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Weaponized Vulnerability: Why They Cry to Control You · The Mental Healness Podcast

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So have you ever tried to bring up a problem to your
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narcissistic partner or just toxic partner, right?
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But 5 minutes later, you are the one that ends up apologizing.
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Like you went in there with this firm set boundary and you walked
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out feeling like a monster because they started crying
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about their childhood, their anxiety, or how mean you're
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being. They start weaponizing the
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trauma, their old childhood trauma, right?
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This is not a lack of communication y'all.
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It's it's literally called weaponized vulnerability.
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As a diagnosed narcissist, as a self ward narcissist, I'm going
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to tell you the truth. Sometimes our tears are not a
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sign of pain, they're a sign of defense.
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Today I'm breaking down the reverse gaslight and why we use
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our trauma to make you to make sure that you never ever hold us
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accountable again. Woof And of course, if you're
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new here, I'm Lee Hammock. I'm a diagnosed narcissist and
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welcome to another episode of The Narcissist Code, y'all.
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And that's what we talked about today.
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Y'all the reverse gaslight. Y'all know exactly what I'm
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talking about. The reverse gaslight y'all all
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experienced it before. This happens to so many people.
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Nobody is immune to the reverse gaslighting toxic narcissistic
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person. Nobody, nobody.
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So let's hop right into it. Y'all in in 2026, narcissistic
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people have gotten smarter. The Internet, the interwebs,
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have we? We just got smarter, y'all?
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This is just the way it goes. We've gotten smarter.
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We've learned therapy speak. We've learned how to use therapy
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language. We've learned how to weaponize
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language. We learn how to pretend to be
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impacts right. We know that if we act
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vulnerable, you will stop attacking you, will you
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seriously will? Because most people have a
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rescue response, right? The the moment you see someone
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like that you love, that you care about in pain or crying,
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your brain flips. Like from trying to hold them
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accountable to trying to protect this person.
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And guess what? You're trying to protect this
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person from you. From you.
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Ain't that crazy? Doesn't that sound crazy?
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You're trying to protect this person, you're trying to hold
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them accountable. Then it flips to you trying to
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protect this person from you, which is wild, man.
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It is absolutely wild how that goes and the the people who deal
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with this and whatnot, right? This happens to so many people.
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It is it really is crazy out. So Next up we're going to use
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the term called fog, right? Y'all ever read the book Out of
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the Fog by Dana Morningstar? FOG stands for FOG, right?
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Fear, obligation and guilt. Fear that you might actually be
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the abusive person because you see them reacting, you see them
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crying, you see them like Boo hooing right obligation.
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Oh, to fix the brokenness, you have to fix it.
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You. So you go from fear to you the
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abuser, to trying to fix it to guilt the G Guilt for even
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bringing up your own needs, Guilt for trying to hold this
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person accountable, Guilt, guilt, guilty.
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You know what I'm saying? Fear, obligation and guilt.
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That's what even goes on right there y'all.
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So what I say I'm just too triggered right now when you're
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trying to hold me accountable and I flip it on you and I start
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crying or Boo Hoo. And just like, you know what?
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I'm just so triggered right now. What that person, what that
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narcissist is, is actually saying is your feelings are a
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threat to my ego. So I'm going to use my healing
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journey to shut you up. I'll see how crazy that is right
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there. So the next thing you go from
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like you go from the the switch happens from hero to victim,
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right? Think about think about it like
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this right here. Y'all there is a switch that
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happens like you say it hurt like you the survivor, the
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actual victim will say something like it hurt when you lied to
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me. A grandiose narcissist might
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yell, they might yell at you right.
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But a vulnerable narcissist, a covert vulnerable narcissist,
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they'll say something like, I only lied because I'm so afraid
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of losing you. Because my dad left us when I
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was 7 or my mom used to beat. Me or.
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When I was in first grade. A girl called me ugly and so
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I've always felt ugly. And right now, especially right
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now, I still feel ugly. I still feel this way.
