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Returning to Gallantry | 6-7 · The Bill Handel Show

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Speaker 1: Anyways, still humors. Saw a story and it comes at
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Speaker 1: a weird time. This story by Peggy Noonan in the
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Speaker 1: Wall Street Journal about gallantry, and we'll talk a little
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Speaker 1: bit about what gallantry is and why she says that
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Speaker 1: it needs to come back for twenty twenty six, and
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Speaker 1: I could not agree anymore. It just is, we have
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Speaker 1: really our moral compass and our desire to serve each
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Speaker 1: other has been out of whack for some time, but
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Speaker 1: it is it's gotten to the point where it is
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Speaker 1: really really bad. But this also comes at a time
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Speaker 1: where Heather Brooker and I just realized, you know, everybody's
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Speaker 1: on tape today, So it's kind of hard to be
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Speaker 1: have gallantry when we're kind of like.
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Speaker 3: Sacrificing. Yeah, right, where is everybody? What on earth?
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Speaker 1: Oh it's it's New Year's Day. You think Chanon's going
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Speaker 1: to come in when there's football on?
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Speaker 3: That's true. I asked her yesterday I was doing. She
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Speaker 3: said she was going to be relaxing at home and
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Speaker 3: some comfy clothes and.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, get some fat pants on and get some snacks,
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Speaker 1: watch television on a cold day. Doesn't sound magical. I don't, definitely,
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Speaker 1: but I wish for everyone to have that. So gallantry, Uh,
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Speaker 1: basically it's acting without expectation, you know, no reward, no credit,
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Speaker 1: standing up for week weaker people or causes that you
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Speaker 1: that can't repay you, and.
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Speaker 2: You know, having strength and not using it cruelly.
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Speaker 1: Confidence but not the ego kind, doing the right thing
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Speaker 1: and you know, saying it wasn't anything. It's like that's
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Speaker 1: the normal thing to do when you know it's like
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Speaker 1: I don't look for a reward from my wife because
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Speaker 1: I don't sleep around like look at me, you.
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Speaker 2: Know, sticking to our oathh who's a good guy?
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Speaker 1: You you do it because that's those are the promises
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Speaker 1: you put out there or those are the things that
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Speaker 1: you said. We've gotten to this place where even if
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Speaker 1: you have a right to do something doesn't mean you
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Speaker 1: should do it.
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Speaker 2: And I've said this before on the air.
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Speaker 1: You know, as somebody who is a person of faith,
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Speaker 1: by no means doesn't make you perfect in any way,
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Speaker 1: shape or form.
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Speaker 2: But also, just because it's legal.
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Speaker 1: To do in the United States doesn't mean that a
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Speaker 1: person of faith can do it. You go to Nevada,
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Speaker 1: it's legal to get a prostitute. But just because just
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Speaker 1: because you can do something doesn't mean you should. And
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Speaker 1: the reason why I point that out is because yes,
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Speaker 1: we have rights in America, and there are rights, individual
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Speaker 1: rights that we can utilize, but there's times when you
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Speaker 1: have to look at the hole and that that's more important,
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Speaker 1: and that just exercising your rights just because you can
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Speaker 1: is not a good thing. I see people doing stupid
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Speaker 1: ass things more than ever before, Like driving on the
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Speaker 1: side of the you know, when there's traffic on the freeway,
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Speaker 1: driving on the shoulder, and one guy will do it
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Speaker 1: and you go, okay, that's a wing nut, and then
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Speaker 1: another person does it and it gives permission that old
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Speaker 1: concept of And I've seen this firsthand when my wife
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Speaker 1: and I lived in an apartment when we first got married.
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Speaker 1: We lived in an apartment in Hollywood, and someone left
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Speaker 1: something out front, maybe they moved out of the apartment complex,
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Speaker 1: and I don't know, maybe it was a table or
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Speaker 1: a chair, or someone left a cup there or whatever
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Speaker 1: it was. And I'm like, just watch, and sure enough,
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Speaker 1: by trash day there was a couch out there. Now
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Speaker 1: like people just started piling garbage. It's what we do well,
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Speaker 1: just any anytime you loosen up anything, we will go
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Speaker 1: for the loosest point, that the weakest link, we will
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Speaker 1: go through. And so this this call to reclaim gallantry,
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Speaker 1: not not just courage, but the expression of courage, bravery, bravery,
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Speaker 1: but with humility, restraint, and moral style. Rejecting bragging or
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Speaker 1: winning loudly. I love that that saying you should lose
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Speaker 1: with your head up and win with your head down,
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Speaker 1: having the balance in life. If you do have the
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Speaker 1: chance to get a win, if you have these things,
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Speaker 1: don't shove it down people's throats. Don't you know there's
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Speaker 1: if people ask or want guidance or advice, give it freely.
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Speaker 1: Don't gate keep the concept of winning loudly and I've
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Speaker 1: said this before, is insecurity is loud. Confidence is quiet,
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Speaker 1: And so when people start to get loud about things,
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Speaker 1: that shows me a weakness.
