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What is normal? · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim. Every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places her chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the chicken coop.
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  So, I'm going to ask you a question today, are you normal?
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  I have a lot of times that I've run into this with clients,
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  where they'll say, hey, am I normal?
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  Is this normal? Is this something normal?
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  Should I be thinking this or acting this way or having a
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  struggle with this? Or is it normal to fall back?
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  I work so hard and then I slip a fall out of my patterns.
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  This time of year, I'm happening having to be recording this in
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  July. So how we're halfway through the
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  year and this time of year tends to be be the time where things
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  start to fall off the wheels on the bus, start to fall off, if
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  you will, things start to go off the road and that typically is
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  because we have gone through about half the Year, we're into
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  summer months, summer months. Tend to be you know, the time
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  where you want to slow down, you know I live down south so you
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  have a sweet tea, you sit around you hang around, you're not
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  necessarily in such a rush life tends to just Down.
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  And so it's very organic and very natural that you want to do
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  that. You want to just see other
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  people resting, you want to go to the beach.
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  You want to relax now, obviously, if you're in the
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  other Hemisphere and you're listening to this, or you're in
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  the Opposites, if you're in Australia.
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  So these are not the months for you, but you get the point,
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  you're supposed to use your summer months and thinking of
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  this. But in any event, is it normal?
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  This is the question we're focused on today, is it normal?
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  So I'm going to pose another question back, what is Normal
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  anymore. I mean I don't think we actually
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  even have a normal anymore. I think everything is up for
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  discussion and I think there's there are beautiful aspects to
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  that as also there are definitely difficult things for
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  us to kind of change within ourselves about that.
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  Because when we ask a question, is this normal?
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  We're actually putting that up against something that we
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  believe to be normal. Not what somebody else says is
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  normal. What we believe to be normal,
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  and if we are running into somebody else's version of
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  normal, or what gives them the right to say that's normal.
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  So if you are, someone that has grown up in the country, let's
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  say and your life has been completely where you are, you
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  know, Grazie your own food, you're killing your own animals,
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  to feed your family, you're harvesting, whatever it is that
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  you're growing all year long, it is not normal for you to run to
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  the grocery store every day. But if you're in the city, it's
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  very normal for people to only go shopping when they're going
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  to make a meal. They don't go and buy a month's
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  worth of stuff and stock it, they run to the store
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  frequently, so they're normal. If you ask that question, no,
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  it's not normal. And this these kind of
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  distinctions are layered upon one thing after another.
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  After another. Is it normal to do laundry?
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  Every day, is it normal for me to get angry with my children?
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  Is it normal for me to get frustrated?
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  We could normal ourselves to death.
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  The point that I'm trying to make right now is you have to be
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  really careful when you're in the process of deciding who's
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  normal, you're measuring against.
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  Now, my trick here is, I don't compete with anybody but myself,
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  I don't compare myself to anybody but myself because
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  anything other than that is dangerous.
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  So is it normal for me to be acting a certain way?
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  Is it normal for me to do laundry once a week or every
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  day? Whatever it is?
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  I can measure it against who I've been in the past.
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  And and that's where you have to kind of circle, your focus and
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  say. Well, what's normal for me?
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  I'm going to measure myself and I'm going to take a benchmark.
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  So this time of year, we often start to look back and we say
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  well, I don't know, I'm off I'm so far off, this isn't normal,
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  this isn't normal and we start to panic about things and you
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  know the current state of the world gives us a moment to pause
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  and put us in a place where we are all kind of Collectively
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  saying oh my gosh, do I need to worry about this?
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  Is this normal anyway. So what's so important right now
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  is to figure out what your version of normal is what you
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  are measuring yourself against you, nobody else just you.
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  So if you've been working out like a crazy person ever since
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  the beginning of the year and you've been very consistent and
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  now you're off, you could say, hey, you know what?
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  This is not my normal behavior. I don't like this.
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  I want to get back to my normal. All Behavior or you could say,
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  hey, my normal behavior is not healthy, and I no longer want to
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  do this, it works both ways, but the trick to, this is not
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  measuring against anybody else's version of normal.
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  Can't begin to stress this enough.
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  You compete with you, you compare to you.
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  Took me years to get past this and even sometimes I still go I
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  don't know. You know maybe I look at another
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  person who I think is really successful and I have moments
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  where I go wow I should have been doing this a long time ago
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  or I could have done this or I could have done that and our I
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  should be there and I'll have to stop myself and say nope, I
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  don't know all the things that went into that process and I'm
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  not going to compare myself to them.
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  I'm not going to go down On that road.
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  And I'm certainly not going to look at what's normal for them
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  and say, is this normal for me? Because maybe their normal has
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  doesn't have children and animals, and dogs, and 43
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  chickens, and everything else, and it, but my normal does.
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  So, I'm going to ask you guys to really consider this piece.
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  Don't keep asking yourself and comparing it to other peoples,
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  normal. Look at your own normal and, and
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  figure out from there, what you want to keep, and what you want
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  to get rid of. Because if you haven't figured
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  it out yet, I'm Egon, getting rid of things that don't work.
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  And I'm really big on focusing on the things that do work for
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  you and repeating behaviors that work.
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  So, I will see you guys tomorrow and work on that.
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  You know, what is normal for me? Not, just, what is normal.
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  All right guys, I'll see you soon.
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  Bye.