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- 0:37Have
- 0:37you
- 0:38ever
- 0:38said
- 0:38yes
- 0:38to
- 0:39give
- 0:40and
- 0:40felt
- 0:41peace
- 0:41in
- 0:41the
- 0:41moment,
- 0:42but
- 0:43pressure
- 0:43later?
- 0:45You
- 0:45want
- 0:45to
- 0:46support
- 0:46the
- 0:46mission.
- 0:47You
- 0:47believe
- 0:48in
- 0:48the
- 0:48work.
- 0:49You
- 0:49love
- 0:49your
- 0:50church.
- 0:52But
- 0:52after
- 0:52a
- 0:52while,
- 0:53you
- 0:54just
- 0:54feel
- 0:54stretched
- 0:55thin.
- 0:56You
- 0:56feel
- 0:57quietly
- 0:57stressed,
- 0:59maybe
- 0:59even
- 1:00resentful.
- 1:02And
- 1:03that's
- 1:03not
- 1:03the
- 1:03heart
- 1:03you
- 1:03want,
- 1:04is
- 1:04it,
- 1:06friend?
- 1:06Generosity
- 1:07should
- 1:07feel
- 1:07joyful,
- 1:08always
- 1:09not
- 1:10draining.
- 1:12So
- 1:12today
- 1:12on
- 1:12the
- 1:12show,
- 1:12we're
- 1:13going
- 1:13to
- 1:13talk
- 1:13about
- 1:13how
- 1:13to
- 1:13give
- 1:14faithfully
- 1:15without
- 1:15compromising
- 1:16your
- 1:17own
- 1:17financial
- 1:17stability.
- 1:40Hello,
- 1:40friend.
- 1:41Ralph
- 1:41Estep
- 1:42Jr.
- 1:42Here.
- 1:43This
- 1:43is
- 1:43Financially
- 1:44Confident
- 1:44Christian,
- 1:45where
- 1:46we
- 1:46break
- 1:46the
- 1:46cycle
- 1:47of
- 1:47financial
- 1:47shame
- 1:48and
- 1:48live
- 1:49in
- 1:49confidence.
- 1:50And
- 1:51on
- 1:51today's
- 1:51show,
- 1:51I
- 1:52want
- 1:52to
- 1:52talk
- 1:52about
- 1:52setting
- 1:53healthy
- 1:53financial
- 1:54boundaries
- 1:55while
- 1:55still
- 1:55being
- 1:56generous.
- 1:57Yeah,
- 1:57because
- 1:58I
- 1:58think
- 1:58generosity
- 1:59is
- 1:59a
- 1:59good
- 1:59thing.
- 2:00Let's
- 2:01get
- 2:01right
- 2:01into
- 2:01today's
- 2:01listener
- 2:02question.
- 2:03Listener
- 2:03writes
- 2:04this.
- 2:04Ralph,
- 2:06I
- 2:06keep
- 2:06saying
- 2:06yes
- 2:07every
- 2:07time
- 2:07the
- 2:07church
- 2:08asks
- 2:08for
- 2:08something,
- 2:10and
- 2:10I
- 2:10feel
- 2:10stretched
- 2:11thin
- 2:11and
- 2:11quietly
- 2:12resentful.
- 2:13I
- 2:14don't
- 2:14want
- 2:14my
- 2:14heart
- 2:14to
- 2:14grow
- 2:15hard
- 2:15or
- 2:15cynical.
- 2:17I
- 2:17genuinely
- 2:18want
- 2:18to
- 2:18give
- 2:18with
- 2:18joy,
- 2:19not
- 2:19out
- 2:19of
- 2:19obligation.
- 2:21But
- 2:21at
- 2:21the
- 2:21same
- 2:22time,
- 2:22I
- 2:22know
- 2:23my
- 2:23finances
- 2:23have
- 2:24limits.
- 2:25How
- 2:26do
- 2:26I
- 2:26set
- 2:26boundaries
- 2:27that
- 2:27are
- 2:27loving,
- 2:28generous,
- 2:29and
- 2:30still
- 2:30financially
- 2:31wise?
- 2:33Honestly,
- 2:34I
- 2:34think
- 2:34you've
- 2:34already
- 2:34answered
- 2:35your
- 2:35own
- 2:35question.
