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DLHS Hour 2 | Should a husband pay his wife back for bills · The D.L. Hughley Show

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  Speaker 1: It is the deal. You can show your twenty twenty
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  Speaker 1: sixty edition in Baker's Field.
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  Speaker 2: You up neck.
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  Speaker 1: Bakersfield is the Texas of California. So Amen, her husband
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  Speaker 1: loses his job, asks his wife to pick up the bills,
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  Speaker 1: you know, till he gets another gig. She says this.
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  Speaker 3: He came home and he was like, you know, Bay,
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  Speaker 3: I lost my job. I'm like, all right, cool. So
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  Speaker 3: a month later, like the bill, it was time for
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  Speaker 3: the bills or whatever, you know, And I'm like, you know,
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  Speaker 3: the bills, do Bay or whatever? And he was like, okay,
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  Speaker 3: you know I'm not working and I'm just or whatever.
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  Speaker 3: So I told him, I say, look, if I pay
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  Speaker 3: these bills, are you going to pay me the money back?
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  Speaker 3: This man had a nurve to tell me. Why should
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  Speaker 3: I pay my wife back for paying our bills? I
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  Speaker 3: told this man from day one, my money is my
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  Speaker 3: money and his money is our money. Why should I
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  Speaker 3: spend my money paying the bills?
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  Speaker 2: Like?
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  Speaker 3: No, he should have paid me back.
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  Speaker 1: Now should a husband have to pay a wife back
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  Speaker 1: for paying the family bills? Let's skip what he's saying.
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  Speaker 4: No, it's household bills man, that's it. You know you
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  Speaker 4: would think that a marriage is a team. It is
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  Speaker 4: a partnership, It is a togetherness. What they say, you're
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  Speaker 4: no longer too, you are one?
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  Speaker 1: Thank you? Simple? Yeah, it really isn't that hard. These
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  Speaker 1: kind of is these kind of women that make me
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  Speaker 1: think that young men have a harder time getting married,
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  Speaker 1: These kind of women with these kind of ideas that
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  Speaker 1: I'm gonna pay the bills this time. But you go on,
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  Speaker 1: what is all that about? Yeah? Yeah, it's just like
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  Speaker 1: somebody who tell you that they see a cursor when
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  Speaker 1: McDonald's is going up, and then they go, oh, man,
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  Speaker 1: I can't believe that they raising the prices of places
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  Speaker 1: I ain't never gone to again. You know, It's disingenuous,
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  Speaker 1: is what it is. So the question we're asking a
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  Speaker 1: man loses his job. He told his wife it take
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  Speaker 1: care of me until I get back on my feet.
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  Speaker 1: She does, but now she wants to be paid. That
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  Speaker 1: is a sorry ass woman, right, I don't care how long.
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  Speaker 1: That's a sorry ass woman right there. What do you think,
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  Speaker 1: is Junius? Well, what happened? Sorry?
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, what happened to the for better or for worse?
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  Speaker 6: Yeah?
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  Speaker 1: Part?
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  Speaker 5: What's wrong with being the team? Okay, I'm I'm a score,
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  Speaker 5: but when your time comes, I'm not gonna do nothing.
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  Speaker 5: You know, No, man, you a team. You supposed to
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  Speaker 5: everybody's supposed to get in there, and you know, put
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  Speaker 5: up points when you can.
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  Speaker 1: I think it's people's assessments and worth of relationships. Now, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I do, I think that, but I think traditionally I
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  Speaker 1: think that that a lot of women feel like if
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  Speaker 1: I borrowed one hundred dollars for me right there and
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  Speaker 1: I said I was gonna pay you back, you would
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  Speaker 1: want me to pay you back.
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  Speaker 7: I promise You're not gonna believe this. But it depends
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  Speaker 7: on what our relationship was.
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  Speaker 1: I'm saying me to you. If I asked you, then
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  Speaker 1: it's like, you.
