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317 - Human Design Variables Series: Perspective Arrow · Unshakeable with Human Design - A Human Design For Business Podcast

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Welcome to Unshakeable with Human Design, the show dedicated to
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helping entrepreneurs use human design to shift from hustle to
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flow without sacrificing results.
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Come here to become an unshakeable human and build an unshakeable business
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according to your human design.
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I'm your host, Nicole Laino.
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Hello and welcome to Unshakeable with Human Design, everybody.
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I'm your host, Nicole Laino, and I am so happy to be here with you for our
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final episode of the Variables series.
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This one felt like it went by so fast.
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It was only four episodes.
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I hope you've enjoyed this deep dive into this underlying layer
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of the human design chart.
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I hope that it gave you insights into what makes you tick, and maybe
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gave you some like, aha moments of things that you can do to reduce
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resistance in your life, or understand the people in your life even more.
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It's going to close just a week after the show this.
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Okay.
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Okay, so let's talk about variables.
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Let's talk about this.
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I'm going to give a little overview just once again for anybody who's
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joining us for the first time, maybe you haven't been listening to the whole
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series and this is your first episode.
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I'm going to tell you a little bit about what variables are, but then I
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encourage you to go back and listen to the previous three episodes because you
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want to dive into all of it to really have this full understanding of both your
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unconscious stuff and the stuff that's gonna influence more your personality.
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What's the stuff that's going to be more about your body and your environment?
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And then the things that are going to be more aligned with your personality.
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We're on the personality side today.
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So the variables are represented by those little arrows on either side of the
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head center on the human design chart.
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If you look at the chart, you see these arrows.
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They're usually very confusing for people.
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They're like, what do these arrows mean?
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And then you look, if you get a full chart.
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You might see a bunch of words that don't really seem to make sense,
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like determination, and say something like brain, or motivation, or
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trajectory, and all of this stuff.
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Really what those words are referring to are the elements below
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the line, below the profile lines.
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So, I'm a 5'1 You might be a 6'3 a 4'6 a 4'1 whatever your profile
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is, there's more data about you underneath that profile line.
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And we do this for both the Sun and Earth and the nodes on each side.
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So that's where we're getting these numbers from.
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It's below that.
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It does not mean that I'm a 5, so then everything I have is
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going to be 5s underneath it, no.
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It can change based on your birth time.
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So this is just another level of nuance that we get to of
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depth, of your differentiation.
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Ra referred to this, that this is what separates twins, that
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those couple of minutes could mean that they have a different way of
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eating or something is changing at the color, tone, or base level.
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So that's what we have here.
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We have the profile line, and then this is what we refer to in the biz as below
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the line, is that when you go below that, you get to a color and you get to a tone.
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So that's when you see something like brain, motivation, trajectory,
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those are referring to either colors or tones in your chart.
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Now, we're only going to the color level.
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When we get to tone, we get to greater differentiation.
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My goal with this series is to keep this simple and impactful
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and not at all confusing.
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And when we get to the tone, we can definitely get a little bit confused.
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There doesn't need to be a fire hose shooting information at you.
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I want this to be usable.
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Like I want everything on the show to be usable.
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I want this to actually impact you rather than me just be doing a dance about how
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much stuff I know about human design.
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Okay.
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Let's talk today.
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We have covered determination, which is digestion, that top left arrow.
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We did the environment, which is the bottom left arrow.
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We've talked about motivation.
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That is the top right arrow and now we're down at the bottom right hand corner
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and we're talking about perspective.
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That's what this variable represents.
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That arrow represents your perspective in life.
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It is very closely related to the motivation.
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You'll notice that when I go through the six different types of perspective, ways
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of seeing that we have, perspectives that we have, you're going to notice that
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they sound a bit like the motivation.
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But your motivation and your perspective can be different.
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I'm also going to share some reflections that I've had in my
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life and particularly how my husband and I have the same motivation.
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We have different perspectives and it's very interesting.
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I see it all the time and I'm going to talk about how this is something
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that I use, particularly when there are teams, when we're doing business
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analysis, I really look at perspective because it does tell us everything in
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the chart, there are potential gifts.
