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How to Build Internal Discipline (S5) S26:E5 · Inspirations for Your Life

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This is Inspirations for Your Life.
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If you didn't know, our master topic for
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the entire week is protect your energy like
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it builds your future, because it really does.
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It's series five.
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It's show number 26.
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And this granular topic for this day, today,
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Wednesday, which is basically June 24, 2026, how
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to build internal discipline.
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Again, it's series five, show 26, episode five.
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And this revolves around self-control.
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And that's all over the concept of motivation.
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So let's get right in it, right, everyone?
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So welcome once again to Inspirations for Your
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Life.
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I am John C.
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Morley, serial entrepreneur, engineer, marketing specialist, video producer,
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podcast host, coach, keynote speaker, graduate student, yes,
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and a passionate lifelong learner.
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And it is so great to be with
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everyone here.
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I am a graduate student, yes, at Montclair
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State University.
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And again, I'm so grateful now to be
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a published author, yes, yes, yes.
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So today, I'm focusing on something that determines
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everything else in your life.
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What is that?
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Discipline.
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Not external discipline, internal discipline.
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There's a difference.
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The kind that does not depend on motivation.
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Because you see, guys, motivation will come.
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It will fade.
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And that's an important thing to definitely understand.
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The kind that does not wait for feelings.
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The kind that executes regardless of conditions.
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I think that's a very important one to
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understand.
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The core message, motivation is temporary.
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Discipline is structural.
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Motivation rises and falls with emotion.
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And I think that catches a lot of
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people off guard.
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But it's important to understand that.
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Discipline stays when emotion disappears.
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If you rely, ladies and gentlemen, on motivation,
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your progress becomes inconsistent.
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If you rely on basically your systems, and
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your progress becomes stable, that's a different thing.
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That's the difference between a short-term effort
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and a long-term identity.
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And our identity is what shapes who we
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are.
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And ladies and gentlemen, that comes from what?
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Our core values.
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Yes, our core values.
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And I think sometimes people, like, they miss
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that point, right?
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They miss the point of the core values.
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Everything we do is about our core values.
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Number one, motivation fades, but discipline remains stable
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over time.
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Now, consistency is built on structure, not emotion,
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guys.
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Many people think it is emotion, but it's
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not built on that.
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Number two, you must act even when you
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do not feel ready.
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Maybe you're tired, maybe the weather is bad,
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still got to act.
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Readiness is often a delay mechanism.
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That's key, guys.
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Number three, feelings are not reliable indicators of
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action.
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They shift too quickly, and they guide consistency,
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OK?
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If we go too quick, we'll miss the
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consistency.
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Number four, systems always outperform emotional decisions, hands
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down.
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We never hire a fire on emotions.
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We do it on logic.
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Structure beats impulse every single time.
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Why do we keep doing it?
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Well, I'll tell you why, because people are
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comfortable, and they just want to keep doing
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that over and over and over and over
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again.
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So that's an important thing to think about,
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right?
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Number five, showing up daily removes internal negotiation.
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Routines eliminate hesitation.
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Now, they're not easy to get going.
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I will grant you that.
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They're not easy to get going, but they
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do have a pretty big following once you
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get them going.
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Number six, small habits create long-term transformation.
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Repetition compounds quietly.
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Number seven, discipline builds trust in yourself.
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Self-belief is earned through action, action.
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Number eight, consistency is more powerful than any
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level of intensity.
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Sustained effort beats short bursts.
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Now, some people might think, oh, gee, if
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I'm strong for a short period of time,
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that's great.
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But really, guys, it's a facade.
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And you're just going to be like, how
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do I even do this?
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And you're going to have days where it's
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going to be easy.
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You're going to have days that are just
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going to be like, what do I do
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today?
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How do I even start?
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And those things can pull you down, so
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it is important to have a good routine.
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Number nine, waiting for the perfect moment delays
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progress.
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Guys, I said there's no perfect moment or
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time.
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Perfection is often an avoidance in disguise.
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Done is better than perfect.
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You can always go back and make something
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better.
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Every single time, you can do that.
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Number 10, action creates clarity faster than thinking.
