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Hunt, Gather, Parent - What Ancient Cultures Teach Us About Raising Children · Other Peoples Parenting

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  Hey,
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  everybody.
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  Welcome
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  back
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  to
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  another
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  episode
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  of
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  Other
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  People's
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  Parenting,
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  where
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  we
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  read
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  parenting
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  books
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  and
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  review
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  them
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  for
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  you.
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  I'm
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  Skylar
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  Hurwitz,
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  amateur
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  parent,
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  and
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  this
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  is
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  my
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  mom,
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  Karen
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  Quinn.
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  She
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  is
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  a
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  New
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  York
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  Times
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  bestselling
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  author
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  and
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  the
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  founder
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  of
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  Habit
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  Coach
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  and
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  Testing
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  Mom.
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  Hello,
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  Mom.
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  Hi,
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  Skylar.
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  That's
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  a
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  very
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  chic
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  brown
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  cardigan
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  you've
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  got
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  on
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  today.
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  Thank
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  you.
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  Thank
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  you.
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  Well,
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  I
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  just
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  want
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  to
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  say
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  that
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  I'm
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  wearing
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  it
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  today
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  because
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  of
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  the
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  book
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  we're
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  reading.
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  We're
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  gonna
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  read
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  Hunt
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  Gather
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  Parent.
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  Are
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  you
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  in
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  camouflage?
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  No,
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  it's
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  just.
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  No,
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  it's
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  not
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  that.
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  It's
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  just
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  hunt
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  has
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  something
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  to
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  do
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  with
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  gathering
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  nature.
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  And
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  I'm
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  thinking
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  browns.
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  Ooh.
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  And
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  as
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  you
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  know,
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  I
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  don't
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  wear
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  brown.
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  I
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  never
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  wear
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  brown.
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  It
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  really
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  suits
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  you.
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  Thank
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  you.
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  It
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  really
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  brings
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  out
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  your
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  beautiful
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  brown
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  eyes.
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  You
• 0:53
  think?
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  Yeah.
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  Okay.
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  Because
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  I
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  had
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  my
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  colors
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  done
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  many
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  years
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  ago,
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  like
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  I'm
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  telling
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  you,
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  50
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  years
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  ago.
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  So
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  long
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  ago.
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  And
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  they
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  told
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  me
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  never
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  to
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  wear
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  brown,
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  and
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  I
• 1:01
  took
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  that
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  to
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  heart,
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  and
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  I
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  never
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  did.
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  They
• 1:03
  lied.
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  Well,
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  anyway,
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  thank
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  you.
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  And
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  so
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  I'm
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  wearing
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  it
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  today.
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  What
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  are
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  your
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  colors?
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  Are
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  you
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  a
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  winter?
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  Oh,
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  you're
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  a
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  winter.
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  A
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  warm
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  winter
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  or
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  a
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  cold
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  winter?
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  Well,
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  I
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  don't
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  know.
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  The
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  one
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  where
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  you
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  wear
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  bright
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  colors,
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  like.
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  Oh,
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  so,
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  like
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  gem
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  tones.
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  Yes,
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  gem
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  tones.
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  That's
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  me.
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  So
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  I
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  always
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  wear
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  gem
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  tones
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  or
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  black.
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  And
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  then
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  I
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  never
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  wear
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  brown.
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  And
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  so
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  today
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  I'm
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  wearing
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  brown.
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  You
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  think
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  I
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  can
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  wear
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  brown?
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  I
• 1:25
  know
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  you
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  can
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  wear.
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  I'm
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  looking
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  at
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  you
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  right
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  now,
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  and
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  you
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  look
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  amazing.
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  Brown.
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  Thank
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  you.
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  Thank
• 1:29
  you.
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  Okay,
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  so
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  I
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  might
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  start
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  wearing
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  brown.
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  That
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  might
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  be
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  a
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  new
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  thing.
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  I
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  think
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  you
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  should.
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  And
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  anyway,
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  the
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  dawn
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  of
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  a
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  new
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  day.
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  It
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  is
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  the
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  dawn
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  of
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  a
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  new
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  day.
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  So,
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  anyway,
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  because
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  we
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  are
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  reading
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  this
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  book,
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  I
• 1:42
  will
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  show
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  it
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  to
• 1:43
  you.
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  It
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  is
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  Hunt
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  Gather
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  Parent
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  by
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  Mickalene
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  Duclef,
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  Ph.D.
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  and
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  not
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  a
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  Ph.D.
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  that
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  I
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  hated.
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  What
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  do
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  you
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  mean?
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  You
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  don't
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  normally
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  when
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  books.
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  Oh.
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  Sorry.
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  What
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  the
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  hell
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  is
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  that?
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  What
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  is
• 2:00
  that?
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  Okay,
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  that
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  is
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  my
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  alarm
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  going
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  off
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  telling
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  me
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  I
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  should
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  leave
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  to
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  come
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  do
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  this
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  podcast
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  with
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  you
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  because
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  I
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  was
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  going
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  to
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  be
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  an
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  hour
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  late.
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  Sorry
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  about
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  that.
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  I
• 2:15
  was
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  going
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  to
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  be
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  an
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  hour
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  late,
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  so
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  it's
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  actually,
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  I'm
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  glad
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  it
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  told
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  me.
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  Okay,
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  good.
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  Otherwise
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  I
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  would
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  have
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  left
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  at
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  this
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  time.
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  You
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  know,
• 2:21
  that's
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  okay.
• 2:22
  Whatever.
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  What's
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  done
• 2:23
  is
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  done.
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  You
• 2:24
  made
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  it
• 2:24
  here.
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  I
• 2:25
  did.
• 2:25
  On
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  time.
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  Because
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  you
• 2:26
  texted
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  me.
• 2:27
  Me.
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  Thank
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  you.
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  I
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  had.
• 2:28
  I
• 2:28
  had
• 2:28
  an
• 2:28
  Inkling
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  that
• 2:29
  you
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  were
• 2:30
  gonna
• 2:30
  be
• 2:30
  late
• 2:30
  today.
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  So
• 2:31
  I
• 2:31
  said,
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  hey,
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  mom,
• 2:32
  see
• 2:32
  you
• 2:32
  at
• 2:32
  10.
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  And
• 2:33
  then
• 2:33
  I'm
• 2:33
  like,
• 2:33
  oh,
• 2:34
  my
• 2:34
  gosh,
• 2:34
  I
• 2:34
  gotta
• 2:34
  go.
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  So
• 2:35
  I
• 2:35
  came
• 2:36
  and
• 2:36
  so
• 2:36
  anyway.
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  All
• 2:37
  right,
• 2:37
  getting
• 2:37
  back
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  to.
• 2:38
  Back
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  to
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  Mickalene
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  Duclef.
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  What
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  do
• 2:41
  you
• 2:41
  mean
• 2:41
  about
• 2:41
  the
• 2:42
  PhD?
• 2:44
  Normally,
• 2:45
  when
• 2:45
  books
• 2:45
  are
• 2:45
  written
• 2:46
  by
• 2:46
  PhD
• 2:46
  people,
• 2:47
  I
• 2:47
  find
• 2:47
  them
• 2:48
  to
• 2:48
  be
• 2:48
  a
• 2:48
  bit.
• 2:49
  What's
• 2:50
  the
• 2:50
  word?
• 2:50
  It
• 2:50
  begins
• 2:51
  with
• 2:51
  a.
• 2:51
  Not
• 2:51
  presumptuous,
• 2:52
  but
• 2:53
  like
• 2:54
  not
• 2:54
  precocious.
• 2:55
  What's
• 2:55
  the
• 2:55
  word?
• 2:55
  You
• 2:56
  know
• 2:56
  what
• 2:56
  I'm
• 2:56
  thinking?
• 2:58
  Pretentious.
• 2:58
  Pretentious.
• 3:00
  Yes.
• 3:01
  And
• 3:01
  this
• 3:01
  book
• 3:02
  I
• 3:02
  did
• 3:02
  not
• 3:02
  find
• 3:02
  to
• 3:02
  be
• 3:02
  pretentious
• 3:03
  at
• 3:03
  all.
• 3:03
  I
• 3:03
  actually,
• 3:04
  dare
• 3:04
  I
• 3:05
  say
• 3:05
  it,
• 3:06
  is
• 3:06
  one
• 3:07
  of
• 3:07
  my
• 3:07
  favorites
• 3:08
  we've
• 3:08
  read
• 3:08
  so
• 3:08
  far.
• 3:09
  I
• 3:09
  thought
• 3:09
  it
• 3:10
  was
• 3:10
  so
• 3:10
  good.
• 3:11
  I
• 3:11
  thought
• 3:11
  it
• 3:11
  was
• 3:12
  so
• 3:12
  enlightening.
• 3:12
  She
• 3:13
  does
• 3:13
  such
• 3:13
  an
• 3:13
  amazing
• 3:14
  job
• 3:15
  talking
• 3:15
  about
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  why
• 3:17
  we
• 3:18
  parent
• 3:18
  the
• 3:18
  way
• 3:18
  we
• 3:18
  parent
• 3:19
  and
• 3:19
  giving
• 3:20
  us
• 3:20
  the
• 3:20
  history
• 3:21
  and
• 3:21
  also
• 3:21
  giving
• 3:22
  us
• 3:22
  a
• 3:23
  really
• 3:23
  solid
• 3:23
  lesson
• 3:24
  about
• 3:24
  the
• 3:24
  kinds
• 3:25
  of
• 3:25
  ways
• 3:25
  people
• 3:25
  parent
• 3:26
  in.
• 3:26
  In
• 3:27
  other
• 3:27
  parts
• 3:27
  of
• 3:27
  the
• 3:27
  world
• 3:28
  that
• 3:28
  they've
• 3:29
  actually
• 3:29
  been
• 3:29
  doing
• 3:29
  so
• 3:29
  much
• 3:30
  longer
• 3:30
  than
• 3:30
  the
• 3:30
  way
• 3:30
  we
• 3:31
  do
• 3:31
  it
• 3:31
  here
• 3:32
  in
• 3:32
  the
• 3:32
  West.
• 3:32
  Yes.
• 3:33
  On
• 3:33
  a
• 3:33
  scale
• 3:34
  of
• 3:34
  scientist
• 3:34
  to
• 3:34
  parent,
• 3:35
  what
• 3:35
  would
• 3:35
  you
• 3:35
  rate
• 3:35
  this
• 3:36
  book
• 3:36
  on?
• 3:36
  Readability.
• 3:37
  Oh,
• 3:37
  readability.
• 3:39
  I
• 3:39
  have
• 3:39
  to
• 3:39
  give
• 3:39
  her
• 3:39
  a
• 3:40
  10.
• 3:41
  Yeah,
• 3:42
  I
• 3:42
  might
• 3:43
  too.
• 3:43
  Yeah,
• 3:44
  that's.
• 3:44
  I
• 3:44
  mean,
• 3:44
  this
• 3:45
  was
• 3:45
  so
• 3:45
  readable.
• 3:46
  It
• 3:46
  was
• 3:47
  the
• 3:47
  kind
• 3:47
  of
• 3:47
  book
• 3:47
  you
• 3:47
  could
• 3:48
  actually
• 3:48
  put
• 3:48
  on
• 3:49
  audible
• 3:49
  or
• 3:50
  whatever
• 3:50
  and
• 3:50
  listen
• 3:51
  to.
• 3:51
  Like,
• 3:51
  I
• 3:52
  never
• 3:52
  listen
• 3:52
  to
• 3:52
  nonfiction
• 3:53
  books.
• 3:53
  I
• 3:54
  always
• 3:54
  have
• 3:54
  to
• 3:54
  read
• 3:54
  them
• 3:54
  so
• 3:55
  I
• 3:55
  can
• 3:55
  underline
• 3:55
  things
• 3:56
  and
• 3:56
  remember
• 3:56
  them.
• 3:56
  You
• 3:56
  love
• 3:57
  them.
• 3:57
  I
• 3:57
  do.
• 3:58
  Yellow
• 3:59
  highlighter.
• 3:59
  And
• 4:00
  I
• 4:00
  actually
• 4:00
  could
• 4:00
  have
• 4:01
  listened
• 4:01
  to
• 4:01
  this
• 4:01
  and
• 4:02
  learned
• 4:03
  and
• 4:03
  enjoyed.
• 4:04
  So.
• 4:05
  Yeah.
• 4:06
  This
• 4:06
  is
• 4:06
  a
• 4:06
  really
• 4:07
  good
• 4:07
  parenting
• 4:07
  book
• 4:08
  for
• 4:08
  parents
• 4:09
  who
• 4:09
  have
• 4:10
  an
• 4:10
  aversion
• 4:10
  to
• 4:11
  parenting
• 4:11
  books,
• 4:11
  you
• 4:12
  know.
• 4:12
  Totally.
• 4:12
  I
• 4:13
  would
• 4:13
  recommend
• 4:13
  this
• 4:13
  especially
• 4:14
  to
• 4:14
  people
• 4:14
  who
• 4:15
  are
• 4:15
  about
• 4:15
  to
• 4:16
  have
• 4:16
  their
• 4:16
  first
• 4:16
  kid.
• 4:17
  Yeah.
• 4:17
  Because
• 4:17
  I
• 4:18
  think
• 4:18
  this
• 4:18
  is
• 4:18
  particularly
• 4:19
  useful
• 4:20
  for
• 4:20
  people
• 4:21
  who
• 4:21
  have
• 4:21
  yet
• 4:21
  to
• 4:22
  have
• 4:22
  any
• 4:22
  parenting
• 4:23
  style.
• 4:24
  That's
• 4:24
  true.
• 4:25
  Yeah.
• 4:25
  I
• 4:25
  mean,
• 4:25
  I
• 4:25
  think
• 4:26
  that's
• 4:26
  a
• 4:26
  great
• 4:26
  group
• 4:27
  for
• 4:27
  it.
• 4:27
  But
• 4:27
  I
• 4:28
  also
• 4:28
  think
• 4:28
  it
• 4:28
  might
• 4:29
  be
• 4:29
  really
• 4:30
  good
• 4:30
  for
• 4:31
  someone
• 4:31
  who's
• 4:32
  got
• 4:32
  younger
• 4:33
  kids
• 4:34
  or
• 4:34
  even,
• 4:35
  I
• 4:35
  don't
• 4:35
  know,
• 4:35
  this
• 4:36
  would
• 4:36
  be
• 4:36
  kind
• 4:36
  of
• 4:36
  hard
• 4:36
  to
• 4:37
  institute.
• 4:37
  Maybe
• 4:38
  if
• 4:38
  you
• 4:39
  hadn't
• 4:39
  started
• 4:40
  at.
• 4:40
  At
• 4:40
  a.
• 4:41
  Somewhat
• 4:41
  early
• 4:41
  age.
• 4:42
  But
• 4:43
  you
• 4:43
  know,
• 4:43
  if
• 4:43
  you
• 4:44
  got
• 4:44
  a
• 4:44
  five
• 4:44
  year
• 4:44
  old
• 4:45
  or
• 4:45
  a
• 4:45
  eight
• 4:45
  year
• 4:46
  old
• 4:46
  to
• 4:46
  start
• 4:46
  to
• 4:47
  integrate
• 4:47
  some
• 4:47
  of
• 4:47
  her
• 4:48
  ideas,
• 4:49
  it
• 4:49
  would
• 4:49
  be.
• 4:50
  It
• 4:50
  would
• 4:50
  be
• 4:50
  very
• 4:51
  helpful.
• 4:51
  And
• 4:51
  also
• 4:52
  parents
• 4:52
  who
• 4:53
  feel
• 4:53
  like
• 4:53
  they're
• 4:53
  over
• 4:54
  parenting.
• 4:54
  Yes.
• 4:55
  Like
• 4:55
  this
• 4:55
  might
• 4:55
  help
• 4:56
  you
• 4:56
  calm
• 4:56
  yourself
• 4:57
  and
• 4:57
  back.
• 4:58
  Back
• 4:58
  down
• 4:58
  a
• 4:58
  little
• 4:58
  bit.
• 4:59
  Yes.
• 4:59
  And
• 4:59
  realize
• 5:00
  that
• 5:00
  parents
• 5:00
  have
• 5:01
  been
• 5:02
  way
• 5:02
  less
• 5:02
  involved
• 5:03
  most
• 5:04
  of
• 5:04
  the
• 5:04
  time.
• 5:05
  That
• 5:05
  humanity
• 5:06
  has
• 5:06
  existed.
• 5:07
  Right,
• 5:07
  right.
• 5:08
  And
• 5:08
  I
• 5:09
  loved
• 5:09
  it.
• 5:09
  Also,
• 5:09
  I
• 5:10
  meant
• 5:10
  to
• 5:10
  ask
• 5:10
  you.
• 5:11
  So
• 5:11
  have
• 5:11
  you
• 5:11
  seen
• 5:11
  that
• 5:12
  show?
• 5:14
  It's
• 5:14
  all
• 5:14
  her
• 5:14
  fault
• 5:15
  or
• 5:16
  all
• 5:16
  her
• 5:16
  fault?
• 5:16
  No,
• 5:17
  I've
• 5:17
  been
• 5:17
  avoiding
• 5:17
  it.
• 5:18
  Why?
• 5:18
  Because
• 5:19
  I
• 5:19
  think
• 5:19
  it's
• 5:19
  going
• 5:19
  to
• 5:19
  be
• 5:19
  too
• 5:20
  stressful
• 5:20
  for
• 5:21
  me.
• 5:21
  Okay.
• 5:22
  Well,
• 5:23
  probably,
• 5:23
  yes.
• 5:24
  Because
• 5:24
  I
• 5:24
  don't
• 5:24
  like
• 5:24
  to
• 5:24
  have
• 5:25
  extra
• 5:25
  stress
• 5:25
  in
• 5:26
  my
• 5:26
  life,
• 5:26
  and
• 5:26
  I
• 5:26
  know
• 5:26
  that
• 5:27
  it's
• 5:27
  going
• 5:27
  to
• 5:27
  be
• 5:27
  scary
• 5:28
  and
• 5:28
  stressful.
• 5:28
  Well,
• 5:29
  it
• 5:29
  is.
• 5:29
  It
• 5:30
  is
• 5:30
  both
• 5:30
  of
• 5:30
  those
• 5:30
  things.
• 5:31
  However,
• 5:31
  it
• 5:32
  is
• 5:32
  so
• 5:33
  good,
• 5:34
  really.
• 5:34
  It
• 5:34
  demonstrates
• 5:35
  so
• 5:36
  well
• 5:37
  the
• 5:37
  experience
• 5:38
  of
• 5:38
  being
• 5:39
  a
• 5:39
  young
• 5:40
  mother
• 5:41
  in
• 5:41
  the
• 5:41
  sense
• 5:41
  that,
• 5:42
  like,
• 5:42
  women
• 5:43
  do
• 5:43
  so
• 5:43
  much
• 5:43
  invisible
• 5:44
  stuff,
• 5:44
  but
• 5:45
  stuff
• 5:45
  has
• 5:45
  to
• 5:45
  get
• 5:46
  done.
• 5:46
  Like
• 5:46
  kids,
• 5:46
  lunches
• 5:47
  have
• 5:47
  to
• 5:47
  get
• 5:47
  made
• 5:48
  and
• 5:48
  doctor's
• 5:48
  appointments
• 5:48
  have
• 5:49
  to
• 5:49
  get
• 5:49
  scheduled,
• 5:49
  and
• 5:50
  so
• 5:50
  much
• 5:50
  has
• 5:50
  to
• 5:50
  happen.
• 5:51
  And
• 5:51
  I
• 5:52
  think
• 5:52
  the
• 5:52
  way
• 5:54
  the
• 5:54
  scenes
• 5:55
  that
• 5:55
  they
• 5:55
  let
• 5:55
  these
• 5:56
  characters
• 5:56
  live
• 5:56
  out
• 5:57
  are
• 5:57
  just
• 5:58
  so
• 5:59
  perfectly
• 6:00
  executed.
• 6:01
  And,
• 6:01
  like,
• 6:01
  I
• 6:01
  have
• 6:02
  a
• 6:02
  wonderful
• 6:02
  husband
• 6:02
  who
• 6:03
  does
• 6:03
  a
• 6:03
  lot,
• 6:03
  but
• 6:03
  there
• 6:04
  are
• 6:04
  still
• 6:04
  moments
• 6:05
  where
• 6:05
  I'm
• 6:05
  like,
• 6:05
  oh,
• 6:05
  my
• 6:05
  God,
• 6:06
  I
• 6:06
  just
• 6:06
  feel
• 6:06
  so
• 6:06
  seen.
• 6:07
  Oh,
• 6:08
  really?
• 6:08
  You
• 6:09
  felt
• 6:09
  seen
• 6:09
  in
• 6:09
  the
• 6:10
  show?
• 6:10
  Not.