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Now you might not see properly.
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You might have a skewed way of seeing.
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And what I think is interesting about perspective is it's very
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closely related to the motivation in the sense that they have similar
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themes, but they're not the same.
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But this is actually very closely related actually to the environment.
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So the environment arrow, if you think about it, that tells you where you belong.
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The environment that is most nurturing to you as a human being.
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That is where your nervous system will be at ease.
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It's the place you are meant to be in.
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That's what it represents.
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Now, when we come over to the other side and we get to perspective,
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if you aren't in the right place, you won't see properly.
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So like everything in the human design chart and world, it's
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to have it or to have not.
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So if you have gate seven, say, and seven is about leadership and having
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a path forward and seeing patterns for ways that we can live better.
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And that's just sort of a sense of an inner leader in you.
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My son has this.
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My son has gate seven and I see leadership in that kid, but that
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leadership needs to be nurtured.
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Now, if he was growing up in a home where we were overlords over him and
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we were super controlling and we never gave him the chance to lead, or we
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let him be a bully or something like that, then that would be an example
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of how leadership never really got to bloom in him in a positive way.
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But instead, I actively work with him to build that quality because I know
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it's going to be a big energy for him, and I want it to be good energy.
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So what do I do?
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I tell him that in his taekwondo class, I call out when kids are
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new, my son's really good, and he's definitely like a leader in that class.
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They look up to him.
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So I suggest to him, I'm like, you know what I bet would be really nice.
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If you told that kid over there who's new and I think he was struggling, why don't
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you go tell him that he did a good job?
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So that has sort of created, and then I had a conference with his teacher.
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Apparently he's doing that in his class at school.
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Why?
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Not because I just set a good example for him and set him up that way, but
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because I know certain things about him.
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They're going to come out.
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I'm either gonna repress them or they're going to come out and they
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might come out in not a great way.
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And he does have some of that too, where we have to work on that.
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So just like everything else in the human design chart, it needs to be nurtured.
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Otherwise, it can come out, either it can be really repressed or it can be
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really reactive and not what we want.
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These can be the exact same way and we have a little less control
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over them, so to speak, because they are so unconscious to us.
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They are a color of the way we live.
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They're sort of like this overlay or an underlay, so to speak.
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Okay.
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So the perspective is determined and you'll see what you're meant
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to see, is how Ra put it, if you are in the right environment.
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So environment, the physical environment determines whether
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the personality will see properly.
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Let's dive in.
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I want to talk to you about the six different types as I go through them, I
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think it'll be clearer how this works.
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So the first type of perspective, the first way of seeing is investigative.
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These are people that are seeing patterns.
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They are analytical.
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They are looking for what we can count on, right?
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They're looking at what we can count on.
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They are trying to determine whether the pattern, whether things look
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right because that first level is always looking for, what can we prove?
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How can we make ourselves feel more secure by recognizing where we went wrong?
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These are the analysts.
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These are the ones that come in.
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If you think about the stock market, the ones who pour over the trend
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reports and over the graphs, and they are looking for the trends.
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They are looking for the patterns so that they can predict the way
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the future will go so they can make the right move so they can make the
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most money so they can feel secure.
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That is that person, right?
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Now, they might be really good at that, or they might not be great at it.
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It does not mean that you're going to be awesome at this.
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It is a skill to be honed.
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But it is your way of seeing, so it is a potential that you can bring if it is in
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good standing with the rest of your chart.
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If you're living by strategy and authority, if you're living as
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you truly are meant to be, then your perspective will be honed.
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Now, with great power comes great responsibility.
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So I'm sure there are analysts out there who are doing
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terrible things with their gift.
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It doesn't mean that you're going to be a good person, but it does mean
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that this is probably a particular talent that those people have.
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Okay.
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Now we come to the second layer, which is possibility.
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It is much more philosophical.
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That second layer is about potential.
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These are the dreamers.
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These are the people that can see a bit further out than the rest of us can.
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Again, very similar to that hope second level of motivation.
