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EPISODE #23 WALKING BY FAITH · WOMEN MAJORING IN MARRIAGE

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Welcome to the women, majoring in marriage podcast with your
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host Janice L. Vance.
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Girl, if you are a married woman that desire is not just to have
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a surviving marriage, you know, the kind that's just on cruise
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control but actually want a thriving marriage.
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You are in the right place. If you are engaged, this show
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can inspire you to prepare for your marriage, before preparing,
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for that expensive, wedding day. Oh, and all my single ladies out
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there. There that are in their season
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of waiting on God, to send your husband.
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We've got something for you as well, girl, marriage is not
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hard, but it certainly is work. So relax.
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Get your pen and paper, and let us major in marriage.
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Well, hello to all of my Queens out there.
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This is Janice Vance, with the women, major Mary podcast.
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I want to welcome you, and thank you girls, for continuing to
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rock with me. I see you all listening to the
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podcast and I thank you for. And I want to continue to
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continue to share those podcasts because I interview people once
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a month, the fourth Wednesday of the month and then the second
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one is that I do the Market, but those podcasts is to inspire
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people where people can hear of people telling their story
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because there's so many people out there in the world to have
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stories that afraid to tell their story or they are ashamed
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to tell their story or they don't think that their store is
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enough to empower other people, but you never know what your
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story might do for one another. So if you want to have a story
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and and you think you might be interested in being a guest on
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my podcast, reach out to me, my email address is women, majoring
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in marriage at gmail.com and I believe I told you how to wrong
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email. I have so many male it is is the
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marriage major at gmail.com? The marriage major gmail.com.
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If you feel that, you have a story that you would like to
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share, I'll send you a permanent.
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Feel that you are a great fit for what my podcast is all
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about. Then I will reach back out to
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you but again, I just want to say thank you, thank you, thank
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you for continuing to rock with me ladies.
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The marriage major is all about women that I'm majoring in
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Mary's, those women that are in their marriage but not want,
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surviving marriage want to thrive in marriage.
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It's for those women that are in their season of waiting those
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That desire husband, waiting on God, to send that husband.
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And then also those that are engaged that want to better
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engage, but want to prepare for being a wife before preparing
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for that big wedding date. And lastly, you might not be one
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that wanted her husband praying for her husband, got her
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husband, or whatever. But this podcast, some kind of
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way can inspire all of us as women.
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So I want you all to sit back. As I introduce my guest my guess
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is special guest she is the mother to a my nephew's.
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So I do know her and she reached out she has a very powerful
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store and I admire her for not sitting on her store.
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I my anybody that have a store and willing to share their story
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and so I am so proud of her. Her name is Sabrina Parker.
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She's from California. She has two sons and two
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granddaughter. She plans to write a book.
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Now that y'all know that that that that that's number one with
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me because everybody, you know, sometimes we sit on our dreams,
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I'll go aspiration and like dr. Myles Munroe State, don't take
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your dreams and goes to the Grave.
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So I'm going to stay on her about that book right now.
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So she plans to write a book and tell her story.
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She shared her story around different platforms.
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She's reaching out to talk shows out there where she would be
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able to tell her story and I'm sure with these podcast because
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I'm seeing how my podcast is really one and in other
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countries, that is that's awesome.
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Not not any glory to me, none whatsoever because I never
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thought about a podcast. I'm in a coaching class in and I
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coached place sometime we need Some Madrid pushed us and I took
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out of our comfort zone and that's how I got out of my
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comfort zone with my book. And then the next thing was
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doing the podcast and I thoroughly have enjoyed it.
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I have met people that I never known Sabrina and my sister are
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the only two persons. Let me think the only two person
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they have been interviewed on my pockets that I have personally
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met in person. Other people have reached out to
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me, other people have it. Stores and they wanted to share
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them. So I know this, I know Sabrina,
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you you this podcast will get out and Inspire and be inspired
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with this, this particular podcast.
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We'll be out on while we record early.
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So it'll be out on Wednesday. The I think the 22nd I think
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that's the 22nd, the fourth Winston, the 22nd, but the name
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of her interview, the wood she title her interview and I asked,
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what would you like your interview to be title?
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She said walking by faith walking by faith Sabrina.