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  Speaker 7: Don't need one hundred dollars for me go to all that? No, No,
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  Speaker 7: honestly speaking, honestly speaking, if you really needed it, which
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  Speaker 7: you don't, I would give you the money.
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  Speaker 1: So let me ask them. We had all this qualify
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  Speaker 1: really and what.
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  Speaker 3: Do you need it for?
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  Speaker 8: In all them?
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  Speaker 7: Because those actives a very.
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  Speaker 1: Important you know what, forget it you unpacked.
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  Speaker 7: Your Yeah, if you really needed the money, if he
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  Speaker 7: was in a hot spot, I like, I got oh god,
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  Speaker 7: But the thing is. I know you don't need it
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  Speaker 7: from me. If you you were just testing me to
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  Speaker 7: see if I would give it to you or not,
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  Speaker 7: that's the kind of stuff you do.
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  Speaker 1: Thank god, I would have to be testing you because
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  Speaker 1: you have one hundred dollars right now. I will give
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  Speaker 1: it to you, Okay, I don't need none. Okay. If
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  Speaker 1: I pretending to reach for.
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  Speaker 2: My bag.
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  Speaker 1: Five thousand dollars.
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  Speaker 9: Right now.
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  Speaker 1: On the call com, that's not true that we need.
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  Speaker 7: If five thousand dollars read, my first question be like,
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  Speaker 7: what's that's that's the thing.
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  Speaker 1: But then I would you know, why would any why
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  Speaker 1: would they need to be any questions at all? I
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  Speaker 1: wouldn't ask you one question. I wouldn't go what are
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  Speaker 1: you gonna do with it? Not at all? You see,
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  Speaker 1: you know when you like that, you to be a
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  Speaker 1: lying ass. You know I would never do that, and
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  Speaker 1: you try to be. I ask you what you want
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  Speaker 1: the money for? No, but you would ask me what happened?
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  Speaker 1: He's a line as that's what I expect.
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  Speaker 7: If I ask you right now to borrow five thousand dollars,
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  Speaker 7: what would you say?
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  Speaker 4: I wouldn't have because, first of all, if you asked
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  Speaker 4: me that I'm gonna tell you. I'm gonna tell you
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  Speaker 4: you asked me. Let me tell you. First of all,
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  Speaker 4: I would think if you came to me with that,
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  Speaker 4: you must be in dire straits. You must really need
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  Speaker 4: it for something. And I'm not gonna ask you because
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  Speaker 4: it might be criminal and I have plausible do.
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  Speaker 1: Not do that, all right?
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  Speaker 4: So if I had it here, you go holl ert
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  Speaker 4: me when you can.
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  Speaker 7: She says, I would ask her and I wouldn't. Okay,
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  Speaker 7: So let's let's go ahead and play this out. Hey,
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  Speaker 7: d can I borrow five thousand dollars?
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  Speaker 1: Not now? Because you you know what, because you're ungrateful
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  Speaker 1: and you're too good for McDonald's. See that right there
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  Speaker 1: just played itself out. So the question we're asking this
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  Speaker 1: is the scenario. Let me feature this for you.
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  Speaker 3: He came home and he was like, you know, Bay,
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  Speaker 3: I lost my job. I'm like, all right, cool. So
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  Speaker 3: a month later, like the bill, it was time for
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  Speaker 3: the bills or whatever, you know, and I'm like, you
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  Speaker 3: know the bills, Doby, and he was like, okay, you
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  Speaker 3: know I'm not working and I'm just or whatever. So
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  Speaker 3: I told him, I said, look, if I pay these bills?
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  Speaker 3: Are you going to pay me the money back? This
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  Speaker 3: man had the nerve to tell me, why should I
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  Speaker 3: pay my wife back for paying our bills? I called
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  Speaker 3: this man from day one. My money is my money
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  Speaker 3: and his money is our money? Why should I spend
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  Speaker 3: my money paying the bills?
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  Speaker 2: Like?
