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40 and Fabulous · Two Ts In A Pod with Teddi Mellencamp and Tamra Judge

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Speaker 1: This is Teddy Teapot with Teddy and Kevin. Hi, guys,
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Speaker 1: welcome to this week's Teddy Teapod. I've got to say
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Speaker 1: that I have really no idea what you're in store for. Normally,
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Speaker 1: before every podcast, we kind of talked through who the
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Speaker 1: guests are, what we're gonna be doing. I get sent
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Speaker 1: a rundown, but this time the producer sent me nothing,
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Speaker 1: and I have a feeling it's because I am turning
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Speaker 1: forty and they have something up their sleeve. Maybe guest colors.
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Speaker 1: I don't know, but going into forty definitely feels better
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Speaker 1: than I thought it would, Like, I really, I remember
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Speaker 1: when I was younger and when I would like ask
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Speaker 1: my mom how old she was and she'd say thirty six,
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Speaker 1: and I'd be like, wow, that is so old, and
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Speaker 1: I would think that in my head. And now that
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Speaker 1: I'm forty, I mean I really and until I see
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Speaker 1: myself in a picture with someone who's like in their twenties,
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Speaker 1: that's how old I actually feel. And I know that
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Speaker 1: sounds kind of cheesy, but I am young at heart,
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Speaker 1: except for the fact that I like to go to
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Speaker 1: bed at eight thirty at night. But I really feel
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Speaker 1: good in my own skin going into forty and I
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Speaker 1: can't say that about twenty or even thirties. So, you know,
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Speaker 1: it's it's emotional, like I'm just so happy that I've
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Speaker 1: gotten into a place in my life where i feel
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Speaker 1: confident and I feel comfortable, and I feel proud and excited. Um.
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Speaker 1: And then I have a loving family supporting me. Um.
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Speaker 1: So I'm glad of all the work that We've done
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Speaker 1: as a family and all the work that I've personally
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Speaker 1: done on myself throughout these last you know, forty years. Um.
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Speaker 1: And in regards to plans, I am going to be
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Speaker 1: spending it with my family. Booked. Um, I just booked it.
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Speaker 1: I I know how I am. So it's like I
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Speaker 1: booked my favorite restaurant. We're in Orange County right now,
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Speaker 1: so book my favorite restaurant here. It's called South the
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Speaker 1: next you know, I love to have an early dinner
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Speaker 1: with the family at you know where we can all
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Speaker 1: have fun. Plus it's the only time Death can actually attend.
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Speaker 1: If not, she's completely nightmare baby. And just spend the
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Speaker 1: day at the beach, um, and then spend the fourth
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Speaker 1: out here, and then I'm gonna go get a little
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Speaker 1: wild next week I am going with ten couples to
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Speaker 1: celebrate my birthday range your style next week. Edwin asked
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Speaker 1: me if there's anything you could want for your birthday,
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Speaker 1: what would you want? And I said, I want to
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Speaker 1: go away. Like we're all vaccinated, we're all feeling good,
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Speaker 1: Like I want to go away with my friends. I
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Speaker 1: want to be with my family and my actual birthday.
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Speaker 1: But then I want to go and we have so
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Speaker 1: many fun things planned, which I'll have to do a
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Speaker 1: recap with that later, but I'm really excited. Um, it's
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Speaker 1: also my ten year wedding anniversary this week, so pretty
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Speaker 1: much all the things. We're celebrating all the things. And
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Speaker 1: I can tell you guys, but my husband. I was
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Speaker 1: teasing my husband and I was like, so far tenure,
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Speaker 1: you know, I think that's diamonds, And he's like, I
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Speaker 1: bet you didn't even get me anything. Why are you
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Speaker 1: giving a tough time? Like I'm kidding, I'm getting star
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Speaker 1: about the gifts. But I am surprising him today with
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Speaker 1: a golf cart because we live like where we live,
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Speaker 1: we can drive around and he's been wanting one forever.
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Speaker 1: So I'm actually really proud of myself. Plus I can't
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Speaker 1: wait for him to feel awkward when he hasn't gotten anything.
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Speaker 1: This is why we've lasted ten years because of this,
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Speaker 1: and then you know what, he'll double down later. I
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Speaker 1: can assure you of that. Oh my gosh. Well, anyways,
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Speaker 1: thanks for listening in again this week and I look forward.
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Speaker 1: What's in store, Danielle, what's coming for me? Please? Hey,
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Speaker 1: so we have a we have somebody calling in shortly. Um,
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Speaker 1: they'll be popping into the Zoom waiting room soon. But
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Speaker 1: before that person calls in, UM, we want to grill
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Speaker 1: you with a couple of questions. Okay, not really grill,
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Speaker 1: but just kind of, you know, ask you some questions
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Speaker 1: about the last decade of your life. So, since you're
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Speaker 1: turning forty, they say, and you've lived through your thirties
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Speaker 1: and your twenties, they say that you're the thirties of
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Speaker 1: the new twenties of your life in the forties or
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Speaker 1: your new thirties? Is that? Do you think that's true?
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Speaker 1: Have you felt that way? I don't know if it's
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Speaker 1: necessarily the new but I what I'm focusing on going
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Speaker 1: into my forties is peace and just I've never been
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Speaker 1: a you know, I'm very goal oriented. I want the best.
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Speaker 1: I work really hard, but I've never really focused on
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Speaker 1: feeling peace, and like, that's really what I want to
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Speaker 1: go into this like next year. You know, like I've
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Speaker 1: had a lot of success, I've had a lot of fun.
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Speaker 1: I still want, you know, a million things. I still
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Speaker 1: have a lot of dreams, but I really want to
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Speaker 1: just focus on being at peace with myself and my life.
