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Rabbi Moshe Haber Path of the Just-Beyond Duty: The Power of Genuine Motivation 9.3.25 · Rabbi Moshe Haber - Daily Mussar/Weekly Perasha

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  Over and above, because he feels a connection to Hashem, amazing
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  national connection, he wants to do more.
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  It's just the mindset of Haseet. And we said that every person
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  has to be. You want to do this properly.
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  It's going to be authentic and want it to be authentic has to
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  be coming from a good place. And now it cannot be coming out
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  of fear or wanting to impress. It comes based on the same
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  mindset we imagine as a husband with his wife.
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  Guys in love loves his wife and therefore he wants to make her
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  happy and he tries to find a way to get her a gift before she
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  knows that guy is doing above, right.
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  That's Hasidut. The same is true.
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  You know what Hashem likes. You know where you're good at in
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  the areas Hashem likes. And he tries to tap into those
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  areas, not because you have to, not because you have 613 and
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  this is one of them, but rather because you'd like to.
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  And that is someone you're going above and beyond.
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  And he has a strong connection that pulls him along.
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  Is that we do we do that to make Hashem happy.
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  We do it to make Hashem proud or happy.
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  Exactly. And that's based on our
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  connection. If we love him, I want to make
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  him happy. Want to make him happy.
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  Find ways outside of 6/13 so to speak above.
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  You're required amount to do more out of that love.
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  That's the basic. Could it be giving your heart,
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  your whole heart and true? In any way that you do it, which
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  means if a guy gives more effort, a person does a little
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  more. A person in any area, he prays
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  with more clarity. He does to learn a little more
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  than he has to. And we said most things have
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  loopholes. You couldn't get the right
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  rabbit at the right situation. We can allow almost anything.
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  OK, there are some people who never had cold food on Shabbat
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  in their life because of a loophole, even if they were
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  stuck somewhere. I didn't figured it out.
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  So now if you want to do it the right way, you go above and
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  beyond, you avoid those loopholes and you're the same
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  way a person can elevate taxes cause a loopholes can catch out
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  all taxes. Same way in a certain sense, a
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  person can sketch out of to that car.
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  They're one of the most challenging laws and laws of
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  mass here. Based on laws of mass here, a
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  person can say, I can't afford much.
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  I can't give mass here. And they technically do not need
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  to. That's all.
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  But they do. Why do they?
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  Because they don't want them to tap into a little ball.
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  They want to do what God wants. This is all part of the theme.
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  Now let's see page 339, the three primary elements of
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  Hasidut of being this kind of genuine person who does more on
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  liking to Hashem. There's three elements.
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  There's one is being a hassid. And the actions that you do,
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  Hashini orphan hasia #2 is not only how many actions you do,
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  it's the style that you do the action Hashir Rashid, but cover
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  not like I can mention the intention as you're hassid, you
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  connected to God, your motivation and your mindset
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  while you do the action. So you have the action itself,
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  whether you do a Don tour, the style and how you do that
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  action, we'll see what that means.
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  Enthusiasm, excitement, et cetera.
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  And then the intention behind it usually is the core behind it
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  all, or is your drive and your clarity and your focus.
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  That becomes the engine of that enthusiasm of that complete
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  action. Let's see it through the idea of
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  being a Hassian action even that has two parts to see if we give
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  you clarity in this, the person can be a Hasid regarding God and
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  a person can be a Hasid regarding his fellow man.
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  How do you explain that, Richard?
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  He can be a Hasid regarding a fellow man, which means you know
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  you do more than you have to exactly this idea of being a
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  Hasid between you and God. So you say we've got a you and
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  man is overly sensitive, overly caring.
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  Absolutely. What does it mean by my essay?
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  She went down on my comb first when it comes to God idea is
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  doing all my thoughts with every single detail, with every
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  required step without trying to skip a beat, without trying to.
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  You know, you could pray and you could skip the cicadas amount At
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  times. You skip a couple of halukas.
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  You can tap into the halahad. There's a workers mignon who's
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  allowed to pray before this month.
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  There's a halahad, it's something called mignon of the
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  workers. They can pray before the time
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  and it's allowed in, right? And you got to do what you got
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  to do. As they say, you can pray with
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  Quran. All these things are legal
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  legals, loopholes, right? But they're not the complete
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  way. They're not the full way.
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  What they are are someone just checking boxes, sometimes
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  necessary. I'll give you 2 areas where this
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  stuff comes up. 1 is praying be ahir.
