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Spiritual Parenting: Balancing Ancient Wisdom with Modern Life with Kara Goodwin · The Spiritual Parent: Mindful Tools for Raising Spiritual and Conscious Kids

• 0:00
  Kara Goodwin: as gentle as you can be on yourself in terms of listening, if you're tired and you can rest, if you are, if you feel like you have an overabundance of energy and you feel like you just it's like I feel like I'm just sparking and have excess energy.
• 0:17
  Kara Goodwin: A really helpful thing is to go and put your feet on the ground and like your bare feet on the ground it's called grounding and feel that as you inhale, you're pulling up the energy of the earth through the soles of the feet and letting your body have that energetic exchange with the planet.
• 0:35
  Kara Goodwin: Your body will know what to do, but there's an electronic exchange that happens when you do that.
• 0:40
  Kara Goodwin: If it's like super cold where you are and that's just not going to happen, you can find a tree.
• 0:47
  Kara Goodwin: Put both hands on a tree.
• 0:49
  Kara Goodwin: That is also grounding.
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  Kara Goodwin: Having both hands on it completes a circuit, so it's a better way to communicate with the earth when you've got both hands on it.
• 0:58
  Kara Goodwin: Salt baths can be very helpful too.
• 0:59
  Kara Goodwin: Or getting in a natural body of water, that's very helpful, but if you can't do that, or, in addition, putting some E or getting in a natural body of water, that's very helpful, but if you can't do that or, in addition, putting some Epsom salts in a bath can also be very good.
• 1:11
  Kara Goodwin: Making sure you stay hydrated that's critical as well.
• 1:15
  Kara Goodwin: Feeding yourself, nourishing foods If you're wired and then you're also like drinking a lot of caffeine and a lot of sugar and things like that, notice that and you'll want to adjust because that's going to just exasperate things.
• 1:28
  Kara Goodwin: So lots of ways for us to cope with it, but funnily enough, sometimes it takes noticing it and noticing like that we're off, because sometimes it can feel so personal, hi Conscious.
• 1:40
  Carrie Lingenfelter: Parents, it's Keri here and I am here with a little info about raising our mindful kids.
• 1:45
  Carrie Lingenfelter: I've got some tips and tricks about breaking free of the box and becoming who you are and teaching your kids how to do that along the way.
• 1:53
  Carrie Lingenfelter: Join us.
• 1:55
  Carrie Lingenfelter: Hi there, happy listeners.
• 1:56
  Carrie Lingenfelter: It's Keri here, and I'm so excited I have a new project called Conscious Family Travels on YouTube.
• 2:02
  Carrie Lingenfelter: It's all about mindfully traveling with our highly sensitive kids.
• 2:07
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• 2:13
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• 2:26
  Carrie Lingenfelter: Welcome back, it's your friendly, intuitive mama here, and I'm so excited to connect with another mother who brings in the spiritual side as well.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: I have Kara Goodwin here today.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: She's an author, an energy healer, meditation guide, and she hosts the Soul Elevation podcast meditation guide, and she hosts the soul elevation podcast.
• 2:49
  Carrie Lingenfelter: All right, so, kara, I would love to dive in.
• 2:50
  Carrie Lingenfelter: You mentioned you're a mom too, and I love that, and that your spiritual journey was when your kids were elementary age, and that's the age my kids are and a lot of our listeners are elementary age and a little bit above.
• 3:00
  Carrie Lingenfelter: What would you say is what have you found as spiritual pieces in parenting?
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: How would you say those align or have overlapped for you?
• 3:10
  Kara Goodwin: Yeah, thank you for the opportunity to give people this chance to think about themselves, to let that intersection happen of parenting and spirituality, because sometimes we can compartmentalize our lives and not really know how those two things go together.
• 3:28
  Kara Goodwin: My kids are teenagers, so I have two high schoolers and, like you said, when my awakening happened.
• 3:37
  Kara Goodwin: So some people.
• 3:37
  Kara Goodwin: They've had a spiritual journey that started from day one and they have kept that alive their whole.
• 3:45
  Kara Goodwin: That journey has stayed with them throughout their lives.
• 3:50
  Kara Goodwin: But I think for a lot of us either we don't practice the same type of spirituality that we grew up with or we didn't have a foundation.
• 3:59
  Kara Goodwin: And for me, I didn't grow up in a particularly religious household but I was always interested in spirituality and then in my early 20s that part of me died.
• 4:13
  Kara Goodwin: I withered up and I wasn't because I wasn't nurturing it, I wasn't feeding it, I was very much just in the material world and that was fine.
• 4:21
  Kara Goodwin: And I was still interested if I heard paranormal things.
• 4:25
  Kara Goodwin: That was always still really interesting to me, but I was not really sure that it was real, that people weren't just making it up and things like that.
• 4:34
  Kara Goodwin: So when I underwent my spiritual awakening, it actually happened through tragedy because many different elements of my life started to fall apart and it began with the suicide of my sister-in-law, who was also a very close friend of mine, and that was just devastating.
• 4:52
  Kara Goodwin: And it's actually it'll be eight years, nine, nine, nine years this week.
• 4:59
  Kara Goodwin: So I'm so sorry.
