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#3| Why Strong Independent Women Burn Out: The Masculine & Feminine Energy Trap · The Wild Woman Within: Recover from Burnout & Achieve True Work-Life Balance Through Feminine Energy

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  SPEAKER_01: The cage we're breaking out of today is believing that being a powerful woman means being responsible for everything.
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  SPEAKER_01: And what if the very energy that made you successful is the same energy keeping you exhausted?
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  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to the Wild Woman Within.
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  SPEAKER_00: For fiercely independent corporate women who are damn good at managing everything and burned out from trying to.
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  SPEAKER_00: Through spiritual practices and ancient wisdom, you'll reconnect with your feminine energy, recover from burnout, and achieve true work-life balance.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you can feel supported, built, and wildly free without sacrificing your attention.
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  SPEAKER_01: Today we're tearing out three walls.
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  SPEAKER_01: For one, if resilience means handling everything alone.
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  SPEAKER_01: For two, if being a great leader means solving every problem.
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  SPEAKER_01: And for three, the letting go of control makes you less powerful.
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  SPEAKER_01: Masculine energy may have helped you build your success, but feminine energy might be the exact thing you need to sustain it.
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  SPEAKER_01: What got you here might not get you there.
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  SPEAKER_01: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_01: I want to start by saying something that might really surprise you.
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  SPEAKER_01: And that is, I freaking love solving problems.
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  SPEAKER_01: Like I love challenges.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I love being presented with something that seems impossible in figuring out how to make it happen.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I don't think there's anything wrong with that at all.
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  SPEAKER_01: And in fact, I would even argue, I think it's one of the most beautiful parts of being human.
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  SPEAKER_01: We're meant to grow.
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  SPEAKER_01: We're meant to create.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I'm here to let you know that the problems aren't always our enemy.
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  SPEAKER_01: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_01: Problems are part of life.
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  SPEAKER_01: And learning how to solve them is one of the ways we get to build resilience.
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  SPEAKER_01: And it's a get-to.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I want you to think about that for a second.
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  SPEAKER_01: If you're constantly focusing on small problems, you can end up living a pretty small life.
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  SPEAKER_01: And that's a fact.
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  SPEAKER_01: Now, I'm not saying that uh problems that you're facing aren't important.
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  SPEAKER_01: That's not what this is about.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I'm certainly not saying that everybody needs to become a CEO or build some massive business to live a meaningful life.
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  SPEAKER_01: I could, I couldn't care less.
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  SPEAKER_01: But what I'm saying is that the size of problems that we're willing to engage with can shape the possibilities that we're willing to imagine.
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  SPEAKER_01: And if all of your energy is spent putting out the same little fires every single day, when do you have time to create something bigger?
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  SPEAKER_01: When do you have time to dream?
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  SPEAKER_01: When do you have time to ask yourself, what else is possible?
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  SPEAKER_01: Because I don't think the goal is to become less ambitious.
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  SPEAKER_01: You got to think bigger than that, play bigger, lead bolder.
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  SPEAKER_01: And also recognize the way you've learned to solve problems might not always be the way that you are meant to lead your life.
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  SPEAKER_01: And that's where the masculine and the feminine energy come into this conversation.
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  SPEAKER_01: Here's where this becomes a work-life balance problem.
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  SPEAKER_01: You spend all day making decisions, managing risks, and solving problems.
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  SPEAKER_01: And then you come home and keep operating the exact same way.
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  SPEAKER_01: You're still anticipating, directing, and managing.
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  SPEAKER_01: Your body might be sitting on the couch, but your brain is still running in the boardroom.
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  SPEAKER_01: And maybe the answer isn't becoming less ambitious.
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  SPEAKER_01: Maybe it's learning how to access another way of being.
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  SPEAKER_01: So, wall one, resilience doesn't mean handling everything alone.
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  SPEAKER_01: Let's talk about resilience for a second because I think resilience is amazing.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's persistence, it's the ability to stay with something when things get difficult.
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  SPEAKER_01: And resilience is learning that just because something doesn't come easily doesn't mean you're incapable of figuring it out.
