Latest / Motivational Podcast / Force Yourself – Push Yourself Every Day to Become Unstoppable
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- 0:01Speaker 1: Every morning we all look in the mirror to get
- 0:03Speaker 1: ready to go to work, to go anywhere. The first
- 0:06Speaker 1: thing you see is your reflection. If you don't like
- 0:08Speaker 1: what you see in the morning, you lost the war
- 0:11Speaker 1: or ready. It's not even liking what you see. It's
- 0:14Speaker 1: about looking in the mirror, and you may start I
- 0:16Speaker 1: feel different that reflection maybe not. That reflection is not everything.
- 0:20Speaker 1: It's a feeling you're supposed to get in life. Once
- 0:23Speaker 1: you leave your house, the war begins in your house.
- 0:27Speaker 1: You have some control, and that reflects in that mirror.
- 0:30Speaker 1: You have to control that reflection in the mirror. That's
- 0:32Speaker 1: how you start your day and leave your house feeling like, Okay,
- 0:34Speaker 1: I can fight. I've established the mentality to fight.
- 0:40Speaker 2: You have to.
- 0:41Speaker 3: Discover what your values are. It's part of the reason
- 0:45Speaker 3: why I think that you need to tell the truth,
- 0:47Speaker 3: because you're forced to negotiate with yourself to operate properly
- 0:53Speaker 3: in the world. And if you've worked yourself, let's say,
- 0:56Speaker 3: or some elements of yourself by engaging in self deception,
- 1:00Speaker 3: lies and you're not now because of that, you're not
- 1:04Speaker 3: who you could be, and you don't live in the
- 1:05Speaker 3: world as you should live in it. Then when you
- 1:09Speaker 3: discuss with yourself what your value should be, it will
- 1:13Speaker 3: be as if you're discussing it with someone that you
- 1:15Speaker 3: can't trust.
- 1:17Speaker 4: You're haunted by all the opportunities that you missed by
- 1:22Speaker 4: not bringing your best at that time when you could
- 1:25Speaker 4: have won. That you didn't win because you allow life
- 1:30Speaker 4: to interfere with that one shot. That's greatness. Greatness is
- 1:35Speaker 4: your recall. Greatness is being so aware of the time
- 1:41Speaker 4: of life and the second that went by and you
- 1:44Speaker 4: can recall like it was yesterday. Greatness is being able
- 1:48Speaker 4: to go back there and not making that saying as
- 1:51Speaker 4: dake it did, and being haunted by it.
- 1:54Speaker 2: That is greatness.
- 1:56Speaker 5: Most people go through life never discovering what the talents are.
- 2:01Speaker 5: Most people never develop their talents to have skills and abilities.
- 2:06Speaker 5: But if you don't nurture them, if you don't develop them,
- 2:09Speaker 5: they will never serve you. Your gifts can take you
- 2:12Speaker 5: many places if you develop your gifts.
- 2:15Speaker 2: The best guests come from the bottom.
- 2:18Speaker 6: I value myself enough to give one hundred and twenty
- 2:21Speaker 6: percent or don't do it, and that.
- 2:23Speaker 5: If you decide that my life deserves my developing this
- 2:27Speaker 5: what I do?
- 2:28Speaker 7: Well, why are you only giving fifty percent.
- 2:30Speaker 5: What's wrong with you? I grant you that if you
- 2:33Speaker 5: begin to work to develop your gifts, you develop a
- 2:37Speaker 5: strong sense of happiness, you'll get a larger vision of yourself.
- 2:41Speaker 5: Because part of beginning to get a larger vision of yourself,
- 2:43Speaker 5: all of us need some area of our lives where
- 2:46Speaker 5: we can have a feeling of competence when other folk
- 2:50Speaker 5: are having a good time. You've got to have the
- 2:51Speaker 5: strength of character.
- 2:53Speaker 4: Rise, rise up with a full heart, rise that when
- 2:59Speaker 4: you're in.
- 3:00Speaker 6: Sand it, rise up from the excuses, rise up with
- 3:06Speaker 6: the wheal power and understand it. Then it's nothing to
- 3:11Speaker 6: do to make a difference.