• 5:01
  Kara Goodwin: Yeah, thank you.
• 5:02
  Kara Goodwin: And from there, in very quick succession, three weeks later our dog died and a few weeks after that my stepdad had to, was having spinal, had a spinal stenosis surgery on his brainstem.
• 5:14
  Kara Goodwin: Then my mother-in-law was hit by a motorbike when she was crossing the street, so she was in re hospital for a long time and then, after a couple of months, after that accident, then my stepmom went into the ICU for a failing heart, went to the top of the heart transplant list and had a heart transplant on the day after Thanksgiving.
• 5:34
  Kara Goodwin: So that was, and we were living abroad when this happened, so not near either family.
• 5:40
  Kara Goodwin: So it was a very tumultuous time.
• 5:43
  Kara Goodwin: It was like I felt like I had been coasting through, enjoying this like Mediterranean lifestyle and enjoying life, and then it was just like one, one thing after another was getting ripped away and it was disorienting, to say the least.
• 6:01
  Kara Goodwin: And so ultimately, through that I found meditation and I felt such a relief from the practice of meditation.
• 6:12
  Kara Goodwin: It really helped to center me and it was still a very secular practice.
• 6:17
  Kara Goodwin: It was really just about calming my nervous system.
• 6:20
  Kara Goodwin: But with my kids, they're part of my family and they're going through this too and my daughter, I want to say, was like five or six at this time, my son was eight or nine and both, especially my son, I felt could really benefit from meditation.
• 6:37
  Kara Goodwin: Who can't benefit from?
• 6:38
  Kara Goodwin: Meditation.
• 6:39
  Kara Goodwin: This place is a mess.
• 6:41
  Carrie Lingenfelter: Life is hard.
• 6:43
  Kara Goodwin: And we all yeah, we're all just who can't use some nourishment in their nervous system, and so just to feel like things are okay and to realize that we have the capability within us, like that comes from within us.
• 6:58
  Kara Goodwin: It doesn't come from somebody handing us peace of mind.
• 7:02
  Kara Goodwin: We can, we ignite it within ourselves even with what the external is bringing up.
• 7:08
  Kara Goodwin: And and my son in particular was just a he just had a harder time generally, like socially, at that time.
• 7:16
  Kara Goodwin: He's made leaps and strides since we were living abroad.
• 7:20
  Kara Goodwin: We were in an international school, but we lived in Italy, and so most of the population of the school spoke Italian.
• 7:29
  Kara Goodwin: There were a lot of native Italian speakers or expats, but their native language was a Latin based and so Italian was a lot easier for them.
• 7:40
  Kara Goodwin: There was a really small percentage of people who were English speakers, and that just adds another layer of complexity to that.
• 7:49
  Kara Goodwin: It's a hard age.
• 7:50
  Kara Goodwin: Any ages are just hard.
• 7:52
  Kara Goodwin: Life is hard.
• 7:54
  Carrie Lingenfelter: It's hard to be a human.
• 7:55
  Carrie Lingenfelter: Yes, I get it.
• 7:57
  Kara Goodwin: And so when you already aren't like losing confidence, and then you're put in a situation where, like you're ripped from everything that's familiar from to you and you're entering into this small environment where there's only one classroom per grade.
• 8:14
  Kara Goodwin: These kids have known each other for years because they just keep moving up grades together.
• 8:18
  Kara Goodwin: They can speak like the secret code that you can't crack and you're you just feel like the outsider all the time.
• 8:27
  Kara Goodwin: So I kept I my mind was like this will really help my kids, like I want them to grow up with this tool.
• 8:35
  Kara Goodwin: Yeah, and so I'm.
• 8:38
  Kara Goodwin: As I was learning meditation, I was making a point of translating that into how do you do this for kids, and so I did things before we would leave for school get your stuffed animal, get your favorite stuffed animal, let's put it on your belly and let's just take some breaths and notice the like when you inhale, make the the stuffed animal rise, and then, as you exhale, notice it fall back down and just do that and that it was great.
• 9:09
  Kara Goodwin: For a couple of weeks, honestly, while they were interested in it, it was great, but it did not take long before that became a push where it was like all right, we're going to leave.
• 9:24
  Kara Goodwin: Guys, Come on, get your.
• 9:25
  Kara Goodwin: Why are your shoes not on?
• 9:27
  Kara Goodwin: All right, get on the couch, get your.
• 9:28
  Kara Goodwin: Get your stuffed animals.
• 9:30
  Kara Goodwin: We don't have to come on guys.
• 9:32
  Kara Goodwin: Yeah, Real life, yes, and it was this thing.
• 9:35
  Kara Goodwin: They didn't want to do it anymore.
• 9:37
  Kara Goodwin: It was this I don't want to.
• 9:40
  Kara Goodwin: And that was an interesting place to be in, because and it's just a really also it's a metaphor for our roles as parents, where it is like we know things that could really benefit them.
• 9:56
  Kara Goodwin: We know these tools that we have, and they're their own person, they're their own being, they have their own desires, and sometimes, the more we push, the more we're pushing away.
• 10:11
  Kara Goodwin: And it became this really obvious thing where it was like, wow, they're really rejecting now this mindfulness, they're rejecting this.