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Speaker 2: It happens, happens to all of us. But when people
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Speaker 2: get you know.
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Speaker 1: This, better than you, higher than now, whatever you want
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Speaker 1: to call it, do things because they're right. Don't look
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Speaker 1: for expectation, not credit, not reward. Standing up for weaker
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Speaker 1: people I think is important. Unfortunately, I think we always
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Speaker 1: assume the weaker are right though. You know, we have
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Speaker 1: a thing about people that are oppressed in this country,
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Speaker 1: and then you have to go, well, yeah, criminals may
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Speaker 1: be oppressed in prison, but why and things like that,
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Speaker 1: So understanding more about if you're actually helping or if
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Speaker 1: you like people will often go look, I'm helping the poor,
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Speaker 1: and it's like, well are you.
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Speaker 2: Are you really doing?
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Speaker 1: Are you trying to get them? You help people out
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Speaker 1: of situations, not lifestyles. If there's a situation in which
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Speaker 1: you can reach out and say, hey, man, I know
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Speaker 1: you got kicked in the in the goodies because of
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Speaker 1: this happened or whatever it is, that's a situation. But
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Speaker 1: if somebody is living a certain way, they don't want
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Speaker 1: to work they don't want to do.
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Speaker 2: So you can't help anybody out of that. They're an alcoholic.
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Speaker 1: You have to Yeah, you can't just give them a
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Speaker 1: little something to get them out of it. So I
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Speaker 1: like this, Peggy Noonan. I like this article. We need
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Speaker 1: to return to gallantry. And this is preaching to myself too,
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Speaker 1: that core message. You can be decisive without being brutal.
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Speaker 1: You can win without humiliating others, you can lead without boasting,
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Speaker 1: and we could be better. January first, twenty twenty six,
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Speaker 1: We're here.
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Speaker 2: We did it. You. Uh, you're a.
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Speaker 1: Pretty positive guy, aren't you. Kono, Yeah, you are. You
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Speaker 1: love your family, you got kids.
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Speaker 2: I do.
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Speaker 3: All those things are true?
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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, right?
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Speaker 1: Are you looking forward at twenty twenty six?
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Speaker 2: Brother?
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Speaker 4: I guess I don't know. It's I don't know all
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Speaker 4: the same other people like you. Just this is going
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Speaker 4: to be the start, like you should have started in October.
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Speaker 4: I don't think that moth matters, So it doesn't. I
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Speaker 4: don't care.
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Speaker 1: Every moment, every day is a new beginning all that.
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Speaker 1: But do you get hopeful of the new year?
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Speaker 2: Do you go? I'm gonna no, I guess I'm hopeful.
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Speaker 4: If I'm hopeful I'm hopeful in the day all that,
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Speaker 4: like the January one, doesn't be like I'm a beautiful
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Speaker 4: now I don't.
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Speaker 2: It's not.
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Speaker 5: That's not a me take, that's not a mean to. No,
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Speaker 5: that's that's uh, the year changed. Oh this is my
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Speaker 5: don't do that.
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Speaker 1: No, I'd get it's an arbitrary mark, a line in
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Speaker 1: the sand that we go, Okay, here's something. But whatever
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Speaker 1: gets you kicked off. I mean, you can't win a
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Speaker 1: race unless someone says, Okay, this is the starting line
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Speaker 1: and this is the finish line.
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Speaker 2: It's just what we do in life.
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Speaker 4: Yeah, I guess my starting line is just on my eyes.
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Speaker 2: Open the wake up. That's a good day. Well.
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Speaker 1: Vox put out like a breakdown of twenty six things
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Speaker 1: they think will happen in the year twenty twenty six,
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Speaker 1: and a lot of these have to do with politics,
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Speaker 1: but it looks at the economy and climate and tech
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Speaker 1: and health and all these things and culture. But breaking
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Speaker 1: down a lot of people try and guess as to
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Speaker 1: what's and go down with politics.
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Speaker 2: The problem is you can't out think Trump. You can't.
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Speaker 2: He's a wild card.
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Speaker 1: Not on a particular topic, but every day, like moment
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Speaker 1: to moment.
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Speaker 2: He's a wild card. And I know Handle.
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Speaker 1: This is the thing I've known Handled for thirty years,
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Speaker 1: and I tease him all the time that he has
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Speaker 1: gotten more hyperbolic. But Trump brings that out in people.
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Speaker 1: And although I'm not a fan of the guy as
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Speaker 1: a person, that doesn't mean everything he does is going
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Speaker 1: to be wrong.
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Speaker 2: It just doesn't.
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Speaker 1: And so I look at everything across the board individually
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Speaker 1: and I pick and choose.
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Speaker 2: That's what a brain is for.
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Speaker 1: You know, not everything is going that comes out of
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Speaker 1: this guy is going to be bad. I'm sorry. I
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Speaker 1: don't believe that in anybody. And like I said, if
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Speaker 1: the devil looks me in the eye and says two
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Speaker 1: plus two equals.
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Speaker 2: Four, they're still right.
