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How to Find Yourself Again as a Mom (She's Not Gone — She Just Went Quiet) · Your Utmost Life

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Misty Celli: I need to tell you something today, and I need you to really hear it, not just process it, not just nod along while you drive.
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Misty Celli: I mean, really let it in.
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Misty Celli: That woman you've been grieving, the one you catch yourself thinking about in the quiet moments, the one who was confident and alive and knew who she was and what she wanted, the one you see in old photos and feel that ache, because she seems so far away, like she belongs to a version of your life you can't quite reach anymore.
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Misty Celli: She is not gone.
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Misty Celli: She didn't leave you, give up on you, or decide one day that you weren't worth staying for.
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Misty Celli: Everything else just got so loud.
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Misty Celli: The needs, the demands, the daily accumulation of a life that asked everything of you and forgot to ask how you were doing.
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Misty Celli: And so she got quieter.
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Misty Celli: Not gone, but quiet.
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Misty Celli: And those are not the same things, not even close.
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Misty Celli: Today I'm giving you something I wish someone had handed me on the worst morning of my life.
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Misty Celli: A question that cracked everything open and an answer that I believe with everything in me will shift something real in you too.
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Misty Celli: Are you tired of feeling like you don't know who you are anymore?
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Misty Celli: Do you look in the mirror and catch yourself thinking, is this all there is?
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Misty Celli: Even though you know you were made for more, you are in the right place.
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Misty Celli: I'm Misty Chelli, and I help women step into their highest potential and design a life that feels true, rich, and deeply satisfying.
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Misty Celli: A life built by design, not by default.
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Misty Celli: On this podcast, you will learn the principles and strategic tools that create real lasting transformation in your health, your relationships, your confidence, your goals, and deeper parts of you like purpose, growth, love, and parenting.
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Misty Celli: This is where you begin the process of becoming your utmost self and reclaiming a life that feels like yours again.
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Misty Celli: Welcome to your Upmost Life Podcast.
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Misty Celli: So here's what I know about where you are right now, because I've been there.
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Misty Celli: Not a version of there, the actual there.
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Misty Celli: You are tired in a way that doesn't have a simple name.
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Misty Celli: It's not a physical exhaustion, although that's real too, but it's the tiredness that comes from pouring yourself out for years, for your kids, for your husband, for everyone who needs something from you.
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Misty Celli: And then one day you're looking around for yourself and you realize you can't quite find her.
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Misty Celli: And the worst part isn't even the emptiness.
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Misty Celli: The worst part is the shame that lives right underneath it.
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Misty Celli: That quiet, relentless voice that says, You did this, you let this happen, you gave yourself away, and now she's gone, and it's your fault.
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Misty Celli: And so you carry both things at once: the grief of losing her and the guilt of believing you caused it.
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Misty Celli: And that is an enormous weight to carry.
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Misty Celli: However, however heavy it looks from the outside, the inside is heavier, and you've been carrying it largely alone.
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Misty Celli: Because how do you explain to someone that you feel like a stranger in your own life?
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Misty Celli: How do you say out loud, I have everything and I feel nothing without sounding ungrateful, without sounding like the problem.
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Misty Celli: So you don't say it, you keep it.
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Misty Celli: You show up, you keep being everything to everyone else who needs you to be, and she gets quieter.
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Misty Celli: I see that.
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Misty Celli: I see you.
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Misty Celli: And before I say anything else, what you're feeling is not weakness.
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Misty Celli: It is not ingratitude or evidence that something is fundamentally broken in you.
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Misty Celli: It is the sound of a woman who has been running unempted for so long.
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Misty Celli: She's forgotten what full feels like.
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Misty Celli: And that is not a character flaw.
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Misty Celli: That is a human being who needs someone to come alongside her and say, Here, let me show you what I found.
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Misty Celli: That's why I'm here today.
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Misty Celli: I want to ask you something, and I want you to actually sit with it rather than answer it quickly, because the quick answer and the true answer are usually different.
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Misty Celli: When you imagine the woman you used to be or the woman you thought you would be by now, what do you feel?
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Misty Celli: Because I'm guessing it's not simple.
