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“Your MBTI & The ‘Toxic’ Trait Nobody Talks About (And How to Heal It)” · A Capture Deep Vibs A Positive Space For Inspiration And Embracing Of Heart

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  Speaker 1: Have you ever taken a Myers-Briggs type indicator test or
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  Speaker 1: MBTI test? It's that weird four-letter combo that tells you
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  Speaker 1: your personality type and different tendencies or interests you may have. Now,
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  Speaker 1: mostly everyone thinks they have a winning personality, me included,
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  Speaker 1: but we all have a personality trait or two that
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  Speaker 1: can be a bit, well, toxic. No one wants to
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  Speaker 1: believe a trait of theirs is toxic, but it can
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  Speaker 1: be important to know which traits of yours are. So
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  Speaker 1: let's take a look at your most toxic trait based
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  Speaker 1: on your MBTI personality type and what you can do
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  Speaker 1: to change it. Let's go. ISTP, the virtuoso. The virtuoso
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  Speaker 1: is someone who is optimistic, creative, yet practical, great at prioritizing,
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  Speaker 1: and they're the person you want in a major crisis.
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  Speaker 1: Because of their spontaneity, they can get easily bored, not
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  Speaker 1: be one to commit to something, and engage in risky
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  Speaker 1: behavior to spike their interest. This can lead to a
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  Speaker 1: lot of unfinished things or even failed relationships and friendships.
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  Speaker 1: If this sounds like you, try starting small. Is there
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  Speaker 1: a book, a hobby, or even a DIY project that
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  Speaker 1: you've been wanting to complete? Schedule an hour every weekend
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  Speaker 1: where you'll keep working on that thing, whatever it is,
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  Speaker 1: until you finish it. After a few weeks, try two
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  Speaker 1: hours or even longer. You can even practice making a
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  Speaker 1: small promise to a friend and following through. This can
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  Speaker 1: help you practice committing. ISFP, the adventurer. The adventurer may
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  Speaker 1: sound like an Indiana Jones copy, but they're actually the passionate, imaginative,
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  Speaker 1: artistic person who adventures in their mind. The problem with
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  Speaker 1: this is that an adventurer can be way too independent
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  Speaker 1: and become stressed. They can also become easily overwhelmed by
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  Speaker 1: their emotions. If this is you, try hanging out with
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  Speaker 1: one or two friends at once instead of a group.
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  Speaker 1: If you're in a relationship, Maybe ask your partner if
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  Speaker 1: they can help with the chores around the house or
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  Speaker 1: to take charge of dinner one night. If your emotions
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  Speaker 1: are your kryptonite, try journaling. If a really strong emotion
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  Speaker 1: comes up, grab your phone and type it out. What
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  Speaker 1: do you feel, why, and what can you do about it?
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  Speaker 1: This can help you feel less overwhelmed. Up next is ESTP,
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  Speaker 1: the entrepreneur. The entrepreneur is a bold, direct, and practical
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  Speaker 1: kind of person. They're very perceptive and sociable as well. However,
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  Speaker 1: since they're so rooted in their practicality, they can sometimes
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  Speaker 1: forget that people have emotions and be a little impatient
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  Speaker 1: with others. They can also become so focused on solving
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  Speaker 1: the problem at hand that they miss the big picture.
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  Speaker 1: Does this sound a bit like you? If so, it's cheesy,
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  Speaker 1: but try to put yourself in the other person's shoes.
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  Speaker 1: How might the other person feel or what might they think?
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  Speaker 1: This can help bring the entrepreneur back to remembering that
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  Speaker 1: everyone has feelings. ESFP, the entertainer. The entertainer is someone
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  Speaker 1: who defies tradition and opts for more original things. They
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  Speaker 1: love aesthetics. They love putting on a show, literally or figuratively.