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Speaker 1: And in your thirties, if you had to pick one moment,
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Speaker 1: obviously there's been so much, all your kids, obviously getting
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Speaker 1: you know, married, all that stuff, what has been like
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Speaker 1: the one moment that tops all of it. If you
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Speaker 1: had to pick one thing, and I can't say my kids,
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Speaker 1: can't say kids, Okay, if I can't can't pick one
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Speaker 1: of them, I hope like I can't, well, I would
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Speaker 1: have just said kids having my kids, Um, I would
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Speaker 1: say in the last oh my gosh, hold on, okay,
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Speaker 1: and this this year would like, I mean, the last
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Speaker 1: two years would have been the best thing. I think
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Speaker 1: the best thing has been realizing who I actually am.
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Speaker 1: I think for most of my life I was kind
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Speaker 1: of like a show girl, you know, like I always
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Speaker 1: put on a show for family, for friends, for whatever,
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Speaker 1: and you know, being in my thirties was really a
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Speaker 1: year of you know, figuring it out. Who am I really?
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Speaker 1: Who do I want to be? I need to focus
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Speaker 1: on not what other people want from me, but what
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Speaker 1: I want for myself and being able to feel that
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Speaker 1: and be vulnerable and open and like do the work.
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Speaker 1: It feels good. And now that you're approaching the next
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Speaker 1: decade of your life, your forties, what do you hope
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Speaker 1: to either do differently or what are you envisioning for
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Speaker 1: the next ten years so that when we do this
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Speaker 1: podcast on your fiftieth birthday you can play it back
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Speaker 1: that we're gonna really be in and for a doozy. Then.
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Speaker 1: I think what I'm most looking forward to through the
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Speaker 1: next ten years, it's just having as much fun as
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Speaker 1: I can. You know, I think so often I take
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Speaker 1: myself too seriously. I love to laugh and I love
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Speaker 1: when people laugh. But like at night when I'm going
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Speaker 1: to bed, sometimes it's like I just am constantly going
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Speaker 1: through all the things I need to do, I want
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Speaker 1: to do, I want to and I really want I
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Speaker 1: want to just have some fun, like try to lighten up,
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Speaker 1: have more fun, be present and watch I mean, my
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Speaker 1: kids are hilarious, My husband. I mean, he's not actually
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Speaker 1: super funny, but we laugh a lot with him because
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Speaker 1: he does funny things. Is that bad to say? But
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Speaker 1: I mean we have a lot of fun and I
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Speaker 1: just want to embrace those moments. And I want to travel.
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Speaker 1: I mean, especially after this past, you know, however long
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Speaker 1: it's been since COVID started, Like it made me realize
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Speaker 1: all the incredible places I want to go and take
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Speaker 1: my family. And how like I never until I was eighteen,
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Speaker 1: I never had a stamp on my passport. Like so
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Speaker 1: the fact that all my kids have passports and I
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Speaker 1: am financially in a place where I can travel wherever
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Speaker 1: I want and do things on a whim I'm really
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Speaker 1: grateful for and I'm not taking it for granted. It
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Speaker 1: only makes me want to work harder. I love that.
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Speaker 1: If you could tell your younger self any anything, any
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Speaker 1: piece of advice, any um, quote, whatever have you? Um,
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Speaker 1: what would you say beating myself up after the fact,
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Speaker 1: it's never needed, Like I am an overthinker to the end,
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Speaker 1: and it's something I'm still working on. I still tell myself,
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Speaker 1: but like doing that isn't beneficial and never changes anything.
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Speaker 1: Like I'm that person that like I could have the
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Speaker 1: best time and I could be like partying, having fun,
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Speaker 1: like laughing, and then I will in the morning, I'll
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Speaker 1: have that titch of anxiety and I'll be like what
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Speaker 1: I do? Who's mad at me? I'm looking? I'm looking
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Speaker 1: for something and no one ever is. So that's that's
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Speaker 1: the saying goes for now. And then last question before
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Speaker 1: we go to break, um, your kids are they all like, wow,
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Speaker 1: Mom's turning forty, that's old. What do they think? Like?
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Speaker 1: What do they say about your forty birthday? I mean
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Speaker 1: they are pretty funny. Like I was like, tomorrow, guys,
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Speaker 1: do you want because they're doing half day camps um
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Speaker 1: like sailing camps and different stuff like that while we're
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Speaker 1: out here, and I said, tomorrow, do you want to
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Speaker 1: do a stailing camp or do you want to just
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Speaker 1: like let's I'll chill, I'll take off for blah blah
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Speaker 1: blah and slat and crews are like camp. Definitely camp.
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Speaker 1: I saw that you ordered a pizza that day blah
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Speaker 1: blah blah, and then I hear Bella got its damn
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Speaker 1: and then you here, crewis go mon, what's your birthday?
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Speaker 1: To even even tell us, I'm like you should know, buddy,
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Speaker 1: So I'm they choose camp tomorrow, will know, we'll know
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Speaker 1: where they think. But they yeah, I mean they can't.
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Speaker 1: They kind of can't believe that I'm forty. But they
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Speaker 1: also they've been cool about it. I mean, probably because
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Speaker 1: I forgot. So let's go to a quick break and
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Speaker 1: then when we come back, we'll surprise Teddy with her
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Speaker 1: first caller, and then, um, we're just gonna have a
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Speaker 1: show packed with some fun callers. So uh, stay tuned. Okay,
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Speaker 1: so we're back from break. Before we bring in our first,
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Speaker 1: um awesome caller, sur price caller, I'm going to go
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Speaker 1: ahead and play a message from somebody that really really
10:19
Speaker 1: wanted to call in, but um, she's currently in Hawaii
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Speaker 1: and um, long story short, she um is partying a
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Speaker 1: little too hard and wasn't able to call in. So
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Speaker 1: here's your here's your message. Um, this is from our
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Speaker 1: lovely Tanya Right. Happy birthday, Teddy. I love you so much.