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Misty Celli: I'm guessing there is this complicated mix of longing and grief and something that feels almost like embarrassment.
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Misty Celli: Like you should be further along or you should have it figured out by now.
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Misty Celli: Other women seem to have held on to themselves through the hard seasons, and you somehow didn't, and you're not entirely sure what that says about you.
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Misty Celli: And underneath all of that, underneath the longing and the grief and the embarrassment, there is a belief that sits quietly running the show.
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Misty Celli: A belief so embedded you might not even recognize it as a belief.
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Misty Celli: You might just recognize it as the truth.
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Misty Celli: The belief is this she's gone.
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Misty Celli: The woman I used to be, the one with confidence and aliveness and the sense of herself, she left.
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Misty Celli: And I don't know if I can get her back.
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Misty Celli: I don't know if there's anything left to get back.
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Misty Celli: I think I might just be too far gone.
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Misty Celli: I know that belief.
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Misty Celli: I know exactly how it sits in your chest, how it masquerades as realism, how it sounds after a while, like just an honest assessment of the situation.
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Misty Celli: But I need to tell you something about that belief.
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Misty Celli: And I need you to hear this not as a motivational statement and not as something I'm saying to make you feel better, but as something I know to be true because I lived the question and I cracked it open.
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Misty Celli: That belief is not the truth about you.
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Misty Celli: It is a conclusion you reached in the dark, and conclusions reached in the dark deserve to be examined in the light.
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Misty Celli: Here's what that belief is actually costing you.
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Misty Celli: And I'm not going to soften this because you deserve the honest version.
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Misty Celli: Right now, today, this week, that belief is costing you your own presence in your own life.
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Misty Celli: You're in the room, but you're not really there, are you?
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Misty Celli: You're going through the motions, doing the things, showing up for everyone.
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Misty Celli: And somewhere underneath all of it, there is a woman watching herself live her life from behind glass, wondering when she gets to come back.
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Misty Celli: That's the immediate cost, the present, the aliveness, the feeling of being fully in your own body on your ordinary afternoon.
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Misty Celli: But underneath that, there's a cost that she doesn't talk about as much.
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Misty Celli: That belief, she's too far gone, it's too late.
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Misty Celli: I don't even know where to start.
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Misty Celli: That belief doesn't just steal her presence, it steals her permission.
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Misty Celli: It tells her that wanting more is greedy, that reaching for herself is selfish, that the woman she used to be was a luxury she had before the real responsibilities came.
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Misty Celli: She stops even letting herself want it clearly.
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Misty Celli: She learns to manage the ache instead of listening to it.
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Misty Celli: And that quiet act of managing the ache instead of following it is one of the most expensive things a woman can do.
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Misty Celli: And then there's the cost that lives furthest out, the one she doesn't let herself look at directly.
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Misty Celli: But I need you to look at it today because it matters.
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Misty Celli: Five years from now, if nothing changes, if she keeps going through the motions, if the belief that it's too late keeps running the show, where is she?
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Misty Celli: She's still there, but she's older, more practiced at managing the ache.
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Misty Celli: Her kids are five years bigger and five years closer to leaving, and she spent those years showing up for them without ever fully arriving for herself.
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Misty Celli: Her daughter is watching her, and what her daughter is learning, not from what she says, but from what she has done, is what a woman does with herself when the world asks too much of her.
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Misty Celli: She's learning the answer is to go quiet.
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Misty Celli: That's the real cost.
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Misty Celli: Not just her life, her daughter's script.
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Misty Celli: I'm not saying that to punish you.
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Misty Celli: I'm saying it because you already feel it at some level, and it deserves to be said out loud.
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Misty Celli: The age you feel isn't random.
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Misty Celli: It's information.
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Misty Celli: It's been telling you something important for years, and it is time to start listening.
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Misty Celli: Now, that belief, I'm too far gone, I want to honor it before I dismantle it.
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Misty Celli: Because it didn't come from nowhere.
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Misty Celli: It came from the real evidence.
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Misty Celli: Years of feeling disconnected, years of reaching and not finding her.
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Misty Celli: That evidence is real.
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Misty Celli: What you feel is real.
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Misty Celli: And giving what you felt, the conclusion your mind drew, comes complete sense.