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Speaker 1: So this kind of takes on a lot of it
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Speaker 1: that the democracy, US democracy is going to weaken. I
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Speaker 1: don't know what that means. I know I hear a
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Speaker 1: lot of people think, you know, we're losing our rights.
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Speaker 1: And I would say that if I were a woman
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Speaker 1: and I looked at you know, reproductive rights, I'd say,
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Speaker 1: I hope someone re looks at this because you know,
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Speaker 1: or looks at this from the point of view of
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Speaker 1: the woman.
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Speaker 2: If I were gay.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, I would be annoyed at the very least to say, hey,
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Speaker 1: are they really re looking at whether gay marriage is
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Speaker 1: going to be legal. I don't think that's going to flip.
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Speaker 1: I don't think that's going to change. But other than
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Speaker 1: those things, do I think that we're losing our rights?
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Speaker 2: I don't.
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Speaker 1: I think we have checks balances in place, and they
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Speaker 1: continue to do what they're supposed to do. Right, not everything.
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Speaker 1: You know, the president's not even getting away with everything.
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Speaker 1: There are checks and balances. And as I've said before
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Speaker 1: and we'll say again, I'm a big we the people person.
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Speaker 1: There's more of us than them, and the more the
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Speaker 1: larger government we get, the worst things will be. Smaller
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Speaker 1: government makes sense. Strangely enough, is the left and right
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Speaker 1: both have these hypocritical stances on things. The left wants
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Speaker 1: bigger government to take care of more people. Yet if
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Speaker 1: it's not a liberal mind in there, then what are you.
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Speaker 2: Going to do?
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Speaker 1: So it's so the structure should be on a case
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Speaker 1: by case basis as to you know where things can
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Speaker 1: be because if if you can do it as a president,
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Speaker 1: when if you're okay with it when your person's in there,
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Speaker 1: then you got to be okay with it when your
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Speaker 1: person's not in there. Democrats taking back at least one
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Speaker 1: chamber of Congress. People are saying that that could be
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Speaker 1: a ninety five percent chance. Historically, yeah, that's probably gonna happen.
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Speaker 1: The midterm always punishes the president's party, whoever's in so
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Speaker 1: that's probably gonna take place. But again, we keep seeing
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Speaker 1: things that are that word that we love so much, unprecedented,
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Speaker 1: and it keeps popping up.
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Speaker 2: So how is that going to play out? I don't know.
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Speaker 1: At least one major education department function survives. They say
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Speaker 1: that Trump can't fully dissolve the department without Congress, so
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Speaker 1: maybe something will stay. But again, if we're looking around
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Speaker 1: saying if Trump likes this, then we can't, or if
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Speaker 1: the left likes this, we can't. If you get into
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Speaker 1: that mentality, man, that's a cult. That's not politics. Now
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Speaker 1: you've lost your mind and you just are doing whatever
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Speaker 1: or reacting to whomever's in office that you don't like,
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Speaker 1: because ultimately I would rather them go. Okay, We'll look
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Speaker 1: at this regardless of who's in office. Look at the
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Speaker 1: Department of Education. Is America bursting at the seams with
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Speaker 1: great education? No we have highly problem highly problematic education
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Speaker 1: in California.
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Speaker 2: Now, my kid goes to a public school and I
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Speaker 2: rather like it.
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Speaker 1: I think they do a nice job, and I think
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Speaker 1: that the principal and the teachers are attentive. But my
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Speaker 1: wife's very involved in that too. They're at the school
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Speaker 1: and being a participant. And I am too, just not
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Speaker 1: as much as she is. And that's a big part
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Speaker 1: of your kid's education, how much you're involved in it.
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Speaker 1: Supreme Court rules against Trump on tariffs. That's a belief
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Speaker 1: that is going to be a big thing throughout twenty
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Speaker 1: twenty six, so says Vox. Lower courts say that Trump
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Speaker 1: exceeded authority under emergency powers. Trump is absolutely, without a doubt,
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Speaker 1: testing what the powers of the presidency mean and where
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Speaker 1: they can go. But he's only in for four years,
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Speaker 1: no matter what anybody thinks, and he keeps goating people.
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Speaker 1: He really owns people like nobody's business. I don't know
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Speaker 1: who owns me like that. I don't know nobody lives
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Speaker 1: rent free in my head like that, not even the
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Speaker 1: President of the United States.
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Speaker 2: I've never known you. Kono you think you do? I gotcha?
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Speaker 1: Listen Cono on do you buddy.
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Speaker 2: It's really refreshing.
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Speaker 1: At at eight fifty eight is when you leave my
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Speaker 1: head eight fifty eight morning, I go, there's no I
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Speaker 1: don't know about that.
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Speaker 6: Okay, there's what messages memes that's one fourteen in the morning.
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Speaker 6: I love you, buddy, I love you buddy. You gotta
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Speaker 6: put a block. I miss you, buddy. But it is funny.
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Speaker 6: It's like that people are owned like does this make
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Speaker 6: you mad? I go, that takes takes a lot to
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Speaker 6: make me mad. I don't want anybody owning me like that.