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Well, seriously, that's what a mind goes.
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I still feel so ugly right now. Right now, the way you're
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talking to me, you remind me of my dad.
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My dad used to yell and I just shut down.
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And does that work? Yes.
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Y'all, they were like this. Suddenly, suddenly the switch
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happens. Remember the switch?
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The lie that you're trying to hold them accountable for
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doesn't matter anymore, right? Because now you're trying to
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make them feel better because you hurt them.
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You see what I'm saying? The focus is now on their
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trauma. The focus is now on their past.
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The focus is now on them. You see how it's flip right
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there? You said flip.
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That's what happens. The flip happened and that's the
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way it goes right there. Literally the flip happened.
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The voice is literally how I hear people.
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That's funny. But yeah, that flip happens.
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Once that flip happens, they got you.
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You know what I mean? The focus is now on their
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childhood trauma. This is what people refer to as
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an antagonistic victimhood. Like we are not looking for a
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solution to the problem. We're looking for immunity.
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We're looking for get out of jail free card.
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We're looking to put this on hold or toggle or change the
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subject. Antagonistic victimhood.
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It does happen to a lot of people.
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Y'all now if we, if we can stay as narcissist or toxic people,
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right? If we can stay the victim in
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this narrative, we never have to be the villain that actually has
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to change. Guess who has to change right
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here? Guess who has to change?
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You think about it like that. If I can play the victim, guess
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who has to change you. You consistently have to change.
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You absolutely do. I don't have to change, you do.
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This is part of the dynamic. This is part of what happens
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with toxic narcissistic ass people.
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And y'all get it. Y'all know it too, right?
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You actually understand it. So this is this is the type of
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stuff that's going to keep going on right here.
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This is the type of stuff that's going to keep happening.
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The next thing we're going to cover here, y'all, is the red
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flags. How to spot the weapon, how to
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spot the difference between actual authentic vulnerability
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and the weaponized version. You got to look for a list of
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these three things right here. Y'all decide to tell the
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difference between actual vulnerability, actual sincerity,
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actual accountability, and actual pain.
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Then the weaponized version, them faking the funk, right?
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You got to look for these three things right here.
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The first thing you have to look for is the timing.
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Does the vulnerability only show up when they are in trouble?
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Let me say that again, the timing does the vulnerability
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only. Show.
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Up when they are get, they are in trouble.
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Now, when you were sick, you got no vulnerability.
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You got no empathy. You got nothing from them.
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But now that they got caught in a lie.
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Now that they got caught in a lie, now all of a sudden they're
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vulnerable. Huh, Huh, huh.
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Now you're vulnerable. Now you crying.
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You didn't cry when your dog when the dog got.
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Hit by a car? You didn't cry.
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When your sister moved away. You didn't cry when your mom
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passed away now. You crying?
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The timing is important, y'all, so watch out for the timing
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right there. I try to speak the truth, I'll
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tell you, I try, I try, I do try, I try, I try to keep it hot
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and rated like a Little Caesar's pizza, right?
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The second thing, it's called the pivot, right?
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The pivot does their pain always result in you dropping your
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boundary? Does your pain?
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Who said preach? Male male said preach.
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I'm I'm going to I'm going to preach.
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Preach your Lee mode does your the we're going to call this
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part right here, the pivot. Can I get a Amen?
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Amen. I heard you.
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I heard you say Amen. Right?
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Part 2, verse 2, Chapter 2 called the pivot.
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Does their pain pain always result in you dropping your
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boundary? Does their pain result in you
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changing your mind? Does their pain result in you
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flipping around and not trying to hold them accountable?
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It's called the pivot. It's called the pivot.
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That's what be happening right there.
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It really does. That's called the pivot.
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So remember Part 1 the timing does the vulnerability only show
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up when they are in trouble? 2 the pivot does their pain
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always result in you dropping your boundary or just dropping
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the issue or just for let's just forget about it.
