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Hypnosis for Reframing Porn Addiction · The Hypnotist

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severe mental health issues, so get yourself comfortable and
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enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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Hi, it's Adam here and in. This.
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Episode of The Hypnotist. You'll be listening to a
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hypnosis session designed. To help the client.
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That I was working with to. Reframe how they thought.
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About porn and porn addiction is something that has increased
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massively over the years and I think partly that is down to
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the. Fact that it.
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Is widely available on devices that people carry around all
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over themselves, so there's not a lot of friction and it can
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give a dopamine. Boost and it's immediate.
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Gratification, but it comes at a cost, and that is an opportunity
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cost, but also an emotional cost.
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If you're meeting connection needs and sexual needs through
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porn, you're less likely to meet those same needs through real
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interactions. And I've worked with a few
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people with this addiction. And when you make it about
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something similar to people quitting smoking or quitting
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sugar, and you just say, right, you've got no desire to do that,
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it doesn't meet the underlying need of connection or sexual
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release. So what's really important is
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that you frame it not as something not to do, but just as
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a poor vehicle to meet that underlying need that actually
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you can use porn. But actually if you were in an
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amazing relationship or you were able to have your sexual needs
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met by a person, why would you then go back to a poor?
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Quality substitute. And I think that's a really
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powerful way of framing it. Not that it's wrong or shameful,
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it's just not a good vehicle to really meet the need.
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And this session uses future pacing.
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So it imagines A10 year timeline, 10 years of getting
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that need primarily met through porn probably leads to not a
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great place. But that same time, that same
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energy, that same thought space being led to cultivate something
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real, real relationships, real interactions, real connections
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probably enhances the quality of that person's life because they
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become someone more that they want to be.
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So if you're struggling with porn habits or porn addiction,
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it might even be a different sexual kind of addiction.
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It could be using sex workers or being addicted to kind of online
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chat rooms and and those kind of things.
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Then there will be a link in the show notes where you can
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schedule that consultation call with me because there is a lot
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of time and a lot of money spent in this kind of thing.
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And that itself has a huge opportunity cost, which if you
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zoom out over years can be really, really debilitating.
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So if you want to change that, then you know, we'll have a chat
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and we'll see if I'm the right person to work with you.
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In the meantime, this might be a useful session.
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So find a quiet, comfortable place where you won't be
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disturbed. Relax and enjoy the session.
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Take a deep breath in, and as you breathe in, breathe in
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deeper than you normally would. And as you exhale, release the
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tension in your eyelids and allow your eyes to close on that
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outward breath. That's it.
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As you breathe in, breathe in a feeling of resourceful
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relaxation. Feel that sense of relaxation
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going in through your nose, into your lungs, and just allow any
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tension to feel like it's leaving your body in that
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outward breath. And as you breathe in and
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breathe out, scan your body for clues of tension.
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Maybe a tightness in the jaw, tension around the forehead, or
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maybe there's some kind of sensation in your neck or your
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shoulders. But I want you to use the power
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of your imagination to imagine that as you breathe in that
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resourceful relaxation, it starts to melt away that
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tension. And as you exhale, just imagine
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that tension leaving your body in that outward breath, enabling
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you to feel deeper and deeper, relaxed.
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Deeper you breathe, the more relaxed you become.
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And the more relaxed you become, the more your imagination
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awakens. I want you to imagine having a
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piece of paper and drawing a scene, a scene in nature with a
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river. But I want you to imagine that
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as you draw it, it becomes like a photo.
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So draw on that perfect scene, nature, blue skies, a river
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going through nature. And then I want you to imagine
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stepping into that picture and imagine how you would feel if
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you were out in nature. Maybe you could put your fingers
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in the river to feel the temperature of the water.
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Maybe there's a breeze on your face, sunshine on your skin, and
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for some reason nearby. I want you to imagine a sauna
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out in nature, with big glass doors giving you the perfect
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view of the river to make yourself comfortable in that
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sauna. Feel the increasing temperature,
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fear the sense that all tension is melting away.