• 10:20
  Kara Goodwin: Notice your breath Like it's got, it's like tainting because I'm pushing so hard.
• 10:25
  Kara Goodwin: And I was like the last thing I want them to do is to feel like, no, that's that stupid thing that my mom makes me do.
• 10:33
  Kara Goodwin: And and they're so young that it's such a that you're, there's such a deep imprint from those times.
• 10:39
  Kara Goodwin: So that was something that my ego needed to recognize.
• 10:42
  Kara Goodwin: Like you may know something that you think, but there's another layer to this that you would be wise to take note of, and it's not just about research, it's not just about what your meditation teacher is telling you, it's not just about what YouTube videos are telling you.
• 10:59
  Kara Goodwin: You can see what's happening here and what do you really want for them.
• 11:04
  Kara Goodwin: It just felt important for me to notice, like, long-term, I really want them to have a healthy relationship with these tools, and if that means that this isn't the right time for it, then that's what that means.
• 11:19
  Kara Goodwin: And that kind of reared its head again because I did just drop it and it was like okay, yeah, ultimately, the and that was years ago and I have continued to uphold my role at this time is as a role model for as far as, like the meditation things go, they know how important it is and I, and they can see that the.
• 11:41
  Kara Goodwin: They can see how I behave and my ability to cope with stress and the way that people comment about how they feel when they're around me and things like that.
• 11:54
  Kara Goodwin: It's like that's just there for them to notice.
• 11:56
  Kara Goodwin: And then, as they mature and as they deal with life and life gets more complicated for them they know very well what this tool is or these types of tools that I have.
• 12:11
  Kara Goodwin: Where to find it, where to get their support?
• 12:14
  Kara Goodwin: But it did rear its head again recently because my daughter had a health issue and needed a very extensive surgery a few months ago.
• 12:25
  Kara Goodwin: And leading up to the surgery, Okay, so my I have.
• 12:30
  Kara Goodwin: I like I prefer alternative health and I like I don't necessarily run to my Western medicine doctor for them to prescribe a lot of things for me or to advise.
• 12:44
  Kara Goodwin: And so when I knew that we had this problem, I we dealt with it for many years and I tried a lot of different things and she came along for the ride for a lot of different types of treatment and I think for her she was hoping for a silver bullet and I knew that none of these things were going to be a silver bullet.
• 13:08
  Kara Goodwin: I would try something and it didn't immediately fix it.
• 13:13
  Kara Goodwin: She would be like let's just have the surgery because this isn't working.
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  Kara Goodwin: So it was another, like ego push, pull.
• 13:21
  Kara Goodwin: I don't tend to go to extremes on any, so I knew that there could be a role for Western medicine into that.
• 13:32
  Kara Goodwin: But I just didn't want to be like, first and foremost, let's have surgery, but I just didn't want to be like, first and foremost, let's have surgery.
• 13:47
  Kara Goodwin: But that was another time where the time came and she was just done and she was just like no, I don't want being careful about the words that I chose and the energy that I put out there of okay, this is the path forward.
• 14:02
  Kara Goodwin: You have an amazing team, you are, you're surrounded by angels and helpers in the Pete.
• 14:07
  Kara Goodwin: You have the.
• 14:08
  Kara Goodwin: You have a great medical team this you have people around the world praying for you, and so it was like invoking this holistic thing.
• 14:16
  Kara Goodwin: But, okay, we're moving forward.
• 14:18
  Kara Goodwin: There is a place for the surgeon and the surgical team and we are blessing them and we are bringing in, like the full force of all the energy, the energetic support that we can.
• 14:31
  Kara Goodwin: But it is what it is and I'm not going to go.
• 14:34
  Kara Goodwin: I'm not going to like be irresponsible with either, with my egoic Nope.
• 14:40
  Kara Goodwin: This is the way forward.
• 14:41
  Kara Goodwin: The only way is the alternative way and also just respecting her.
• 14:47
  Kara Goodwin: I've had enough.
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  Kara Goodwin: Now, when it's okay, it is your body and I'm your guardian.
• 14:52
  Kara Goodwin: You're still 14.
• 14:54
  Kara Goodwin: So you know, but you're 14 and this is your life, your body, and so I was like Kara listen to her.
• 15:01
  Kara Goodwin: What is she wanting to tell you?
• 15:04
  Carrie Lingenfelter: I love how you stayed conscious in that, because I feel like the pendulum can swing so far in either direction alternative medicine or Western medicine, the pendulum tends to go really far.
• 15:16
  Carrie Lingenfelter: And being conscious as a parent and also acknowledging sometimes the mom shame that can come with it, we did not have the exact same level of intensity.
• 15:29
  Carrie Lingenfelter: My daughter recently.
• 15:30
  Carrie Lingenfelter: We were sick a week and a half ago.
• 15:32
  Carrie Lingenfelter: We're still getting over it, but she had an ear infection and I tried all the alternative methods, all of the pieces, and it was so intense and I've had a friend who the tympanic membrane, the eardrum, ruptured.
• 15:45
  Carrie Lingenfelter: So in my mind I'm like there's a balance, right, there's this balance, and then you have the mom shame of oh God.
• 15:51
  Carrie Lingenfelter: I have to give her antibiotics.
