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Two Divorces to Divine Healing: Trusting God’s Timing in Love & Relationships · Girl, Date the Good Guy ™ | Healing After Heartbreak & A Toxic Relationship

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  Hey sis, welcome to Girl Date the Good Guy podcast, the space where we strip
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  away the noise and get real about toxic cycles, healing, and stepping into the love God has for us.
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  I'm your host, Emily Jordan, and I've been where you are, heartbroken,
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  confused, and chasing love that didn't come.
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  Hey sis, today I'm opening up about something deeply personal.
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  My journey through not just one, but two divorces. Yeah, you heard that right.
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  I know what it feels like to have your dream of marriage shattered. Not once, but twice.
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  And I also know what it's like to sit in the rubble and wonder,
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  Lord, how did I get here again?
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  If you've ever felt defeated, overlooked, or just plain tired of heartbreak, this one is for you.
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  After my second divorce, I was broken. completely defeated.
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  I remember sitting with myself thinking, how did I manage to have two felled marriages?
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  My dream, the dream I prayed for, the dream I thought God was in, had been crushed twice.
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  But that's when God called me into a season of celibacy. And let me tell you, I was so ready.
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  I didn't need another relationship.
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  I needed a break. I needed healing. I needed to stop repeating the same painful
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  cycle. And maybe you do too.
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  Sometimes God pulls us away from people so he can pull us closer to him.
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  My first marriage. Woo, that was a crash course in how not to do marriage.
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  I was young, I didn't know much biblical truth, and honestly,
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  it happened way too fast.
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  It should never have been that fast. Here's the thing.
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  Real lasting love is a slow burn,
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  not a popcorn snack you toss in the microwave. I want to say that again.
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  Real lasting love is a slow burn, not a popcorn snack you toss in the microwave.
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  But too many of us are quick to jump into relationships without asking the most important question.
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  God, is this your will for me?
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  We don't discern character. We don't seek godly counsel. We just leap and then
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  wonder why we end up flat on our faces.
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  I learned the hard way that rushing love only rushes heartbreak.
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  Now, my second marriage, let's just say that was a whole new level of pain.
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  This man proclaimed to be a Christian, but his life was anything but Christ-like.
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  I found myself in a toxic relationship with someone who wore the mask of faith,
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  but had no fruit of the Spirit.
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  It was like God saying to me, daughter, how many times do I have to show you
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  that you can't save broken men with your love? You need my discernment.
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  That marriage was my wilderness, the place where God stripped away the lies
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  I was believing about myself, love, and marriage.
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  Looking back now, I see that God wanted me to finally get it.
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  To realize that not every man who says I'm a Christian is walking with Christ.
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  To see that marriage is not about fulfilling my loneliness, but about partnering
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  with someone who truly loves and honors God.
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  Ladies, hear me. Before you hand over your heart, ask yourself,
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  did I consult with God? Did I take time to discern?
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  Did I allow my community of faith to speak truth into this decision?
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  Because if not, you're setting yourself up for heartbreak.
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  God isn't trying to withhold love from you. He's trying to protect you from counterfeits.
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  So if you're listening today and you've been through heartbreak after heartbreak,
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  maybe God is calling you to pause, to take a holy time out, to let him heal
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  the patterns, expose the counterfeits, and prepare you for the good guy he actually has in store.
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  I had to walk through two divorces to finally learn that lesson, but you don't have to.
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  Lean into God's timing, his discernment, and his truth.
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  Because sis, the good guy, the godly guy, is worth the wait.
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  Thank you for tuning in to Girl Date the Good Guy. Until next time,
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  keep your heart soft, your standards high, and your faith even higher. Thank you.