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Speaker 1: I just wanted to say thank you for everything. You've
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Speaker 1: honestly held my hand through so much. You've pushed me,
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Speaker 1: you've encouraged me. You have been somebody that has been
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Speaker 1: consistent and loving and faithful and hopeful, and just so
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Speaker 1: many things. You lead by example and you help lift
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Speaker 1: other women up and I'm just so grateful for your
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Speaker 1: friendship and I honestly can't say enough. Um, I hope
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Speaker 1: you have the best birthday ever. I'm sorry I would
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Speaker 1: have called you live, but I am on vacation. I've
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Speaker 1: been drunk and good portion at the time, so I
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Speaker 1: want to make sure I wish you a happy birthday.
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Speaker 1: I love you so so much. I hope this is
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Speaker 1: your best year yet. And I love you. Ah, Tania,
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Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, I just even hearing that everything you
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Speaker 1: just said to me, not only did it make me emotional,
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Speaker 1: but it's exactly what I would say to you. So
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Speaker 1: I think that really shows the level of friendship that
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Speaker 1: we have. And I think the thing that's so incredible
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Speaker 1: about Utania is that you are a modern woman. You
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Speaker 1: are there just so poor. You are there to be
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Speaker 1: there when somebody's up, when they're down. And I love
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Speaker 1: you too, and you have so much fun and have
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Speaker 1: a drink for me. All right, thank you for the message,
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Speaker 1: even though you made me tear up a little. Well,
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Speaker 1: hopefully this next color doesn't make you tear up a little. Um,
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Speaker 1: let's go ahead and bring him in. Are you there? Say?
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Speaker 1: It's only a paper moon sailing over a cardboard. See
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Speaker 1: Happy birthday to Teddy when she turns twenty nine? Dad?
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Speaker 1: Why that's my favorite song? I know? Mmm, well, I
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Speaker 1: love you so much. Am I going to get my
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Speaker 1: envelope that I get every year from my birthday? Yep?
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Speaker 1: Guess what? So every year? My dad, who we're talking
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Speaker 1: to right now, who of course made me tear because
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Speaker 1: it's my favorite song. He we used to always he'd
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Speaker 1: always sing it to us in the car when we'd
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Speaker 1: go back and forth between his house and my mom's.
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Speaker 1: But um, every year for our birthday, myself, my kids,
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Speaker 1: my sister, my siblings, we all get the amount of
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Speaker 1: money that we are turning. So I'm about to be
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Speaker 1: rich this year with this forty dollars coming in that
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Speaker 1: you know I'm actually forty, though I don't want to
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Speaker 1: be getting twenty nine? Yes, I know, So so what
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Speaker 1: what will you do with your forty dollars? I just
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Speaker 1: you know, I don't know. There's just so many options
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Speaker 1: that it's gonna be h Come on, how do you
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Speaker 1: think I love? I mean, according to you, when I
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Speaker 1: was your age I can go to the movies for
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Speaker 1: a penny, but I can't even go to the movies. Now, Wow,
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Speaker 1: you don't have to go to movies anymore because they're
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Speaker 1: not open. True, well, actually they might be opening right now.
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Speaker 1: Are you Where are you? Are you in Fusky? I'm
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Speaker 1: onto Fusky Island? Yes? Are you feeling good? I got
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Speaker 1: a bit of a sore throat that I got from
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Speaker 1: Uh do do other than that? I feel? Okay? Well
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Speaker 1: I was. I wish I was with you guys right now. Okay, Well, listen, honey,
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Speaker 1: have a happy birthday, which is really tomorrow, right And
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Speaker 1: you know where I was when you were born. Where
14:45
Speaker 1: I was in Miami making an album called American Pool
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Speaker 1: and you missed it? Well, yeah, because your mom was
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Speaker 1: like nine months premature. I was really premature, and I
15:02
Speaker 1: think I only weighed like four pounds. I don't think
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Speaker 1: you weighed that much. And when I for the first
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Speaker 1: time I saw you, you had you were an incubator
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Speaker 1: and you had little glasses on and you had your
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Speaker 1: feet propped up. Yeah that's what it looks like. Well,
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Speaker 1: I look like a little alien when I look at
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Speaker 1: those pictures. And now that you've grown up, it looks
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Speaker 1: like a big land. It's true. I've stayed true to
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Speaker 1: who I am. Dad, that's right, that's right, State of Meloncamp,
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Speaker 1: State of Meloncamp. Because what Melancamps are what it would say,
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Speaker 1: Melancamps are the coolest. No has it better than us? Nobody?
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Speaker 1: That's right. Yeah. Well the last time you said that,
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Speaker 1: then you fell into my pool playing pick a ball.
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Speaker 1: So it really that was actually the birthday gift that
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Speaker 1: keeps on giving because whenever I'm having a bad day,
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Speaker 1: I just go on them. I'm so glad you weren't hurt.
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Speaker 1: But it was one second after you said who has
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Speaker 1: it better than us? Nobody? And then I fell in
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Speaker 1: the water, and now I got a big scrape on mine.
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Speaker 1: Your ship. Yeah, but we gave out. We gave you
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Speaker 1: a real cute outfit to change in too. I still
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Speaker 1: got it. I know you always steal Edwin's clothes. Oh yeah,
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Speaker 1: because he's so cool. I know he's just he cann't
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Speaker 1: teach school, right, Yeah. Yeah, I'm proud of you for
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Speaker 1: calling it on this zoom. I love you. I love
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Speaker 1: you too, honey. Have a happy birthday, and I'll talk
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Speaker 1: to you tomorrow. Talk to you tomorrow. Dad's How did
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Speaker 1: you guys get him to do that? That's the coolest.
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Speaker 1: He's literally the cool just to come right in with
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Speaker 1: a song. I can't he's so cool. I want to know.