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I'm sorry I bought it up. Does it result in you saying I'm
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sorry I bought it up? I won't talk about this again.
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We we can just change the subject.
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The third one. Y'all gonna love this one?
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The lack of change. Do they cry about the problem
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but never actually do the work to stop the behavior?
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Let me say that again. Do they cry about the problem?
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I'm. Sorry I hurt you.
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I'm sorry I cheated on you. I'm sorry I can't.
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I made you feel this way. But do they never actually do
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the work to stop the behavior? I feel like I got.
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I got to block everybody. I got to do this.
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I got. To do that, appreciate the
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donation to the channel, Caroline.
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Super super, super. Thanks.
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Thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you.
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All donations are appreciated. Y'all seriously, let me get back
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in the mode again. I'm so sorry I cheated on you.
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I can't believe the pain I put you.
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I ruined our family. I can't.
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Believe I did this. So are you going to block them
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and change your behavior and go to therapy and go to church and
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stop doing all this stuff? Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa,
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whoa, whoa, whoa. That's too much at once.
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What I can do is take you out to to Red Lobster if you want.
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If you want a seafood ball. I know you like seafood balls
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when you cry. Oh my goodness, what's going on,
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Bar? I'm sorry I made you feel like
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less. Of a person I'm.
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Sorry, I'm sorry. You feel that way?
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You something. I can't do all of that right
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now. The last time.
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The last time I stepped. Inside of a church.
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My body caught on fire and I burned.
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Oh my goodness, y'all the last my drunk, the last my drunk holy
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water. It made my throat hurt.
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But this would be going. I'm telling you, this is the
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type of stuff that does happen. OK, conclusion.
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Yeah, I'm going to end this right here.
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Then we're going to do a quick, we're going to end it and then
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we're going to do a quick Q&A. If you're, if they're healing,
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requires you be mistreated, it's not healing, it's a hostage
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situation. If they're healing, if them
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feeling better requires you to keep accepting bad behaviors,
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requires you to keep accepting abuse, cheating, manipulation,
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physical abuse, it's not healing, it's a hostage
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situation. They're holding your feeling
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it's hostage right here. So you have to stop being the
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rescuer. Y'all, you got to stop being the
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rescuer. One of my favorite shows growing
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up was the Rescuers Down Under. I don't know.
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I'm 40 years old. I might age myself with this
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one, right? The Rescuers Down Under, y'all
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are not the Rescuers Down Under. You're not Chippendale Rescue
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Rangers. That's not who you are, right?
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You have to stop being the rescuer.
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You can simultaneously have empathy for someone's past
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without allowing them to ruin your present.
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You can have empathy for someone else's past, near trauma, what
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they went through, without letting that ruin your present
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life, without letting them ruin you, without letting them hurt
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you, without letting them put you in pain and suffering and
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whatnot. Right.
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This is what happens. This is seriously what happens.
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I'm telling you so many. This is what happens to so many
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people. They make you feel bad for what
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has happened. They make you feel bad for their
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life before they met you and you're supposed to take the
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brunt of it. They make you feel bad for their
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life before they met you. My.
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Wife cheated on me, that's why I cheat on you.
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I'm not your ex-wife. What what out of that?
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What what? She cheated on my dad with her
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cousin. Oh oh Oh dear Oh dear.
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Now have any of y'all ever been reversed gas lit?
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Drop it in the comments y'all. Have any of y'all been reversed
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gas lit now we'll take take the next few few minutes y'all for
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your for Q&A drop your questions in the chat and whatnot.
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Like I said, you can do like the little super chats.
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It pops up automatically and whatnot as well.
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I got a lot of people in the live right now.
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I'll put the questions on the screen like this.
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I didn't heal enough for you, but like I said, everything be
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appreciated. Yep, but this is part of right
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here. One second, five years, five
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years reverse gas lit for five years.
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That is rough right there. I have been reverse gas lit so
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many times. Yep, it happens.
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I'm the devil's child. Oh dear, is that what they said
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to you? I'm I'm the spine of Satan.