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Speaker 1: Ever, Trump replaces at least one Supreme Court justice. They
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Speaker 1: say there's a seventy five percent chance of that, but
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Speaker 1: that's you know, people age out. That's that's the one
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Speaker 1: thing that I'll give anybody. Trump got a lot on
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Speaker 1: the Supreme Court and that's forever. But most things that
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Speaker 1: he does can be reversed by someone else. They are
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Speaker 1: saying that in the World Affairs that net Ya who
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Speaker 1: will no longer be Israel's Prime minister by the end
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Speaker 1: of twenty twenty six, so that there's going to be backlash.
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Speaker 1: You know, there's still uncertainty, political maneuvering, delays, all that stuff.
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Speaker 1: No Ukraine Russia ceasefire lasting thirty plus days by the
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Speaker 1: end of twenty twenty six, sixty percent say that that's
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Speaker 1: a a rough one.
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Speaker 2: I hope for that. I hope for that.
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Speaker 1: I mean that the bullying in the garbage that Ukraine
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Speaker 1: has suffered under Russia and Putin is just absolutely insane.
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Speaker 1: China does not invade or fully blockade Taiwan in twenty
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Speaker 1: twenty six. Seventy five percent says that more pressure showing
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Speaker 1: up in that, so it isn't really positive this look
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Speaker 1: by Vox for twenty twenty six. I tend to look
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Speaker 1: at every new year as an opportunity for us to
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Speaker 1: find ourselves in a better way.
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Speaker 2: We shall see, we shall see.
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Speaker 1: CEOs are saying there unplugging over the holidays. Some say,
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Speaker 1: is that really unplugging, But they are setting some boundaries,
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Speaker 1: and this is a big deal. I think, even though
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Speaker 1: it's been exploited, that one of the good things that
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Speaker 1: came out of COVID, at least in my point of view,
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Speaker 1: was that we took a second look at our lives
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Speaker 1: and the work life balance.
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Speaker 2: And I've always been like.
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Speaker 1: Work, work, work guy, never been very balanced at all.
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Speaker 2: Like work was me.
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Speaker 1: I was work, must work, and was always annoyed when
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Speaker 1: people didn't. I mean, I believe people deserve to take
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Speaker 1: time off, but it's like in this industry there it's
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Speaker 1: not always a whole lot of opportunity. So take it
19:53
Speaker 1: where you can get it and show your dedication. And
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Speaker 1: I was basically right in this, starting as an intern
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Speaker 1: here at KFI in ninety four, but I was already
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Speaker 1: in radio before that. I've been in radio since I
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Speaker 1: was I don't know, eighteen nineteen something like that.
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Speaker 2: So over half my life.
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Speaker 1: And I've always taken pride about being here at KFI.
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Speaker 2: It's not.
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Speaker 1: It's the best of the best. It doesn't play by
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Speaker 1: the rules of others, and so I take that seriously.
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Speaker 1: And yeah, I overworked a lot of times. I was,
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Speaker 1: you know, married once before, and I take my you know,
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Speaker 1: my part of that in the failed marriage or the
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Speaker 1: marriage failing rather because you know, I worked a lot
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Speaker 1: and I've learned from that. But a lot of CEOs,
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Speaker 1: a lot of people don't do that. They just they
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Speaker 1: think that you're a men do this a lot too.
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Speaker 1: You're not a real man if you're not working all
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Speaker 1: the time and and doing all those things. And it's hard,
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Speaker 1: but CEOs admit that they're They rarely fully unplug and
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Speaker 1: now now's the time you got to start doing these things.
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Speaker 1: Otherwise you're no good to anybody. And I'm sorry. Companies
21:14
Speaker 1: just don't care about you like they used to. There's
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Speaker 1: not even a gold watch at the end of it.
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Speaker 1: They used to celebrate anniversaries. I remember that they slowly
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Speaker 1: stopped doing it. You They'd celebrate your one year, your
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Speaker 1: five year, you're ten, you're fifteen, and you're twenty, something
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Speaker 1: like that. And that ended pretty pretty early on when
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Speaker 1: I was here, but it was like a big deal.
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Speaker 1: You've been with the company. Now you can be here
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Speaker 1: thirty years, and it's like grab your box by And
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Speaker 1: I don't think that's unique to this business. I think
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Speaker 1: it's everywhere. But so devoting yourself to a company is
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Speaker 1: kind of stupid. You devote yourself to yourself. Think you
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Speaker 1: better yourself to the best you can in whatever thing
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Speaker 1: you're doing in front of you. I love when I
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Speaker 1: see somebody who's good at what they do or puts
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Speaker 1: themselves into it. I don't care what they're doing, I
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Speaker 1: don't you know, whatever they're doing. If they're dedicated to it,
22:16
Speaker 1: that always impresses, impresses me and will continue to and
22:19
Speaker 1: I go, that person's gonna gonna grow.
22:22
Speaker 2: They're just gonna grow. People see that.