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They're able to see potential.
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These are the people that would be like, have you ever
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thought about doing it this way?
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And you may never have, that might've been too ambitious for you to think
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of because you're not aligned with hope and potential and possibility.
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You don't see that way.
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Maybe you're more of a realist, which is on the other side.
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We'll get to that one.
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But maybe you're not seeing things that way, but they are.
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So these are the people that like, this is somebody like your mastermind group
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who pulls out like a really great idea.
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That's a bit out there, but you're like, Ooh, could I do that?
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That's this perspective.
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The third perspective is power, political.
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This is mine.
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These are people who see the game.
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They see power structures.
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They see hierarchies.
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They see how the game is played, really.
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They see the players, they see who's important, they might be
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taken by hierarchical structures.
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So I'm gonna speak from my own perspective because I have this perspective, so let
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me tell you a little bit about this.
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My perspective is political.
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When I was in high school, the thing that I wanted to be, what I wanted
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to do with my life, was I wanted to be, my dream job was that I would
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run a presidential campaign, that I would be like a campaign manager.
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Can you imagine?
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That was what I thought I wanted to do.
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And I remember just feeling like I see what they're getting wrong.
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I see how this game works.
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I see how I could play it.
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I remember there was just this feeling like I get this.
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And I see how the strings are pulled.
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Now, granted, maybe when I look at my chart, I look at that and I
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say, I get why I wanted to do it.
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I would probably have done a lot of good in that space, or I would have
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been completely corrupted by it.
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Who the hell knows?
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I wouldn't probably wouldn't be doing the work I do now, but we never know.
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I look at that all the time and I do wonder.
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I don't desire that life.
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I didn't do it because it seemed corrupt like it would suck
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the soul right out of my body.
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But to this day I still look and I see the structures and I see how it works.
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But then I go to my corporate career.
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I saw who the important players were.
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I knew how to make those relationships and alliances.
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And now what I would fall into sometimes is maybe feeling like I
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saw my place in the hierarchical structure and it felt not good.
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So I didn't feel empowered to step up.
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Still have that to this day.
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So that is a perspective that I work with and I have to work with
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it to bring it where I don't see myself in that system as small.
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And that I'm able to really use the gift.
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But, this is how this works.
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So, this can really show us a lot of insight into why somebody works the
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way they work, or maybe why they have some of the challenges that they have.
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And it can give us a window into how we can approach it.
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So this is really, really fascinating when I work with executives, when I work
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with teams, because understanding how people have different points of view,
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literally they see the world differently.
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This can be so eye opening to understand each other, and also to
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value each other's point of view and realize what we bring to the table.
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If we let go of that, I have to be right, that maybe we get the
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actual 360 perspective if we have representatives from all the different
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areas and everybody comes in there just looking to get the best ideas
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out there and to get the clearest understanding of what's really going on.
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rather than my way is right, my way is right, my way is right,
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which is where we get into trouble.
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Now my husband has realistic, which we'll get to that in just a second.
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He's a realist.
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He's aligned with real power.
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But we'll get to that in just a second.
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Cause I want to do the fourth one and then I'll talk about how he and I
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see things differently and how that's helped us understand how we view things.
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So the fourth type, this one is the one that resonates with needs.
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This is social.
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This one sees the other.
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This is the community aspect.
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This is the person that the way that they see is they see the needs of others.
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They see the needs of the many.
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And they recognize those.
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Now that can be for personal gain.
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You might see what the community needs and you go and fill that
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need by creating something.
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But typically, this has more of a heart centered approach.
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And maybe more activism you would see here.
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You would see this more about putting the needs of others ahead of your own.
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That is that perspective.
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So these are the people that look out.
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So we're taking a step up.
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We're going a little bit less selfish from my perspective,
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which is political, which might be seeing like how the game is played.
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Now we take it to the next level and we say like, oh, well,
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this is what the people need.
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Let's actually get it to them.
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Now that's your way of seeing.
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I'm motivated by need, but what I see is how the game is played.
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Okay.
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They're very similar definitions, however, most people have different ones.
