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Don't let your wife watch this 👀 (Ft. Ahmad Seddiq) · After Maghrib 🌙

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Is not a moment, that's it. You think the mainly a Muslim
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and enjoy. My.
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Marriage. Life for women.
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And you think that if you chose a moment, you will have a bored
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life. You will be bored.
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Nothing. No excitement.
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I. Think the message he wants to
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push is that you can be a believer and have the best of
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marriages? The most, the most excitement,
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the most beautiful life. I like it.
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I like ready to go. Smila Rahmada, Rahim Salaam
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Alaikum and welcome back to your favorite Shia Muslim podcast,
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the After Mahrab where we are still here having weekly
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conversations with a number of guests and they're having
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exciting discussions. Yes, it's the month of Ramadan.
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So again, I hope all your Armada are accepted, your Fars are
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being accepted, but more importantly, we want to have a
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serious conversation today. But before we get into the
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exciting discussion, I want to say, how are you doing, Ahmed?
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Everyone knows. That's why.
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I'm. Asking.
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Between Between our last podcast, for those who don't
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know we have Has my Arabic improved since?
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I am amazed actually Mashallah. That's because he is married.
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A lot. A lot.
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Baraka in different ways. Exactly.
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Someland Indian Persian was mashallah.
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Hey, you're the the king of Arabic.
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My old. Vocabulary, very useful words.
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Amdulla amdulla saying. How are you?
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I'm more happy now that we have an amazing guest joining us.
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Thank you so much. And I think before we kick off
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this conversation today, I know everyone's excited to know what
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we're about to discuss. But before we dive into this
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discussion, there is a question you want to ask.
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There is. Yes, yes.
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Well Ahmed, so for those who don't know, you of course joined
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us a few months ago during the days of Arbaeen.
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We had such an amazing conversation.
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We got to see your passion for the Ahlid Bait Lahim Salaam.
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Then today, inshallah we will see it as well in in a happier
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period as well. But we have a an activity we
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like to do with the guests who come on to the podcast
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different. We didn't have this before.
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Now you're here for the first time after coming last time, so
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we want to ask you a surprise question for people to know
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Mullah Ahmed Siddiq outside of the Jawami.
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OK. So the question today we have
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for you is if you could have one superpower, what would it be?
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To travel anywhere, anytime, teleport a bail Arab in Arabic
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A. If I want to be in Karbala now,
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I will go to Karbala now. A law.
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I need to travel, yeah. You know Mol Ahmed, just before
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the podcast, we were deciding the question I said to say much
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about what do you think about the superpower question?
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He said. Mol Ahmed's going to say that I
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could travel to Karabala. Malala he he he guessed it
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exactly. That's I hope, by the way, it is
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possible to have it, so pray Eli, give it to me.
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Your heart can be a karabala anytime.
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I sent him. Well, Ahmed, how are you?
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How's your? How's the?
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Everything. It's fine.
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Hamdulillah, Beautiful night, beautiful being seeing you guys,
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seeing your show, and I'm so happy for you guys.
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Seriously, I am honoured to be next to you.
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So I hope we can talk a good talk to the INSHA.
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Very kind of. You know, during this blessed
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month, there's so many events, so many community gatherings.
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One thing we always yes, OK, we come together, we do the ire, we
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pray. But the social element of
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Ramadan is very important, so we always say Ramadan.
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People like to grow their families.
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You have mothers who are coming to the mosque, maybe looking for
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daughter in laws for their sons, or for example you have fathers
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looking for son in Maybe sometimes we don't discuss, we
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should discuss marriage. How can I use Ramadan this time
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to understand if I want to look for a spouse?
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Where do I begin? Where should I look?
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What should I look for? Big question.
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I think if you go to Canada, if you move to America, if you go
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to the Brazil, maybe Europe, Africa, Gulf, Iraq, Iran, China,
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anywhere, anywhere, we have the same exact problem.
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Previously I was in Turkey with our youth of friends in the
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Shiism community, the same problem saying marriage, how to
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choose a wife, how to choose a husband.
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This is our problem and I think that in the month of Ramadan we
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should take the advantage that our heart is open to God.
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And you know all of the demons are chained, so the blessings
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are there. So we need to take the advantage
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of not getting married or propose at least take like.
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Intention. It's easy.
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Take the intention, raise your hand.
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Ask God to have the most perfect partner, then can help you in
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this life and the afterlife both lives.
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You know when you said that the issues anywhere in the world are
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the same, obviously for those who don't know, you don't live
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in the UK, so the issues we have in the UK, said Ali.
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Some of the issues we have here social media, free mixing
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between genders, maybe hijab, things like that, right?
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Would you say some of those issues exist in the Middle East?
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Maybe not the same title, but exactly the same issues.
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Maybe here it comes out like gender.
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We don't have it there, but we have the similar and a different
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way. Maybe in the way of thinking
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you. For example, in the UK, nobody
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wants to marry the believer, the one who goes to Husseini, the
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one who because he is too conflicted and he is like,
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that's it. Close minded.
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Close minded. Thank you.
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He is so you have it here, right?
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The same in the Gulf. We live in a Muslim country next
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to Karbala next to Maka, the same issue said.
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Any believer is a close minded, a woman who wears abaya.
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She is close minded. It's the same problem.
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Really. Same you think it's different?
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Same problem. Well, look, can I mention
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something? You know, I have a lot of
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friends back in the day when I was young, younger.
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Well, I'm 31 now, I mean, back in my early 20s, we used to
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always have like conversations with my peers, you know, with
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people I trust, like they will always have a similar
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conversation. And one thing that always used
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to come up is do I want my wife to be religious?
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Because, you know, growing up here in the West, we sort of
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want to embrace having fun in our marriages and our
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relationships because we see everywhere we see like the
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Western world. You know, you can go out on a
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date with your wife, you can go out, you know, go to the cinema.
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Whatever it is, whatever people say is exciting for them.
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When we see religion and our spouse, we feel like we're going
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to go home, we're going to be bored, we're going to pray,
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we're going to read the Quran. It's a repeat.
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It's a cycle again and again and again.
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So a lot of people, I think, ask a question and I think we can
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move the conversation here is can a movement or a movement?
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Can a believer, A believing man or a believing woman have fun in
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their marriage life or they're just going to be bored?
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I hope I dare you, Yeah. At the end of the opposite, at
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the end of the episode, we will change the mindset of those who
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thinks like that. Shallow.
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Shallow. Yeah, and handle.
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I have too many friends say it. I don't want to interject of
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when I'm on the Kartik, but one thing I want to add as well that
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I used to observe. I used to see all the people.
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So maybe when I was a teenager I used to see the older generation
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say I want a a sporty husband for example.
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So when I was young, you know, there'll be conversations where
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the youth will have discussions with the Alim or something.
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Like the girl will say, I want a fun husband, I don't want him
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praying 24/7 going to the mosque, 2024, seven.
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I want to have fun. And so not just the brothers are
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saying this, the sisters speak about this as well.
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The problem is, say it that you know, when I proposed to my
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wife, I had a condition. No, I told her.