22:26
Speaker 1: It was Steve Martin who said, be so great that
22:29
Speaker 1: they can't ignore you. And I don't think that's just
22:31
Speaker 1: for entertainment. I think that's in life. So you have
22:34
Speaker 1: to take care of yourself. On the flip side of that,
22:36
Speaker 1: setting those boundaries, smalling thoughts, finding small ways to disconnect.
22:40
Speaker 1: So this story talks about CEOs doing that, finding this
22:44
Speaker 1: holiday season to be quieter, setting up these micro boundaries.
22:50
Speaker 1: They call them, not full shutdowns, but balance. And you know,
22:56
Speaker 1: I've known people who would just disappear, like come the weekend,
23:00
Speaker 1: you couldn't get a hold of them. And I'm not
23:02
Speaker 1: saying you have to do that, especially in certain industries,
23:07
Speaker 1: but you know, the work meetings. I'm not a fan
23:11
Speaker 1: of meetings. Brainstorming, yes, but a lot of meetings. The
23:15
Speaker 1: old saying, when all is said and done, as much
23:17
Speaker 1: as said little is done, just point me in the direction,
23:21
Speaker 1: tell me what you need, and let me go do it.
23:24
Speaker 1: The longer we talk about it, the more bored I get.
23:26
Speaker 1: I don't want to do it. So they're saying, CEOs
23:29
Speaker 1: are starting to look for outdoor adventures, unplugging that happens
23:34
Speaker 1: in chunks, not completely, but a chunk here, chunk there,
23:37
Speaker 1: and some of it. They find time to do things
23:41
Speaker 1: like using legos, which I love. I think anytime you're
23:45
Speaker 1: creating or building, it's a healthy way to go through
23:47
Speaker 1: life and to focus and push yourself into problem solving,
23:52
Speaker 1: I think is one of the best things. Nothing better
23:54
Speaker 1: to me than problem solving. When I'm in my shop
23:59
Speaker 1: at home and I'm building something, or I'm troubleshooting something.
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Speaker 2: I designed something and i'm.
24:08
Speaker 1: Working it out in CAT or computer aided drafting where
24:11
Speaker 1: I'm designing something in the digital realm, three D printing
24:16
Speaker 1: it or C and C cutting or whatever it is,
24:19
Speaker 1: and I get past that problem.
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Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, my poor wife. I come in there.
24:24
Speaker 1: I'm like, I figured it out. But it's a great release,
24:29
Speaker 1: a relief, and I think playing with legos and doing
24:31
Speaker 1: these things that we're seeing CEOs finding is part of
24:35
Speaker 1: that of that goal. Having a beginning, middle and end,
24:38
Speaker 1: I think is one of the best ways to get
24:41
Speaker 1: yourself focused. But finding this time, says the guy who's
24:46
Speaker 1: working on New Year's day. But finding this holiday time
24:49
Speaker 1: as a demarcation for you, I think is a great
24:52
Speaker 1: way to do it, stepping away between Christmas and New Year's,
24:56
Speaker 1: having that time, focusing on a book, walking, uh, non
25:01
Speaker 1: work relationships. It's another thing I've broken away from a
25:05
Speaker 1: lot of, you know, the phony work relationship garbage, and
25:09
Speaker 1: focus on the people that have been there for me,
25:13
Speaker 1: that I love and that I care about deeply. You know,
25:16
Speaker 1: when there's firings or layoffs or things like that, you
25:18
Speaker 1: start seeing as to who's who and what relationships were
25:22
Speaker 1: built upon, just familiarity with the same location and all
25:26
Speaker 1: of that. So being fully unplugged, finding a way to disconnect.
25:31
Speaker 1: And I said this earlier in the week that when
25:35
Speaker 1: I left my management for those of you position here
25:38
Speaker 1: at KFI, for those of you didn't know, I was
25:40
Speaker 1: the assistant program director for many years before that, I
25:43
Speaker 1: was the director of marketing, the director of promotions, and
25:46
Speaker 1: I've been in a lot of management positions here at
25:49
Speaker 1: the station.
25:50
Speaker 2: And I walked away from that.
25:51
Speaker 1: I was just like, it's it's not conducive to the
25:55
Speaker 1: life that I want anymore. Got a young boy, older father,
26:00
Speaker 1: and I want to be there for my family. And
26:03
Speaker 1: the first thing I did was turn off the ringer
26:06
Speaker 1: on my phone. It has not been on. It's almost
26:12
Speaker 1: never on. Now I have an Apple watch that you know, vibrates,
26:16
Speaker 1: and I can glance at it if I've got it
26:18
Speaker 1: on and go, okay, write a note.
26:20
Speaker 2: I'll get back to that person.