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Your motivation and your perspective will typically be different,
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but they don't have to be.
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They might be the same.
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For me, they are different.
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I have need motivation and I have a political point of view.
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Okay?
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Now, the fifth type is that, the realist.
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This is the person who is seeing what's probable.
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Not potential.
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Not possible.
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It's not aspirational.
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It's super practical.
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It's just like, what's useful.
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Can we really get this done or can't we get it done?
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Now this person can be great at getting things done that it believes can get done.
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They will be the ones to take action or set other people
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in motion to get things done.
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So really valuable member of a team, very leadership energy.
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However, they can also shut things down because they're
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just like, that can't be done.
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Do you see how you would need someone with that philosophical possibility aligned
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perspective alongside maybe someone who's more of a realist to maybe move us
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forward while still getting stuff done?
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So we're not in dreamland all the time just being like, oh I wish
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it could just be like this, or maybe we could do this big idea.
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And we're also not in the like, can't be done, never been done, let's be real here.
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How do we balance that where we get to be aspirational and be realistic
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as well, take realistic steps, actually create something tangible,
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that's what they're interested in.
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So this is my husband's perspective.
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So living in the same home, when he and I look at the exact same thing,
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what he sees immediately is what can be done, what can't be done.
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I'm not going to say he will shut it down because he's not, closed minded.
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There's just a sense of finality to whether it can or cannot happen.
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And he's grossed out by the political game play.
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Literally like I'm above it.
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For me, I see the way the game is played, so that's where my
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perspective comes from, and you hear it when we have a conversation.
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He is absolutely a realist about stuff, and I'm kind of calling out
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where, one, it doesn't make people wrong to play the game, because
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that's how a lot of things are done.
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Two, if you understand how the game is played, then you can play it better.
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So I'm always calling out, well this is what's happening underneath all
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of this, and he's calling out, but that can't be done, or that can be
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done, why aren't they doing this, like he wants the action taken.
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I always have lots of opinions about the way that things should be run.
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And he has more opinions about the way things, what should be done.
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Okay.
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So those are the differences.
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And then the last one, when you get to that top of the food chain,
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we get to that sixth level and we get to the perspective of self.
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This self centered perspective, which sees us.
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Now, when we say self centered, again, in a low expression, this
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could be people being super self conscious and self critical because
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they relate everything to themselves.
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The perspective is maybe how does it affect me?
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It can be selfish, which it's not meant to be, but it's really meant to be more
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of what we see in this industry, which is saying that everything I see in my life
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is somehow a reflection of my inner state.
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Now that might be something true for you that it's a way that
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you have cultivated viewing.
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But this is actually the way that these people see.
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And when they can elevate into that way to say, Everything I see in my
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life is a reflection of my inner state, and I do that without judgment.
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I do that only with curiosity and compassion.
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And use it, use the world as a mirror to reflect how I can change inside.
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And if I change the world inside of me, I change the world outside of me.
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Those are those people, like that's where we want to take those people and when
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they can cultivate that and look at the world from that, they can create really
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great change, not just for themselves, but for everyone, because that's
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what Sixth Line, everything is about.
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It isn't selfish, it isn't just about me, it's about everybody.
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Okay?
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I hope you loved this.
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I hope this gave some insight into can you see how people who have different
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perspectives bring different things to the table, but that also might
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cause some friction even when we have aligned point of views, our
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perspective of looking at the exact same thing might cause us to disagree.
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What if you thought in your next interaction with somebody, what
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if you were thinking about, I wonder what their perspective is?
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Are you hearing one of these come through more?
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And do you feel like they are in a high expression or a low expression of it?
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And can you have compassion if they're in the low?
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And can you have appreciation if they're in the high?
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So I hope that you enjoyed this, I hope that this helped you understand yourself
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better, understand the people around you better, understand the people that you are
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interacting with that you don't even know.
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Cause that's the goal.
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Can we have greater compassion and understanding of everybody
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around us as well as ourselves.
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And I hope that we hit the mark with that, that gave you a little taste of
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what it's like to see people for who they are, rather than who we want them to be.
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