving to us trying to give us beauty give us a moment of
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  pause give us a breath of fresh air are we attending to her less and less because of big tech
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  and how we've been conditioned to desire a form of dopamine that goes against the slowness of nature
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  So I want to invite you to reflect on what is incomparable about you and place it in the comments.
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  Something so magical about you that goes beyond what society could ever have taught you or conditioned you to try and place against or above or below anyone.
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  these are gifts of your spirit and it is so deeply important to nourish them to value them and to see
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  them with the importance that they deserve that when you put these gifts of your spirit at the
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  center you start to find something that feels more like home you start to feel like you are
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  in a deeper relationship and intimacy with your gifts, with your magic, with the abundance of
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  your soul.
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  I'm sending so much love to you.
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  I hope that this has served your deepest consciousness.
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  If you are seeking a heart-led, soul-led, creative community of artists, makers, visionaries,
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  change makers, I'd love to invite you to join Soulcraft.
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  This is where someday becomes Tuesday,
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  where you finally receive the accountability, support, and witnessing to help turn your
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  creative vision, starting a podcast, growing your YouTube channel, writing a book, birthing a
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  movement, launching your website, sharing your voice with the world, being seen.
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  This is where
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  we take courageous action on our dreams together.
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  And I would love to see you there.
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  Otherwise,
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  I'm sending so much love to you.
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  I hope to see you on the next soul session.
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  Be sure to check out some of the links below.
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  I'm sending all my love and all my light.
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  Remember that you are incomparable,
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  that you are a gift in your being and in your essence,
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  and that society didn't give you arms wide enough
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  to carry how magnificent you truly are.
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  I'm sending so much love to you
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  and I will see you on the next soul session.
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  I love you.
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  Bye.
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  My darling, my love, my soul sibling,
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  thank you for stepping into the soul salon if you are still hearing or watching this we are soul
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  siblings we are resonating on the same frequency and so something you may struggle with that i
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  struggle with is the fear of being seen you know that visibility is involved in you living your
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  creative purpose and being in your power serving the collective through your gifts through your
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  magic through your medicine in order to do that you know you need to be more seen than you are
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  allowing yourself to be right now.
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  I have a gift just for you, heart made for us on this frequency.
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  And it is a free ebook called the soulful visibility guide that is soulful visibility.
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  Like we don't just want to be seen.
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  We want to be felt.
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  We want to be heard.
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  We want to move and be
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  moved.
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  So I do have a free gift for you.
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  And all you need to do is go to my website.
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  I understood
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  should.com and there you will be able to input your email address and receive this directly to
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  your inbox this is such a juicy and delicious guide and i change the free offering every few
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  months so you know get it while you can all the links are in the show notes so thank you so much
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  i love you and i will see you on the next soul session okay i love you bye