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Speaker 1: So the last time he did this podcast, the amount
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Speaker 1: of messages that him and I had to have going
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Speaker 1: back and forth so he could figure out to log
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Speaker 1: into the zoom and that y'all just got him to show.
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Speaker 1: I'm actually blown away. He's a pro. Now, who is
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Speaker 1: your point of contact? Kathy? Kathy? Yes, okay, we already
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Speaker 1: have our next caller in the waiting room, so let's
17:28
Speaker 1: go ahead and bring him in. You um should know
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Speaker 1: him pretty well. I I I Edwood. How are you
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Speaker 1: You're not gonna come in with a song? You've got
17:46
Speaker 1: a lot of big shoes to fill, because because my
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Speaker 1: dad just came in singing, Oh, that's gonna be hard.
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Speaker 1: Maybe I'll maybe I'll just come in with some wit.
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Speaker 1: You know how witty I am. So I actually said
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Speaker 1: earlier in the podcast that you're not funny, but you're
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Speaker 1: funny to laugh with slash at, so it's pretty laugh
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Speaker 1: at is probably more like it. Yeah, but we love it.
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Speaker 1: We love doing it. Yeah, Baby, I just I love
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Speaker 1: you so much, and uh, I'm so glad that that
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Speaker 1: they're doing this for you. I uh, you know, I'm
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Speaker 1: the worst of keeping secrets. So when you were like,
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Speaker 1: uh telling me about the podcast today, I was like,
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Speaker 1: I almost like mess that whole thing up. Well, I
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Speaker 1: love you so much. Can you believe not only am
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Speaker 1: I turning forty, but that will have been together married
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Speaker 1: for ten years? Yeah? I know, ten years already and
18:44
Speaker 1: twelve years knowing each other. Just great, great blessings. It's flown.
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Speaker 1: It's flown by yes, except when you listen to Sports
18:56
Speaker 1: Center really loud when I'm trying to go to sleep,
18:59
Speaker 1: or when you listen into your killing type oh my
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Speaker 1: murder shows there and Danielle backed me up. Is there
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Speaker 1: anything more relaxing to falling asleep to serial killers? I
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Speaker 1: don't think so. Definitely not. I do not like those
19:15
Speaker 1: you have, no thank you? Nope, nope, nope. What about Hanna?
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Speaker 1: Do you like them? Absolutely not? They give me the
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Speaker 1: worst nightmare. You know what I needed? New producers. You
19:28
Speaker 1: guys don't even know me. Dump no, no, no, no.
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Speaker 1: Nothing gets me in the mood for a restless sleep. Okay,
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Speaker 1: I have I have a couple of questions for Edwin
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Speaker 1: because this is the first time we've ever had him
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Speaker 1: on this on the podcast, so there's reason that he
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Speaker 1: has no filter. Okay, so Edwin, first question for you, Um,
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Speaker 1: what's the one thing you admire most about Teddy? I've
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Speaker 1: said it on the show before. I think she's stop it.
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Speaker 1: The organized is not a sexy word. It's just I
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Speaker 1: tell myself guys all the time. Consistency is not the
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Speaker 1: sexiest word, but it gets the job done. But obviously
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Speaker 1: she is organized, but she is beautiful from the inside out.
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Speaker 1: I think she's gifted, as she's so smart and talented,
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Speaker 1: and she's she loves unconditionally and I've loved that about her.
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Speaker 1: So when you're out and about and just going about
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Speaker 1: your day and you're not with Teddy, what is there
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Speaker 1: like one thing that you see or here that automatically
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Speaker 1: reminds you of her? Um. When I'm out and about
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Speaker 1: what reminds me of Ted's? Um? You getting in any
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Speaker 1: car and driving always reminds me of Teddy. I'm like,
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Speaker 1: Teddy can't drive the life I cannot. You could tell
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Speaker 1: them about a renee story whatever. When when we forget
21:01
Speaker 1: about Teddy sometimes has this what she's gotten better, but
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Speaker 1: she always tell me stories that she's told me before.
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Speaker 1: So I used to date someone that would always do
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Speaker 1: the same thing. So we have kind of a nickname
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Speaker 1: for that. When Teddy does it, we we have a
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Speaker 1: low term for it. It's fine, it's called we call
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Speaker 1: it the Renee. But he does it too. We both
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Speaker 1: do it. Like we'll drive by something and we'll be like, oh,
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Speaker 1: you know that was that place where I went, you know,
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Speaker 1: blah blah blah. And he'll be like, I know Renee,
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Speaker 1: or telling me something about work, and I'll be like, Renee,
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Speaker 1: you told me earlier, Like so that is our It's
21:42
Speaker 1: by Felicia, but hello Renee. Who reminds me of Teddy
21:48
Speaker 1: those our daughters slate. She's literally ny we do anging
21:53
Speaker 1: out with Teddy. Let me doing slate. It's uh same everything.
21:57
Speaker 1: She likes the boss Daddy around too. We like, we
22:01
Speaker 1: know what we want. Good thing though, you know, sometimes
22:04
Speaker 1: you want to get Boston around, especially when when you're
22:09
Speaker 1: doing the Boston around in the office. It's nice to
22:12
Speaker 1: just get home and you don't have to worry about
22:14
Speaker 1: anything because she's got everything taken care of. So I
22:17
Speaker 1: literally once I come home it's just like Jeddy, She's
22:20
Speaker 1: in charge. Okay, this is the last question that I'm
22:23
Speaker 1: going to grow you with because I know you have
22:25
Speaker 1: worked today. Um good. This is actually a listener question too.
22:29
Speaker 1: So when did you know that you wanted to marry Teddy?