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  Speaker 1: And they have excellent people skills, unlike some of the
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  Speaker 1: personalities we've mentioned already. The entertainer is actually really emotional
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  Speaker 1: and can be more sensitive than others to conflict. In
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  Speaker 1: a study centered around people-pleasing, it was discovered that the
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  Speaker 1: main reason for this is self-preservation. If I do what
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  Speaker 1: others want, there can't be any conflict. So how do
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  Speaker 1: you fix this one? Again, start small. Let's say you
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  Speaker 1: and a friend go to Starbucks for a quick pick-me-up.
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  Speaker 1: Your friend says, I'm getting an iced coffee. You want
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  Speaker 1: the same? The typical entertainer response would be, sure, sounds good,
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  Speaker 1: but not this time. Politely let them know that their
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  Speaker 1: option sounds great, but you've got your eye on something else.
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  Speaker 1: Start politely bringing up your opinion in conversation to see
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  Speaker 1: how it's received. ESTJ, the executive. The executive, this person
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  Speaker 1: is dedicated with a strong will. They're direct, fantastic with organization,
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  Speaker 1: and reliable. Because they're so rigid and logical, this can
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  Speaker 1: make them closed off to more alternative or unconventional methods.
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  Speaker 1: They can also be somewhat stubborn, which makes them a
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  Speaker 1: bit uptight, unable to relax, and even unable to express emotions.
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  Speaker 1: For this, it's very important the executive remembers that they
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  Speaker 1: can have their own methods and beliefs. But that doesn't
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  Speaker 1: mean someone else's methods or beliefs aren't valuable or equally correct.
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  Speaker 1: Next time someone offers a suggestion on how to do something,
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  Speaker 1: instead of immediately rejecting it, try it out. If you
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  Speaker 1: don't like it, that's cool. Thank the person for showing
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  Speaker 1: you another way of doing something and move on. This
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  Speaker 1: can help you open up to new ideas and understand
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  Speaker 1: that agreement doesn't have to be present for respect. ISFJ,
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  Speaker 1: The Defender. The defender is another reliable, observant personality. They're supportive, enthusiastic,
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  Speaker 1: and aren't afraid to get their hands dirty. Since they're
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  Speaker 1: always so eager to help others, sometimes they can put
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  Speaker 1: themselves second or third or seventh, never bringing their feelings up.
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  Speaker 1: They can also be way too humble, not even taking
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  Speaker 1: credit or praise for their own accomplishments. If you're a
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  Speaker 1: defender and are a bit too modest, the next time
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  Speaker 1: someone tells you what a great job you did, give
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  Speaker 1: them a quick thank you. Then you can go on
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  Speaker 1: to say who else helped you. The important part is
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  Speaker 1: making sure you acknowledge that you took part in the
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  Speaker 1: thing you're praised for. ISTJ, the logistician. The logistician is
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  Speaker 1: the leader of the pack. Think of the stereotype of
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  Speaker 1: eldest child, responsible, organized, practical, and good at pretty much everything.
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  Speaker 1: Because they're another super rigid personality, they can sometimes be
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  Speaker 1: too rigid and not want to try new things, meet
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  Speaker 1: new people, or really do anything outside of the routines.
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  Speaker 1: Expansion can reverse this. But again, the key is baby steps.
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  Speaker 1: Say the logistician eats the same thing for breakfast 20
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  Speaker 1: years straight. Bowl of cereal and have a grapefruit. Maybe
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  Speaker 1: one day they can try some scrambled eggs and toast.
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  Speaker 1: If they don't like it, that's okay. There's always tomorrow.
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  Speaker 1: Push your boundaries little by little. Maybe make it a game.
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  Speaker 1: What's something you can change up about your day? Let
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  Speaker 1: us know down below. E-S-F-J. The console. The console is
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  Speaker 1: a nice mix of dutiful and practical. Plus, they're loyal, warm,
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  Speaker 1: and great with people and social cues. They couldn't have
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  Speaker 1: a toxic trait, right? Let's ask the audience. Ding, ding, ding.
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  Speaker 1: The audience got it right. Yeah, they do. The console
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  Speaker 1: can be preoccupied with their social status and how others
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  Speaker 1: perceive them. This can cause them to be overly needy
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  Speaker 1: for validation and be overly selfless to be perceived as good.
