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#713 She's Leaving Home · Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families

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Speaker 1: It's the Happy Families podcast.
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Speaker 2: It's the podcast for the time poor parent who just
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Speaker 2: wants answers.
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Speaker 1: Now spoiler alert as well, we didn't have a night
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Speaker 1: off without the kids. In the end, we had to
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Speaker 1: take a couple of kids to Brisbane whe us they
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Speaker 1: had to stay at the grandparents. We did a whole
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Speaker 1: lot of extra running around. We didn't get the hotel room.
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Speaker 1: We ended up staying at your parents. It wasn't quite
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Speaker 1: the night away that we wanted. It was anything but.
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Speaker 2: And now here's the stars of our show.
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Speaker 1: My mom and dad. Every Friday on the Happy Families podcast,
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Speaker 1: we do this thing called I'll do Better Tomorrow, and
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Speaker 1: we're going to talk about doing better tomorrow Today. Shortly,
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Speaker 1: we just reflect on the week that was and figure
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Speaker 1: out how it can be better. Parents. My name's Justin.
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Speaker 1: I'm here with Kylie, my wife from UM to our
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Speaker 1: six kids. Today though we've got a few housekeeping things
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Speaker 1: to take care of.
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Speaker 2: Kylie, can I have your housekeeping list? Please? Can we
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Speaker 2: swap for.
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Speaker 1: The day housekeeping?
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Speaker 2: Yeah?
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Speaker 1: I see, I know where you're going. You like my
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Speaker 1: housekeeping better than your housekeeping because you get to.
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Speaker 2: Sit in air condition room while you do your housekeeping.
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Speaker 1: You're saying that your housekeeping is different to mine.
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Speaker 2: I've done the dish just three times today already.
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Speaker 1: That's a lot. That is a lot. I think that
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Speaker 1: I am the dishwasher in our home though, especially since
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Speaker 1: our dish yeah, well I was at work. Was at work. Hey,
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Speaker 1: So a couple of housekeeping things that really I'd like
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Speaker 1: to get into. The first one it just comes down
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Speaker 1: to this idea of stranger danger. I want to play
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Speaker 1: something that popped up on Upworthy the other day. This
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Speaker 1: is from an Instagram account owned by the Marsi Whalen.
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Speaker 1: We talk about how kids can stay safe, how we
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Speaker 1: can help our kids to be safe on the podcast.
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Speaker 1: Every few months. We make sure we bring it up.
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Speaker 1: It's an important topic, but it's sometimes nice to just
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Speaker 1: hear someone else talk about it, same concepts but a
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Speaker 1: slightly different way. And I thought this was important. It
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Speaker 1: doesn't need an entire podcast, but it's a great reminder
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Speaker 1: for every parent when it comes to issues of kids
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Speaker 1: safety and strangers. This is what the Marsi Whalen had
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Speaker 1: to say about stranger danger.
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Speaker 3: Here's why Dan and I don't teach our girls about
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Speaker 3: strangers or stranger danger and while that can be healthy,
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Speaker 3: and I understand where it's coming from. Right. Parents are
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Speaker 3: trying to protect their kids, keep them safe. But most
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Speaker 3: people are good people, and we want our girls to
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Speaker 3: be outgoing and have conversations with people and to in general,
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Speaker 3: you know, be hospitable to those around them. And so
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Speaker 3: instead of talking about strangers, we talk about strange behavior.
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Speaker 3: Because the thing is children are most often abused or
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Speaker 3: hurt by people they know, whether it's a close family
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Speaker 3: member and acquaintance, it's very rarely a stranger. And so
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Speaker 3: I want my kids to understand what strange behavior is.
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Speaker 3: Asking them to keep a secret, Oh, this is just
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Speaker 3: between you and I, don't tell your parents. That's strange behavior.
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Speaker 3: Asking them to go somewhere with their mom and dad
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Speaker 3: strange behavior. And my girls understand what to look for.
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Speaker 3: Whether it's in somebody they know really well or somebody
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Speaker 3: they don't know at all, it's categorized as strange behavior,
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Speaker 3: and therefore their red flags go out. Anybody can have
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Speaker 3: strange behavior, whether we know them or not, and when
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Speaker 3: that starts to happen, they are immediately to come to.