22:32
Speaker 1: Was there like one moment that you're like, Yep, that's
22:35
Speaker 1: my that's my girl. That that was a good, soft
22:38
Speaker 1: off question. Yes, harder, Um yeah, I knew the minute
22:44
Speaker 1: we were We actually have a picture of this, but
22:46
Speaker 1: we were hanging out in our backyard and and I
22:49
Speaker 1: think it was my daughter's first and it was her birthday,
22:52
Speaker 1: her first year birthday, or maybe it was someone close
22:54
Speaker 1: eight months and to cheat when she took her in
22:57
Speaker 1: her arms, I mean, you could just see the love
22:59
Speaker 1: that she had for and the mother like qualities that
23:04
Speaker 1: she she had even though she was a mother yet.
23:07
Speaker 1: I mean, you just you saw it like she is
23:10
Speaker 1: going to be a great mother. And she has been
23:12
Speaker 1: a great mother to mike daughter from the get go,
23:16
Speaker 1: And that's when I knew that, Okay, this is specially
23:19
Speaker 1: this is someone that I that I want to spend
23:22
Speaker 1: the rest of my life with. You know, the crying,
23:26
Speaker 1: I don't you know when I met Bella was when
23:30
Speaker 1: I was like, Okay, this is the real deal for us, Like,
23:35
Speaker 1: I can't imagine my life without both of you in it.
23:38
Speaker 1: I love you guys so much. Yep, I remember that moment.
23:44
Speaker 1: I remember that moment for sure. I remember, and you know,
23:48
Speaker 1: I don't know if she told you this story, but
23:51
Speaker 1: her friends always get mad at her because whenever they
23:54
Speaker 1: come over, Teddy's very she takes care of me all
23:58
Speaker 1: the time. So like I don't serve myself, she served.
24:02
Speaker 1: He's kind of, you know, just really takes care of me.
24:05
Speaker 1: And then all her friends that her husband's friends are like,
24:08
Speaker 1: why would you take Well, we we took the Love
24:13
Speaker 1: Languages quiz, and for a while I wasn't like that
24:17
Speaker 1: and his his acts of service, which is actually not
24:21
Speaker 1: something I really even because that's not mine, mine, our
24:25
Speaker 1: words of affirmation. So once I learned that, I was like,
24:28
Speaker 1: I'm going to step up my game because something as
24:30
Speaker 1: simple as like I know he normally has his coffee
24:33
Speaker 1: at this time, or like you know, he's he's never
24:36
Speaker 1: going to be the first in line to like at
24:38
Speaker 1: the buffet or whatever it may be, makes him so happy.
24:42
Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, two minutes of my time makes you
24:46
Speaker 1: so happy. We're like, that's why I highly recommend do
24:49
Speaker 1: the Love Languages quiz, because I thought mine was quality
24:53
Speaker 1: time in my own brain, I thought, like, what I like,
24:56
Speaker 1: what I need the most in a relationship is quality time.
24:59
Speaker 1: But appair, I need words of affirmation, So Edwin feel
25:03
Speaker 1: free to just let those pour out. And then another
25:10
Speaker 1: one not saying I'm warming up now. Another thing that
25:13
Speaker 1: comes to mind is before we we got married, Teddy
25:17
Speaker 1: used to cook me up these meals, like, oh, you
25:21
Speaker 1: cannot imagine what a good tut she was. So we
25:24
Speaker 1: get married, and uh, the cooking kind of stopped for me. Well,
25:29
Speaker 1: I have a secret to tell you, honey. I never
25:32
Speaker 1: actually cooked for you. I would order and then played it.
25:39
Speaker 1: I do remember the tuna when you left me once
25:42
Speaker 1: you got married, she said, hey, what's up for tonight?
25:45
Speaker 1: She left me a can of tuna with the opener thing.
25:47
Speaker 1: She's like, you got tuna, But I do used to
25:52
Speaker 1: make the effort to play ordered food. But then you know,
25:57
Speaker 1: now she knows how to come. She's a good kid.
26:00
Speaker 1: I love you, baby. Yeah, Well, can you hurry home
26:04
Speaker 1: because your anniversary present is arriving today. Anniversary that's coming
26:09
Speaker 1: up ones uh huh, yeah, can you. I'm trying to
26:19
Speaker 1: tell her that you can do two for one presence, right, No,
26:24
Speaker 1: if it's big enough. So hopefully it's big enough. No
26:30
Speaker 1: for a fortieth birthday and a ten your wedding anniversary
26:36
Speaker 1: on No. Plus the house that we originally rented for
26:40
Speaker 1: the trip it burned down, so now it's still a
26:46
Speaker 1: big house. But okay, I can't wait for the fourth
26:50
Speaker 1: my love. I can't want to spend the birthday with
26:52
Speaker 1: you tomorrow, all right, se I really love you guys together.
26:58
Speaker 1: I think you guys are the cueist. I there's an
27:02
Speaker 1: energy between the two of you guys that's so awesome. Well,
27:05
Speaker 1: we're always like jocking each other a little bit, you know,
27:08
Speaker 1: like we're all but that is like, I mean, in
27:11
Speaker 1: lack of a better word, that's like what gets us off.
27:13
Speaker 1: Like we like that like momentum, so when you're on
27:17
Speaker 1: house when you were on Housewives, and even just now
27:20
Speaker 1: when whenever you do press and things like that, Like
27:22
Speaker 1: is he is he like behind the scenes? Is he
27:25
Speaker 1: like staying there or like does he enjoy walking a
27:28
Speaker 1: red carpet? He likes walking a red carpet, but interview
27:31
Speaker 1: questions and stuff he doesn't like he's different than me.
27:34
Speaker 1: And the fact that, like he does a lot of
27:36
Speaker 1: motivational speaking for you know, companies hire him to come
27:40
Speaker 1: in and do it. But he preps like he is
27:43
Speaker 1: a prep type guy, like he'll have it written out,
27:45
Speaker 1: he will memorize it, like he is on a point.