• 6:10
  Not
• 6:11
  necessarily
• 6:12
  by
• 6:13
  your
• 6:13
  husband
• 6:13
  sometimes?
• 6:14
  Well,
• 6:14
  no,
• 6:14
  I
• 6:15
  do
• 6:15
  feel
• 6:15
  seen
• 6:15
  by
• 6:16
  him.
• 6:16
  And
• 6:16
  he.
• 6:16
  What's
• 6:17
  interesting
• 6:17
  is
• 6:17
  I
• 6:17
  watched
• 6:18
  it
• 6:18
  with
• 6:18
  him.
• 6:18
  I
• 6:18
  would
• 6:18
  highly
• 6:19
  recommend
• 6:19
  watching
• 6:19
  it
• 6:20
  with
• 6:20
  your
• 6:20
  husband,
• 6:21
  especially
• 6:21
  if
• 6:21
  you
• 6:22
  have
• 6:22
  young
• 6:22
  kids,
• 6:23
  because
• 6:23
  it
• 6:24
  is
• 6:24
  illuminating
• 6:25
  for
• 6:25
  them,
• 6:25
  because
• 6:26
  they
• 6:26
  get
• 6:26
  to
• 6:26
  watch
• 6:26
  these
• 6:27
  women
• 6:27
  live
• 6:28
  these
• 6:28
  things
• 6:28
  out
• 6:29
  with
• 6:29
  their
• 6:29
  husbands
• 6:30
  and
• 6:30
  see
• 6:31
  the
• 6:31
  way
• 6:31
  their
• 6:32
  husbands
• 6:32
  are.
• 6:33
  So
• 6:34
  they're
• 6:34
  not
• 6:35
  invested
• 6:36
  in
• 6:36
  the
• 6:36
  same
• 6:37
  way
• 6:37
  that
• 6:38
  the
• 6:38
  wives
• 6:38
  are
• 6:39
  in
• 6:39
  terms
• 6:39
  of,
• 6:39
  like,
• 6:40
  the
• 6:40
  everyday
• 6:41
  minutiae
• 6:42
  of
• 6:42
  having
• 6:43
  children.
• 6:43
  Okay.
• 6:44
  You
• 6:44
  know,
• 6:45
  and
• 6:45
  it's.
• 6:46
  I
• 6:46
  mean,
• 6:46
  Ben
• 6:47
  even
• 6:47
  asked
• 6:47
  me.
• 6:47
  He
• 6:47
  was
• 6:48
  like,
• 6:48
  am
• 6:48
  I
• 6:48
  like
• 6:48
  that?
• 6:49
  I'm
• 6:49
  like,
• 6:49
  no,
• 6:49
  sweetie,
• 6:50
  you're
• 6:50
  not
• 6:50
  like
• 6:51
  that.
• 6:51
  However,
• 6:53
  I'm
• 6:53
  glad
• 6:53
  you're
• 6:53
  watching
• 6:53
  this
• 6:53
  with
• 6:54
  me,
• 6:54
  because
• 6:54
  now
• 6:54
  you'll
• 6:55
  never
• 6:55
  be
• 6:55
  like
• 6:55
  that.
• 6:56
  Okay.
• 6:56
  Oh,
• 6:57
  good.
• 6:57
  So
• 6:58
  good.
• 6:59
  You
• 6:59
  should
• 6:59
  watch
• 6:59
  it.
• 7:00
  I
• 7:00
  know
• 7:00
  it's
• 7:00
  gonna
• 7:00
  be
• 7:00
  stressful
• 7:01
  and
• 7:01
  you
• 7:01
  hate
• 7:01
  to
• 7:01
  be
• 7:02
  stressed
• 7:02
  out,
• 7:02
  but,
• 7:02
  like,
• 7:02
  I
• 7:03
  don't
• 7:03
  know,
• 7:03
  take
• 7:03
  a
• 7:03
  pill
• 7:03
  for
• 7:03
  it
• 7:04
  and
• 7:04
  watch
• 7:04
  it.
• 7:04
  Okay,
• 7:05
  maybe
• 7:06
  I'll
• 7:06
  watch
• 7:06
  it.
• 7:06
  You
• 7:06
  know,
• 7:07
  I
• 7:07
  don't
• 7:08
  know.
• 7:08
  On
• 7:08
  a
• 7:08
  little
• 7:08
  vacation
• 7:09
  or
• 7:09
  when
• 7:09
  I'm
• 7:10
  not.
• 7:10
  Why
• 7:10
  would
• 7:10
  you
• 7:10
  watch
• 7:11
  it?
• 7:11
  Why
• 7:11
  would
• 7:11
  you
• 7:11
  stress
• 7:12
  yourself
• 7:12
  out
• 7:12
  on
• 7:12
  vacation?
• 7:13
  Well,
• 7:13
  stress
• 7:14
  yourself
• 7:14
  out
• 7:14
  in
• 7:14
  real
• 7:14
  life.
• 7:15
  Oh,
• 7:15
  look,
• 7:15
  I'm
• 7:15
  already
• 7:16
  stressed
• 7:16
  out
• 7:16
  in
• 7:17
  real
• 7:17
  life,
• 7:17
  so
• 7:17
  I
• 7:17
  don't
• 7:18
  know.
• 7:18
  I'm
• 7:18
  just
• 7:18
  trying
• 7:18
  to
• 7:18
  limit
• 7:19
  the
• 7:19
  stress,
• 7:19
  that's
• 7:20
  all.
• 7:20
  I
• 7:20
  watch
• 7:21
  comedies.
• 7:21
  Let
• 7:22
  the
• 7:22
  stress
• 7:22
  in.
• 7:23
  All
• 7:23
  right,
• 7:23
  maybe.
• 7:24
  All
• 7:24
  right,
• 7:24
  maybe
• 7:24
  I'll
• 7:25
  try
• 7:25
  it.
• 7:25
  That
• 7:25
  sounds.
• 7:25
  It
• 7:26
  does
• 7:26
  sound
• 7:26
  good.
• 7:26
  It's
• 7:27
  good.
• 7:27
  It
• 7:27
  does.
• 7:27
  Anyway,
• 7:28
  back
• 7:28
  to
• 7:28
  our
• 7:28
  book.
• 7:28
  Oh,
• 7:29
  yeah,
• 7:29
  back
• 7:29
  to
• 7:29
  the
• 7:29
  book.
• 7:29
  Let's
• 7:30
  Go
• 7:30
  back
• 7:30
  to
• 7:30
  the
• 7:30
  book.
• 7:30
  Okay,
• 7:31
  so
• 7:32
  let
• 7:32
  me
• 7:32
  just
• 7:33
  sort
• 7:33
  of.
• 7:33
  Give
• 7:33
  us
• 7:33
  an
• 7:33
  overview.
• 7:34
  I'll
• 7:34
  give
• 7:34
  you
• 7:34
  the
• 7:34
  overview
• 7:35
  because,
• 7:35
  you
• 7:35
  know,
• 7:35
  that's
• 7:35
  me.
• 7:36
  I
• 7:36
  love
• 7:36
  to
• 7:36
  see
• 7:36
  the.
• 7:37
  I
• 7:37
  like
• 7:37
  the
• 7:37
  overview.
• 7:38
  Yes,
• 7:38
  give
• 7:38
  us
• 7:38
  the
• 7:38
  macro.
• 7:39
  Okay,
• 7:39
  here's
• 7:39
  the
• 7:40
  macro.
• 7:40
  Okay.
• 7:41
  The
• 7:41
  author,
• 7:42
  an
• 7:42
  American
• 7:42
  parent,
• 7:44
  she
• 7:44
  grew
• 7:44
  up
• 7:44
  in
• 7:44
  a
• 7:45
  very
• 7:45
  angry
• 7:45
  home
• 7:46
  and
• 7:46
  so
• 7:47
  she,
• 7:47
  she
• 7:47
  wants
• 7:48
  to
• 7:48
  be
• 7:48
  a
• 7:48
  really
• 7:48
  good
• 7:48
  mother,
• 7:49
  but
• 7:50
  she's
• 7:50
  struggling
• 7:50
  to
• 7:51
  raise
• 7:51
  her
• 7:51
  daughter.
• 7:52
  Her
• 7:52
  name
• 7:52
  is
• 7:52
  Rosie.
• 7:53
  She
• 7:53
  sounds
• 7:53
  adorable,
• 7:54
  adorable,
• 7:55
  Very
• 7:55
  willful
• 7:56
  and
• 7:56
  difficult
• 7:57
  as
• 7:57
  kids
• 7:58
  can
• 7:58
  be.
• 7:58
  Leadership
• 7:59
  quality
• 7:59
  is
• 8:00
  not
• 8:00
  so
• 8:00
  great
• 8:00
  as
• 8:00
  a
• 8:01
  child,
• 8:01
  but
• 8:01
  will
• 8:01
  serve
• 8:02
  her
• 8:02
  well
• 8:02
  as
• 8:02
  an
• 8:02
  adult.
• 8:03
  Yes,
• 8:03
  exactly.
• 8:05
  She's
• 8:05
  very
• 8:05
  strong
• 8:06
  willed.
• 8:06
  And
• 8:07
  so
• 8:08
  anyway,
• 8:08
  so
• 8:08
  she's
• 8:09
  trying
• 8:09
  to
• 8:09
  figure
• 8:09
  out
• 8:09
  how
• 8:10
  to
• 8:10
  raise
• 8:10
  her
• 8:10
  daughter.
• 8:10
  And
• 8:11
  she
• 8:11
  is
• 8:11
  a,
• 8:13
  she's
• 8:14
  a
• 8:14
  reporter
• 8:14
  and
• 8:15
  she
• 8:15
  decides
• 8:16
  that
• 8:16
  what
• 8:17
  she
• 8:17
  wants
• 8:17
  to
• 8:17
  do
• 8:18
  is
• 8:19
  go
• 8:19
  live
• 8:19
  with
• 8:20
  populations
• 8:21
  around
• 8:21
  the
• 8:21
  world
• 8:21
  and
• 8:22
  see
• 8:22
  how
• 8:23
  they
• 8:23
  raise
• 8:24
  their
• 8:24
  children.
• 8:25
  And
• 8:25
  these
• 8:25
  are
• 8:26
  populations
• 8:27
  where
• 8:27
  they're
• 8:28
  raising
• 8:28
  kids
• 8:29
  the
• 8:29
  same
• 8:29
  way
• 8:29
  today
• 8:30
  that
• 8:30
  they
• 8:30
  raised
• 8:31
  them
• 8:31
  thousands
• 8:32
  of
• 8:32
  years
• 8:32
  ago.
• 8:33
  She's
• 8:33
  on
• 8:33
  another
• 8:33
  assignment
• 8:34
  and
• 8:34
  she
• 8:34
  starts
• 8:35
  to
• 8:35
  see,
• 8:36
  you
• 8:36
  know
• 8:36
  that
• 8:36
  she's
• 8:36
  in
• 8:37
  the
• 8:37
  Yucatan.
• 8:37
  Yeah.
• 8:38
  And
• 8:38
  she's
• 8:38
  seeing
• 8:39
  how,
• 8:39
  how
• 8:39
  they're
• 8:40
  raising
• 8:40
  their
• 8:40
  kids
• 8:41
  and
• 8:41
  she's
• 8:41
  wondering
• 8:42
  why
• 8:42
  are
• 8:42
  they
• 8:43
  so
• 8:43
  helpful?
• 8:43
  Why
• 8:44
  are
• 8:44
  they
• 8:44
  so
• 8:45
  good
• 8:45
  and
• 8:46
  why
• 8:46
  can't
• 8:46
  I
• 8:46
  make
• 8:46
  my
• 8:47
  daughter
• 8:47
  be
• 8:47
  like
• 8:47
  that?
• 8:48
  Yeah.
• 8:48
  Why
• 8:48
  are
• 8:48
  they
• 8:48
  so
• 8:49
  cooperative?
• 8:49
  Yeah.
• 8:50
  And
• 8:50
  really
• 8:51
  inspires
• 8:51
  her
• 8:51
  to
• 8:52
  try
• 8:52
  to
• 8:52
  go
• 8:52
  find
• 8:52
  out.
• 8:53
  And
• 8:53
  so
• 8:53
  she
• 8:54
  ends
• 8:54
  up
• 8:54
  going
• 8:54
  to
• 8:56
  the
• 8:56
  Maya
• 8:57
  people
• 8:57
  in
• 8:57
  the
• 8:57
  Yucatan,
• 8:59
  the
• 8:59
  Intuit
• 9:00
  in
• 9:00
  the
• 9:01
  Arctic
• 9:01
  Circle
• 9:02
  and
• 9:02
  the,
• 9:03
  I'm
• 9:03
  going
• 9:03
  to
• 9:03
  say,
• 9:04
  had
• 9:05
  Zabihabi,
• 9:07
  I
• 9:07
  don't
• 9:07
  know,
• 9:07
  in
• 9:08
  Tanzania.
• 9:08
  Yes.
• 9:09
  And
• 9:09
  these
• 9:09
  are
• 9:09
  three
• 9:10
  populations
• 9:10
  where
• 9:10
  she
• 9:11
  says
• 9:11
  in
• 9:11
  the
• 9:11
  Maya,
• 9:12
  in
• 9:12
  the
• 9:12
  Yucatan
• 9:13
  raised
• 9:13
  the
• 9:13
  most
• 9:14
  helpful
• 9:14
  children
• 9:14
  in
• 9:14
  the
• 9:15
  world.
• 9:15
  The
• 9:16
  Intuit
• 9:16
  raised
• 9:17
  the
• 9:17
  Inuit.
• 9:18
  Is
• 9:18
  it
• 9:18
  Inuit?
• 9:18
  Inuit.
• 9:19
  Intuit
• 9:20
  is
• 9:20
  a
• 9:20
  different
• 9:21
  thing.
• 9:21
  Oh,
• 9:21
  okay.
• 9:22
  Thank
• 9:22
  you.
• 9:22
  You're
• 9:23
  welcome.
• 9:23
  Thank
• 9:23
  you.
• 9:23
  Inuit
• 9:24
  in
• 9:24
  the
• 9:25
  Arctic
• 9:25
  Circle,
• 9:26
  they
• 9:26
  raise
• 9:26
  children
• 9:27
  who
• 9:27
  have
• 9:27
  incredible
• 9:28
  emotional
• 9:28
  control.
• 9:29
  And
• 9:30
  then
• 9:30
  the
• 9:30
  Hadzabi
• 9:32
  raise
• 9:32
  very
• 9:32
  self
• 9:33
  sufficient,
• 9:33
  confident
• 9:34
  children.
• 9:34
  And
• 9:35
  so
• 9:35
  she
• 9:35
  goes,
• 9:35
  she
• 9:35
  lives
• 9:36
  with
• 9:36
  families
• 9:36
  in
• 9:37
  those
• 9:37
  worlds
• 9:38
  and
• 9:38
  she
• 9:39
  watches
• 9:39
  what
• 9:40
  they
• 9:40
  do,
• 9:40
  how
• 9:41
  they
• 9:41
  raise
• 9:41
  their
• 9:41
  kids,
• 9:41
  observes,
• 9:42
  shares
• 9:43
  the
• 9:43
  information
• 9:44
  with
• 9:44
  us.
• 9:44
  And
• 9:45
  that's
• 9:45
  really
• 9:45
  where
• 9:45
  this
• 9:46
  book
• 9:46
  all
• 9:46
  comes
• 9:46
  from.
• 9:47
  So
• 9:47
  good.
• 9:47
  Yeah,
• 9:48
  so
• 9:48
  enlightening.
• 9:49
  It
• 9:50
  really
• 9:50
  does.
• 9:50
  And
• 9:50
  she
• 9:50
  has
• 9:51
  an
• 9:51
  acronym
• 9:52
  for
• 9:53
  Western.
• 9:55
  I
• 9:55
  think
• 9:56
  when
• 9:56
  she
• 9:56
  says
• 9:56
  Western,
• 9:56
  she
• 9:57
  means
• 9:57
  North
• 9:57
  America,
• 9:58
  Canada
• 9:58
  and
• 9:59
  Western
• 9:59
  Europe
• 10:00
  and
• 10:00
  the
• 10:00
  ways
• 10:01
  that.
• 10:01
  And
• 10:01
  the
• 10:02
  United
• 10:02
  Kingdom,
• 10:03
  which
• 10:03
  is
• 10:03
  no
• 10:03
  longer
• 10:03
  part
• 10:04
  of
• 10:04
  Europe
• 10:04
  because
• 10:04
  Brexit.
• 10:05
  But
• 10:06
  anyway,
• 10:06
  neither
• 10:06
  here
• 10:06
  nor
• 10:07
  there.
• 10:07
  So
• 10:08
  this
• 10:09
  acronym
• 10:09
  she
• 10:10
  has
• 10:10
  is
• 10:10
  weird
• 10:11
  Western
• 10:11
  educated,
• 10:12
  industrialized,
• 10:13
  rich,
• 10:13
  democratic
• 10:14
  societies.
• 10:15
  And
• 10:15
  the
• 10:16
  way
• 10:16
  that
• 10:16
  we
• 10:17
  raise
• 10:17
  children
• 10:17
  here
• 10:18
  is
• 10:19
  so
• 10:19
  Aggressively
• 10:19
  hands
• 10:20
  on
• 10:21
  is
• 10:21
  so
• 10:22
  obsessed
• 10:22
  with
• 10:22
  entertaining
• 10:23
  our
• 10:24
  kids
• 10:24
  and
• 10:25
  keeping
• 10:25
  them
• 10:25
  occupied
• 10:26
  every
• 10:26
  second
• 10:26
  of
• 10:26
  every
• 10:27
  day.
• 10:28
  And
• 10:28
  it
• 10:28
  is
• 10:29
  such
• 10:29
  a.
• 10:29
  It's
• 10:30
  a
• 10:30
  form
• 10:30
  of
• 10:30
  parenting
• 10:30
  where
• 10:30
  there's
• 10:31
  so
• 10:31
  much
• 10:31
  intervention
• 10:32
  on
• 10:32
  our
• 10:33
  parts.
• 10:33
  Right.
• 10:34
  And
• 10:34
  we
• 10:34
  never
• 10:35
  shut
• 10:35
  up.
• 10:35
  Never
• 10:35
  shut
• 10:35
  up.
• 10:36
  We
• 10:36
  talk
• 10:36
  all
• 10:36
  the
• 10:36
  time
• 10:37
  to
• 10:37
  our.
• 10:37
  Kids,
• 10:38
  which
• 10:39
  in
• 10:39
  some
• 10:40
  ways
• 10:40
  is
• 10:40
  good.
• 10:41
  But
• 10:41
  I
• 10:42
  guess
• 10:42
  in
• 10:42
  terms
• 10:42
  of.
• 10:43
  In
• 10:43
  the
• 10:43
  ways
• 10:44
  that
• 10:44
  these
• 10:44
  other
• 10:45
  cultures
• 10:46
  raise
• 10:46
  their
• 10:46
  children,
• 10:47
  they
• 10:47
  just
• 10:47
  don't
• 10:48
  need
• 10:48
  all
• 10:48
  that.
• 10:49
  Well,
• 10:49
  talking
• 10:49
  to
• 10:50
  your
• 10:50
  children
• 10:50
  is
• 10:50
  good
• 10:52
  in
• 10:52
  many,
• 10:53
  many
• 10:53
  ways,
• 10:54
  but
• 10:54
  ordering
• 10:55
  them
• 10:55
  around
• 10:56
  and
• 10:57
  telling
• 10:57
  them
• 10:57
  what
• 10:58
  to
• 10:58
  do
• 10:58
  constantly,
• 10:59
  that's
• 10:59
  really
• 11:00
  where
• 11:00
  I
• 11:00
  think
• 11:00
  she's
• 11:01
  going
• 11:01
  with
• 11:01
  this.
• 11:01
  Yeah.
• 11:01
  She's
• 11:02
  like,
• 11:02
  stop
• 11:02
  instructing
• 11:03
  your
• 11:03
  kids.
• 11:04
  Stop
• 11:04
  interfering.
• 11:05
  They
• 11:05
  know
• 11:06
  how
• 11:06
  to
• 11:06
  do
• 11:06
  things
• 11:07
  themselves.
• 11:07
  Or
• 11:07
  let
• 11:08
  them
• 11:08
  try
• 11:08
  it
• 11:08
  their
• 11:09
  way.
• 11:09
  Yeah.
• 11:09
  And
• 11:10
  one
• 11:10
  point
• 11:10
  she
• 11:11
  makes
• 11:11
  that
• 11:11
  I
• 11:11
  think
• 11:11
  is
• 11:12
  so
• 11:13
  brilliant
• 11:13
  is
• 11:14
  that
• 11:15
  in
• 11:15
  the.