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Speaker 2: I love this. We talk about tricky people in our
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Speaker 2: house a lot and this notion that it's not so
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Speaker 2: much strangers because could be anyone. But when we kind
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Speaker 2: of get into these situations where it just feels a
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Speaker 2: bit icky, it doesn't it just feels tricky. We're not
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Speaker 2: used to this particular way of behaving. Then these are
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Speaker 2: people we want to be wary of.
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Speaker 1: So we will linked to this in the show notes.
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Speaker 1: The idea that an adult would ask a child for help,
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Speaker 1: or that an adult would say this is just a
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Speaker 1: secret between the two of us, especially when it's not
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Speaker 1: a benign secret, like here's what I'm getting Mum for Christmas.
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Speaker 1: They're tricky kinds of things.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, I love it. I think it's a really intuitive
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Speaker 2: and powerful way to teach our children to keep them safe.
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Speaker 1: The Massy Whalen on Instagram is where you'll find it,
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Speaker 1: but we will link to it in the show notes. Now,
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Speaker 1: second piece of housekeeping is a new app that I
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Speaker 1: think many parents will be interested in. Again, rather doing
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Speaker 1: an entire podcast, I just want to let the word
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Speaker 1: be out there. There's a new app called cab Caboose
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Speaker 1: is changing lives. It gives people who have asd add
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Speaker 1: and other neurodiversion conditions a safe and supported place to
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Speaker 1: find their tribe and create meaningful relationships. From the media release,
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Speaker 1: Caboose was built by a Melbourne mum who had a
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Speaker 1: child who just struggled through his adolescent years because of
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Speaker 1: his neurodiversity, like massive, massive challenges and basically the way
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Speaker 1: the award winning app works is it matches people who
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Speaker 1: are neurodivergent with others of a similar age who have
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Speaker 1: the same interests, so they can form a bond and
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Speaker 1: they can relate to them. And there's a whole lot
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Speaker 1: of identity verification, consistent monitoring, so it's secure, it's supportive,
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Speaker 1: and it's helping thousands of people around the world to
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Speaker 1: find friends and mentors and employers. Just finding your tribe
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Speaker 1: when you're neurodivergent, it's so much harder than being neurotypical,
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Speaker 1: and this is an app that seems to be be
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Speaker 1: really helpful there. It's a new social media app called Caboose.
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Speaker 1: We'll link to it in the show notes. A quick
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Speaker 1: caveat on this we haven't tried it, we don't know
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Speaker 1: exactly how it works. But Michelle Ridsdale, the Melbourne mum
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Speaker 1: who has put it together, seems to have done a
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Speaker 1: really nice job on it, and Kylie, I'm going to
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Speaker 1: say it looks like the kind of app that parents
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Speaker 1: would really respond well too, and kids who are neurodiverse
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Speaker 1: would really respond well too.
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Speaker 2: What's your other bit of housework?
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Speaker 1: You're saying that like you don't want to it's not housework.
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Speaker 1: It's housekeeping. It's housekeeping. So we received some feedback. I
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Speaker 1: want to just mention the feedback. We got an email
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Speaker 1: from Beth h. Beth said, in fact, she sent us
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Speaker 1: a voicemail, but it was just a bit too long
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Speaker 1: for us to play. But she basically said the episode
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Speaker 1: that you did about Roald Dahal and censoring of books.
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Speaker 1: She said, I don't like Roll Dally either. I don't
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Speaker 1: like him one a little bit. But can we have
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Speaker 1: a broader conversation about the content that kids are reading
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Speaker 1: and watching for entertainment purposes? Because Roll is horrible, and
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Speaker 1: so is so much other stuff that's out there for kids,
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Speaker 1: including a whole lot of Disney stuff. And I thought,
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Speaker 1: you know, I've got a good point, and I just
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Speaker 1: want to acknowledge the email. I don't know when in
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Speaker 1: the next little while we'll get to an episode about that,
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Speaker 1: but I thought she was under something and I wanted
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Speaker 1: to mention it. There is one more housekeeping item. If
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Speaker 1: I may miss happy.
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Speaker 2: Fan, we'll get the dust cloth out come on.