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Misty Celli: But that conclusion is not the only one available.
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Misty Celli: It just happens to be the one that you made in the dark.
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Misty Celli: And when you hold it up to the light, it doesn't hold.
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Misty Celli: She didn't leave.
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Misty Celli: She went quiet.
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Misty Celli: And quiet has a way back.
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Misty Celli: I want to tell you about a morning that I don't talk about easily.
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Misty Celli: For years, I had been pouring myself into my family, my husband, my kids, the life that we were building together, and it was good.
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Misty Celli: And I was good at it.
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Misty Celli: I want to be honest about that because it isn't a story about a woman who resented her family.
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Misty Celli: I love them deeply, completely.
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Misty Celli: That love was real.
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Misty Celli: But underneath the loving, underneath the showing up and planning and giving, there was something I wanted that I had stopped letting myself name.
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Misty Celli: Not a different life, not different people, just myself.
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Misty Celli: I wanted to feel like a person who mattered beyond what she did for everyone else.
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Misty Celli: I wanted to recognize my own face.
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Misty Celli: I wanted to move through a day and feel like I was choosing it, not just surviving it.
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Misty Celli: That was the hunger.
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Misty Celli: Simple and human and real.
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Misty Celli: And I couldn't get there because I had made a decision I didn't realize that I was making, not consciously, not out loud, but in the daily accumulation of a thousand small choices.
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Misty Celli: I had decided that they mattered more than me, that their needs were real and mine were optional.
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Misty Celli: That a good mother, a good wife, a good woman puts herself last.
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Misty Celli: And the wall I kept running into every time I tried to reach for myself was that belief.
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Misty Celli: This is what love looks like.
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Misty Celli: Wanting more for yourself is selfish.
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Misty Celli: You don't get to have both.
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Misty Celli: And so I kept choosing everyone else.
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Misty Celli: And I disappeared behind the choosing.
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Misty Celli: Then, one ordinary Thursday morning, I dropped my kids off at school and pulled up to a red light.
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Misty Celli: And there, in the car beside me, was a woman in a silver Mercedes, and she was radiant.
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Misty Celli: That's the only word.
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Misty Celli: She was laughing at something, completely at ease with herself, full of kind of this liveness that hit me like a physical thing.
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Misty Celli: And I sat in my car and I looked at her and something in me just shattered.
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Misty Celli: Not because of her.
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Misty Celli: She didn't do anything wrong, but in that moment looking at her, I saw what alive looked like from the outside.
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Misty Celli: And I felt the distance between us like a physical ache.
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Misty Celli: I could hear the silence in my own car where something used to be.
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Misty Celli: I could feel the weight I'd been carrying that I'd gotten so used to, I'd stopped noticing it.
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Misty Celli: I looked at her laughing and I thought, I used to look like that.
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Misty Celli: I used to sound like that.
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Misty Celli: I drove home and I sat in my own silence and I asked myself a question I think about to this day.
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Misty Celli: Does self-worth have an expiration date?
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Misty Celli: Think about that for a second.
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Misty Celli: Really think about it.
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Misty Celli: Because my first instinct in that darkness, that hollow morning, was yes, yes, it must.
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Misty Celli: Because I had it once and now I don't.
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Misty Celli: Therefore, it must run out.
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Misty Celli: It must get used up somehow.
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Misty Celli: It must expire.
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Misty Celli: But the moment I actually examined that thought, the moment that I held it up to the light, instead of just accepting it as true, something happened.
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Misty Celli: I couldn't find the evidence for it.
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Misty Celli: I couldn't find a single reason why self-worth would work like milk, why confidence and aliveness and a sense of yourself would be finite resource that gets depleted and then just simply is gone.
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Misty Celli: And if it doesn't expire, then the next question is where did it go?
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Misty Celli: That question cracked everything open because it shifted the entire premise.
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Misty Celli: It moved me from she's gone to she's somewhere, from I lost her to she got lost.
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Misty Celli: And those are not the same thing.
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Misty Celli: Gone means over, lost means findable.
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Misty Celli: And on an ordinary Tuesday, not long after that, I sat down with my coffee before everyone else was awake and I did something I hadn't done in years.