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But see that river and notice how it's always flowing in that
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same direction. And I want you to imagine that
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any moments of shame or regret from the past, I want you to
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imagine projecting that from your body out onto the river
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like leaves. And the moment the leaves hit
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the river, the current takes them downstream.
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Any thought of the past, anything with the benefit of
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hindsight you wish you didn't do projected there onto the river,
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allow it to flow away. I want you to get a sense then
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this river continues to go through nature.
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I want you to imagine that sometimes rivers split into two.
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Think of a large river as the river meets the sea.
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Quite often deltas are created. Lots of smaller rivers fragment.
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Therefore a river has the ability to go into different
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directions. Keep your physical body in that
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sauna, but allow your imagination to follow the flow
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of the river and imagine seeing the river split into two.
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And maybe your mind imagines that.
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Isn't that like life choices? I want you to imagine that as
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the river splits into two, you start thinking of two different
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directions your life could go over the next 10 years.
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I want you to imagine a future where the only way you get your
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need for connection, particularly sexual connection,
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is through porn or something fake or fabricated.
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I want you to follow that, that side of the river.
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Imagine where it would take you. I want you to imagine seeing
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yourself over the next few days and weeks, see yourself finding
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ways around any kind of frictional blogs.
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And I want you to see yourself being someone that only gets
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that need from images, from videos or even live interaction.
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But there's always a pay paid element involved.
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And I want you to see that over the next few weeks and months,
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nothing really changes. But I want you to get a sense of
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where does that go to step into that version of you on that a
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pathway through life, a pathway where there could be real
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interactions, real relationships, dates,
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conversations, holidays together.
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But not not in this future. This future is all digital.
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It's all it's all limited to this feeling of safe control.
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No vulnerability here. What would it be like a year
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where you only get that need met through porn?
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What if porn led to paying for different forms of sexual
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services? I want you to follow that future
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timeline, see how much time feels like it's been wasted, how
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much money has been spent. And lots of these sites have
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insidious schemes and scams. I want you to follow that
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timeline five years in the future, Five years of no
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meaningful relationships, just getting your needs met through
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this way that feels safe, way that you can control.
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I want you to really connect with all that you could have
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lost on this pathway, a relationship, a connection,
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incredible moments. I want you to feel that this
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pathway, this river route is where you're choosing a poor
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quality substitute for something real.
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This is the pathway, the route that leads to sex robots and sex
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workers of increased probability of STIs or being exploited in
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some way. And I want you to take it to the
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worst possible but probable outcome of being on this life's
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journey, a place that could be devastating to your confidence,
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detrimental to your health and well-being.
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And when you get to that place where it goes horribly wrong,
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but it's a natural cause and effect relationship of being on
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this pathway. Let me know by nodding your
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head. Amplify it.
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Make it even worse. Maybe it becomes worse by being
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public knowledge. What does it do to your
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reputation? What does it do to your
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confidence levels? What does it do to your ability
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to get your life back on track? Is your life a source of pride
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or a source of mockery and shame?
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Only you get to decide. And what it feels like perhaps
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you're now 10 years in the future of this timeline, maybe
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alone, maybe dependent on other things, maybe this pathway has
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leaded to other habits, other behaviours.
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But it feels like enough is enough and you want to avoid
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this future. Let me know about nodding your
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head. That's it.
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And then just imagine rewinding everything.
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Everything happens in reverse. It all goes back to that point,
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the point in the present. But let's explore a different
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river route. What if the time that you were
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currently giving to porn, you were giving to things that
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either made you the person that would naturally find the kind of
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relationship you would want, or lead to interactions with real
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people, real conversations, real experiences.
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No need for an artificial substitute if you can have the
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real thing. I want you to get a sense then.
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Sometimes what feels gratifying can also be unhealthy.