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Speaker 1: Okay, last week I made a really big deal that
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Speaker 1: you and I were getting a night off from the
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Speaker 1: kids and we were going to go and see a
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Speaker 1: concert at q Pac Richard marks.
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Speaker 2: Spoiler alert. I stayed away.
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Speaker 1: You did spoiler alert as well. We didn't have a
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Speaker 1: night off without the kids. In the end, we had
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Speaker 1: to take a couple of kids to Brisbane with us.
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Speaker 1: They had to stay at the grandparents. We did a
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Speaker 1: whole lot of extra running around. We didn't get the
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Speaker 1: hotel room. We ended up staying at your parents. It
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Speaker 1: wasn't quite the.
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Speaker 2: Night away that we wanted.
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Speaker 1: It was anything but a couple of other points. Number one,
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Speaker 1: I think that I might be the only person on
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Speaker 1: the planet, well you and I together, who are not
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Speaker 1: into lots of swearing. Like even Richard Marx, he's like
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Speaker 1: a sixty year old soft rocker. I can't believe how
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Speaker 1: many swear words he used in his concert, like.
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Speaker 2: He was very explicit.
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Speaker 1: Everybody seems like you watch a TV show, it's just
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Speaker 1: so much swearing everywhere. Anyway, outside of that great show,
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Speaker 1: had a really fun night. I don't think that you
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Speaker 1: enjoyed it as much as I did, and I wouldn't
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Speaker 1: say I loved it, but it was a really nice show.
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Speaker 2: Do you know what I did enjoy it?
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Speaker 1: What did you enjoy?
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Speaker 2: I enjoyed that you held my hand be whole night
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Speaker 2: and that I actually got to watch the concert through
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Speaker 2: your eyes because there were moments where I could just
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Speaker 2: see your whole face lit up and you just you
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Speaker 2: loved it.
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Speaker 1: I love love music. It really connects with me.
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Speaker 2: Favorite song for you, hands down, it was when You
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Speaker 2: Loved Me. I've never heard the song before, but he
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Speaker 2: shared the fact that when he was writing the song
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Speaker 2: and recording it in his home studio, his three young
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Speaker 2: boys at the time independently came and told him that
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Speaker 2: they liked the song.
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Speaker 1: So I've got to jump in really quickly. His Curnam
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Speaker 1: is Mars and he made a joke on the night
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Speaker 1: that he's got three sons and they are therefore the
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Speaker 1: Marx Brothers, like the comedy troup the Marx Brothers with
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Speaker 1: Groucho Marx and well.
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Speaker 2: He also told us that John Farnam got some skit
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Speaker 2: as well, so skid marks.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's terrible. I do remember you saying I do
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Speaker 1: remember him saying that now that you mentioned it. Anyway,
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Speaker 1: So there's this song.
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Speaker 2: Anyway. It's actually a really lovely song. But each of
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Speaker 2: the boys had come and told him independently that they
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Speaker 2: really liked the song, and so when he was coming
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Speaker 2: out to do this tour, he actually had this brainwave
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Speaker 2: and thought, what if I get the boys together, because
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Speaker 2: they're all in their own write accomplished musicians, and get
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Speaker 2: them to record the song with him. And what I
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Speaker 2: loved was he obviously was singing live, and the boys
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Speaker 2: were up on the screen.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, playing the video in the background.
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Speaker 2: And I loved seeing number one that they were so
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Speaker 2: uniquely their own person and yet when they sang, they
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Speaker 2: were so himny. It was just like one voice and
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Speaker 2: to see, you know, he shared little bits and pieces
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Speaker 2: about who they were and what they were up to
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Speaker 2: in their lives, but it just it was so I
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Speaker 2: loved the unity that it created. And obviously the song
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Speaker 2: has this beautiful message of love.
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Speaker 1: At a great pairing moment as well. He's a sixty
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Speaker 1: year old rocker hanging out with his thirty year old
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Speaker 1: sons or they're around about thirty years old and they're
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Speaker 1: still together. They're still hanging out there making music together.
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Speaker 1: They're being involved in one of his lives. It was
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Speaker 1: a really nice moment. I'm with you. I thought that
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Speaker 1: was great. My favorite moment of the night was the
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Speaker 1: final song of the night.
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Speaker 2: I mean, in the final fifteen songs, I.
