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Season 3 - Episode 152 - Beating ourselves up · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning from the Chicken Coop podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermind set
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop, along with all her chickens.
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  Hey everybody. Good morning from the chicken
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  coop. Today I want to talk to you
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  about not being where you want to.
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  Be and. Not beating yourself up for it.
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  You know, so often we get really good at telling ourselves I'm
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  not. Where I want to be, I'm not
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  where I want to. Be I'm.
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  Not where. I want.
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  To be. And we forget that in the.
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  Process of acknowledging we're not where we want to be.
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  We are doing more damage to ourselves by thinking.
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  About it over and over and over again.
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  Instead of just taking. The information from it and
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  saying, OK, I'm not where I want to be, So what should I do about
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  that? How do I want to handle this?
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  How do I want to show up? Who do I want to be in those
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  moments? And.
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  The worst part? Of this.
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  Entire situation is that in the process of.
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  Doing this. We obviously forget.
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  Because I know you've heard me say it before, and I have to
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  remind myself of this all the time too.
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  That we are ultimately attracting more of it because
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  we're energetically aligned to it.
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  So let's talk about that for a second and really determine the
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  fact that being energetically aligned to something that's not.
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  What you want? Really does cause.
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  More. Of the problem can't not like
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  attracts like and we're so good at beating ourselves up, and we
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  think that the more we beat ourselves up, the more we may
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  pay attention. But the beatings will continue
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  until morale improves. Rarely works.
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  What ends up happening is we get ourselves more aligned to what's
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  wrong, and then the universe provides us with proof that
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  guess what, It's not working. See, I knew it wouldn't work.
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  See, I knew this wouldn't work. See, I knew this would be the
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  case. And as soon as we start saying
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  that all to ourselves, once again, we're energetically
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  aligned to it and boom, there we are.
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  It's a vicious circle. And breaking the circle is is
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  the essence of the work we're here to do as human beings and
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  stop treating ourselves like we would never treat anybody else.
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  You know, I'm a true believer that if you're listening to this
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  podcast, you're the type of person that does not want to
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  hurt anybody else. You're here to improve yourself.
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  You have an attitude of growth, you intend on having a growth
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  mindset, you work towards that piece of it and you really don't
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  want to go out there and and destroy energy that other people
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  have. You just want to have a happy
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  great life and all of that. I completely and totally
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  understand and I'm aligned with where you have to stop and pause
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  and and correct yourself, if you will, is you can't treat
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  yourself that way because when you treat yourself that way, it
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  just gets worse. You are actually misaligning at
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  that point in time. And the more you misalign, the
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  more you create what you don't want.
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  And again, vicious circle. So what do you do?
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  How does, how does one handle this?
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  What is the thing that one does to get out of this?
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  Well, the very first thing you have to do is recognize you're
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  doing it. So if you feel like you're doing
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  this to yourself, stop, pause and say to yourself, OK, I've
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  been doing that and it's clearly not working.
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  So I need to do something that will work.
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  Something that will work is treating yourself really well in
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  in your head. I'm not saying go out and spoil
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  yourself and do all those things.
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  Of course you can do that. But I'm talking about being
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  really thoughtful about how you're talking to yourself,
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  talking to yourself kindly. Apparently Dottie has an opinion
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  on this too. Yes, ma'am.
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  And speaking with intent of healing and saying, you know
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  what? I'm not where I want to be right
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  now and I'm going to change that.
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  I'm going to do something about this.
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  I'm moving away from this because it's not working and I'm
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  moving towards this. It's not like you have to
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  pretend you're somewhere you're not, but you're moving towards
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  what you want and away from what you don't want.
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  That is the key. Moving towards what you want and
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  moving away from what you don't want.
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  And the more you do that, the better off you are.
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  The more the more you decide to change that part of yourself,
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  the better off you are. And I can't stress enough that
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  nobody can help you with this because nobody knows what's
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  going on in your head but you. Nobody understands the
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  connections and conversations that you have with you.
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  Like you. You are the one that's in your
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  head. You are the one that's doing the
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  damage. So you have to be the one that
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  does the healing. We can all point it out.
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  But you've. Got to be the one that does it
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  if you're the one dishing it out.
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  So I'm going to challenge you to go off and see where you are,
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  not being kind to yourself in this moment.
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  Stop telling yourself you're not where you should be.
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  You are exactly where you're supposed to be.
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  You know how I know that? Because if you were not where
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  you are supposed to be, you wouldn't be there.
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  There is something in you that's keeping you where you are and
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  it's you. So we have to take
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  responsibility, ownership, shift ourselves and make better
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  choices and how we speak to ourselves and how we align
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  ourselves. I hope this is helpful and I
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  hope you treat yourself well today and I will talk to you
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  tomorrow. Bye.