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It's the little things in relationships that MAKE, BREAK, or STRENGTHEN! · Johnjay & Rich On Demand

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  Speaker 1: I always talk about relationships and actually everything. It's the
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  Speaker 1: little things that matter to me, right? I think the
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  Speaker 1: little things are important.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: And they actually just came out with a list of
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  Speaker 3: the little things that can signal that you're in a
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  Speaker 3: strong relationship.
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  Speaker 4: Sure, you can show.
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  Speaker 3: Off the big things to people, but there are actually
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  Speaker 3: little things that show everyone else that you are in.
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  Speaker 4: A strong relationship.
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  Speaker 3: So I'm going to tell you guys these and I
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  Speaker 3: want to know if you think, yeah, you agree or
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  Speaker 3: I think that's kind of overrated.
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  Speaker 5: You know what? Jen is calling right now. Should we
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  Speaker 5: start off with Jen?
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  Speaker 6: Yeah, Jen.
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  Speaker 5: Jen, the little things in a relationship that prove that
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  Speaker 5: it's stronger.
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  Speaker 1: Morning.
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  Speaker 2: So I guess being able to just sit and hang
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  Speaker 2: out and just do your own thing together in the
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  Speaker 2: same area and comfortable silences, like without having to entertain
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  Speaker 2: each other and just compromises on.
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  Speaker 7: Anything, whether it be food or events or whatever. whatever,
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  Speaker 7: just compromising and then comfortable, comfortable, like hang out, I guess.
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  Speaker 4: I think you just.
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  Speaker 6: Nailed it, Jen.
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  Speaker 3: Cause like the number two on the list is that
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  Speaker 3: you can sit in silence without feeling awkward.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: And that, that right there, it shows comfort and security.
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  Speaker 5: Thank you, Jen.
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  Speaker 7: Everyone likes to talk all the time and, and you know,
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  Speaker 7: like that's just some people that that's how they are.
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  Speaker 2: Some people are quiet. Some people are, you know, and
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  Speaker 2: the worst is what's wrong.
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  Speaker 5: What's wrong. Why are you quiet?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 7: I just want.
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  Speaker 4: To chill for a minute.
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  Speaker 8: A little bit of confidence in your quiet relationship is
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  Speaker 8: a good thing. That's good. I like that.
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  Speaker 5: Thanks. Thanks, Jen.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, so these are little things in your relationship that
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  Speaker 1: can prove that it's strong?
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  Speaker 4: Yes, that signal you have a strong relationship. You have
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  Speaker 4: inside jokes.
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  Speaker 3: They say inside jokes show that you kind of built
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  Speaker 3: your own little shared world. You can laugh with each
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  Speaker 3: other and nobody else has to know what you're laughing at.
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  Speaker 4: That's perfectly fine. That can show that you actually have
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  Speaker 4: a strong relationship.
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  Speaker 5: Well, that's good.
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  Speaker 4: Inside jokes are the best.
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  Speaker 6: I was going to say, I feel like that's you
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  Speaker 6: and your husband to the T. You guys always have
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  Speaker 6: the fun little insiders.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, and then you look at each other and you're like, yes, apple.
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  Speaker 4: Everyone's like, who cares about an apple?
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  Speaker 5: I like the inside jokes we have on the show. LOL, Barra.
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  Speaker 5: That's my newest one.
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  Speaker 8: Hey, did I tell you that somebody at the pharmacy
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  Speaker 8: told me that just the other day? I went to
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  Speaker 8: go pick up a thing for Stacey and he's like, LOL, Tara.
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  Speaker 8: That's amazing.
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  Speaker 4: I also love when inside jokes can become everybody's jokes too.
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  Speaker 8: Yeah, they have been now.
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  Speaker 3: So one little thing that can signal that you have
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  Speaker 3: a strong relationship is that you can complain about each
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  Speaker 3: other without being cruel. You can have frustration without contempt.
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  Speaker 3: And that actually means that you have a strong relationship
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  Speaker 3: because you're comfortable enough with each other to be honest
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  Speaker 3: and truthful.
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  Speaker 5: That's good.