26:22
Speaker 1: But the whole, the whole thing about having to respond
26:25
Speaker 1: right this moment or be anywhere. I make jokes about
26:29
Speaker 1: it all the time, but the reality is, you know,
26:32
Speaker 1: on my honeymoon in India, I got to call it
26:38
Speaker 1: one in the morning. I tease her about this all
26:42
Speaker 1: the time. When Robin Bertolucci was my superior and I've
26:49
Speaker 1: been called back from vacation because of fires, you know
26:54
Speaker 1: that that was working long hours getting things done. In
26:59
Speaker 1: news talk is there is no sleep. I mean, it's
27:01
Speaker 1: no joke when you hear Heather Brooker going, uh, yeah,
27:04
Speaker 1: I went to bed late last night at eight because
27:07
Speaker 1: she's got to get up at one. You know, it's
27:11
Speaker 1: no joke when you have crazy hours. You know, Codo
27:15
Speaker 1: going out just to have a night with his wife
27:18
Speaker 1: or something. You got to calculate that in the sleep
27:20
Speaker 1: time and all of those things play apart. But if
27:24
Speaker 1: you're not finding that balance in there. If you're not
27:26
Speaker 1: looking to unplug at some point, you're you're giving your
27:32
Speaker 1: life in a way that's not going to pay you back.
27:36
Speaker 1: Nobody's going to say, hey man, you really did it.
27:39
Speaker 1: You're not going to get that big bonus. I should explain. Uh,
27:45
Speaker 1: cono bonuses were something they used to give out years ago.
27:48
Speaker 2: Yeah, what what is that opinion? For two years? Haven't
27:51
Speaker 2: got a raise? Wow, I'll give you a raise, buddy,
27:56
Speaker 2: what do you want?
27:56
Speaker 1: How much you want? Oh, he's doing some math name
28:01
Speaker 1: you got a pedil? Now's the time. No, I'm not
28:06
Speaker 1: doing that. Yeah, I've done that. Shouldn't I've done it.
28:11
Speaker 1: You're worth it for me, so you know, we all
28:14
Speaker 1: say it, and I know that I haven't always been
28:17
Speaker 1: great about it. But finding that time for yourself, I
28:19
Speaker 1: think it only makes you a better employee. Getting out
28:23
Speaker 1: of the getting away from it the office and looking
28:26
Speaker 1: at things differently, I think is so powerful and ends
28:31
Speaker 1: up being super refreshing and makes you better at your
28:35
Speaker 1: job by seeing a perspective. If you're in the bubble
28:38
Speaker 1: of work all the time, I think you become stagnant.
28:41
Speaker 1: I think you become part of the wallpaper, rather than
28:44
Speaker 1: seeing things and going, oh my gosh, I got a
28:46
Speaker 1: great idea. This came to me where while I was
28:49
Speaker 1: playing legos, you know, or watching a movie or reading
28:52
Speaker 1: a book or playing with your kids. That's where the
28:56
Speaker 1: ideas come from. They don't come from the mandate. I
28:59
Speaker 1: hate that kind of creativity. They just do that all
29:01
Speaker 1: the time. Hey, we just got money for a billboard.
29:06
Speaker 1: Come up with something now. I'm like, okay, well give
29:09
Speaker 1: me a minute think about it. And you know, have
29:13
Speaker 1: some time for creativity, So take some time for yourself.
29:17
Speaker 1: Good old uncle Neil's given you permission.
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Speaker 3: That's good advice.
29:20
Speaker 2: Thanks, there's some good advice.
29:23
Speaker 3: We got good advice for you.
29:24
Speaker 1: Yay.
29:25
Speaker 3: On a KI show.
29:26
Speaker 2: She's like, I'm taking off right now by me.
29:29
Speaker 1: It's New Year's Day everybody, January first, twenty twenty six.
29:35
Speaker 1: And I will tell you this having a nine year old, yes,
29:39
Speaker 1: you do learn about these things very early on, even
29:44
Speaker 1: without cell phones and social media. This stuff travels in
29:48
Speaker 1: schools with the young persons. So every year the Michigan
29:54
Speaker 1: Michigan College Annual Banished Words List takes aim at viral
29:58
Speaker 1: slang and here's thing with social media slang has a
30:05
Speaker 1: shorter shelf life, so it comes quickly, it gets loud
30:10
Speaker 1: and annoying, and then it kind of dies down. But
30:16
Speaker 1: you know earlier, like we say in radio, the more
30:20
Speaker 1: clever the spot or the more clever something is, the
30:24
Speaker 1: shorter the shelf life. You hear the first time and go,
30:27
Speaker 1: oh that's very funny, that's clever. Then you hear it
30:28
Speaker 1: second time you go oh yeah, it's still clever, and
30:30
Speaker 1: then the third time you're all a little less clever
30:33
Speaker 1: because I just heard it for the third time and
30:35
Speaker 1: it burns itself out well. Well, social media you get
30:38
Speaker 1: a lot of these things and at the top is
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Speaker 1: six seven.
30:41
Speaker 2: See sat of it? Brother? Uh it seeks sad.
30:47
Speaker 1: To see my son grow up and do these things
30:52
Speaker 1: is kind of fun because it's like, oh, he's growing
30:55
Speaker 1: into a little you know, a little human where they
30:58
Speaker 1: have their own sayings with his his buddies and they're
31:01
Speaker 1: all boys and girls as in.
31:03
Speaker 2: Their sixcess don't don't know. I see what you're doing now, kono.