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I'm not joking. I had a condition beside of
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course what I believe what I how I said.
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I told her my condition is, and this is might be one of the most
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Yanni important conditions. I laugh too much.
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I need a wife who laughs with me at home.
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I want to go back home to play. I want to go back home to sit
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and talk. When I say to sect and talk not
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let's have a kids and no, no, no.
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You know when you go out with your friends, with your best
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friends and you love like sharing moments with your
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friend. People think that when you are
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religious this option is not available at home.
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This is our problem. Any moment I will say it
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straight, say it so that we can cut everything and we go onto
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the subject. Anyone who hits his wife is not
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a moment. Anyone who raised his voice in a
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way that he shows. Yeah, honey.
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No, no, no, Adam. Disrespect.
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Thank you so much. When he raised his voice in a
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way that he is disrespect his wife.
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He is not a woman. Anyone who is sitting at as
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sitting at his at his home. Sorry, forgive my English.
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They know huh. English is amazing.
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So. And he prays and he do Salat
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Alil and he recite Quran. And Charlotte is all accepted.
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And he don't give his wife the love.
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And he doesn't show his wife the love she need and she don't
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need. He is not a moment, so let's
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keep that in mind. Don't tell me that this reciter
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or this or this who go to the Masjid or this.
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He is not a man. A moment in the hadith.
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He is. He laughs, He laughs.
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He make everyone laughs. Everyone wants to be with him.
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This is a moment. So we are talking about the
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moment. Don't tell me we have examples.
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We have examples everywhere. We have to know who is moment
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from the hadith from the. Criteria.
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The criteria is. He doesn't do harm.
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The criteria is he laughs too much.
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The criteria is when you are with him, you want to be with
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him and you want the time to be stopped.
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You want to live with him. Allah.
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No Allah, I am. You know I have a friend.
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I hope that he is not watching me.
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I hope that his wife doesn't watch this episode.
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It's not our fault because I think it's personal, but but he
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knows. Forgive me my friend, but you
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know it's good for all the one who will listen.
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Sorry. Do you know what?
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Did he type the name of his wife in his phone?
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And sometimes if if anyone wants to to to write anything, what do
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they write? My love.
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My love, maybe. Someone said my life.
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Or. Just wife.
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Wife or government? Seriously.
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OK, he wrote. Wasea Torah, Solinda?
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What a reminder. Wasiya 2 Can you translate
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please? The Wasiya is like when you
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leave something behind the will, the will of.
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Rasulullah, I told him so. She, his wife called him was
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Come on dude, what happened? Why was he to Rasulullah?
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He said. Ahmed Sometimes I feel angry and
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she calls and I don't want. Like when I remind myself that
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she is the will of our prophet. Of course I will treat her the
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way. Yanni, the way that our prophet
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will be pleased. This is my friend, I know him.
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Yanni, even if this is how the men take care of his family, of
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his wife. Believe me in household, in our
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houses. Say it.
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I At least I believe that when I go sometimes, you know, because
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I am a reciter, I travel too much.
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Maybe I have magitis, Maybe. Maybe this and that projects
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everywhere. So sometimes I feel that.
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And I am. Yeah.
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Why? So?
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I am tired. I can't even smile.
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I try. I stand at the at my doorstep.
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I don't enter my home until I can draw a smile on my face.
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Sometimes I laugh, maybe like the crazy, the crazy ones,
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because I want to enter the house with a smile.
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Good energy. Good.
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Thank you so much. Because not just because I love
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my wife. Not just because I love my kids.
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Not just because I want to please them.
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It's yeah, I mean, it's the most amazing reason, of course.
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But I know when I enter home and I please them.
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Or at least I don't like, I don't put burden exactly more
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burden in my life. I enter because I know that
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pleases my prophet, that pleases that pleases.
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Sahib Al Asri was the man. Especially you know, in these
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days. Sorry to interrupt you, but in
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these days for those of us who are married our we come home
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from work, our wives have prepared for Thor everything is
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ready 3 course meal Mashallah feeding the kids they set you up
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for solar. Everything is ready, Hamdullah.
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And then sometimes as men maybe we are tired, we're fasting,
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we're hungry, we're thirsty, we're low on sleep and so on.
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You know, we mentioned me and said, Ali mentioned a story a
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few weeks ago on on one episode there was a lady called by the
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name of Khala who came to the sullah Muhammad.
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And she said to me my husband, he prays, he fasts in the day,
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he fasts in the night, he prays mashallah, he goes to the to the
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Masjid and but he doesn't have time for me and my family, my
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kids what do I do? So Salah Muhammad went to him
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and he said, I know you are trying to serve our last palata
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Allah. I know your NIA is the right
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NIA. But trust me when I tell you
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that your Amal are not accepted until you look after your family
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1st. And this just a reminder to ask
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that you know when we say charity begins at home, it's
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because the the the service we do first and foremost is to our
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wife and our children. But I want to ask you
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specifically about those who are not married, OK.
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Because a lot of the youth, Hamdullah, who are listening and
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watching the podcasts are trying to be better, what means trying
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to be closer to alas Pano to Allah and trying to find someone
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who matches them in the Holy Quran, alas Pano Allah mentions
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that good people are meant for good people.
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So if I am not married, for example, I want to be a good
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person, how do I find a good person and what characteristics
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do they have? Choose the movement, choose the
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believer and trust that they believe.
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You have to know what is a believer to choose a believer.
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That's a good thing to think of. And if you don't know exactly
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what's a believer, so how can you find someone?
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Don't. Again, the problem is with the
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example. Don't give me any example.
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Please know from the narration what is the criteria of the
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believer. Then depend on it and go for it
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and you will live a good life. And it's not just, it's.
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It's it's it's everything. Say it.
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It's everything. Yeah.
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I mean, a moment. For example, a moment.
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Who doesn't care about his mother and father?
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Do you think that he will care about his wife?
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Of course not. This is not a moment.
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Don't choose that moment because like he do love them or he he go
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to Caraballo. No, no no we are not talking
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about that example. We are talking about an example
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that the moment have a special criterias that is mentions and
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mentioned and hadith narrations. So when you have a good idea
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because your vision now is is blurry, you don't know how to
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choose, you have to read you again.
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I mentioned that you remember in the previous podcast, we have to
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read the narrations. We have to read the narrations,
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we have to read what's moment. For example, the moment I think
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Jabbar came to Ali and he asked Safli, A Shia, give me sadly
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saying that. Make me understand the specifics
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of what makes someone a Shia. Then Imam Salamullahi answered
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and he said I don't know anyone that has this examples so he
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mentioned a very beautiful sentence.
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He said Anyone who said I love. Anyone who said I love Muhammad
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Sallallahu and he and. He doesn't follow in their
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footsteps. Thank you so much.
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This is not love. If you love Ahilbait Salamullahi
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Alayhim, it will show in your actions.
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I can't see that. Choose someone.
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Choose a believer and trust me. Do you think that if you chose
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someone like a doctor or a dentist or maybe a pilot or.
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And he is not a moment, sometimes he is a moment, so he
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is not. But because.
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No, no, no. Believe me a moment.