- 3:18Speaker 8: People want to feel that the effort that they're exerting
- 3:20Speaker 8: actually are moving somewhere, and so successful measurement, successful recognition
- 3:24Speaker 8: is not just for the steps you take. It's not
- 3:26Speaker 8: just for the effort. It's that the effort you exerted
- 3:28Speaker 8: and moved us closer to where we're trying to get to,
- 3:31Speaker 8: and that get to should be some crazy ideal.
- 3:34Speaker 9: The magnitude of the reward you experience as you're moving
- 3:38Speaker 9: towards a goal is proportionate to the importance of the goal.
- 3:43Speaker 9: So that means the more important the goal you pick,
- 3:46Speaker 9: the more possibility there is for that is life affirming.
- 3:49Speaker 2: Don't really want to get up and get out of bed,
- 3:53Speaker 2: or get up and get out of bed. I don't
- 3:56Speaker 2: really want to work out, I work out. I really
- 4:01Speaker 2: don't want to hammer on a project. I hammer on
- 4:06Speaker 2: the project now. As an overall rule, I do not
- 4:10Speaker 2: like procrastination. You need to get things done.
- 4:17Speaker 7: What's that thing for you? That thing you've been wanting
- 4:20Speaker 7: to do for a while?
- 4:21Speaker 1: Now? Have you died?
- 4:23Speaker 4: No?
- 4:24Speaker 7: Well, I'm just here with a friendly reminder that nobody
- 4:27Speaker 7: will do it for you. If you're waiting for others
- 4:29Speaker 7: to share the same convictions as you before you act
- 4:31Speaker 7: on it, you'll be waiting for a very long time
- 4:34Speaker 7: time that will render your desires to act on your
- 4:36Speaker 7: dream is useless if you keep putting it top. Stop
- 4:39Speaker 7: waiting on other people or the perfect conditions in order
- 4:42Speaker 7: to start something that passion you want to pursue. The
- 4:45Speaker 7: longer you think about it without doing, the more you
- 4:48Speaker 7: get used to action. And the more you get used
- 4:50Speaker 7: to an action, the easier it is for the dream
- 4:52Speaker 7: you once had to slip.
- 4:53Speaker 1: Out of your eyes.
- 4:55Speaker 7: So sacrifice for what you want before what you want
- 4:58Speaker 7: becomes a sacrifice.
- 5:01Speaker 10: Don't have time to regret me. We move on because
- 5:04Speaker 10: we are acceptable for what we are. I don't probably
- 5:06Speaker 10: think we should be. I'm accepted in myself by what
- 5:10Speaker 10: I am, but not as I think I should be.
- 5:12Speaker 10: Because that's a lot.
- 5:13Speaker 9: You can use your sense of meaning to calibrate your
- 5:15Speaker 9: progress through life, but there's rules. You have to aim
- 5:18Speaker 9: at the highest possible good that you can conceive. Start
- 5:23Speaker 9: by aiming at the star you can see, rather than
- 5:25Speaker 9: the dimmer one that you can't yet perceive.
- 5:28Speaker 5: People that are hungry or willing to do the things
- 5:30Speaker 5: inday others won't do in order to have the things
- 5:33Speaker 5: tomorrow others won't have it.
- 5:36Speaker 6: Once you get to that point, you cannot be broken anymore.
- 5:40Speaker 7: Fine that readson a wake up every day and go
- 5:42Speaker 7: get it.
- 5:43Speaker 2: Everybody's gotta dream, everybody got to go.
- 5:46Speaker 9: But when you write your.
- 5:47Speaker 8: Why down, what your why does?
- 5:49Speaker 5: When you are saying you can't quit, you can't give up, you.
- 5:52Speaker 2: Can't stop, you don't.
- 5:53Speaker 5: Need to tell you that you owe yourself.
- 6:00Speaker 11: Your life won't change unless you change. You were put
- 6:04Speaker 11: on this earth to do great things. I strongly believe
- 6:07Speaker 11: that all of us were put here to uplift ourselves
- 6:09Speaker 11: and others and experience joy every single day of our lives.
- 6:15Speaker 11: I think many of us have gotten distracted by the
- 6:17Speaker 11: many perceived problems of the world, and in doing so,
- 6:21Speaker 11: we have taken our focus away from the positive possibilities.