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  SPEAKER_01: I mean, I have a five-year-old that knows this.
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  SPEAKER_01: And honestly, I think our society has become pretty interesting in how we measure resilience.
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  SPEAKER_01: Let's take college degrees, for example.
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  SPEAKER_01: Of all the people that I know that went to college, only a handful actually work in the field that they studied.
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  SPEAKER_01: All right.
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  SPEAKER_01: Take me, for example.
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  SPEAKER_01: Let me tell you.
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  SPEAKER_01: My degree is in political science with a minor in economics.
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  SPEAKER_01: Sounds fancy.
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  SPEAKER_01: Now I can assure you that none of those classes taught me how to manage complex healthcare technology implementations.
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  SPEAKER_01: Okay, not one.
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  SPEAKER_01: But what college did teach me how to write and communicate.
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  SPEAKER_01: I got to learn different cultures.
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  SPEAKER_01: I met different people from different backgrounds and different cultures.
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  SPEAKER_01: I got to analyze information and data and how to form an argument and defend it and how to keep showing up when something was difficult.
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  SPEAKER_01: And let me tell you, some of those C's that got me my degree, they taught me more about resilience than those A's ever did.
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  SPEAKER_01: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_01: Because I had to work for them.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I had to figure out how to keep going when I wasn't naturally good at something.
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  SPEAKER_01: And those skills, they they followed me.
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  SPEAKER_01: They followed me into my career in ways that I could have never imagined.
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  SPEAKER_01: Right.
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  SPEAKER_01: And here's where I think we need to expand our understanding of resilience.
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  SPEAKER_01: Resilience doesn't just live in completing a degree.
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  SPEAKER_01: And you can take that to the bank.
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  SPEAKER_01: It doesn't just live in surviving a difficult situation or a difficult season.
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  SPEAKER_01: It lives in our relationship with problems.
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  SPEAKER_01: And every time we face something unfamiliar, we're given an opportunity to learn.
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  SPEAKER_01: And every time we navigate uncertainty, we develop a little more confidence in our ability to respond.
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  SPEAKER_01: And every time we solve a problem we once thought was beyond us, our perception of what is possible gets to expand.
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  SPEAKER_01: Okay?
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  SPEAKER_01: And that's a beautiful thing.
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  SPEAKER_01: And there's a difference between developing the resilience to handle difficult things and believing you must personally handle every difficult thing that comes your way.
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  SPEAKER_01: And that's the hard line.
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  SPEAKER_01: I think that's the distinction a lot of fiercely independent women have never been encouraged to make because we've been rewarded for being capable.
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  SPEAKER_01: We have been celebrated for being dependable.
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  SPEAKER_01: We've been promoted because people know that when something goes wrong, we're gonna figure it out.
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  SPEAKER_01: And somewhere along the way, we start believing that being the person who can handle everything means that we should.
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  SPEAKER_01: But what gets to happen when your capacity grows and your willingness to share responsibility doesn't.
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  SPEAKER_01: You become the bottleneck, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: You've heard that term.
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  SPEAKER_01: You become the bottleneck in the very life you've worked so hard to create.
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  SPEAKER_01: And that's not a resilience problem.
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  SPEAKER_01: No, that's an awareness problem.
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  SPEAKER_01: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_01: So let's go more, let's go deeper.
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  SPEAKER_01: Wall two, the more successful you become, the bigger the problem gets, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: And I want to talk about corporate leadership here because I think this is where masculine energy gets a pretty unfair reputation.
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  SPEAKER_01: All right.
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  SPEAKER_01: So, but I'll talk about masculine energy.
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  SPEAKER_01: I'm not talking about men.
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  SPEAKER_01: And when I'm talking about feminine energy, I'm not talking about women.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I want to set the bar right here, right now.
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  SPEAKER_01: Masculine doesn't mean men, feminine doesn't mean women.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's just a thing called masculine and feminine energies, like the yin and the yang.
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  SPEAKER_01: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_01: And that's that.