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I just want to thank you. You thank you for being a part
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of this podcast. I thank you for being willing to
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share your story with my audience here and hopefully
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people will be reaching out to you.
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That's the main goal, that's what it's all about.
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Is not all about us, you know, it's not about a but it's about
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what God is doing in these. Last days what he is doing, and
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inspiring and encouraging, people encouraging people.
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So to bring, I'm going to turn it over.
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Over to you. I want you to start telling you
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a story. I I didn't even mention what you
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have been through, I started to but I'm let you tell your story
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and if you could just take us back to 2019, okay?
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Okay. Yeah, so my name is Sabrina
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Parker and thank you for having me on your show on the podcast
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but I wanted to just start off by thanking God.
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For letting me be here today in 2019, was that word?
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And I start feeling habitations in my heart and it just kept
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going on and on and on. And I said, wait a minute.
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Something that's not right. So when I just want to get out
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there, when something's not, right?
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Don't just sit on it. Go get it checked out.
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So I went to Urgent here. Urgent Care.
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Me to e.r. in from there. They told me that I was having
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heart problems. Had no idea had not been
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diagnosed as a child with any heart problems.
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I didn't even know that I had a heart problem.
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So they told me that maybe it's just stress, they started doing
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different type of tests and no one can find out what was wrong
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with me. So I start going to get a second
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opinion. Went to one.
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Is and he was stating that I needed a heart valve replacement
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and then he wanted wanted me to go.
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See a surgeon went to that surgeon.
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He told me if I had the heart valve replacement that I would
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die on the table, for those who don't know, is called injection
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fraction. So the injection fraction tells
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you how your heart is doing. So your normal injection
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fraction should be T, and above mice was 18.
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So he told me if he did surgery with make it, so he asked me,
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how did you even walk in here? He said, because of your
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injection. Fraction is only 18.
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You should be on oxygen and I said what, you know, so I had my
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son with me, my sister with me and basically to hear a doctor
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say that you're going to die on the table.
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If Try to do a valve replacement, it was just
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heartbreaking. So I said, okay, what do we do
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from here? So, he said, the only thing you
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can do right now is try to get. Try to do another surgery in to
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try to see if that would help you, and he just kept, you know,
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pretty much. He was just telling me that
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there was no hope for me. So, I went home and this took
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about About a year. This was me going from different
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doctors of the 2019. I just good kept warm from
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different doctors. Different doctors.
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And I was just frustrated crying.
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You know, my mother would just tell me to look to the Lord,
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just have faith. God will, you know, he will see
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you through. I would just be on a computer
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research and research and research.
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And so now we're in 2020 2020. I had passed out.
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I was driving and just so happened.
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I pulled over and I was on the phone with my sister and I said
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I don't feel, right? So once I told her that, I just
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admitted me passed out in the car, and I woke up and I was
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like, oh my God, what happened to me?
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And my heart had. I had put, they have put a
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defibrillator in me in my heart. If the defibrillator has shocked
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me and I have passed out So from there, it was just getting worse
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for me, and I just kept going from Doctor to doctor to doctor
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nobody to find out what was wrong with me.
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So, I end up when I call my son, now, when 2020, I said, mom's
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dying. You have to get me to UCLA and
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mind you. If you live in California, you
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still lay is a hospital. That's is well-known, but it's
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really Really far from, you know, most people because you
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have to get on the 405, freeway bumper-to-bumper traffic.
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So each time you go it's about a two-hour drive.
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So we got on the freeway and that's not even mine Stein
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hospital because my assigned hospital was out closer to where
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I am, I don't want to mention hospitals but this assign
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Hospital wasn't my assign hospital.
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So usually when it's not your assigned hospital, they
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Stabilize you and they send you back to your hospital.
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But since with God and in in charge of everything, they end
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up keeping me. And once they kept me, they
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start running tests and they did a biopsy of my heart.
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They did all types of tests and they said that I needed a heart
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and I still what. And they said in order for you
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to live, you're gonna need a, you going to need a heart.
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Art in this was in 2020. So my mother came to the
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hospital and she said, look, she said I pray for you and we're
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going to walk by faith. Your dad died with his heart,
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your brother died with his heart, your sister died with her
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heart and you're going to die with yours.