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  Speaker 1: If this sounds like you, try this to help boost
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  Speaker 1: your self-confidence. When you wake up, say out loud or
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  Speaker 1: write down at least three positive things about yourself or
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  Speaker 1: your life and take a moment to appreciate those things.
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  Speaker 1: This is called gratitude, which, according to some studies on
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  Speaker 1: the effects of, can lead to stronger senses of community
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  Speaker 1: and stronger relationships. Ian F.P., the campaigner. The campaigner is
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  Speaker 1: a perceptive, curious person who is often enthusiastic. They know
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  Speaker 1: how to have fun and be in the moment. Because
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  Speaker 1: of their happy outlook on life, it can be said
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  Speaker 1: that they wear rose-colored glasses, which cause them to make
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  Speaker 1: naive decisions. Although with good intentions, campaigners can benefit from
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  Speaker 1: weighing pros and cons when in a situation where they
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  Speaker 1: want to believe the best in someone. You can write
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  Speaker 1: these pros and cons down, type it on a note
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  Speaker 1: on your phone, or even just say them out loud.
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  Speaker 1: Once you've done so, make a decision based on your
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  Speaker 1: list and which decisions are in your best interest. instead
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  Speaker 1: of based on your emotions. INFP, the mediator. The mediator
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  Speaker 1: is an open-minded, generous, creative, and passionate person. However, these
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  Speaker 1: traits can cause them to self-isolate and become far too
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  Speaker 1: introverted due to burnout. They're also really critical of themselves,
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  Speaker 1: which can make them people-pleased for acceptance. This can sometimes
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  Speaker 1: be a toxic trait. Coming in hot with another list suggestion.
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  Speaker 1: Instead of pros and cons, the mediator can make a
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  Speaker 1: list of things they truly like or love about themselves
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  Speaker 1: to enhance their self-confidence. When it comes to that self-isolation,
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  Speaker 1: the mediator should schedule one social event every one to
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  Speaker 1: two weeks, depending on your social battery. This can be
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  Speaker 1: a FaceTime, phone call, or a good old-fashioned meetup. Of course,
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  Speaker 1: be safe out there. This can help to break up
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  Speaker 1: the need to withdraw and help keep a good balance. ENFJ.
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  Speaker 1: The Protagonist. The protagonist is a passionate person with strong opinions,
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  Speaker 1: but they're open to other opinions too. They're usually the
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  Speaker 1: leader of the group and wanna see positive change. Because
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  Speaker 1: of that deep-rooted need to correct everything wrong they see,
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  Speaker 1: they can become overly idealistic and a tad unrealistic. They
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  Speaker 1: also come off a bit condescending, especially if they believe
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  Speaker 1: they're always right. For the protagonist, remembering to ask little
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  Speaker 1: questions to include others can really be a game changer.
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  Speaker 1: Let's say someone asked the protagonist for advice on buying
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  Speaker 1: a car. Instead of launching into your dissertation, you might ask,
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  Speaker 1: what was your plan? Another option is explaining your tips
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  Speaker 1: and tricks. Then the protagonist can ask, what do you think?
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  Speaker 1: It helps remind the protagonist they're not always the main character. INFJ,
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  Speaker 1: the advocate. The advocate is always looking outside the box.
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  Speaker 1: They're incredibly insightful and not interested in materialistic or superficial things.
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  Speaker 1: Because of the advocates want to avoid the mundane, They're
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  Speaker 1: always searching for the next big thing. This can cause
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  Speaker 1: toxic perfectionism, which can lead to emotional burnout. Self-care and
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  Speaker 1: rest are the advocate's friends. The advocate needs to be
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  Speaker 1: sure to schedule time for themselves at least once per week.
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  Speaker 1: This can be a bath, a journal session, a nap,
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  Speaker 1: a massage. Time to play your favorite video. game, read,
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  Speaker 1: whatever fills your cup. It's okay to take time to rest, advocate.