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The betrayal, it's not in his. Dictionary.
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He's loyal. He can't betrayed.
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He can't betray. I can.
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I can give you a promise he can betray.
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If he is a true believer and we are talking about the true he
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can be. He can't.
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It's not an option in his life. Why It's Haram?
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An unbeliever maybe he is giving something from his heart to to
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be like faithful but nothing is chaining his his hand.
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He can't do whatever he wants, whenever he needs anything he
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can do it. But a believer he can't betray,
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He can't lie. He doesn't waver.
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Thank you so much. He is straightforward.
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You can't count on him. You can't count on his word.
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You know what does it feel when he say I love you?
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It's different because it comes from a heart that loves God.
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A tongue that mentions God. I know ammo.
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Amen. What's ammo in English?
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I think the same. A scholar, A scholar who is Imam
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who has the. Turban.
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He is famous. He is famous.
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Everyone knows him. Everyone you know him, you're
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everyone knows him. OK?
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He's the most romantic person I have ever seen in my life.
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When we talk about the the marriage situation, I told him
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come on, say it, What's happening?
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He said. Ahmed, well, I love my wife.
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Well, I have to go back home. Do you know what did he do?
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You know he has a library in his home.
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You know, You know, I'll ask you.
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Later. Because he was there when he
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mentioned the story, you know. So we asked him how seriously
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you guys you are a believer, you are a scholar.
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So do you seriously have? And you fall in love, No.
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Seriously, I love life. We we want to ask you Romance.
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Romance. Come on, you are you where you
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were a Mama? And this and that.
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You read too much. You study too much.
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You talk too much. Like me.
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So seriously, do you have a romantic life?
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When I say a romantic life, yeah, I mean a romantic.
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Like a romantic life. Which we understand.
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Yeah. Don't.
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Don't give me a thing we don't understand.
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Not. Romeo and Juliet.
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Not silly, he told me. Ahmed, I will defeat you.
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All guys said how? I said Alhamdulillah, he said
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Alhamdulillah, Yeah, I mean I try to show my love every day to
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my wife, to tell her, to remind her I love her every month.
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And I'm not doing that because I want her to be happy.
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I need to do that because I love her.
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Al Hamdullah. Because I pray to God that I
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want my house or to be a household which fulfill with
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Iman, with Taqwa, with Warah, and with love and with
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happiness. So once I made amaze, correct,
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right, made amaze, amaze, amaze, and there is a tie.
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You have to, you have to open the secret and to find what did
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you do, he said. My wife, she used to be a simple
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woman, but I gave her. I taught her.
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I let her listen to the, you know, truth and lessons here and
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there. So now she knows what's cafe,
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what's Behal and War, what's so I make a puzzle that there is a
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piece paper in each so. One in each.
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Part and you and you have to look for it to find my love.
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For example. Now the the the rest of the
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message with his handwriting. The rest with the message it is
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mentioned on the that title on El Cafe.
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So you have to know which title, which part of El Cafe for
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example. He's testing his wife and
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showing his love. Thank you so much.
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Yeah, I mean someone's think that we can combine.
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No, no, we can combine this man. I mean, because I know him.
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He told me. Ahmed.
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Well, I have never told my wife anything.
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Now She begged me to do jamaah in our home.
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To do jamaah in our home. I pray.
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She prays behind me. We do jamaah everywhere every
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time home. Ahmed When we eat, we go to
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restaurants. We eat and we have fun.
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We go travel. We and also we love Ahlilpet
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Salaam Ali. She wake me for Salat Ali the
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prayer night. We have a good life Ahmed.
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I love her. Why?
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Why did we open the subject? Do you think I travelled with
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him? OK.
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We were in a hotel in some country.
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OK? Suddenly the door knocked.
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We open. Then the flowers.
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I said say it. What you are doing here?
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Who brought you flowers? Say it.
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You were imam, he said. You know, he didn't laugh, so he
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didn't laugh. I don't think he will watch.
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I'm getting English. No, no, no, I don't think he
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will watch an English officer. So he smiled and he was.
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He talked with the with the trust, you know, read the name.
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She was his wife from his country.
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She looked for a shop that sells flowers.
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She paid with the visa to abroad.
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Just to mention, I love you a lot.
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Seriously, It moved me, you know, because he was a Mama.
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People think that. People think he'd be boring.
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Exactly. People think he's far away.
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He has different lifestyle and. Well, Ahmed, no one can make you
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laugh like this, man. I know what I am saying.
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No one can make you laugh. I'm not talking about.
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You know what it is. It's like you said.
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It's when you have that, when you are a true moment, you can't
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lie, you can't betray. You know we are talking about
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what Menin who? When they cry for Abdullah
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Hussain Ali Salaam, they are crying tears of love.
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You know the companions. Their stories are all love.
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Their stories are all love. Everything in that is sacrifice,
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is devotion, is loyalty, is compassion.
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It's it's giving themselves to Allah's panel, to Allah, to each
27:55
other, to protect each other, to serve us as more Menin as
27:59
followers, they gave themselves for us.
28:02
That is the definition of love. And when we understand that that
28:06
is divine love. Love for each other becomes
28:09
easy. Do you see what I mean?
28:11
Love for your wife becomes easy. It doesn't even become something
28:14
you have to plan. You don't think?
28:16
You don't think? You don't think it becomes
28:18
natural to you? You know, you wait.
28:20
Yesterday I'm going to expose myself.
28:24
Yesterday was was it? What day is it?
28:26
Today There's not. Not yesterday on Monday.
28:30
This week I got to work. 7:00 AM Eight AMI called my wife.
28:38
She said hello. So I'm like first thing I said I
28:40
love you to my wife. OK?
28:42
She says why are you starting the phone call like this?
28:46
What did you do? I said no no I said I want to
28:51
say the first I love you of this week, not you, she said.
28:55
Ahmed, I beat you because last night midnight I told you I but
29:00
you know we some like you said mother you can have competition
29:03
have fun. You can make you can make
29:06
romance fun. Your marriages can be fun.
29:10
You know, it's it's you have to understand each other, you have
29:13
to and you have to go in this same direction.
29:15
Everyone says marriage is a triangle, husband, wife, and at
29:19
the top is our last Pomota island.
29:21
And when you're all working in the same direction, because
29:24
you're on the same page, your your energy, your ambition.
29:27
Because technically, a marriage is supposedly it's a it's a
29:31
place where you come together and it takes you closer to a
29:33
lost part of that. That's the main goal, the main
29:35
purpose of marriage. But that's like the foundation.
29:37
If you have the love of Allah and you are a woman and you're a
29:40
woman, that love is going to come to you.
29:42
But. See, both of you said you are a
29:44
servant, you have a podcast, you have here and there work.
29:47
If your wife is not a moment, is not a believer, she will not
29:52
appreciate what you will do. She will not support you.
29:55
She will think that it's a project, that it's only taking
29:59
your time away from me. That's it when you have a
30:03
movement partner. She's understanding.
30:07
She has your back. She supports you.
30:09
And she wants you to go for it. She and she knows that your
30:13
heart is for example. I can't say this.