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And nobody is cutting out my daughter's heart and taking out
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her heart, because we need to walk by faith.
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And I looked at my mom, I said, okay, so I end up checking, you
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know, telling them, I'm not going to get a heart.
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So I end up leaving, and for two years, I didn't, the heart was
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getting better, the number start looking better.
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But then in 2022, I took a turn for the worst and my mother.
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She died April of 20, 20 22 and then September of 22.
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I took a turn for the worst and I was at the hospital I was at a
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doctors appointment actually and I wasn't feeling well.
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So they told me to go to, ER, I went to the, ER, and they said,
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your heart's not doing good. We going to have to admit you
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and they still didn't know what was wrong with my heart.
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So once they admitted me, my defibrillator shocked me seven
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times in 20 minutes. In once, it shocked me seven
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times in 20 minutes, it's it feel like like a mule is running
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really fast and it's just boomed and it's just, you know, and I
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was just oh my God. Oh my God, I would just talk to
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God. I would just have faith and I
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said, Lord if you ready for me, I know that I'm a bow and I will
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be with you and if you're not ready for me, IMA need you.
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So there would I didn't have anything to lose.
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So The nurses start praying, they started crying, because
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they said, I was getting ready to have a stroke and it was my
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defibrillator just wouldn't stop going off.
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So they end up calling UCLA hospital and they had to
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transport me and put me in critical care, so I was in
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critical care in. I kept going into what is called
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beef tag, which is it puts you Into cardiac arrest.
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So your normal heart rate is 60 to 100 miles was at 2:44.
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So my heart pretty much was just gonna explode and just give out.
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Well, they told me the only thing that I could do is they
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would have to list me for a transplant or I was going to
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die. So at that time I had the
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choose. Do you want to live or do you
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want to die and I chose to live? So I still will.
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How long is it going to take to get to the heart?
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And he said, well, we don't know about maybe four months, six
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months. I knew in my heart that I didn't
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have for six months because my heart was given out.
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So that was the one that was on a Friday.
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When I got listed in my friends, came to the hospital on Saturday
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and I was trying to stay alive just You know, trying to just be
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just be really grateful and just trying to have, you know, just
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trying to be really, really upbeat installing heard the
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helicopter and the helicopter was when the helicopter came.
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I told my friend, did you hear that helicopter?
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And she said, yes. And I said, I want just that a
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heart for me. And then she said, you think I
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said, probably not in. So, within 30 minutes, I got a
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call and they said, Miss Parker. What are you doing?
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I said trying to stay alive and they said, well, don't eat
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anything else because of heart came free.
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Wow. Yeah.
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That quick that quit. So I just started crying
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rejoicing in the Lord and I was just so flabbergasted that, you
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know, that a heart came as fast. So the surgeons came in and they
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said, well, you need to thank your parents for your blood type
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because most people that's waiting.
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They have blood type O and I didn't even know this.
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So blood type, O is the blood type where you, wait the longest
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for a heart and I have blood type.
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Positive. So they told me that I needed to
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thank my parents for my blood type when I said, no, I think my
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heavenly father for my blood type, mmm, the next morning,
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which was on a Sunday. I was in surgery and I have my
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heart transplant. Wow.
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Hello, how long were you in surgery?
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I was in surgery for a total of 11 hours, and when I got out of
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surgery, They would trying to give me because I was on a
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ventilator and that was pretty tough and they were trying to
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give me Oxy Cotton different type of medications than when
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the anesthesia wore off that it was going to be I was going to
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be in so much pain to this day. I'm still waiting for the pain.
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I never had not one pain in my chest and I know that's nothing
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but Jesus. Wow.
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So I'm just here to tell people do not give Have no matter what
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you're going through in life, whether it's Health, whether
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it's, you know, it can be family husband, why?
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So, whatever, don't give up on Jesus, because he's the one
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that's in control. He's the one that you look to,
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he's the one you have to walk by faith because if you don't walk
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by faith you don't have anything.
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Yes. Yes I read something.
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I think it was in on the interview thing where you stated
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that you was in the hospital. Little for a month.
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Yes, I was in the hospital for a month after the, after the
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transplant was after the transplant.
