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Rabbi Moshe Haber Perashat Lech Lecha Abraham: Faith, Divine Appearance, and Breaking Molds 10.31.25 · Rabbi Moshe Haber - Daily Mussar/Weekly Perasha

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  We didn't see class on Wednesday night.
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  Is that normally, how does that pass to go open up, go from your
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  land, from your birthplace, from your father's house to the land
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  that I'm going to show you? So the opening interesting
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  element is that typically a chef appears to a prophet before you
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  speak to him. And here we have the Yomar
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  Shawal Abraham, it's Shuni, it's listening, it's hearing,
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  speaking to Abraham before appearing.
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  What does appearance really mean?
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  I don't know what it you don't see anything, but you see
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  something province at the power. You know me by it.
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  Ah, by yard, by Mahasaya, different words of sight and by
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  Abraham Aveeno. It starts with sound and sound
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  is more distant than sight. That's a unique element.
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  So first he's told to go. He does go and once he goes, he
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  sees the basuk says Hashem appears to him and then we'll
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  see a rah of him, you know, builds him as Bayer to the God
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  who appeared to him. And by that wording that he
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  refers to Hashem as the God who appeared to him, we see that
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  that's like a thing that's like a milestone to have Hashem
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  appeared to him opening up without it eventually getting to
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  it. And they're opening the
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  question, what is this? He starts off Hashem talking to
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  him and then it goes Hashem appearing to him.
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  So the idea is, and a Raham is the man who represents faith and
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  represents specifically finding faith.
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  And that means starting off without being fully notified or
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  fully clear as to what he's believing in, or without having
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  total 100,000% proof to his M1 on a Shan.
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  But it was faith. Faith actually means you believe
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  in something without being fully proven.
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  Abraham is the introducer of our faith and therefore he needs to
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  build based on that. So thoughts with Hashem talking
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  to him, he follows the shem word even without appearance and then
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  he merits appearance. And if you go to an entire
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  place, you see step by step a stronger appearance, a stronger
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  appearance, stronger appearance based on his display of faith.
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  I really, which means you should go, which is Hashem telling him
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  to go on a journey a blind faith journey is it literally
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  eventually lead to that, but that's not the goal originally
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  original goal is just to follow Hashem be even if things don't
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  make perfect sense and it starts with hearing overseeing because
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  it opens up with the idea of developing faith.
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  That's the Aubrey. Now the way Hashem tells them is
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  we know, we God tells them the way Hashem says the words are
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  from your land, your birthplace and your father's house to the
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  place I'm going to show you. Interesting.
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  If you compare this, the first Test, some say this the first,
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  some say the second. You compare this test to the
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  last one, which is agadais hak. You have similar wording kar na.
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  Please take agada and take your son, your son which you love at
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  pinca de hideh hashi hafta. 3 words to describe the son and
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  take him to the spot which I'll show you for the Al Qaeda attack
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  here. To take yourself from your land,
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  your birthplace and your father's house to the place
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  which I'll show you. Opening test and final Test have
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  a similar structured wording. What's the message in that?
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  A message in these two tests and this wording is, is that Hashem
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  is building it up. He knows it's difficult to rob
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  Harvey not to do what he has to do to leave in this example or
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  to take his cock terribly difficult test and that example
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  as our sham. He's basically both building it
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  up and slowly getting around to this this moment.
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  So He does so in this process, which is take your son, your
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  first son, you know, you're your favorite son or whatever it is,
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  and your chosen son, first son, that's over there.
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  Here we told you what that's the best story.
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  But here, leave the land, your birthplace.
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  You follow his house, 'cause Hashem knows it's extremely
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  challenging to leave his father's house, very difficult.
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  And because of that, God knows I have to slow.
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  I have to tell them slowly. First Hashem says leave your
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  land. Then he sees your purse, please.
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  And then he sees you follow his house 'cause he has to get to
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  the point. But he's getting into it so
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  long. And the truth is, buy both
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  tests, the last word of those three steps are the main word by
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  its harkest, the word I share hafta, the one that you love.
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  That's where the challenge lies. The fall is love for a son.
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  And by this test is the word bet Aviva beta Aviva means I really
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  wanted a Ravigno to drop Abu Dazrah completely and to drop
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  the imprints of Abu Dazrah. And even though Robbie was
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  already a strong person going God's faith, he's still a bit of
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  the surroundings. Hashem wants the close
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  surroundings, the close influence of his family's ways.
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  Other was the man who owned up with Azadah store, as we know,
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  classic Nadas. So Hashem wanted that really to
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  be broken most of all. So that's the final word of the
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  three steps to the test, 'cause that's the main one.