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Speaker 1: Was so good. So we're not going to boy with
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Speaker 1: heaps of detail, but to be brief at the end
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Speaker 1: of the night, he's a guitarist, right, but I didn't
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Speaker 1: know that he could really play the piano. I mean,
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Speaker 1: anyone can play if you sit down and fiddle around,
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Speaker 1: you can play right here waiting. That was the last
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Speaker 1: song of the night, and you might kind of think, oh,
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Speaker 1: what a boring way to finish, Like that's a slow song,
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Speaker 1: it's a ballad, but his biggest hit. But he sits
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Speaker 1: down at the piano and the crowd just goes wild,
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Speaker 1: and he goes, I know, what are you thinking? You
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Speaker 1: think that you know? And how predictable here I am
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Speaker 1: playing right here wanting on the piano. But that's not
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Speaker 1: actually what he did. He sat down on the piano.
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Speaker 1: He's actually quite a pianist. He just started playing a
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Speaker 1: whole lot of songs like this.
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Speaker 4: One that's taking you back, and the whole crowd is like, man,
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Speaker 4: he can sing, and he can play the piano as
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Speaker 4: well as the guitar, and then he got funny, just kidding, and.
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Speaker 1: Then he just started blasting, like you said, like another
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Speaker 1: I don't know, eight songs on the piano. He didn't
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Speaker 1: play the whole thing. He just played little snippets here
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Speaker 1: and there, bit by bit, and finally, after leading us
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Speaker 1: on for I think it must have been I do know,
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Speaker 1: four five minutes something like that. So he's got everyone
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Speaker 1: laughing and having a ball, and then finally there it is,
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Speaker 1: and the crag goes well, and he got trained at
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Speaker 1: the crowd because he'd been joking a lot, so he
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Speaker 1: was actually really entertaining. He was a lot of fun.
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Speaker 1: And I still think it was a oh gosh, listen
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Speaker 1: to that song, How good is it? Oh Jesus, all right,
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Speaker 1: we'll stop there, and the whole crowd saying it was
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Speaker 1: the big taught song to end the night, and everyone
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Speaker 1: loved it. And that's the end of our housekeeping. So
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Speaker 1: four big things we got feedback. We've got the autism
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Speaker 1: app caboost We've got the importance of not talking about
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Speaker 1: strange danger, and we got to have our night away
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Speaker 1: without the kids. That ended up not being a night
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Speaker 1: away without the kids, but we still at least got
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Speaker 1: to watch a concert. So much for old do better tomorrow.
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Speaker 1: We need to talk about what we've learned about parenting
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Speaker 1: in the last week. Otherwise people are going to feel
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Speaker 1: ripped off. I hope this hasn't been overly indulgent. There's
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Speaker 1: only one indulgent thing. The rest of it was important.
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Speaker 1: Let's do that now.
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Speaker 2: So I don't know what you were planning on talking about,
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Speaker 2: but we've had a really, really big week in our house.
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Speaker 1: I'll guarantee it was the same thing. It was that
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Speaker 1: really big thing where our daughter went away to the
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Speaker 1: UK for eighteen months and we said goodbye to We're
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Speaker 1: at the airport. We're never going to see her again.
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Speaker 2: So for the last few weeks, I'll do better tomorrow.
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Speaker 2: I've specifically have shared how hard it is to kind
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Speaker 2: of let go, and each of our children are going
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Speaker 2: through different stages of that letting go process. But like
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Speaker 2: you suggested on Monday, we actually said goodbye to Abby,
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Speaker 2: our second daughter, and we've been waiting for this for
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Speaker 2: quite some time. This has been a decision that she's
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Speaker 2: really had to wrestle with for many years. And what
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Speaker 2: I thought was actually going to be really hard was
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Speaker 2: just beautifully peaceful. Yeah. Yeah.
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Speaker 1: So for people who are not familiar with what's going
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Speaker 1: on in our church, kids go away when they're eighteen,
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Speaker 1: nineteen twenty something like that. They go away and spend
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Speaker 1: some time as missionaries for well, I mean, it's not compulsory,
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Speaker 1: it's completely voluntary, but they paid their own way. And
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Speaker 1: while they're gone, there's no dating, there's no movies, there's
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Speaker 1: no I don't know, like recreation and swimming and hanging out.