- 2:36Boundaries.
- 2:38Loving
- 2:39generous
- 2:41and
- 2:41wise.
- 2:43Because
- 2:43sustainable
- 2:44generosity
- 2:45requires
- 2:46intentional
- 2:47limits
- 2:47from
- 2:48the
- 2:48front
- 2:48end.
- 2:50How
- 2:50do
- 2:50you
- 2:50do
- 2:50that?
- 2:52Well,
- 2:52here's
- 2:52what
- 2:52you've
- 2:53got
- 2:53to
- 2:53do.
- 2:53Number
- 2:53one
- 2:53thing
- 2:54you've
- 2:54got
- 2:54to
- 2:54do
- 2:54is
- 2:55you've
- 2:55got
- 2:55to
- 2:55decide
- 2:56your
- 2:56giving
- 2:56plan
- 2:57by
- 2:57before
- 2:58the
- 2:58next
- 2:59ask.
- 3:01Generosity
- 3:02without
- 3:02a
- 3:03plan
- 3:04just
- 3:04turns
- 3:04into
- 3:04reaction.
- 3:06You're
- 3:06always
- 3:07reacting
- 3:07if
- 3:07you
- 3:07don't
- 3:08have
- 3:08a
- 3:08plan,
- 3:10instead
- 3:10maybe
- 3:10choose
- 3:11a
- 3:11percentage.
- 3:12Here's
- 3:12what
- 3:13I
- 3:13feel
- 3:13comfortable
- 3:13giving.
- 3:14Or
- 3:14maybe
- 3:14a
- 3:14fixed
- 3:15monthly
- 3:16amount.
- 3:17Because
- 3:18when
- 3:18you
- 3:18pre
- 3:18decide
- 3:19those
- 3:19things,
- 3:20you
- 3:21remove
- 3:21that
- 3:21pressure
- 3:22from
- 3:22the
- 3:22moment
- 3:23and
- 3:23you're
- 3:23going
- 3:23to
- 3:23feel
- 3:23that
- 3:24moment.
- 3:26And
- 3:26when
- 3:26you
- 3:27feel
- 3:27that
- 3:27when
- 3:28you
- 3:28have
- 3:28that
- 3:28plan,
- 3:29you're
- 3:29not
- 3:29rejecting
- 3:30the
- 3:30need,
- 3:31you're
- 3:31just
- 3:31honoring
- 3:32your
- 3:32plan.
- 3:35And
- 3:35another
- 3:35way
- 3:35you
- 3:36can
- 3:36do
- 3:36that
- 3:36is
- 3:36separate
- 3:37regular
- 3:37giving
- 3:37from
- 3:38special
- 3:38requests.
- 3:40I
- 3:40really
- 3:40believe
- 3:41all
- 3:41of
- 3:41us
- 3:41cheerful
- 3:42givers
- 3:42should
- 3:42have
- 3:42two
- 3:43categories.
- 3:44I
- 3:44think
- 3:45biblical.
- 3:45There
- 3:46is
- 3:46a
- 3:46call
- 3:46for
- 3:46ongoing
- 3:47giving.
- 3:48Tithing.
- 3:49A
- 3:49lot
- 3:49of
- 3:49people
- 3:49don't
- 3:50know
- 3:50what
- 3:50that
- 3:50means,
- 3:50but
- 3:50tithing,
- 3:51it's
- 3:51in
- 3:51the
- 3:51Bible.
- 3:52But
- 3:53I
- 3:53also
- 3:53know
- 3:53that
- 3:53there
- 3:54are
- 3:54special
- 3:54opportunities,
- 3:56and
- 3:56I
- 3:56think
- 3:56you've
- 3:57really
- 3:57got
- 3:57to
- 3:57look
- 3:57at
- 3:57these
- 3:57two
- 3:58things
- 3:58differently.
- 4:00So
- 4:00if
- 4:00a
- 4:00special
- 4:01request
- 4:01comes
- 4:01up,
- 4:03you
- 4:03evaluate
- 4:03it
- 4:04within
- 4:04your
- 4:04remaining
- 4:04margin,
- 4:05not
- 4:06from
- 4:06a
- 4:06place
- 4:06of
- 4:06guilt.