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  And as it is by I could I should have hafta main challenge is the
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  fact that it's his love, his son.
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  That's a challenge. Both of them.
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  God says I'll take you to a place that I'll show you doesn't
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  tell him the location. Why not?
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  Why doesn't Hashem say the location when he tells him I
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  want you to to a place I'm going to show you because tell him
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  where why not? The idea is exactly the idea of
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  the faith is is that you know, we all like to know our future.
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  We'd love to know. We think we'd love to know
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  what's coming. The reality is a man of faith
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  does not need to know exactly what's coming, what's going to
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  be He's perfectly comfortable with the fact that what's
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  definitely coming is a shovel be the tomorrow.
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  That's what's coming. Beyond that, unnecessary.
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  Now easier said than done, much easier than done.
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  But that is the that's actually the reality of faith is the idea
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  that I'm secure in the fact that I know what's coming tomorrow.
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  God will be that that's all I need to know.
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  That's all I know and so I both test.
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  I said I didn't got where I'll show you wasn't spoken because
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  God wanted Abraham to have that face and Abraham out of the
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  face. Abraham you know his kids up and
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  starts to trouble literally to know it.
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  He doesn't know where he's going by the way, he's leaving a lot
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  behind. He's leaving this country, he's
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  leaving his town and he's leaving his family.
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  You know, it's a very interesting mirage.
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  Difficult. When I mentioned on Wednesday
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  night the way the pastor structured it, it said that his
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  father passed away. So I just want to correct this
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  pause on one second. Make sure they hit the name
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  tells us. Last week we had our hums father
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  passed away. And this week we open up with a
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  brand new story. That's with how I go anywhere.
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  Leave Beth Abira, leave your father's house with his father
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  passed away. So if you think about it, it's a
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  big deal leaving the family, not as big a deal.
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  Bet Abiha when Abiha no longer is here.
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  We felt you. You died before you.
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  Well, the way the pasuk says it, that's the order comes in,
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  Mazarian writes If you look at the structure of a Ham's life in
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  his years, they'll notice. I really tada was still alive.
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  Tada was still alive. So why did the tada say it in
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  the wording? And you know, we know there's no
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  water in the tada, but why did the tada say as if tada?
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  You know, the story goes in very clear flow.
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  This way, Raham is leftover and then raham leaves, diminishes.
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  Why didn't it say in the right way?
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  So the way they give the answer is that they say like this,
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  really our Raham had a big problem.
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  He felt very guilty leading his father.
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  It's one thing to tell me to go on my merry way, to go on a new
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  way. I understand that to leave my
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  father is very challenging. And he felt guilt.
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  And Hashem told him this, the mitage rights, you're the one
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  person, Holmes was going to get a pass to leave your father's
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  house, the one person out there. And in order to make you feel
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  better, I'm going to make it as if his father is gone.
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  And therefore God ordered to make the pressure on this order.
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  So why is that OK? One person, Alex, you should be
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  no person. You know, you can't tell me that
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  so and so has no much value out there.
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  We know how strong people that by him is.
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  Why is he the one person? So this really goes to the depth
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  of the and the importance of this pressure.
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  And that is Rola Vino in a sense as a brand new person.
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  What do I mean brand new person? Eventually he's going to change
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  his name. He is our forefather.
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  Nobody ever says that our forefather is our Abraham.
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  But really our forefather really should be Ted.
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  He's our forefather. He can't be for Abraham.
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  We don't say that. We start with our Robin who is
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  clearly our foundation and nothing before really relates.
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  We mentioned sham. Now our son, good man, led to
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  this, but not really our fulfilled.
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  Where do we mention Terra Habia banana?
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  Well, very good. That's a question.
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  It's an issue. And that is if by this seven
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  very big question or you mentioned Terra, Habia Brahan,
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  we refer to our as well as Terra.
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  And we said 2 words and we mentioned Terra.
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  Very fair question. Right afterwards we say over
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  Alva Dazira or right before with the Giladio over Alva Dazira,
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  you Alvo Teno. So in order to bring out Alva
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  Dazirao, we mentioned Terra. But for overall, for our faith,
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  Terra has cut out and our arm is the beginning because that is
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  the case. That is why it's OK for the one
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  man in history to get the pass to be told que what I am.
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  Stops now go on your way. Because Terra, it goes to
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  school, a different family and a different world and A Ravi.
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  And it's part of the emphasis of the Leslie.
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  The Leslie is forming a new mold even as it means breaking free.
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  And it's unique to A Ravi. You know, a typical Jew, any
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  Jew, you know, no matter what they're trying to build and no
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  matter what they're trying to change in that family, they're
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  not doing a legitimate total break from the original mold.