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Because when I received the transplant, I told my sister and
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my brother. I said this heart doesn't feel,
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right? This feel like the same heart if
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so, like they put the same heart back in me and I said,
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something's wrong here. So the doctors came to me and
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they had did a biopsy because each time you have a hard
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Transplant. You have to get a biopsy to see
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if the heart is in rejection and African-Americans.
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We have the strongest immune system and once something
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foreign in Turin to our body, our body is going to attack it.
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So my body started attacking the new heart.
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Well, and so they had to do a treatment on me to wipe out my
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teeth bills, so my body can stop attacking.
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In the new heart. And that was a that was the
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rough time for me and I was able to make it through but it was
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also but time where, you know, I got a chance to get closer to
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you. Even get closer to God, I was
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there, you know, in a hospital, just talking to God just praying
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just, you know, worshipping God. And not just because of the
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heart transplant. But even to this day, nothing
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has stopped. So, every day is not a day, go
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by that, I tell my story because God said, how can you have a
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testimony if I don't take you through a test.
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So in order to give a testimony on one side once once that's a
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view like that, he don't want you.
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What he's done for you, he don't want you to just hold it in.
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He wants you to tell that he won't, he's a jealous God, he
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wants you to tell everybody what he's done for you and if he did
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it for me, he'll do it for you. Yes.
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So it was is still challenging. Now I'm still not out because
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it's only been 5 months now so I'm still not out the woods.
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It takes about a year for the nervous system to adjust and
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then you Ron so much medication that those medications have side
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effects. So yearly I have to go to the
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dermatologist to make sure I don't have skin cancer.
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I have to see a nephrologist to make sure my kidneys are
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functioning, so the medication calls other parts of your body
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to start filling. Wow!
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Wow, what Sabrina you don't look like what you been through, God.
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This is truly been good to you. Do you know your don't your
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Downer, but it won't tell me they told me.
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She was 30 years old. She was from New Mexico.
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They won't tell me how she died, but she did say, seven people,
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some of the people received a kidney.
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Another one. Got a lung transplant, the other
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one. God livers.
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So she saves seven people. Wow.
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I have a best friend. She's from New Mexico.
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And now she said we're like real sisters.
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Yeah. Yeah.
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So it's just really, I just been really grateful and it's not
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easy because ban on all this medication and especially
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steroids just to get it out there when you go through a
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transplant, when you're on steroids is really hard because
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your personality Change things, make you act different that you
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would normally a q may say things.
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So sometimes, you know, it affects the way you act, so as
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they come down on the dose that you start to get better.
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So, I just wanted to get out there to other people.
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If you have a family member, that went through a heart,
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transplant of a kidney transplant long, any type of
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transplant? Just be patient with them
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because it's also, Hard for the recipient, you know, because
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we're on so much medication that we never been on in our life.
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Wow. So it makes you, you know, it
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makes you act different because you are different.
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And sometimes you do have to seek counseling, you have to.
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I'm in a group where I talk to other people that had heart,
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transplant, lung transplants and we kind of compare notes.
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Because you do feel alone because nobody around.
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You has never had a transplant, so they can't really relate to
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you. So you have to get into some
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type of group therapy or talk to people that's been through the
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same thing that you've been through in order to survive.
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Wow. Wow.
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That is asked. And what date was that you
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received your transplant? That was actually on 9/11.
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So, when I got the transgender and the doctor said, Well,
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you're going to be having it tomorrow, which was on a
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Saturday and 9/11 was on this Sunday.
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I said that's a bad day for a transplant.
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He said, no, that's a good days than Black History Month.
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Yes. Made history.
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So this is my black history interview for the month of
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February. I figured it would be so
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befitting to interview. You to tell your story because
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you is definitely a walking miracle.
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I hope that this encourage others, I hope that if others
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have testimonies that, they when I sit down on their story.
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No, it's a great. I am really excited about you
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desire and to write a book. Yeah.
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Encourage you to write on your computer.
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Not write on paper because you get overwhelmed with all these
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pieces and Bits of Paper because you can put you can cut copy and
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paste as God give you things, right?
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And you don't know what chapter belongs in, but you write these
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different things down, right? But you just told your story,
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you write in details and then you start taking your content
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decide and what gonna get chapter going to be named what
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this gonna cry. With that.