30:16
I think I can. Do you think I am happy being
30:18
away? No, I am not.
30:22
And at this particular moment, Allah Ali, I swear in the name
30:26
of Imam Hussain Salaam Ali. I miss my wife so much.
30:31
I miss my kids so much. I want to be with them and I
30:34
know that she knows that maybe I live with you guys.
30:38
I have fun. I am traveling.
30:40
She is not. Maybe.
30:42
But she knows that the moment that Ahmed can take us with him,
30:46
he will take us. The moment that Ahmed can be at
30:50
home, he will not do anything. You know, sometimes when I go
30:53
back home, I don't want to do anything.
30:56
I just want to sit home to look at my kids, to look at my wife,
31:00
to sit with them. That even if I don't do
31:03
anything, if my wife is a woman, she knows that that is true,
31:08
that I'm not joking. I'm not exaggerating.
31:11
I really need to show my love because it's for me.
31:16
Yeah, Not only because I want to make her her, of course I want
31:21
to make her, but also because in deeply in my heart this is, I
31:26
believe that God, God has a role to connect them together in His
31:39
way, in his way. And if you want me to tell you
31:42
the stories of we have a million stories about how God, I know he
31:50
he was he was the reason that they are together happy and yeah
31:56
and I believe that. And when you when you look at
31:59
the Maraja and previously you know the his wife died one month
32:08
ago, 1-2 months ago his wife died.
32:11
You don't know what happened Shehui, because I previously I
32:16
visited Shehui. So I asked here and there they
32:20
told me that Shehui and he he is 104 years old century.
32:30
It's a century for God's sake, a century living with one woman.
32:36
It's a lifetime we are talking about S, not a decade we are
32:41
talking about. Century.
32:45
And he got him. It's not maybe appropriate to
32:49
say it, but a close friend to the office of Sheikh Wahid told
32:53
me that Sheikh Wahid was broken when his wife go.
33:00
That's been a century. Does love lived that long?
33:07
Even at the movies, we don't see it nowadays.
33:11
He was faithful to his wife. He made matchless, but you know
33:16
he can't walk. He can't.
33:19
But he was divested. So the world.
33:22
Devastated. Thank you so much.
33:23
This is the world because his wife is gone, so he is a merger.
33:31
He is the head of the believers. Now he's.
33:33
A jurist. He's a very big, non world
33:34
famous jurist. Yeah, Thank you.
33:36
So. And he was.
33:36
Heartbroken. Yeah, that's not a lot after.
33:40
That's love. One century.
33:42
Yeah, One 100 years. So let me ask you a question.
33:47
What happened? Because on this love, even in
33:50
the highest form we're talking about Majid Taklid.
33:54
Yeah, can have such a deep love. Mashallah.
33:58
But like you said at the beginning, many people face the
34:02
same problems. Hard to find, mean a wife or
34:06
husbandman, husband or when you are married, how to keep the
34:11
relationship alive together. So we talked about having fun.
34:15
Now I want to talk about something different when you
34:18
have difficulty, OK, in the West or at least in in in our
34:22
communities. I'm sure it's the same in the
34:24
Middle East or in any part of the world.
34:28
You have financial trouble, you have relationship trouble,
34:31
disagreement, you have family problems between in laws and you
34:36
disagree on the kids. Whatever it is, sometimes
34:39
husband and wife will have difficult period, rocky period.
34:43
In times like that, what can a husband do or a wife do to keep
34:50
them happy or even to work past? Even if there's an issue, how do
34:55
you accept the issue and move forward?
34:59
It's not appropriate maybe to say this, but I will say it
35:02
loudly. Of course.
35:05
And I have financial problems, of course.
35:07
There and there. We have any issues.
35:10
We have maybe. OK handle.
35:13
I have never, I have never raised my voice in front of my
35:20
wife. And I promise you I will never
35:24
dare to do this. I'm not about talking about
35:27
hitting or something. No, it's it will never happen.
35:31
Of course I have never raised my voice.
35:34
Not because I am a good husband. No, I'm not.
35:37
I try to be a good husband. I I hope that I can be a good
35:39
husband. But it's because God's there in
35:44
my eyes. When I treat my wife, when I
35:48
treat my kids, when I treat, when I deal with the problem
35:52
itself, When. Believe me, Ahmed, we need to
35:56
reopen the title when we want to discuss about what is a
36:04
believer, how juice. Please, please try to make a
36:09
podcast with a scholar. Yeah, I need to talk about what
36:13
is the science of a believer? How do we know I am a believer?
36:20
How do we know that that person is a believer?
36:22
How do we know? When we discuss this, we will
36:26
know that the believer is a different case if a problem
36:31
happened. For example, you know I just
36:37
landed from any different country and they had image list
36:41
and so my friend told me please hurry up, let's go and pray on
36:47
the Husseini. I don't know we have to pray
36:48
now, so let's pray now. I remember the hadith now.
36:55
Maybe if I said in English it's not clear what you have to help.
36:57
I'll try help. Yeah, a moment.
36:59
We are talking about a moment. God was angry because he saw a
37:06
moment. He prayed fast because he wants
37:12
to open his shop, to sell, to have money, to help his family.
37:22
He prayed. He prayed, but he prayed.
37:26
Quickly. Quickly because to do something.
37:33
Wildly What is Dunya? And the dunya thing he wants to
37:39
do, is it Haram? No.
37:41
No. It's his wajib, yes, he has to
37:44
do it. It's a good thing, good deed.
37:47
So God looked at them alike, he told them.
37:53
Muskin, He prayed quickly for me to go for the risk which is in
38:04
my hand. Allahu Akbar.
38:07
Seriously. Allahu Akbar.
38:10
Pray properly. You rushed to the risk, but you
38:13
forget Al Razak, yeah? Yeah honey, it's it's it's a
38:17
deal. You know that hadith that is
38:20
only this hadith will change your mindset in your whole life.
38:26
Ahmed, in your whole life say it.
38:30
So put it in in marriage. God gave me the most
38:35
understanding wife, the most good hearted wife, the wife who
38:41
gave me my Nestle. I I know everyone of you guys.
38:47
Offspring. Under the Dome of ABBA Abdullah
38:51
we say Allah oh God, I want a believers.
38:54
I want my son, my grandsons. I want them to do Nostra for
38:58
Sahab Zaman to do to to be under the liad.
39:02
She was the reason. So when when your mindset is
39:09
systematically and it changed like in the moment mindset, you
39:13
will see everything different. You are talking about financial
39:18
problems. I don't care.
39:20
I have got and he will open a door because he promised me if I
39:27
got married it will give me risk.
39:32
It's his promise, not mine. God, he's God.
39:38
I have to believe in him. So if I'm not a woman, I even
39:43
even if we had a fight for example if we had a fight we we
39:48
talked about, we want to to have a discussion about the
39:51
brotherhood of Uliah and what if you read the hadith of Allah
39:57
Akbar, what does it mean to al mamasaddar Salam?
39:59
Alaahi narrated if too many. Two Shia, they had a fight.
40:05
Two believers. They Two believers.