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  They may need to create their own way, They may need to have
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  different influences, and they might even need to have less
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  relationship with their family, but they're not breaking free in
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  that way. You know, many people who,
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  especially in our community who grew, they'll be defined as
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  gross, right? And they grew and they went to a
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  different level of Torah, different things, right?
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  The interesting thing you find and that it's a very nice sign
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  of strength when they still have a strong connection to their
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  family and they don't leave their family.
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  You find actually it's it's often times a a sign of lack of
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  health when they think be growing means leaving their
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  family. I know growing means you got to
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  do your own thing, but it does not mean you leave your family
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  even one drop. But we know this, we've seen
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  this, we've got this. And that's why because Abraham
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  is the only one. He's a really the first two
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  makes sense. Everybody else.
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  That's how it works. You take your family with you.
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  You may just change it up. He's the bet of your Hebraic and
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  we said that's the final element of this first Test.
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  This idea. You know, even a shame tells us
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  not to to get to the Egyptians because right now you keep it
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  very far distance from them. But you don't forget that a
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  super situation like penis and so convert also like doesn't
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  have a convert is a born and new situation.
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  He's he's a he's a better route. He's the same time correct.
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  A convert doesn't have the key what I am, but they're not
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  Jewish parents that they're not related in a sense or reality.
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  That is the only example of some of that will have been exactly
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  the same point. They are breaking free because
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  they're we're creating a new nation.
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  That's only a confident I need Joe himself.
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  That's not at that point even it's a perfect comparison.
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  Like making aliyah with something like that, Is that the
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  parallel to it? Making aliyah is someone who's
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  doing mitzvah, who's told to maybe even leave their parents,
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  but they have the very conscious of Kiwitabeim.
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  It's a classic story in the camera.
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  Well, there was a rabbi who wanted to know whether he should
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  leave Israel for the sake of visiting his mother.
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  That's exactly your point there. And the Gemara talks that they
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  were. There was a debate back and
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  forth. His mother was a challenging
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  person in reality. And the Gemara says before he
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  got the final answer, his mother passed away.
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  That's the Gemara says. But you see from that debate a
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  little bit of your point as well, which is couldn't be the
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  mitzvahed and your shoebated to sale is enough.
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  They say, even though I'm leaving my family, it's worth
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  that doesn't take away from them.
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  It's all you would have am you have to send this, you have to
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  pay for the help or stuff like that, You know, invest in the
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  help, you know, set up their help.
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  But there is a concept there as well there Li I as an example.
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  It's a good example. So every harm goes.
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  One point I want to point out and then we'll close and that is
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  you talk about lot a lot. Lot is a very common theme.
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  He's a great example for a lot of lessons.
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  It's unbelievable example. He's Mr. Extreme, he relies on
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  Mr. Bland Extreme. I mean, he's the one who travels
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  on Raha Vino. He becomes wealthy along Raha
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  Vino, right? And yet he eventually leaves the
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  fold. He goes, he's go to to a regular
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  city, he goes to the worst city on earth.
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  Then Raham risks his life to save him as a very interesting
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  man. And to see when the pasuk says
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  that Raham travels a lot, that's what he says.
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  Abraham goes as Hashem told him, but yet he told Lot and Lot
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  comes along with him. Then the basuk says by a calf
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  Abraham, Abraham ET Sarah ustah vet Lord Ben Ahir.
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  Abraham takes Sarah and Lot. So first it says Lord came along
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  with him and then says you took him and all the wealth.
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  So the idea is like this really part of Leslie was drop his
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  family's way and really that meant drop LOTH or a fame, says
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  Abraham Aveeno for his full break of Bet Adika's full break
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  for his family's house was not meant to take LOTH says what a
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  fame. The fact that he took LOTH was
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  not an incomplete version of lethal and that what a famed up
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  was says that the first moment that Abraham had a chance to
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  break free. You know that little scuffle
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  between the the shepherds later on in the palshah regarding the
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  fact that they were walking along the road after both making
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  money and the shepherds had a fight that rhymed shepherds
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  against Lord shepherds. They have rhymed said you go
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  right, I go left and he says if you look at those people came,
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  he says he says come on, that's extreme.
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  They have a little fight. You're breaking up.
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  Family shouldn't break up based on a small fight.
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  We know family stick together. Why are the rhyme sending lot
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  and a lot ends up going to Saddam says what a fame.
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  They're really from the beginning.
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  The left was out was meant to break free from Beth Abiha, and
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  he should have dropped lot. Rahm didn't feel like dropping
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  more to him feeling comfortable doing it, even though in a sense
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  maybe he should want him to be as in whatever it may be, but it
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  wasn't really a perfect. So the other thing said, B, you
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  see all these, you see newer than he told a lot.