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  SPEAKER_01: So I'm using these as spiritual and philosophical concepts, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: And they describe two complementary ways we operate.
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  SPEAKER_01: So masculine energy is often associated with uh structure, direction, discipline, protection, action, and execution.
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  SPEAKER_01: Okay, and feminine energy is often associated with receptivity, creativity, intuition, adaptability, nurturing, flow, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: They're not scientific classifications, they're not rules about what women and men should be.
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  SPEAKER_01: No, they're just they're ways of understanding the different qualities available to us, us as a whole, as a human, as a whole, as a one whole being.
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  SPEAKER_01: Right.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I believe both are incredibly valuable.
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  SPEAKER_01: And think about the biggest companies in the world, for example, like healthcare organizations or food producers, technology companies, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: So these organizations employing thousands of people and providing products and services that millions depend on, these businesses are solving enormous problems every single day.
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  SPEAKER_01: Like they're they're navigating supply chains, technology changes, customer needs, employee changes, financial decisions, regulations, competitions.
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  SPEAKER_01: You name it there, it's on their to-do list, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: And people leading these organizations, they're they're not sitting in their offices wearing great clothes just to look pretty.
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  SPEAKER_01: No, they're they're not.
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  SPEAKER_01: They're actually navigating some of the biggest decisions internally and externally, and those challenges that face those companies that affect thousands of employees and their customers, consumers.
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  SPEAKER_01: They're being asked to think beyond what's happening today and anticipate what might happen tomorrow.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I think that's freaking incredible.
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  SPEAKER_01: I mean, if you think about it, that is incredible to have that type of mindset.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I think there's something really powerful about a person who can look at an enormous challenge and say, okay, let's figure this out, versus getting stuck for days on end.
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  SPEAKER_01: And that, my dear, is masculine energy at work, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: That's the structure and the strategy, your direction and execution.
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  SPEAKER_01: And we need it.
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  SPEAKER_01: We need it.
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  SPEAKER_01: And honestly, I don't want to live in a world where people stop solving difficult problems just because they're afraid of being too ambitious.
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  SPEAKER_01: I don't, I'm not cut for that.
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  SPEAKER_01: I want more people who are willing to take responsibility for making things better.
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  SPEAKER_01: But here's the part we don't get to talk about enough.
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  SPEAKER_01: And sometimes the very skills that got you into these leadership positions, they're not the skills that's going to help you thrive once you get there.
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  SPEAKER_01: Here's what I want you to think about.
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  SPEAKER_01: Those same leaders aren't just successful because they know how to execute a strategy.
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  SPEAKER_01: They're successful because they know when to listen and when to get curious and trust their intuition.
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  SPEAKER_01: And they create space for an idea that they didn't come up with.
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  SPEAKER_01: And that's feminine energy at work.
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  SPEAKER_01: Think about it.
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  SPEAKER_01: You can have the most beautiful strategic plan in the world.
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  SPEAKER_01: What happens when the market changes?
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  SPEAKER_01: When your team sees an opportunity that you didn't anticipate, and when the original plan just isn't working anymore.
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  SPEAKER_01: You need the ability to adapt, to receive new information, collaborate.
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  SPEAKER_01: And that way you you all can create something you couldn't have imagined on your own.
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  SPEAKER_01: That's the feminine.
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  SPEAKER_01: And the masculine gives us the structure to move forward.
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  SPEAKER_01: The feminine gives us the flexibility to recognize when there's a better way.
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  SPEAKER_01: And the magic isn't in choosing one over the other.
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  SPEAKER_01: No, no, no, no.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's knowing when each one serves you.
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  SPEAKER_01: All right.
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  SPEAKER_01: So let me explain this.
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  SPEAKER_01: Like, for example, early in your career, you're often rewarded for how well you execute.
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  SPEAKER_01: And like, can you complete the assignment, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: Solve the issue, manage the project.
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  SPEAKER_01: Can you deliver the result that's being asked of you?
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  SPEAKER_01: And the better you become at doing those things, the more responsibility you're given.