27:48
Speaker 1: I can't do it that way, and yeah, like I'll
27:50
Speaker 1: prep in the fact that, like I'll look over my questions,
27:53
Speaker 1: but I never write them down. I never because then
27:56
Speaker 1: I get too in my own head. So we're just
27:58
Speaker 1: naturally different, like I have to answer from the hip
28:02
Speaker 1: or else it doesn't feel natural to me. He likes to, like, no,
28:05
Speaker 1: that's why I like theirs that one question you got
28:07
Speaker 1: to He's like, you know, because he's like, I don't
28:11
Speaker 1: I think she'd ask something like I did not have
28:13
Speaker 1: an answer for this, He's like, and then he starts
28:16
Speaker 1: grasping at straws, like so that's that's really where we're different.
28:19
Speaker 1: But it's fun because we can kind of help each
28:22
Speaker 1: other in the ways that we need to. But no, um,
28:26
Speaker 1: the first season on Housewives, he came out like we
28:30
Speaker 1: had some kind of dinner and he said something and
28:34
Speaker 1: I remember being like, I honestly will remove your testicles.
28:40
Speaker 1: I cannot believe you just but you have to like
28:43
Speaker 1: kind of pretend that you're fine with it. Like I
28:45
Speaker 1: was like, and I was like dreading the day that
28:51
Speaker 1: I was going to have to watch back that dinner
28:54
Speaker 1: where like I had laughed at something I never would
28:56
Speaker 1: have normally, like like it was my season one. I
28:58
Speaker 1: like I was just in my head about what he said,
29:00
Speaker 1: overthought it, and then I was like, you know, trying
29:04
Speaker 1: to think, like what am I going to do when
29:06
Speaker 1: this comes out? Blah blah blah, And then they never
29:08
Speaker 1: showed it, so I was like, either stress for nothing, Yeah,
29:13
Speaker 1: all that stressed for nothing. But ever since then he
29:15
Speaker 1: was like listen, like he was like trying to be
29:18
Speaker 1: something he wasn't, which is why he like he was
29:20
Speaker 1: trying to be like a bigger personality, and he has
29:24
Speaker 1: a great personality on his own. So I'm like, I
29:26
Speaker 1: don't know why you did that, Like, but that we
29:28
Speaker 1: had one of those, uh we had car camps and
29:31
Speaker 1: we didn't even realize they were car camps. So we're
29:33
Speaker 1: like arguing on the way home too, because I was like,
29:35
Speaker 1: why would you have said that, you know, like it
29:38
Speaker 1: was both and I was like, then none of it
29:40
Speaker 1: was used. I got that, you know, not good at it?
29:43
Speaker 1: Season one good at it. Yeah, I think like if
29:49
Speaker 1: and I'm just curious like now that you guys don't
29:51
Speaker 1: have the cameras every day, Um, it's like that's something
29:55
Speaker 1: that you would you know, entertained doing again because I
29:58
Speaker 1: feel like I just even when I've heard from from
30:02
Speaker 1: you and through other you know, people that have done
30:04
Speaker 1: reality television, like it really does like put a like
30:08
Speaker 1: a weird strain on a relationship, you know, like you
30:12
Speaker 1: have to be out all the time or um, even
30:15
Speaker 1: like when you are home there's a camera on you,
30:17
Speaker 1: like you know, like for a solid six months, you're
30:20
Speaker 1: not really just Teddy and Edwyn at home, like you know,
30:24
Speaker 1: lounging on the couch and you know, doing things or whatever.
30:27
Speaker 1: Like that's hard. I mean, I think I would definitely
30:31
Speaker 1: consider it in the fact of if we could really
30:34
Speaker 1: show our full life. I think I ultimately struggled and
30:39
Speaker 1: what so many people relate to me about, Like why
30:42
Speaker 1: you know my Instagram following has grown so much even
30:45
Speaker 1: post housewives, is because people like seeing the relationship between
30:51
Speaker 1: me and the kids and Edwin and our life, our
30:53
Speaker 1: actual life, not fighting with other women. So I think
30:58
Speaker 1: with eliminating the type of stress and really having the
31:02
Speaker 1: focus be like the fun our family has the different
31:05
Speaker 1: dynamics because every single one of our kids has a
31:07
Speaker 1: completely different personality. I am super Type A and organized
31:11
Speaker 1: and actually you know, diagnosed O C D. Edwin's totally
31:15
Speaker 1: like who who you know, Like there's just you know,
31:19
Speaker 1: he never he'll be like, oh yeah, what when we're leaving,
31:23
Speaker 1: When I'm like in seven minutes and you haven't packed
31:25
Speaker 1: for the airport, you know, like we are just pulling.
31:28
Speaker 1: So I wish if we could show that true, you know,
31:31
Speaker 1: that the love and the messiness of our life, I
31:36
Speaker 1: would totally be down. Yeah, no, totally even that. Like
31:39
Speaker 1: one episode, I remember when um you had to all
31:42
Speaker 1: in retreat and it was literally all about Derret's outfit
31:46
Speaker 1: and like a photo shoot. I'm like, there was so
31:49
Speaker 1: much other cool things happening that they just didn't come
31:52
Speaker 1: from I mean and get it, but still, and there
31:55
Speaker 1: was a whole part in there where you know, I
31:57
Speaker 1: was bummed that wasn't in where I pretty much said
32:00
Speaker 1: tore the reason that I am the way that I am.