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  It wasn't so much that Rahm wanted to take him.
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  It was more the idea that Lord wanted to come along until
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  Avraham had a chance to break free, which he does and he sends
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  him. He even does fights all the
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  kings. Oh.
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  Man, my favorite thing is this and I'll probably speak about it
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  tonight. You, you Fast forward the Prada
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  show and you have this law process.
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  When Lord comes, Avraham, then they go without the Messiah
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  because he's a famine. And then they become very
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  wealthy in the process of that famine.
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  And they'll travelled together and the shepherds have a fight
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  and therefore they have to separate and around those Lords,
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  look around, find the place you want to go.
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  You go right, I go left, you go left, I go right.
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  And Lord chooses of all places, Saddam, because the most
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  beautiful land, but it also happens to be the most sinful,
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  corrupt lands. Like saying, look around the
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  country and you say where I love to go, I love to go to Vegas
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  because it's just, you know, it's hot because it's warm.
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  And then you know what happens? So that happens.
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  So Lord goes to Saddam and then the Prashar manages a little
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  small pose while a sham appears to have, huh.
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  And then it mentions and there was a war between the four kings
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  against the five kings. The four kings will overtake or
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  the 5 kings will overtaken by the four kings.
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  Abraham hears that Lot is stuck in the middle of this battle,
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  but as part of the five Kings I, he's stuck in the middle.
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  And Abraham says he goes right at the bow.
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  Abraham gets involved literally in a World War.
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  It's literally the comparison. It's probably even down
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  downplaying it. If you'd say one man with a
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  small crew decides to get involved in Russia, Ukraine, I
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  want to get involved. They had missiles.
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  What's the matter? I want to get involved and
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  somehow miraculously he gets involved and wins.
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  Big keepers Hashem, look how much Hashem been behind the
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  person and he saves. Looked, that's the story.
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  So he asked the question what it's what type of how are you
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  doing? What's the message of that
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  story? I think the full message that
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  story is even though we have a fight with Lot and even though
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  we find out after Lord leaves that he should never have been
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  with Abraham in the 1st place, and we find out that a Lot in
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  fact was actually holding back Abraham spiritually.
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  In fact, the basuk says that God appeared to Abraham after Lord
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  left, which meant that Hashem was holding back the connection
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  to Lord pays and back to you with some of a better influence.
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  All that being said, Lord is in trouble.
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  Abraham got involved to protect the dangers.
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  Get involved. He risked his life.
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  You would say good widens. You would say I gave you, you
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  know I gave you. You became wealthy because of
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  me. You all be back while you were
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  around. I gave you an opportunity to
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  choose what you want to do when you chose Saddam.
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  There's a million reasons why he's not going to involve.
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  I'm risking my life while I risk my life.
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  Kind of like parallel to God coming back to the Jewish people
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  always saving us even though we're not deserving.
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  It's very similar and that is the MEDAV has averted the MEDAV
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  has it is to get involved. Even though you have a million
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  excuses to say no, I don't want to spend.
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  I can't afford it. I don't want to get involved.
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  They always they never, they're never grateful.
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  All right, All the classic examples that we all face.
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  They never show any appreciation.
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  They always give the other guy credit anyway.
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  They always fall back on their problems.
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  So many reasons that I can evolve.
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  I will hop ignore all those risk to life got involved and it
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  became an unbelievable condition.
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  And I think this might be the reason why after the story is
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  over, that the spoils of war, after the war, the spoils of
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  war. And they offered Abraham, you
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  know, a 10 of the spoils. And Abraham said, I'm not
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  willing to take anything, not even a strand hoot odd Srock.
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  Now I swore he swore he won't take even the shoelace.
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  Why not you willing to take gifts?
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  We see it was so early you took gifts.
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  When your wife was taking Gabby, you took gifts.
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  In fact you set up a scene so that you see like your sister so
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  you can make more money. You have no problem making
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  gifts. Also you're not drinking
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  anything and he wanted this situation of him saving lot to
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  be a clearer situation. I am not doing this for any
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  Alteria motive. I am not saying debating it.
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  I just did it for the right reason.
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  So going in, he had no excuses and going out he took nothing
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  with it was only a matter of took him suddenly for the right
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  reason. And that has to be how we care
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  about others. We don't care about others
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  father motives. It's simply for the right
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  reason. Ultimately you get more credit.
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  Ultimately you get more satisfaction, get more
• 20:45
  gratification and all the good things come with it even though
• 20:48
  you didn't expect it. That's the idea.
• 20:50
  I'll stop at this.