• 15:53
  Carrie Lingenfelter: Oh, that's the worst, and you're not supposed to do that because of gut health and all these things.
• 15:57
  Carrie Lingenfelter: Right, the pendulum as it swings in either direction.
• 16:00
  Carrie Lingenfelter: So I love how conscious you were about that and you're looking at is it my ego side saying it?
• 16:07
  Carrie Lingenfelter: And then also, once you made a choice, you jumped in and you used all your spiritual tools with you and your mindful tools along the way to really feel protected and present, and this is what we're going to do right now.
• 16:22
  Carrie Lingenfelter: So it was beautiful how you transitioned into that.
• 16:25
  Kara Goodwin: Thank you so much.
• 16:26
  Kara Goodwin: And that's a powerful story too, and so relatable with the antibiotics, and that's another piece to our spiritual evolution, as some people come to spiritual evolution through parenthood, through the portal of becoming a parent that is that ignition within them of, okay, there's something more here, like reality has shifted.
• 16:47
  Kara Goodwin: What's?
• 16:47
  Kara Goodwin: There's a lot deeper Things are deeper than I expected.
• 16:51
  Kara Goodwin: So what does this mean?
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  Kara Goodwin: And that can take them into spirituality.
• 16:53
  Kara Goodwin: But for a lot of people, that deeper than I expected.
• 16:53
  Kara Goodwin: So what does this mean?
• 16:53
  Kara Goodwin: And that can take them into spirituality?
• 16:54
  Kara Goodwin: But for a lot of people, that entry point is health.
• 16:57
  Kara Goodwin: It's a health crisis, and they go through something, whether it's a family member or themselves or both, and just what you're saying.
• 17:06
  Kara Goodwin: The pendulum can go so far over.
• 17:09
  Kara Goodwin: And a big component, in my opinion, of spiritual evolution, spiritual growth, enlightenment, whatever you, however, you relate to, that is empowerment and it is the and understanding that your doctor is not the be all and end all.
• 17:27
  Kara Goodwin: They're not a god, they are not actually the one responsible for your health.
• 17:32
  Kara Goodwin: You are actually responsible for your health, and that can be a big, a big step for people to in their own growth and evolution.
• 17:42
  Kara Goodwin: But that empowerment piece is critical and it requires discernment, and so we can that.
• 17:51
  Kara Goodwin: What can happen in it frankly, it does happen a lot is we throw the baby out with the bathwater, whether that is oh, my eyes are open to this whole petroleum pharma big government like industrial military complex and how it all works together and it's like we're just like the what they're feeding on and it's not actually about our health.
• 18:19
  Kara Goodwin: If that's like the conclusion that we're coming to, then we might say, okay, what I actually wanted to do is go to, I'm going to pick on functional medicine.
• 18:29
  Kara Goodwin: Now my doctor is a functional medicine doctor.
• 18:31
  Kara Goodwin: I really appreciate functional medicine in that viewpoint, but there is a watch out there because it a lot of functional medicine programs are member-based, they're subscription-based, and it can be one of those things where you get you decide that the only true medical way to go is through functional medicine.
• 18:55
  Kara Goodwin: You can say the same thing about chiropractic you can say that and which I also use, say the same thing about acupuncture, which I also use.
• 19:03
  Kara Goodwin: No judgment, but it's like, from an empowerment standpoint, we just want, we need to stay in our discernment and not say, okay, I withdraw the power that I was giving to my primary care physician, who was a traditional Western person, or the pediatrician, who is a traditional to traditionally trained Western doctor, and I'm just going to hand that over now to this functional medicine group and if they tell me that I need 16 supplements that I have to buy through their practice.
• 19:32
  Kara Goodwin: I need that every month.
• 19:34
  Kara Goodwin: I need to be in a membership program and we have this even with veterinary care.
• 19:38
  Kara Goodwin: Like the vets are membership based.
• 19:42
  Kara Goodwin: I just picture when I see these programs.
• 19:45
  Kara Goodwin: I just picture these business consultants in a room with all these whiteboards like trying to finagle the system to manipulate everybody to be like, okay, they might need, is it enough that they're coming to the vet once a year if they have healthy pets?
• 20:01
  Kara Goodwin: No, let's incentivize them to come as much as possible so that we can have the opportunity to one get funds from them, even when they only really need to come in once a month or once a year, if that, but also whatever we find on top of it that we can sell to them.
• 20:20
  Kara Goodwin: This is the reality.
• 20:21
  Kara Goodwin: So really it is Again, I've got pets, I go to the vet.
• 20:26
  Kara Goodwin: I'm not like trying to shame anybody I'm in this system too, but these are the reality checks and the learnings that I have experienced along the way, where I'm like, wow, I could spend a fortune at my functional medicine doctor and I'm a really healthy.
• 20:43
  Kara Goodwin: So yeah, opening our eyes and staying empowered.
• 20:49
  Carrie Lingenfelter: Yeah, finding a balance between it all is so important and also being conscious in it for sure.
• 20:55
  Carrie Lingenfelter: I was going to ask you when you were going through your challenging situation and you're having so many things with so many family members when you were living abroad in Italy, meditation and sounds helped you as you were going through that spiritual journey.
