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Heal the Wounded Empath - Stop Absorbing Emotions & Start Leading Your Life · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing
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  genuine. Issues.
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  Brought to you by The Hypnotherapist, Demanded by
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  celebrities, CEOs and even royalty, Adam Cox.
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  These recordings took place live from Adam Smith in London's
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  world famous Harley Street. So get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Hi, it's Adam here now. Here's a question.
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  For you do. You consider.
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  Yourself an empath, and I have a feeling you might because
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  there's a. Lot of people.
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  That seek out hypnotherapy and content like this.
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  That really. Do.
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  Consider themselves empathetic. They really.
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  Care about other people, they're considerate and they feel the
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  energy and emotions of other people.
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  So if that feels or seems like you, you should get some value
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  from this session because I was working with a client that
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  identified with the. Phrase the.
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  Wounded empath. And they were very kind and
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  considerate, very thoughtful of other people.
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  But that meant them that they were very vulnerable.
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  They were, they felt manipulated sometimes and they felt that
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  they couldn't really choose how to be and they would obsess and
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  think about other people and how they might interpret their
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  behaviours. And this is designed to heal the
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  wounded empath empath and to give them a sense of having the
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  best of both worlds, to be kind of considerate, but not
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  necessarily having to take the pain and the wounds and the
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  hurtful energy of other people. And that would be an empowered
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  empath. An empowered empath is someone
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  that protects their own resources but can still then.
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  Use those resources. To be kind and considerate for
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  other people. It was a client that was going
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  through a breakup and part of that breakup was them thinking
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  about what could have been, may have been, should they have done
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  anything different. And again, that feeds that
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  wounded empath. So if you can connect with
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  either the idea of feeling sad or attached to a relationship of
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  the past, or that you want to heal something within, I think.
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  You'll get some. Value from this session.
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  It was created for an individual.
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  Some of the suggestions would have been good for them and not
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  quite perfect for. You so if.
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  You like the idea of a. Bespoke session, there's a
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  suitability. Test that you can find in the
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  show notes that takes 60 seconds.
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  You just click the link. Answer a few.
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  Questions and it lets you know if you're suitable for hypnosis.
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  But also, I've recorded a webinar that actually goes
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  through how I became a hypnotherapist, what
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  hypnotherapy is good for, Not quite good for some of the
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  techniques and approaches. That I use.
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  And also two different. Suitability tests.
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  That you actually do in real time to figure out would you be
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  a good candidate for hypnosis. And there's some.
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  Nice bonuses at the end. Of that webinar.
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  If you stay. Right to.
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  The end. For now, though, find a quiet.
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  Comfortable place where? You won't be distracted or
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  disturbed. Relax and enjoy the session.
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  Take a deep breath in, and as you breathe in, allow yourself
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  to breathe in a feeling of pure acceptance, accepting everything
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  good and bad. And as you exhale, release any
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  emotions connected to the past, extracting wisdom but releasing
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  the emotion. Breathing in acceptance and
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  allow your outward breath to be a release valve of any pent up
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  emotions, anything that no longer serves a purpose.
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  Any regrets, any sadness, any frustration, any guilt, any
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  shame. All these emotions aren't there
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  to punish, they're there to influence the future.
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  And when people feel intense emotions but it punishes them
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  rather than. Shapes their future.
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  Decisions history has a habit of repeating, and as you breathe in
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  relaxation with that acceptance, allow any thoughts to come to
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  the surface that need fully accepting.
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  When they come to the surface, they can be released, because
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  with acceptance you can set certain things free.
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  Any attachments, any conditions, and you fully accept.
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  Things can change quickly, sometimes effortlessly.
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  There's a part deep within your subconscious mind that tries to
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  protect, but it's in conflict with another part that wants to
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  connect. And sometimes it feels like
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  you're pulling in different directions.
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  But what if the part that wants to protect can protect in a new,
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  more elegant way through boundaries and standards, And
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  that part wants to connect and still connect, but by respecting
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  those boundaries and standards? And you don't have to audit
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  every boundary and every standard, you can just decide
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  based on how you feel, what would be necessary to take the
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  wisdom from the past and protect you in the future while still
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  making love and connection possible.