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Speaker 1: It's just you go there and you work like proper
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Speaker 1: missionary work, irving others. And it's a really big deal too.
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Speaker 1: I mean, in Abbey's case, she's flown literally to the
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Speaker 1: other side of the world. She's left the twenty eight
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Speaker 1: to thirty degree sunshine coast, beautiful summer weather, and landed
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Speaker 1: in four degrees four degrees at leeds four. I mean,
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Speaker 1: we don't even know what four degrees feels like, and
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Speaker 1: that's their maximum. That's crazy. And she's going to spend
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Speaker 1: the next eighteen months doing missionary work, putting off any
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Speaker 1: desires that she has for what she might want for
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Speaker 1: her life, and literally focused on helping other people. I mean,
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Speaker 1: it's a really big deal and she's doing it literally
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Speaker 1: on her own. She got on the plane and said goodbye,
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Speaker 1: and that was it.
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Speaker 2: In preparation to her going, she actually spent a week
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Speaker 2: at home doing missionary training. So because of the time lapse,
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Speaker 2: she was up at midnight, studied all through the night,
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Speaker 2: and would go to bed pretty much once I took
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Speaker 2: the kids to school in the morning. And as I
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Speaker 2: watched her go through this process, so I was saying,
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Speaker 2: this is ridiculous. She should just get on the plane
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Speaker 2: and like get over there and just be there face
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Speaker 2: to face and deal with everything. But it was interesting
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Speaker 2: watching it all kind of unfold and just seeing her
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Speaker 2: able to kind of ease her way into this hard thing,
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Speaker 2: like this is hard. It is really seeing her ease
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Speaker 2: her way into it still within the comfort of her
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Speaker 2: own home. And what I watched was this kid who
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Speaker 2: I was thinking, how the heck is she going to
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Speaker 2: make it through eighteen months? Grow up run in front
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Speaker 2: of me, and she took on each challenge like headfirst
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Speaker 2: and just gave it everything to the point where she
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Speaker 2: got to the stage where we got dropped her off
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Speaker 2: at the airport, and they weren't really any tears, Like
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Speaker 2: she was so excited to get on that plane and
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Speaker 2: get over there and meet these people who she's seen
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Speaker 2: online for the last week and they're going to become
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Speaker 2: her buddies for the next three weeks before she actually
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Speaker 2: goes out there and does it. Yeah.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, she did have a bit of a cry apparently
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Speaker 1: once she got on the and realized this is actually it.
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Speaker 2: No, she was she was fine because she flew from
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Speaker 2: her richie door and then she went to Sydney, met
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Speaker 2: up with your parents. She was all good. She got
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Speaker 2: through customs on the other end and she.
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Speaker 1: Lost lost it. She lost her emotions and she lost it.
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Speaker 2: She called me just sobbing, she said, I think it's
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Speaker 2: finally hit me. But was so beautiful, and you talk
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Speaker 2: about tricky behaviors instead of tricky people and stranger danger
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Speaker 2: and all of that. What I loved was your mum
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Speaker 2: actually was standing in line with her check her into
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Speaker 2: the next phase of the trip, and she kind of
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Speaker 2: just noticed a woman behind her, and so she reached
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Speaker 2: out to her asked where she was flying to, found
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Speaker 2: out that they were actually going through all the way
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Speaker 2: to Manchester together, and so she just acknowledged that Abby
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Speaker 2: was traveling for the first This is literally the first
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Speaker 2: time she's got on a plane traveling alone, traveling alone,
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Speaker 2: and she had multiple stopovers, stopping in Sydney, then stopping
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Speaker 2: in Qatar, and then finally arriving in Manchester and hoping
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Speaker 2: someone's going to be there to meet her, and having
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Speaker 2: no idea, honestly, no idea what this was going to
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Speaker 2: look like. And so this woman, Amanda, bless her heart, yeah, Angel,
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Speaker 2: she just checked in with Abby at each stop, made
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Speaker 2: sure she was okay. Abby had no idea what to
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Speaker 2: do with the currency she had in her pocket.
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Speaker 1: She bought her food when they arrived in Katar, I mean,
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Speaker 1: how good is that?