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My Mama got her cheeks clapped by Satan and I'm the result.
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Satan clap my mama's cheeks and and I was born.
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So you doing the bending? I see my my ex narcissist at the
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store. I caught him looking at me.
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And as soon as I saw him, he looked the other way.
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Yeah, that's that's that internal shame right there.
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That's the internal shame. What's going on with that's the
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internal shame they see, you know, you mean I took off so
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fast out of the store as soon as I see him.
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Sometimes you got to protect your peace, right?
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Today's short about group mentality was great.
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I commented on made me think of a worldview perception.
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No, that's good. That's good y'all.
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So I do have like I say, make sure you check out my if you
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follow me on YouTube or if you follow me on Facebook, make sure
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to check out my longer videos. Y'all.
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I do a longer video almost every single day like this is this
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live? Today is taking place of the
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longer video. It's time to go live.
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Yep, I was blamed for his cheating because I had breast
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cancer. What kind of evil ass bastard is
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that right there? Bye April, have a good day.
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What kind of evil ass bastard is that right there?
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That's crazy. That's evil.
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That's an evil person. My mom says she's going to pay
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for my mortgage but she doesn't have money or health.
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Is that her money? Bloody.
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I must have missed something. My ex narcissist called me a
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narcissist. That that does happen, y'all.
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That does happen. Do they change for the new
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supply? Yes, I think people, when I hear
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me say yes to them, like, no, Lee, they don't change.
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Yeah, they do. They don't do the exact same
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things with other people, Right. I'm not saying that the new
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supply is not going to get abused or mistreated.
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That's not what I'm saying. What I'm saying is the new
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supply is going to something like they're going to get a
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narcissist. It's just going to be a
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different version of it, of them.
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The narcissist is going to take the stuff that they did for you
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to make you feel good about yourself, and they're going to
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do it for the next person. So they're going to change
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externally. The stuff that they do outside,
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they're going to change, but inside, yeah, they're going to
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change. Yeah.
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Very rarely, not as I say it, very rarely do people like
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narcissist typically love bomb. But does every narcissist love
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bomb? No, but very rarely do you get a
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person from the very first date, they're getting it treated and
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they stay. Now I've heard that before.
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I've absolutely heard that. I've had I've done one on ones
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over zoom with people that have done that before, Right.
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There's like, well, I didn't get loved mom.
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I had a horrible first date and I should have just left them
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alone, but I didn't. Right.
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They changed their tactics. Yes, that's absolutely true.
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Right there. From overt to covert sometimes.
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Yeah, Yep. I wonder if my life would be
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different if I was thought about someone else.
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Oh, that's sad. I have sickle cell.
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He loved telling me I only got a little life.
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That's a Shanita. That's the evil bastard right
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there. It's evil.
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I'm going to link a 101 next week with you and send your
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video for your content. Here's what?
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Yeah, I'm here. I'm here if you need me.
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My son, my son is still wears his, his aunt, the aunt hoodie,
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he said wears it to the school and had it for years.
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Boundaries and morals they don't like.
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Yeah. Boundaries make them feel like
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you're trying to control them. Morals make them feel bad about
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themselves. You know what I'm saying?
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Morals and standards make them feel bad about themselves.
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My ex always use the Lord in Bible verses to make himself
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look good but shows no fruit of the Lord.
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Oh hell no. The easiest way y'all for
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someone to pretend to be a good person is just a fake religion.
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Let's me keep it hiding ready. Just fake being religious.
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You'll get people on your side that's all it takes.
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Y'all go to church people be on your side.
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Yes ma'am Andy Bloom, I am live. I am live I am live.
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I'm going to do more lives y'all.
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I'm actually the reason I'm going Live Today.
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I don't know if y'all remember I used to host that live show with
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Jessica. We're talking about getting it
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back started here in the next couple of weeks, right?
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We're so the live show might be coming back on a weekly basis,
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maybe on Tuesdays or whatever. So we we'll talk about that in
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the background. I just asked you in the comment
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if you've ever done a video on Euphoric Recall.
