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160. The Tuning Fork: Gratitude · Impact Ready

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  Welcome to Impact Ready, a show dedicated to helping you elevate
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  your impact in the world. I'm Steph Safra, your host.
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  Let's explore the power of showing up with intention and
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  energy each day. This is for those who seek to
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  make life truly meaningful. Get ready for impact.
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  Hey team, Happy Thanksgiving. Hope you're having an awesome
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  holiday with whoever you're spending it with this week, on
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  this day, on this holiday. I, of course I wanted to talk
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  about gratitude, but I want to talk about it from a different
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  spin. Before we get into it, I do want
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  to say thank you for listening to this podcast and being a part
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  of this impact community. The messages I get from all of
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  you really inspire me. It's such an honor to hear the
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  stories of of how you're taking some of these messages and
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  applying them and creating ripple effects in your own life.
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  I have to say, this work in coaching around the message of
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  impact is something I'm very grateful for.
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  It's grounded me during a very tumultuous year of my life.
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  It's tethered me to the ground and honestly, I feel like it's
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  lit a fire underneath me that feels like it only grows
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  stronger every month. So I'm grateful.
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  Thank you for being a part of that.
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  Today, let's talk about gratitude and appreciation, but
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  through a different lens. You've heard me talk about the
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  frequency of emotions before. There's a scale, an emotional
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  scale, that you can look up online that gives you a rough
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  estimate of the frequency measured in hurts for all
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  different kinds of emotions. There's a lot of people who talk
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  about this work. I've mentioned David R Hawkins
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  before. He's someone who's prominent in
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  the field, has written multiple books about lots of different
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  topics, but he talks extensively about the frequency of motions,
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  and the frequency of gratitude resonates around 540 Hertz.
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  It's considered to be a very high vibrational state, and this
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  is similar to the frequency of love for context, lower
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  frequency emotions like apathy or hopelessness or sadness,
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  depression, anxiety, those types of emotions, they can be between
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  30 to 70 Hertz, much lower in frequency.
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  There's a huge gap there. And so I just want you to have
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  that context. Some of those emotions that are
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  under 100 Hertz versus gratitude that can resonate around 540
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  Hertz, huge gap. And I say that so that you have
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  a a context for what it means when people say this is a high
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  frequency emotion. It truly is very high frequency
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  in general. We probably have all heard a lot
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  about the benefits of gratitude. You've probably heard about
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  research around gratitude journaling and different
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  exercises with appreciation and all those things.
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  Being in states of gratitude greatly enhances our well-being.
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  There's a lot of research around it.
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  It can strengthen our immune system, improve our sleep, lower
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  our stress, make us more resistant and resilient to
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  depression, even infection. Like the research is extensive
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  about this. For some reason, that's not
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  enough to get to get people motivated to really pursue this.
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  And, and I get it. Gratitude can be a a bit of a
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  buzzword. It can feel a little played out
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  at times, but that's why I want to revisit this in a different
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  way. And before we do, let's talk
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  about what gratitude really is. It's much more than a behavior.
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  It's much more than a feeling. It's not simply saying thank you
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  when something good happens. It's not a polite response or
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  just simply a passing emotion that occurs when your
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  circumstances align and everything works out for you.
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  Gratitude is an emotion that has a high frequency attached to it
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  and therefore can create a very specific state of being.
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  Joe Dispenza is somebody who talks extensively about
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  neuroscience. He talks about electromagnetic
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  fields around the heart and the brain, and he talks specifically
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  about how gratitude is the tuning fork of our inner world
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  and how any frequency that exists in our inner terrain can
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  then align with experiences in our outer world.
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  So when we're attuned to the frequency of gratitude or
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  appreciation that aligns with our experiences in the outer
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  world, and I think this is really interesting, when you
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  feel grateful, your brain and your body can't really
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  distinguish between a real event and an imagined one.
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  It doesn't distinguish well between memory from the past or
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  vision from the future because the chemistry produced is the
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  same. At the brain level.
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  You release dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin.
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  Those are the neurochemicals of joy and connection and
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  well-being. So those chemicals are the same
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  whether you're thinking about a past memory or you're thinking
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  about a vision for the future. It's very interesting.
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  And these aren't just nice feelings, they speak to a a
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  greater level of coherence and alignment overall, including
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  your heart and brain. Because again, our organs all
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  have their own frequency as well, especially heart and
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  brain. Most people wait to feel
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  gratitude until something awesome happens in their life.
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  They wait until they get the relationship they want, or they
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  experience the healing they desire, or the financial success
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  or status that they're hoping for, the job they want, the home
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  they want, whatever it might be. But if we consider this idea of
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  frequency, it would make sense that instead of waiting for the
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  outer world to confirm what we want to feel inside, it would
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  make sense that we would want to tune our inner world to the
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  right frequency so that the outer world can match that.