- 6:25Speaker 11: We can't discover solutions by focusing on problems, and so
- 6:30Speaker 11: it comes down to one thing. We must choose to
- 6:33Speaker 11: direct our energy towards positive outcomes. It's the only way
- 6:39Speaker 11: to create positive results. As you gain new experiences and
- 6:44Speaker 11: continue to focus on improving yourself, you will slowly evolve
- 6:48Speaker 11: into a greater version of yourself. However, this process never stops.
- 6:53Speaker 11: There is no end to your growth. It is important
- 6:56Speaker 11: to avoid viewing your efforts as a miss means to
- 7:00Speaker 11: an end, because that will make it very difficult for
- 7:02Speaker 11: you to enjoy the process called life. Having a destination
- 7:06Speaker 11: in mind is very important, but try to see that
- 7:09Speaker 11: destination as a stepping stone rather than a final destination.
- 7:14Speaker 11: The good news is that life does get easier as
- 7:16Speaker 11: long as you continually force yourself to improve. There will
- 7:20Speaker 11: come a time when it will seem as if your
- 7:22Speaker 11: efforts have culminated to a final resting place. That I
- 7:27Speaker 11: like to call self reliance, but it is actually just
- 7:31Speaker 11: the place where things become effortless and every moment becomes
- 7:35Speaker 11: a joy. This is a state that I have been
- 7:37Speaker 11: referring to as extreme confidence. It is not a cocky,
- 7:42Speaker 11: arrogant way of being, but rather a state of needing nothing.
- 7:46Speaker 11: This is what we all desire, whether we consciously know
- 7:49Speaker 11: it or not. Self reliance is something achieved by very few,
- 7:55Speaker 11: but it is the mark of true confidence. A self
- 7:58Speaker 11: reliant person does not feel the need to impress others
- 8:02Speaker 11: with his or her achievements or knowledge. A self reliant
- 8:07Speaker 11: person feels whole and complete and does things for no
- 8:12Speaker 11: other reason than wanting to do them. Self reliance could
- 8:17Speaker 11: be described as a lack of ego. This doesn't imply
- 8:20Speaker 11: that a self reliant person is completely enlightened, although they
- 8:26Speaker 11: might be, but rather goes to explain that they have
- 8:29Speaker 11: reached a point where they are at peace with themselves.
- 8:33Speaker 11: This is what most of us really want. When you
- 8:38Speaker 11: realize that each area of your life affects each and
- 8:40Speaker 11: every other area of your life, you will feel empowered
- 8:44Speaker 11: and motivated to take more action. Even the smallest improvement
- 8:49Speaker 11: in one area of your life. Will improve other areas
- 8:51Speaker 11: of your life that seem totally unrelated. For example, the
- 8:55Speaker 11: food you put in your body affects the chemistry of
- 8:58Speaker 11: your brain and makes you feel happy and more energetic.
- 9:02Speaker 11: An increase in mood and energy can potentially benefit your
- 9:05Speaker 11: social life because you will act more outgoing and enthusiastic.
- 9:09Speaker 11: People will want to be around you more because of
- 9:11Speaker 11: your positive energy, which could potentially lead to a career
- 9:15Speaker 11: opportunity of some sort, which in turn benefits your financial situation,
- 9:20Speaker 11: which in turn makes you even happier and more positive,
- 9:23Speaker 11: which leads you to make even better choices. One simple
- 9:27Speaker 11: decision can change your life forever. Ultimately, you are the
- 9:30Speaker 11: creator of your own reality. Decisions We make them every day,
- 9:35Speaker 11: and with every decision we make, good or bad, our
- 9:37Speaker 11: lives are defined just a little more because decisions ultimately
- 9:41Speaker 11: shape our destiny. Knowing this, why do some of us
- 9:44Speaker 11: continue to make questionable decisions. It might seem like the
- 9:48Speaker 11: proverbial angel and devil on each shoulder, who want to
- 9:52Speaker 11: sway you in one direction or the other. Every decision
- 9:56Speaker 11: we make is dependent on our values. We make decisions
- 10:01Speaker 11: that lean toward pleasure. We also make decisions that move
- 10:04Speaker 11: us away from things we've determined are not as pleasurable.
- 10:09Speaker 11: The need to avoid pain and seek pleasure drives everything
- 10:13Speaker 11: we do. People will do more to avoid pain than
- 10:16Speaker 11: they will do to gain pleasure. What lengths will we
- 10:19Speaker 11: go to It all depends on our standards and our focus.