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  Speaker 6: Like sometimes I need you to shut up and leave
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  Speaker 6: me alone. Okay. And he's okay with that. And I'm
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  Speaker 6: going to tell you that. And you are going to
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  Speaker 6: be fine with it.
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  Speaker 5: So I'm on the couch.
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  Speaker 8: Don't make me cry.
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  Speaker 1: I'm on the couch yesterday watching the newest episode of Mobland.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know if you guys watch Mobland. It's freaking fantastic.
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  Speaker 1: It's on Paramount Plus. I'm watching Mobland. There's 10 minutes
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  Speaker 1: left of Mobland. My wife comes down and sits down
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  Speaker 1: in the chair next to me. And starts talking to
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  Speaker 1: me about some health issue that she had because she
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  Speaker 1: just came back from the doctor. And I pause it.
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  Speaker 1: And I let her talk.
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  Speaker 5: She talks.
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  Speaker 1: And I'm thinking, okay, she's done. And I look and
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  Speaker 1: I go, may I? And I press play on the remote.
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  Speaker 5: And she goes. Okay. I'm like, I pause, I go,
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  Speaker 5: are you not done? Are you, are you done? Cause
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  Speaker 5: she's like, yeah, I'm done. I'm like, okay. And I went, bing,
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  Speaker 5: and I hit play and I watched the rest of it.
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  Speaker 5: Highly recommend. But I think that's what I think you're,
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  Speaker 5: what'd you say was like complaining, but not.
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  Speaker 4: Being, but not being cruel.
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  Speaker 5: I wasn't cruel. I just said, may I?
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  Speaker 3: You were also doing something else without even realizing it
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  Speaker 3: that does signal you have a strong relationship. And what
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  Speaker 3: that is having separate hobbies. And friends, they say independence
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  Speaker 3: without feeling threatened. Like, yes, you can go watch your shows.
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  Speaker 3: She doesn't have to be sitting next to you every
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  Speaker 3: second of the day. And she can go do yoga
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  Speaker 3: with her girlfriends and play Mahjong.
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  Speaker 5: She's playing Mahjong right now, I think.
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  Speaker 6: Really?
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  Speaker 8: That's so early.
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  Speaker 5: She's got a Mahjong thing now and then she's got
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  Speaker 5: a Mahjong thing tonight. Isn't that sad? My hobby is
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  Speaker 5: watching TV.
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  Speaker 8: But you're so good at watching TV. that is your,
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  Speaker 8: what are your best skills is watching a TV show.
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  Speaker 6: That is so important though. You do have to kind
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  Speaker 6: of have your own life and your own thing. And
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  Speaker 6: then when you're able to come together and do it together,
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  Speaker 6: it makes that time just that much sweeter.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, I agree. Um, I like this one, but it's
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  Speaker 4: also like, it's, it's tough. So you can say, I
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  Speaker 4: need a minute during an argument.
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  Speaker 3: They say this shows emotional regulation and I don't know
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  Speaker 3: how I feel Because I'm really like.
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  Speaker 4: If we are starting this, we are finishing it. So
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  Speaker 4: that's hard for me to do.
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  Speaker 3: But it's also like, yes, if your partner says, hold
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  Speaker 3: on a minute, like I'm going to say something I'm
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  Speaker 3: going to regret and it's going to hurt.
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  Speaker 4: And I don't want to do that. You have to
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  Speaker 4: be able to say that. So that can show that
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  Speaker 4: you have a strong relationship.
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  Speaker 8: The I need a minute thing is good. My aunt Dot,
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  Speaker 8: who was married for 75 years, they never fought. But
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  Speaker 8: she said that she would say, I'm going to need
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  Speaker 8: a minute. I'm going to go pray. And hopefully when
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  Speaker 8: I come back from the prayer, you will do the
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  Speaker 8: right thing. Oh, my gosh.
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  Speaker 6: Dang.
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  Speaker 8: That is challenge. That is checkmate right there. I'm going
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  Speaker 8: to go pray for you.
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  Speaker 6: And when I come back, I hope you buy it together.
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  Speaker 2: Yes.
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  Speaker 3: I don't necessarily know if, like, projecting guilt on your
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  Speaker 3: partner is going to help.