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I've, I've never done one on euphoric recall, not just yet.
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Now I'm struggling with missing this monster.
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No. Yeah, let me, let me, let me
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handle this right here for for Mandy, who's one of my channel
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members. You're going to.
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Miss them, right? That makes sense to miss someone
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you just like you. Yeah.
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If you had any siblings, if you cared about this person a little
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bit, if you were with them for a few years.
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It's OK to miss them. Like you cannot turn your
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feelings off. Your feelings don't just
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disappear overnight. That does not just happen
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overnight. You know what I'm saying?
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It takes a while for your the feelings to subside and to go
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away. He was homeless and.
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Had a job and lost it and blamed me because I had to do overtime
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because of his like, Oh my goodness, that is rough right
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there. Feel it To heal it.
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Yeah, I got to feel it. It's going to suck.
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I want to feel no more. You going to suck.
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It's going to suck. But you will get through it.
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I promise you will y'all. I promise.
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I'm struggling with depression and loneliness now because I
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went no contact, but I know it's the best, Yes.
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You know what's the best? You will get through this and
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this too shall pass, right? You will get through this.
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You might be lonely for a little while, you might be hurting for
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a little while, but I promise you, you will get through this.
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You just have to keep fighting. You have to keep going through
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it and whatnot, right? And also check out my website,
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rightherementalillness.net. I have my one-on-one coaching.
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I have courses, I have a support group.
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I have all things at mentalillness.net.
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courses at net. What in the new hair?
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Oh yes ma'am, cut in a few months.
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Now to cut, I got to cut. Greeting.
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Greetings, Earthline. Greetings.
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The person I was in a relationship with preaches about
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God, but also has 2 middle fingers as his profile picture
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and his Twitter post about threatening me, my third.
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Yeah. So they're going to preach about
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God because it looks, it looks good.
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The it's the optics. It looks good to other people.
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The optics are important to them.
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How it looks. You know what I mean?
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The optics are important. How it looks is going to make
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them feel better, right? Hold on.
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How do you help your children with their relationships?
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Me or just in general like I do for kids, Y'all, I do have a
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kids book. It's called Remember it's not
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your fault. It's for kids up to about 9 or
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10 years old, right? It it's a, it's a conversation
22:50
starter to have conversations with your kids about
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narcissistic relationships, body positivity, loving yourself and
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whatnot. You can find my book, the kids
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book Remember it's not your fault on Amazon.
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You know, kids book is on Amazon Doo Doo Doo Doo Doo.
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And then I'll put drop the link for that right there.
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My therapist said it's natural to miss him because we were
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together for over 30. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yes, 30 years.
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Yes, yes, yes. It is absolutely natural to miss
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somebody you've been with for for three decades.
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Yes. They are young adults.
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So in this, in this situation where they're, they're young
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adults, it might be time to sit down and have some therapy.
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So you can do family therapy, they can do individual therapy,
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something like that right there, right.
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Are you open with them about what it's like the day-to-day?
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Who me work at home for my well, my kids.
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I told my my kids know what I do.
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I do. I do talk.
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To my kids. He went to.
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My previous job where I left 1 1/2 years and said it said that
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as normal as he wants to know the truth but I can't get the oh
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hell no. If he's going to your job like
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literally later on like a year and a half later that's that's
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stalking. That's dangerous as hell The the
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price for the one O 1 is on the website, but as a channel member
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you do get like AI think it's a 30% discount on the one O 1 and
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stuff like that. I think the code for a discount
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if y'all, since y'all are all in here in my life, the discount I
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think is healed or healing is either I think it's healing you
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going to do a one O 1. The discount is the code is
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healing or healers hold on. I make sure I might be getting
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y'all the wrong code right there you go.
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And actually everything is available on my on my website
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too. Let me see, let me see, let me
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see, let me make sure it's on her coupons.