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  And maybe there's a boundary that you're not willing to
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  change who you are and what you value or another person, because
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  maybe in the past you've de prioritised things that you
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  value to accommodate someone else.
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  But what if that means that you're giving up part of you the
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  possibility of someone else? The paradox being, sometimes
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  you've lowered your standards and moved your boundaries to
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  improve the probability of something you deeply value.
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  But what if the paradox is that by maintaining or increasing
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  standards, you protect what's vulnerable even more, and you
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  increase the probability of finding something you truly
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  desire? When people feel scarcity, and
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  in a dialogue that says this one has to work, it has a
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  connotation that what they're considering or pursuing is
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  elusive, vulnerable, fragile. And then in a dialogue, changes
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  to I will have such a good life that I will only consider a
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  relationship if it enhances. It suddenly means you move from
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  a scarcity to abundance, weakness to strength, fear of
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  loss to feeling fearless, all of which paradoxically increase the
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  possibility of attracting something valuable, desirable.
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  I want you to think of a place where you're at your happiest,
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  maybe near the ocean, maybe somewhere else.
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  And I want you to observe a version of you in your element
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  where your cup isn't just full, it's overflowing, and you're at
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  your happiest, and you feel fully aligned with your values.
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  And notice that that version of you is less willing to
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  compromise, but that version of you is more attractive.
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  To those. People that share those same
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  values as we plant a seed of an idea.
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  The more you live your life on your terms, the higher your
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  standards, the higher your confidence and self esteem, and
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  the more you attract what's synergistically is aligned to
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  who you are at your best. And just observe that vibrant,
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  happy, fulfilled version of you. Notice what you notice
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  Admiration. Perhaps respect, maybe
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  inspiration. Some people believe that they
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  need someone else to be complete.
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  They can't be full in and of themselves.
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  People use phrases like the other half and soulmate.
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  What if the more complete you are as an individual, the more
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  you attract someone that can enhance what is already good?
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  If you're unconscious, already knows the standards, the
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  boundaries, and maybe the changes required too, drift
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  towards that version of you at your very best.
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  Let me know by nodding your head.
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  That's it. And give that part permission to
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  protect you by being fulfilled. As you breathe in and breathe
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  out, feel a deeper level of personal connection with
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  yourself. Thank that part that was trying
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  to protect, trying to make things work.
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  And you realise that that part was never broken, but maybe it
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  was operating with an old or ineffective strategy, the
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  strategy that perhaps once made sense.
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  But what if that strategy is no longer what's needed?
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  In the same way, what if there's a part of you that is finally
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  seen without needing to fix it, repair it, or heal it?
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  You acknowledge it, you thank it.
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  You instruct it to help in ways that actually will help.
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  Allow that part to update any standards that just weren't
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  working. They can be discarded and any
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  new standards that would actually help you to be
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  discerning patient. Allow those standards to be
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  created. You already know there is a
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  difference between feeling something and becoming it,
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  between noticing someone else's state and losing your own.
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  And as that awareness grows, you may find that you can still
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  understand people, still sense what's happening, but from a
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  place of steadiness, like watching waves without being
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  pulled under by them. Find the part within you, the
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  part that wants to expand, part that builds, that chooses, that
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  moves forward, a part that lives life in accordance with your
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  values. And you may imagine your life
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  not as someone waiting, but as something already unfolding.
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  Reach with direction, filled with movement, guided by what
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  matters to you. And as that life becomes
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  clearer, there is less need for anything or anyone to complete
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  it. What if you are already
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  complete? You would just like a great life
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  to be enhanced with the right person.
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  Deep down, maybe there's a quiet knowing that your standards were
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  never too much, perhaps only temporarily set aside.
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  And now, without effort, the right standards, the right
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  boundaries begin to return not as rules but as reflections.
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  Reflections of how you value yourself, what you'll tolerate
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  and what you won't. And you may notice that holding
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  those standards feels natural, especially in moments where it
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  once felt difficult. Doing the difficult thing means
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  that your standards and boundaries are strong.
