Control vs Self-Trust: Why High-Achieving Women Struggle to Let Go (Ep 87)

The Secret Formula of Femininity · Feb 24, 2026 · 37m

Do you trust yourself…

or do you just control everything?

In this episode - where we address Uncomfortable Questions High-Achieving Women Avoid - Dr. Nicole Monteiro explores the powerful (and often hidden) tension between self-trust and hyper-vigilance.

Many high-achieving women believe they are intuitive and strong — but what if constant overthinking, managing, and micromanaging isn’t self-trust at all?

What if it’s anxiety in disguise?

In this episode, we unpack:

• The difference between self-trust and control

• Why strong women confuse intuition with overthinking

• The nervous system…