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But if you ride it, you can always cut copy paste and put it
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somewhere else and and and because if you just write on a
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piece of paper you get over. Well alright.
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So I just want to also tell people that, you know, when
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your, this is your life, you have to fight for your life.
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You're going to stumble across different doctors, that doesn't
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seem like they're concerned about your health.
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Go get a second opinion. Go get a third of Union.
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You know, I went back and forth with different doctors and I did
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not stop until somebody help me. And like I said, I went to a
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hospital that wasn't my spine hospital because in my insurance
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end up paying them there. Be, and by the grace of God,
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they didn't turn me away. They keep every dime nickel
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penny to them. So, I just want to say, you
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know, and when you're, when you feel something in your body that
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doesn't feel right, go, get it checked out because we as An
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American and you don't even have to be African-American we as
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human beings period. We may feel something on we too
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scared to go to the hospital too scared to get it checked out.
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Go get it checked out because little things that they catch it
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early and then you'll be better. But if you wait too late, then
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it's too late. So as soon as I felt something
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in my heart I knew that something wasn't right?
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So I went and got it checked out right away.
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Wow. And in the midst of Of you
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finding out about your heart condition and getting a
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transplant. Would you able to what you're
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able to still work? Sometimes or so?
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I still. So I had the transplant and
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September, I was in the hospital for a month.
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So I got out and I went straight back to work.
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And I work part-time, I work from home and I work for
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wonderful company. That told me as I've been there.
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Twenty years and he told me as long as I'm alive.
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They don't care if I do one or two three hours a week as long
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as I'm doing. I'm working with them.
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So I thank God for that and I still work and then I started my
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own business and it's called you buy airfryer.
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So the reason why I started that is because you know we all like
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chicken. We all like fried food.
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I know I do but You put it in the air, fryer, you won't get
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the grease. So I started that due to that.
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You won't get the grease. Do my cardiologist?
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They're, they're telling me when I'm ready to deliver their
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build. Be ready to eat my food.
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Yeah, I started that and hopefully with God's grace, to
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the just grow and hopefully I'll have a restaurant bar.
28:19
Now, for this first year, they just want me to concentrate on
28:22
me. So I do cardiac rehab three
28:25
three times a week. And then I take a brisk, walk
28:28
the other four days. So they just want me to continue
28:32
to get this heart strong. So sometimes you get tired, but
28:36
you can't get tired. You have to still find because
28:39
the donor you know, it's a lot of times I want to cry cuz you
28:45
know the parents, they lost a daughter and she was only 13.
28:49
Thirty years old. And so I plan on meeting the
28:53
family. There are New Mexico so
28:56
hopefully we can connect and if they want to listen to the
28:59
heart, I want to know as much about this young lady and I want
29:04
them to be able to listen to the heart.
29:06
So just pray that they will be able to accept my invite for me
29:12
to get to know them. Well, that, that would be, that
29:15
would be awesome. Yeah.
29:19
I'm going I'm going to Mexico in June.
29:21
I need to Cancun Mexico in June. That it that that is really
29:31
really awesome Sabrina and I pray that you know I just
29:35
believe that that will be a part of your group that you meant the
29:39
family that you mention it, the family and their daughter still
29:43
lives on. Yeah, yeah.
29:46
Members still lives on in, by her touch and seven.
29:49
The other people's lives. That is amazing.
29:54
Yeah, lost her and I'm sure that was a great loss and her, but
29:59
then it's encouraging and inspiring to know that their
30:03
daughter was was adult was a dawn donor.
30:06
Yes. Aha.
30:08
He's a donor and how she has helped other people lives.
30:12
You have certainly certainly Sabrina.
30:15
You have certainly encouraged us.
30:19
To walk by faith and let us know that there's really nothing too
30:23
hard for God. No, no, no, you are, I'm sure.
30:27
During the time when you were diagnosed and going from Doctor
30:30
to doctor to doctor to doctor, there was some discouraging
30:34
moments, are moments, like, okay, God, I know you got but
30:39
now what I do next. It's all right.
30:42
How is this going to work out? And they telling me my heart is
30:46
doing this and look how Is he moved?
30:49
They had to be nobody. But God, by God.
30:52
Yeah, transplant. Just like that.
