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These Societal norms have to GO! · Johnjay & Rich On Demand

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  Speaker 1: Wake your ass up.
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  Speaker 2: John Jay and Richie.
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  Speaker 3: What's crackin' like?
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  Speaker 4: And this is the big boss dog, Snoopy Deagle Double Jizzle.
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  Speaker 3: Bang, boom, what you gonna do?
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  Speaker 5: John Jay and Rich.
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  Speaker 4: We're not talking about Ren 1010.
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  Speaker 3: We're not talking about Lassie.
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  Speaker 1: It's the one and only dog, y'all.
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  Speaker 4: The classy, sassy, big Snoopy Deagle Double Jizzle. In your
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  Speaker 4: face to me and in the place to be. And
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  Speaker 4: you're listening to John Jay and Rich. Wake your ass up.
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  Speaker 4: Today is National.
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  Speaker 1: Not only is it Tuesday, Taco Tuesday, but it's also
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  Speaker 1: National Taco Day. Please observe accordingly. It's also National Noodle Day.
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  Speaker 1: I'm talking spaghetti, ramen, egg noodles, all of the noodles. And,
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  Speaker 1: John Jay, zero inbox day, which sounds like less of
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  Speaker 1: a holiday and more of a nightmare for you. How
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  Speaker 1: many unanswered emails currently in your inbox?
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  Speaker 3: Can you let me know there?
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  Speaker 6: You guys, you want to bet? Is it over 10,000
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  Speaker 6: or under 10,000?
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  Speaker 3: I think it's over 10,000.
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  Speaker 4: I think we're under.
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  Speaker 3: I think we're over. Even though he's tried to clear
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  Speaker 3: them out. I.
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  Speaker 4: I have cleared my successfully, but I'm at 3,500.
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  Speaker 5: I've been in the hundreds of thousands before.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah. Yeah.
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  Speaker 6: Do you guys see this Buzzfeed article?
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  Speaker 2: It's hilarious.
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  Speaker 6: It's kind of like people have started realizing, am I
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  Speaker 6: doing this just because this is how everyone's always done it?
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  Speaker 2: What?
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  Speaker 6: I don't want to do it that way. So they
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  Speaker 6: put out these piece of like the things people are
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  Speaker 6: doing that are, they're ditching societal norms. They realized they
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  Speaker 6: never actually agreed with, for instance, Sleeping in separate bedrooms,
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  Speaker 6: even if they're happily married. It's like, why do we
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  Speaker 6: have to sleep in the same bedroom? Same bed.
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  Speaker 4: Why do we have to sleep together?
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  Speaker 3: The sleep divorce. We've talked about that a lot.
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  Speaker 6: And it's gotten so popular that like sleep divorce has
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  Speaker 6: kind of become a thing. And we've heard a lot
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  Speaker 6: of people say they've ditched that societal norm and it's
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  Speaker 6: worked for them. So they also have chimed in with this,
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  Speaker 6: not answering the phone just because it rings. Just because
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  Speaker 6: you call me and I see your call doesn't necessarily mean.
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  Speaker 3: I have to pick it up.
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  Speaker 4: Unless you're in a place where they can see you.
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  Speaker 4: That's the part that's embarrassing.
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  Speaker 6: Then that would maybe just be rude.
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  Speaker 4: If you're out and about.
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  Speaker 6: Leaving a party without doing the 20 minute goodbye. This
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  Speaker 6: is a big John Jay. You haven't ever really conformed
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  Speaker 6: to that societal norm. This is one I cannot do.
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  Speaker 6: I've tried to stick out before and I just feel
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  Speaker 6: rude and I have to say goodbye to everyone.
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  Speaker 2: I actually just went to a wedding where the DJ
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  Speaker 2: announced like, hey, like. The bride and groom are so
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  Speaker 2: happy that you're here. But if they're out dancing on
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  Speaker 2: the dance floor, like, just leave. Please don't come and
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  Speaker 2: say bye.
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  Speaker 3: And take them out of the moment. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: That's weird.
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  Speaker 2: Just leave. They're super thankful that you're here.
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  Speaker 3: Send them a text tomorrow morning. But do not interrupt
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  Speaker 3: the dance floor. Wow.
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  Speaker 6: That kind of makes sense because they want to keep
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  Speaker 6: the flow and everyone excited.
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  Speaker 5: So you have a list of things that are normal
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  Speaker 5: in society, but we want to stop doing them.
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  Speaker 6: There's societal norms that people have decided to ditch because
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  Speaker 6: they don't agree with them anyway.
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  Speaker 5: So like off the top of my head, there's one
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  Speaker 5: that always bothers me and it is the one where
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  Speaker 5: you have to wait for everyone to be served at
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  Speaker 5: a restaurant before you eat.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah. I just want to get my food and eat.
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  Speaker 6: Manners, right?
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  Speaker 1: I know. Well, I think you can say man is
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  Speaker 1: for all of these things. I feel like if you ask, hey,
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  Speaker 1: can I start? Most people would say yes. But what
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  Speaker 1: about the person who says, no, I'm not comfortable with that.
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  Speaker 1: You need to wait for it.
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  Speaker 4: Well, that's usually my wife.
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  Speaker 5: Or if I start, she'll be like, you can't start
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  Speaker 5: until you're ready.
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  Speaker 4: My wife says, and I don't know if this is true.
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  Speaker 4: You wait till everybody gets served for you. But if
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  Speaker 4: you're at a buffet.
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  Speaker 5: As soon as you come back from your food, you
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  Speaker 5: can go, hey, you don't have to wait for everyone
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  Speaker 5: to sit down.
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  Speaker 2: That makes sense.