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Movement reveals direction, direction.
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A lot of people, you know what happens,
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guys?
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They lack direction.
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They become part of direction when something's not
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working because they have to change something, right?
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That's important.
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I'll tell you that's important to know.
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Yeah.
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I think when we know the direction we're
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going, life becomes a little bit easier.
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I'm not saying it's easy, but it becomes
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easier when we know the direction that we
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are moving toward, right?
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I think that's a very important thing to
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understand.
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I know that can contribute to everything, right?
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I know that can be
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hard for a lot of people, but guys,
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it's the truth.
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It's absolutely the truth.
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And they say the truth will set you
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free, and it will.
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But you first have to understand where truth
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is coming from.
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Is it coming from the North, the South,
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the East, the West, or is it not
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coming at all?
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Are you making up what the truth really
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is?
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I think that can hurt people.
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If we make up what the truth is,
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then that can really cause us to be,
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I'm going to say that can cause us
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to be confused, right?
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And the reason it can cause us to
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be confused is because when we don't know
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what's happening, we suddenly get confused.
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And so we figure, well, maybe we should
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give up.
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Maybe we should do something else.
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But I want to tell you guys, you
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don't give up.
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Don't you dare give up, okay?
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That's an important piece of the puzzle, to
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not ever, ever, ever give up, right?
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I know you're probably saying, John, I don't
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get this.
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It's not easy.
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I understand.
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But I want to tell you that it's
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something that you will get after you work
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at it.
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Because you see, a lot of times people
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go for that shorter, that faster, that easier
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road, but that road is not the best
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road.
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It seems like it is because it's quick,
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right?
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Sometimes it's cheap.
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But I'll say what I've said before.
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If you put the time in now and
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things are harder now, later will be easier.
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If you do things easier now, later will
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be harder.
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I'd rather have later easier.
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So it's okay to have it harder now.
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Number 11, your habits gradually define your identity.
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We've said this many times.
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Behavior becomes who you are inside.
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Number 12, routines reduce mental resistance.
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Automotion and the automation of it removes friction,
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making your actions automatic or possible.
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Less thinking creates more execution.
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And what could be better than more execution?
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Well, understanding why things work or why things
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don't work.
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I think that's something that many people get
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tripped up on, right?
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They get tripped up on.
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Number 14, we've all fallen to this boat
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before.
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It's called decision fatigue, yes.
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And decision fatigue weakens discipline.
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Yeah, it does.
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Silification strengthens control, guys.
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When we make something easier, we're able to
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understand something better, okay?
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Number 15, winning your mornings sets your entire
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day.
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Early structure creates momentum, momentum.
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And I think when we can have a
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small win in the morning, it's like, oh
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my gosh, that was so amazing, that was
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so great, right?
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But I think it can cause challenges for
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people because, again, they're confused.
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They don't know how things are working.
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If we make things easier and less complex,
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we're probably gonna be able to do them
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faster in the beginning.
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We could always make things harder down the
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road, but why do we wanna make things
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harder?
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I mean, that's probably the question that I
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wanna ask you.
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Why do we wanna make things harder, okay?
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And it's important to understand that you can
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change, but it comes down to who you
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are.
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And maybe you're gonna say to me, John,
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I've done this, I've tried this, but it
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didn't work.
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Well, it didn't work because you probably were
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either not consistent, okay?
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Or you didn't have a structure.
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You have to have both to be successful.
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I don't care what you're doing.
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I don't care whether you're baking bread, whether
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you're cutting lawns, whether you're balancing a budget,
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whether you're engineering a world rocket ship.
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You have to have those two things, consistency
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and structure.
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Number 16, guys, your environment influences your discipline.
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Surroundings shape our behavior, even with us not
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being aware of it.
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It's, well, unconscious.
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So our unconscious really does affect our lives.
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People think it doesn't.
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Surroundings, you go to certain places, they paint
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things a certain way.
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Why?
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Because they want your, let's say, neurological system
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to be in aligned a certain way.
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I think that's an important thing is that
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when we know that we know, we have
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more confidence, but confidence doesn't appear like that.
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It could take some time.
