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Are you sacrificing yourself? · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places for chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the chicken coop.
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  So I want to ask you a question. How much do you think you're
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  sacrificing yourself every day for your job?
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  Your family, your, you know, your whatever it might be in
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  your world? How much do you think you're
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  sacrificing yourself and is that a bad thing?
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  The question came up with a client recently about how her
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  belief is that she's constantly sacrificing herself for her
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  husband and her children, and her boss and she never ever
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  takes care of herself and my perspective was to ask her.
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  The question, what's the reason that you do that?
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  What's the reason that you believe you're sacrificing
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  yourself? Not just the fact that she is
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  doing it. But what's the reason she
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  believes? She is doing that because
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  there's a big difference. Is she actually doing that or
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  does she just believe she's doing that?
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  And how you know, when you're sacrificing yourself, how do you
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  know when you're not sacrificing yourself?
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  Well, it all comes back to our guiding principles of emotions,
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  right? What our emotions are teaching
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  us information. They are giving us is to help us
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  guide us and to move us closer, or further away from the actions
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  we're doing in order to get the That we eventually want to be
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  and most of the time. So to ask you the question do
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  you think you're sacrificing yourself and if so what does
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  that mean? Is that something that makes you
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  happy? Because again it's all about
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  perspective on it. So if I sacrifice some of my
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  personal time to spend with my child, is that something that I
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  have to feel resentful about? Well only, if I feel like I'm
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  sacrificing it And it's causing me pain.
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  Then I have to go to a place of saying.
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  Well, you know what, I don't feel good about this.
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  But if I do it and I say, I sacrifice this time with him,
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  but I absolutely love and enjoy it and I'm grateful for the fact
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  that I get to do that because I know I won't have him forever.
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  He's 13 and I know he's going to eventually have a girlfriend and
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  a wife, and a life and move on. So I don't look at Time that I
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  spend with him now, as something that's taking away from me and
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  what I'm doing. Because I appreciate the fact
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  that I have this guiding force inside of me that says, I can
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  spend time doing things, physically, and gain gratitude,
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  for it emotionally as to the outcomes.
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  I don't look at working with my clients, the number of hours
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  that I work with. My clients is a vice from my
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  personal time or my family. I look at it like, it's a
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  blessing that one I get to help people and to that, I have the
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  ability to see it as a gift and ingratitude.
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  But back to the question and so you can understand where I'm
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  coming from. If you feel like something is
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  constant sacrifice, then you feel like you're being ripped
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  off. You feel like you're being
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  ripped off then you can never get past the fact that you're
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  starting out from a depleted level.
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  And if you're starting off something in depletion, it just
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  feels like crap. Every time you start that down
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  that road. So if you walk into work
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  everyday and you are saying to yourself, you know, I feel like
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  I sacrifice myself coming here every day, and I feel like this
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  and I feel like that even though they're paying you right there,
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  they've agreed to give you money and you.
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  Your trading your time for money.
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  So you entered into this agreement, whatever money you're
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  getting, whether it's a salary or hourly, you have agreed to
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  trade time for money. So are you really sacrificing
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  yourself because you agreed to it, and it's a great simple
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  thing to just start there because that's where the
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  beginning of it all started, they offered you something.
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  You accepted it and you're doing it.
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  Point one point two is you're making an emotional connection
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  and attachment to it. If you're being in the state of
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  I'm sacrificing myself for this job, I hate this job.
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  I feel like I come here every day and a little piece of me
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  dies, I understand that the job might suck and it might not be
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  what they told you but you still have the ability to change that.
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  Nobody else can change it for you.
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  You can decide. I want to go somewhere else.
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  I want to do something else and maybe, That's the lesson in
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  this. Maybe that's what you're
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  supposed to be doing. Maybe you're supposed to be
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  figuring out something else for yourself.
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  And the pain is the here to teach you something.
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  And it's not just about you sacrificing yourself.
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  It's about you learning that you've got to go beyond it but
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  nobody can answer those questions.
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  But you the point of this conversation is if you believe
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  that you're sacrificing yourself any every day, are there
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  moments, which we all have to, like, give a little bit of
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  ourselves and we Have to say, oh, you know, that sure those
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  happen. But if your predominant state is
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  that of sacrificing yourself, It's not about the thing or the
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  person or anything else, it's about you and your perspective,
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  and you taking responsibility and changing your own mindset
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  and your own situation because nobody can else can do either
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  for you. Nobody else can make you get a
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  different job. Nobody else can change your
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  mind. It's all an internal job and if
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  you're starting from sacrifice, you're already starting in a
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  place of depletion. So I'm going to challenge you to
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  go and look and say, you know, my really sacrificing myself
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  every day or is this just an Raymond I've entered into and
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  I've become complacent about it now.
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  I'm angry about it and now I'm just I got to get out of it.
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  That might be more accurate than you're sacrificing yourself
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  every day. And when you get clear on it,
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  then you can change it. Otherwise, you'll just be angry
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  and you'll do nothing. So hopefully you guys will be
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  able to take some wisdom from this and go out and shift, any
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  situations that are not working for you, any longer and move
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  forward. I hope you guys have a very
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  blessed day and I will see you tomorrow.
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  Oh,