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Speaker 6: Know, I know?
31:12
Speaker 2: Uhh, I see it. Well, it's worded about this one.
31:15
Speaker 4: To be honest, is that slang is usually like it
31:17
Speaker 4: means something like cat no cat like you're lying.
31:20
Speaker 1: You're not lying. Yeah, you know, I get it. It's
31:22
Speaker 1: just one is it's nothing.
31:24
Speaker 2: There's no meaning.
31:25
Speaker 1: It means nothing, it will never mean anything. It's it's
31:29
Speaker 1: the world's biggest inside joke that has no real punchline. Yeah,
31:34
Speaker 1: it really doesn't mean anything.
31:37
Speaker 2: I mean.
31:38
Speaker 1: Parents are always like, well, what does that mean? It doesn't.
31:42
Speaker 1: It's it's it's less meaningful than skivity. Like there they
31:52
Speaker 1: get progressively or digressively less important, uh or meaningful as
31:58
Speaker 1: they go.
31:58
Speaker 2: But that's one of the ones.
31:59
Speaker 1: It's the most overused phrase of twenty twenty five.
32:04
Speaker 2: Exactly. Yeah, that's one of them. That's at the very top.
32:07
Speaker 1: And I believe that what you do as a parent,
32:11
Speaker 1: if you don't want to hear it is you don't
32:12
Speaker 1: say hey, don't say that. You keep saying it. I'm on, like,
32:16
Speaker 1: this is cool. I'm in the joke, and trust me,
32:19
Speaker 1: they will run from it.
32:20
Speaker 3: My daughter does is doing this thing where? And I
32:23
Speaker 3: don't know if your son is doing this or or kno,
32:25
Speaker 3: your kids are. I think of older kids, right, except for.
32:28
Speaker 2: No, his you're younger. You have an eighteen year old.
32:30
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, doesn't say he's an older one older kid
32:33
Speaker 3: there she does this thing where she like does this
32:36
Speaker 3: line across her jaw, like they touch their jaw like this.
32:40
Speaker 3: You have you ever seen that? Like it Like it's
32:43
Speaker 3: like schul they pull their their cheeks in, they suck
32:46
Speaker 3: their cheeks in, and then they go they drag their
32:48
Speaker 3: their line on both sides, on both sides. Yeah, And
32:51
Speaker 3: it's like, I'm like, what is that? And she's like,
32:53
Speaker 3: you don't get it. You wouldn't get it. And I'm like, huh,
32:56
Speaker 3: so now I've started doing it and she's like, what
32:57
Speaker 3: are you doing?
32:59
Speaker 2: Did you say you wouldn't get it, you wouldn't understand?
33:02
Speaker 3: Yeah, pretty much. You got to give it, you got
33:04
Speaker 3: to serve it right back to them.
33:05
Speaker 2: I learned it at work. I learned it at work,
33:09
Speaker 2: doesn't she said?
33:10
Speaker 3: It's I guess it's like indicating having like a tight
33:13
Speaker 3: jaw line, a strong jaw line, strong jaw. That's what
33:16
Speaker 3: the kids and the and the boys are wanting right now.
33:19
Speaker 3: So the boys do it, and then the girls you know,
33:22
Speaker 3: repeat it, and they start doing this.
33:24
Speaker 2: Does something similar where.
33:26
Speaker 1: They touch their jaw or he also does that like
33:29
Speaker 1: the uh the wonder wondering or thinking emoji where you
33:34
Speaker 1: put your thumb on one side of your and yeah,
33:38
Speaker 1: and then they're pointing finger on the other side of
33:41
Speaker 1: your jaw like.
33:42
Speaker 3: Hmm, yeah, she does that too, She'll do this.
33:46
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's it's I don't know, but there's a bunch
33:50
Speaker 1: of these banished words lists.
33:52
Speaker 2: The words that are on there.
33:53
Speaker 1: Demure, which came up was at the beginning of last
33:57
Speaker 1: year when being demure and.
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Speaker 3: It was some I want to say it was maybe
34:02
Speaker 3: earlier this year. There was a TikToker that was saying
34:06
Speaker 3: that she was very demure, very mindful, and that went
34:09
Speaker 3: crazy viral and everybody was saying, I'm very demure, very mindful.
34:14
Speaker 2: Boy.
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Speaker 1: Incentivized was another one.
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Speaker 3: They say incentivized, The kids say incentivized.
34:19
Speaker 2: These are overword over used words.
34:23
Speaker 3: Just not for kidding, Okay. I was like, I've never
34:24
Speaker 3: heard my daughter say incentivized.
34:26
Speaker 2: You know.
34:26
Speaker 1: Mad my Bad made the list again. It made the
34:31
Speaker 1: list in nineteen ninety eight. Reach Out made the list
34:36
Speaker 1: again this year. It made the list back in nineteen
34:39
Speaker 1: ninety four. So some of these things cycle again. Gift
34:43
Speaker 1: or gifted, like like someone gifted me, oh, gift. Oh,
34:50
Speaker 1: as a matter of fact, you gifted me something. The
34:52
Speaker 1: other day, you sent me a link to the coffee
34:54
Speaker 1: that you loved.