40:07
Thank you so much. They had, they had, they had a
40:10
fight and they didn't reconcile. I will curse one of them.
40:15
Wow. We have a hadith like this you
40:18
know. So when you come on Ahmed, if
40:21
you think about this hadith, how about?
40:23
Golf. For me, one of these hadiths, we
40:28
say the mic drops off the stage. And this?
40:33
It's not talking about a husband and wife.
40:35
It's not. It's not.
40:36
It's talking about the believers.
40:39
And she is a believer. She is one of the followers of.
40:47
So I have to treat her like this.
40:50
I have What's Hosnovan? Hosnovan I.
40:55
It's translations of it. You understood it.
40:57
Yeah. Yeah, I know what you mean.
40:58
I have to have Hosnovan Ahmed. I think you I'm.
41:01
I'm. Trying to.
41:04
Figure out for example, if I think that you you are not doing
41:08
a good thing. I have to think that.
41:10
Of the doubt, so you give them an excuse.
41:14
Say it again, It's. Benefit.
41:15
Benefit of the doubt. He's learning Arabic.
41:17
Again. Again.
41:18
Again. Again.
41:18
Again. Again.
41:20
Benefit of doubt benefit. I will use it.
41:23
And you give them an excuse, You say maybe they're this, maybe
41:26
this. 70 excuses. By the way, it's Haram.
41:34
I'm not a merger of course, but and every scholar mentioned it's
41:39
Haram, it's Haram. It's Haram to take your wife's
41:46
phone to look what's in it. Really.
41:50
It's Haram. And vice versa.
41:54
Exactly. Yes, it's Haram.
41:56
Speaking that clear. Can I say it again?
41:59
Please with a low. Voice it's Haram first of all.
42:04
Yes. Because number one is her
42:06
property. Camera.
42:07
Thank you. Say it once again to the
42:08
viewers, once more to the viewers.
42:10
It's Haram to take your relative phone to look what's in it
42:17
behind their back. It's Haram.
42:20
So don't be cheeky, don't be sneaky.
42:22
Don't go sideways. Don't do spying.
42:25
A man is someone who is relieved, Habibi.
42:30
He's relieved. I don't care.
42:32
I deal with what I see in the front of my eyes.
42:37
Bullet. Bullet, Sir, No.
42:41
Full stop. I'm thinking 40 7.
42:52
Ahmed, seriously. Well, I'm talking deeply from my
42:55
heart. I mean, is someone who is seeing
42:59
life as simple as it is. Don't.
43:04
Don't look for trouble. Yeah, yeah.
43:06
Don't chase trouble. It's look at me, it's Haram.
43:13
If you propose to someone and to ask have you had a Haram
43:21
relationship before It's Haram. It's not your business to search
43:28
for the history of your partner, Haram.
43:33
Unless she shares or he shares. Haram.
43:35
OK. Haram.
43:38
No one can say I did that Haram thing.
43:43
Because the sin is between you and Allah.
43:45
Haram. Haram.
43:50
Haram. I am a lifters smile.
43:57
Live with what you have, don't think too much.
44:01
Deal with what you have now. If she is.
44:06
I believe her now. I don't care what she was
44:10
previously. I don't care.
44:12
She is now treating me well. She is now with me in my home.
44:17
I should choose to trust her not to look and to try to find
44:22
something. Come on.
44:24
It's not appropriate. A woman will not do that.
44:27
A woman will. Because you know all of this,
44:31
the problem, the conflicts come from this degree.
44:33
It's a. Lack of trust.
44:36
Thank you so much. A woman doesn't have because you
44:38
have the benefit of doubt. I like.
44:42
It. I.
44:46
Believe I have this characteristics.
44:49
Loyalty, trust, and you have that confidence in your spouse.
44:55
You're you're happy and you're satisfied because you know you
44:58
can trust them. They are a believer.
45:01
You can believe in them. Nothing shakes his legs.
45:04
He's He's Teddy. He's Teddy.
45:07
Because sometimes we think like, you know, I have my community
45:10
life. In my community I'm a morteman.
45:13
Then I go to work, I'm employee, then I go home.
45:16
I'm husband and father, You know, we shouldn't think like
45:19
that because when you are good mortem in, you're good at work,
45:22
you're good at home, you're good at home, you're good at work,
45:24
you're good at Masjid, you're good at work, you're good at
45:26
home, you're good at Masjid. It's all it's interlinked,
45:29
interconnected. Can I ask, can I embarrass you
45:31
to? Follow.
45:33
Embarrass only. Only Ahmed no.
45:34
Ahmed, think carefully. Can I embarrass you?
45:38
I really don't know what to say, but Bismillah, I trust you trust
45:42
is very close. This is true believers.
45:46
No, no. Don't.
45:49
Don't trust me, but I will tell you something.
45:53
Don't answer. Do you want the horain?
45:56
Don't answer. Smile.
46:01
No, stop. Smile on the clothes.
46:04
Look, the argue, the argue, sway, sway.
46:09
Do you want the horain? Don't answer again.
46:11
Charlotte, Charlotte. We have a narration that a
46:19
believer if she's a your wife is if.
46:21
If she. If your wife is a good believer,
46:25
yeah, better than she's. Great.
46:29
And you can be with her and you can choose to go to enter the
46:37
heaven. Together.
46:39
Not together with a. Hunt.
46:43
Yeah, and you will take side by side, side by side, to go and to
46:49
enter heaven. And if you were in a lower
46:54
level, she will. Bring you.
46:57
And if she were in a lower level told us that it's not Yanni,
47:07
thank you so much. And I I try to give because you
47:11
know how we choose and how we live and how we talk to our
47:14
parents a different topic and we will Yanni have a long thing to
47:19
to to say. But in my proposal, even one of
47:25
my conditions, I asked my wife. I told her I want someone.
47:30
I was 25 years old, so I told I want someone to live with me.
47:35
Another 25 if God give me give me an age, another 25 with a
47:42
smile, with having fun, with the service of albeit with patience.
47:47
And I promise you I will choose you in the afterlife.
47:52
Allah, we will be together. Allah we have if we believe.
47:56
In the afterlife, if we believe and the afterlife we will
48:02
understand that we will have the whole time to do anything we
48:08
want, to do whatever we want. So anything in Dunya, any
48:14
conflict, any problem, any misunderstanding, any mistake
48:20
from our partner, it's nothing. You can move it.
48:23
Let. It go.
48:24
You can let it go. You can move.
48:27
You can go. Because we have a good time too.
48:29
Have fun. So that's how I think that we
48:33
should change our mindset of the believer itself.
48:40
And I promise you, you will see that it's a different thing to
48:43
do. I I know we didn't give.
48:46
We didn't. Yeah.
48:47
And we need to have a special episode only about how do the
48:51
parents. Yeah, and Smash the marriage.
48:57
We need to talk about many things, but one thing the.
49:00
Parents can affect your marriage.
49:02
Is that what you mean? They get involved in the fair.
49:04
They can. Ruin everything can ruin
49:06
everything. They are ruining their kids
49:09
life, they are ruining everything when they interfere.
49:13
Can you share one example just so we can understand please?