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  Speaker 1: Interesting.
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  Speaker 2: I feel like if it's you and one other person,
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  Speaker 2: you should probably wait until they get their food. But
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  Speaker 2: if you're at like a big 15-person dinner, you might be.
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  Speaker 3: Able to get away with it.
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  Speaker 1: What about this one? When somebody asks you a question,
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  Speaker 1: they just want you to say, yeah, that's great. When
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  Speaker 1: they're like, hey, how are you? I just want to say, well,
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  Speaker 1: my knee really hurts and I'm dead inside.
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  Speaker 3: How are you? Actually answering.
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  Speaker 6: The societal norm is saying, yeah, good, but you actually
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  Speaker 6: want to tell them.
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  Speaker 3: They want you to hear.
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  Speaker 1: Good, how are you?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, that's what they want.
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  Speaker 4: You want to tell them the truth. Yeah, I want
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  Speaker 4: to tell them the truth.
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  Speaker 6: So another one on the list is not forcing kids
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  Speaker 6: to hug relatives. This is like, I'm like such a hugger,
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  Speaker 6: but I also have seen this all over, like, my
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  Speaker 6: Instagram algorithms and stuff like that. If like your kids
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  Speaker 6: don't want to hug someone, don't make them hug someone.
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  Speaker 6: And that does totally make sense to me. So the
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  Speaker 6: next societal norm that people are saying we're done with,
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  Speaker 6: we didn't even agree with it in the first place
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  Speaker 6: was not making small talk with strangers. If I don't
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  Speaker 6: want to talk to you, I'm just not going to
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  Speaker 6: talk to you. If it's awkward in the elevator.
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  Speaker 4: Oh, well, I'm a big fan of that one.
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  Speaker 3: How are you going to make friends if you don't
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  Speaker 3: talk to strangers?
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  Speaker 6: Well, sometimes those strangers, maybe those strangers don't even want
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  Speaker 6: you to talk to them.
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  Speaker 2: Right.
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  Speaker 6: Either way. The next one is saying no without giving
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  Speaker 6: a big explanation. It's like something that's really hard for people.
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  Speaker 6: And that's also something really hard for people to accept
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  Speaker 6: because sometimes they're like, they just said no.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: They didn't even explain why.
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  Speaker 4: I struggle with that.
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  Speaker 3: Like, I think I deserve an explanation.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: So you're saying that, explain that one to me.
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  Speaker 6: So- There is like a phrase now that I think
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  Speaker 6: is trying to help people who are trying to do this.
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  Speaker 4: That it's okay to say no.
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  Speaker 6: No is a complete sentence.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, okay, okay.
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  Speaker 6: So you can say no without going, no, because I
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  Speaker 6: have to go here, here, and here. You could just say, no,
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  Speaker 6: I can't do that.
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  Speaker 3: That's true.
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  Speaker 6: And that's a hard one for people to do.
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  Speaker 2: Because like, what if you don't have anything to do
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  Speaker 2: and you just want to chill?
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  Speaker 4: Exactly.
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  Speaker 2: Because I get in that and then I like start
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  Speaker 2: coming up with a story that I'm going to tell them.
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  Speaker 2: And then at that point, now I'm just lying to you.
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  Speaker 3: You might as well just go.
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  Speaker 4: Exactly. Right.
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  Speaker 6: So the next one is not keeping relationships with family
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  Speaker 6: members just because they're family. Apparently that is a societal
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  Speaker 6: norm that people say, I didn't agree with in the
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  Speaker 6: first place. So if I don't want to be around you,
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  Speaker 6: I don't care if you're family.
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  Speaker 5: Heck yeah.
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  Speaker 2: I am with that one and I stand 10 toes
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  Speaker 2: down on that.
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  Speaker 5: I like to not have to hold the door for
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  Speaker 5: someone when they're that... too uncomfortable distance far away.
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  Speaker 3: And then you have to hit the little trot.
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  Speaker 1: No problem.
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  Speaker 5: I got to hold it in a way. Now I
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  Speaker 5: look at him like, hey, hurry up a little bit
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  Speaker 5: because I'm closer right now.
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  Speaker 3: What do you say? Hey, no problem at all. What
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  Speaker 3: about this? What about when somebody's super late and you're like, oh,
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  Speaker 3: no worries. There are worries. You're 40 minutes late.
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  Speaker 1: Worries.
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  Speaker 4: Oh, believe me. I don't say no worries.
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  Speaker 3: I know you don't.
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  Speaker 4: I know you don't.
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  Speaker 6: John Jay makes it known that there are definitely worries.
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  Speaker 6: This one is going to dinner or movies alone. It's
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  Speaker 6: a societal norm to always be with someone. But if
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  Speaker 6: I want to do things alone, I am doing them alone.
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  Speaker 6: says these people on this BuzzFeed article. The societal norms
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  Speaker 6: of people say, I know this is what people have
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  Speaker 6: always done in the past, but I'm not doing it
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  Speaker 6: because I didn't agree with it in the first place.
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  Speaker 4: I love that.
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  Speaker 2: I love a good solo happy hour.
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  Speaker 1: I don't like that my wife always wants to stop
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  Speaker 1: and get a bottle of wine to bring to somebody's
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  Speaker 1: house party. Like, if you invited us over, you'd probably
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  Speaker 1: have a bottle of wine.
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  Speaker 4: You'd probably don't need ours.
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  Speaker 6: That's just being nice. You don't want to show up empty-handed.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, you're right, though.
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  Speaker 3: I am the gift to your party.
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  Speaker 4: That was great, Kyle.
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  Speaker 1: Thanks.
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  Speaker 4: That was fun. What would we do without BuzzFeed? Nothing.