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Misty Celli: I just sat, not with my phone, not with a mental list.
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Misty Celli: I sat in the quiet and I asked myself what I actually wanted, not what I should want, not what would make everyone else comfortable, but what I wanted.
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Misty Celli: And she answered quietly, but she answered.
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Misty Celli: That's when I understood it.
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Misty Celli: She hadn't left, she had just gotten so quiet for so long that I had stopped listening.
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Misty Celli: And that moment I got still enough to hear her.
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Misty Celli: She was right there.
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Misty Celli: She had always been right there waiting.
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Misty Celli: Your rhythm never stops.
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Misty Celli: It just gets drowned out.
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Misty Celli: And findable, even when you can't see the path yet, means there is still something to reach for.
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Misty Celli: Now I want to come back to that belief that I'm too far gone.
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Misty Celli: I don't know if she's still in there, because I want to do something with it.
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Misty Celli: I'm not going to argue with it, but here's what I know about that belief.
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Misty Celli: It came from evidence, real evidence, years of feeling disconnected, years of not recognizing yourself, years of reaching for that aliveness and not finding it.
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Misty Celli: Given what you felt, the conclusion your mind drew makes complete sense.
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Misty Celli: But the evidence that led you to that conclusion is not the only evidence available.
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Misty Celli: It's just the evidence you've been closest to, that you've been looking at.
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Misty Celli: So I want to offer you a different place to look.
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Misty Celli: Think about the ache itself, that specific hollow longing you feel when you think about her.
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Misty Celli: I want you to consider what that ache actually is telling you, because I don't think it's telling you what you've been assuming it is.
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Misty Celli: When you lose someone, someone that we love, truly lose them.
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Misty Celli: Grief is one of the most sacred things we carry.
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Misty Celli: It honors what's real, but the longing you feel for yourself, that's a different kind of signal entirely.
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Misty Celli: That's not the weight of something permanently gone.
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Misty Celli: That is the feeling of something still alive in you, still present, still close enough to ache.
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Misty Celli: You can feel the distance between where you are and where she is, and that distance is not the same thing as absence.
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Misty Celli: She is still in there, and the fact that you miss her this much is her reaching back.
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Misty Celli: Now think about the moments, not just the big ones, the small ones.
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Misty Celli: The moment a piece of music moved through you, and just for a second you forgot to be tired.
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Misty Celli: The moment that you laughed, really laughed, and it felt like something unlocked.
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Misty Celli: The moment you had a strong opinion about something before you talked yourself out of saying it out loud, those moments are not accidents.
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Misty Celli: Those are not just random pieces.
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Misty Celli: Those are her, those flickers, those glimpses.
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Misty Celli: That is a woman whose rhythm never stopped playing.
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Misty Celli: You just can't hear it clearly from where you are standing right now, because everything else is so loud.
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Misty Celli: The moment you get still enough, the moment you stop filling every space with noise and obligation and everyone else's needs, she gets louder.
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Misty Celli: Not because she came back, because she never left, but because you are actually listening for her.
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Misty Celli: Self-worth doesn't have an expiration date.
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Misty Celli: It doesn't get used up, it doesn't run out, it gets buried, and buried, unlike gone, has a way back.
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Misty Celli: You are not too far gone.
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Misty Celli: You are too close to the noise, and those are not the same thing.
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Misty Celli: I know what you might be thinking right now because I've thought it too.
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Misty Celli: That's a beautiful story, Misty.
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Misty Celli: But my situation is actually different.
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Misty Celli: I've been at this for longer, my circumstances are more complicated, and I've tried to find my way back before and it didn't work.
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Misty Celli: And I cannot afford to hope again and be wrong.
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Misty Celli: I hear that.
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Misty Celli: I really do.
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Misty Celli: And I'm not going to tell you that you're wrong for thinking it, but I want to name what that thought actually is because it's not a rational assessment of your situation, it's your protection mechanism.
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Misty Celli: It is the part of you that has been disappointed before deciding that skepticism is safer than hope.
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Misty Celli: And that makes complete sense.
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Misty Celli: But when you've reached and not found what you're reaching for, the smart thing feels like stop reaching.
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Misty Celli: But here's what I know about that.