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  Which would mean that we would need to start experiencing and
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  expressing gratitude right now, even before the achievements and
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  the accolades and the milestones, whatever they might
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  be. And this can be a stretch for
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  people because it's essentially saying that the gratitude has to
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  come before the evidence. And we, we aren't great at that
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  as humans. And that makes sense because we
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  live in a very material world, a dense material world.
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  So when we don't see the material in front of us, it's
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  hard to hold the future vision. It's hard to have belief in
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  that. But again, let's not think about
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  this in terms of belief. Let's think about it in terms of
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  frequency. Think about tuning the fork and
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  creating an internal environment where the frequency is one of
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  alignment and abundance and creation rather than lack,
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  scarcity, fear, survival mode. What happens so often for people
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  is they wake up in the morning and they'll immediately start
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  thinking about what is lacking in their life.
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  Oh, I don't enjoy my job. Oh, I have to sit in traffic.
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  I have all this stuff to do. I don't have enough time.
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  We don't have enough money. You know, I'm not looking
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  forward to this. There's a a lot of lack and
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  scarcity that moves to the forefront of our brain right
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  when we wake up in the morning, We get on our phones, we start
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  checking our emails, we start thinking about all the fires we
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  have to put out. And we're immediately feeling an
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  inner terrain with a frequency that's pretty low vibration, low
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  frequency inner terrain. And it puts us in that place of
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  survival mode. In contrast, gratitude moves you
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  from a place of survival to a place of creation.
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  Because when you're in survival mode, most of your energy is
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  devoted to feelings of stress in the stress response.
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  There's a litany of things that happen in the body when we're in
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  fight or flight, but the main thing to remember is that we're
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  channelling a lot of our bodies resources into highest priority
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  needs for survival, which means we're not devoting a lot of our
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  resources and energy to recovery, to rest, to cellular
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  maintenance, to creativity. I often think about it like
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  we're telling the road crew and the maintenance crew who works
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  on the highways to take a major hiatus when we're in fight or
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  flight. And So what ends up happening is
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  we have potholes in the road or downed power lines or tree
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  branches down, and all of that is just left after a storm.
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  That's how I think about the state of our bodies after we go
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  through big stressors. All of those resources are
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  devoted to dealing with the stress and not the maintenance
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  of rest and recovery and repair. And in those times, we really
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  only think about what we're missing, what we're lacking,
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  what we need to survive. We're scanning for threats all
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  the time, and it puts us into this false sense of fear and
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  isolation. But when you start to get
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  yourself into a state of gratitude, your brain waves
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  change. They go from the most high
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  frequency brain waves called beta brain waves, where it's a
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  place of analyzing. This is where you exist when
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  you're in fight or flight, and it transitions you down into
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  alpha brain waves, which is a place of more relaxed awareness,
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  more coherence, more creativity. Remember, the brain doesn't
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  distinguish between past and future events very well.
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  The neurochemicals released are the same.
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  It's based on what you feel now. And So what if we change the way
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  that we looked at gratitude? What if instead of looking at
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  gratitude as the response, we looked at it as the signal that
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  we send out that says I already AM.
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  I already am healing, I already am abundant, I already am
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  healthy, I am impactful, I already am safe and secure, I
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  already am connected and worthy and loving?
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  What if we flipped the script on gratitude?
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  And I know some of this might feel a little bit abstract, but
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  it's not meant to be because we've all seen this happen in
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  real time. We've all had days where we felt
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  really excited about something that was coming up.
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  And so we expected ourselves to have a great day and lo and
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  behold, we have a really great day.
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  The same is true in the opposite direction.
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  If we are dreading something coming up in our day when we
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  expect that it's going to be hard, stressful day, that's
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  often what we end up experiencing.
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  It's called confirmation bias. The brain is wired for it.
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  We sift and sort through pieces of information that are coming
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  into the brain and we look for the ones that match our beliefs.
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  So this really isn't that big of a stretch.
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  And to consider that we might be able to create our own
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  confirmation bias towards gratitude, creating more
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  alignment at the heart and the brain level for a more attuned
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  inner environment. So that we might be creative and
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  self aware and more open hearted and more open minded.
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  Imagine what that could lead to in our lives.
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  Gratitude is no longer the end result, but it's the first step
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  we take. It's the emotion that sets the
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  tone for us. It sets the frequency, and it
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  sets the stage so that our body can follow the brain and we can
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  design A life that feels fulfilling and joyful to us.
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  So something to think about today is what if we LED with
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  gratitude? What if it was the first step,
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  the first response, and we allowed it to be the tuning fork
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  for our day so that our inner world then attracts the things
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  that we want in the outer world? Something to play around with,
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  just a different spin on a topic you've heard discussed many
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  times before. That's all for this episode
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  today. Have a wonderful holiday team.
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  I'm so grateful for you. Thank you for being here and
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  thank you for being ready to Impact.
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  Thanks for listening to Impact Ready.
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  recognize that you are powerful. By elevating our energy and
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  awareness, we can create exponential change in this life.
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