- 4:08And
- 4:08if
- 4:08the
- 4:09margin
- 4:09just
- 4:09isn't
- 4:10there
- 4:10right
- 4:10now,
- 4:11you
- 4:11can
- 4:12say,
- 4:12listen,
- 4:12I've
- 4:13already
- 4:13allocated
- 4:13our
- 4:14giving
- 4:14this
- 4:14month.
- 4:15I
- 4:15just
- 4:16can't
- 4:16do
- 4:16it.
- 4:18That's
- 4:18just
- 4:18being
- 4:18clear
- 4:19with
- 4:19your
- 4:19rules
- 4:21and
- 4:21being
- 4:21clear
- 4:22and
- 4:22not
- 4:22being
- 4:23cold.
- 4:25Because
- 4:25you've
- 4:25also
- 4:25got
- 4:26to
- 4:26align
- 4:27generosity
- 4:27with
- 4:28stability.
- 4:30A
- 4:30lot
- 4:31of
- 4:31pastors
- 4:31might
- 4:31get
- 4:31angry
- 4:32at
- 4:32what
- 4:32I'm
- 4:32getting
- 4:32ready
- 4:32to
- 4:33say.
- 4:34Giving
- 4:34should
- 4:35never
- 4:35destabilize
- 4:36your
- 4:36essentials.
- 4:39If
- 4:39rent,
- 4:40utilities,
- 4:41minimum
- 4:42payments
- 4:42on
- 4:43debt
- 4:44or
- 4:44basic
- 4:45savings
- 4:45are
- 4:45suffering,
- 4:47then
- 4:47your
- 4:47plan
- 4:48needs
- 4:48adjusting,
- 4:48my
- 4:49friend.
- 4:51You
- 4:52can't
- 4:52destabilize
- 4:53your
- 4:53own
- 4:53household.
- 4:54That's
- 4:54not
- 4:54sustainable.
- 4:57Because
- 4:57what
- 4:57I
- 4:57found
- 4:57in
- 4:58my
- 4:58own
- 4:58life
- 4:58is
- 4:58God
- 4:59honors
- 4:59wisdom
- 5:00as
- 5:00much
- 5:01as
- 5:01he
- 5:01honors
- 5:02sacrifice.
- 5:02Now,
- 5:03I'm
- 5:03going
- 5:03to
- 5:03say
- 5:03something
- 5:03here.
- 5:04I'm
- 5:04not
- 5:04saying
- 5:05that
- 5:05you
- 5:05shouldn't
- 5:05sacrifice.
- 5:07I
- 5:07think
- 5:07there's
- 5:07a
- 5:07place
- 5:08for
- 5:08that.
- 5:09But
- 5:09there's
- 5:09also
- 5:10a
- 5:10place
- 5:10of
- 5:10wisdom.
- 5:11Knowing
- 5:11that
- 5:11you've
- 5:12got
- 5:12a
- 5:12family
- 5:12to
- 5:12take
- 5:13care
- 5:13of,
- 5:13you've
- 5:14got
- 5:14to
- 5:14keep
- 5:14rent
- 5:15or
- 5:15utilities
- 5:15or
- 5:16those
- 5:16debt
- 5:16payments.
- 5:18God's
- 5:18going
- 5:18to
- 5:18honor
- 5:19that
- 5:19wisdom.
- 5:21But
- 5:21I
- 5:21think
- 5:21as
- 5:21you're
- 5:22building
- 5:22a
- 5:22budget,
- 5:23as
- 5:23you're
- 5:23being
- 5:23intentional,
- 5:24you
- 5:24can
- 5:24allow
- 5:25room
- 5:25for
- 5:25joyful
- 5:26spontaneity.
- 5:27I
- 5:28think
- 5:28that's
- 5:28one
- 5:28of
- 5:28the
- 5:28cool
- 5:29things
- 5:29about
- 5:29generosity.
- 5:31Even
- 5:31when
- 5:31you
- 5:32build
- 5:32those
- 5:32boundaries,
- 5:33it
- 5:33doesn't
- 5:33eliminate
- 5:34flexibility.
- 5:36I
- 5:36truly
- 5:36believe
- 5:36you
- 5:36are
- 5:37going
- 5:37to
- 5:37have
- 5:37a
- 5:37calling
- 5:37on
- 5:38your
- 5:38life
- 5:38sometimes.