• 11:16
  In
• 11:16
  these
• 11:16
  westernized
• 11:17
  cultures,
• 11:18
  we
• 11:18
  aggressively
• 11:20
  overestimate
• 11:21
  children's
• 11:22
  emotional
• 11:23
  abilities
• 11:24
  and
• 11:24
  really
• 11:25
  underestimate
• 11:25
  their
• 11:26
  physical
• 11:26
  capabilities,
• 11:28
  which
• 11:29
  leads
• 11:29
  us
• 11:29
  to
• 11:30
  have
• 11:30
  very
• 11:30
  misaligned
• 11:31
  expectations
• 11:32
  for
• 11:32
  our
• 11:32
  kids
• 11:33
  in
• 11:33
  terms
• 11:33
  of
• 11:33
  the
• 11:33
  way
• 11:34
  that
• 11:34
  they
• 11:34
  behave.
• 11:36
  Like,
• 11:36
  we
• 11:36
  hate
• 11:37
  that
• 11:37
  they
• 11:37
  have
• 11:37
  tantrums
• 11:38
  here.
• 11:38
  We
• 11:38
  don't.
• 11:38
  We
• 11:39
  like
• 11:39
  to,
• 11:39
  like,
• 11:40
  quash
• 11:40
  their
• 11:40
  tantrums.
• 11:42
  Whereas
• 11:43
  they
• 11:43
  understand
• 11:44
  in
• 11:44
  these
• 11:44
  other
• 11:44
  cultures,
• 11:45
  like
• 11:45
  kids,
• 11:46
  if
• 11:46
  they
• 11:46
  haven't
• 11:47
  done
• 11:47
  something
• 11:48
  properly,
• 11:48
  it's
• 11:48
  because
• 11:49
  they
• 11:49
  don't
• 11:49
  understand.
• 11:50
  Right,
• 11:50
  right.
• 11:51
  And
• 11:51
  we
• 11:51
  don't
• 11:52
  let
• 11:52
  our
• 11:52
  kids
• 11:52
  do
• 11:54
  anything
• 11:54
  here.
• 11:55
  The
• 11:56
  way
• 11:56
  that
• 11:56
  they
• 11:56
  sort
• 11:57
  of
• 11:57
  expect
• 11:57
  their
• 11:57
  kids
• 11:58
  to
• 11:58
  participate
• 11:58
  in
• 11:58
  chores
• 12:00
  and
• 12:00
  helping
• 12:00
  their
• 12:01
  siblings
• 12:02
  and
• 12:02
  all
• 12:02
  of
• 12:03
  these
• 12:03
  physical
• 12:04
  tasks
• 12:04
  that
• 12:04
  we
• 12:05
  just
• 12:05
  don't
• 12:05
  expect
• 12:05
  our
• 12:06
  kids
• 12:06
  to
• 12:06
  do
• 12:06
  here
• 12:06
  because
• 12:07
  we.
• 12:07
  Don'T
• 12:07
  think
• 12:07
  they
• 12:07
  can
• 12:07
  do
• 12:08
  it.
• 12:08
  And
• 12:08
  we
• 12:09
  just
• 12:09
  tell
• 12:09
  them,
• 12:09
  don't
• 12:09
  even
• 12:10
  try.
• 12:10
  I'll
• 12:10
  do.
• 12:11
  You
• 12:11
  go
• 12:12
  play.
• 12:12
  You
• 12:12
  go
• 12:12
  do
• 12:12
  something
• 12:13
  else.
• 12:13
  And
• 12:13
  that's
• 12:13
  a
• 12:13
  mistake.
• 12:14
  Right.
• 12:14
  And.
• 12:15
  Well,
• 12:15
  one
• 12:15
  thing
• 12:16
  I
• 12:16
  just
• 12:16
  want
• 12:16
  to
• 12:16
  say
• 12:16
  that
• 12:17
  I
• 12:17
  thought
• 12:17
  this.
• 12:17
  This
• 12:18
  to
• 12:18
  me,
• 12:18
  just
• 12:19
  really
• 12:19
  kind
• 12:20
  of
• 12:20
  hit
• 12:20
  me
• 12:21
  when
• 12:21
  she
• 12:21
  was
• 12:21
  talking
• 12:22
  about
• 12:22
  how
• 12:23
  most
• 12:24
  of
• 12:24
  the
• 12:24
  advice
• 12:25
  that
• 12:25
  we
• 12:25
  follow
• 12:26
  in
• 12:26
  the
• 12:26
  west
• 12:28
  is
• 12:28
  really
• 12:29
  about
• 12:29
  150
• 12:30
  to
• 12:31
  100
• 12:31
  years
• 12:32
  old.
• 12:32
  And
• 12:33
  it
• 12:33
  really,
• 12:33
  it
• 12:33
  comes
• 12:34
  from
• 12:34
  doctors
• 12:35
  who
• 12:36
  are
• 12:36
  men.
• 12:37
  Men,
• 12:37
  male
• 12:38
  doctors
• 12:39
  who
• 12:40
  were
• 12:40
  giving
• 12:40
  advice
• 12:41
  to
• 12:41
  foundling
• 12:42
  hospitals
• 12:43
  where
• 12:43
  nurses
• 12:43
  cared
• 12:44
  for,
• 12:44
  like,
• 12:44
  hundreds
• 12:45
  of
• 12:45
  abandoned
• 12:46
  babies
• 12:46
  at
• 12:46
  one
• 12:47
  time.
• 12:47
  And
• 12:47
  there
• 12:48
  were
• 12:48
  just
• 12:48
  too
• 12:48
  many
• 12:48
  babies
• 12:49
  to
• 12:49
  hug
• 12:49
  and
• 12:50
  to
• 12:50
  feed
• 12:51
  when
• 12:51
  they
• 12:51
  cried.
• 12:52
  And
• 12:52
  they
• 12:52
  had
• 12:53
  to
• 12:53
  come
• 12:53
  up
• 12:53
  with.
• 12:53
  Systems,
• 12:54
  systems
• 12:54
  that
• 12:55
  were
• 12:55
  like,
• 12:56
  you
• 12:56
  know,
• 12:56
  don't
• 12:57
  rock
• 12:57
  your
• 12:57
  baby
• 12:57
  to
• 12:58
  sleep.
• 12:58
  You
• 12:59
  know,
• 12:59
  let
• 12:59
  them
• 12:59
  cry
• 13:00
  and
• 13:00
  put
• 13:00
  themselves
• 13:01
  to
• 13:01
  sleep.
• 13:02
  Don't
• 13:02
  feed
• 13:02
  them
• 13:03
  when
• 13:03
  they're
• 13:03
  hungry.
• 13:04
  Put
• 13:04
  them
• 13:04
  on
• 13:04
  a
• 13:05
  schedule
• 13:05
  as
• 13:05
  soon
• 13:05
  as
• 13:05
  you
• 13:06
  can
• 13:06
  get
• 13:06
  them
• 13:06
  on
• 13:06
  a
• 13:06
  schedule.
• 13:07
  And.
• 13:08
  And
• 13:08
  a
• 13:09
  lot
• 13:09
  of.
• 13:10
  And
• 13:10
  in
• 13:10
  fact,
• 13:10
  the
• 13:11
  sleep
• 13:12
  Training
• 13:13
  advice
• 13:14
  came
• 13:14
  from
• 13:15
  a
• 13:15
  sportscaster,
• 13:16
  a
• 13:16
  sports
• 13:17
  writer.
• 13:17
  Who,
• 13:17
  like,
• 13:18
  dabbled
• 13:18
  in
• 13:19
  medicine,
• 13:19
  dabbled
• 13:19
  in
• 13:19
  childcare.
• 13:20
  I
• 13:20
  don't
• 13:21
  even
• 13:21
  know.
• 13:21
  But
• 13:22
  that's
• 13:22
  where
• 13:22
  it
• 13:22
  started.
• 13:22
  I
• 13:23
  just
• 13:23
  wish
• 13:23
  I
• 13:24
  had
• 13:24
  the
• 13:24
  confidence
• 13:25
  of
• 13:25
  even
• 13:25
  the
• 13:26
  least
• 13:26
  confident
• 13:26
  man
• 13:27
  I
• 13:27
  know.
• 13:27
  I
• 13:27
  know.
• 13:28
  It's
• 13:28
  like,
• 13:28
  what?
• 13:29
  I've
• 13:29
  never
• 13:30
  done
• 13:30
  this
• 13:30
  before.
• 13:30
  I've
• 13:30
  never
• 13:31
  studied
• 13:31
  it,
• 13:31
  but
• 13:31
  I'm
• 13:32
  going
• 13:32
  to
• 13:32
  claim
• 13:32
  expertise
• 13:33
  and
• 13:33
  I
• 13:33
  will
• 13:33
  tell.
• 13:34
  You
• 13:34
  how
• 13:34
  to
• 13:34
  do
• 13:34
  this.
• 13:35
  And
• 13:35
  it
• 13:35
  started
• 13:35
  back
• 13:36
  then,
• 13:36
  and
• 13:36
  we,
• 13:36
  I
• 13:37
  guess,
• 13:37
  have
• 13:37
  forgotten
• 13:38
  where
• 13:38
  the
• 13:38
  advice
• 13:39
  originated.
• 13:41
  And
• 13:41
  then
• 13:41
  it
• 13:41
  evolved
• 13:42
  and
• 13:42
  people
• 13:42
  followed
• 13:43
  it.
• 13:44
  And
• 13:44
  this
• 13:44
  was
• 13:45
  basically
• 13:45
  that
• 13:46
  woman,
• 13:46
  Christy.
• 13:47
  Our
• 13:47
  foremother,
• 13:48
  Christina
• 13:49
  Christine
• 13:50
  Martiman.
• 13:51
  So
• 13:51
  she
• 13:52
  was
• 13:52
  the
• 13:52
  original
• 13:53
  reviewer
• 13:54
  of
• 13:54
  parenting
• 13:54
  books
• 13:55
  and
• 13:55
  pamphlets.
• 13:56
  According
• 13:56
  to
• 13:56
  this
• 13:56
  book,
• 13:57
  she
• 13:57
  did
• 13:57
  not
• 13:58
  have
• 13:58
  a
• 13:58
  pod,
• 13:59
  but
• 13:59
  she
• 13:59
  did
• 14:00
  read
• 14:00
  and
• 14:01
  aggregate
• 14:02
  all
• 14:02
  of
• 14:02
  this
• 14:02
  information
• 14:03
  that
• 14:04
  people
• 14:04
  had
• 14:04
  put
• 14:04
  out
• 14:05
  about
• 14:06
  parenting.
• 14:06
  And
• 14:07
  she
• 14:07
  was
• 14:07
  the
• 14:07
  one
• 14:07
  who
• 14:07
  discovered
• 14:09
  this
• 14:09
  is
• 14:09
  the
• 14:09
  deal.
• 14:10
  It
• 14:10
  was
• 14:10
  all
• 14:10
  written
• 14:11
  by
• 14:11
  these
• 14:11
  men,
• 14:11
  doctors
• 14:12
  who
• 14:12
  were
• 14:12
  trying
• 14:12
  to
• 14:13
  industrialize
• 14:13
  childcare
• 14:14
  because
• 14:14
  there
• 14:14
  were
• 14:15
  these
• 14:15
  people
• 14:16
  in
• 14:16
  these
• 14:16
  foundling
• 14:17
  hospitals
• 14:17
  who
• 14:17
  were
• 14:17
  trying
• 14:17
  to
• 14:18
  manage
• 14:18
  the
• 14:18
  care
• 14:18
  of
• 14:18
  so
• 14:18
  many
• 14:19
  kids.
• 14:20
  So,
• 14:20
  one
• 14:20
  to
• 14:21
  one,
• 14:21
  these
• 14:21
  aren't
• 14:22
  necessarily
• 14:22
  the
• 14:23
  best
• 14:23
  ways
• 14:24
  to
• 14:24
  raise
• 14:25
  your
• 14:25
  baby.
• 14:26
  But
• 14:26
  if
• 14:26
  you're
• 14:26
  dealing
• 14:27
  with
• 14:28
  hundreds
• 14:28
  of
• 14:28
  babies,
• 14:30
  then
• 14:31
  this
• 14:31
  makes
• 14:31
  sense.
• 14:32
  Right?
• 14:32
  Right.
• 14:32
  And
• 14:33
  I
• 14:33
  mean,
• 14:33
  I
• 14:34
  can't
• 14:34
  say,
• 14:35
  you
• 14:35
  know,
• 14:35
  I
• 14:36
  get
• 14:36
  it.
• 14:37
  I'm
• 14:37
  like,
• 14:37
  thinking
• 14:37
  to
• 14:38
  myself
• 14:38
  now,
• 14:38
  as
• 14:39
  a
• 14:39
  person,
• 14:39
  how
• 14:40
  it
• 14:40
  is
• 14:40
  helpful
• 14:40
  if
• 14:41
  your
• 14:41
  child's
• 14:41
  on
• 14:41
  a
• 14:42
  eating
• 14:42
  schedule.
• 14:43
  Yeah.
• 14:44
  Even
• 14:44
  when
• 14:45
  you're
• 14:45
  one
• 14:45
  parent.
• 14:46
  But
• 14:46
  maybe
• 14:46
  that's
• 14:47
  not
• 14:47
  the
• 14:47
  best
• 14:47
  thing
• 14:47
  for
• 14:47
  the
• 14:48
  child
• 14:48
  for
• 14:48
  a
• 14:49
  while.
• 14:50
  There's
• 14:50
  this
• 14:50
  corner
• 14:51
  of
• 14:51
  TikTok
• 14:52
  where
• 14:53
  moms
• 14:53
  typically,
• 14:54
  like
• 14:54
  young
• 14:55
  moms,
• 14:56
  think
• 14:56
  sleep
• 14:57
  training
• 14:57
  is
• 14:58
  a
• 14:58
  form
• 14:58
  of
• 14:58
  abuse,
• 14:59
  which
• 14:59
  is
• 15:00
  insane
• 15:00
  to
• 15:00
  me
• 15:00
  because
• 15:00
  it's
• 15:01
  not.
• 15:01
  But
• 15:01
  they're
• 15:01
  just
• 15:02
  like,
• 15:02
  if
• 15:02
  you
• 15:02
  can't
• 15:03
  handle
• 15:04
  broken
• 15:04
  sleep,
• 15:05
  you
• 15:05
  shouldn't
• 15:06
  have
• 15:06
  children.
• 15:07
  Oh,
• 15:07
  you
• 15:08
  need
• 15:08
  to
• 15:08
  understand
• 15:09
  what
• 15:09
  you're
• 15:09
  signing
• 15:10
  up
• 15:10
  for.
• 15:11
  And
• 15:11
  it's
• 15:11
  like,
• 15:12
  girl,
• 15:13
  I'm
• 15:13
  sorry.
• 15:14
  It's
• 15:14
  great
• 15:14
  that
• 15:15
  you
• 15:15
  have
• 15:16
  all
• 15:16
  this
• 15:16
  free
• 15:16
  time
• 15:17
  and
• 15:17
  can
• 15:18
  completely
• 15:18
  devote
• 15:19
  your
• 15:19
  life
• 15:19
  to
• 15:19
  childcare.
• 15:20
  Although,
• 15:20
  according
• 15:20
  to
• 15:21
  this
• 15:21
  book,
• 15:21
  we
• 15:22
  realize
• 15:22
  that
• 15:23
  one
• 15:23
  person
• 15:24
  being
• 15:24
  a
• 15:24
  child's
• 15:24
  entire
• 15:25
  world
• 15:25
  actually
• 15:26
  isn't
• 15:26
  necessarily
• 15:26
  the
• 15:27
  best
• 15:27
  way
• 15:27
  to
• 15:27
  do
• 15:27
  it.
• 15:27
  But
• 15:28
  we'll
• 15:28
  get
• 15:28
  into
• 15:28
  it.
• 15:29
  But
• 15:30
  it's
• 15:30
  crazy
• 15:30
  to
• 15:30
  me,
• 15:31
  right?
• 15:31
  I
• 15:31
  mean,
• 15:31
  and
• 15:32
  if
• 15:32
  you
• 15:32
  have
• 15:32
  a
• 15:32
  job,
• 15:33
  you
• 15:33
  know,
• 15:33
  when
• 15:33
  I
• 15:34
  had
• 15:34
  you.
• 15:34
  Even
• 15:34
  if
• 15:35
  you
• 15:35
  don't.
• 15:35
  Well,
• 15:36
  right,
• 15:36
  Even
• 15:37
  if
• 15:37
  you
• 15:37
  don't.
• 15:37
  But
• 15:37
  I'm
• 15:38
  just
• 15:38
  saying
• 15:38
  you
• 15:38
  need
• 15:38
  some
• 15:38
  peace.
• 15:39
  People
• 15:40
  do
• 15:40
  need.
• 15:40
  Sleep
• 15:41
  is
• 15:41
  very,
• 15:41
  very
• 15:41
  important.
• 15:42
  And
• 15:43
  I
• 15:43
  remember
• 15:43
  when
• 15:44
  you
• 15:44
  were
• 15:44
  a
• 15:44
  baby,
• 15:44
  an
• 15:45
  infant,
• 15:45
  I
• 15:46
  would
• 15:46
  say
• 15:46
  to
• 15:46
  you,
• 15:46
  my
• 15:47
  mantra
• 15:47
  to
• 15:47
  you
• 15:47
  is,
• 15:48
  we
• 15:48
  sleep
• 15:49
  in
• 15:49
  this
• 15:49
  house.
• 15:50
  We
• 15:50
  sleep
• 15:51
  in
• 15:51
  this
• 15:51
  house.
• 15:52
  And
• 15:52
  I
• 15:52
  would
• 15:52
  put
• 15:53
  you
• 15:53
  to
• 15:53
  bed
• 15:53
  at
• 15:54
  night
• 15:54
  because
• 15:54
  I
• 15:54
  had
• 15:55
  to
• 15:55
  go
• 15:55
  to
• 15:55
  work
• 15:55
  in
• 15:55
  the
• 15:55
  morning
• 15:56
  and
• 15:56
  dad
• 15:56
  had
• 15:56
  to
• 15:56
  go
• 15:56
  to
• 15:57
  work.
• 15:57
  I
• 15:57
  mean,
• 15:57
  we
• 15:57
  did
• 15:57
  get
• 15:58
  up
• 15:58
  with
• 15:58
  you.
• 15:58
  Yes.
• 15:59
  Although
• 16:00
  you
• 16:00
  were
• 16:00
  a
• 16:00
  pretty
• 16:01
  sleeper.
• 16:01
  Thank
• 16:01
  God.
• 16:02
  You're
• 16:02
  welcome.
• 16:02
  Until
• 16:03
  you
• 16:03
  weren't.
• 16:04
  Which
• 16:04
  is
• 16:04
  something
• 16:05
  that
• 16:05
  I
• 16:05
  guess
• 16:05
  parents
• 16:06
  should
• 16:06
  all
• 16:06
  know.
• 16:06
  Even
• 16:06
  when
• 16:06
  you
• 16:07
  do
• 16:07
  have
• 16:07
  a
• 16:07
  good
• 16:07
  sleeper,
• 16:08
  they're
• 16:08
  not
• 16:08
  always
• 16:09
  going
• 16:09
  to
• 16:09
  be
• 16:09
  a
• 16:09
  good
• 16:09
  sleeper.
• 16:10
  And
• 16:10
  that
• 16:10
  just
• 16:10
  is
• 16:10
  the
• 16:11
  way
• 16:11
  it
• 16:11
  is.
• 16:11
  But,
• 16:12
  but
• 16:12
  anyways,
• 16:13
  it's
• 16:13
  like,
• 16:14
  that's
• 16:14
  all
• 16:14
  I
• 16:14
  remember.
• 16:15
  I
• 16:15
  used
• 16:15
  to
• 16:15
  sneak
• 16:15
  into
• 16:16
  your
• 16:16
  room
• 16:16
  at
• 16:16
  like
• 16:16
  three
• 16:17
  in
• 16:17
  the
• 16:17
  morning
• 16:17
  and
• 16:17
  like
• 16:17
  fall
• 16:18
  asleep
• 16:18
  on
• 16:18
  your
• 16:18
  floor.
• 16:19
  Yes.
• 16:19
  Or
• 16:20
  I
• 16:20
  would
• 16:20
  pick
• 16:20
  you
• 16:20
  up
• 16:20
  and
• 16:21
  take
• 16:21
  you
• 16:21
  back
• 16:21
  to
• 16:21
  bed.
• 16:22
  Or
• 16:22
  if
• 16:22
  I
• 16:22
  knew
• 16:22
  I
• 16:23
  didn't
• 16:23
  want
• 16:23
  to
• 16:23
  go
• 16:23
  to
• 16:23
  school
• 16:23
  the
• 16:24
  next
• 16:24
  day,
• 16:24
  I
• 16:24
  would
• 16:24
  start
• 16:25
  planting
• 16:25
  seeds
• 16:26
  the
• 16:26
  night
• 16:26
  before
• 16:27
  and
• 16:27
  I'd
• 16:28
  like
• 16:28
  come
• 16:28
  into
• 16:28
  your
• 16:28
  room.