30:57
Yes. When people have been waiting
30:59
for four to six months, and I felt bad, because I said, Lord,
31:04
why me? You know, we have people we're
31:07
all on this Critical Care floor, and they're waiting for 26
31:11
months. And he said, why not you?
31:14
Why not, you know, why not to install?
31:17
I cannot not. If, you know, it would be one of
31:21
the ones to come back to say, thank you, thank you.
31:24
And then I have a, I have a job to do and I can, and I will not
31:27
stop doing that job, no matter what, and it's to tell others
31:32
about him, and it's to tell other what he's done for me.
31:36
And if he do it, if he did it for me, he'll do it for you
31:39
because he don't discriminate, he loves everybody, he loves the
31:42
universe, you know, we have to put our faith in him, even
31:46
though the doctors are doctors, This is God, does died in their
31:51
hands is, it gives them the strength because without him
31:55
were nothing. And so, I just want everybody to
31:59
know, give everything in your life to God and he did, yes.
32:05
Yes, Sabrina. If someone wanted to reach out
32:08
to you and contact, you could you give them your email address
32:12
or your phone number, if you would like, but definitely your
32:15
email address. Yeah, they wanted to reach out
32:18
to you because Because, you know, I don't know.
32:20
You're not on social media so if they can reach out to you back
32:23
then a male. Yes.
32:25
They can reach out to me because a lot of times it could be
32:28
people. That's waiting for a heart that
32:32
they may give up because I was on the outside in I was going to
32:36
go through the process of waiting.
32:38
You cannot give up or you may be afraid because a lot of people
32:44
is afraid to get a heart transplant.
32:46
You cannot be afraid. Um, I put everything on God
32:51
shoulder and I said, God, I give everything to you and I want you
32:58
to fix it while I just go to sleep.
33:00
So I just put everything on God and that's how I got through it.
33:04
So if anybody want to get in touch with me, they can email me
33:08
at jay@jaytownsend.com and as Jan's and Jamel S, as in
33:15
Sabrina, Parker 008, At gmail.com, you can reach out to
33:21
me and then I'll get back to you because sometimes you just be
33:24
needing someone to talk to you. Because when your, when your
33:28
heart's not functioning, oh my God, I even had a stroke in my
33:33
eye, you starting to go blind because you're not getting
33:37
enough blood flow to the rest of your body.
33:40
And then I start losing weight because I wasn't able to hold
33:44
the nutrients, in my stomach, my nails Stark.
33:49
Like turning like the color of death, it was just like I was
33:54
dying so when your heart's not pumping, nothing else can work.
33:58
So, you know, now my eyes are better.
34:00
I'm able to see just need the regular readers like everybody
34:04
else, but, you know, you can't be afraid, you just have to give
34:10
it to God. And that's what anything.
34:12
I know some women out there, I also was on a chemo pill.
34:18
I had I end up losing all of my hair.
34:20
Everything was my hair had fell out and God restored my hair.
34:25
So he whatever has been taken away, he can give it all back
34:29
and then some so and then now my weights, come back now, I feel
34:33
like I'm too big so it's just, it's amazing.
34:39
What he can do is nothing is too hard for him.
34:42
You just have to give it to God. Yes, that is so awesome and some
34:48
it. I heard you say, like some
34:50
people have to wait, like maybe six months to there, is that the
34:53
longest or help people, because I know people who know people
34:56
kidney transplant, they all, wait, they be on, they be on the
34:59
list, maybe two years or longer? Yeah.
35:03
So is the way it works. Is they it worse by, if you are
35:07
number one or two, is how sick you are?
35:10
Is how long you wait. If you're waiting on the outside
35:14
for heart, I met a young lady yesterday.
35:17
She said she waited for years. Years and she was waiting on the
35:20
outside. If you're waiting in the inside,
35:24
you get a heart faster because they mean your critical.
35:27
So mean when you say inside you coming inside inside the
35:34
hospital. So when you're waiting it
35:37
becomes like your home, people fly from different states to
35:41
come to UCLA. They you know it's hard on the
35:46
family, they stay in hotels and Their loved ones that becomes
35:50
their home until the heart comes.