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  Speaker 8: But, I mean, if you're Uncle Joe, you're like, okay,
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  Speaker 8: I guess I'm going to do the right thing. It's
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  Speaker 8: a good one.
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  Speaker 5: It's pretty good.
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  Speaker 8: I mean, for sure.
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  Speaker 3: I also say if you ask your partner's opinion, even
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  Speaker 3: when you already know what you want, that can be
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  Speaker 3: a little thing that signals you have a strong relationship
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  Speaker 3: because you are valuing their perspective. I wonder if this
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  Speaker 3: one's overrated because if you already know what you want
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  Speaker 3: and then you ask them their opinion, but what you
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  Speaker 3: wanted wasn't their opinion, it can almost backfire on you
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  Speaker 3: a little bit because you're not choosing what their advice was.
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  Speaker 2: Sure.
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  Speaker 6: Right. I feel like that one would definitely be an
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  Speaker 6: issue in my relationship.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 6: Because I feel like Kadeem, my husband, he disagrees with everything.
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  Speaker 8: He has a different take on everything.
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  Speaker 6: And it just doesn't make me happy. I'm like, what
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  Speaker 6: do you mean? Anyway, but I think that that could
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  Speaker 6: be tricky for sure. But it makes sense that you
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  Speaker 6: value your partner's opinion.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, because I'm sure you'd be like, why wouldn't you
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  Speaker 3: ask me about that?
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  Speaker 4: I'm an expert in that field. You know what I mean?
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  Speaker 4: I would have advice for you in that situation. You
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  Speaker 4: want your perspective to be valued.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I got all excited when my son asked me
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  Speaker 1: for advice yesterday. I thought it was so great.
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  Speaker 5: That's the best.
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  Speaker 6: I mean, you are his dad.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, I know.
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  Speaker 6: So that makes sense.
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  Speaker 1: I know, but you don't want to, everything you learn
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  Speaker 1: about being a parent is, you know, when you're like,
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  Speaker 1: when Kyle and your kids get in the car and
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  Speaker 1: you ask them how their day is and they go, fine,
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  Speaker 1: what they say is don't ask them about their day.
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  Speaker 1: And eventually they're going to start telling you about their day.
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  Speaker 1: So when my son comes home from work or from
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  Speaker 1: school and I'm like, how was your day?
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  Speaker 5: Whatever.
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  Speaker 1: But I didn't say anything. And then he's in there
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  Speaker 1: making dinner and he goes, dad, can I ask you
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  Speaker 1: some advice? And I was like, this worked i'm like
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  Speaker 1: yeah of course you can totally and i was like
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  Speaker 1: yeah grill the steak that wasn't the advice that was
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  Speaker 3: One more uh little thing that can signal you have
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  Speaker 3: a strong relationship i'm sure there's more of course if
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  Speaker 3: you have one you can call us and let us
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  Speaker 3: know but um You know what stresses them out before
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  Speaker 3: they even say it. Experts say that this is emotional attunement.
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  Speaker 3: You know your partner well enough to know that if
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  Speaker 3: you're going to say X, Y, Z, they're going to
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  Speaker 3: fly off the handle and then maybe you choose not to.
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  Speaker 3: So knowing what stresses them out without them having to
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  Speaker 3: say it signals.
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  Speaker 4: You actually have a strong relationship.
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  Speaker 6: That's good.
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  Speaker 8: Those are all good.
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  Speaker 4: I think so.
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  Speaker 8: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: Except for the one.
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  Speaker 6: Except for those one or two that we didn't agree with. Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: I mean, I think it's, it's fun to see like
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  Speaker 3: people in their relationships and how they deal with stress
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  Speaker 3: and arguments and stuff.
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  Speaker 4: Cause I do think that is a big deal.
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  Speaker 5: Okay. So where are we looking for color 104? What
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  Speaker 6: You're calling 26.
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  Speaker 5: Ooh, 26. Good.
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  Speaker 1: After we get our winner or maybe I could do
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  Speaker 1: it now. I saw this is really crazy. I think
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  Speaker 1: the headline is, Places in the United States.
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  Speaker 5: You should avoid if the world goes haywire.
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  Speaker 8: Ooh.
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  Speaker 5: Avoid.