• 16:29
  I
• 16:29
  thought
• 16:29
  this
• 16:29
  was
• 16:29
  the
• 16:29
  best
• 16:30
  idea
• 16:30
  at
• 16:30
  like
• 16:31
  2
• 16:31
  in
• 16:31
  the
• 16:31
  morning.
• 16:31
  Be
• 16:31
  like,
• 16:33
  I'm
• 16:33
  not
• 16:34
  feeling
• 16:34
  well.
• 16:35
  Did
• 16:35
  you
• 16:35
  really?
• 16:36
  Yeah.
• 16:36
  So
• 16:37
  that
• 16:37
  way
• 16:37
  at
• 16:37
  7am
• 16:38
  I
• 16:38
  could
• 16:38
  hit
• 16:38
  you
• 16:38
  with
• 16:39
  the
• 16:39
  mom,
• 16:39
  I'm
• 16:40
  so
• 16:40
  sick.
• 16:41
  Oh
• 16:41
  my
• 16:42
  God.
• 16:42
  So
• 16:42
  that
• 16:42
  you
• 16:42
  could
• 16:43
  see
• 16:43
  there
• 16:43
  was.
• 16:43
  A
• 16:43
  build
• 16:45
  your
• 16:45
  way
• 16:45
  up
• 16:46
  to
• 16:46
  it.
• 16:47
  You,
• 16:48
  you
• 16:48
  inherited
• 16:49
  that
• 16:49
  from
• 16:49
  me
• 16:50
  because
• 16:50
  I
• 16:50
  was
• 16:50
  that
• 16:50
  way
• 16:50
  too
• 16:51
  as
• 16:51
  a
• 16:51
  kid.
• 16:52
  This
• 16:52
  is
• 16:52
  not
• 16:52
  good.
• 16:53
  All
• 16:53
  right,
• 16:53
  all
• 16:54
  right,
• 16:54
  all
• 16:54
  right.
• 16:54
  Anyway,
• 16:55
  back
• 16:55
  to
• 16:55
  our
• 16:56
  book.
• 16:56
  Right,
• 16:57
  right.
• 16:57
  Okay.
• 16:58
  So
• 16:58
  let'.
• 16:59
  Oh,
• 16:59
  and
• 16:59
  the
• 17:00
  other
• 17:00
  thing
• 17:00
  that
• 17:00
  they
• 17:00
  talked
• 17:01
  about,
• 17:01
  just
• 17:01
  one
• 17:01
  quick
• 17:02
  other
• 17:02
  thing
• 17:03
  which
• 17:03
  I
• 17:03
  thought
• 17:03
  was
• 17:03
  interesting,
• 17:04
  was
• 17:05
  that,
• 17:06
  you
• 17:06
  know,
• 17:06
  for
• 17:06
  thousands
• 17:07
  of
• 17:07
  years,
• 17:07
  kids
• 17:08
  did
• 17:08
  not
• 17:08
  have
• 17:09
  toys
• 17:10
  other
• 17:10
  than
• 17:10
  things
• 17:10
  they
• 17:11
  made.
• 17:11
  You
• 17:11
  know,
• 17:12
  they'd
• 17:12
  take
• 17:12
  a
• 17:12
  stalk
• 17:13
  of
• 17:13
  corn
• 17:13
  and
• 17:14
  that
• 17:15
  would
• 17:15
  become
• 17:15
  their
• 17:15
  doll.
• 17:16
  Or,
• 17:17
  you
• 17:17
  know,
• 17:17
  they
• 17:17
  would
• 17:17
  play
• 17:18
  some
• 17:18
  dried
• 17:18
  corn,
• 17:19
  play
• 17:19
  with
• 17:19
  rocks,
• 17:21
  and
• 17:21
  that
• 17:21
  would
• 17:22
  be
• 17:23
  furniture
• 17:23
  in
• 17:23
  a
• 17:24
  dollhouse,
• 17:24
  whatever.
• 17:25
  But
• 17:25
  then
• 17:26
  when
• 17:26
  the
• 17:26
  world
• 17:27
  became
• 17:27
  more
• 17:27
  industrialized
• 17:28
  and
• 17:28
  they
• 17:29
  could
• 17:29
  manufacture
• 17:30
  many
• 17:30
  toys,
• 17:31
  that's
• 17:32
  when
• 17:32
  it
• 17:32
  became
• 17:33
  like,
• 17:33
  very
• 17:33
  important
• 17:34
  for
• 17:34
  kids
• 17:34
  to
• 17:35
  have
• 17:35
  lots
• 17:35
  of
• 17:35
  toys.
• 17:36
  Yeah.
• 17:36
  Suddenly
• 17:37
  this
• 17:37
  thing
• 17:37
  they'd
• 17:37
  never
• 17:38
  had
• 17:38
  was
• 17:38
  pertinent
• 17:39
  to
• 17:39
  their
• 17:39
  development.
• 17:40
  Now
• 17:40
  we
• 17:40
  have
• 17:40
  to
• 17:40
  have
• 17:40
  toys
• 17:41
  for
• 17:41
  development.
• 17:42
  That's
• 17:42
  right.
• 17:42
  And
• 17:42
  so
• 17:43
  that
• 17:43
  was
• 17:43
  that.
• 17:44
  That
• 17:44
  was
• 17:44
  how
• 17:44
  the
• 17:44
  toys
• 17:45
  came
• 17:45
  along.
• 17:46
  So
• 17:47
  that's
• 17:47
  just
• 17:47
  so
• 17:47
  interesting
• 17:48
  how
• 17:48
  so
• 17:48
  many
• 17:48
  things
• 17:49
  came
• 17:49
  along
• 17:50
  that
• 17:51
  children
• 17:51
  never,
• 17:52
  never
• 17:52
  needed.
• 17:53
  And
• 17:54
  then
• 17:54
  they
• 17:54
  talked
• 17:54
  about
• 17:55
  how
• 17:56
  this
• 17:56
  happened
• 17:57
  in
• 17:57
  the
• 17:57
  60s,
• 17:57
  I
• 17:57
  guess,
• 17:58
  when
• 17:58
  the
• 17:58
  Russians
• 17:59
  put
• 18:00
  the
• 18:00
  first
• 18:00
  satellite
• 18:01
  Sputnik
• 18:01
  into
• 18:02
  space.
• 18:02
  People
• 18:03
  were
• 18:03
  stressed.
• 18:03
  Everyone
• 18:04
  in
• 18:04
  the
• 18:04
  United
• 18:04
  States
• 18:05
  and
• 18:05
  other
• 18:05
  Western
• 18:06
  societies
• 18:06
  got
• 18:07
  really
• 18:07
  nervous
• 18:08
  that,
• 18:08
  that
• 18:09
  the
• 18:09
  Russian
• 18:09
  kids
• 18:10
  were
• 18:10
  getting
• 18:10
  ahead
• 18:10
  of
• 18:11
  the
• 18:11
  American
• 18:12
  kids
• 18:12
  and
• 18:13
  the
• 18:13
  other
• 18:13
  Western
• 18:14
  kids
• 18:14
  and
• 18:15
  that
• 18:15
  we
• 18:15
  all
• 18:15
  had
• 18:16
  to
• 18:16
  start
• 18:16
  really
• 18:16
  focusing
• 18:17
  much
• 18:17
  more
• 18:18
  on
• 18:18
  education.
• 18:18
  Yeah.
• 18:19
  And
• 18:19
  so
• 18:19
  it's
• 18:19
  like
• 18:20
  we
• 18:20
  were
• 18:20
  falling
• 18:20
  behind
• 18:20
  the
• 18:21
  Russians.
• 18:21
  Suddenly,
• 18:22
  it's
• 18:22
  like
• 18:22
  that
• 18:22
  becomes
• 18:23
  the
• 18:23
  most
• 18:23
  important.
• 18:24
  So
• 18:24
  it
• 18:24
  just
• 18:24
  shows
• 18:25
  how
• 18:25
  sort
• 18:25
  of
• 18:26
  raising
• 18:26
  our
• 18:26
  kids
• 18:27
  evolved.
• 18:27
  It
• 18:28
  sounds
• 18:28
  like
• 18:28
  a
• 18:28
  lot
• 18:28
  of
• 18:28
  ideas
• 18:28
  from
• 18:29
  men.
• 18:30
  Well,
• 18:30
  I
• 18:30
  thought,
• 18:30
  being
• 18:31
  honest,
• 18:32
  I
• 18:32
  don't
• 18:32
  know.
• 18:33
  But
• 18:33
  anyway,
• 18:33
  that's
• 18:34
  how
• 18:34
  it
• 18:34
  happened.
• 18:34
  And
• 18:35
  now.
• 18:35
  And
• 18:36
  so
• 18:36
  that's
• 18:37
  sort
• 18:37
  of
• 18:37
  the
• 18:37
  backdrop
• 18:37
  for
• 18:38
  all
• 18:38
  of
• 18:38
  this.
• 18:38
  One
• 18:39
  really
• 18:39
  interesting
• 18:39
  thing
• 18:40
  that
• 18:40
  she
• 18:40
  mentions
• 18:41
  is
• 18:41
  the
• 18:41
  idea
• 18:41
  that
• 18:41
  a
• 18:41
  traditional
• 18:42
  family
• 18:42
  in
• 18:42
  the
• 18:43
  west
• 18:43
  means
• 18:43
  that
• 18:43
  the
• 18:43
  mom
• 18:44
  stays
• 18:44
  home
• 18:44
  and
• 18:45
  devotes
• 18:45
  her
• 18:45
  life
• 18:45
  to
• 18:45
  childcare.
• 18:46
  Actually
• 18:47
  isn't
• 18:47
  traditional
• 18:48
  anywhere
• 18:48
  else
• 18:49
  in
• 18:49
  the
• 18:49
  world.
• 18:49
  And
• 18:50
  it
• 18:50
  has
• 18:50
  never
• 18:50
  been
• 18:51
  traditional
• 18:52
  throughout
• 18:52
  history.
• 18:53
  Right.
• 18:53
  Because
• 18:54
  children,
• 18:55
  they
• 18:55
  say
• 18:55
  it
• 18:56
  takes
• 18:56
  a
• 18:56
  village.
• 18:56
  Yes.
• 18:57
  And
• 18:57
  the
• 18:57
  reason
• 18:57
  they
• 18:58
  say
• 18:58
  that
• 18:58
  is
• 18:58
  because
• 18:59
  it
• 18:59
  literally
• 19:00
  takes
• 19:00
  a
• 19:01
  village
• 19:01
  everywhere
• 19:01
  else.
• 19:02
  Right.
• 19:03
  It's
• 19:03
  like
• 19:03
  kids
• 19:04
  are
• 19:04
  around
• 19:04
  extended
• 19:05
  families,
• 19:05
  grandparents,
• 19:06
  aunts,
• 19:06
  uncles,
• 19:07
  cousins,
• 19:08
  millions
• 19:09
  of
• 19:09
  siblings.
• 19:09
  Not
• 19:10
  millions.
• 19:10
  Can
• 19:10
  you
• 19:10
  imagine?
• 19:11
  Oh,
• 19:11
  my
• 19:11
  God.
• 19:12
  Siblings
• 19:12
  and
• 19:13
  cousins.
• 19:13
  Exactly
• 19:14
  right.
• 19:14
  They
• 19:15
  live
• 19:15
  in
• 19:15
  communities
• 19:16
  and
• 19:16
  everybody
• 19:17
  participates.
• 19:17
  In
• 19:18
  the
• 19:18
  rearing
• 19:19
  of
• 19:19
  the
• 19:19
  children.
• 19:20
  That
• 19:20
  other
• 19:20
  point
• 19:20
  she
• 19:21
  made,
• 19:21
  too,
• 19:22
  as
• 19:22
  an
• 19:22
  aside,
• 19:23
  about
• 19:23
  how
• 19:24
  the
• 19:25
  Catholic
• 19:25
  Church
• 19:26
  was
• 19:27
  part
• 19:27
  of
• 19:27
  the
• 19:27
  reason.
• 19:28
  So
• 19:28
  people
• 19:29
  were
• 19:29
  much
• 19:29
  more,
• 19:30
  not
• 19:30
  quite
• 19:30
  tribal,
• 19:31
  but
• 19:31
  they
• 19:31
  had
• 19:31
  clans
• 19:32
  of
• 19:32
  extended
• 19:33
  families.
• 19:33
  And
• 19:34
  these
• 19:34
  extended
• 19:34
  families
• 19:35
  owned
• 19:36
  property
• 19:37
  and
• 19:37
  land
• 19:38
  and
• 19:38
  livestock.
• 19:39
  And
• 19:40
  parents
• 19:40
  were
• 19:41
  very
• 19:41
  hands
• 19:41
  off
• 19:41
  with
• 19:41
  their
• 19:42
  kids,
• 19:42
  except
• 19:42
  when
• 19:42
  it
• 19:43
  came
• 19:43
  to
• 19:43
  marriage.
• 19:44
  And
• 19:44
  they
• 19:45
  wanted
• 19:45
  to
• 19:45
  keep
• 19:45
  it,
• 19:45
  quote
• 19:46
  unquote,
• 19:46
  in
• 19:46
  the
• 19:46
  family,
• 19:47
  which
• 19:47
  does
• 19:47
  not
• 19:47
  mean
• 19:48
  what
• 19:48
  it
• 19:48
  sounds
• 19:48
  like
• 19:48
  it
• 19:49
  means.
• 19:49
  It
• 19:49
  doesn't
• 19:50
  mean
• 19:50
  marry
• 19:50
  your
• 19:51
  first
• 19:51
  cousin.
• 19:51
  It
• 19:51
  means
• 19:52
  marry
• 19:52
  somebody
• 19:52
  who
• 19:53
  is
• 19:54
  part
• 19:54
  of
• 19:54
  the
• 19:54
  extended
• 19:54
  family.
• 19:55
  So,
• 19:55
  like
• 19:55
  fourth
• 19:56
  or
• 19:56
  fifth
• 19:56
  cousin
• 19:56
  who.
• 19:57
  You'Re
• 19:57
  barely
• 19:57
  related
• 19:57
  to
• 19:58
  or
• 19:58
  someone
• 19:58
  you're
• 19:58
  related
• 19:59
  to
• 19:59
  by
• 19:59
  marriage,
• 20:00
  you
• 20:00
  know,
• 20:00
  not
• 20:00
  eating
• 20:01
  blood.
• 20:02
  Yes.
• 20:02
  To
• 20:02
  keep
• 20:03
  and
• 20:03
  preserve
• 20:04
  the
• 20:04
  wealth
• 20:05
  in
• 20:05
  this
• 20:05
  small
• 20:06
  clan
• 20:06
  of
• 20:06
  people.
• 20:08
  And
• 20:08
  then
• 20:08
  the
• 20:08
  Catholic
• 20:09
  Church
• 20:09
  became
• 20:10
  obsessed
• 20:10
  with
• 20:10
  incest
• 20:11
  and
• 20:11
  decided
• 20:12
  everything
• 20:12
  was
• 20:13
  incest,
• 20:14
  which
• 20:14
  felt
• 20:14
  to
• 20:14
  me
• 20:14
  more
• 20:15
  like
• 20:15
  a
• 20:15
  land
• 20:15
  grab.
• 20:16
  It
• 20:16
  felt
• 20:16
  like
• 20:16
  an
• 20:16
  opportunity
• 20:17
  for
• 20:17
  them
• 20:17
  to
• 20:18
  be
• 20:18
  like,
• 20:18
  everybody,
• 20:19
  break
• 20:19
  up
• 20:19
  your
• 20:19
  wealth.
• 20:19
  Nobody
• 20:20
  can
• 20:20
  keep
• 20:20
  wealth
• 20:21
  in
• 20:21
  these
• 20:21
  groups
• 20:22
  anymore
• 20:22
  because
• 20:23
  we
• 20:23
  need
• 20:23
  it.
• 20:24
  And
• 20:24
  so.
• 20:24
  Yeah.
• 20:25
  Yeah.
• 20:26
  I
• 20:26
  don't
• 20:26
  know.
• 20:26
  I
• 20:26
  mean,
• 20:27
  you're
• 20:27
  right.
• 20:27
  It's
• 20:27
  like,
• 20:28
  it's
• 20:28
  something.
• 20:29
  Yeah.
• 20:29
  They
• 20:29
  got.
• 20:30
  You
• 20:30
  literally
• 20:30
  couldn't
• 20:31
  marry
• 20:31
  your
• 20:32
  brother's
• 20:35
  wife's
• 20:35
  sister.
• 20:36
  Yes.
• 20:36
  Even
• 20:37
  though
• 20:37
  you
• 20:37
  were
• 20:37
  not
• 20:37
  related
• 20:38
  by
• 20:38
  blood.
• 20:38
  Right.
• 20:38
  That
• 20:39
  was
• 20:39
  not
• 20:39
  allowed
• 20:39
  because
• 20:39
  that
• 20:40
  was
• 20:40
  incest.
• 20:40
  Everything
• 20:41
  was
• 20:41
  incest.
• 20:41
  And
• 20:41
  so
• 20:42
  slowly
• 20:42
  things
• 20:42
  started
• 20:43
  to
• 20:44
  break
• 20:45
  down
• 20:45
  and.
• 20:46
  And
• 20:46
  these
• 20:46
  larger
• 20:47
  groups
• 20:47
  of
• 20:48
  families
• 20:48
  weren't
• 20:48
  marrying.
• 20:49
  People
• 20:49
  were
• 20:50
  scattering
• 20:51
  and.
• 20:51
  And
• 20:53
  wealth.
• 20:53
  Yes,
• 20:54
  that
• 20:54
  too.
• 20:55
  But.
• 20:55
  But
• 20:55
  in
• 20:56
  terms
• 20:56
  of
• 20:56
  family
• 20:56
  life,
• 20:57
  it.
• 20:57
  It's.
• 20:58
  You
• 20:58
  didn't
• 20:58
  necessarily
• 20:59
  have
• 20:59
  those
• 20:59
  extended
• 21:00
  groups
• 21:00
  of
• 21:00
  people,
• 21:01
  families
• 21:01
  around
• 21:02
  you.
• 21:02
  Right.
• 21:03
  And.
• 21:03
  And
• 21:04
  which
• 21:04
  is
• 21:04
  how,
• 21:04
  of
• 21:04
  course,
• 21:05
  you
• 21:05
  guys
• 21:05
  were
• 21:05
  raised,
• 21:06
  I
• 21:06
  mean,
• 21:07
  you
• 21:07
  know,
• 21:08
  your
• 21:08
  dad
• 21:09
  and
• 21:09
  I,
• 21:09
  we
• 21:10
  were
• 21:10
  living
• 21:10
  away
• 21:11
  from
• 21:11
  everyone
• 21:12
  in
• 21:12
  our
• 21:12
  family.
• 21:13
  We
• 21:14
  had
• 21:14
  no
• 21:14
  super
• 21:15
  common
• 21:15
  today.
• 21:15
  Yeah,
• 21:16
  exactly.
• 21:17
  We
• 21:17
  didn't
• 21:17
  have
• 21:17
  any
• 21:18
  family
• 21:18
  around
• 21:18
  us.
• 21:18
  And
• 21:19
  it's
• 21:19
  just
• 21:19
  the
• 21:19
  two
• 21:19
  of
• 21:20
  us.
• 21:21
  I
• 21:21
  was
• 21:21
  working,
• 21:22
  he
• 21:22
  was
• 21:22
  working.
• 21:23
  We
• 21:23
  did
• 21:24
  get
• 21:24
  a
• 21:24
  babysitter.
• 21:27
  That
• 21:27
  was
• 21:27
  the
• 21:27
  only
• 21:27
  extra.
• 21:28
  That
• 21:28
  was
• 21:28
  our
• 21:28
  extra
• 21:29
  help.
• 21:30
  Thank
• 21:30
  God.
• 21:31
  And
• 21:31
  she
• 21:31
  was
• 21:32
  wonderful.
• 21:32
  And
• 21:33
  she
• 21:33
  was
• 21:33
  like
• 21:33
  a
• 21:33
  third
• 21:33
  parent
• 21:34
  in
• 21:34
  our
• 21:34
  home.
• 21:34
  She
• 21:35
  was.
• 21:35
  We
• 21:35
  were
• 21:35
  lucky
• 21:36
  to
• 21:36
  have
• 21:36
  such
• 21:37
  a
• 21:37
  person.
• 21:37
  She
• 21:38
  was
• 21:38
  also
• 21:38
  such
• 21:38
  a
• 21:38
  different
• 21:39
  parent
• 21:39
  to
• 21:40
  you
• 21:40
  guys,
• 21:40
  which
• 21:40
  was
• 21:40
  nice.