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  When you do them, it means that part within that wants to
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  protect can relax. Boundaries that are clear,
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  boundaries that are enforced, make every part of you feel
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  safe. You've already changed.
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  Change can be a wonderful thing. I want you to imagine
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  interacting with others, maybe, maybe a future relationship or
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  what may turn into a relationship.
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  Notice that version of you with an absence of urgency.
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  No desperation, no need to rush, no pressure to decide, only
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  space. Desperation and scarcity of any
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  kind increases pressure and creates a repulsion rather than
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  attraction. The paradox being, when you give
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  yourself time, you increase the probability of the right things
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  happening in the right time to give yourself that space to
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  notice, to experience, to understand.
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  And what if, in that space, clarity emerges effortlessly?
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  Because when you're not trying to make something work, you can
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  finally see whether it does. If the key is the wrong key for
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  the lock, forcing the key in the lock doesn't increase the
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  probability of opening the lock. It increases the probability of
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  damaging the lock might force the wrong key.
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  If you have the space and time to find the right one, and as
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  this continues to integrate, you may begin to discover that those
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  wonderful feelings you looked for, connection, affection,
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  attention and love are not things that need to be given to
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  you. They are things you already know
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  how to create in your own way, in your own time.
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  And when that becomes familiar, something shifts.
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  If you are the source of your own emotional needs, you
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  naturally become more discerning as to whether anyone else can
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  enhance what is already there. When you're used to eating
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  delicious meals everyday, when there is no hunger whatsoever,
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  the probability that you eat rotten, disgusting or poor
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  quality food is 0. You won't do it because the need
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  is already met. Because relationships are no
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  longer a source of survival, they're an opportunity for
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  something to be shared. And now find that really
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  sensitive part within you, the one that worked so hard to feel
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  everything, to understand everything, to be flexible, to
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  adapt, to change, to make things work.
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  A part that feels deeply may begin to change.
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  Not disappearing, but evolving into something stronger and more
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  discerning, able to understand without absorbing, able to
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  connect without losing yourself. And in that way, you don't lose
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  your empathy. You harness it, you refine it,
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  you dance with it. And I wonder in the days ahead,
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  you may notice a different relationship with yourself based
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  on respect, not shame. Pride, not guilt, discernment
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  not desperation. And don't be surprised if you
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  introduce boundaries that in the past you would have been
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  reluctant but now feel empowered as you unleash a new level of
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  agency. Self trust, self belief, and any
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  connections you choose will feel lighter.
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  They are no longer carrying the weight of your happiness, only
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  the possibility of enhancing it. And if a relationship can't
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  enhance something that's already good, then why would you want
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  it? No loss, just discernment.
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  And if your unconscious is willing to make whatever changes
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  enhance your life, make you feel more aligned, make you feel more
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  worthy and happier in your own skin, irrespective of whoever
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  else is in it, let me know by nodding your head.
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  That's it. And as you go from that place of
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  observing, the happy version of you feel like you're leaving has
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  the happy version of you with an intention to think of life as
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  it's very best, but not dependent on any one person, and
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  give yourself permission to go for it.
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  The closer you. Get to being that ideal version
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  of you. The less you need anything from
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  anyone, and paradoxically, the more likely you are to stumble
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  across the very thing that when you were looking so hard for, it
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  was elusive to breathe in that feeling of pure self love and
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  worthiness. Thank all of the parts within
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  your subconscious mind for their wonderful intentions and feel.
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  It's time to work as a harmonized team.
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  To live. Your very best life.
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  It's time to float back to the present as you take a deep
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  breath in through your nose and out through your nose.
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  Wiggle your fingers and wiggle your toes.
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  Connect and calibrate into the here and the now.
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  As I count from 1:00 to 10:00, you will awaken a slightly
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  different version of the version of you that's already making
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  progress towards the very best version of yourself.
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  Starting to count. 123 Waking up 456 More alert. 7-8.
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  Open your eyes. Open your eyes. 910 wide awake,
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  wide awake, wide awake. Thank you.
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