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Misty Celli: The attempts that didn't work, every single one of them, were behavior attempts.
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Misty Celli: They were strategies, new routines, new goals, new ways of organizing your time.
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Misty Celli: And they didn't fail because you're uniquely unfixable.
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Misty Celli: They failed because they started at the wrong floor.
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Misty Celli: You cannot rearrange the furniture in a house that hasn't been built yet.
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Misty Celli: You have to start with the foundation, and the foundation is identity, who you are, not what you do.
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Misty Celli: Every previous attempt started at the roof and worked down.
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Misty Celli: What I'm talking about is starting at the ground floor.
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Misty Celli: And your situation, I hear you, it's complicated.
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Misty Celli: There are real constraints, real people depending on you, real history that is genuinely hard.
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Misty Celli: All of that is true.
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Misty Celli: And complexity is the circumstance.
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Misty Celli: The decision to come back to yourself is the variable.
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Misty Celli: Those are not the same thing.
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Misty Celli: And one does not cancel out the other.
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Misty Celli: You don't have to start with hope.
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Misty Celli: Hope can come later.
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Misty Celli: Start with curiosity.
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Misty Celli: Just what if she's still in there?
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Misty Celli: That question requires nothing from you except a willingness to ask it.
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Misty Celli: And you've already done that, haven't you?
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Misty Celli: You pressed play.
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Misty Celli: That was her.
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Misty Celli: And here's what I need you to hold alongside that.
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Misty Celli: The waiting has a cost, not a dramatic one, not one that announces itself.
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Misty Celli: It is a quiet cost, the kind that adds up while you're busy managing everything else.
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Misty Celli: Every year you spend convincing yourself it's too late or not the right time or too complicated.
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Misty Celli: That is a year that you spend living a half-life, not a whole life.
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Misty Celli: She's been patient, more patient than she needed to be, but time is the one thing that does not get refunded.
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Misty Celli: Your kids are watching you right now, not listening, watching.
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Misty Celli: They are learning what a woman does with herself when life gets hard and loud and asks too much.
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Misty Celli: They are building their script from yours.
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Misty Celli: And the most powerful thing you can give them, more than any lesson you'll ever teach out loud, is the sight of their mother choosing herself, not instead of them, for them and for her.
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Misty Celli: Been waiting long enough, and so have you.
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Misty Celli: I want you to come somewhere with me for a moment, and I want you to actually let yourself feel this rather than immediately ask yourself whether it's possible for you.
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Misty Celli: Your brain is going to want to do that, and we've already talked about why.
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Misty Celli: So just come with me.
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Misty Celli: You can evaluate later.
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Misty Celli: Think about where you are this moment.
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Misty Celli: Maybe you're driving or folding laundry or making dinner.
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Misty Celli: You can feel the weight of the day pulling at you, the list, the needs, the noise that perhaps hasn't started yet, but you already know is coming.
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Misty Celli: Feel that for a second.
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Misty Celli: That's your Tuesday right now.
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Misty Celli: Hold it.
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Misty Celli: Now, imagine a morning not far from now.
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Misty Celli: Same house, same life, same people, where you wake up and the first thing you feel is yourself.
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Misty Celli: Not the inventory, not the weight, just you, your own breath, your own presence, like coming home to a room you forgot you had.
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Misty Celli: You make your coffee and you sit down and you don't immediately reach for your phone.
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Misty Celli: You just sit in the quiet and you feel at home.
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Misty Celli: Not in the house, but in yourself, like something has settled that was unsettled for a very long time.
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Misty Celli: And it's not that life got easier, the kids still need things, your husband still needs things, the calendar is still full, but you move through all of it differently because you can feel your own rhythm underneath it.
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Misty Celli: Steady, yours, not anyone else's tempo, not the pace the world set for you, yours.
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Misty Celli: And the difference between surviving your day and living your day in that rhythm, the moment you can feel it, everything around changes.
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Misty Celli: Your daughter comes downstairs and you look at her, and the love you feel isn't tangled up with exhaustion and obligation.
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Misty Celli: It's clean, it's full.
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Misty Celli: It's the love of a woman who has something to give because she has something left and she feels it.
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Misty Celli: Children always feel it.