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Speaker 2: And then we got to the other end and Abby
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Speaker 2: was down a bag. So she took two suitcases. One
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Speaker 2: suitcase did not arrive, and she had actually said to
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Speaker 2: Amanda after a first one arrived and Amanda got her,
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Speaker 2: She's like, I'm okay, you're welcome to God. She said, no, no,
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Speaker 2: I'll make sure everything's right before I leave, And only
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Speaker 2: to find out that her second bag didn't come through,
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Speaker 2: and so she was able to take her through to
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Speaker 2: baggage claims make sure everything was sortid. They found a bag,
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Speaker 2: they know where it is and she will have it
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Speaker 2: in a few days. And she has no class and
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Speaker 2: she's in.
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Speaker 1: Four degree where But you know what I love about
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Speaker 1: that is we can trust people around us, whether we're
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Speaker 1: dealing with little kids or big kids, we can trust
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Speaker 1: people around us. There are good people there. And ultimately,
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Speaker 1: what we're experiencing, and I guess the reason that we
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Speaker 1: wanted to share it in our podcast today is you
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Speaker 1: raise these kids for twenty years or eighteen years or
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Speaker 1: whatever ends up being, and then one day they push
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Speaker 1: off out into the world. And it's really sad in
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Speaker 1: so many ways to see them go. It really, even
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Speaker 1: as we talk about it now, I'm affected by it.
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Speaker 1: But it's also thrilling. It's so exciting to see these
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Speaker 1: kids that we send our heart into the world and
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Speaker 1: off they go, and she's doing it. She's living her
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Speaker 1: life now. It's like that little bird that got pushed
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Speaker 1: out of the nest and it started to fly.
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Speaker 2: What I've noticed, you know, this is now the second
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Speaker 2: time we've said goodbye to a child, and it was
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Speaker 2: the same with baby number one. As they progress and
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Speaker 2: I'm preparing myself to say goodbye when the time's right,
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Speaker 2: it actually just feels amazing. It feels amazing to know
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Speaker 2: that you've actually prepared this child enough that they're ready
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Speaker 2: to jump, yeah, to jump, and they're excited about what
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Speaker 2: the world has installed for them, and I just I do.
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Speaker 2: I feel so much excitement and anticipation. I can't think
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Speaker 2: of a better place that I or a better thing
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Speaker 2: that she could be doing with her life right now.
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Speaker 2: And she's excited, and she's doing it because she wants to,
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Speaker 2: not because I've given her this arbitrary list of this
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Speaker 2: is what you need to do to become an adult,
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Speaker 2: or this is this is next steps for you. What
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Speaker 2: do you want to do with your life? This is
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Speaker 2: what I want to do. That's amazing well, and we
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Speaker 2: are here to support you all the way.
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Speaker 1: Our time is up for today's podcast, but I'm glad
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Speaker 1: we got to share that. I might also add that
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Speaker 1: first child that we sent off into the world, she
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Speaker 1: got married and she's living her life now. She and
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Speaker 1: her husband have recently moved to the Sunshine Past and
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Speaker 1: it looks like she's moved back in because they're over
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Speaker 1: at our place three nights a week for dinner and
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Speaker 1: two mornings a week for breakfast. And it's kind of like, oh,
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Speaker 1: hang on, have you got your own place or not.
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Speaker 1: They're like, yeah, but we like your place better than
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Speaker 1: cooking is really good. They go away, but they come back.
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Speaker 1: That's our older better tomorrow for today. Anything I'll see
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Speaker 1: you on to add before we wrap up.
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Speaker 3: Oh.
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Speaker 1: The Happy Family's podcast is produced by Justin Rowland from
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Speaker 1: Bridge Media. Craig Bruce is our executive producer. Thank you
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Speaker 1: so much for listening to the podcast. We really hope
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Speaker 1: that you enjoy what you hear and that it helps
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Speaker 1: you to find the joy in your parenting journey. Thanks
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Speaker 1: as well, if you want to be more resilient as
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Speaker 1: a parent, next Thursday night. Next Thursday night, we're going
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Speaker 1: to be putting on a free webinar for you. That's
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Speaker 1: the ninth of March free webinar, The Resilient Parent. This
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Speaker 1: not about raising kids, but about being more resilient yourself.
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