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- Forged In The Dark: Is it time to quit? Yes, I just said that right. Is it time to quit? Is it time to surrender? Is it time to let go? Because the question on my mind today is, are you married to what's not working? Welcome to Forged in the Dark. I'm your host, Jamie. Let's dig in. Now I really do wish there were a way for you to be a fly on on my wall and and actually witness the conversations that I have with people. I I used to one on one coach. ⁓ I used to only one on one coach for years. That's all I did. ⁓ ⁓ I am no longer coaching in that capacity. ⁓ I I still offer support to a lot of people and and and a lot of strangers. And there is this recurring theme in so many conversations about it's just not working. It's just not working. It's just not working. And and and this can be really in any area of your life. And if you think all of the areas of your life are are good, are solid, there there's no room for improvement, well you are lying to yourself. Absolutely lying to yourself. but seeing seeing the truth about what is right in front of you is is is challenging. It's hard because you're so close to it. Get the of a pregnant woman, a big round belly, right? She looks down, all she sees is belly. She can't see her toes. Sometimes when the knowledge and the information is staring us ⁓ straight ⁓ in the face, we can't. See it because we're too close to it. And sometimes we do need to listen to the feedback that we are getting from the people that are in our lives. Not because Not because the people in our lives are always right or always know what is best for us, but sometimes when the recurring theme from multiple reliable sources all says the same thing, you have to stop and question what's not working here. Whether it is in your business, in your career, in your interpersonal relationships, I think, I think sometimes we we really do romanticize the vision. We romanticize how we want it to be. We spend so much time trying to control all of the outcomes that we lose sight. To what we're actually putting into something that's not giving us the returns we're looking for. And again, this can be in any area of your life. But I I do want to pause here for a moment because thinking of the the image of you know the pregnant lady not being able to see her toes. Let me let me just run down a quick little list of a few things to watch for here. if you've stopped imagining a future there, like if if your vision only gets to a point, say imagine your life six months from now. Is this person, place, or thing in your life and has it evolved to the next sphere? Лайк те некст. If not, it might be time to let go. If the same problem keeps coming up, and it's just that maybe you even say, ⁓ the other shoe keeps dropping, but really, really, is it is it a cycle? Or has it become a pattern? Because a cycle, you recognize. You say I don't like this. This has happened once. This has happened twice. I'm putting my foot down, no more. A pattern is 10, 12, 100 times the same input, the same output, nothing changes, everything stays the same. And look, I'm not saying close the doors to your business. And I'm not saying leave your partner. But you must be willing to do something different enough to shake it up enough to get a different result or know when it's time to move on. Another way to know is if you, how do I say this? Shrink to don't shrink if you're shrinking to fit yourself inside a system that you're too big for. ⁓ I don't necessarily love the way I worded that. But if you play small around certain people, maybe they're not your people. ⁓ if you walk into a room and you crumble, well, shoot. That is just telling you what you need to do. Like I guess maybe the signs and the synchronicities and the it's all there all the time. It's just are you willing to see them? ⁓ but but but shrinking yourself, ⁓ I'll I'll let you you know what that means. ⁓ this is a good one. This is a harsh one. a good indicator that it may be time to either do something significantly different or walk away from this person, place, thing, situation ⁓ if you are relieved when it's not ⁓ Let's let's think about work. Let's think about your career. Let's think about your business. Do you get excited? To be there, or are you so grateful when it's time to go? I mean, some of these things are really, really obvious. ⁓ think ⁓ think of that lady who is no longer pregnant. ⁓ ⁓ she look down and see her toes. Because the obstacle has been removed, right? So you you need to start seeing the patterns and you need to get really honest with yourself. I I had a conversation with a friend the other day, and they were telling me ⁓ about someone that to them ⁓ and asked for investment in their business. ⁓ And and the answer was no. And they didn't understand why. But before you mortgage your house to save your business, it might be time to make some significant changes or retire the business. Before you give your last shred of self-respect to that relationship. Maybe it's time to well, I don't even want to say maybe it's time to do something different. You were probably far beyond it's time to do something different. But it it do something different or go, right? We all have something. So today it today's more of an invitation to let yourself take off the blinders. let yourself see the obstacle that's right there. Allow yourself to slide that obstacle to the left or the right or forward a couple steps so you can see clearly. Because I promise you, if you are working day and night building and creating, I believe me, believe me, I know it what do they call this? Sweat equity. It's like when someone remodels a house with their own two hands. And and they think it's worth like a lot more than it actually appraises for. That that's that's you have poured everything, your your energy, your time into this person, place or thing. But if it is not paying you, filling you with joy, filling you with peace, if if it is sending you into debt, emotional debt, spiritual debt, like literally monetary debt. Today, your invitation is to look at the situation honestly. Because you can spend the rest of your life spinning your wheels, wasting all of your time and energy in something that's not going to ever go anywhere. So I know today was a little bit harsh. I'm not sorry. Somebody needed to hear this message today. you know, when we make these changes in our life, sometimes we do have to make them significant enough. And just because you choose to surrender, let go, quit, It doesn't always feel good. And I know it doesn't always feel good, but you must be willing to sit with those yucky feelings. And I gotta tell you, in those negative emotions, you might just find the fire that you need to do something different enough. Okay, I'm sending you so much love today. Bye.