• 21:09
  Carrie Lingenfelter: Was there anything else?
• 21:11
  Carrie Lingenfelter: Is that when your the energy healing, or what did you do to help yourself in that time?
• 21:16
  Carrie Lingenfelter: I feel like so many parents right now are raising intense, spiritually gifted, gifted kids, highly sensitive kids, and it can feel so intense on our systems.
• 21:29
  Carrie Lingenfelter: Yeah, yeah, so I was curious.
• 21:31
  Kara Goodwin: Yeah, so part of my like learning meditation there was also a big breath, breath work.
• 21:37
  Kara Goodwin: Focus on that too, and breath work is so helpful for regulating our nervous system.
• 21:43
  Kara Goodwin: It's, it is this shortcut, it is this way to like hack in and it takes that mindfulness of noticing, cause we can just be in the thick of it.
• 21:52
  Kara Goodwin: It's like when things are whirling around us and we're all caught up in everything, it can be really hard to even notice that we're not really breathing, or we're breathing really shallowly or we're holding our breath, or when it's like noticing.
• 22:05
  Kara Goodwin: Even just this weekend, I didn't have anything in particular that was stressful that I could point a finger at, but I could.
• 22:12
  Kara Goodwin: I just kept feeling this tightness in my solar plexus, at the top of my stomach, and I was like what is that?
• 22:19
  Kara Goodwin: And then I was like just breathe down in there, and so I wanted to feel it opening up.
• 22:24
  Kara Goodwin: I wanted to feel my solar plexus, which is just this bundle of nerves just below where your rib cage and you know where it comes together at the bottom.
• 22:33
  Kara Goodwin: Just below that is this bundle of nerves, the solar plexus, and I was just consciously, while I was driving, like inhaling and filling that and feeling it expand and it was like I feel like that's the first breath I've taken and I don't even know why, but it was just like gosh when it was so tight.
• 22:50
  Kara Goodwin: And so when we're in that constant state of worry, of anxiety, of whatever it is that we're in, getting that breath down into the belly is critical.
• 23:02
  Kara Goodwin: But there are other like magical breath work, pranayama exercises, that really help to change, like the pH of our oxygen and our blood sorry, ph of the blood through the oxygen regulation.
• 23:14
  Kara Goodwin: So that was a big part of it.
• 23:17
  Kara Goodwin: And then other components that can go alongside with meditation, like affirmations, can be huge, because the affirmations it's the repetition of a word.
• 23:26
  Kara Goodwin: So if we're using your native language, you might be saying something that is.
• 23:31
  Kara Goodwin: I just led an affirmation meditation yesterday and we were saying like I am love, I am loved, I love, and it was just this repetition of those three phrases.
• 23:44
  Kara Goodwin: And over the more you say it, you get beyond the concept of it and there's just this energy, this like signature, and it just becomes.
• 23:56
  Kara Goodwin: But words are spells.
• 23:58
  Kara Goodwin: What are the gospels?
• 24:00
  Kara Goodwin: God spells.
• 24:02
  Kara Goodwin: There is such power, there's energetic power where the sounds that we make actually have a geometric signature.
• 24:12
  Kara Goodwin: And if you've ever heard of cymatics, there's a really fascinating field of sound study called cymatics, where it's different ways that we can visually see sound, so we can see these shapes that sounds are making, and we also, fundamentally, our energy.
• 24:34
  Kara Goodwin: So it's this way that we get our energy coherent and organized.
• 24:39
  Kara Goodwin: And I didn't have that level of insight while I was doing it, but it just was a another tool, like back then when I was just trying to keep my head above water.
• 24:48
  Kara Goodwin: But, but that can be another really effective way is using affirmations.
• 24:53
  Kara Goodwin: And then visualizations is another component that's really helpful if you're in a meditative state.
• 24:59
  Kara Goodwin: But visualizing whether that's just being in a peaceful meadow, being on the beach, just feeling like everything dropping away, letting yourself be just with the waves, or just with the earth, just with the sun and the calmness of that, or, if it's more okay, I want to be in a sacred.
• 25:22
  Kara Goodwin: I'm imagining myself in the sacred temple with my higher self, with my spirit, guides, angels, whatever it is that we resonate with.
• 25:32
  Kara Goodwin: There might be some ascended masters that we feel like could bless us in this space, or whatever it might be, but those are all.
• 25:41
  Kara Goodwin: The imagination is a huge.
• 25:44
  Kara Goodwin: It's a huge tool that can really help us.
• 25:47
  Kara Goodwin: It's actually the imagination.
• 25:49
  Kara Goodwin: I always say the imagination is actually a portal, it's a gateway.
• 25:53
  Kara Goodwin: It's not.
• 25:53
  Kara Goodwin: We're not making it up, we're just using the power of the imagination to open us up to other realities that we have the power to bring in through what might feel like make-believe.
• 26:06
  Kara Goodwin: And it's a great way to also connect with our kids.
• 26:12
  Kara Goodwin: Because I feel this now I have this internal resistance to like trying to force anything on my kids and if there are parents of teenagers who are listening to you get it also, because when my kids were in elementary school, we just had a different connection than what you have when they're teenagers and I never thought especially my daughter.