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  There are certain lenient alihot that allow a person at times to
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  pray be ahir. But you know what I know?
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  And when the guy prays be ahir, what is it to fill out look like
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  and prayers at only there's talent to filling.
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  It's quicker, it's very hard to keep the focus.
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  It's very hard to pray the entire prayer at home.
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  Even times I've done behi here and there, it ended up becoming
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  shrunk and not real. And you tend to the kids and you
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  tend to this, you tend to that. Let's sketch.
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  That's someone who's taking this bean Jack in the boxes in a weak
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  way and falls apart. And the same is true when it
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  comes to another example I had for guilt, too, by the way, I
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  say, yeah, guilts. We want that guilt.
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  That guilt is a hassle. You know, I can't feel guilty.
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  Go. Ahead to drabble was.
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  Inside a drabble? Come on, please.
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  We're good thing. And that'll probably be OK
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  Tomorrow they're realizing that they only took me 15 minutes.
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  Right, right. And you're like, I'm sure it's
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  supposed to be taking 15 minutes until they get.
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  So all this is technically speaking, very often much more
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  legal than people publicize. It's kind of legal, but it's
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  also kind of very illegal because it's legal.
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  Checks the box, but it's hollow. The goal of a HA seat, really a
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  person is doing above and beyond.
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  The goal of this person is not really so much to do the above
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  and beyond. The ultimate focus is so that
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  when you do above and beyond, you display strength.
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  When you display that energy in that strength.
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  Could you take one? The goal is that this person
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  actually does them. Its fault in a full way,
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  ultimately, God. God does not need you to do 614.
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  All He wants to do is 6/13, put a full 613.
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  And the way you can do a full 613 is by being highly motivated
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  and highly driven to make Hashem happy.
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  And by that, by that connection with that being your motivation
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  and your energy, you end up wanting to do.
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  If I want to make Hashem happy and about if you need to look
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  like something exciting, it can't look dry.
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  If I want to make God happy, then my charity needs to have a
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  smile. It can't be one that's a grumpy
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  base. If I need to make sure I'm happy
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  and my learning needs to have a schedule, not just come in and
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  go right, am I going to make sure I'm happy?
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  I need to make sure to, to, to raise my children with the full
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  drive and understanding of Taurama.
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  All these areas have extra strong strength.
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  When you add the motivation of making a sham happy, it's a
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  whole different ball game because the outcome is the
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  outcome. I'm happy that you're happy.
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  Really that sense of happy coming back, but the outcome
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  actually ends up being all. You can see the things like this
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  in life. Some people do things without
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  thinking about the results. Others are a result driven
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  business. Now sometimes that's a group of
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  business to be a result driven. Maybe you cut some corners when
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  it comes to the Omid sports. If your result is a check the
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  box, no good. But if you result, your goal is
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  to make our sham happy and that's going to allow more to
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  yeomanswat 'cause every time he sang in prayer, he said what
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  would God think of this to fill up?
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  What would God think of this learning?
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  What does God say about how my house looks?
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  Does God say about my schedule, my routine, how I speak?
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  All these things actually end up creating much more to
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  yeomanswats than less results often cause kind of corners, but
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  results driven when the result is guarded ends up making you
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  that much traumatic and the person has to think in the back
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  of their mind. I want to be genuine and genuine
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  means I'm doing Hashem's will not doing just mid foot.
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  You know there's A and a bomb when he writes and the Mishnah
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  he writes the words Aman hashemi everything he writes A pasuk, he
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  says Hashem said Torah says Hashem said a strong word.
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  What's he trying to do? Trying to bring you to life is
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  the Word of God. I'm reading the word of God, how
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  merciful one says and use that word and you're talking to God.
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  You're talking about God's word. If you knew that every word of
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  the God is God's word, that's a whole different feel to it.
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  And that's the guy who is a Hasid.
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  It's a person whose motivation at its core is beyond just doing
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  what I'm told and what I have to do.
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  I'm doing what God wants me to do.
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  And it gives more energy to what you do.
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  Is it a high level? Absolutely, but it is something
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  that we can all keep in the back of mind of sure we're doing them
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  as well. Anyway, you're going to pray,
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  you're learning, you're giving charity, you might might as well
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  do a right cycle, authentic, genuine goal.
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  All right. Or written into the paragraph.
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  No stop. We have something called, which
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  means the auxiliary elements and the extras, Vamrou Shahram.