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  Speaker 3: No, he should have paid me back.
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  Speaker 1: So do you think he was wrong? Do you think
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  Speaker 1: she's wrong for asking for the money back for the
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  Speaker 1: family bills going to the phones?
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  Speaker 3: I actually think people must have a bad conception of
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  Speaker 3: what marriage is.
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  Speaker 2: I don't even understand why he would settle for an
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  Speaker 2: agreement where your money is yours.
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  Speaker 10: And his money is there.
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  Speaker 11: I don't understand that either, But I think I agree
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  Speaker 11: with the man.
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  Speaker 2: We ain't a thing together.
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  Speaker 12: So if you paid the bills for this month, good,
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  Speaker 12: and you.
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  Speaker 3: Know when I get the money, I'll pay for the
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  Speaker 3: bills the next month.
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  Speaker 11: But for her to get to want the money back,
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  Speaker 11: I find that a little bit that marriage minded.
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  Speaker 6: He should pay The reason I say that because he
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  Speaker 6: was stupid enough.
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  Speaker 13: To marry her, and that's a verbal contract and he
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  Speaker 13: agreed to that.
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  Speaker 10: So me personally, when she had told me something like
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  Speaker 10: that I was a hotel for opposite direction.
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  Speaker 13: No, I mean she trifling.
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  Speaker 14: Yeah, but yeah he should pay because.
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  Speaker 3: He agreed to that.
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  Speaker 11: Well, I think she's trifling, and one she didn't get
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  Speaker 11: married for the right reasons. And two you are always
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  Speaker 11: supposed to support the other half. A great example for
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  Speaker 11: me is when my husband lost his job, I had
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  Speaker 11: to go out there and I had to work, and
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  Speaker 11: I paid all that boat and our water boo, and
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  Speaker 11: I had enough left over to get me a ten
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  Speaker 11: piece nugget for McDonald.
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  Speaker 1: That's what you're supposed to do. Support the better half.
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  Speaker 13: She wrong because when your marriage vos to say for
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  Speaker 13: better of a worse, for richard, for poor to death,
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  Speaker 13: do his part. Her money ain't just hers. Her money
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  Speaker 13: belongs to him too. So it's like, hey, she's supposed
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  Speaker 13: to pay them bills, the vad.
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  Speaker 14: Thing for better for worse. Let's start there, let's talk
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  Speaker 14: about it.
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  Speaker 5: He says the.
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  Speaker 12: Worst, right, So why can't she go ahead and pay
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  Speaker 12: for it.
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  Speaker 13: You've been saving all these yearsually being married.
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  Speaker 1: And then if you don't pay it, then you'll be She'll.
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  Speaker 14: Be somewhere with no lights, no water, and nowhere to say,
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  Speaker 14: come on, she's delusion.
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  Speaker 13: He should pay her backe and serve her.
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  Speaker 14: Them papers all at the same time.
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  Speaker 13: So that's not a wife.
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  Speaker 8: She's crazy as hell.
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  Speaker 6: I mean the guys worried. What about for fatter, for worse,
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  Speaker 6: for Richard, for poor? I mean, the guy's at a
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  Speaker 6: hard time, he lost his job, and me to tell me,
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  Speaker 6: if you pay the bills, I got to pay you back.
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  Speaker 15: She's all for herself. She's not even concerned. I mean,
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  Speaker 15: he's saying the family bill. She's just not paying the bills,
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  Speaker 15: his bills. He's saying the family bill. So what if
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  Speaker 15: she get without a job and she was on the
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  Speaker 15: other foot, Well, she likes the same thing.
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  Speaker 6: Told her I'll pay I'll pay your credit cards, but
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  Speaker 6: got to pay you back when you get a job.
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  Speaker 13: That's not fair. That's here a loss her damn matter.
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  Speaker 1: So been losing his job, say baby, take care of
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  Speaker 1: me for a little while I get a job. He
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  Speaker 1: gets one. She wants her money back. You think she
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  Speaker 1: was wrong. We're going to the phones.
