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Feel the Fear and Drive Anyway - Hypnosis for Overcoming Driving Anxiety · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing
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  genuine. Issues.
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  Brought to you by The Hypnotherapist, demanded by
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  celebrities CE OS and even royalty Adam Cox, these
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  recordings took place live from Evans Clinic in London's world
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  famous Harley Street. So get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Hi, it's Adam here and you're about to listen to a hypnosis
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  session all about facing a fear. And I was working with a client
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  that happened to had a fear of driving, particularly on
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  motorways and dual carriageways. And it had become almost the
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  thinking about the problem itself was causing the anxiety.
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  And that creates a self fulfilling prophecy because if
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  thinking about it makes you anxious and anxious creates
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  avoidance and then you never do the thing, you can never call
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  the bluff on that anxiety. So the essence of this hypnosis
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  session is to really prepare the mind to feel capable and willing
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  to experience temporary discomfort, to do the thing in a
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  resourceful way, and by doing so, shatter the very shackles
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  that keep the anxiety in place. You've got to think of it as
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  almost kind of like a if the belief system that causes the
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  anxiety is based on a false belief and avoiding means that
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  you never get to disprove that belief, then the anxiety
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  continues by doing it and doing it until you feel completely
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  comfortable and relaxed. That's the thing that's called
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  the convincer strategy that absolutely shatters the belief.
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  And this client had had experiences.
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  Of just. Feeling I'm just going to do it
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  and fully committing to that thing.
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  And that was things that related to things that most people would
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  consider scary, like large motorcycle jumps.
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  But they committed to the thing, they did the thing, and the
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  anxiety went away. It takes that essence and
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  applies it to the motorway or a Rd. driving, and it uses the
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  essence of what courage is all about.
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  Courage is not the absence of fear, it's the willingness to
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  feel anxious, to feel on edge, to feel that kind of daunting
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  sensation and then just do the thing anyway.
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  And what you tend to find is that the very moment that you
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  don't just tentatively do it, but absolutely commit to the
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  thing, quite often the anxiety disappears immediately and you
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  get the evidence that you can do the thing that you were
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  avoiding. And that's what has that House
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  of Cards come, you know, crumbling down, and then the
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  anxiety doesn't come back. So if you have any form of
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  anxiety that is specifically triggered by one thing, you're
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  going to get some value from this.
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  If you have anxiety linked to the idea of driving, you're
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  going to get more value from this hypnosis and I would
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  encourage you to test this first.
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  If this works, great. If you feel some rogress or you
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  feel a shift or it's not quite calibrated perfectly to you
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  because it was created for someone else, either go to
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  adamcox.co.uk, that's my website, or have a look in the
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  description of this episode and you'll see that you can actually
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  work with me in many different ways, either through my courses,
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  one to one sessions, various things, including accessing a
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  whole archive of every recording that I've ever done.
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  So if that's of interest, check that out.
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  But for now, find a quiet, comfortable place where you
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  won't be distracted or disturbed.
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  Relax and enjoy the session. Take a deep breath in, and as
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  you breathe in, breathe in that resourceful feeling of calm and
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  relaxation. And as you exhale, that's in.
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  Allow your eyes to close, eyelids feeling heavier, and
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  with your eyes closed, you become more aware of the sound
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  of my voice. Breathing and relaxation and
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  exhaling tension. That's it.
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  And as you breathe in that feeling of relaxation, I want
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  you to get a sense that your body can transition from
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  alertness and vigilance to calmness and relaxation.
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  And the law of dominant effect says that you can't experience
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  conflicting emotions at the same time.
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  So as you breathe in, that feeling of calm, relaxation,
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  tension, stress and worries naturally melt away, enabling
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  you to drift to that place where change can happen easier,
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  quicker and the changes last longer.
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  Scan your body for any clues of tension, perhaps the back of the
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  neck, the jaw, shoulders or arms, and set the intention to
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  release every time you breathe out, releasing anything your
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  body doesn't need. That's it.
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  And the deeper you breathe, the more relaxed you feel.
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  And the more relaxed you feel the deeper you breathe.
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  Each breath takes you deeper and deeper, relaxed.
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  And as your physical body relaxes, your imagination
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  awakens. And as your body settles even
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  more, your mind can begin to listen in a slightly different
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  way. This experience now isn't about
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  removing fear. It's about understanding it,
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  seeing through it, and responding differently to it.
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  For many people, they create a rule either in all parts of
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  their life or just some parts. A rule that says I must feel
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  comfortable or confident before I do the thing.
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  And that rule can feel true. And sometimes it's helpful, but
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  it's not always helpful. And it's not always true because
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  you can see the pattern where this rule can create a loop
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  where if you wait to feel ready but readiness never comes
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  because the readiness is not something that appears first.
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  The readiness is an evaluation when you break the loop.
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  And I wonder if you can imagine for a moment that fear or
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  anxiety is like a voice. A voice that makes predictions,
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  like the boy who cried wolf. What if this happens?
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  What if that happens? And because you don't want this
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  or that to happen, the easiest thing to do is to avoid just in
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  case. And if you never do this or
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  that, it's difficult to see that the wolf is never there.