- 5:38And
- 5:39if
- 5:39God
- 5:39prompts
- 5:40you,
- 5:41maybe
- 5:41you're
- 5:42in
- 5:42church,
- 5:42you
- 5:42hear
- 5:43missionaries
- 5:43speak,
- 5:43or
- 5:44you
- 5:44feel
- 5:44compelled
- 5:45and
- 5:45you've
- 5:45got
- 5:45that
- 5:46margin.
- 5:47You
- 5:47can
- 5:47respond
- 5:47freely.
- 5:49But
- 5:50remember,
- 5:50spontaneous
- 5:51generosity
- 5:52needs
- 5:53to
- 5:53come
- 5:53from
- 5:53surplus,
- 5:54not
- 5:55added
- 5:55strain.
- 5:58So
- 5:58protect
- 5:59your
- 5:59heart
- 5:59from
- 5:59resentment
- 6:00at
- 6:00the
- 6:00front
- 6:00end.
- 6:02If
- 6:02you're
- 6:02feeling
- 6:02resentful,
- 6:04it's
- 6:04often
- 6:04a
- 6:05signal
- 6:05that
- 6:05you
- 6:05gave
- 6:06beyond
- 6:06that
- 6:06peace
- 6:06quotient.
- 6:07You
- 6:07went
- 6:08beyond
- 6:08that.
- 6:09But
- 6:10when
- 6:10you
- 6:10give
- 6:10within
- 6:11your
- 6:11plan,
- 6:12your
- 6:12heart
- 6:12stays
- 6:13soft
- 6:14and
- 6:15that
- 6:15joy
- 6:15remains
- 6:16intact.
- 6:18And
- 6:18that
- 6:18right
- 6:19there
- 6:19is
- 6:19sustainable
- 6:20generosity.
- 6:23So
- 6:23here's
- 6:23my
- 6:23encouragement
- 6:24for
- 6:24you.
- 6:25Planned
- 6:26generosity
- 6:27preserves
- 6:28joyful
- 6:28hearts.
- 6:28And
- 6:29that's
- 6:29what
- 6:29the
- 6:29Lord
- 6:29says
- 6:30it
- 6:30I
- 6:30want
- 6:30a
- 6:31cheerful
- 6:31heart
- 6:32giver.
- 6:34So
- 6:34here's
- 6:34your
- 6:34win,
- 6:35your
- 6:35big
- 6:35takeaway
- 6:35for
- 6:36today.
- 6:37I
- 6:37want
- 6:37to
- 6:37encourage
- 6:37you
- 6:37to
- 6:38write
- 6:38your
- 6:38monthly
- 6:38giving
- 6:39boundary
- 6:41percentage
- 6:41or
- 6:42maybe
- 6:42a
- 6:42fixed
- 6:42dollar
- 6:43amount.
- 6:43Put
- 6:43it
- 6:43in
- 6:43writing
- 6:45and
- 6:45recognize
- 6:46that
- 6:46that's
- 6:47your
- 6:47guardrail
- 6:47in
- 6:48your
- 6:48life.
- 6:50Let's
- 6:50get
- 6:50right
- 6:50into
- 6:50the
- 6:50scripture.
- 6:51Today
- 6:51we're
- 6:51going
- 6:52to
- 6:52go
- 6:52to
- 6:52the
- 6:52Book
- 6:52of
- 6:52Acts,
- 6:53chapter
- 6:5411,
- 6:54verse
- 6:5529.
- 6:56It
- 6:57says
- 6:57the
- 6:57disciples,
- 6:58as
- 6:59each
- 6:59one
- 6:59was
- 7:00able,
- 7:01decided
- 7:01to
- 7:02provide
- 7:02help
- 7:02for
- 7:02the
- 7:02brothers
- 7:03and
- 7:03sisters
- 7:04living
- 7:04in
- 7:04Judea.
- 7:06That's
- 7:07really
- 7:07what
- 7:07we're
- 7:07talking
- 7:07about
- 7:08here.
- 7:10But
- 7:10if
- 7:10you
- 7:10think
- 7:10about
- 7:11what
- 7:11it's
- 7:11saying
- 7:11here,
- 7:12as
- 7:12each
- 7:12one
- 7:13was
- 7:13able,
- 7:15Scripture
- 7:16shows
- 7:17generosity
- 7:17flowing
- 7:18from
- 7:18ability
- 7:19as
- 7:20they
- 7:20were
- 7:20able,
- 7:21not
- 7:21from
- 7:21pressure.