• 21:41
  We
• 21:41
  got
• 21:41
  like
• 21:41
  a
• 21:42
  very
• 21:42
  different
• 21:43
  perspective.
• 21:43
  Exactly.
• 21:44
  Like
• 21:44
  we
• 21:44
  were
• 21:45
  the
• 21:45
  more
• 21:46
  tired,
• 21:46
  permissive
• 21:47
  parents.
• 21:48
  And
• 21:48
  she
• 21:48
  was
• 21:48
  much
• 21:48
  more
• 21:49
  structured
• 21:50
  and
• 21:51
  she
• 21:51
  was
• 21:51
  more.
• 21:52
  Raised
• 21:52
  us
• 21:52
  the
• 21:52
  way
• 21:53
  she
• 21:53
  raised
• 21:53
  her
• 21:54
  three
• 21:54
  kids
• 21:54
  and
• 21:55
  all
• 21:55
  of
• 21:55
  her
• 21:55
  grandkids.
• 21:56
  Right.
• 21:56
  You
• 21:56
  know,
• 21:56
  she
• 21:57
  had
• 21:57
  high
• 21:57
  expectations.
• 21:58
  She
• 21:58
  was
• 21:58
  really
• 21:58
  big
• 21:58
  on
• 21:59
  manners.
• 22:00
  She
• 22:00
  was
• 22:00
  convinced
• 22:01
  everyone
• 22:01
  was
• 22:01
  going
• 22:02
  to
• 22:02
  abduct
• 22:02
  us.
• 22:04
  Well,
• 22:04
  yeah.
• 22:05
  And
• 22:05
  she.
• 22:05
  And
• 22:05
  you
• 22:06
  listened
• 22:06
  very
• 22:06
  good.
• 22:07
  You
• 22:07
  were
• 22:07
  good
• 22:07
  listeners
• 22:08
  to
• 22:08
  her.
• 22:08
  And
• 22:09
  anyway.
• 22:09
  But
• 22:10
  it
• 22:10
  was
• 22:10
  like
• 22:10
  we
• 22:10
  had
• 22:11
  our
• 22:11
  own
• 22:11
  little
• 22:11
  mini
• 22:12
  group.
• 22:13
  But
• 22:13
  I
• 22:13
  would
• 22:13
  have
• 22:14
  loved
• 22:14
  to
• 22:14
  have
• 22:15
  grandparents
• 22:16
  or
• 22:16
  cousins.
• 22:17
  I
• 22:17
  would
• 22:17
  have
• 22:17
  loved
• 22:17
  that
• 22:18
  if
• 22:18
  you
• 22:18
  guys.
• 22:18
  But.
• 22:19
  But
• 22:19
  we
• 22:19
  had
• 22:20
  made
• 22:20
  that
• 22:20
  decision
• 22:21
  not
• 22:21
  to
• 22:21
  live
• 22:21
  and
• 22:22
  you
• 22:22
  know,
• 22:22
  where
• 22:23
  the
• 22:23
  rest
• 22:23
  of
• 22:23
  the
• 22:23
  family
• 22:24
  bigger
• 22:24
  dreams.
• 22:25
  I
• 22:25
  guess
• 22:25
  we
• 22:25
  did.
• 22:26
  New
• 22:27
  York.
• 22:27
  New
• 22:27
  York.
• 22:27
  We
• 22:28
  came
• 22:28
  to
• 22:28
  New
• 22:28
  York.
• 22:29
  Yes.
• 22:29
  And
• 22:29
  you
• 22:29
  guys
• 22:29
  thought
• 22:29
  you
• 22:30
  were
• 22:30
  gonna.
• 22:30
  Be
• 22:30
  here
• 22:30
  for
• 22:30
  like
• 22:30
  a
• 22:31
  year?
• 22:31
  A
• 22:31
  couple.
• 22:31
  Yeah.
• 22:32
  And
• 22:32
  we
• 22:32
  ended
• 22:32
  up
• 22:33
  staying
• 22:33
  the
• 22:33
  whole
• 22:33
  time.
• 22:33
  Yeah.
• 22:34
  So.
• 22:34
  So
• 22:35
  here
• 22:35
  we
• 22:35
  are.
• 22:35
  Here
• 22:35
  we
• 22:36
  are.
• 22:36
  I'm
• 22:36
  lucky
• 22:37
  because
• 22:37
  I
• 22:37
  have
• 22:37
  you
• 22:37
  guys
• 22:38
  in
• 22:38
  the
• 22:38
  neighborhood.
• 22:38
  I
• 22:39
  have
• 22:39
  my
• 22:39
  in
• 22:39
  laws
• 22:39
  in
• 22:39
  the
• 22:40
  neighborhood
• 22:40
  and
• 22:40
  I
• 22:40
  have
• 22:40
  my
• 22:41
  sister
• 22:41
  in
• 22:41
  law
• 22:41
  upstairs.
• 22:42
  So
• 22:42
  Sam
• 22:43
  and
• 22:43
  my
• 22:43
  brother
• 22:44
  who's
• 22:44
  just
• 22:44
  across
• 22:44
  the
• 22:45
  bridge.
• 22:45
  Right.
• 22:46
  Which
• 22:46
  is
• 22:46
  nice.
• 22:46
  So
• 22:47
  we
• 22:47
  have
• 22:47
  our
• 22:47
  little.
• 22:48
  You
• 22:48
  have
• 22:49
  this
• 22:50
  group
• 22:50
  that
• 22:50
  can
• 22:50
  all
• 22:51
  step
• 22:51
  in
• 22:51
  and
• 22:52
  help
• 22:52
  with
• 22:52
  the
• 22:52
  baby.
• 22:53
  Yes.
• 22:53
  Yeah.
• 22:53
  Which
• 22:54
  is
• 22:54
  wonderful.
• 22:55
  But
• 22:55
  you're
• 22:55
  lucky.
• 22:56
  I
• 22:56
  mean,
• 22:56
  not
• 22:56
  everybody
• 22:57
  has
• 22:57
  that.
• 22:57
  Yeah.
• 22:58
  It's
• 22:58
  a
• 22:58
  huge
• 22:58
  blessing.
• 22:59
  Right?
• 22:59
  It
• 22:59
  really
• 22:59
  is.
• 23:00
  But
• 23:00
  anyway,
• 23:00
  let's
• 23:00
  talk
• 23:01
  about
• 23:01
  some
• 23:01
  of
• 23:01
  the
• 23:01
  cultures.
• 23:02
  Okay.
• 23:02
  And
• 23:02
  how
• 23:03
  what
• 23:03
  we
• 23:03
  learned.
• 23:04
  Well,
• 23:04
  starting
• 23:04
  with
• 23:05
  the
• 23:05
  Maya
• 23:06
  culture
• 23:06
  in
• 23:06
  the
• 23:07
  Yucatan
• 23:09
  where
• 23:09
  they
• 23:09
  talk
• 23:09
  about.
• 23:10
  These
• 23:10
  are
• 23:10
  the
• 23:10
  most
• 23:10
  helpful
• 23:11
  kids
• 23:11
  in
• 23:11
  the
• 23:11
  world.
• 23:13
  Families
• 23:13
  live
• 23:13
  in
• 23:14
  compounds.
• 23:15
  Kids
• 23:15
  do
• 23:16
  lots
• 23:16
  of
• 23:16
  work
• 23:16
  around
• 23:17
  the
• 23:17
  house.
• 23:19
  They're
• 23:19
  all
• 23:20
  trained
• 23:21
  from
• 23:21
  very
• 23:21
  early
• 23:22
  on
• 23:22
  to
• 23:23
  pay
• 23:23
  attention,
• 23:24
  to
• 23:24
  see
• 23:24
  what
• 23:25
  needs
• 23:25
  doing
• 23:27
  around
• 23:27
  the
• 23:27
  house
• 23:28
  or
• 23:28
  whatever
• 23:29
  with
• 23:29
  the
• 23:29
  other
• 23:29
  children.
• 23:31
  And
• 23:31
  they
• 23:31
  just
• 23:31
  do
• 23:32
  it
• 23:32
  without
• 23:33
  waiting
• 23:34
  for
• 23:34
  any
• 23:35
  attention
• 23:35
  or
• 23:35
  any
• 23:36
  parent
• 23:36
  to
• 23:36
  tell
• 23:36
  them
• 23:37
  what
• 23:37
  to
• 23:37
  do.
• 23:38
  And
• 23:38
  here
• 23:38
  they
• 23:39
  say
• 23:39
  that
• 23:40
  when
• 23:40
  toddlers
• 23:41
  are
• 23:41
  eager
• 23:41
  to
• 23:41
  help,
• 23:42
  that's
• 23:42
  just
• 23:43
  who
• 23:43
  toddlers
• 23:44
  are.
• 23:44
  They
• 23:44
  want
• 23:45
  to
• 23:45
  help
• 23:45
  and
• 23:46
  you
• 23:46
  should
• 23:46
  let
• 23:46
  them.
• 23:47
  And
• 23:47
  even
• 23:47
  if
• 23:48
  they
• 23:48
  don't
• 23:49
  do
• 23:49
  it.
• 23:49
  Well,
• 23:50
  you
• 23:50
  allow
• 23:51
  them.
• 23:51
  Let
• 23:52
  them
• 23:52
  practice,
• 23:52
  let
• 23:52
  them
• 23:53
  try
• 23:54
  and
• 23:55
  then
• 23:55
  include
• 23:55
  them.
• 23:56
  Because
• 23:57
  you're
• 23:57
  not
• 23:57
  necessarily
• 23:58
  teaching
• 23:58
  them
• 23:58
  how
• 23:58
  to
• 23:59
  do
• 23:59
  the
• 23:59
  task
• 23:59
  at
• 23:59
  hand,
• 23:59
  Although
• 24:00
  if
• 24:00
  they
• 24:00
  learn
• 24:00
  that,
• 24:00
  that's
• 24:01
  great.
• 24:01
  You're
• 24:02
  teaching
• 24:02
  them
• 24:02
  to
• 24:03
  notice
• 24:03
  things
• 24:04
  in
• 24:04
  their
• 24:04
  environment
• 24:05
  that
• 24:05
  need
• 24:05
  doing
• 24:06
  and
• 24:06
  to
• 24:06
  feel
• 24:07
  like
• 24:08
  they
• 24:08
  can
• 24:09
  step
• 24:09
  in
• 24:09
  and
• 24:09
  help.
• 24:10
  Right.
• 24:10
  And
• 24:11
  you
• 24:11
  accept
• 24:11
  their
• 24:11
  help
• 24:12
  as
• 24:13
  it's
• 24:13
  given
• 24:13
  even.
• 24:14
  And
• 24:14
  encourage
• 24:14
  it.
• 24:14
  And
• 24:15
  encourage
• 24:15
  it.
• 24:16
  If
• 24:16
  a
• 24:16
  task
• 24:16
  is
• 24:17
  too
• 24:17
  hard,
• 24:17
  you
• 24:17
  can
• 24:18
  break
• 24:18
  it
• 24:18
  down
• 24:18
  and
• 24:19
  give
• 24:19
  them
• 24:19
  a
• 24:19
  little
• 24:19
  pie
• 24:20
  of
• 24:20
  it,
• 24:21
  that
• 24:22
  kind
• 24:22
  of
• 24:22
  thing.
• 24:24
  So,
• 24:24
  yeah,
• 24:25
  so
• 24:25
  that's.
• 24:25
  That's
• 24:26
  kind
• 24:26
  of
• 24:26
  what
• 24:26
  they
• 24:26
  talk
• 24:27
  about.
• 24:29
  They.
• 24:30
  They
• 24:30
  talk
• 24:30
  about
• 24:32
  a
• 24:32
  lot
• 24:33
  of
• 24:33
  some
• 24:33
  of
• 24:33
  your
• 24:33
  notes,
• 24:34
  which
• 24:34
  I
• 24:34
  thought
• 24:34
  were
• 24:34
  really
• 24:35
  interesting,
• 24:35
  or
• 24:35
  you
• 24:35
  can
• 24:36
  talk
• 24:36
  about
• 24:36
  some
• 24:36
  of
• 24:36
  the
• 24:36
  things
• 24:36
  that
• 24:37
  you
• 24:37
  notice.
• 24:37
  They
• 24:37
  frame
• 24:38
  tasks
• 24:39
  as
• 24:39
  communal
• 24:39
  activities,
• 24:40
  so
• 24:40
  they
• 24:40
  turn
• 24:41
  it
• 24:41
  into
• 24:41
  not
• 24:41
  quite
• 24:41
  a
• 24:42
  game,
• 24:42
  but
• 24:43
  in
• 24:43
  something.
• 24:43
  And
• 24:43
  kids
• 24:44
  love
• 24:44
  to
• 24:44
  be
• 24:45
  part
• 24:45
  of
• 24:45
  a
• 24:45
  team.
• 24:46
  They
• 24:46
  love
• 24:46
  to
• 24:46
  feel
• 24:47
  involved
• 24:47
  in
• 24:47
  something.
• 24:48
  And
• 24:48
  so
• 24:49
  you
• 24:49
  frame
• 24:49
  them
• 24:49
  as
• 24:49
  communal
• 24:50
  activities
• 24:50
  that
• 24:50
  everyone's
• 24:51
  doing
• 24:51
  together
• 24:51
  so
• 24:51
  that
• 24:51
  we
• 24:52
  can
• 24:52
  all
• 24:52
  finish
• 24:53
  faster.
• 24:54
  And
• 24:54
  then
• 24:55
  you
• 24:55
  bring
• 24:55
  the
• 24:55
  kids
• 24:56
  with
• 24:56
  you
• 24:56
  and
• 24:56
  let
• 24:56
  them
• 24:57
  bring
• 24:57
  them
• 24:57
  with
• 24:57
  you
• 24:58
  wherever
• 24:58
  you
• 24:58
  go
• 24:58
  so
• 24:58
  they
• 24:59
  can
• 24:59
  watch
• 24:59
  you
• 24:59
  work.
• 24:59
  They
• 25:00
  can
• 25:00
  watch
• 25:00
  you
• 25:01
  do
• 25:01
  mundane
• 25:02
  tasks
• 25:02
  like
• 25:02
  go
• 25:03
  to
• 25:03
  the
• 25:03
  post
• 25:03
  office,
• 25:04
  go
• 25:04
  run
• 25:04
  errands.
• 25:05
  Just
• 25:05
  bring
• 25:06
  them
• 25:06
  everywhere
• 25:06
  and
• 25:07
  let
• 25:07
  them
• 25:07
  participate
• 25:08
  in
• 25:08
  the
• 25:08
  adult
• 25:09
  world.
• 25:09
  Right,
• 25:10
  Right,
• 25:10
  exactly.
• 25:12
  They
• 25:12
  also
• 25:13
  talked
• 25:13
  about
• 25:13
  the
• 25:13
  fact
• 25:14
  that
• 25:16
  one
• 25:16
  thing
• 25:16
  about
• 25:17
  Maya
• 25:17
  parents
• 25:18
  is
• 25:19
  they
• 25:19
  stay
• 25:20
  behind.
• 25:21
  So
• 25:21
  if
• 25:22
  a
• 25:22
  child's
• 25:22
  learning
• 25:22
  to
• 25:23
  walk,
• 25:23
  they're
• 25:24
  ready
• 25:24
  to
• 25:24
  catch
• 25:25
  them
• 25:25
  if
• 25:25
  they
• 25:25
  fall
• 25:25
  or
• 25:26
  hurt
• 25:26
  themselves.
• 25:27
  But
• 25:27
  the
• 25:27
  child
• 25:27
  doesn't
• 25:28
  know
• 25:28
  the
• 25:28
  parent's
• 25:28
  watching
• 25:29
  them.
• 25:29
  So
• 25:29
  they're
• 25:29
  being
• 25:30
  watched.
• 25:30
  Yeah.
• 25:31
  So
• 25:31
  they
• 25:31
  let
• 25:31
  their
• 25:31
  kids,
• 25:32
  from
• 25:32
  when
• 25:32
  they're
• 25:32
  like,
• 25:32
  two
• 25:33
  or
• 25:33
  three,
• 25:33
  go
• 25:33
  to
• 25:34
  the
• 25:34
  store,
• 25:34
  quote,
• 25:35
  unquote,
• 25:35
  by
• 25:35
  themselves.
• 25:36
  But
• 25:36
  really
• 25:36
  an
• 25:36
  older
• 25:37
  sibling
• 25:37
  is
• 25:37
  sort
• 25:37
  of
• 25:37
  watching
• 25:38
  them,
• 25:38
  making
• 25:38
  sure
• 25:39
  they're
• 25:39
  okay,
• 25:40
  not
• 25:40
  because
• 25:40
  they're
• 25:41
  worried
• 25:41
  that,
• 25:41
  like,
• 25:42
  something
• 25:42
  terrible
• 25:42
  will
• 25:42
  happen.
• 25:43
  They're
• 25:43
  worried
• 25:43
  that
• 25:43
  their
• 25:43
  kids
• 25:44
  are
• 25:44
  gonna
• 25:44
  get
• 25:44
  lost,
• 25:45
  which
• 25:45
  is
• 25:46
  relatable.
• 25:47
  Right,
• 25:47
  Right.
• 25:47
  So
• 25:48
  they're
• 25:48
  watching
• 25:48
  them,
• 25:48
  but
• 25:49
  they're
• 25:49
  letting
• 25:49
  them
• 25:50
  think
• 25:50
  that
• 25:50
  they're
• 25:51
  doing
• 25:51
  it
• 25:51
  on
• 25:51
  their
• 25:52
  own
• 25:52
  so
• 25:52
  the
• 25:53
  child
• 25:53
  has
• 25:53
  more
• 25:53
  confidence
• 25:54
  that
• 25:54
  they
• 25:54
  can
• 25:54
  do
• 25:55
  it
• 25:55
  and
• 25:55
  they're
• 25:55
  willing
• 25:55
  to
• 25:56
  do
• 25:56
  it.
• 25:57
  They
• 25:57
  don't
• 25:58
  have
• 25:58
  a
• 25:58
  lot
• 25:58
  of
• 25:58
  toys,
• 25:59
  and
• 25:59
  this
• 26:00
  is
• 26:00
  kind
• 26:00
  of
• 26:00
  where
• 26:00
  they.
• 26:01
  Play
• 26:01
  with
• 26:01
  their
• 26:01
  corn
• 26:02
  and
• 26:02
  they're
• 26:02
  happy
• 26:02
  or
• 26:03
  whatever.
• 26:03
  They're
• 26:04
  homemade
• 26:04
  dolls
• 26:05
  or.
• 26:05
  Yeah.
• 26:05
  They
• 26:05
  don't
• 26:06
  have
• 26:06
  tons
• 26:06
  and
• 26:06
  tons
• 26:06
  of
• 26:07
  toys.
• 26:09
  And
• 26:09
  she
• 26:09
  says
• 26:09
  that,
• 26:10
  you
• 26:10
  know,
• 26:10
  kids
• 26:10
  don't
• 26:11
  really
• 26:11
  need
• 26:11
  toys.
• 26:12
  They
• 26:12
  need
• 26:12
  jobs.
• 26:13
  They
• 26:13
  need
• 26:13
  jobs.
• 26:14
  They
• 26:14
  need
• 26:14
  responsibilities.
• 26:16
  And
• 26:17
  I
• 26:17
  don't
• 26:17
  know.
• 26:17
  For
• 26:17
  some
• 26:18
  reason,
• 26:18
  it
• 26:18
  made
• 26:18
  me
• 26:18
  it
• 26:19
  reminded
• 26:19
  me
• 26:20
  of.
• 26:20
  I
• 26:20
  don't
• 26:20
  know
• 26:20
  if
• 26:20
  you
• 26:20
  remember
• 26:21
  this,
• 26:21
  but
• 26:21
  the
• 26:22
  time,
• 26:23
  you
• 26:23
  know,
• 26:23
  I
• 26:24
  used
• 26:24
  to.
• 26:24
  We
• 26:25
  used
• 26:25
  to
• 26:25
  get
• 26:25
  those,
• 26:26
  those
• 26:26
  Happy
• 26:26
  Meal
• 26:27
  toys
• 26:27
  all
• 26:27
  the
• 26:27
  time.
• 26:28
  And,
• 26:30
  and
• 26:30
  I
• 26:30
  was
• 26:30
  thinking,
• 26:31
  you
• 26:31
  know,
• 26:31
  because
• 26:31
  she
• 26:31
  recommends
• 26:32
  you
• 26:32
  just
• 26:33
  don't
• 26:33
  give
• 26:33
  your
• 26:33
  kid
• 26:33
  toys.
• 26:34
  Yeah.