• 26:33
  Kara Goodwin: I was like, oh, she won't be like your typical teenager, she'll we'll still be close and we have a connection.
• 26:41
  Kara Goodwin: And there was my ego again.
• 26:43
  Kara Goodwin: That needed to be tempered, because she's a regular teenager and it can be hard to connect with her and they're in their phones and I I do try to tell them like guys, get out of your phones, come and join us, come on, we're here.
• 26:56
  Kara Goodwin: Hello.
• 26:57
  Kara Goodwin: 3d Physical reality it's around you, but I that is one of the things that I love to do in my meditation is just feeling like connecting with the energy, the spiritual nature of that spiritual aspect of myself, because just whoever's listening and just like you, carrie, I'm a human with a physical body.
• 27:21
  Kara Goodwin: I have thoughts, I have emotions, but really, beyond all of that, all of those are temporary expressions of this eternal being that I am, and that eternal being is energy, is energetic, and my kids have that too, and so in meditation that is what I really enjoy doing, especially when they're in need, if they're not feeling well or if they're, if they're having going through a hard time in some way.
• 27:47
  Kara Goodwin: It's like getting myself still so that I can perceive my own energy, and then I might use a visualization, and then I visualize them and a lot of times I'll see them as like a being of light, or I see them more like transparently, so that it's not even just the physical, and then feeling like that my heart is radiating to their heart, or that they're wrapped in divine energy and high frequency energy, or that they are.
• 28:16
  Kara Goodwin: Their connection with their guides is getting stronger and they're just receiving these blessings.
• 28:22
  Kara Goodwin: And every single day I meditate and every single day I ask God to protect them, to wrap them in God's light and to strengthen their connection, that kind of sneaky way where I don't necessarily have to beat a dead horse with them of don't forget, god's there for you and all this, which is great if they will listen and they're open to that.
• 28:45
  Kara Goodwin: But failing that or not, we still have power as energetic beings to bless everybody that we love, and so my kids and my husband in particular, my pets, always get that individual blessing every day as well as part of my meditation.
• 29:05
  Carrie Lingenfelter: That's beautiful.
• 29:05
  Carrie Lingenfelter: I love the way you describe that connection and how the process and everything, because I'm thinking in my mind yes, I have elementary kids and right now we can do the guided meditations, or every night when we're going to bed I do it with my seven-year-old and almost 10-year-old and they ask me for it, they ask me for Reiki.
• 29:25
  Carrie Lingenfelter: So they're still at that age where it's exciting and it's fun.
• 29:28
  Carrie Lingenfelter: And then I'm thinking in my mind maybe I'm like planting these seeds for when they're 16 one day.
• 29:36
  Carrie Lingenfelter: And yes, my ego is, oh, but of course we're going to be connected and we'll still be doing.
• 29:40
  Carrie Lingenfelter: No, carrie, let's be realistic here, as Kara has told you.
• 29:44
  Carrie Lingenfelter: So I'm hoping like maybe if we've planted some of those seeds, then they'll have those tools for when they're having those hard moments.
• 29:52
  Carrie Lingenfelter: But you did also help my mama heart and maybe my ego a little bit in saying we can still connect with them energetically, we can still spiritually connect with them as they're older and when they're not wanting to do the guided meditation with mom me at that point.
• 30:10
  Kara Goodwin: Yes, and I hope for you that they'll.
• 30:13
  Kara Goodwin: That will be a habit that they'll love to continue with.
• 30:16
  Kara Goodwin: Yeah, who's to?
• 30:18
  Carrie Lingenfelter: say don't, let me limit you.
• 30:19
  Carrie Lingenfelter: Who's to say we never know?
• 30:20
  Carrie Lingenfelter: Never know what's coming.
• 30:21
  Carrie Lingenfelter: This morning I was listening to one of your recent episodes about the solar flares and the energy with the sun and I found it so fascinating because my almost 10 year old this past week we've all been sick and I've been hearing there's been a lot of energy, like, oh, that's interesting.
• 30:38
  Carrie Lingenfelter: And my son turned to me and he said, mom, I feel like I'm, I've had this shift and I'm more intuitively connected right now.
• 30:45
  Carrie Lingenfelter: And I was like, whoa, that is really cool, dude.
• 30:49
  Carrie Lingenfelter: We were just celebrating.
• 30:50
  Carrie Lingenfelter: Okay, sometimes that can come with our headaches.
• 30:52
  Carrie Lingenfelter: Maybe that's why our head is hurting, because we're in tune and we're connected and it's just showing us.
• 30:57
  Carrie Lingenfelter: So let's release that pain, like I know that you're there and we're connected.
• 31:00
  Carrie Lingenfelter: Let's release it.
• 31:01
  Carrie Lingenfelter: Have you found any tools when you're going through this heightened sensitivity piece?
• 31:06
  Carrie Lingenfelter: My daughter's seven, she's been more agitated than normal, like just very sensitive.
• 31:12
  Carrie Lingenfelter: I was curious if you have any tools for those times.
• 31:15
  Kara Goodwin: Yeah, that is so fascinating with your son that he was not only just recognizing that something felt different, but that he felt a shift and that he felt more connected.