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Number 17, non-negotiables protect your progress.
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It's okay to have non-negotiables.
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Absolutely okay.
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But don't go back.
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Don't renege on that.
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That's an important thing.
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Do not renege on that, right?
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Keep them in play no matter what.
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Boundaries create consistency.
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Don't be making exceptions or looking for ways
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that you can do that.
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Because when you do that, guys, you actually
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hurt yourself.
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You hurt yourself.
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And nobody wants to hurt themselves, do they?
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But they do because the body's craving something.
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And the body is craving order, not chaos.
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When the body understands order, when the body
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can just go in a flow, it becomes
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easier.
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Number 18, guys, tracking progress reinforces commitment.
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Measurement builds awareness, guys.
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I said before, if we cannot measure it,
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we definitely cannot change it.
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If we cannot measure it, we cannot change
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it.
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So we have to be able to figure
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out how we measure something, right?
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And once we can do that, then we
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know that if we change the inputs, we
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will get different outputs.
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We know that.
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That's a fact.
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Number 19, guys, accountability increases execution quality.
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Question I have for you is why are
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so many people not accountable?
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You know, they punched out a certain time
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and then they left.
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But why?
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I think it comes down to the fact
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that most people, when they see an easy
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way out, they want to take it.
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Not everybody.
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And they've learned that when you do that,
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it doesn't work.
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But they don't catch that until later on,
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until they've unfortunately gone down the wrong path,
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until they've had the misfortune, unfortunately.
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People always think you can cut corners and
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no one will notice.
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Or that you can get by and it
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won't make a difference, right?
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Like if you buy a brand name of
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cheese versus one that's not a brand name.
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Is there a difference?
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There could be, right?
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The taste, the consistency, the texture.
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There absolutely could be differences.
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And then there may not be.
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But usually there are.
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If you pay a little more, usually it
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is worth more.
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Responsibility sharpens focus.
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So when we understand that our responsibility sharpens
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focus, we're more apt to pay attention to
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it.
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Other people will start paying attention to our
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mannerisms.
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And that will get them to either want
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to be with us or not.
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It's making an impression.
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And they've said this many times before.
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You cannot go back and make a first
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impression ever again.
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You can only do it one time.
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You can only do it one time.
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I think that's an important thing, guys.
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You can only do it one time.
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Number 20.
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Doing hard things daily will build resistance.
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I'm not going to say you're going to
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like it, but it will build resilience.
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Challenge creates strength.
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It's good to raise the bar.
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I'm not telling you to raise it out
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of the stadium, but I'm telling you to
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raise it a little bit of time.
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Because if you raise it too much, you're
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going to actually, well, you're going to get
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disappointed.
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I think that's a hard thing.
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Because if you get disappointed, you're maybe not
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going to put the full effort in anymore.
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So raise the bar a little bit at
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a time.
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OK?
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Raise it so it's just a little bit
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more difficult.
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Don't make it that it's going to stress
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you out.
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But raise that bar.
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And keep raising it.
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When you reach it, raise it again.
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Number 21.
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Growth requires discomfort.
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I have said this so many times, that
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growth requires discomfort.
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Right?
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Why?
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It's because we have to get used to
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doing something different.
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Maybe it's something new.
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Maybe we have to change our pattern.
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Maybe we're afraid that we may not be
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good at it.
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And so we put all these what if,
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what if, what ifs in our mind, instead
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of actually focusing on learning the task at
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hand.
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Do we think the task is just going
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to fall away?
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No.
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So why do we spend so much time
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procrastinating about doing something?
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Just learn it.
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You've got to learn it anyway.
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Number 22.
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Comfort limits expansion.
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I said before, everybody wants the warm blanket,
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or they want the air conditioning, or they
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want to feel comfortable in the plush chair.
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And there's nothing wrong with that.
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But I'm here to tell you that if
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you want to grow, things are going to
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become uncomfortable.
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I didn't say painful.
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I said uncomfortable.
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Right?
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So discomfort is part of our daily development.
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Resistance signals progress.
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And that's something you should understand.
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It's not going to come very easy for
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you.
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But I can tell you this.
