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Why you're knackered and what to actually do about it · Chatting with Cara - The Relationship with Food Podcast

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  Hello, welcome to Chatting with Cara.
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  I'm Cara, your compassionate life coach, relationship with
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  food specialist, and I'm here to help you understand yourself a
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  little bit better each week. However you found your way here
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  today, I'm glad you're listening.
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  Maybe your friend sent you this episode.
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  Maybe you've been with me from the start, or maybe you're just
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  curious about doing things differently when it comes to
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  food, your body, and how you feel about yourself.
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  Whatever brought you here, you're in the right place.
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  Here's what I do on the show. I have honest, kind
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  conversations about the stuff that's actually holding you
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  back. Not the surface level stuff, the
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  deep stuff, the root causes. Because when you truly
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  understand why you think and feel the way you do, then
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  everything starts to change. It doesn't feel hard anymore, it
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  just feels natural. So get comfortable, make
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  yourself a great, and let's have a proper chat about the things
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  that matter. This is chatting with Karva.
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  Yes, that is right. I give my clients energy and
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  you're like, how do you do that? I know because all my clients
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  are busy. I don't think I've ever met a
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  woman who's not busy. I don't think I've ever met a
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  woman who's completely on top of everything that they want to be
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  on top of that feel like they're smashing it.
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  That feel like everything's going really well.
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  We're all busy. Life is not set up for rest.
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  It's not set up to refill your energy levels.
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  It is set up to deplete them. But I give my clients energy by
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  doing these four things. And the first one is really
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  interesting and I've talked about this before, but Oh my
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  gosh, it makes such a difference.
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  It is values work. So this is making sure that
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  you're living a life that you actually want.
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  You're living a life that feels good to you because if there's
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  some misalignment there, if there's something that's not
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  where you want it to be, if there's something that's going a
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  little bit off track or it's like you're doing stuff that
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  goes against what you want, that can be a massive, massive energy
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  drain. And it causes physical energy
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  loss. It causes mental, it causes
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  emotional. And once we look at our values
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  and what our set of priorities are, what decisions we need to
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  make around them, then honestly, energy comes back.
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  Energy comes back because you can clearly see what needs to
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  change or what does it need to change.
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  And once you live a life in a line with your values, there's
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  nothing draining your energy because it is all free flowing.
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  It's like a free flowing vivid. You are going with the flow.
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  You're not going against white water Rapids.
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  The first thing they do to give my clients more energy is look
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  at their values. If you want more information
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  about values, just send me Adm and I will talk to you about
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  them because they are interesting.
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  It is one of the first things they do with my clients and it's
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  sort of a way underpins a lot of like what we do because if your
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  values are off kilter, you're not living them.
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  That can cause a whole host of issues that can be rectified
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  just by living in your values. So that's the first thing they
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  do. The second thing they do
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  exercise and you're like, oh Cara, I've not got time to
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  exercise. I've not got the energy to
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  exercise. When am I going to exercise?
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  This is a thing. Exercise is no exercise gives
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  you energy. Energy produces energy.
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  I know and finding, finding exercise that you like doing
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  that feels good to you releases endorphins.
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  It releases like the feel good factor.
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  It gives you energy even though like you've physically done some
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  work, it actually makes you feel better.
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  And it's a catch 22. You're like, oh, I'm knackered.
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  I don't want to do any, any exercise.
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  But trust me, if you exercise regularly, if you do something
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  that you like regularly, you will feel the benefits both
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  mentally and physically. And again with curiosity, this
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  might be being like, oh, what, what can I do?
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  Like what can I do when my energy is the best?
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  Is it going for a walk? Is it going for a Brisco walk?
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  Is it doing some Pilates? Is it going for a run?
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  Is it going strength training? Is it it's a committing to a
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  club run? Like what is it that gives you?
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  Like what is it that you will do regularly and do it, do it and
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  then feel the benefits because once you do it, you'll do it
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  again and again and again. Trust me, energy produces
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  energy. Next thing I do, my clients is
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  seems obvious, but we're not interacting or anything like
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  this. It is well, look at actual sleep
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  and rest, actual sleep. How do you sleep and what you
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  sleep and how like how much do you get in do how much do you
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  need? I am knee deep in like toddler
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  sleep and I follow this excellent lady.
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  She's fantastic. I didn't know anything about
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  this baby sleep or toddler sleep before I followed her.
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  She's local she's and she's really good.