• 31:26
  Kara Goodwin: That's just amazing and I think it's such an amazing indication of just the souls that are coming in, like this young generation who it's like.
• 31:37
  Kara Goodwin: We have just some really incredible, like such special beings incarnating now, which is so exciting.
• 31:45
  Kara Goodwin: Yeah, thinking about the solar flares, the, the geomagnetic activity on the planet people may be familiar with the Schumann resonance when that spikes, all of things work together and I'll just lay the foundation in case there are people who are like what in the world are we even talking about?
• 32:02
  Kara Goodwin: The sun emits frequencies or emits energies and sometimes they it will shoot out these concentrated energy bursts, and the sun is much bigger than earth.
• 32:13
  Kara Goodwin: So a lot of times these huge they call them flares, solar flares, will happen and they it's not directly earth facing.
• 32:21
  Kara Goodwin: We might get a little bit of side radiation.
• 32:24
  Kara Goodwin: Sometimes we get a big one and it's coming right at earth.
• 32:28
  Kara Goodwin: We'll have an, or there might be like a coronal hole and that emits like solar wind which increases the wind.
• 32:35
  Kara Goodwin: We've had a lot of those lately.
• 32:36
  Kara Goodwin: Increases the wind we can also have if we come back to the earth, so anyway.
• 32:42
  Kara Goodwin: So when that happens with the sun, the energy of the sun travels.
• 32:46
  Kara Goodwin: It's, it starts with the sun, but then it travels and it hits all the planets in our solar system, including the earth, and so we have this protection quote unquote protection around the planet, which is our geomagnetic sphere.
• 33:01
  Kara Goodwin: It's like this magnetic force field around our planet, and so we simultaneously have these times where that's that weakens, so the magnetic sphere of the planet weakens.
• 33:14
  Kara Goodwin: And so if we have a weakened magnetic sphere and then we have this heightened solar activity, it means that we're getting more radiation in the planet because that protective, like magnetic field keeps the radiation, the solar radiation, the cosmic radiation.
• 33:30
  Kara Goodwin: It keeps it from coming directly into the planet and affecting us as much, those things.
• 33:35
  Kara Goodwin: So when we have things like geomagnetic storms, that can be that the magnetics are changing and that can be with a physical manifestation that we can see of that is the changing in the northern lights.
• 33:47
  Kara Goodwin: So when you see things you might see things in the news about, oh, the Northern lights are visible like way further South than normal, or they're very active.
• 33:55
  Kara Goodwin: That is what that is.
• 33:57
  Kara Goodwin: And then the resonance is like the heartbeat of the planet, so that's a planetary vibration that will spike and so we have this kind of frequency that is the sort of normal frequency for the planet.
• 34:11
  Kara Goodwin: Then that can get high and all of these things together affect us, just like your son was intuiting, because we are energy beings.
• 34:21
  Kara Goodwin: So, even though we have physicality, we experience ourselves as solid, but we are energy, that we're comprised of energy underneath and beneath and behind, like all the physical, all the physicality where it's actually.
• 34:36
  Kara Goodwin: We're an energy being and our physicality is affected by changes in energy.
• 34:43
  Kara Goodwin: And so, in terms of what I do, when I notice things, so a lot of times like I'll feel tired and if I can, I'll rest, but there are times where I feel like anxiety and I can't pinpoint why.
• 34:58
  Kara Goodwin: I'm like gosh.
• 34:59
  Kara Goodwin: It feels like I'm, it's like this anticipation of something that I feel like I'm almost like storing energy for or I'm nervous about or whatever, but I don't really know what it is that's causing that.
• 35:13
  Kara Goodwin: We can, so there can be the tired or wired or headaches, like you mentioned.
• 35:18
  Kara Goodwin: That can be really common one as well.
• 35:20
  Kara Goodwin: We can have hormonal imbalances.
• 35:22
  Kara Goodwin: It can cause physical issues where sinus pressure or cold-like symptoms.
• 35:28
  Kara Goodwin: All of those things are legitimate responses from an energetic perspective and it's just our bodies taking this new information and being like, okay, this is different than what, how I'm used to vibing.
• 35:43
  Kara Goodwin: And so there's this period where our energy is like integrating it or going okay, here's this new thing I'm getting hit with and I don't already have.
• 35:53
  Kara Goodwin: It doesn't have anywhere to go because I don't know what to do with it, because this is new, and so your body's trying to figure out what do we do with this?
• 36:02
  Kara Goodwin: And so, as gentle as you can be on yourself in terms of listening if you're tired, and you can rest if you are, if you feel like you have an overabundance of energy and you feel like you just it's like I feel like I'm just sparking and have excess energy.
• 36:20
  Kara Goodwin: A really helpful thing is to go and put your feet on the ground and like your bare feet on the ground it's called grounding and feel that as you inhale, you're pulling up the energy of the earth through the soles of the feet and letting your body have that energetic exchange with the planet.
• 36:39
  Kara Goodwin: Your body will know what to do, but there's an electronic change that happens when you do that.
• 36:44
  Kara Goodwin: If it's like super cold where you are and that's just not going to happen.
• 36:49
  Kara Goodwin: You can find a tree.
• 36:51
  Kara Goodwin: Put both hands on a tree.