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  Speaker 1: Okay.
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  Speaker 6: So that we should not be evacuating.
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  Speaker 4: I would think it would be like all of the
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  Speaker 4: major cities.
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  Speaker 5: Like L.A.
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  Speaker 8: Because those would be the targets.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I think you'll be surprised at some of the answers,
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  Speaker 1: I think, and the reasons why, which.
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  Speaker 5: So.
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  Speaker 1: Here's a cheerful little topic for you today. A writer
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  Speaker 1: on Substack listed five places in the United States you
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  Speaker 1: want to avoid if society's critical systems start breaking down.
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  Speaker 5: Okay. So what does that mean?
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  Speaker 8: Internet goes down, you know, that kind of stuff.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 5: Okay.
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  Speaker 1: So number one, the Northeast, because it depends heavily on
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  Speaker 1: complex infrastructure and supply chain. So the dense population can
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  Speaker 1: cause big problems.
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  Speaker 4: So like New York-ish area?
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, that's right.
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  Speaker 6: Okay.
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  Speaker 1: Number two is California. You want to stay away from
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  Speaker 1: California because of wildfires, earthquakes, and water shortages.
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  Speaker 5: Okay?
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  Speaker 2: Okay.
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  Speaker 5: Number four is Florida.
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  Speaker 1: It could be in trouble due to hurricanes, sea level rise,
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  Speaker 1: saltwater intrusion, and limited evacuation routes.
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  Speaker 8: So far, Arizona's good.
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  Speaker 1: The industrial Midwest, it could be a problem due to
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  Speaker 1: its aging infrastructure and harsh winter weather. Okay, so the
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  Speaker 1: world goes to hell. Where do you avoid?
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  Speaker 8: Like electricity's out, internet's down, all that stuff.
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  Speaker 5: Okay, now listen to this. This is the last one
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  Speaker 5: on the list. The Southwest Desert, specifically Phoenix. Come on.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, because the air conditioning, if you have no air.
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  Speaker 1: It'll cause problems due to extreme heat and the dependence
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  Speaker 1: on imported water.
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  Speaker 6: What? I never heard of that.
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  Speaker 5: What do you mean imported water?
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  Speaker 8: What are you talking about?
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  Speaker 4: The Colorado River?
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  Speaker 1: I don't understand.
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  Speaker 5: Does it run right through here?
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  Speaker 8: Yeah, we got water problems.
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  Speaker 4: We don't have the Colorado River.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, in Yuma.
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  Speaker 1: Where?
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  Speaker 2: Right there.
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  Speaker 5: You go through Yuma.
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  Speaker 8: Colorado River, right there.
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  Speaker 5: I cross it all the time.
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  Speaker 8: Yeah. Yeah, but, you know, we still got water problems.
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  Speaker 8: When everything's fine, we got water issues. Like, even as
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  Speaker 8: of yesterday.
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  Speaker 5: I would think that, what happened yesterday? Like, political stuff.
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  Speaker 2: Oh.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: I know.
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  Speaker 1: Well, news to me. I was like, if all hell
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  Speaker 1: breaks loose, this is the place to be.
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  Speaker 8: That's what I was thinking.
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  Speaker 3: Where does it say where to go?
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  Speaker 5: No, there's probably a hundred articles.
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  Speaker 8: I feel like if all hell breaks loose, it's going
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  Speaker 8: to be like in November and it's lovely here in November.
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  Speaker 5: So you're fine. Don't worry about it.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, I guess it would depend. It depends on the
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  Speaker 4: time of year where all hell breaks loose.
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  Speaker 8: You don't need to AC in November. Leave your windows open.
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  Speaker 8: You're fine.
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  Speaker 5: So what number are we at? Looking for caller 104.
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  Speaker 5: Where are we, Dylan?
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  Speaker 6: You're caller 99.
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  Speaker 8: Oh, good.
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  Speaker 6: You're caller 100. You're caller 101.
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  Speaker 6: You're caller 103. All right, caller 104 is on line 25.
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  Speaker 7: Okay.
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  Speaker 5: 104 right now. Hello, good morning. Who's this?
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  Speaker 2: Liana.
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  Speaker 5: What? I'm sorry, what's your name?