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  Speaker 14: That man needs to just go and leave her as
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  Speaker 14: quickly as possible, because when disrespect starts like what she's
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  Speaker 14: doing is only gets worse. I've been live, I lived
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  Speaker 14: through it twice and it only gets worse in time.
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  Speaker 14: At first it goes with a disrespect about money, then
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  Speaker 14: it's about disrespect about being a man. Then it's just
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  Speaker 14: all type of all type of mess gonna break out.
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  Speaker 14: So the brother need to go on and try and
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  Speaker 14: get a job, give her a divorce, and walk on.
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  Speaker 1: Up out of there.
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  Speaker 3: I don't feel right. He need to pay her back,
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  Speaker 3: especially if they not lacking for nothing.
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  Speaker 13: Man, No, he shouldn't give her her money back.
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  Speaker 14: He should take that money down to the courthouse and
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  Speaker 14: file off an absolute divorce and get rid of that
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  Speaker 14: crash test dummy.
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  Speaker 9: She crazy.
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  Speaker 2: She needs to sit down somewhere, because, first of all,
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  Speaker 2: when you take those vows, so better off of worse. Hello,
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  Speaker 2: they say tooth of them, so better for worse that
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  Speaker 2: man wants at his worst. She's supposed to pick up
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  Speaker 2: that tab. That's why it's called marriage.
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  Speaker 3: I mean two people.
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  Speaker 2: So I don't know what she's talking about. She's just
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  Speaker 2: being selfish. We do joke around about oh my money
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  Speaker 2: is nine and he is his ousand. That's a joke.
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  Speaker 2: But when it comes down the stairs and Bill's taking
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  Speaker 2: care of your family, which consists of more than one,
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  Speaker 2: it ain't about you. It's about the family. I'm gonna
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  Speaker 2: need to give her little self as something to sit
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  Speaker 2: down somewhere because that's not cool. He need to check
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  Speaker 2: that and for her in her place and say, no,
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  Speaker 2: you want to pay these bills or we going to
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  Speaker 2: be in that.
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  Speaker 10: It ain't no You and me all think that woman
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  Speaker 10: that lost her rabbit ass mile one. If this man
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  Speaker 10: lost his job duty because he got hurt res this
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  Speaker 10: man lost his job due to an illien and that
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  Speaker 10: whats yours is nine It was Min's mom.
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  Speaker 13: That'sial bs.
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  Speaker 6: You know.
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  Speaker 10: I hope that man will leave her because she don't
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  Speaker 10: deserve him.
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  Speaker 8: If I were him, I trade her in.
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  Speaker 6: I don't know where she.
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  Speaker 8: Gets the idea that he pays all the bills and
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  Speaker 8: she keeps her money. That is absolutely absurd. I don't
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  Speaker 8: even know why it got even deserves a question on
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  Speaker 8: dal here the show. But no, absolutely not.
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  Speaker 12: I thing is at the end of the day, if
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  Speaker 12: we are married, it's us, not one on one. Especially
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  Speaker 12: not saying my money is my money and your money
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  Speaker 12: is my money. That even makes sense. That's not a marriage.
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  Speaker 12: That's a partridge in the para tree that's falling apart.
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  Speaker 12: He need to divorce her and move on because they
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  Speaker 12: ain't gonna work out.
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  Speaker 9: I think this guy's wife is trifleling. Marriage is a partnership.
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  Speaker 9: You are a team. You have to move forward together
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  Speaker 9: and sometimes another person has to pick up the sweat.
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  Speaker 9: But one thing I think she said was before they
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  Speaker 9: got married. She said that her money was her money,
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  Speaker 9: his money was both of their money. So he should
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  Speaker 9: have not married her to begin with because she told
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  Speaker 9: him right off the bet that her money was her money.
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  Speaker 9: So you know who fought is that he should have
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  Speaker 9: paid attention to what she said.