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It will get easier the more that you
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move on.
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The more that you move on, the easier
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it will become.
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It's not going to do that overnight, guys.
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The more that you chip away at something,
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the easier it will be for you.
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Next time you go to it, you may
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not be chipping away.
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You might find that, wow, I actually got
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this.
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Number 23.
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Hey, there's that word again.
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Structure keeps you aligned when the motivation drops.
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Motivation is nice, but it doesn't last.
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Because motivation is tied to our current state
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of how we feel.
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And if we feel a certain way, we
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still got to keep doing what we need
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to do.
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We still got to keep the consistency.
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We still got to keep the structure, regardless.
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System-stabilized behavior.
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When we learn how to build systems and
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we learn how to repeat them and use
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them, our behavior starts to grow.
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That's important, guys.
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Number 24.
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Keeping promises to yourself builds identity strength.
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Self-trust comes from the follow-through.
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And many people don't want to follow through
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because, well, they don't know what's going to
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happen.
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They don't know what the responsibility is.
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Number 25.
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Discipline compounds over time, like interest does in
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the bank.
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Repetition multiplies results.
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So if we get a little bit better
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each day, that's a win.
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It's a win.
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And I think a lot of people, when
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they get better, like, well, you know, I
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got this better, but I'm not as good
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as I should be.
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Okay, you're not as good as you should
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be.
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But why are you complaining?
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Why are you complaining?
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I want to know that.
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I want to know why you are complaining.
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Why are you complaining?
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I think the reason you're complaining is that
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you are not where you want to be.
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So you figure it's easier to complain and
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whine.
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It's not going to be good.
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People around you don't want to be around
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people that complain.
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You're going to demotivate yourself too.
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Number 26.
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Mental toughness is built through repetition.
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The more that we repeat and we practice,
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the better we become.
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That doesn't happen day one.
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Does a baseball player that's just learning how
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to play ball, maybe not in pro, but
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in, let's say, some of the, maybe the
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varsity leagues, is he ready for major league
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baseball?
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No.
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Could he be ready?
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Sure.
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He's got to keep practicing.
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He's got to build that resilience, right?
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Build that mental toughness.
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See, consistency strengthens the endurance.
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But again, it's not going to be comfortable.
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Sorry, it's not a picnic.
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Number 27.
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Reliability is a learned behavior.
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It's not built.
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It's not inherited.
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It's something we learn.
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And when we learn that, it's like, oh,
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now I get it.
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Now I understand.
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Now I understand how or why that works.
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But if I don't understand that, I start
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making excuses to why something's not working.
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And I think that's a very big problem
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for a lot of people.
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They just make excuses.
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And making excuses might seem great because you
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have a way to shirk the responsibility and
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you have a way to procrastinate.
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But tomorrow never comes.
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You keep putting it off and putting it
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off and putting it off.
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You don't really get anywhere.
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You just keep having a bunch of empty
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promises, a bunch of disappointments to yourself and
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even others.
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Number 28.
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Execution is the final form of discipline.
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Thinking without action is incomplete.
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Right?
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My grandfather always said, John, we have to
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measure twice and cut once.
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What did he mean by that?
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He meant that you can't make something longer.
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You can always make it shorter, but you
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can't make it any longer.
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I think that's a very important thing.
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And when we understand that, when we can
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embrace that, it's only then that we can
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grow.
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Number 29, guys.
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You become what you repeatedly do under pressure.
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And pressure reveals your identity.
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Number 30, guys.
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Internal discipline is the foundation of all success.
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Everything else, well, it depends on it.
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It's part of the foundation.
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Can't have one without the other.
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In closing today, I'd like to wrap up
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and say a few things.
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So here is the truth.
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Are you guys ready for the truth?
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Can you handle the truth?
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I hope you can.
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You do not need more motivation.
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You need stronger structure.
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You need consistency.
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Because motivation will leave you from time to
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time.
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But discipline will stay with you at your
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side all the time.
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And when discipline becomes internal, you no longer
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wait to act.
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You simply execute.
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I'm John C.
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Morley, serial entrepreneur.
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This has been Inspirations For Your Life.
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