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  Speaker 2: Liana.
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  Speaker 2: I'm in Tucson.
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  Speaker 5: All right.
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  Speaker 1: your husband when you were on his shoulders and climbing
• 13:14
  Speaker 1: all over his kitchen?
• 13:16
  Speaker 5: I was like... That's so funny.
• 13:19
  Speaker 6: It wasn't really.
• 13:19
  Speaker 4: There's not a huge story to it. It was my
• 13:21
  Speaker 4: daughter's 12th birthday yesterday. I watched it twice, by the way.
• 13:23
  Speaker 5: I watched it twice.
• 13:24
  Speaker 3: And she had balloons, and she let the balloons go.
• 13:27
  Speaker 3: And so they were all the way up on the ceiling.
• 13:32
  Speaker 3: And so to reach them, I stood on my husband's shoulders,
• 13:36
  Speaker 3: which is.
• 13:37
  Speaker 4: Terrifying, by the way.
• 13:38
  Speaker 3: I'm not really sure how, like, the flying will end
• 13:41
  Speaker 3: us do it. It was very scary, but we got
• 13:44
  Speaker 3: the balloons.
• 13:45
  Speaker 4: It was a success.
• 13:48
  Speaker 6: Yeah, I didn't.
• 13:49
  Speaker 4: I was like, I'm about to break my legs right
• 13:50
  Speaker 4: now if I fall.
• 13:52
  Speaker 6: I literally saw it. I was like, so no such
• 13:54
  Speaker 6: thing as a ladder in their house.
• 13:57
  Speaker 4: I don't have a ladder.
• 13:58
  Speaker 6: You literally just climbed him like a tree.
• 14:02
  Speaker 1: There's a couple of trending TikToks where co-workers do something
• 14:06
  Speaker 1: like that. And I can't remember what. There's like three
• 14:08
  Speaker 1: or four different ways. Have you seen them? Like you
• 14:11
  Speaker 1: put your feet on the shoulder and you lean on
• 14:13
  Speaker 1: a wall. And it's like these really cool things that
• 14:16
  Speaker 1: co-workers are doing with whatever that's called.
• 14:19
  Speaker 4: I've seen the one where.
• 14:21
  Speaker 3: Um, like one coworker stands up and the other one
• 14:24
  Speaker 3: kind of does like this weird backbend thing and they
• 14:26
  Speaker 3: put them on like a backpack.
• 14:27
  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's one of them I saw. That's one of
• 14:30
  Speaker 1: them I saw. There's like a whole bunch of weird
• 14:31
  Speaker 1: ones like that. I thought, wow, that's so.
• 14:34
  Speaker 5: Flexible. Your husband's got to be.
• 14:37
  Speaker 1: Because the thing about you being on your husband's shoulders is, A,
• 14:41
  Speaker 1: he's strong enough to do it, but you've got to
• 14:42
  Speaker 1: be able to balance, right?
• 14:43
  Speaker 4: No, that's the part. I wasn't worried about him dropping me.
• 14:47
  Speaker 4: I was worried about.
• 14:48
  Speaker 3: Me going, falling down.
• 14:51
  Speaker 1: Rich, I've had it written down here to get to
• 14:53
  Speaker 1: talk to you about this. You said there's a word
• 14:55
  Speaker 1: that's pissing you off now or a phrase that's pissing
• 14:57
  Speaker 1: you off.
• 14:58
  Speaker 7: Oh, yeah.
• 14:58
  Speaker 5: Because we talked about it before. Last time it was.
• 15:01
  Speaker 8: Both things can be true.
• 15:02
  Speaker 5: Both things can be true at the same time. Well,
• 15:04
  Speaker 5: both things can be true. Yes.
• 15:06
  Speaker 8: And now I feel like I especially see it on
• 15:09
  Speaker 8: the secret lives of Mormon wives where it's like they
• 15:13
  Speaker 8: say your truth or my truth. Like, well, you know
• 15:16
  Speaker 8: what my truth is, is that I wasn't cheating. What
• 15:19
  Speaker 8: do you mean your truth? There is no your truth.
• 15:21
  Speaker 8: It's just the truth. Your truth is probably a lie.