- 7:22And
- 7:23I
- 7:23think
- 7:23that's
- 7:23a
- 7:23big
- 7:23difference.
- 7:24How
- 7:25about
- 7:25we
- 7:25pray
- 7:25together?
- 7:27Lord,
- 7:27we
- 7:27just
- 7:27thank
- 7:28you
- 7:28for
- 7:28giving
- 7:28us
- 7:29all
- 7:30a
- 7:30generous
- 7:31heart.
- 7:32So
- 7:32we
- 7:33ask
- 7:33that
- 7:33you
- 7:33would
- 7:33protect
- 7:34our
- 7:34hearts
- 7:34from
- 7:34pressure,
- 7:36protect
- 7:36it
- 7:36from
- 7:37resentment,
- 7:38protect
- 7:39it
- 7:39from
- 7:39those
- 7:39guilt
- 7:40driven
- 7:40decisions
- 7:41in
- 7:41the
- 7:41moment.
- 7:43Give
- 7:43us
- 7:43all
- 7:44clarity
- 7:44to
- 7:44set
- 7:45wise
- 7:45boundaries
- 7:47and
- 7:47give
- 7:47us
- 7:47peace
- 7:48in
- 7:48our
- 7:48giving
- 7:50and
- 7:50let
- 7:50that
- 7:51generosity
- 7:52flow
- 7:52from
- 7:52joy,
- 7:53not
- 7:53from
- 7:54obligation.
- 7:55Help
- 7:56us
- 7:56to
- 7:56honor
- 7:56you
- 7:57Lord
- 7:57with
- 7:57both
- 7:57compassion
- 7:58and
- 7:59wisdom
- 7:59at
- 7:59the
- 8:00same
- 8:00time.
- 8:01And
- 8:01we
- 8:02ask
- 8:02this
- 8:02in
- 8:02Jesus
- 8:03name.
- 8:04Amen
- 8:07friend.
- 8:07You
- 8:07can
- 8:07give
- 8:07generously
- 8:08and
- 8:08still
- 8:08guard
- 8:09your
- 8:09peace.
- 8:11Generosity
- 8:12should
- 8:12always
- 8:12feel
- 8:13joyful,
- 8:14not
- 8:14draining.
- 8:16And
- 8:16if
- 8:16today's
- 8:17episode
- 8:17spoke
- 8:18to
- 8:18you,
- 8:19I'd
- 8:19love
- 8:19to
- 8:19hear
- 8:20about
- 8:20what
- 8:20you're
- 8:20learning
- 8:21and
- 8:21what
- 8:21you're
- 8:21working
- 8:22through
- 8:22in
- 8:22your
- 8:22own
- 8:22life.
- 8:24You
- 8:25could
- 8:25leave
- 8:25me
- 8:25a
- 8:25message.
- 8:26A
- 8:26voicemail
- 8:26message.
- 8:27Really
- 8:27simple.
- 8:27Just
- 8:27go
- 8:28to
- 8:28financiallyconfidentchristian.com/voicemail
- 8:32I'll
- 8:33put
- 8:33a
- 8:33link
- 8:33right
- 8:33in
- 8:33the
- 8:33show
- 8:34notes,
- 8:34but
- 8:34again
- 8:34that's
- 8:35financiallyconfidentchristian.com/voicemail
- 8:39I
- 8:39want
- 8:40to
- 8:40thank
- 8:40you
- 8:40so
- 8:40much
- 8:40for
- 8:41giving
- 8:41me
- 8:41your
- 8:41time.
- 8:42I
- 8:42truly
- 8:42honor
- 8:43it.
- 8:43Thanks
- 8:44for
- 8:44joining
- 8:44me
- 8:44today.
- 8:45I
- 8:45encourage
- 8:46you
- 8:46to
- 8:46stay
- 8:46financially
- 8:47savvy.
- 8:48May
- 8:48God
- 8:48bless
- 8:49you
- 8:49and
- 8:50you
- 8:50have
- 8:50a
- 8:50truly
- 8:51great
- 8:51day
- 8:51today.