- 10:24Speaker 11: Better decision making begins with self awareness, the ability to
- 10:31Speaker 11: identify and express our emotions and thoughts. Learning what drives
- 10:36Speaker 11: our decisions is the first step toward total control of
- 10:38Speaker 11: our emotions and lives. There are three surprising factors that
- 10:44Speaker 11: drive all the decisions we make. What you focus on,
- 10:47Speaker 11: you feel, and it's what drives decision making like nothing
- 10:50Speaker 11: else can. Will you make decisions out of fear or
- 10:54Speaker 11: out of positivity, hope, and love. Will you focus on
- 10:58Speaker 11: the past and let it define you or will you
- 11:00Speaker 11: let it go? Every moment of our lives, we're answering
- 11:04Speaker 11: three crucial questions. The first question is what are you
- 11:09Speaker 11: going to focus on? Do you focus on what you
- 11:11Speaker 11: can control or what you can't control? To engage in
- 11:16Speaker 11: better decision making, we must shift our focus to what
- 11:19Speaker 11: we can control. Do you focus more on things from
- 11:24Speaker 11: the past, present, or future to enjoy the moment and
- 11:28Speaker 11: build an extraordinary future. You must balance between present and future,
- 11:35Speaker 11: but let go of the past. The second question is
- 11:40Speaker 11: what meaning will you give to this experience? Is this
- 11:44Speaker 11: the end or the beginning? Is this a punishment or
- 11:49Speaker 11: a gift? Meaning is everything, and it defines the third question,
- 11:54Speaker 11: what am I going to do with this experience? If
- 11:57Speaker 11: you think you're being punished, going to react in a
- 12:01Speaker 11: different way than if you're seeing it as a gift.
- 12:04Speaker 11: You are the architect of your life, and the way
- 12:07Speaker 11: you choose to experience that life is what drives your decisions.
- 12:13Speaker 11: Many people think that what drives decision making is a
- 12:18Speaker 11: matter of self control, but studies have shown that self
- 12:23Speaker 11: control is either hardwired or it's not, and it can
- 12:28Speaker 11: be depleted. Therefore, self control is not as reliable as
- 12:34Speaker 11: our standards. Higher standards lead to better decision making. Raise
- 12:40Speaker 11: your standards or make a shift in your beliefs and values,
- 12:44Speaker 11: and then you will make the right choices. When you
- 12:47Speaker 11: have a decision, whether it's straightforward or complicated, you often
- 12:51Speaker 11: know what the correct choice is, but what option do
- 12:53Speaker 11: you choose. The difference between two people who make opposite
- 12:56Speaker 11: decisions in any given scenario is their own standards to
- 13:01Speaker 11: write that report, grab that cookie or not. It's all
- 13:04Speaker 11: dependent on how high your standards are. Ultimately, what drives
- 13:08Speaker 11: decision making is also linked to the level of hunger
- 13:11Speaker 11: you have. Achievers, those people who are determined to succeed,
- 13:15Speaker 11: have a hunger for success and as such will make
- 13:19Speaker 11: better decisions because their standards are so high. It's not
- 13:23Speaker 11: self control, it's their high standards that push them forward.
- 13:27Speaker 11: Achievers use failure to push through instead of letting it
- 13:31Speaker 11: push them down. Someone on the other end of the
- 13:34Speaker 11: spectrum might blame their failures on lack of self control,
- 13:39Speaker 11: but they don't have the hunger or the high level
- 13:41Speaker 11: of values to push through. However, these values can be learned.
- 13:47Speaker 11: Raising your standards, values, or beliefs is not as hard
- 13:51Speaker 11: as it may seem. Did you ever think about where
- 13:54Speaker 11: your values come from? They come from other people. It's
- 13:58Speaker 11: said that we take a little pear of everyone we
- 14:01Speaker 11: have in our lives. You decided to keep the values
- 14:04Speaker 11: and standards of various people you like, unconsciously modeling them
- 14:09Speaker 11: and rejecting the values you didn't like. Decision shape destiny,
- 14:15Speaker 11: and right now you may have a set of standards
- 14:17Speaker 11: that isn't working for you. You can change them by
- 14:20Speaker 11: consciously evaluating what drives your decisions, keeping what works, and
- 14:26Speaker 11: getting rid of what doesn't.