• 15:27
  Speaker 8: that's pissing me off.
• 15:28
  Speaker 5: Is my truth. That's my, my point of view.
• 15:31
  Speaker 8: Your point of view.
• 15:32
  Speaker 2: Sure.
• 15:32
  Speaker 8: But it's not your truth. The truth is the truth.
• 15:34
  Speaker 4: So you would rather them say my perspective.
• 15:37
  Speaker 5: Yes.
• 15:37
  Speaker 8: My perspective is good, but I'm just speaking. My truth
• 15:40
  Speaker 8: means that you're probably lying to me, but you want
• 15:43
  Speaker 8: me to believe it as like being the truth.
• 15:46
  Speaker 1: My thing is people saying all the things. It doesn't
• 15:48
  Speaker 1: bother me. I mean, it doesn't piss me off. but
• 15:52
  Speaker 1: I just hear people say it all the time. It's
• 15:55
  Speaker 1: everywhere now. You know, they got married, they had the
• 15:57
  Speaker 1: big wedding, all the things. I don't mind all the things.
• 16:01
  Speaker 1: I'm just saying, it doesn't bother me. I just know
• 16:04
  Speaker 1: it's something people say all the time now. Kind of
• 16:06
  Speaker 1: like when TikTok or Instagram people go do that thing
• 16:10
  Speaker 1: where they go.
• 16:12
  Speaker 5: Come with me as I go get a facial. There's
• 16:14
  Speaker 5: just a phrase that people say all the time. Come
• 16:16
  Speaker 5: with me. To me, it's all the things.
• 16:17
  Speaker 8: What do you have in your store? We have clothes.
• 16:19
  Speaker 8: We have pants. We have all the things.
• 16:21
  Speaker 5: We went on vacation. We went to the beach. All
• 16:24
  Speaker 5: the things. It's like all the things is the new yada, yada, yada.
• 16:28
  Speaker 8: Yeah, it kind of is. Did you steal this money?
• 16:30
  Speaker 2: No.
• 16:31
  Speaker 8: My truth is that the money was mine to begin with.
• 16:36
  Speaker 8: That's what I'm telling you. I'm calling it out.
• 16:38
  Speaker 5: No more my truth. You used to have a problem
• 16:39
  Speaker 5: with it is what it is.
• 16:40
  Speaker 8: Oh, it is what it is is the biggest nothing
• 16:42
  Speaker 8: statement of all time.
• 16:43
  Speaker 6: But sometimes it is what it is.
• 16:45
  Speaker 8: But that is– what does that mean?
• 16:46
  Speaker 3: It's not really a nothing statement. It's a statement of acceptance, of–
• 16:49
  Speaker 3: the current situation.
• 16:51
  Speaker 8: It is what it is.
• 16:52
  Speaker 4: You can't do anything about it.
• 16:53
  Speaker 8: You're really like you're, you're, you're, that could be, it's
• 16:56
  Speaker 8: also like the problem I had with the TV show.
• 16:59
  Speaker 8: This is us. Well, that could be the name of
• 17:01
  Speaker 8: any TV show about anything. This is us. Well, of
• 17:05
  Speaker 8: course it is. Say something else about what you are.
• 17:09
  Speaker 8: But this is us. This is us.
• 17:10
  Speaker 5: I kind of understand that.
• 17:11
  Speaker 8: It's the most nothing title ever. And it is what
• 17:14
  Speaker 8: it is. It doesn't say anything either. In my truth,
• 17:16
  Speaker 8: you're just lying to me and trying to convince me
• 17:17
  Speaker 8: that it's the truth.
• 17:18
  Speaker 3: I kind of feel like for someone who's like Rich,
• 17:21
  Speaker 3: you're really big on grammar.
• 17:23
  Speaker 8: Words mean things.
• 17:24
  Speaker 3: Yeah. So I feel like for the rest of us peasants,
• 17:27
  Speaker 3: it's okay.
• 17:28
  Speaker 8: Did you just kill that guy? Well, I guess it
• 17:31
  Speaker 8: is what it is.
• 17:31
  Speaker 6: No, no.
• 17:32
  Speaker 5: It's murder.
• 17:33
  Speaker 8: Call him something else.