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Misty Celli: Something in the room is lighter, and she can't name it, but she will carry it forward.
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Misty Celli: She is learning right now what a woman looks like when she knows who she is.
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Misty Celli: She is building that into her own blueprint.
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Misty Celli: You move through your day and you have opinions, you have choices that are yours.
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Misty Celli: You catch yourself laughing, really laughing, and it doesn't feel foreign anymore.
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Misty Celli: It feels like something that was always supposed to be there.
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Misty Celli: Just turned back up.
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Misty Celli: That is not a fantasy.
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Misty Celli: That is not a version of you that requires a different history or a different life or different people.
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Misty Celli: That is you, the real you, the one whose rhythm never stopped, living at full volume again in the same house with the same people on an ordinary Tuesday.
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Misty Celli: And here's what I want you to understand about that vision.
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Misty Celli: You don't have to build her from scratch.
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Misty Celli: You have to uncover her.
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Misty Celli: The foundation is already there.
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Misty Celli: The rhythm is already there, underneath the noise, underneath the obligations, underneath everything that got loud while she got quiet.
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Misty Celli: She is already there, waiting.
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Misty Celli: The moment that you decide to listen, she gets louder.
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Misty Celli: That's not hope.
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Misty Celli: That's just how it works.
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Misty Celli: You don't have to become her.
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Misty Celli: You just have to remember her.
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Misty Celli: And you cannot remember something that you never experienced.
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Misty Celli: She exists, she is waiting, and she is so much closer than you think.
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Misty Celli: Here's what I want you to do before you go.
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Misty Celli: I want you to ask yourself the question that I asked myself at the red light, not as rhetorical exercise, but as a real inquiry.
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Misty Celli: Sit with it, let it land.
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Misty Celli: Does self-worth have an expiration date?
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Misty Celli: And when your mind goes looking for the evidence, really looking and honestly looking, I think you're going to find what I found.
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Misty Celli: There isn't any evidence that what you've been calling gone is actually quiet.
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Misty Celli: And quiet has a way back.
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Misty Celli: It has a volume.
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Misty Celli: You can turn it up.
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Misty Celli: Here's what we need to do next.
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Misty Celli: Thursday, I'm going to release the next episode, and we are going to talk about something I think will be the missing piece for you.
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Misty Celli: Because now that you know she still exists, that she's still there, the question becomes: what has been drowning her out?
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Misty Celli: Until we can name that, we can't turn the volume down.
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Misty Celli: And turning the volume down on everything that isn't her, that's where the real work begins.
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Misty Celli: That's exactly what we're greeting into on Thursday, and I don't want you to miss it.
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Misty Celli: Subscribe if you haven't already so it lands in your feed automatically and share this episode.
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Misty Celli: If you know a woman who's been quietly grieving the woman she used to be, send this to her today because she needs to hear that the woman she's been missing hasn't left.
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Misty Celli: She just went quiet, and quiet is not gone.
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Misty Celli: Before you go, I want to give you something to carry out of here: a declaration.
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Misty Celli: Say this out loud or say it inside yourself, but say it like you mean it, because it's true.
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Misty Celli: I am a woman whose utmost self is already inside her.
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Misty Celli: She's been whispering to me this whole time, and now I hear her.
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Misty Celli: Say that.
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Misty Celli: Own that.
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Misty Celli: Because the moment you do, something shifts.
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Misty Celli: It's small, it's real, it's yours.
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Misty Celli: And one more thing, because I know what's coming within the hour, maybe sooner, the old voice is going to come back.
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Misty Celli: The one that says, Who do you think you are?
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Misty Celli: You've tried this before, and you don't get your hopes up because it's not going to happen for you.
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Misty Celli: And I want you to be ready for it.
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Misty Celli: That voice is not the truth.
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Misty Celli: That voice is not about you.
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Misty Celli: That is the identity eraser effect.
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Misty Celli: The thing that gets louder every time you get close.
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Misty Celli: Answer it with this self worth doesn't expire, it gets buried.
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Misty Celli: And I know how to dig.
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Misty Celli: You are more than everyone's everything.
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Misty Celli: You are someone.
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Misty Celli: I'll see you Thursday.