• 26:34
  And
• 26:34
  I'm
• 26:35
  thinking
• 26:35
  in
• 26:36
  this
• 26:36
  day
• 26:36
  and
• 26:36
  age,
• 26:36
  if
• 26:37
  your
• 26:37
  child
• 26:37
  had
• 26:37
  no
• 26:38
  toys,
• 26:39
  you
• 26:39
  know.
• 26:39
  Okay,
• 26:40
  that's
• 26:40
  good.
• 26:41
  I
• 26:41
  mean,
• 26:41
  that's
• 26:41
  probably
• 26:42
  good
• 26:42
  though.
• 26:42
  They'll
• 26:42
  be
• 26:43
  more
• 26:43
  creative,
• 26:45
  but
• 26:45
  what
• 26:45
  are
• 26:45
  the
• 26:46
  other
• 26:46
  kids
• 26:46
  gonna
• 26:47
  think?
• 26:47
  And
• 26:47
  it
• 26:47
  made
• 26:47
  me
• 26:47
  think
• 26:48
  about.
• 26:48
  Do
• 26:48
  you
• 26:49
  remember
• 26:49
  when
• 26:49
  the.
• 26:50
  When
• 26:51
  we.
• 26:51
  No,
• 26:52
  we
• 26:52
  have
• 26:52
  to.
• 26:52
  We
• 26:53
  cannot
• 26:53
  dox
• 26:54
  these
• 26:54
  people.
• 26:55
  Oh,
• 26:55
  sorry.
• 26:56
  Well,
• 26:56
  okay,
• 26:56
  sorry.
• 26:57
  You
• 26:57
  already
• 26:57
  said
• 26:57
  her
• 26:57
  real
• 26:58
  name,
• 26:58
  so
• 26:58
  we'll
• 26:58
  bleep
• 26:58
  it
• 26:59
  out.
• 26:59
  We'll
• 26:59
  bleep
• 26:59
  it
• 26:59
  out.
• 26:59
  Sorry
• 27:00
  about
• 27:00
  that.
• 27:00
  She
• 27:00
  was
• 27:01
  this
• 27:01
  adorable
• 27:02
  little
• 27:02
  girl.
• 27:02
  I
• 27:02
  mean,
• 27:03
  adorable
• 27:03
  friend
• 27:03
  of
• 27:03
  yours.
• 27:04
  Adorable.
• 27:04
  And
• 27:05
  this
• 27:05
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• 27:05
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• 27:05
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• 27:05
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• 27:06
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• 27:06
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• 27:06
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• 27:07
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• 27:07
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• 27:07
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• 27:08
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• 27:08
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• 27:10
  made
• 27:10
  a
• 27:11
  Christmas
• 27:11
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  or
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• 27:13
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• 27:14
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• 27:15
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  of
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  repurposed
• 27:18
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• 27:25
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• 27:26
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• 28:31
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• 28:31
  adorable.
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  It
• 28:32
  was.
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  Yeah.
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  And
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  Can
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  No,
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  girl,
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  we
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  did
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  this
• 28:44
  by
• 28:44
  choice.
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  We
• 28:45
  meant
• 28:45
  to
• 28:45
  do
• 28:46
  this,
• 28:46
  but
• 28:46
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  If
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• 28:47
  were,
• 28:47
  this
• 28:47
  is
• 28:47
  a
• 28:48
  great
• 28:48
  idea
• 28:48
  for
• 28:48
  a
• 28:48
  tree.
• 28:50
  Why
• 28:51
  more
• 28:52
  ornaments?
• 28:52
  And
• 28:52
  you
• 28:53
  could.
• 28:53
  But
• 28:53
  anyway.
• 28:54
  But
• 28:54
  I
• 28:54
  mean,
• 28:54
  I
• 28:55
  think
• 28:55
  it's,
• 28:55
  you
• 28:55
  know,
• 28:55
  like
• 28:56
  repurposing
• 28:56
  things
• 28:57
  and
• 28:57
  decorating
• 28:57
  with
• 28:58
  what.
• 28:58
  What
• 28:58
  you
• 28:59
  already
• 28:59
  have
• 29:00
  is
• 29:00
  great.
• 29:00
  It's
• 29:01
  great.
• 29:01
  And
• 29:01
  it's
• 29:01
  a
• 29:02
  great
• 29:02
  thing
• 29:02
  to
• 29:02
  teach
• 29:02
  kids.
• 29:03
  Yes.
• 29:03
  Look
• 29:04
  around.
• 29:04
  Ornaments
• 29:05
  are
• 29:05
  all
• 29:06
  around
• 29:06
  you.
• 29:06
  You
• 29:07
  don't.
• 29:09
  And
• 29:09
  her
• 29:10
  point
• 29:10
  is,
• 29:10
  you
• 29:11
  don't
• 29:11
  need
• 29:11
  all
• 29:11
  this
• 29:11
  stuff.
• 29:11
  You
• 29:12
  really
• 29:12
  don't.
• 29:12
  And
• 29:13
  she's
• 29:13
  right.
• 29:14
  And
• 29:14
  she's
• 29:14
  right.
• 29:14
  So
• 29:15
  one
• 29:15
  thing
• 29:15
  I'm
• 29:16
  dealing
• 29:16
  with
• 29:16
  now
• 29:16
  is
• 29:16
  because
• 29:17
  I
• 29:17
  have
• 29:17
  a
• 29:17
  small
• 29:18
  child
• 29:18
  who
• 29:18
  is
• 29:18
  growing
• 29:19
  quickly,
• 29:20
  my
• 29:20
  husband
• 29:20
  likes
• 29:20
  to
• 29:21
  get
• 29:21
  all
• 29:21
  these
• 29:21
  gigantic
• 29:22
  toys
• 29:23
  for
• 29:23
  her.
• 29:23
  And
• 29:24
  they're
• 29:24
  not
• 29:24
  really
• 29:24
  toys.
• 29:25
  It's
• 29:25
  like,
• 29:25
  you
• 29:25
  know,
• 29:26
  that
• 29:26
  thing
• 29:26
  that
• 29:26
  you
• 29:26
  put
• 29:26
  them
• 29:27
  in
• 29:27
  and
• 29:27
  they
• 29:27
  sit
• 29:27
  in
• 29:27
  and
• 29:28
  they
• 29:28
  press
• 29:28
  stuff
• 29:28
  and
• 29:29
  it's
• 29:29
  like
• 29:29
  a
• 29:29
  thing.
• 29:30
  And
• 29:30
  then
• 29:30
  she
• 29:30
  has
• 29:30
  a
• 29:30
  swing
• 29:31
  and
• 29:31
  then
• 29:31
  she
• 29:31
  has
• 29:32
  this
• 29:32
  other
• 29:32
  thing.
• 29:32
  They
• 29:32
  take
• 29:33
  up
• 29:33
  a
• 29:33
  lot
• 29:33
  of
• 29:33
  room.
• 29:33
  They
• 29:33
  take
• 29:34
  up
• 29:34
  so
• 29:34
  much
• 29:34
  room.
• 29:35
  And
• 29:35
  we
• 29:35
  live
• 29:35
  in
• 29:36
  an
• 29:36
  apartment.
• 29:37
  And
• 29:37
  it's
• 29:37
  like
• 29:37
  when
• 29:38
  he.
• 29:38
  I
• 29:38
  realize
• 29:39
  outright
• 29:39
  saying
• 29:40
  to
• 29:40
  him,
• 29:40
  no,
• 29:40
  don't
• 29:41
  get
• 29:41
  it
• 29:41
  just
• 29:42
  invites
• 29:42
  pushback.
• 29:43
  So
• 29:44
  what
• 29:44
  I'm.
• 29:44
  I'm
• 29:44
  like,
• 29:44
  yeah,
• 29:45
  great.
• 29:45
  And
• 29:46
  he's
• 29:46
  like,
• 29:46
  we
• 29:46
  should
• 29:46
  just
• 29:46
  leave.
• 29:46
  It
• 29:47
  in
• 29:47
  the
• 29:47
  living
• 29:47
  room.
• 29:47
  I'm
• 29:48
  like,
• 29:48
  yeah,
• 29:48
  great.
• 29:49
  And
• 29:49
  then
• 29:50
  they'll
• 29:50
  play
• 29:50
  with
• 29:50
  it
• 29:50
  once
• 29:51
  or
• 29:51
  twice,
• 29:51
  and
• 29:51
  then
• 29:51
  I'll
• 29:52
  put
• 29:52
  it
• 29:52
  in
• 29:52
  a
• 29:52
  corner
• 29:53
  and
• 29:53
  it
• 29:53
  never
• 29:53
  comes
• 29:54
  out
• 29:54
  again.
• 29:54
  Yeah,
• 29:55
  I
• 29:55
  know
• 29:56
  it's
• 29:56
  hard.
• 29:57
  I
• 29:57
  mean,
• 29:57
  every.
• 29:58
  Everybody
• 29:58
  with
• 29:58
  children,
• 29:59
  they
• 29:59
  deal
• 29:59
  with
• 29:59
  this.
• 30:00
  We
• 30:01
  did
• 30:01
  too.
• 30:01
  And.
• 30:03
  But
• 30:03
  yeah,
• 30:04
  so
• 30:04
  think
• 30:04
  about
• 30:04
  it,
• 30:04
  you
• 30:05
  know,
• 30:05
  not
• 30:05
  so
• 30:05
  much
• 30:05
  stuff.
• 30:06
  Kids
• 30:06
  don't
• 30:06
  need
• 30:06
  it.
• 30:07
  Kids
• 30:07
  need
• 30:08
  corn.
• 30:09
  Corn.
• 30:10
  Corn
• 30:10
  dolls.
• 30:11
  That's
• 30:11
  it.
• 30:11
  Corn
• 30:12
  dolls,
• 30:12
  voodoo
• 30:13
  dolls.
• 30:14
  They
• 30:14
  need
• 30:15
  books
• 30:16
  of
• 30:16
  spells.
• 30:17
  Some
• 30:17
  of
• 30:18
  her
• 30:18
  tips
• 30:18
  that
• 30:18
  come
• 30:19
  from
• 30:19
  these
• 30:19
  people,
• 30:19
  I'll
• 30:20
  just
• 30:20
  point
• 30:20
  out
• 30:20
  some
• 30:20
  of
• 30:20
  the
• 30:21
  tips
• 30:21
  is,
• 30:21
  first
• 30:21
  of
• 30:21
  all,
• 30:22
  with
• 30:22
  your
• 30:23
  children,
• 30:24
  point.
• 30:24
  You
• 30:25
  know,
• 30:25
  point
• 30:25
  out
• 30:25
  when
• 30:26
  they're
• 30:26
  being
• 30:26
  helpful.
• 30:27
  They
• 30:27
  don't
• 30:27
  praise
• 30:28
  kids
• 30:28
  a
• 30:28
  lot,
• 30:28
  but
• 30:29
  they
• 30:29
  just
• 30:29
  sort
• 30:29
  of
• 30:30
  point
• 30:30
  out,
• 30:30
  oh,
• 30:30
  that
• 30:30
  you're
• 30:31
  being
• 30:31
  so
• 30:31
  helpful.
• 30:31
  And.
• 30:32
  Or
• 30:32
  when
• 30:33
  they're
• 30:33
  being
• 30:33
  unhelpful,
• 30:34
  point
• 30:34
  out
• 30:34
  when
• 30:35
  they're
• 30:35
  not
• 30:35
  being
• 30:35
  helpful
• 30:36
  because
• 30:36
  they're
• 30:36
  gonna
• 30:37
  wanna
• 30:37
  be
• 30:37
  more
• 30:37
  helpful.
• 30:39
  Stop
• 30:39
  punishments
• 30:41
  and
• 30:41
  don't
• 30:41
  reward
• 30:42
  kids
• 30:42
  for
• 30:42
  doing
• 30:42
  specific
• 30:43
  tasks.
• 30:44
  Just
• 30:45
  explain
• 30:45
  the
• 30:46
  value
• 30:46
  that
• 30:46
  the
• 30:46
  task
• 30:47
  means
• 30:48
  to
• 30:48
  the
• 30:48
  whole
• 30:49
  family.
• 30:50
  When
• 30:50
  you
• 30:50
  put
• 30:50
  the
• 30:51
  dishes
• 30:51
  away,
• 30:51
  that
• 30:52
  means
• 30:52
  we'll
• 30:52
  have
• 30:52
  clean
• 30:53
  dishes
• 30:53
  tomorrow
• 30:53
  when
• 30:54
  we
• 30:54
  can
• 30:54
  eat.
• 30:55
  Connect
• 30:56
  helpfulness
• 30:57
  to
• 30:57
  being
• 30:57
  a
• 30:58
  big
• 30:58
  girl
• 30:58
  or
• 30:58
  a
• 30:58
  big
• 30:59
  boy.
• 30:59
  Yes.
• 30:59
  So
• 31:00
  that's
• 31:00
  a
• 31:00
  big
• 31:00
  thing
• 31:00
  they
• 31:00
  talk
• 31:01
  about,
• 31:01
  is
• 31:02
  referring
• 31:02
  to
• 31:03
  maturity.
• 31:04
  All
• 31:04
  little
• 31:04
  kids
• 31:05
  want
• 31:05
  is
• 31:05
  to
• 31:05
  be
• 31:06
  big
• 31:06
  kids,
• 31:06
  Right?
• 31:07
  So
• 31:07
  when
• 31:08
  they
• 31:08
  do
• 31:08
  things
• 31:08
  that
• 31:09
  you
• 31:09
  really
• 31:09
  appreciate
• 31:10
  them
• 31:10
  doing,
• 31:10
  like
• 31:11
  helping,
• 31:12
  wow,
• 31:12
  what
• 31:13
  a
• 31:13
  big
• 31:13
  kid
• 31:14
  thing
• 31:14
  to
• 31:14
  do.
• 31:15
  And
• 31:15
  when
• 31:15
  they
• 31:15
  do
• 31:15
  things
• 31:16
  that
• 31:16
  are
• 31:16
  not,
• 31:16
  you
• 31:17
  just
• 31:17
  call
• 31:17
  them
• 31:17
  a
• 31:17
  baby.
• 31:18
  And
• 31:18
  they
• 31:18
  don't
• 31:19
  forget
• 31:19
  it.
• 31:19
  That's
• 31:19
  like
• 31:20
  the
• 31:20
  biggest
• 31:20
  insult
• 31:21
  to
• 31:21
  a
• 31:21
  kid.
• 31:22
  Yeah.
• 31:22
  Interesting.
• 31:23
  And
• 31:23
  then
• 31:24
  let
• 31:24
  them
• 31:24
  have
• 31:24
  fun
• 31:25
  with
• 31:25
  their
• 31:25
  chores.
• 31:26
  If
• 31:27
  a
• 31:27
  job
• 31:27
  isn't
• 31:27
  done,
• 31:28
  rather
• 31:29
  than
• 31:29
  punish,
• 31:29
  just
• 31:30
  mention
• 31:31
  the
• 31:31
  natural
• 31:31
  consequences.
• 31:32
  Like,
• 31:33
  you
• 31:33
  know,
• 31:34
  your
• 31:34
  job
• 31:34
  was
• 31:34
  to
• 31:35
  brush
• 31:35
  your
• 31:35
  teeth.
• 31:36
  So
• 31:36
  gosh,
• 31:37
  if
• 31:37
  you
• 31:38
  don't,
• 31:38
  all
• 31:38
  these
• 31:39
  tiny
• 31:39
  little
• 31:40
  critters
• 31:41
  are
• 31:41
  gonna
• 31:42
  come
• 31:42
  into
• 31:42
  your
• 31:42
  mouth
• 31:43
  and
• 31:43
  turn
• 31:43
  your
• 31:43
  teeth
• 31:43
  black.
• 31:44
  You
• 31:44
  wouldn't
• 31:44
  like
• 31:45
  that,
• 31:45
  would
• 31:45
  you?
• 31:45
  Your
• 31:45
  mouth
• 31:45
  is
• 31:46
  gonna
• 31:46
  be
• 31:46
  full
• 31:46
  of
• 31:46
  spiders.
• 31:47
  Yeah.
• 31:47
  Or
• 31:47
  you
• 31:48
  know,
• 31:48
  come
• 31:48
  up
• 31:48
  with
• 31:48
  whatever
• 31:49
  like
• 31:50
  that.
• 31:50
  Oh
• 31:50
  my
• 31:50
  gosh.
• 31:51
  I
• 31:51
  remember
• 31:51
  once
• 31:52
  I
• 31:52
  was
• 31:52
  talking
• 31:53
  to,
• 31:54
  I
• 31:54
  don't
• 31:54
  know,
• 31:55
  I
• 31:55
  had
• 31:55
  a
• 31:55
  friend
• 31:56
  with
• 31:56
  like
• 31:56
  a
• 31:56
  five
• 31:56
  year
• 31:56
  old
• 31:57
  and
• 31:57
  I
• 31:57
  invented
• 31:57
  this
• 31:58
  story
• 31:58
  about
• 31:58
  the
• 31:58
  cat
• 31:59
  people
• 31:59
  who
• 31:59
  lived
• 31:59
  in
• 32:00
  the
• 32:00
  subway.
• 32:01
  And
• 32:01
  I
• 32:01
  just.
• 32:01
  It
• 32:02
  kind
• 32:02
  of
• 32:02
  scary
• 32:02
  and
• 32:03
  I
• 32:03
  didn't
• 32:03
  mean
• 32:03
  for
• 32:03
  it
• 32:03
  to
• 32:03
  be,
• 32:04
  but
• 32:04
  it
• 32:04
  scared
• 32:05
  her
• 32:05
  child
• 32:06
  for
• 32:07
  a
• 32:07
  year
• 32:07
  about
• 32:08
  going
• 32:08
  in
• 32:08
  the
• 32:08
  train
• 32:09
  and
• 32:09
  I
• 32:09
  did
• 32:09
  not.
• 32:09
  That
• 32:09
  was
• 32:10
  not
• 32:10
  the
• 32:10
  intended.
• 32:11
  Oh.
• 32:11
  Because
• 32:12
  later
• 32:12
  we
• 32:13
  have
• 32:13
  another
• 32:13
  situation
• 32:14
  where
• 32:15
  she
• 32:15
  actually
• 32:15
  recommends
• 32:16
  coming
• 32:16
  up
• 32:17
  with
• 32:17
  stories.
• 32:17
  But
• 32:18
  they
• 32:18
  work.
• 32:19
  They
• 32:19
  work.
• 32:20
  But
• 32:20
  you
• 32:21
  know,
• 32:21
  you
• 32:21
  can
• 32:21
  come
• 32:21
  up
• 32:22
  with
• 32:22
  stories,
• 32:22
  make
• 32:22
  them
• 32:22
  scary,
• 32:23
  but
• 32:23
  not
• 32:23
  too
• 32:24
  scary.
• 32:24
  Yeah,
• 32:24
  I
• 32:25
  think
• 32:25
  that's
• 32:25
  when
• 32:25
  you
• 32:25
  want
• 32:26
  kids
• 32:26
  to
• 32:26
  not
• 32:27
  do
• 32:27
  things.
• 32:27
  But
• 32:27
  we'll
• 32:28
  get
• 32:28
  into
• 32:28
  that
• 32:28
  later.
• 32:29
  Right.
• 32:29
  Anyway.
• 32:30
  Yeah,
• 32:30
  so
• 32:30
  anyway,
• 32:32
  so
• 32:32
  those
• 32:32
  are
• 32:32
  some
• 32:32
  of
• 32:32
  the
• 32:32
  things
• 32:33
  that
• 32:33
  they
• 32:33
  talked
• 32:33
  about.
• 32:34
  Also
• 32:34
  a
• 32:35
  big
• 32:35
  thing
• 32:35
  was
• 32:36
  rather
• 32:36
  than
• 32:36
  scheduling
• 32:37
  your
• 32:37
  life
• 32:37
  around
• 32:37
  your
• 32:37
  child,
• 32:38
  allow
• 32:38
  the
• 32:39
  child
• 32:40
  to
• 32:40
  be
• 32:40
  scheduled
• 32:40
  into
• 32:41
  your
• 32:41
  life.
• 32:42
  So
• 32:42
  include
• 32:42
  them
• 32:43
  again
• 32:43
  in
• 32:43
  day
• 32:43
  to
• 32:43
  day
• 32:43
  activities.
• 32:44
  So
• 32:44
  it's
• 32:45
  not
• 32:45
  about
• 32:45
  doing
• 32:45
  all
• 32:45
  of
• 32:46
  these
• 32:46
  things
• 32:46
  that
• 32:46
  are
• 32:46
  kid
• 32:47
  centric,
• 32:48
  you
• 32:48
  know,
• 32:49
  like
• 32:49
  I
• 32:50
  don't
• 32:50
  know,
• 32:50
  like
• 32:50
  Disney
• 32:51
  on
• 32:51
  Ice
• 32:51
  or
• 32:52
  whatever
• 32:52
  it
• 32:52
  is.