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  SPEAKER_01: You're you eventually become like that go-to person and the one that everybody trusts, and the one who gets called when something goes sideways.
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  SPEAKER_01: Like you take a lot of pride being called the subject matter expert, the SME.
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  SPEAKER_01: And eventually you get to be promoted.
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  SPEAKER_01: And then what happens?
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  SPEAKER_01: Your promotion changes your role and how it's changed.
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  SPEAKER_01: But does that change your thought process?
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  SPEAKER_01: Because now your promotion is saying you're no longer responsible for personally executing every single task.
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  SPEAKER_01: But now you're responsible for creating an environment where other people can execute successfully.
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  SPEAKER_01: And that mind shift comes with that promotion.
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  SPEAKER_01: And a lot of people don't inhabit that, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: And you can you see it every day.
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  SPEAKER_01: And when we don't make that transition, we end up doing the work still because we're so damn good at it.
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  SPEAKER_01: And because doing the work feels productive, it feels familiar.
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  SPEAKER_01: And it gives us that little hit of satisfaction when we solve something.
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  SPEAKER_01: And the funny thing is here is that leadership at the next level, it isn't always about being the best problem solver in the room.
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  SPEAKER_01: Sometimes it's about knowing which problems no longer belong to you.
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  SPEAKER_01: Right?
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  SPEAKER_01: Wall three.
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  SPEAKER_01: Letting go of control doesn't make you less powerful.
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  SPEAKER_01: I see this in corporate environments all the time.
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  SPEAKER_01: All the time.
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  SPEAKER_01: You have managers, you have directors, senior directors, even executives who are absolutely phenomenal individual contributors.
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  SPEAKER_01: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_01: They were so good at doing the work that they got promoted into these positions and they're now responsible for the other people that get to do the work.
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  SPEAKER_01: And yet they can't seem to stop doing the work themselves.
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  SPEAKER_01: All right.
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  SPEAKER_01: Like a problem comes up and they jump in on it.
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  SPEAKER_01: A new initiative launches and they take ownership.
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  SPEAKER_01: And someone on their team starts struggling.
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  SPEAKER_01: And rather than coach them through it, they just do the work for them.
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  SPEAKER_01: They just take it over.
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  SPEAKER_01: And listen, I understand I get the instinct all the time.
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  SPEAKER_01: I've got a five-year-old, and there's just sometimes I just like take it, I just take it from them too.
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  SPEAKER_01: I get it.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I don't own a team yet, but one day I'm sure I'll probably fall into this little landslide.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's easy to do.
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  SPEAKER_01: And like sometimes it's faster to just do it yourself.
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  SPEAKER_01: And sometimes you know exactly how something should be done, but sometimes you're afraid that if you don't get involved, the result won't meet your expectations.
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  SPEAKER_01: And what are we teaching the people around us when we do that?
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  SPEAKER_01: Are we building their resilience?
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  SPEAKER_01: Because now you're a leader.
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  SPEAKER_01: You're you're a leader now.
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  SPEAKER_01: Are you building their resilience?
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  SPEAKER_01: Are you giving them opportunities to grow?
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  SPEAKER_01: Are we allowing them to discover what they're capable of?
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  SPEAKER_01: Remember, your role changed.
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  SPEAKER_01: Or are we accidentally communicating that we don't trust them?
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  SPEAKER_01: Because some like here's something that I've I've learned.
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  SPEAKER_01: Not every fire is yours to put out anymore.
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  SPEAKER_01: And not every new initiative that comes into your department is your journey to walk.
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  SPEAKER_01: Sometimes your responsibility is to create the conditions for someone else to take ownership.
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  SPEAKER_01: Give them tools, the resources, the guidance, the freedom to make decisions.
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  SPEAKER_01: And yeah, sometimes freedom to make mistakes, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: If you're gonna fail, fail fast, fail forward.
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  SPEAKER_01: Because that's how people get to grow.
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  SPEAKER_01: And that's how they develop resilience.
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  SPEAKER_01: And that's how they get to become leaders when they are capable of leading and becoming.