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  And perhaps for a long time that voice has been treated as truth.
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  But what if it's just a bluff? Some people think of fear as an
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  acronym FEAR, False evidence that appears real.
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  Fear doesn't actually know what will happen, just what may
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  happen. And sometimes the assessment of
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  probability is out of sync with reality.
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  It guesses. It exaggerates, it tries to
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  protect, but it doesn't control reality.
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  And you might begin to realize that fear is loud but not
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  powerful. And there's another part within
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  you, a quieter part but far more reliable.
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  The part of you that has already done difficult things.
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  There are many people, perhaps in your industry that thought of
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  running their own business but never did, just in case
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  something unpleasant happens. They're on the sidelines waiting
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  to feel confident enough, but sometimes that confidence never
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  comes. Or a motorcyclist looking at a
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  jump, waiting to feel ready. But if they never feel perfectly
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  ready, they never do the jump, and they never have evidence
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  that they are capable of doing it.
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  So I want you to activate the part of you that has already
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  done difficult things, already believed in yourself, already
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  fully committed. The part that is driven before,
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  handled pressure, adapted, responded and figured things
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  out. That part of you is never
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  waiting for comfort. It's not waiting for permission.
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  It just needs direction. And I wonder if you could
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  imagine a moment where you feel that familiar hesitation.
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  Perhaps you can imagine a roundabout with several exits,
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  one of them being the exit. And maybe you can imagine a
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  moment where the mind says not yet, not ready, maybe later.
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  And instead of resisting that feeling, you allow it to be
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  there, just noticing it, without needing to change it.
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  But what if, in a moment, even if it's a split second, without
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  waiting to feel ready, you act anyway, Not because you feel
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  confident, but because you've decided I'm just going to do it.
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  Whatever happens will happen. You fully commit.
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  And when you've decided that action is no longer dependent on
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  comfort or certainty, something changes.
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  And as you imagine taking that action, you might notice
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  something surprising. Not only does the fear not stop
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  you, it comes with you and very quickly fades.
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  Some people believe that fear is like shadows, and action and
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  decisions are like light. How quickly the shadows
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  disappear when the light switches on.
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  So imagine that anxiety or fear fading, not all at once, but
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  enough because your brain starts to learn something new.
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  That fear doesn't mean stop. What if it just means you're on
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  the edge of your comfort zone? And that feeling, the feeling of
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  anxiety or fear and choosing to act anyway, that is courage.
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  Can you really call someone courageous if there is No Fear?
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  If they're doing something well within their capabilities and
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  comfort zone? Courage requires challenge.
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  Courage is not the absence of fear, but the willingness to
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  feel it and move anyway. But what's fascinating, the more
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  you feel the fear and move anyway, the more elusive the
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  fear becomes. I want you to imagine a stretch
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  of Rd. How likely is it that you feel
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  fear or anxiety the 177th time you take that journey?
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  There might be a bit on the 1st, a bit less on the 2nd, and I
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  wonder if it's 5 or 10 or 15 journeys before you don't notice
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  it at all that it doesn't require courage the 17th time,
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  even if it did on the first, second or third.
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  So imagine doing that, and you might begin to notice that every
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  time you feel the fear, you do it anyway, even slightly, even
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  imperfectly. Something shifts.
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  The rule is changing. That rule that you must feel
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  comfortable before you act changes to I act first, knowing
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  that comfort and confidence is the reward, not the
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  prerequisite. And the more you act, the more
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  familiar it becomes, the more normal it feels, until something
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  that once felt difficult becomes routine, predictable, perhaps
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  even boring and mundane. And that's how your brain
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  recalibrates, not through waiting, but through doing.
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  So just imagine one more specific situation, a time where
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  in the past you may have hesitated or avoided, and this
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  time the anxiety becomes the motivation.
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  Because when people make a habit of moving towards their fears,
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  they get less fear, less anxiety, but also achieve more
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  freedom in their life. When you can acknowledge it and
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  you move towards it, more often than not it disappears.
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  And I want you to feel calm enough, focused enough, capable
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  enough. And as you do, you might even
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  feel a quiet sense of satisfaction.
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  Your brain loves dopamine and doing something challenging and
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  coming out the other side is a wonderful way to feel proud,
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  accomplished, liberated. And what if that becomes your
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  new reference point? Courage first, comfort later,
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  not the other way round. And what if from this moment on,
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  that feeling of fear, anxiety, becomes a signal not to stop,
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  but to go? What if fear was never the
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  barrier, the waiting or the avoiding was?
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  And as you hold that thought, I want you to dial up feelings of
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  courage, determination, and a willingness to get more
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  experience doing the very things that you've been avoiding,
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  waiting for the right moment to feel the courage act upon it,
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  and notice how quickly any fear or anxiety disappears.
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  So as you leave this place in your imagination, start to
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  return to the present. Take a deep breath in through
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  your nose and out through your nose.
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  Just wiggle your fingers, wiggle your toes, connect and calibrate
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  into the here and the now as I now count from 1:00 to 10:00 to
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  awaken you. Starting to count 123 waking up
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  456. More alert 7-8.
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  Open your eyes. Open your eyes 910 Wide awake,
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  Wide awake. Wide awake.
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