• 36:53
  Kara Goodwin: That is also grounding.
• 36:54
  Kara Goodwin: Having both hands on it completes a circuit, so it's a better way to communicate with the earth when you've got both hands on it.
• 37:02
  Kara Goodwin: Salt baths can be very helpful too.
• 37:05
  Kara Goodwin: Or getting in a natural body of water that's very helpful, but if you can't do that, or, in addition, putting some Epsom salts in a bath can also be very good.
• 37:15
  Kara Goodwin: Making sure you stay hydrated that's critical as well.
• 37:19
  Kara Goodwin: Feeding yourself, nourishing foods If you're wired and then you're also like drinking a lot of caffeine and a lot of sugar and things like that, notice that and you'll want to adjust because that's going to just exasperate things.
• 37:37
  Kara Goodwin: So lots of ways for us to cope with it.
• 37:38
  Kara Goodwin: But funnily enough, sometimes it takes noticing it and noticing like that we're off, because sometimes it can feel so personal.
• 37:43
  Kara Goodwin: It's like people are triggering us and we can think like why is that person saying these, why is everybody annoying me?
• 37:50
  Kara Goodwin: And it can feel like other people are doing it to us and we don't recognize.
• 37:56
  Kara Goodwin: Wait a second.
• 37:56
  Kara Goodwin: Maybe it's me, maybe I'm extra sensitive or I'm irritated or I need to take care of myself.
• 38:03
  Kara Goodwin: There's something within me that's calling out for some nourishment or some TLC.
• 38:10
  Carrie Lingenfelter: Yeah, I love the way you describe it.
• 38:12
  Carrie Lingenfelter: I think so many of us may have those heightened sensitivities here and there and not know how to describe it.
• 38:17
  Carrie Lingenfelter: And it's interesting because as an adult, you can be like oh, I'm feeling more anxious, oh, I'm feeling more agitated, I'm tired, all these pieces, whereas my seven-year-old she might just be erupting a lot during the week and she can't tell us why.
• 38:32
  Carrie Lingenfelter: She doesn't know why yet, maybe.
• 38:34
  Carrie Lingenfelter: But, yes, understanding seeing the pattern in your kids and then, like you said, finding some of these tools, slowing things down and knowing it's not always going to be like this it's a it's a phase with your kiddo right now, possibly, and my daughter's better now.
• 38:50
  Carrie Lingenfelter: So we slowed everything down for a couple of weeks and we went through that period and now we're back to normal.
• 38:56
  Carrie Lingenfelter: Yeah, hang in there, parents, it's not forever.
• 38:58
  Carrie Lingenfelter: Yes, I love it.
• 39:00
  Carrie Lingenfelter: Yeah, so you wrote a book.
• 39:03
  Carrie Lingenfelter: Can you tell us about it?
• 39:04
  Carrie Lingenfelter: It sounds really nice.
• 39:06
  Kara Goodwin: Yes, thank you.
• 39:07
  Kara Goodwin: It's called your Authentic Awakening a guide to everyday spiritual living.
• 39:11
  Kara Goodwin: So this is more for nourishing our own spiritual journey as parents.
• 39:19
  Kara Goodwin: It's not so much it can be for any age, but it's not really written for kids.
• 39:24
  Kara Goodwin: But really we need to know how to fill our own cup so that we have more to give to our kids, and the more that we're in alignment within ourselves body, mind and soul the better parents we are and the better we can emulate or that our kids have that role model to emulate and our energy ripples out to everything.
• 39:45
  Kara Goodwin: But it really it talks about my journey, but it also it's more about the awakening process and some of the ways that things can become tricky and sticky and and be hard terrain to navigate.
• 40:03
  Kara Goodwin: There are a lot of practical tools.
• 40:05
  Kara Goodwin: Every chapter finishes with a do it section, which is okay.
• 40:09
  Kara Goodwin: Here's here are the concepts that we talked about and the examples that you saw.
• 40:13
  Kara Goodwin: Here are practical things that you can do to help integrate what we've been talking about.
• 40:19
  Kara Goodwin: So that is the nuts and bolts of it.
• 40:24
  Carrie Lingenfelter: Great, and it's called your authentic awakening.
• 40:27
  Kara Goodwin: Yes.
• 40:28
  Carrie Lingenfelter: Okay, great, yeah, and we'll include I can include all of your info in our show notes today, and thanks so much for coming on and sharing all of your background and all of your stories with us.
• 40:40
  Carrie Lingenfelter: It's been such a treat.
• 40:42
  Kara Goodwin: This has been wonderful.
• 40:43
  Kara Goodwin: Carrie, thank you for everything that you're doing for parents and for kids and helping people to open up their hearts and increase that heart to heart connection with their kids.
• 40:54
  Kara Goodwin: It's so critical, and thanks for having me on your great host.
• 40:59
  Carrie Lingenfelter: Thanks so much.
• 40:59
  Carrie Lingenfelter: I look forward to connecting with you on your show.
• 41:02
  Kara Goodwin: Yes, I can't wait.
• 41:05
  Carrie Lingenfelter: Well, that's a wrap.
• 41:06
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• 41:08
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• 41:08
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• 41:19
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• 41:28
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• 41:34
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