35:52
So they haven't decorated and I was going to have to do that
35:56
because it was, they told me it was going to be about 4 4 to 6
36:00
months, they didn't know. And I said, oh my God, that's a
36:03
long time. So you have to adjust, you know,
36:06
I was in there month eating their food.
36:08
I started throwing up is just, you know, it's a lot mentally to
36:13
have to just wait in the hospital for four games over
36:17
know what Dave is yours. Yeah, you just seen that way
36:20
out. You just making him a bad day,
36:22
and God gave you one. Just like that, just like that.
36:25
And I could not believe it. I heard the helicopter and I
36:28
said, I wonder is that the hard for me and I said no.
36:32
And it was, it was so hard for me.
36:35
Wow, yeah. So I'm just, I was so blessed.
36:38
I'm so thankful and I will never forget what God has done for me
36:43
and UCLA is a wonderful, wonderful Hospital the Work
36:49
together and God, he just didn't give me any surgeon.
36:53
He gave me the hit of surgeon like he's the, his name is dr.
36:58
Olla Hari. He's the head of the, all the,
37:02
all the surgeons there and I say, you just didn't give me the
37:04
heart but you gave me. The main person that does the
37:08
heart transplant. I want to make you work on a
37:11
Sunday. Wow.
37:14
And I say Lord. Oh my God.
37:19
He's very particular with his patients.
37:22
He want to make sure that, you know, you up sitting up at 6:00
37:26
in the morning, you cannot be laying in the bed.
37:28
You have to get up the same day on walk.
37:31
You there is no just laying around.
37:34
He wants you up and walking. So I just thank God for him.
37:38
And I thank God for all the entire staff that I have, that's
37:44
helping me weakly. I have a standing nurse.
37:49
She's the nurse practitioner. Her name is Maya King.
37:52
She's wonderful. Because like I said, when you're
37:55
on Prednisone, you can you know, especially me.
37:59
I was like, no, no, I'm not doing this and I'm not doing
38:02
that and it was really the prednisone, and I just want to
38:05
thank her for being patient with me because you know, when you're
38:09
on all this medication, you turn into a different person.
38:13
Hmm, well yeah. And when you was on the van, An
38:18
hour later and we're going to close in the menus on the
38:21
ventilator Sabrina. How long would you want to live
38:24
in? I was only on a ventilator for I
38:28
wasn't on the ventilator law. No, no, I thank God for that
38:32
because the when I came out, I was on a ventilator and they
38:34
have my hands and strength. And I remember just looking
38:42
around but I couldn't talk and I remember just couldn't I wasn't
38:46
able to breathe. So I was only on the I don't
38:48
know how That was on it, but when I woke up, I was on it.
38:52
But I wasn't on it long, but I didn't like it.
38:55
So 18, when I fell, he got off of it.
38:58
I was so grateful. Yeah, I would never want to be
39:02
on a ventilator again. Mmm.
39:05
Yeah, so I just thank God that he brought me through this.
39:11
And if he do it for me, like I said, he'll do it for everybody.
39:15
Just don't be afraid. Just walk by faith.
39:17
You have to Walk by faith is not by sight by faith, not by what
39:23
you see, but that would definitely discourage you.
39:31
And if I didn't have any pain you, you know, the next person,
39:35
may not have any pain, you know, it's more painful for me to get,
39:38
I have to get a biopsy every two weeks and then to even though I
39:43
had an autopsy. So the doctor said sometimes we
39:47
cannot find What was wrong with you until we do an autopsy.
39:51
I set up top seat so I can have an autopsy and I had cardiac
39:56
sarcoidosis and that's an autoimmune disease that attack
40:01
the major organs of your body so it can tag mainly attacks your
40:05
lungs and Bernie Mac had that but he did die of pneumonia but
40:10
he had he's the only person I know that has sarcoidosis and is
40:15
mainly an African Americans. And so that's what I end up
40:22
having. So they didn't actually find
40:24
that out into. They did an autopsy and there's
40:27
something to see. I never I never, I never knew
40:30
that a person alive having op tops.
40:32
Yeah, autopsy. So they had to have a biopsy and
40:36
so just to wrap your mind. So that's when the counseling
40:40
comes in. So to wrap your mind around
40:44
that, you was only only machines was keeping you alive.