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  It's what the power of doing the extras is, the power to protect
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  us from punishment. Kiava BI shekufa mitzvah, Even
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  though the body, that core, the mitzvah can be done by anybody,
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  an excited guy or boring guy, a guy was connected to Hashem is a
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  Hasid, one who's not. They all get the skeleton, but
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  the energy, the fat, the fullness of the mitzvah, right?
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  That's for the average Jew, for us who are trying to aspire to
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  be something special. The difference is that they
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  expand. They don't try to cut down.
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  It's a whole different Jew. There's a Jew and there's a Jew.
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  There's a guy who checks the Bible called Religious Servant.
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  Orthodox checks the boxes comes with an excitement and a fervor
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  and a. Connection example it's.
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  A whole different animal and it brings out the Gary bird.
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  And. The point is to keep in the back
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  of our mind this desire, this drive, this interest to do
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  what's going on, the flowing. You don't realize that extra
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  motivation to do something gives that something so much more
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  strength. Number one, very often we went
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  interested in doing mitzvah. Besides having loopholes which
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  shrink down the mitzvah, you also have excuses which absolve
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  us totally from the mitzvah. Very often you have excuses.
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  Most people from most things have excuses, but the thing I to
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  learn, to pray, to give charity, there's all sorts of excuses And
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  then what happens besides the shrinking it?
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  They don't do it at all. So the idea and the motivation
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  to be a guy with a Hasid Exactly.
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  Once you shrink it down to a small level and then shrink it
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  down to a zero level, a person's highly motivated.
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  How? If you look around and you see
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  results out there, most of them come from highly motivated
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  people. What about the non motive
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  people? Aren't they?
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  I don't they care about Hashem. They do, but they have so many
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  excuses and you know what life is full of excuses.
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  Every one of us have millions of excuses.
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  I give my classic example. OK, it's not too my own Ormond
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  just to give an example. So my wife was pregnant during
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  the summertime all year long. I'm thinking we never had a baby
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  in the summer. All babies always wanted in the
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  fall of the winter. What in the world is going to be
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  the plan? I have a baby in the summer.
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  How am I going to get to the shoe lunch about by the way I
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  speak the details. I live in Lakewood during the
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  week. Deal on Shabbat, Osama.
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  My inlaws are a lake on Shabbat. So it's going to be a crazy
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  runaround, huh? Opposite.
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  Yeah, Manila's on lake on Shabbat.
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  Now imagine why it was Libra on Shabbat.
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  I'm to get a hold of my mom in law.
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  A doctor by the way, was where man get hold on Mala.
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  Get to the city. It's going to be a crazy run
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  around. Now.
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  It's very good chance at least we're going to miss 2 Shabbats
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  and deal because she could easily be almost on labour going
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  to she was not going to come to deal with that and then the next
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  week she just had a baby. Not going to deal with that
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  right. So all that I'm thinking it can
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  really disrupt the whole shoe because no other rabbi besides
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  everybody was only there for Anna Santa.
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  It's not playing hold out to you, but I really want to run
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  the shoe. I really want to do it.
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  That's my wife's credit, unbelievable credit end up being
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  that the doctor decided that she needs to induce.
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  I scheduled the inducement 4 Wednesday night early Wednesday
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  morning Tuesday night Wednesday morning OK Wednesday morning I
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  had a baby Wednesday morning Wednesday afternoon.
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  I'm sorry she came home Thursday night Friday afternoon I had to
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  sign iron. I went to deal with a couple of
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  kids. He's there on Lakewood by the
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  next week she came to dealer and there being we dinner this week.
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  How you name the baby and deal without her imagine and the
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  point is she wouldn't have been in the show, but the point is
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  right around the end was nobody but the point is because she was
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  unmotivated for the running of the shoe.
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  So as I had this result, anyone could have had, at least, I
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  mean, that paternity leave, you could leave for a month, forget
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  about leave for a day, at least a day, right?
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  It's not credit to me, it's credit to her.
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  But the point is, is that a person's got to be interested in
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  doing something. I had a desire to do that tool
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  and to make it work. I didn't want it to flop.
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  I didn't want it to fall back. It was the middle of the summer.
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  I felt the miss one week. The whole of my mindset.
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  Anything you do, any area in any area of life, if you add the
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  extra spice, extra energy, extra effort, you get it done, all
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  right. And then you get things done.
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  And well, you don't, because we all have basic loopholes and we
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  all have skeletons and there was all of the basic element to do.
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  Now you have to more. You feel.
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  Sure, 100% you feel you feel the full thing.
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  I'm start with this.