49:15
Just one. Just one.
49:17
All topic. Just so that I understand.
49:19
Because because I I'm so mad because.
49:21
From my perspective, Bundler and I don't want to disagree with
49:25
you because throughout this whole conversation I am in line
49:27
with the Hamdullah. But I would love for example,
49:32
our families to advise, be involved guides.
49:37
Or are we speaking about something else?
49:38
No, we are talking about there are more men, parents who can
49:43
give advice. Please not.
49:44
Every parent. Please thank you.
49:46
Now I understand. Not every, not every sons like.
49:50
That thank you, of course, both sides times.
49:52
The parents are. Exactly same problems, same
49:56
problems. But the problem I give you an
49:58
example. If you want the example for
49:59
example, do you know how much slam respects, respects the
50:06
decision of the girl? Tell me how if a believer
50:12
proposed and the father said no, he is not a good guy for you and
50:18
he doesn't have a good reason. Or maybe because he is a
50:21
believer, he is not like a millionaire or he's not like
50:24
everything and he refused. He didn't ask the girl and she
50:28
wants him another time the same another guy, the same another
50:33
guy. His will I will fall, Sharan.
50:38
His will I will be fallen. Sharon.
50:44
Now maybe because if we are under the government and we need
50:47
Keda and we need everything, so he he will.
50:50
But Sharon and Amamallah Azhal in front of God, he doesn't have
50:54
a willaya. If the imam is here, she can.
50:57
Yeah. And she can marry anyone without
51:00
his permission. Because his permission is
51:03
falling. Because you know that's how.
51:05
Yeah. And how much Islam respects?
51:07
Of course. The decision Let them choose
51:10
their life. If they are more men believers,
51:14
please let them choose. Don't, don't, don't push it too
51:18
much. Be reasonable.
51:20
We are OK with it. But also be a believer.
51:23
Yeah. Keep in mind that especially
51:26
because now we are talking only about the girls, especially
51:29
because you know the man proposed home money to the
51:31
house. So here what's the cooking gear
51:34
will be. So don't push it too much.
51:38
You don't know what you are doing to your.
51:41
Children. Yeah.
51:42
And I I, I don't have one story, 1000 story.
51:46
Well, I think you can't imagine. It's endless.
51:48
Yeah, I can imagine. You can't imagine.
51:51
And it was a beautiful opportunity, voila, to to build
51:56
a beautiful household under the love of with having fun and
52:02
excitement and having a romantic moments.
52:05
Why did you take that? Why?
52:08
So we need to have a special. Separate discussion in
52:11
Charlotte. That means you will come back to
52:12
the podcast 100 percent, 100% or we come to you.
52:17
I told you all, I wish I can host.
52:20
You guys come, but I travel too much.
52:22
I have to be in Kuwait, OK? You can use the teleport
52:25
machine. Thank you so much.
52:30
You know, I want to mention one thing.
52:32
I don't know if we're going on too much on this specific thing.
52:35
That's you're mentioning all these points it's amazing to
52:38
hear it and and for many people this is probably the first time
52:41
they hear it but normally we're told like men you know he should
52:45
be shy you know don't show so much romance.
52:47
Be Mandy, they say the more romantic you are the more
52:50
feminine you are. And I'm Simon Hire a lot of
52:52
times and and Abdul I was once I attend I attended the lecture by
52:57
Saint Hadid Madarasi. Specialized.
53:01
He he he got specialities in marriage and death.
53:04
Two things. Yeah.
53:05
And he gives you the boss of both words.
53:07
And he said one thing. He goes, I was in an election.
53:09
He was like you. You are a believer, Shafia.
53:11
He used this word. You are a woman.
53:13
How can you not tell your wife you love her?
53:16
Why can't you say it to her? And you got 300.
53:19
You got 365 days in a year. You only tell her I love you on
53:23
your anniversary. You only tell her I love you.
53:26
For example. You know after you've made the
53:28
problem and you want to get back and you, you don't say it
53:32
because you will love her. You say it because it's in your
53:35
best interest to nip it in the bud.
53:37
Basically, just say it and it will change.
53:40
And you know your life, your marriage life will be the best.
53:43
And if you have children, they see that love that Rahma that
53:46
more there. It teaches them man.
53:49
It helps. Just to add a kind of a last
53:52
point when we wrap up, but in these days of Shahramovan,
53:56
especially with our mall coming up and there are so many
54:01
opportunities every single day during these days, we have to do
54:05
things together. You have your soul together.
54:08
You have your photo together. You do our mall together.
54:11
You do a Mossad together. You watch after Maghrib.
54:14
Together after Maghrib, together.
54:16
Sonar together, Jamar together. Like you said, all of these
54:20
things are opportunities for us and I find me on a me
54:24
personally, I really enjoy the Jamar with my wife.
54:28
I really enjoy it because it brings you, you enjoy the Salah.
54:32
And also maybe as a guy maybe I want to pronounce my solder very
54:35
nice. So my wife is impressed and
54:38
because I'm not Arab, well, my wife, she's Arab, so I have to
54:41
make. That's why I told you he is
54:42
married. Now he can speak Arabic.
54:45
No, but I think, honestly Hamdulillah, these like if
54:48
there's a time where you can really Foster and grow your love
54:52
with your wife, it's in these days.
54:54
And if you're not married bronze sisters, then insha'allah, you
54:57
make dawn these days. These are the most holy of
55:00
Knights in the whole year. Shall we pray to Allah Sparta,
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that you are granted a, a, a, a noble wife, a noble insha'allah?
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But I want to add something I asked, said Hadley.
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You mentioned him. I told him, said you were a
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writer since maybe you were a teenager.
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Didn't you like feel you might lose it if you get married
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because you know he writes too much?
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Mashallah, said daddy. So he told me, Ahmed, I wrote
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maybe 14 books now. I don't remember the numbers.
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Maybe 14 books before I got married with my wife.
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I wrote more than 500, More than 500, I think more.
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I think now more. Yes, with, he told me.
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Ahmed. I took it from the mouth of
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Siddhadi. And you know Siddhadi.
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Yes, yes. And he, we, we know how, how he
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is. I mean, he devoted his life to
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serve, he told me. Ahmed I can't go anywhere
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without my wife. I can't do anything without my
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wife. I love my wife so much.
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So please, guys, marry. Marry.
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Have children? Well, marry and have children
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and you will live the most beautiful life.
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Well, it's beautiful. Well, I thank God that I am
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married and I am married, but I wish that I was married before
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25 was too too late 20. Five Would you advise to get
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married young? Because a lot of people say if
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she's a believer or you're a believer if I left college one.
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This is the problem. It's not about the age, it's the
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mind system. Exactly.
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If you are a believer, go and marry and find someone who is.
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There's an answer me say only talk every three, 2-3 weeks.
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How old to get married? 18 No, no, no.
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You will not find that I know someone.
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He is my friend. I can't.
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I can't let you meet him. 16 years old.
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He was and he married. He got married.
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Now he is 31 and he is happily married.
57:20
He has kids, someone I know he married when he is 28 and he is
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stupid and he didn't didn't know what to do and he is divorced
57:30
and he is wrong. I know him with my friend.