32:05
Speaker 1: Like I I had a really hard time and I've
32:08
Speaker 1: worked on it, and um, I had a really hard
32:11
Speaker 1: time asking people to show up for me all growing up,
32:15
Speaker 1: and so because of that, I really became super independent
32:22
Speaker 1: and super afraid that if I did ask people to
32:24
Speaker 1: show up for me, something bad would happen. So my
32:27
Speaker 1: entire life growing up and traveling, riding horses and doing
32:31
Speaker 1: all that, like, I didn't even ask my parents to come,
32:33
Speaker 1: like I was like, now, I'd rather just do this
32:35
Speaker 1: on my own, you know, Like I think because of
32:37
Speaker 1: the divorce and all the things that went down with us,
32:40
Speaker 1: like I just I never did and then it kind
32:43
Speaker 1: of carried over into my adult life. And that's why,
32:47
Speaker 1: you know, I'm trying to be better about it. But
32:49
Speaker 1: that's why I always give an invite with an out,
32:52
Speaker 1: you know, because I am a have a people pleasing personality,
32:56
Speaker 1: not in the standard way like where I'm gonna say
32:58
Speaker 1: yes to any dinner place, but in the way that like,
33:01
Speaker 1: if somebody's doing something that I've invited them to do,
33:04
Speaker 1: I want them to be happy. And I can't have
33:06
Speaker 1: a hard time being happy if they're not. Even though
33:08
Speaker 1: you can't control others. So I shared this whole thing,
33:12
Speaker 1: broke down in tears, like but no, it was about
33:16
Speaker 1: the outfit and that's super understandable. That's super understandable too,
33:20
Speaker 1: Like just like I feel like I can relate to
33:22
Speaker 1: you on that too, like having people show up for
33:25
Speaker 1: you but you're but you want to say it's okay
33:28
Speaker 1: if you don't want to come, like no pressure. And
33:31
Speaker 1: I think especially when it comes to like being vulnerable,
33:34
Speaker 1: you know, I I was, you know, part of the
33:38
Speaker 1: retreat was requiring all of these you know, clients and
33:41
Speaker 1: people that signed up to be vulnerable. And I knew
33:44
Speaker 1: that if certain you know, housewives came in and they
33:47
Speaker 1: weren't able to do so, it was going to change
33:49
Speaker 1: the dynamic of the event. So I was like, listen,
33:52
Speaker 1: if you're you know, coming in and you're going to
33:55
Speaker 1: change the dynamic because you don't like working out or
33:57
Speaker 1: you don't want to be here, I really I don't.
34:00
Speaker 1: I'd rather you not be you know what I mean?
34:02
Speaker 1: Because my biggest priority was to them. And actually when
34:05
Speaker 1: we did our final thing at the retreat that said,
34:09
Speaker 1: like what was the highs and the lows? And of
34:13
Speaker 1: the people's lows were that none of Teddy's friends shared
34:17
Speaker 1: at the dinner, And there was a dinner where we
34:18
Speaker 1: all stood up and shared these really heartfelt moment like
34:22
Speaker 1: where we just like poured our heart out, and like,
34:24
Speaker 1: you know, there's forty women they're doing the same and
34:27
Speaker 1: then you know my Housewives table they didn't, and so
34:31
Speaker 1: like it changes the dynamics. So I, you know, I
34:35
Speaker 1: think in hindsight, I could have done it differently, maybe,
34:39
Speaker 1: you know, But I'm trying not to beat myself up
34:43
Speaker 1: after the fact about things. But that's that's really what
34:45
Speaker 1: it's about. It's always been about wanting to make sure
34:49
Speaker 1: that people are doing things that they enjoy. Well, you know,
34:53
Speaker 1: keeping over with the Kardashians is finishing their twentieth season,
34:56
Speaker 1: so maybe it's um, what's an m thing with the
35:00
Speaker 1: Melancamp I guess it's ariavi is right. Yeah, we're Melancamp
35:04
Speaker 1: Barriaves the kids and yeah, because and people always like,
35:10
Speaker 1: why do you keep the name Melancamp? Did you just
35:12
Speaker 1: hear my dad? There's absolutely no way he would have
35:14
Speaker 1: let us drop that name, and why would you? I'm
35:18
Speaker 1: married too, and I keep my maiden name because it's dope,
35:21
Speaker 1: you know, Like I like I like my name. I
35:23
Speaker 1: just added my married name after Yeah, that's the same
35:26
Speaker 1: as me. I'm like, well, plus he's got you know,
35:28
Speaker 1: like he's prideful about it. He's like where the melancop No,
35:31
Speaker 1: the your kids medan name is Melancamp. That's us. And
35:35
Speaker 1: it's because like, you know, you know where we grew up,
35:39
Speaker 1: all of our you know family. That is just important
35:42
Speaker 1: to him and that's important to us. We'll think of
35:44
Speaker 1: a good reality TV show title and we'll get back
35:47
Speaker 1: to you because I think that's a really really good idea.
35:51
Speaker 1: I think it would love to see you guys. You know,
35:53
Speaker 1: I heart could produce it. Let's do it, all right,
35:57
Speaker 1: Let's go to a quick break and then um, we'll
35:59
Speaker 1: come up with our final caller after the break. All right,
36:11
Speaker 1: our next and final caller is someone you probably don't
36:16
Speaker 1: know actually, so we're gonna kind of switch it up
36:19
Speaker 1: a little bit. Um, but let's talk about what, like
36:23
Speaker 1: what TV shows you're watching right now? What are you
36:25
Speaker 1: guys obsessed with? What are you watching at home? And
36:28
Speaker 1: then maybe you can kind of narrow it in on
36:30
Speaker 1: who your surprise guest is what. Okay, so is it
36:34
Speaker 1: a male or female? It's a boy. It's a boy male.
36:40
Speaker 1: He's not a boy. He's not a boy. Uh. Um,
36:45
Speaker 1: I was like, I mean this year we watched Mayor
36:48
Speaker 1: of Easttown, we watched the Undoing, we watch what else
36:56
Speaker 1: do we watch? Um? I mean I love reality any television.