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  SPEAKER_01: And this is where I see feminine energy becoming such an important complement to masculine energy.
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  SPEAKER_01: That masculine energy that we discuss, it can help us get the direction, the boundaries, and the structure.
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  SPEAKER_01: But that feminine energy that invites us to create space within that structure.
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  SPEAKER_01: Right?
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  SPEAKER_01: Like space for other people to contribute, space for ideas that we didn't come up with, for creativity, for collaboration, space for things to unfold differently than we originally imagined, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: It it requires some trust.
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  SPEAKER_01: And trust can be really uncomfortable, especially when you've spent your entire life being the person who makes everything happen.
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  SPEAKER_01: Right.
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  SPEAKER_01: But think about this.
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  SPEAKER_01: If you're always the one walking the path, how can anyone else learn to navigate it?
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  SPEAKER_01: You're always the one answering the questions.
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  SPEAKER_01: How can anyone else develop confidence in their own judgment?
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  SPEAKER_01: If you're always the one carrying the responsibility, how can anyone else learn what they're capable of?
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  SPEAKER_01: Sometimes your job isn't to be the traveler.
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  SPEAKER_01: Sometimes your job is just to be the North Star, to hold the vision, to provide direction and remain steady, to help other people orient themselves when they lose their way.
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  SPEAKER_01: You don't have to walk every mile for them.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I think that is such a beautiful expression of leadership because you're not giving up your power, you're expanding in.
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  SPEAKER_01: And you're moving from being the person who can accomplish great things to being the person who can help other people accomplish great things.
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  SPEAKER_01: And that's the different kind of strength, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: When corporate leadership comes home.
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  SPEAKER_01: Now, here's what I really want you to pay attention to here, because if you're listening to this podcast, chances are you're like, you're pretty damn capable.
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  SPEAKER_01: You know how to manage your calendar and navigate difficult conversations and you know how to prioritize the competing demands and anticipate problems before they become emergencies, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: What about when you bring them into your relationships?
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  SPEAKER_01: Like what happens when your partner becomes another person you're managing?
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  SPEAKER_01: And when your household becomes another department you're overseeing, or your family calendar gets to be another project on your project plan.
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  SPEAKER_01: You might be physically home, but are you actually present?
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  SPEAKER_01: Or are you operating like the executive responsible for making sure everything runs smooth?
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  SPEAKER_01: And this is also this is what I find so fascinating that sometimes we may want more support.
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  SPEAKER_01: Like we want our partners to step up and we want people to take the initiative.
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  SPEAKER_01: And we want to stop being responsible for every little thing.
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  SPEAKER_01: But when somebody actually does step forward, what happens when we're at home?
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  SPEAKER_01: Right?
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  SPEAKER_01: Like we correct them.
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  SPEAKER_01: I just told you I'd I'd do the same thing to my five year old.
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  SPEAKER_01: Right?
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  SPEAKER_01: We supervise.
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  SPEAKER_01: We explain how we would have done it, or we take back the task because their approach isn't quite right.
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  SPEAKER_01: And when we wonder why we're stuck here now that no one wants to help us, and I want to be very careful here, there are absolutely situations where responsibility is genuinely unequal.
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  SPEAKER_01: But when you're carrying more than your fair share and we're asking for help that hasn't resulted in meaningful change in those situations, the answer isn't simply to become more receptive.
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  SPEAKER_01: It may require a very clear boundary, a difficult conversation or how to change and responsibility is shared.
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  SPEAKER_01: But for those of us who have support available, right, and they're we're still struggling to receive it.
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  SPEAKER_01: That's something worth exploring.
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  SPEAKER_01: Because the problem isn't that nobody is capable of helping.
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  SPEAKER_01: The problem is that we've become so attached to our way of doing things that the struggle to make room for anyone else is just so real.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I say that with love because I recognize that tendency in myself.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I know what it's like to feel responsible for the outcome, to want things done well and to see a problem coming and immediately start developing a plan.
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  SPEAKER_01: But the people we love don't always need to pick us to be their project manager or their CEO, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: Or their director.