40:48
Why they put the heart in you, you know, it can be a lot for
40:52
your brain. So that's why I tell people you
40:56
need to go get counseling and that helps you because talking
41:01
to other people about that. That's gone through it and it
41:06
helps you why you trying to go through it because if not,
41:09
you'll go crazy, just thinking about all the things that you
41:12
went through, you'll start feeling sorry for yourself and
41:15
things like that, but instead, I turn it around and I try to I
41:19
feel positive. I just thank the Lord.
41:22
What he's done for me? Yes I just look at it in a
41:25
different light right. Wow, that is so awesome Sabrina.
41:32
Wow, yeah, I thank God for your testimony.
41:39
Thank God for your willingness to share your story and I pray
41:44
that this will inspire others. You might not need a heart
41:48
transplant. Lance, you might need a child.
41:51
Say the marriage, say he laughs. No but there are a lot of things
41:56
that you expecting God to do, and we might even seem like God
42:01
has forgotten you, but he had once having God, giving you a
42:05
test for Testimony. So don't be afraid to share your
42:10
story. So Sabrina, I just want to say
42:12
thank you, thank you, thank you, for your willingness, it has
42:17
been. It's Great seeing you too you
42:19
know years usually is. Yes, yes, we seen each other but
42:26
God is amazing. How God orchestrates things.
42:30
You know what I'm saying? Steers, you never know how
42:33
things are gonna turn out, but I thank God for the, and thank you
42:37
for your willingness, and we're going to end this podcast at
42:41
this time. But like I said, ladies, if you
42:43
have a story and you want to share your story, reach out to
42:48
me, If you are, you know, of anyone, they need a heart
42:53
transplant or kidney transplant, or they are afraid or you feel.
42:59
I've been dealing with it. This many years, I might, as
43:02
well deal with it. This know if, you know somebody
43:07
that this podcast will bless. Yes.
43:11
This podcast, the link will be out and you can you can email
43:16
the link, you can text the link, you can Can find the link on
43:19
Spotify is so many where you'll be able to find this testimony
43:23
and Sabrina, you'll be able to share this.
43:26
This link to your doctor's to your the next to the hospital to
43:33
talk to your little group, or whatever.
43:37
And we're to be a blessing to other people.
43:39
But again, I want to say thank you, ladies so much, but
43:42
continue to rock. With you, it was too late.
43:46
Miss van, the founder of women, majoring in marriage podcast,
43:50
latest you go and you enjoy your day and be bully.
43:54
Yes, be blessed. I guess.
43:57
I want to say thank you for having me on here Jan.
44:01
And thank you more. And thank you for giving me a
44:04
chance to tell my story. And I do just want to say, I
44:08
want to thank my family for being there for me.
44:11
And I want to thank my friends for being there for me.
44:14
Without your family, and your friends is hard for you to make
44:17
it. Because in order for you to even
44:19
get up, are you have to have caretakers?
44:21
Or you won't even, they won't even improve you.
44:24
So you have to have Talcott are caretakers and they have to meet
44:28
them. So I just want to thank for
44:31
that, they do all that before they for this year before you
44:35
approved approved. You have to have somebody that
44:38
say that they agree to Yak here. And if you don't have, if you
44:43
don't have caretakers, As you will be denied, even if you're
44:46
dying. Wow.
44:49
Yes, because you have to have someone there to help take care
44:52
of you because it's like, you're, you're an adult.
44:57
But you're like a big baby because, you know, you you can't
45:01
really do much for yourself. And one of the reasons why it
45:05
was a little bit, not as difficult for my family is
45:09
because normally once you have a transplant, you're in a
45:13
hospital, maybe like ten days at the most.
45:15
I was in the hospital for months, so I got Recovery was
45:19
really from the nurses in the hospital so my family didn't
45:23
have to do as much so it was easier.
45:26
Yeah. So but I just want to thank
45:29
everybody in all the doctors I want to give a you know dr.
45:35
Kamath dr. Cruz dr.
45:37
Dain dr. Boss dr.
45:39
All of the doctors dr. Olla Hari.
45:42
The surgeon that I said, Maya, doctor, kamath all of the
45:46
doctors In just want to thank God for all of them.
45:52
No, that's a blessing. Yes, yes, yes.
45:57
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