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So it's not about the age, it's not about the age, it's about
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the mindset of the believer and how does he knows what's his
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knowledge about the believer itself.
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Maybe he is a believer, but the wrongs sample of the I know
57:48
someone who is a believer. He go to the mosque.
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He was with us. We went to Syria and Sham and
57:54
the merchant of citizen just now and he was he is the most
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believer guy ever I have ever seen.
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He cries too much. He do salata later he everything
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mashallah. So we discussed me and the the
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one who the one who named his wife and his phone the will of
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our prophet. We three sat together and me and
58:15
my friend we talked about that how much we miss our wives and
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that they are not with us like and he'd look at us he said.
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Ahmed when I listen to your stories you 2 now I feel
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ashamed. He's I think he's 36.
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I have never. I told my wife I love you.
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Never. Never.
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Wow. He is very good guy.
58:44
He is not the man. Like he hits or he beats or he
58:47
shout. No, no, he is a good man.
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Then why do you hate her? I said no.
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I said why of course of course he he he can't say I love her in
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front of us. He's.
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Shy. He is shy, He's shy.
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Yeah, it's a problem. It's sometimes.
59:07
He is a good man, Tara. He is a good man.
59:11
But you you have to break. You shouldn't be shy with your
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spouse. You have to break yourself, you.
59:16
Should be. Should be yourself.
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It should be a safe space. Thank you.
59:20
Be who you want to be exactly because you know that's you are
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part of each other. Exactly.
59:25
You become part of one another, especially if you have children.
59:28
You are technically. Blood is what I was going to
59:30
say. What each other this?
59:31
Is what I was going to say. Because for for me, when I look
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at my children, it's like gender.
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Thank you. Don't say that your children are
59:43
with you though. Now please, no, Honestly.
59:45
Today my wife sent me a a a video.
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My son is 2 and my daughter's six months.
59:52
Masha Masha. My son, they went to the park
59:55
today. She sent me a video.
59:56
My son is pushing my daughter on the swing.
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They're both laughing, they're hugging, I said.
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This is for me. This is like gender because it's
1:00:05
the happiest I feel, you know, when I see that I I feel so
1:00:09
happy. And you guys, obviously you, you
1:00:10
know, you understand that that feeling as well.
1:00:12
It's the best feeling you can have.
1:00:14
Exactly why is that? I don't.
1:00:15
I can't remember. It it's the Zine, it's the
1:00:23
decoration. For your offspring or your joy?
1:00:27
Your pride and joy you. Know like a you can't explain it
1:00:30
to someone who is not. Yeah, people have that feeling.
1:00:33
But that love that you feel. If you have not had children,
1:00:36
you don't. You can't experience.
1:00:38
You can't. Well, you can't you?
1:00:40
Can't. So our wives are responsible for
1:00:44
that. You know, they're, they're
1:00:45
nurturers. They raise these children.
1:00:47
They bought these children. For nine months.
1:00:49
Allah bless them and always well.
1:00:51
I will cry. Don't say that seriously because
1:00:55
I feel that money and. It reminds us of our mothers as
1:00:58
well, when we see our wives what they went.
1:01:01
Through yeah. I remember I told my mother, How
1:01:04
did you do this for me? Not just for me.
1:01:05
For all me and my 4/4 of us. It blows my mind to.
1:01:11
My father once told me, Ahmed, you will not understand.
1:01:14
Once you have kids, you will know what does it mean to to be
1:01:19
a caring person? Yeah, toward your son.
1:01:22
So of course, yeah, it. Changes your life.
1:01:25
Seriously. Even when you see the news, you
1:01:27
look at what's happening in, in Philistine, you look at.
1:01:30
Anything you see when you are a father.
1:01:32
Yeah, the whole world changes. Everything you see changes.
1:01:36
Well, love, There's one thing coming out from this genocide,
1:01:41
what's happening, and Raz, Rafa and entire Palestine is seeing
1:01:45
those videos and images of children.
1:01:47
And I remember a few months ago I had the conversation with
1:01:50
Ahmed here on the podcast. It was on the same day we saw
1:01:54
videos of the hospital that got attacked.
1:01:56
So I don't want to go over the scenes that we saw that the
1:02:02
first I don't want to go, I don't want to our moods.
1:02:06
I stopped seeing and or watching any videos.
1:02:09
I can't. I can't.
1:02:10
I could. Only be honest.
1:02:11
Imagine. My single.
1:02:12
Brother, I I used to say that like I was like, no, I'm going
1:02:16
to stop. It's too much, but you have to
1:02:20
continue. Say, Ahmed, you don't know me
1:02:23
well, I will not be able to do anything because.
1:02:30
Once, but once a year, so you have.
1:02:32
Karbala Well once. No, no, no.
1:02:33
No, no, I need to say this. OK.
1:02:35
Go on, go on, go on. Once a year you have Karbala.
1:02:37
You know the story of Karbala. You know the Mossibah of
1:02:40
Karbala. You know what happened about
1:02:41
Abdullah. Everything you look at the ring
1:02:43
on your finger, you think of about Abdullah.
1:02:46
Everything reminds you of about Abdullah Salaam.
1:02:49
But why do you keep going? 35 are Shoraz.
1:02:52
You've had Masha'allah. It's too difficult, but you have
1:02:57
to do it because it softens your heart and no one forgets the.
1:03:00
Story of the mum of you saying this.
1:03:01
And that is what we when we see Palestine, when we see what's
1:03:04
happening in around the world, they their story will be
1:03:09
forgotten. People will forget their story.
1:03:12
Unless you could continue to see it and tell it and remind other
1:03:16
people about it. Otherwise the world will forget.
1:03:19
100 years from now. It will just be in a history
1:03:22
book. Unless people tell the story,
1:03:25
you know, the emotion they share it.
1:03:27
They tell their children, their grandchildren.
1:03:29
I strongly believe this repetition.
1:03:32
You know, I went to imagine this last year in Muharram and the
1:03:35
Sheikh on the member. It was one of the first nights
1:03:39
of our shore and he was saying the story of Hazrat Muslim and
1:03:43
he's and you know, may Allah bless him, but I wasn't happy
1:03:47
because he started the Musiba. He said we know Hazrat Muslim
1:03:51
but I'm not going to say it because we hear it every year.
1:03:53
And then he went to the end where Hazrat Muslim was Shaheed.
1:03:57
I didn't understand why don't you say the whole mosaic because
1:04:01
people in the majesty may forget or some people may join Shiite
1:04:05
Islam or some people May 1st time come to the mosque.
1:04:08
They have to listen to you have. To continue to repeat, and even
1:04:10
with the same with Philistine, it's very hard to see it.
1:04:13
You open Instagram, Twitter, everywhere you look is there
1:04:16
video, pictures, stories, statistic, everything.
1:04:19
But I feel like there's it's very hard.
1:04:22
You have to. Convince.
1:04:23
I know it's very hard. It's It is very hard.
1:04:25
I know it's very. Hard, but our our hearts are
1:04:28
soft, and this is a good thing. There are people in the world
1:04:32
who they see it. They don't care.