• 32:53
  If
• 32:53
  you
• 32:53
  wouldn't
• 32:53
  do
• 32:53
  it
• 32:53
  as
• 32:53
  a
• 32:54
  parent,
• 32:54
  the
• 32:54
  recommendation
• 32:55
  is
• 32:56
  don't
• 32:56
  do
• 32:57
  it.
• 32:57
  Just
• 32:57
  have
• 32:57
  your
• 32:58
  kid
• 32:58
  do
• 32:59
  grown
• 32:59
  things
• 33:00
  most
• 33:00
  of
• 33:00
  the
• 33:01
  time.
• 33:02
  Yeah.
• 33:02
  Occasionally
• 33:03
  doing
• 33:03
  a
• 33:03
  kid
• 33:03
  centric
• 33:04
  thing
• 33:04
  is
• 33:04
  okay,
• 33:05
  but
• 33:05
  I
• 33:05
  think
• 33:05
  her
• 33:05
  criticism
• 33:06
  is
• 33:06
  like
• 33:06
  if
• 33:07
  you
• 33:07
  are
• 33:07
  a
• 33:07
  parent
• 33:08
  who
• 33:08
  seven
• 33:09
  days
• 33:09
  a
• 33:09
  week
• 33:10
  is
• 33:10
  doing
• 33:10
  things
• 33:11
  around
• 33:11
  just
• 33:12
  for
• 33:12
  your
• 33:12
  kids,
• 33:13
  or
• 33:13
  like
• 33:13
  going
• 33:13
  to
• 33:13
  every
• 33:14
  birthday
• 33:14
  party
• 33:14
  they're
• 33:14
  invited
• 33:15
  to,
• 33:15
  even
• 33:15
  if
• 33:15
  you
• 33:16
  know
• 33:16
  you'll
• 33:16
  be
• 33:16
  miserable.
• 33:17
  Here's
• 33:18
  a
• 33:18
  pass.
• 33:18
  You
• 33:19
  don't
• 33:19
  have
• 33:19
  to
• 33:19
  do
• 33:20
  that.
• 33:20
  It's
• 33:20
  not
• 33:20
  actually
• 33:21
  productive
• 33:21
  for
• 33:22
  their
• 33:22
  development.
• 33:22
  Or
• 33:23
  going
• 33:23
  to
• 33:23
  a
• 33:23
  movie
• 33:24
  you
• 33:24
  would
• 33:24
  never
• 33:24
  go
• 33:24
  see
• 33:25
  or
• 33:26
  whatever
• 33:27
  it
• 33:27
  is.
• 33:27
  It's
• 33:28
  like
• 33:28
  just
• 33:28
  try
• 33:29
  to
• 33:29
  incorporate
• 33:29
  your
• 33:30
  child
• 33:30
  as
• 33:30
  much
• 33:30
  as
• 33:30
  possible
• 33:31
  into
• 33:31
  your
• 33:31
  own
• 33:31
  life.
• 33:32
  Which
• 33:32
  I
• 33:32
  thought
• 33:32
  was
• 33:33
  good
• 33:33
  for
• 33:33
  advice.
• 33:35
  Let's
• 33:35
  talk
• 33:35
  about
• 33:35
  the
• 33:36
  intuit.
• 33:36
  No.
• 33:37
  How
• 33:37
  do
• 33:37
  I
• 33:37
  say
• 33:37
  Inuit?
• 33:38
  Inuit.
• 33:38
  Inuit.
• 33:39
  In
• 33:40
  you
• 33:40
  it.
• 33:41
  Inuit.
• 33:43
  Inuit.
• 33:44
  How
• 33:44
  do
• 33:44
  I.
• 33:44
  How
• 33:44
  have
• 33:44
  I
• 33:45
  been
• 33:45
  mispronouncing
• 33:45
  this
• 33:46
  for
• 33:46
  so
• 33:46
  long?
• 33:47
  I
• 33:47
  mean,
• 33:47
  how
• 33:47
  long
• 33:47
  have
• 33:47
  you
• 33:47
  been
• 33:48
  saying
• 33:48
  it?
• 33:48
  I
• 33:48
  don't.
• 33:48
  Well,
• 33:49
  I
• 33:49
  haven't
• 33:49
  been
• 33:49
  saying
• 33:49
  it
• 33:49
  a
• 33:49
  long
• 33:50
  time,
• 33:50
  but
• 33:50
  I'm
• 33:50
  just
• 33:51
  saying
• 33:51
  I
• 33:51
  should
• 33:52
  know
• 33:52
  this.
• 33:52
  Inuit.
• 33:53
  Inuit.
• 33:54
  Inuit
• 33:54
  people.
• 33:54
  I
• 33:55
  think
• 33:55
  you're
• 33:55
  a
• 33:55
  little
• 33:55
  dyslexic.
• 33:56
  I
• 33:56
  am
• 33:58
  confirmed.
• 33:59
  Anyway,
• 34:00
  okay.
• 34:01
  They
• 34:01
  have
• 34:01
  the
• 34:02
  ability
• 34:02
  to
• 34:02
  control
• 34:03
  their
• 34:03
  emotions.
• 34:04
  Their
• 34:04
  lives,
• 34:05
  lives
• 34:05
  are
• 34:05
  very
• 34:05
  hard.
• 34:06
  But
• 34:07
  one
• 34:07
  of
• 34:07
  the
• 34:07
  things
• 34:07
  they
• 34:08
  do
• 34:08
  as
• 34:08
  a
• 34:08
  people
• 34:09
  is
• 34:10
  really
• 34:10
  maintain
• 34:11
  emotional
• 34:11
  control.
• 34:12
  They.
• 34:13
  Small
• 34:13
  mistakes
• 34:14
  are
• 34:14
  just
• 34:14
  ignored.
• 34:15
  Petty
• 34:15
  grievances,
• 34:16
  complaints.
• 34:17
  They
• 34:17
  don't
• 34:18
  do
• 34:18
  that
• 34:19
  they
• 34:19
  don't
• 34:19
  whine
• 34:20
  or
• 34:20
  complain
• 34:20
  about.
• 34:21
  So
• 34:21
  according
• 34:21
  to
• 34:21
  this
• 34:22
  book,
• 34:22
  they
• 34:22
  don't
• 34:22
  scream
• 34:23
  during
• 34:23
  childbirth.
• 34:24
  That's
• 34:25
  crazy.
• 34:25
  But
• 34:26
  I
• 34:26
  can't
• 34:26
  believe.
• 34:27
  But
• 34:27
  I
• 34:27
  guess
• 34:27
  it's
• 34:28
  mind
• 34:28
  over
• 34:29
  matter.
• 34:30
  Yeah,
• 34:31
  well,
• 34:31
  they're,
• 34:31
  it's.
• 34:32
  I
• 34:32
  think
• 34:32
  it's
• 34:32
  so
• 34:32
  ingrained
• 34:33
  maybe
• 34:34
  in
• 34:34
  the
• 34:34
  way
• 34:35
  they
• 34:35
  think
• 34:35
  about
• 34:35
  life
• 34:37
  is
• 34:37
  that
• 34:37
  we're
• 34:38
  not
• 34:38
  complainers.
• 34:39
  So
• 34:39
  even
• 34:40
  when
• 34:40
  we're
• 34:40
  in
• 34:40
  pain,
• 34:41
  I
• 34:41
  mean
• 34:41
  they
• 34:42
  don't.
• 34:42
  Never
• 34:42
  in
• 34:43
  anger.
• 34:43
  That's.
• 34:44
  Yeah.
• 34:44
  And
• 34:45
  anyway,
• 34:45
  so
• 34:45
  they,
• 34:46
  and
• 34:46
  the
• 34:46
  mothers
• 34:47
  are
• 34:47
  just
• 34:47
  inflappable.
• 34:48
  They
• 34:48
  don't
• 34:48
  lose
• 34:49
  their
• 34:49
  temper.
• 34:49
  They
• 34:50
  stay
• 34:50
  calm.
• 34:51
  Their
• 34:51
  kids
• 34:52
  are
• 34:52
  chill
• 34:52
  as
• 34:53
  a
• 34:53
  result.
• 34:53
  They
• 34:53
  don't
• 34:54
  whine,
• 34:54
  they
• 34:54
  don't
• 34:55
  argue.
• 34:55
  She
• 34:56
  saw
• 34:56
  no
• 34:56
  tantrums.
• 34:57
  That's
• 34:57
  the
• 34:57
  big
• 34:57
  thing
• 34:57
  she
• 34:58
  talks
• 34:58
  about
• 34:58
  is
• 34:58
  modeling.
• 34:59
  So
• 35:00
  model
• 35:00
  the
• 35:00
  behavior
• 35:01
  you
• 35:01
  want
• 35:02
  to
• 35:02
  see
• 35:02
  in
• 35:02
  your
• 35:03
  kids
• 35:03
  and
• 35:03
  really
• 35:04
  be
• 35:04
  mindful
• 35:05
  of
• 35:05
  your
• 35:06
  own
• 35:06
  behavior
• 35:07
  that
• 35:07
  you
• 35:07
  wouldn't
• 35:07
  want
• 35:08
  your
• 35:08
  kids
• 35:08
  to
• 35:09
  want.
• 35:09
  Because
• 35:10
  we
• 35:10
  are
• 35:10
  their
• 35:10
  template.
• 35:11
  They
• 35:11
  learn
• 35:12
  from
• 35:12
  us.
• 35:12
  So
• 35:13
  if
• 35:13
  we
• 35:13
  don't
• 35:13
  do
• 35:14
  something,
• 35:14
  chances
• 35:15
  are
• 35:16
  they
• 35:16
  won't
• 35:16
  pick
• 35:16
  it
• 35:17
  up.
• 35:17
  Right.
• 35:17
  Unless
• 35:18
  until
• 35:18
  they
• 35:18
  go
• 35:18
  to
• 35:19
  school
• 35:19
  and
• 35:19
  all
• 35:20
  the
• 35:20
  other
• 35:20
  ill
• 35:20
  mannered
• 35:21
  children
• 35:21
  are.
• 35:21
  There,
• 35:22
  they
• 35:22
  might
• 35:22
  like,
• 35:23
  oh,
• 35:23
  oh,
• 35:23
  I
• 35:24
  can
• 35:24
  scream.
• 35:26
  But
• 35:27
  yeah,
• 35:27
  that's,
• 35:28
  I
• 35:28
  mean
• 35:28
  that's
• 35:28
  very.
• 35:28
  I
• 35:29
  just
• 35:29
  thought
• 35:29
  that
• 35:29
  was
• 35:29
  very,
• 35:29
  very
• 35:30
  interesting.
• 35:30
  And
• 35:30
  the
• 35:30
  other
• 35:31
  thing,
• 35:31
  think
• 35:31
  the
• 35:31
  way
• 35:32
  she
• 35:32
  got
• 35:32
  into
• 35:32
  a
• 35:32
  family
• 35:33
  when
• 35:33
  she
• 35:33
  was
• 35:33
  there,
• 35:34
  was
• 35:34
  everyone
• 35:35
  in
• 35:35
  town
• 35:36
  kind
• 35:36
  of
• 35:36
  saw
• 35:36
  her
• 35:37
  wandering
• 35:37
  around
• 35:37
  with
• 35:38
  her
• 35:38
  daughter
• 35:39
  who
• 35:39
  was
• 35:39
  having
• 35:39
  meltdowns.
• 35:40
  It
• 35:40
  was
• 35:40
  having
• 35:40
  meltdowns
• 35:41
  and
• 35:41
  tantrums
• 35:42
  and,
• 35:42
  and
• 35:42
  then
• 35:43
  she
• 35:43
  was
• 35:43
  dealing
• 35:43
  with
• 35:43
  it
• 35:43
  and
• 35:44
  she's
• 35:44
  like,
• 35:44
  what
• 35:44
  must
• 35:45
  they
• 35:45
  think
• 35:45
  of
• 35:45
  me?
• 35:46
  You
• 35:46
  know,
• 35:46
  I'm.
• 35:47
  They
• 35:47
  must
• 35:47
  think
• 35:47
  I'm
• 35:47
  a
• 35:47
  terrible
• 35:48
  mother
• 35:48
  because
• 35:48
  they,
• 35:49
  their
• 35:49
  children
• 35:49
  aren't
• 35:50
  doing
• 35:50
  that.
• 35:51
  But
• 35:51
  anyway,
• 35:52
  so
• 35:52
  the
• 35:53
  big
• 35:53
  thing
• 35:53
  is
• 35:53
  someone
• 35:54
  came
• 35:54
  up
• 35:54
  to
• 35:54
  her
• 35:54
  and
• 35:55
  said,
• 35:55
  you
• 35:55
  know,
• 35:55
  I
• 35:55
  feel
• 35:56
  so
• 35:56
  sorry
• 35:56
  for
• 35:56
  you
• 35:57
  because
• 35:58
  you're
• 35:58
  all
• 35:58
  alone
• 35:59
  with
• 35:59
  your
• 35:59
  child
• 35:59
  all
• 36:00
  day.
• 36:00
  Your
• 36:01
  child
• 36:01
  must
• 36:02
  be
• 36:02
  so
• 36:02
  sick
• 36:02
  of
• 36:02
  you.
• 36:03
  You
• 36:03
  must
• 36:03
  be
• 36:04
  so
• 36:04
  sick
• 36:04
  of
• 36:04
  your
• 36:04
  child.
• 36:05
  You
• 36:06
  know,
• 36:06
  parents
• 36:06
  and
• 36:06
  children
• 36:07
  weren't
• 36:07
  meant
• 36:07
  to
• 36:07
  be
• 36:08
  together
• 36:08
  alone
• 36:09
  all
• 36:09
  the
• 36:09
  time.
• 36:10
  And
• 36:10
  again,
• 36:11
  this
• 36:11
  goes
• 36:11
  back
• 36:11
  to
• 36:12
  groups
• 36:12
  of
• 36:12
  people
• 36:12
  racing.
• 36:13
  Try
• 36:13
  telling
• 36:13
  this
• 36:14
  to
• 36:14
  the
• 36:14
  moms
• 36:14
  on
• 36:14
  TikTok.
• 36:15
  Right.
• 36:16
  But.
• 36:16
  Oh,
• 36:17
  they
• 36:17
  would
• 36:18
  disagree.
• 36:19
  Oh,
• 36:19
  my
• 36:19
  God.
• 36:19
  Okay.
• 36:20
  See,
• 36:21
  I
• 36:21
  try
• 36:21
  not
• 36:21
  to
• 36:21
  get
• 36:22
  too
• 36:22
  much
• 36:22
  on
• 36:22
  TikTok.
• 36:23
  It
• 36:23
  just
• 36:23
  sucks.
• 36:24
  Well,
• 36:24
  I
• 36:24
  don't
• 36:24
  even
• 36:24
  have
• 36:24
  a
• 36:24
  TikTok.
• 36:25
  I
• 36:25
  see
• 36:25
  this
• 36:25
  from
• 36:26
  things
• 36:26
  that
• 36:26
  other
• 36:26
  people
• 36:26
  pull
• 36:27
  from
• 36:27
  TikTok.
• 36:28
  And
• 36:28
  the
• 36:28
  opin.
• 36:29
  Oh,
• 36:29
  well,
• 36:29
  yeah.
• 36:30
  Are
• 36:30
  like,
• 36:31
  girl.
• 36:31
  What?
• 36:32
  Well,
• 36:33
  yeah,
• 36:33
  I
• 36:33
  mean,
• 36:34
  what.
• 36:34
  What
• 36:34
  they're
• 36:34
  saying
• 36:35
  here.
• 36:35
  Again,
• 36:35
  this
• 36:35
  goes
• 36:36
  back
• 36:36
  to
• 36:36
  communal,
• 36:37
  you
• 36:37
  know,
• 36:37
  more
• 36:38
  people
• 36:38
  raising
• 36:38
  the
• 36:39
  kid.
• 36:39
  So
• 36:39
  this
• 36:40
  family
• 36:40
  invites
• 36:41
  her
• 36:42
  and
• 36:42
  her
• 36:42
  daughter
• 36:42
  to
• 36:43
  come
• 36:43
  live
• 36:43
  with
• 36:43
  them
• 36:43
  for
• 36:44
  a
• 36:44
  while,
• 36:44
  and
• 36:44
  her
• 36:45
  daughter
• 36:45
  immediately
• 36:46
  becomes
• 36:46
  part
• 36:46
  of
• 36:47
  the
• 36:47
  kid
• 36:47
  pack
• 36:48
  and
• 36:48
  is
• 36:48
  much
• 36:49
  happier.
• 36:49
  Kids
• 36:50
  belong
• 36:50
  in
• 36:50
  a
• 36:50
  pack.
• 36:51
  Yeah,
• 36:51
  they
• 36:51
  do.
• 36:52
  Of
• 36:52
  kids
• 36:52
  of
• 36:53
  different
• 36:53
  ages.
• 36:53
  And.
• 36:54
  And
• 36:54
  she
• 36:55
  just
• 36:55
  follows
• 36:55
  along
• 36:56
  and.
• 36:56
  And
• 36:56
  makes
• 36:57
  friends
• 36:57
  and
• 36:58
  acts
• 36:59
  like
• 36:59
  the
• 36:59
  big
• 36:59
  girls,
• 37:00
  and
• 37:00
  immediately
• 37:01
  her
• 37:01
  behavior
• 37:02
  gets
• 37:02
  better.
• 37:03
  And
• 37:04
  she
• 37:05
  sees
• 37:05
  this,
• 37:05
  and
• 37:05
  she's
• 37:06
  like,
• 37:06
  wow.
• 37:07
  But
• 37:08
  getting
• 37:08
  back
• 37:08
  to
• 37:09
  what
• 37:09
  you
• 37:09
  said
• 37:09
  about
• 37:10
  never
• 37:10
  yelling
• 37:11
  at
• 37:11
  a
• 37:11
  child.
• 37:12
  They
• 37:12
  say
• 37:12
  they
• 37:13
  don't
• 37:13
  yell
• 37:13
  at
• 37:13
  a
• 37:13
  child.
• 37:14
  They
• 37:14
  don't
• 37:14
  reprimand
• 37:15
  them.
• 37:15
  They
• 37:15
  say,
• 37:15
  it
• 37:16
  doesn't
• 37:16
  help
• 37:16
  the
• 37:17
  child.
• 37:17
  The
• 37:18
  child
• 37:18
  will
• 37:18
  stop
• 37:18
  listening,
• 37:20
  and
• 37:20
  it
• 37:20
  hurts
• 37:20
  you.
• 37:21
  And
• 37:22
  the
• 37:22
  author
• 37:22
  realizes
• 37:23
  that
• 37:23
  the
• 37:23
  yelling
• 37:24
  and
• 37:24
  the.
• 37:24
  The
• 37:24
  scolding
• 37:25
  she's
• 37:25
  been
• 37:26
  doing
• 37:26
  has
• 37:26
  been
• 37:26
  triggering
• 37:27
  her
• 37:27
  daughter's
• 37:28
  meltdowns.
• 37:29
  And
• 37:30
  this
• 37:31
  is
• 37:31
  what
• 37:31
  I
• 37:32
  was
• 37:32
  telling
• 37:32
  you
• 37:33
  about
• 37:33
  how
• 37:35
  yesterday
• 37:36
  this
• 37:36
  happened
• 37:37
  where.
• 37:38
  And
• 37:39
  sometimes
• 37:39
  I
• 37:39
  do
• 37:40
  compare
• 37:41
  training
• 37:41
  a
• 37:41
  dog
• 37:41
  to
• 37:42
  training
• 37:42
  a
• 37:42
  child.
• 37:43
  I
• 37:43
  know
• 37:43
  it's
• 37:43
  different
• 37:44
  because
• 37:45
  children
• 37:46
  actually
• 37:46
  can
• 37:47
  grow
• 37:47
  out
• 37:47
  of
• 37:48
  behavior
• 37:49
  that
• 37:49
  dogs
• 37:49
  do.
• 37:50
  But
• 37:51
  my
• 37:51
  dog
• 37:54
  had
• 37:54
  messed
• 37:54
  up.
• 37:55
  He
• 37:55
  had
• 37:55
  pulled
• 37:56
  all
• 37:56
  the
• 37:56
  threads
• 37:57
  out
• 37:57
  of
• 37:57
  the
• 37:57
  carpet.
• 37:57
  Again,
• 37:58
  again,
• 37:58
  again.
• 37:59
  Mondo.
• 38:00
  Every
• 38:00
  time
• 38:00
  he
• 38:01
  sees
• 38:01
  a
• 38:01
  carpet
• 38:02
  with
• 38:02
  a
• 38:02
  thread,
• 38:03
  he
• 38:03
  pulls
• 38:03
  it
• 38:04
  out.