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  Speaker 1: This will help you give back as you love so
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  Speaker 1: much to do. INTJ, the architect. The architect likes to
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  Speaker 1: break things down rationally due to their curious nature, and
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  Speaker 1: they rarely base things off anything other than facts. Because
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  Speaker 1: of this affinity to facts, architects can completely dismiss emotion
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  Speaker 1: and be a bit arrogant, thinking they're always right. This
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  Speaker 1: can be a bit toxic. If you're an architect and
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  Speaker 1: are in a situation where you may not understand someone's
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  Speaker 1: emotions or haven't acknowledged them at all, pretend you're a
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  Speaker 1: TV therapist and ask the ever so popular question, and
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  Speaker 1: how does that make you feel? When you ask that
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  Speaker 1: open question, it allows the other person to explain their
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  Speaker 1: stance for you, to factor into your response. INTP. The logician.
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  Speaker 1: The logician is just what it sounds like. They're the logical, analytical,
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  Speaker 1: curious type. But they're also open-minded to collaborations and others' views.
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  Speaker 1: Because the logician is able to analyze multiple options at once,
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  Speaker 1: this can also lead to toxic perfectionism and hyper-focusing on
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  Speaker 1: how these things can be improved, even when they're not broken.
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  Speaker 1: They can also take rejection pretty rough if their idea
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  Speaker 1: isn't chosen. How can we detoxify this? The logician can
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  Speaker 1: practice gratitude to give thanks for the good things in
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  Speaker 1: their life and can help to stop the search to
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  Speaker 1: always improve what doesn't need improvement. Try saying thank you
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  Speaker 1: for three specific things each day. Just try it and
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  Speaker 1: let us know how it feels. What did you say
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  Speaker 1: thank you for? ENTJ, the commander. The commander is another
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  Speaker 1: classic leader type, a good old Steve Rogers. If you know,
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  Speaker 1: you know. And who doesn't know Captain America? The commander
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  Speaker 1: is an efficient, confident, strategic, and strong-willed personality who loves
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  Speaker 1: good hard work and is often charming. The toxic side
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  Speaker 1: of their strong will is being stubborn or even showing
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  Speaker 1: dominance over those who oppose them. This can be incredibly
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  Speaker 1: toxic and off-putting. As a leader type, it's important to
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  Speaker 1: remember all opinions on the team are valuable. To reduce
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  Speaker 1: this toxic trait, the commander can practice using checks and balances,
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  Speaker 1: whether it's a partner, a friend, a family member, or
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  Speaker 1: just someone who you trust. You can always ask them
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  Speaker 1: what they think of your idea. This way, you can
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  Speaker 1: get the real feedback and adjust as needed. ENTP, the debater.
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  Speaker 1: The debater is that person who can create a well-thought-out
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  Speaker 1: speech and deliver it while charming a crowd. They love
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  Speaker 1: learning new things, and they're especially quick-witted because the debater is, well,
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  Speaker 1: a debater. They love challenging ideas. Once in a while,
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  Speaker 1: this is a healthy trait, but the debater likes to
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  Speaker 1: challenge almost everything. This flows into the toxic category. To
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  Speaker 1: reduce this toxic trait, the debater can ask themselves whether
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  Speaker 1: their opinion has been asked for. In some situations, especially
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  Speaker 1: emotionally charged ones, someone may just want you to listen
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  Speaker 1: rather than give advice. If the debater is unsure, they
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  Speaker 1: can straight up ask, would you like my opinion? If
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  Speaker 1: the answer is no, the debater should respond along the
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  Speaker 1: lines of, okay, I'm here to listen. This can help
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  Speaker 1: reduce that toxic trait. There are a lot of different
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  Speaker 1: personalities out there, and you might even be a mix
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  Speaker 1: of a few of these. Do you know your MBTI personality?
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  Speaker 1: If not, jump over to 16personalities. com to take a free
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  Speaker 1: MBTI quiz. What personality are you? Do you have any
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  Speaker 1: other tips to minimize your toxic trait? Let us know
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  Speaker 1: down below. And as always, keep an eye on Psy
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