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  She's very evidence based, which is what I like, but very
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  compassionate, a bit like me. And she's like, if a baby, if a
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  toddler doesn't want to go for a nap, don't force it.
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  Just give them like something like 30 minutes to do for
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  something else and try again. Like people have a set number of
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  hours that feels good to them to sleep.
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  And if you try and make a toddler sleep from like 7 till
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  7:00 and then feel disappointed when they wake up at 5:00
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  because they only need 10 hours sleep, like don't try and force
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  them to feel like they need to sleep till 7 because that's not
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  going to happen, is it? So why do we do that for
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  ourselves? Your sleep needs need to reflect
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  what you need, and it needs to reflect what time you go to bed
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  and what time you get up. And that's kind of a, oh, what's
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  it called boundary? It is the boundary that you
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  uphold for yourself. If you know you need a good
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  amount of sleep, you need to be really like, actually, I need to
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  be going to sleep at half nine. So I need to start thinking
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  about going to bed at 9:00. There's no good like looking at
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  your phone and then all of a sudden it's like 10:00.
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  It's like putting in boundaries that make sure that you get the
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  right amount of sleep and also the right amount of rest as
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  well. So rest is a really important
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  one and it's not just physical rest I'm talking about here.
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  So there's seven types of rest. So there's physical rest that is
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  literally like lying on sofa venously.
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  There's mental, which is like you're not using your brain
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  sensory where you are not being like overloaded.
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  All the sensory stuff like noise, lights, like all the
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  sensory stuff, emotional. So that is dealing with
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  emotions, that is like, or allowing your emotions to come
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  out like instead of like, oh, what's it called?
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  Regulating. And that's what I mean, social,
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  as an introvert, I can relate to this social rest, like not being
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  around people or if you're an extrovert, being around people,
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  creative. So like using your hands to do
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  something, using your mind to be free, like that sort of thing,
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  and also spiritual. So there's seven types of rest
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  and sometimes we need different types of rest.
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  I know that I need social rest more than I need physical rest.
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  I know that if I have too much physical rest and not not enough
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  social rest, that's not good for me.
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  So it's knowing what rest you need.
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  It doesn't have to be physical rest.
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  So I want you to have a little think about that, like, oh,
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  actually, yeah, I've got a lot mentally on my plate.
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  How can I take a bit of mental pressure off myself and have
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  that rest? When I do this with my clients,
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  a lot of them are really interested in this because I had
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  one lady, she's fantastic. She was physically, she was ill,
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  she had a chest infection, but she's a musician and she really
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  missed making music because that was like her spiritual and
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  creative outlet. But she physically couldn't do
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  it because she, she couldn't really breathe very well.
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  So it's like physical rest impacted her creative and
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  spiritual rest, but then she didn't have any energy.
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  So once you know that, you can be like, oh, right, OK, when I
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  do have a bit more energy, I need to learn into creative rest
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  or spiritual rest. It's all about knowing what
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  fills your cup up and what drains you.
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  And then the last thing that I do with my clients is look at
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  supplements. And there's a reason why this is
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  last, because it is the tip of the triangle.
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  There's nothing going to be revolutionary here that's going
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  to make people, it's not magic pill, it gives people energy,
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  but it might just harness some energy that they've got.
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  So I look at supplements. Have they got any vitamin D?
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  Have they got a multivitamin, omega-3, creatine, that sort of
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  thing And we plug those holes and that is how I give my
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  clients more energy. Now if you thinking, oh,
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  actually I could deal with more energy because my decision
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  making goes to pot when I'm not feeling great, when I'm
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  depleted. Where Yeah, you're right, you're
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  going. I'm not tired.
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  I think you are. Then shoot me DM on social media
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  or book a free consultation called in the show notes because
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  this is what I do daily. I do this daily with my clients
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  because once they have more energy, they make better
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  decisions. And if you're going to the
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  fridge or the snack cupboard or the pantry at 9:30 at night and
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  you're delving in to food or you are self sabotaging, then let's
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  have a chat because we can give you more energy to stop that
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  from happening. And with that, thank you very
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  much. Please act with curiosity and
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  not judgement. Thank you so much for listening
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  to me today. If something in this episode
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  landed to you, if you've had that moment when you thought,
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  oh, that's me, I want you to do something with it.
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  And if you're ready to stop cycling for the same patterns
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  and actually do the deep work, it changes everything.
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  I'd love to work with you one to one.
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  cara@kochwithcara.co.uk. Until next time.
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  Thanks team.