1:04:33
It doesn't change them. Those we do not want to be.
1:04:36
Like once you are a father, you are a good, caring father.
1:04:39
You will know what does it mean to to see a child.
1:04:43
And I don't want to go well when I think well, it's very.
1:04:48
The point I wanted to mention, so I didn't.
1:04:51
I did not want to interject you, but I was like speaking about
1:04:53
being believers. This is like one of the science.
1:04:56
Like when you see one part of the home, we can say being hurt.
1:05:00
Exactly. You get hurt as well.
1:05:01
You feel that pain. You you, you live it yourself,
1:05:04
although it's not you. That emotion, that sense, that's
1:05:08
one of the signs. Of the body.
1:05:09
The mindset has to be changed. Seriously.
1:05:13
Charlotte, this is these are the days, the months of change, of
1:05:16
reform, of Islam, of the unmind, Shallah and of ourselves.
1:05:20
Allah says in sort of right. I think verse #11 if I'm or 13.
1:05:24
If I'm not mistaken, Allah does not change the condition of
1:05:27
society until He changes himself.
1:05:30
It's very. Important.
1:05:31
Inshallah, we can do that. It starts at home because
1:05:34
inshallah, with our spouse, with our kids, with our parents.
1:05:37
Charlotte Muhammad, thank you so much for joining us.
1:05:41
Thank you so much for for I know I talk too much so.
1:05:44
I don't want to end. I really don't.
1:05:46
Want to? We have another hour?
1:05:47
Yeah, let's go. Might as.
1:05:50
Well, is it fair to ask one final question from me?
1:05:53
That's literally one final question.
1:05:55
There are many people out there now who are not married.
1:05:59
They're possibly 30 years old. Forget this.
1:06:02
I'm not just saying forget being a believer, put being a woman or
1:06:06
a woman aside as a condition of getting married.
1:06:09
But why is it important for society to focus on marriage?
1:06:14
To make you a believer? Because many people say I don't
1:06:22
need to get married. You know, I can pray, I can
1:06:25
fast, I can go Ziara. I can be kind with Mama and
1:06:29
Baba. I can I get married?
1:06:31
Everything will be. You will see the life
1:06:34
differently you know, even the even the prayer itself.
1:06:40
Two Rakas of a moment was like, yeah, Sir and I haven't he's not
1:06:46
married. And then, yeah, I mean 70 for
1:06:52
you in the same way. Yes, yes, yes, yes.
1:06:55
Yes. This is the different.
1:06:57
And you know that your body will be different even for women.
1:07:03
Because, you know, I I saw my mind.
1:07:07
I don't know which imam he mentioned, but jihad.
1:07:15
Now we know the jihad of the men, the jihad of the women,
1:07:20
take leave for jihad for the woman, the way of her life if
1:07:28
she wants to go into jihad. Has not Taba all how to be a
1:07:34
Good Wife to my husband? This is her jihad and this
1:07:41
dunya. This is how God will give her
1:07:44
the award of the word of jihad. So if you got married.
1:07:51
So have main interhan or test. Thank you.
1:07:53
Marriage. Exactly.
1:07:55
The jihad of the woman in this life.
1:07:58
So if you and if you become a married person, you're Salah
1:08:04
will treat it differently. Because you believed in Sunnati
1:08:08
Mohammed Sallallahu Yanni. You put your step forward to
1:08:12
believe in our prophet, to trust our prophet, to throw yourself.
1:08:16
Because you know if you want to be married you don't have money.
1:08:20
What's the Mahar? The diary.
1:08:22
Dowry. Dowry.
1:08:24
You don't have more, You don't have money.
1:08:26
You don't have a place, You don't have anything.
1:08:28
You don't have time. You work from 8:00 AM till 5:00
1:08:31
PM. You go back at home 2 hours
1:08:34
because of the traffic. So you will not have a.
1:08:36
Of course I can't be married, but I chose to trust our prophet
1:08:42
to have how to go into this life.
1:08:44
So I will be rewarded differently.
1:08:48
Beautiful. I will be rewarded.
1:08:50
Yeah, I mean for sure. I am saying this in a Verscata
1:08:53
and in Arabic with fully. Yeah, pain.
1:08:57
Yeah, Thank marriage. Yeah.
1:09:00
I need to come on. Seriously.
1:09:05
Your life will be changed. Your life, listen.
1:09:08
Your life will be changed. I truly enjoyed this
1:09:14
conversation. Thank you.
1:09:15
And I think you've opened my heart quite a bit.
1:09:18
You've expanded it more and in Charlotte we can implement a lot
1:09:22
of the advice and examples you gave in my life.
1:09:25
I'm sure Ahmed's life as well and everyone listening and
1:09:27
watching, we've all benefited. I'm going to change my wife's
1:09:29
name on my phone. Can.
1:09:33
I can I give you a funny? You said you your friend was his
1:09:35
wife's name was Jose Atrasolallah.
1:09:37
You're going to change your wife's phone.
1:09:38
Can I give? I give one final story.
1:09:40
We end in a funny note. When I got married, my wife
1:09:45
later on, you know, I got her contract, she changed her
1:09:48
number, blah, blah, blah. So new line for I saved her new
1:09:52
number on my phone. Carlos, for one day she won the
1:09:58
car driving. She can't find her phone.
1:10:00
Here I was like, let me call it for I said hey Siri.
1:10:05
So I was going to call now don't listen, Siri, be quiet.
1:10:07
So I said, hey Siri, call wifey. That's how.
1:10:10
That's how that saved. What did Siri respond?
1:10:13
Which one? Oh my God.
1:10:20
Oh no, for for a second I dropped this one.
1:10:24
Which one? I was like, sure.
1:10:26
I was like what? I was like when we changed your
1:10:29
number, if I had Wifey and Wifey knew.
1:10:34
Siri told you that she has to ask her.
1:10:36
No, She has to give you an answer.
1:10:38
I was like, look at your old number.
1:10:40
You're alone. You have to change.
1:10:43
You have to change the name. She changed it.
1:10:45
It's got a different name now, no?
1:10:47
Shall I say. What's?
1:10:57
Thank you so much. Thank you everyone at home.
1:10:59
I hope you've enjoyed the conversation as much as we have.
1:11:02
It has been smashing. I've had the lights been I think
1:11:05
a complete eye opener for us and I really hope inshallah that you
1:11:08
remember us in your DA. But more importantly, Molla
1:11:11
Ahmed as. Well.
1:11:12
Please pray for him. He's travelling back to home
1:11:15
soon insha'allah. So please join me in in praying
1:11:19
for his success, for himself, for his family, for his wife and
1:11:23
children, Inshallah now last month.
1:11:24
I'll always give them more risk but success, Iman and sha Allah.
1:11:28
And for all of the brothers behind the scenes as well, bless
1:11:31
them all. For those unmarried, inshallah
1:11:33
we pray for them as well. But sisters, make sure you
1:11:36
subscribe. We will be back in a few days
1:11:38
with another amazing podcast so you don't want to miss it.
1:11:42
So yeah, until then. See you then.