37:00
Speaker 1: So someone from that a male I've never met? Um,
37:10
Speaker 1: there's one show you're you're really binging right now? Think
37:14
Speaker 1: about it. Gilmore Girls was Slate? Yeah, who could it
37:20
Speaker 1: be from Gilmore Girls? Is he around my age? Or
37:24
Speaker 1: is he he's older? Um? If this is really someone
37:29
Speaker 1: from Gilmore Girls, Uh, Slate, it's going to freak out
37:35
Speaker 1: that she isn't here? Is she with you? Or no? No,
37:39
Speaker 1: she's at camp darnet. Just I need to know. Is
37:44
Speaker 1: it Luke? High possibility it's Luke? Is Slay going to
37:51
Speaker 1: be so bummed that she s here? Is gonna be
37:54
Speaker 1: so bummed. We're gonna need to video this. I If
37:59
Speaker 1: this is Luke, I can't all right, Well well let's
38:03
Speaker 1: bring him in from the waiting room right now. Luke?
38:09
Speaker 1: Is that you hi? Have your birthday? Thank you so much?
38:19
Speaker 1: Oh my god, I'm all repped. How are you doing?
38:23
Speaker 1: I'm doing great? You have no idea your show has
38:28
Speaker 1: changed the course of the year for my daughter's slate.
38:32
Speaker 1: And the reason I started watching so late is because
38:37
Speaker 1: my um daughter amputated her finger last year and so
38:42
Speaker 1: she was on like, you know, recovery because it was
38:44
Speaker 1: an open cast situation, so there was a long time
38:47
Speaker 1: where she needed to be in bed. And I did
38:50
Speaker 1: an Instagram like like thing where I did the questions
38:53
Speaker 1: and I said, what is a great show for me
38:55
Speaker 1: to watch with my daughter? And overwhelming response was gil
39:00
Speaker 1: More Girls, And so we have been watching ever since.
39:04
Speaker 1: We're now like the end of season four. But I
39:08
Speaker 1: mean we are obsessed. Well, I mean we think sing
39:11
Speaker 1: the theme song as if we are like paid to
39:14
Speaker 1: sing it, and we still don't even know if you
39:18
Speaker 1: and Laura La end up together. And we, I mean,
39:21
Speaker 1: we really wanted to happen. Where where is she? Where's
39:24
Speaker 1: your daughter? That's what I said to Danielle. She's at
39:28
Speaker 1: sailing camp this morning. I'm like, I would have known,
39:31
Speaker 1: I would have kept her home, but I had her
39:33
Speaker 1: in sailing camp because I was like, I'm doing the podcast,
39:36
Speaker 1: but they didn't tell me what was happening today. I
39:38
Speaker 1: didn't even get a rundown, and like it's straight I
39:42
Speaker 1: mean your your podcast is on my heart as well. Right,
39:46
Speaker 1: by the way, his podcast is I Am all I
39:49
Speaker 1: Am all In, which is all In. Is also my
39:51
Speaker 1: company's name, by the way, so yeah, that's your company's name.
39:56
Speaker 1: Is I Am all In? It's all In by Teddy
39:59
Speaker 1: all In. Oh that's wow. What a Scott. I see
40:04
Speaker 1: a little guitar. Are you planning to do something with that?
40:07
Speaker 1: Are you got to sing? I'm sing you it's your birthday, right, Yes,
40:14
Speaker 1: Happy birthday to you, Happy birthday to you, Happy birthday
40:29
Speaker 1: to day, Happy birthday to you, to you, to you. Alright.
40:51
Speaker 1: I have to say, it's not every day that I
40:54
Speaker 1: have John Mellencamp and Scott Patterson A k Luke coming
41:01
Speaker 1: on to sing me Happy birthday. I mean, I'm officially
41:05
Speaker 1: forty now, and life is good. Life is good. Look,
41:08
Speaker 1: my life didn't really begin until forty. I I'd like
41:11
Speaker 1: to say, I practiced for you know, twenty plus years,
41:15
Speaker 1: and then got it right, and then forty happened and
41:17
Speaker 1: I got Gilmore Girls. Is that when you got Gilmore Girls?
41:21
Speaker 1: I was? I think I was forty one, Yeah, I
41:23
Speaker 1: think it was. Yes, Yes, that is incredible. Well, thank
41:28
Speaker 1: you so much for joining us and singing me happy birthday,
41:32
Speaker 1: Happy birthday, and it was great meeting you, and I
41:35
Speaker 1: hope to see you soon and you have to you
41:37
Speaker 1: have to come on my podcast too, okay whenever. Let
41:41
Speaker 1: me know on my birthday and you have to sing
41:43
Speaker 1: me happy birthday. My happy birthday isn't gonna sound so good.
41:47
Speaker 1: You know, I did not get the Jeanes, but to
41:49
Speaker 1: my years, it doesn't matter. Okay, perfect, thank you all right,
41:55
Speaker 1: Happy birthday, Bye bye? Wow, Teddy, you got ernated twice today.
42:01
Speaker 1: I know that doesn't happen that often. I know, right, Like,
42:05
Speaker 1: what are the chances? I honestly, Now it's even more
42:09
Speaker 1: ammunition for me to give Edwin a hard time that
42:12
Speaker 1: he didn't sing, considering um Luke came in and sang
42:17
Speaker 1: so to my dad, so he's gonna have to sing
42:19
Speaker 1: a little later tonight, yeah he is. Well, we love
42:26
Speaker 1: you so much, like so so so much, and we
42:29
Speaker 1: hope you have the best birthday and we can't wait
42:33
Speaker 1: to see you once you're officially fourty years old. Yea, guys, bye,
42:41
Speaker 1: have a good day. Maybe I'll do an impromptu podcast
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Speaker 1: while I'm away with all the people there, because there's
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Speaker 1: gonna be some familiar faces, bring a bring your little mike,
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Speaker 1: and we will be ready to roll. Bye, guys, thanks
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