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Yeah, it's healing. Healing Healing is the discount
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code. Looks like this you.
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Don't do a one O 1. Book the one O 1.
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There's a box you put the word healing in.
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I think it's 30% off. Why do you think?
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Some narcissists stay longer with certain partners.
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Sometimes it's just for comfort, right?
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I'm not saying that they don't ever care, but sometimes it is
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comfort. I'm comfortable with this life
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that I have. I don't want to blow my life up.
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I've been considering by having one for like a year, probably
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something as soon as I've been sending yo no one of ones that
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like yo, I've done. Y'all want to check out my the
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reviews for my one on ones I have.
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I've done a lot of one on ones and I get a lot of reviews.
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People leave reviews for my one on ones that I've done.
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I've helped a ton of Yeah, I've helped thousands of people.
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That's not me even kind of just be braggadocious or anything
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like that. I've literally helped thousands
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of people with my one on ones. Like over the years I've helped
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them wake up through narcissistic abuse, understand
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what they went through, and just heal overall in general.
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Because it does take. Healing does take a long time.
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Healing can take a while, right? Healing is not just an overnight
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thing. You're not just going to wake up
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and be like I'm healed today. No, that's not how it works.
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It takes a while. Healing does take a while.
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You don't just move past it one day.
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It is a consistent effort. Healing is a consistent effort.
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Consistent effort for healing. Yeah.
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I lost my links. I don't know my links are
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anymore. Damn it.
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I'm not gonna find them again. I gotta put my links on her
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again. I'm gonna add that.
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Back to my list, where the hell have my links right?
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Don't really don't even know I'm adding my links.
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Y'all Doo Doo Doo Doo serious. That's crazy, I thought I had
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links and stuff. It's kind of annoying.
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A lot to y'all. I've been wanting to.
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Do one for three years now. Hey, I've been doing them.
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I've been doing them. Your videos are saving me.
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Yay yay. One year no contact Clap for
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yourself. That's a good.
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That's amazing right there. You should be proud of yourself.
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You. Should be proud.
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Of you, you should absolutely should be proud of yourself.
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The trauma bond is absolutely 100% real.
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You're 100% correct. It is it takes a long time for
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people to get over to trauma bond too.
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That trauma bond can keep people keep you stuck for a little bit.
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You know what I mean? Keep you going back and doing it
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can keep you going back and doing things that you probably
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not never thought you would be doing.
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It's like, why am I going back to this toxic relationship?
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I hate this person right? That's one of the reasons why so
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many happens to so many people. Here's if you want to check out
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the reviews for my one on ones I found, I did find a link it's
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still there. I'll just drop in the comments.
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It looks like this. It's trying to convince.
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People that you are a nice person necessary.
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I've never heard someone trying to convince people that they're
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a nice person. For me, I don't try to convince
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people I'm not me. I don't try to convince people
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I'm a nice person. I don't I can I can be a nice
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person. But narcissistic people, yeah,
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they will try to convince you that they're a nice person
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because that helps them, right? That helps them their ego, that
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helps them build social currency, right?
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Social currency and optics are super important, right?
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The trauma bond can be absolutely like an addiction.
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That's all a lot of people describe it.
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Yay. Appreciate you.
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I'm always trying to help. Thanks, Mindy girl.
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Some. Don't, Yeah, no, some don't.
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Some really don't, y'all. But anyways, y'all, I do have to
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hop off the same. I've been live almost 30
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minutes, the longest live I've done in a long time ago.
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Thank y'all for tuning in. Thank y'all for dropping
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comments in the comment section. I really appreciate y'all tuning
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in. Again, everything for me is in
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my website, rightherementalillness.net, so
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you can scroll through the comments or whatever for the
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codes and whatnot, for the discounts and whatnot, because
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I'm here to help people as much as possible, y'all.
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Be safe. Join the channel membership as I
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got stuff going on behind the scenes, the channel membership
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behind the scenes as well. Be safe.
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Hit that subscribe button. And as always, as always, peace.