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Be at the point where the river splits into two, and imagine
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your favorite fruit, something that at its best is delicious.
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And imagine some kind of confectionery, some kind of
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sweet that has artificial flavourings that are meant to be
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that flavour but aren't. Consider the path of porn, a
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path of fake substitute synthetic substitutes designed
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to represent reality but not be reality.
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And then consider this new route.
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Real experiences, real moments, real interactions.
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And then follow that pathway as you imagine biting into that
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delicious fruit, feeling that it's real.
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Follow that pathway and imagine a future of real conversations,
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real interactions, real shared experiences together.
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And maybe you consider stepping stones across a river.
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What if flirting or interactions are just a stepping stone to
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dates? What if dates are just a
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stepping stone to compatibility? And what if compatibility it's
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just a stepping stone to explore a possible relationship?
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What if the early days and weeks of a relationship are for you to
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figure out? Is this something you want to
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continue with or explore other options?
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But it's all real. I want you to get a sense that
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on this pathway, each interaction can lead to real
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possibilities. But as you go down this route of
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the river, feel with every every mile down the river feel that
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you're becoming more of the person you want to be more
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confident, more athletic, you're becoming more financially
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resourceful. There is a feeling of sky high
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self esteem. And I want you to imagine on
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this river route, imagine being in a situation where you see
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someone that is the kind of person you're attracted to.
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Imagine making eye contact, figuring out that you're being
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given a green light, an invitation to approach.
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It could be the eye contact, could be a smile and feel, a
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pull. The moment you get the
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invitation, you're pulled and all you need to do is introduce
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yourself. Nothing complicated, you need to
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remember. No chat up lines or cheesy
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phrases. Just an introduction may be
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followed by a compliment. Feel comfortable doing this,
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confident doing this, and the worst comes to the worst, you've
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misread the situation. Apologize, wish them a good day
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and move on. Consider this a shot to nothing.
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If it goes well, maybe you ask for a number, ask if they'd like
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to meet sometime, and if it doesn't, no harm done.
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And imagine this route of the river, each month increasing the
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probability of you finding something so valuable you would
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never want to go back to those poor quality substitutes.
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Perhaps go even further into the future.
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Just imagine some kind of family gathering, some kind of big
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reunion, and imagine you being there with the person you're
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proud to be with, a relationship that you value.
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And if this feels like it has upsides and the downsides are
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still real human downsides, what we can call reality.
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If this feels more desirable, let me know.
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By nodding your head. I want you to give yourself
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permission to be the person you've always wanted to be.
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You don't want to be that person 10 years from now, no
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relationships, just watching porn.
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You want to be the version of you, but when you look in the
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mirror, you're proud of that person, proud of what you've
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built, proud of who you've become.
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And every time you make the decision that you just don't
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want that poor quality substitute, you want the real
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thing, your confidence will increase.
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Yourself worth will increase and therefore, whether it's in the
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next few weeks or few months, you might be surprised at just
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how infrequently the thought of porn even pops into your mind.
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It exists, but you just don't want it.
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Consider this a seed planted in your subconscious mind that will
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continue to grow as you sleep. Before long, just because you
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can do something doesn't mean you want to do something.
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So breathe in and breathe out and feel like you're returning
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to that sauna by the river, thinking about your future,
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thinking about the kind of person you want to be.
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Knowing that every small choice that you decide you just don't
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want it, maybe because it's linked to disgust or poor
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quality or some something undesirable, you are increasing
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your desire for something real. You are unlocking all of the
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resources to pursue those real things, but now it's time to
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return to the present. So imagine walking back through
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that picture, back into your reality, and then take a deep
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breath in through your nose and out through your nose.
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Just wiggle your fingers and wiggle your toes.
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Connect fully with the here and now as I count from 1:00 to
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10:00 to awaken you. Starting to count 123 Waking up
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456 More alert 7-8. Open your eyes.
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Open your eyes, 910. Wide awake, Wide awake, wide
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