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  SPEAKER_01: Sometimes they just need us to be present and to listen and to trust them and allow them to show up in their own weird, messy little ways.
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  SPEAKER_01: Because sometimes we need to allow ourselves to be supported without turning that support into another thing that we have to manage.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I don't think that's weakness.
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  SPEAKER_01: I think that's partnership within your home and the spiritual wisdom of knowing when to release that.
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  SPEAKER_01: So we'll get into that in the next episode about the spiritual wisdom and what that looks like.
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  SPEAKER_01: But for now, we're here to think bigger, to play bigger, lead bolder.
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  SPEAKER_01: I want to bring this back to where we started when it was with problems.
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  SPEAKER_01: Because I don't want you walking away from this episode thinking that you need to avoid challenges.
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  SPEAKER_01: That's actually quite the opposite.
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  SPEAKER_01: I want you to take on meaningful challenges, pursue things that scare you just a little bit.
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  SPEAKER_01: Create something that requires you to grow beyond who you've been.
• 25:01
  SPEAKER_01: Recognize that resilience that you've developed throughout your life is an incredible asset.
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  SPEAKER_01: Like those difficult classes, those challenging projects, those uncomfortable conversations and moments when you had no idea what you were doing, but you got to figure it out anyway, they've all helped shape who you are.
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  SPEAKER_01: But I want you to ask yourself something.
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  SPEAKER_01: Are you using your resilience to build a bigger life, or are you using it to tolerate a life that's become too small for you?
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  SPEAKER_01: Because I think that's the difference.
• 25:38
  SPEAKER_01: We become so good at enduring that we forget we're allowed to change things.
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  SPEAKER_01: So good at managing problems that we're we forget we're allowed to create something new.
• 25:50
  SPEAKER_01: Like that comfortableness of being needed, we forget we're allowed to need other people.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I think that's the real imitation of feminine energy.
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  SPEAKER_01: We're not abandoning everything that we've built.
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  SPEAKER_01: But we get to create enough space inside that we actually enjoy it.
• 26:16
  SPEAKER_01: Like recognizing that the success doesn't have to come at the expense of being present.
• 26:22
  SPEAKER_01: So maybe this next level of leadership isn't about working harder, it's about trusting more and delegating more, listening more, and creating more space, allowing other people to rise alongside you.
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  SPEAKER_01: Because when you stop needing to be the person who solves every problem, you create room to solve the problems that actually matter.
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  SPEAKER_01: And that's how you begin to lead Boulder, not by caring more, but by expanding what's possible.
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  SPEAKER_01: So have the audacity, the audacity for this week is to be the North Star, not the traveler.
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  SPEAKER_01: I want you to identify one situation in your life where you've been taking ownership of something, maybe it's a project at work or a decision at home.
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  SPEAKER_01: I don't, it doesn't even matter, I don't even care.
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  SPEAKER_01: But before you step in, ask yourself three questions.
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  SPEAKER_01: Is this actually my problem to solve?
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  SPEAKER_01: What would happen if I allowed someone else to be?
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  SPEAKER_01: Can I provide direction without controlling the outcome?
• 27:44
  SPEAKER_01: If this conversation hit home, I'd love for you to follow the wild woman within.
• 27:51
  SPEAKER_01: Just so you don't miss what's coming next.
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  SPEAKER_01: And thank you.
• 27:54
  SPEAKER_01: Thank you, thank you, thank you so much for listening today, for showing up, for being throughout the whole entire thing.
• 28:02
  SPEAKER_01: Because every Tuesday we're breaking out of the cage, we're tearing down the spall.
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  SPEAKER_01: And every Thursday, we're putting that wisdom into practice.
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  SPEAKER_01: So stay tuned.
• 28:14
  SPEAKER_01: And if you know a woman who's carrying everything because she's convinced no one else can, send this head stuff to her.
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  SPEAKER_01: Join me in my email community.
• 28:25
  SPEAKER_01: The link's in the show notes.
• 28:27
  SPEAKER_01: But stay wild enough to be free and wise enough to receive.