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413 Todo el tiempo peleo con mi esposo por bobadas. · Reflexiones cristianas con José Ordóñez

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  Podcast number four hundred and thirteen. Last night I was dictating a plenary,
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  a preaching, a lecture, whatever you want to call it, about the
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  little things that happen in marriage and that usually slowly destroy them precise these days
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  we are working there in the Church with the Book of Song of Songs and
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  just I get an email from a woman who says my name is Fernanda.
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  I have problems with my husband. We' re about to split up the
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  truth. I don' t know how we got here if there' s
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  no big reason, but we argue all the time, sometimes even for nonsense,
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  for things that don' t matter the least. But the discussion is
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  getting more heated and neither he nor I want to give in a little bit.
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  Sometimes we even last for 15 days without talking to each other. Sometimes
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  he goes to his mom' s house or runs away to some friend.
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  I' m on my own right now. Boring shepherd, my heart hurts.
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  Many times I too would like to run away, but I can'
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  t find a way out. It distressed me too much and I don'
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  t want to be another damaged marriage, like it happened to my mom or
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  my older sister. Help me, please, okay. I' m so
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  sorry to hear about the situation you' re going through, Fernanda. Thank
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  you because, moreover, as I was teaching the Book of Song of Songs
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  there in the Church just your email put me to study and to delve a
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  little more into those little details, Precisely in the Book of Song of Songs,
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  chapter two. Verse number fifteen. The Wise One says catch the foxes,
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  the little bitches that spoil our vines, our vines in bloom to see
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  I explain. This is a book that talks about sentimental relationships between a man
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  and a woman. Why the Wise Solomon pauses a little while to talk about
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  the beloved’ s beloved and begins to set an example of foxes and vineyards.
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  He says they hunt the foxes, which bitches, the little ones,
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  which are the ones that spoil the great fields of grapes. In ancient times,
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  when a farmer was working for his harvest, he could spot the big
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  bitches, see them coming from afar, and he could scare them away,
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  set them up, or just kill them. But the farmer couldn' t
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  see the little sluts crawling into the grape fields, and they didn' t
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  even eat the bunches, eat the roots, and start damaging all those crops.
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  The problem is that, by not taking care of the low parts of
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  the crop, these bitches damaged all the work that had cost the farmer,
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  the farmer a lot of effort. Solomon here says they are complicated to find,
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  but if you look for them and take care of them, trap them
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  to fight them, the crop will never be spoiled. As I say.
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  It is powerfully striking that Solomon was talking about marriage relations. That' s
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  the Song Book of Songs, but here' s an example to invite us
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  to take care of the little things, the little details and the little altercations
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  Fernanda, as you indicate in your email, sometimes fight for nonsense. Well,
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  actually, there' s no such thing as nonsense in a marriage.
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  Let' s say that there are matters that are part of our daily life,
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  but a little discussion and a little conversation the Lord shows us in God
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  ' s word how we have to solve those small inconveniences details that we sometimes
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  call small, which have no greater relevance. I don' t know how
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  many times your husband has told you to stop fighting for nonsense or this or
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  that isn' t important. You kill yourself, woman, and you get
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  too hysterical about simple things. Well, you have to tell your husband that
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  you have to be careful to neglect the simple details, the common things,
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  the things that are repeated in our daily lives. If there is a small
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  fault, I repeat, there has to be a small counterclaim, a time
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  to talk, because little by little the person' s mood is ending.
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  When we are caring for someone in counseling comes to tell great problems that one
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  day began as small things that were insignificant that were not solved in time.
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  The word of God shows us number one. How we should argue. For
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  example, he tells us to get rid of all the screaming. Do not
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  overcome evil with evil, overcome evil with good. So you have to keep
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  an eye on the little details and know them, talk and fix them.
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  How the word of God says. Let us be ready to hear time to
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  speak, ready to hear, dear gentlemen, that our wife has long been
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  complaining. Why don' t we extend the towel, why don' t
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  we cover the toothpaste, why don' t we take the shoes to the
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  closet. One kitchen over there, one little thing over here. I add
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  one flaw over there, another fails over there, and the mood gets tired.
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  To women we have to tell them a cry over there, a bad
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  attitude, an disrespect that seems irrelevant, a little thing over here, another
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  little thing over there and everything is gradually being undermined. In this podcast I
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  wanted to invite you to look in detail at those things that look like little
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  things, but that, if they build up, they usually become big bitches.
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  On the second day of our marriage workshop, we' re going to
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  be talking about how difficulties in marriage are resolved and we' re talking about
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  the mistakes wives make sometimes when they don' t know how to master their
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  personality and with little things, they end up looking at the mood of men.
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  How to avoid situations like those Dear Fernanda, have a spirit of reconciliation
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  and patience, a lot of patience. Remember that first Corinthians, chapter number
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  thirteen says love is patient. Love is built little by little. If you
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  talk to marriages that are not twenty, thirty forty years old together, and
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  not only is it a cluster of many years living together, but those many
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  years, they have lived with property, they have known how to build a
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  stable relationship. They can tell you that all the times they faced small inconveniences
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  they managed to solve them. The worst thing is that one day you quit
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  wanting to have an argument with your husband or husband with you just to avoid
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  the problem and say I don' t tell him anymore, because he'
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  s never going to change, because she' s never going to change.
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  Then they give up having an argument and again I challenge what I' ve
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  always said. It' s not about us not having marital arguments. It
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  ' s about having marital discussions of the way of life, in the right
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  tone. So, to finish and sum up, a little flaw, a
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  little conversation, remember that God' s word even teaches us time. Don
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  ' t set the sun on the anger. It means that we resolve it
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  as soon as possible. Possible in the workshop we' ll be talking about
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  how to solve it. I mean, what do I do as a man,
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  when I have an argument with my wife, what do I expect my
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  wife to do, what should women do, what should men do when they
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  face the difficulty of having differences. We will work with many verses that we
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  hope will remain in the minds and hearts of people so that, when they
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  are confronted with these situations, they will have rudiments in order to solve them.
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  The word of God is full of advice, promises, ordinances that help
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  us to have a stable, frugal, delicious daily relationship. Because remember this,
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  marriage is one of the few things that has life guarantee. So we
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  have only two days left with a price of only fifty dollars, because on
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  August 3, the fourth workshop for marriages, will already cost seventy- seven
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  dollars. So take advantage of this special discount that we have until August 2nd
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  and at once put it on your agenda 19th to August 23rd, from seven
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  o' clock in the night time of Colombia, through Zoom, we will
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  be sharing two hours of class and one more of counseling, three hours every
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  day until we finish with the last of the lessons. Yeah, because Friday,
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  Friday, we' ll be talking deep about sexuality in marriage. We
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  will learn thoroughly about what is allowed and not allowed in sexual matters. For
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  now I wish you to have a nice fernanda day that God will help you
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  solve the small inconveniences little by little, with wisdom that God bless you