34:55
Speaker 3: Yeah, did you get that?
34:56
Speaker 4: Yeah?
34:57
Speaker 2: I would have had and ordered it.
34:58
Speaker 3: Did you really?
34:59
Speaker 2: Of course?
35:00
Speaker 3: I'm so glad.
35:00
Speaker 1: I want to hear what you think when somebody recommends
35:03
Speaker 1: food or something to me. I take that as very wow.
35:11
Speaker 1: I gotta tell you, in all honesty, Cono is laxadaisical.
35:16
Speaker 1: He takes his job very loosely, and so I'm not
35:20
Speaker 1: used to watching him move so fast. He jumped on
35:23
Speaker 1: that like he was he's waiting, waiting for the fat joke.
35:27
Speaker 3: And he's got a big smile on his face. He's
35:29
Speaker 3: proud of himself on that one.
35:31
Speaker 2: He as.
35:33
Speaker 1: He moved so fast he almost slipped off those four
35:38
Speaker 1: yellow page phone books that he's sitting on.
35:44
Speaker 2: Boy, no I do. I'm not gonna get through it.
35:50
Speaker 1: I do take it seriously when someone recommends something to me,
35:53
Speaker 1: because that's like a personal like, hey, can you try this,
35:56
Speaker 1: not just food but a movie or things like that.
35:59
Speaker 3: Cone, well, enjoy it. I want to know what you think.
36:03
Speaker 3: It's delicio. I had people actually message me on Instagram
36:05
Speaker 3: asking me about it as well.
36:06
Speaker 1: Oh smelling it. So if it say the name and
36:10
Speaker 1: explain so that people know sure.
36:13
Speaker 3: So it is called Cometeer Coffee and it is frozen
36:17
Speaker 3: concentrated coffee that comes in little pods that gets shipped
36:21
Speaker 3: to your house. It's like a subscription service if you
36:23
Speaker 3: like it and you keep it in the freezer and
36:25
Speaker 3: then you just thow it out at hot water and
36:28
Speaker 3: you got fresh coffee. And it's like comes in blends
36:30
Speaker 3: that you can choose, like almost like a wine blend,
36:32
Speaker 3: Like I want something a little more bold with notes
36:35
Speaker 3: of chocolate and almond, and you can.
36:38
Speaker 1: Just no pretense, but a slight, precocious finish.
36:42
Speaker 3: A precocious finish on my java.
36:44
Speaker 1: But I will tell you, as you were opening it,
36:47
Speaker 1: you said, just give it a smell, and I was like,
36:48
Speaker 1: holy smokes. And I'm a very I'm very dedicated to
36:52
Speaker 1: Cafe Leave, which is our that's an espresso that we use. Yeah,
36:56
Speaker 1: it's from the Don Francisco family, and it's huge.
37:01
Speaker 2: We buy we buy lots of it.
37:03
Speaker 1: And but when someone tells me you've got to try
37:05
Speaker 1: this and it has that aroma, I'm like, dad, you
37:09
Speaker 1: got to try that.
37:10
Speaker 3: There is something really just amazing about the smell of
37:14
Speaker 3: a fresh coffee and the way that they're able to
37:16
Speaker 3: capture that in like a frozen pod. It's pretty impressive.
37:19
Speaker 1: And you can add cold water and have it as
37:21
Speaker 1: iced coffee, or you can add hot water and have
37:23
Speaker 1: it as absolutely Yeah, So forward to it on your
37:27
Speaker 1: best and I'm looking forward to trying it yay, And
37:32
Speaker 1: it's I do take it seriously, Cono when someone offers something,
37:38
Speaker 1: not just food, but are you going to finish that
37:41
Speaker 1: bigel in there or.
37:44
Speaker 3: Share it with us?
37:45
Speaker 6: Now?
37:45
Speaker 3: I can't believe nobody brought in like, nobody brought in
37:48
Speaker 3: some New Year snacks for the crew. That's here.
37:50
Speaker 1: I was up till we get that you're talking to
37:52
Speaker 1: me because oh no, I was just.
37:54
Speaker 3: Talking like management. Maybe if any managers are listening, help
37:58
Speaker 3: help us out.
37:58
Speaker 2: We're the only people.
38:00
Speaker 3: No, I mean, they could have had like some portos
38:02
Speaker 3: or something sent to I don't know, pizza. We're the
38:05
Speaker 3: only people working today. When I sign off today, there's
38:08
Speaker 3: no other live people the rest of the day. So
38:10
Speaker 3: it's like, come on, send us a cake.
38:15
Speaker 2: Wow, you heard it here.
38:16
Speaker 1: Neil Sevedra and the morning crew more to come. We
38:20
Speaker 1: have one hour to more to hang out together before
38:22
Speaker 1: the station goes off the air. Apparently at am and
38:27
Speaker 1: farewell suck it listener.
38:30
Speaker 2: All right, let's get the no, let's just go to
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Speaker 2: the top of the hour.
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