• 38:04
  He
• 38:04
  can't
• 38:04
  resist.
• 38:04
  He
• 38:05
  loves
• 38:05
  undoing
• 38:06
  my
• 38:06
  woven
• 38:07
  carpet,
• 38:08
  and
• 38:09
  I'm
• 38:09
  constantly
• 38:09
  sewing
• 38:10
  it
• 38:10
  back
• 38:10
  together.
• 38:12
  But
• 38:12
  anyway,
• 38:13
  so
• 38:13
  my
• 38:13
  first
• 38:14
  reaction,
• 38:14
  I'm
• 38:14
  like,
• 38:15
  mondo.
• 38:16
  And
• 38:16
  I'm
• 38:16
  screaming
• 38:17
  at
• 38:17
  him,
• 38:17
  and
• 38:17
  he's
• 38:18
  just
• 38:18
  kind
• 38:18
  of
• 38:18
  looking
• 38:18
  at
• 38:18
  me
• 38:19
  like,
• 38:19
  what,
• 38:19
  Mom?
• 38:20
  What?
• 38:21
  And
• 38:22
  I
• 38:22
  realized,
• 38:23
  you
• 38:23
  know
• 38:23
  what?
• 38:24
  This
• 38:24
  was
• 38:24
  all
• 38:24
  my
• 38:25
  fault
• 38:25
  because
• 38:26
  I
• 38:27
  should
• 38:27
  have
• 38:27
  been
• 38:27
  watching
• 38:28
  you.
• 38:28
  I
• 38:29
  allowed
• 38:29
  you
• 38:29
  to
• 38:30
  be
• 38:30
  there
• 38:30
  on
• 38:31
  the
• 38:31
  ground
• 38:31
  with
• 38:32
  something
• 38:32
  that
• 38:32
  I
• 38:32
  know
• 38:32
  tempts
• 38:33
  you.
• 38:33
  And
• 38:34
  they
• 38:34
  tell
• 38:34
  a
• 38:34
  story
• 38:34
  in
• 38:35
  the
• 38:35
  book
• 38:36
  where
• 38:36
  a
• 38:37
  child
• 38:39
  knocked
• 38:39
  over
• 38:39
  a
• 38:40
  cup
• 38:40
  of
• 38:40
  coffee,
• 38:41
  and
• 38:41
  the
• 38:41
  parent
• 38:42
  didn't
• 38:42
  get
• 38:42
  upset
• 38:42
  or
• 38:43
  anything.
• 38:44
  They
• 38:44
  only
• 38:44
  said,
• 38:45
  oh,
• 38:45
  it's
• 38:45
  my
• 38:46
  fault,
• 38:46
  because
• 38:46
  I
• 38:46
  left
• 38:47
  the
• 38:47
  coffee
• 38:47
  in
• 38:48
  a
• 38:48
  place
• 38:48
  where
• 38:48
  you
• 38:48
  could
• 38:49
  get
• 38:49
  to
• 38:49
  it.
• 38:50
  And
• 38:50
  I
• 38:50
  realized
• 38:51
  that,
• 38:51
  you
• 38:51
  know,
• 38:51
  when
• 38:52
  Mondo
• 38:52
  messes
• 38:53
  up.
• 38:53
  Now,
• 38:53
  I
• 38:54
  did
• 38:54
  yell
• 38:54
  at
• 38:54
  him,
• 38:54
  but
• 38:54
  then
• 38:55
  I
• 38:55
  remembered
• 38:55
  it
• 38:55
  was
• 38:55
  my
• 38:56
  fault.
• 38:56
  Yes.
• 38:57
  It
• 38:57
  goes
• 38:57
  back
• 38:57
  to,
• 38:58
  like,
• 38:58
  how
• 38:58
  we
• 38:58
  overestimate
• 39:00
  a
• 39:00
  child's
• 39:01
  emotional
• 39:02
  abilities,
• 39:03
  and
• 39:03
  it's
• 39:04
  like
• 39:04
  they
• 39:04
  don't
• 39:05
  have
• 39:05
  the
• 39:05
  same
• 39:06
  decision
• 39:06
  Making
• 39:08
  things
• 39:09
  or
• 39:09
  whatever.
• 39:10
  Yeah,
• 39:10
  the
• 39:11
  cognitive
• 39:12
  thoughts.
• 39:12
  We
• 39:13
  have
• 39:13
  to
• 39:13
  arrange
• 39:14
  in
• 39:14
  a
• 39:14
  lot
• 39:14
  of
• 39:14
  ways,
• 39:15
  the
• 39:15
  world,
• 39:16
  or
• 39:16
  not
• 39:17
  arrange
• 39:17
  the
• 39:17
  world
• 39:17
  because
• 39:17
  it's
• 39:17
  the
• 39:18
  environment
• 39:18
  that
• 39:18
  they're
• 39:19
  in.
• 39:19
  As
• 39:19
  best
• 39:19
  as
• 39:19
  we
• 39:20
  can.
• 39:20
  But
• 39:20
  also
• 39:20
  we.
• 39:20
  Then
• 39:21
  when
• 39:21
  they
• 39:21
  make
• 39:21
  mistakes
• 39:22
  that
• 39:22
  we
• 39:23
  could
• 39:23
  have
• 39:23
  helped
• 39:24
  them
• 39:24
  avoid,
• 39:25
  we
• 39:25
  can't
• 39:25
  really
• 39:25
  get
• 39:26
  so
• 39:26
  mad
• 39:26
  at
• 39:26
  them.
• 39:27
  Right,
• 39:27
  Exactly.
• 39:28
  We
• 39:28
  have
• 39:29
  to
• 39:29
  arrange
• 39:29
  things
• 39:29
  for
• 39:30
  them
• 39:30
  in
• 39:30
  that
• 39:30
  way.
• 39:31
  Eventually
• 39:32
  a
• 39:32
  child
• 39:32
  will
• 39:32
  learn.
• 39:33
  If
• 39:34
  there's
• 39:34
  coffee,
• 39:35
  don't
• 39:35
  touch
• 39:36
  it.
• 39:36
  But
• 39:37
  Mondo
• 39:38
  may
• 39:38
  never
• 39:38
  learn.
• 39:38
  My
• 39:39
  dog's
• 39:39
  tails
• 39:40
  constantly
• 39:40
  knock
• 39:40
  things
• 39:40
  off
• 39:41
  of
• 39:41
  tables.
• 39:41
  And
• 39:42
  it's
• 39:42
  like
• 39:42
  a
• 39:42
  guest.
• 39:42
  Again,
• 39:42
  they
• 39:43
  don't
• 39:43
  mean
• 39:43
  to,
• 39:44
  but
• 39:44
  there's
• 39:44
  no
• 39:44
  amount
• 39:45
  of
• 39:45
  scolding
• 39:45
  them
• 39:46
  that's
• 39:46
  going
• 39:46
  to
• 39:46
  solve
• 39:46
  that
• 39:47
  at
• 39:47
  this
• 39:47
  point,
• 39:48
  ever,
• 39:48
  really.
• 39:48
  And
• 39:48
  it's
• 39:48
  your
• 39:48
  fault
• 39:49
  in
• 39:49
  a
• 39:49
  way.
• 39:49
  Because
• 39:50
  I
• 39:50
  know
• 39:50
  better.
• 39:51
  They
• 39:51
  don't.
• 39:51
  They
• 39:51
  don't.
• 39:52
  And
• 39:52
  you
• 39:52
  have
• 39:52
  to.
• 39:52
  And
• 39:53
  this
• 39:53
  is
• 39:53
  the
• 39:53
  belief
• 39:54
  of
• 39:55
  the
• 39:55
  Inuit
• 39:56
  people,
• 39:56
  is
• 39:57
  that
• 39:57
  kids
• 39:57
  just
• 39:58
  don't
• 39:58
  know
• 39:58
  better
• 39:59
  and
• 39:59
  that
• 39:59
  they're
• 40:00
  learning.
• 40:00
  And
• 40:01
  so
• 40:02
  they.
• 40:02
  All
• 40:02
  of
• 40:03
  their
• 40:03
  parenting
• 40:03
  is
• 40:04
  nurturing,
• 40:05
  gentle,
• 40:06
  tender.
• 40:07
  They
• 40:07
  don't
• 40:07
  punish,
• 40:08
  they
• 40:08
  don't
• 40:08
  shout
• 40:09
  or
• 40:09
  yell.
• 40:10
  They
• 40:10
  say
• 40:10
  if
• 40:11
  you
• 40:11
  control
• 40:11
  your
• 40:11
  anger,
• 40:12
  you're
• 40:12
  teaching
• 40:13
  your
• 40:13
  child
• 40:13
  to
• 40:13
  control
• 40:14
  their
• 40:14
  anger.
• 40:16
  They
• 40:16
  say
• 40:17
  when
• 40:17
  a
• 40:17
  child
• 40:17
  angers
• 40:18
  you,
• 40:18
  you
• 40:18
  close
• 40:19
  your
• 40:19
  mouth,
• 40:19
  you
• 40:20
  stop
• 40:20
  talking.
• 40:21
  Walk
• 40:21
  away
• 40:21
  if
• 40:22
  you
• 40:22
  need
• 40:22
  to.
• 40:23
  You
• 40:23
  teach
• 40:23
  yourself
• 40:24
  to
• 40:25
  have
• 40:25
  less
• 40:25
  anger.
• 40:27
  And
• 40:27
  instead
• 40:27
  of
• 40:28
  thinking
• 40:28
  this
• 40:28
  child
• 40:29
  is
• 40:29
  pushing
• 40:29
  my
• 40:29
  buttons
• 40:30
  on
• 40:31
  purpose,
• 40:31
  realize
• 40:32
  that
• 40:32
  they're
• 40:33
  just
• 40:33
  trying
• 40:33
  to
• 40:33
  figure
• 40:33
  out
• 40:34
  how
• 40:34
  to
• 40:34
  behave,
• 40:35
  how
• 40:35
  to
• 40:35
  act,
• 40:36
  and
• 40:37
  it's
• 40:37
  your
• 40:37
  job.
• 40:37
  It
• 40:37
  takes
• 40:37
  trial
• 40:38
  and
• 40:38
  error
• 40:39
  and
• 40:39
  it
• 40:39
  takes
• 40:39
  a
• 40:39
  long
• 40:40
  time.
• 40:40
  Yeah,
• 40:40
  a
• 40:41
  long
• 40:41
  time.
• 40:42
  Much
• 40:42
  longer
• 40:42
  than
• 40:43
  we
• 40:43
  give
• 40:43
  kids
• 40:44
  here.
• 40:44
  Exactly.
• 40:46
  Our
• 40:46
  expectations
• 40:47
  are
• 40:47
  really
• 40:47
  out
• 40:47
  of
• 40:47
  whack.
• 40:48
  That's
• 40:48
  right.
• 40:48
  And
• 40:49
  it's
• 40:49
  just.
• 40:49
  It's
• 40:49
  illogical
• 40:50
  to
• 40:50
  ever
• 40:51
  argue
• 40:51
  with
• 40:51
  a
• 40:51
  child.
• 40:53
  They
• 40:53
  say
• 40:53
  make
• 40:54
  requests
• 40:55
  and
• 40:55
  then
• 40:55
  wait.
• 40:56
  If
• 40:56
  they
• 40:57
  refuse,
• 40:58
  then
• 40:58
  you
• 40:58
  make
• 40:58
  a
• 40:58
  comment
• 40:59
  in
• 40:59
  a
• 40:59
  very
• 40:59
  calm
• 41:00
  voice
• 41:01
  and
• 41:01
  you
• 41:02
  say
• 41:04
  what
• 41:04
  mistake
• 41:04
  the
• 41:05
  child
• 41:05
  is
• 41:05
  making.
• 41:05
  You
• 41:06
  mention
• 41:06
  the
• 41:06
  consequences
• 41:07
  of
• 41:07
  their
• 41:07
  behavior
• 41:08
  and
• 41:08
  you
• 41:08
  walk
• 41:08
  away.
• 41:09
  You
• 41:09
  don't
• 41:09
  make
• 41:09
  a
• 41:10
  big
• 41:10
  deal
• 41:10
  about
• 41:10
  it.
• 41:11
  It
• 41:11
  they
• 41:11
  say,
• 41:12
  don't
• 41:12
  force
• 41:12
  kids
• 41:13
  to
• 41:13
  do
• 41:13
  things,
• 41:13
  but
• 41:14
  encourage
• 41:14
  them
• 41:14
  instead.
• 41:17
  And
• 41:18
  let's
• 41:18
  see,
• 41:19
  then
• 41:20
  they
• 41:20
  gave
• 41:20
  a
• 41:20
  whole
• 41:20
  bunch
• 41:20
  of
• 41:21
  tools,
• 41:22
  which
• 41:22
  I
• 41:23
  thought
• 41:23
  these
• 41:23
  were
• 41:23
  very
• 41:23
  helpful
• 41:25
  for
• 41:26
  raising
• 41:26
  kids
• 41:27
  with
• 41:27
  big
• 41:27
  emotions,
• 41:29
  with
• 41:29
  tantrums
• 41:30
  and
• 41:30
  crying
• 41:32
  that
• 41:32
  she
• 41:32
  says
• 41:33
  just
• 41:33
  what
• 41:33
  she's
• 41:34
  seeing
• 41:34
  actually
• 41:34
  across
• 41:35
  cultures
• 41:35
  is
• 41:36
  just
• 41:36
  stay
• 41:37
  calm,
• 41:38
  like
• 41:38
  Mr.
• 41:39
  Rogers
• 41:39
  stoned,
• 41:40
  like
• 41:41
  even
• 41:41
  more
• 41:42
  Mr.
• 41:42
  Rogers
• 41:43
  calm
• 41:43
  than
• 41:43
  you.
• 41:44
  And
• 41:44
  just
• 41:44
  show
• 41:45
  them
• 41:45
  how
• 41:45
  to
• 41:45
  be
• 41:45
  calm
• 41:46
  by
• 41:46
  being
• 41:46
  calm
• 41:47
  yourself.
• 41:47
  Model
• 41:48
  very
• 41:48
  few
• 41:49
  words,
• 41:49
  little
• 41:50
  expression
• 41:50
  or
• 41:51
  movement.
• 41:52
  Be
• 41:52
  a
• 41:52
  safe
• 41:52
  haven
• 41:53
  for
• 41:53
  your
• 41:53
  child.
• 41:54
  Approach
• 41:55
  them
• 41:55
  like
• 41:55
  you
• 41:56
  would
• 41:56
  a
• 41:56
  butterfly
• 41:57
  so
• 41:57
  gently.
• 41:57
  Yeah.
• 41:58
  Which
• 41:58
  is
• 41:58
  interesting.
• 41:59
  And
• 41:59
  I've
• 41:59
  seen
• 41:59
  this
• 42:00
  in
• 42:00
  many
• 42:00
  books
• 42:00
  now.
• 42:01
  Yeah.
• 42:01
  I
• 42:02
  also
• 42:02
  think
• 42:02
  too
• 42:03
  this
• 42:03
  idea
• 42:04
  of
• 42:05
  when
• 42:05
  you're
• 42:06
  telling
• 42:06
  your
• 42:06
  kids
• 42:06
  about
• 42:07
  consequences,
• 42:08
  don't
• 42:08
  make
• 42:08
  them
• 42:08
  artificial.
• 42:09
  Don't
• 42:10
  threaten
• 42:10
  them
• 42:10
  with
• 42:10
  a
• 42:11
  punishment.
• 42:12
  Threaten
• 42:12
  them
• 42:12
  with
• 42:12
  the
• 42:13
  consequence
• 42:13
  that
• 42:14
  would
• 42:14
  actually
• 42:15
  a
• 42:15
  natural
• 42:16
  consequence.
• 42:16
  So
• 42:17
  like,
• 42:17
  you
• 42:17
  know,
• 42:17
  if
• 42:18
  you
• 42:18
  run
• 42:18
  into
• 42:18
  the
• 42:18
  street,
• 42:19
  you
• 42:19
  will
• 42:19
  get
• 42:19
  hit
• 42:19
  by
• 42:19
  a
• 42:19
  car.
• 42:20
  That
• 42:20
  is
• 42:20
  the
• 42:21
  consequence
• 42:21
  of
• 42:21
  that.
• 42:22
  If
• 42:22
  you
• 42:24
  throw
• 42:24
  rocks,
• 42:25
  if
• 42:25
  you're
• 42:25
  juggling
• 42:26
  rocks,
• 42:26
  chances
• 42:27
  are
• 42:27
  you
• 42:27
  might
• 42:27
  drop
• 42:28
  one
• 42:28
  on
• 42:28
  your
• 42:28
  foot
• 42:28
  and
• 42:29
  that
• 42:29
  will
• 42:29
  really
• 42:29
  hurt.
• 42:30
  These
• 42:30
  are
• 42:31
  the
• 42:31
  reasons
• 42:31
  you
• 42:31
  shouldn't
• 42:32
  do
• 42:32
  these
• 42:32
  behaviors.
• 42:33
  Not
• 42:33
  because
• 42:33
  I'm
• 42:34
  gonna
• 42:34
  put
• 42:34
  you
• 42:34
  in
• 42:34
  timeout.
• 42:35
  Y
• 42:37
  Natural
• 42:37
  consequences
• 42:38
  are
• 42:38
  bad
• 42:39
  too.
• 42:40
  And
• 42:40
  the
• 42:40
  interesting
• 42:41
  thing
• 42:41
  is,
• 42:41
  I'm
• 42:41
  just
• 42:41
  thinking
• 42:42
  back
• 42:42
  to
• 42:42
  all
• 42:42
  the
• 42:42
  books
• 42:43
  we've
• 42:43
  read.
• 42:43
  There
• 42:43
  have
• 42:43
  been
• 42:44
  books
• 42:44
  that
• 42:44
  have
• 42:44
  said
• 42:45
  never
• 42:45
  try
• 42:45
  to
• 42:45
  talk
• 42:46
  to
• 42:46
  a
• 42:46
  child.
• 42:47
  About
• 42:48
  they're
• 42:48
  not
• 42:49
  little
• 42:49
  adults.
• 42:49
  They're
• 42:49
  not
• 42:49
  little
• 42:49
  adults.
• 42:50
  And
• 42:50
  this
• 42:50
  book
• 42:50
  actually
• 42:50
  says
• 42:50
  the
• 42:51
  opposite.
• 42:51
  Yeah,
• 42:51
  it
• 42:51
  does.
• 42:52
  You
• 42:52
  know,
• 42:53
  and
• 42:53
  not
• 42:53
  necessarily
• 42:53
  don't.
• 42:54
  It's
• 42:54
  not
• 42:54
  about
• 42:54
  over
• 42:55
  explaining,
• 42:55
  but
• 42:56
  again,
• 42:56
  it's
• 42:56
  about
• 42:56
  modeling
• 42:57
  and
• 42:57
  it's
• 42:57
  about
• 42:58
  sort
• 42:58
  of
• 42:58
  meeting
• 42:59
  your
• 42:59
  child
• 42:59
  where
• 43:00
  they
• 43:00
  are
• 43:01
  and
• 43:01
  being.
• 43:02
  And
• 43:03
  recalibrating
• 43:03
  your
• 43:04
  own
• 43:04
  expectations,
• 43:05
  you
• 43:05
  know,
• 43:07
  and
• 43:07
  not
• 43:07
  getting
• 43:08
  angry.
• 43:08
  Cause
• 43:09
  again,
• 43:09
  it's
• 43:09
  like
• 43:09
  you
• 43:10
  can't
• 43:10
  be
• 43:10
  angry
• 43:10
  at
• 43:10
  people
• 43:11
  for
• 43:12
  doing,
• 43:13
  you
• 43:13
  know,
• 43:13
  if
• 43:13
  they're
• 43:14
  not
• 43:15
  for.
• 43:15
  What
• 43:15
  is
• 43:15
  the
• 43:15
  word?
• 43:15
  What
• 43:16
  am
• 43:16
  I
• 43:16
  trying
• 43:16
  to
• 43:16
  say?
• 43:16
  I
• 43:16
  don't
• 43:16
  know.
• 43:17
  Better
• 43:17
  yet,
• 43:17
  I
• 43:17
  don't
• 43:17
  know.
• 43:17
  At
• 43:17
  5
• 43:17
  o'
• 43:18
  clock
• 43:18
  this
• 43:18
  morning,
• 43:18
  I.
• 43:18
  Know
• 43:19
  you
• 43:19
  got
• 43:19
  up
• 43:19
  early
• 43:19
  with
• 43:19
  the
• 43:20
  sleep
• 43:20
  baby.
• 43:21
  Just
• 43:22
  didn't
• 43:22
  want
• 43:22
  to
• 43:22
  sleep.
• 43:22
  She's
• 43:22
  starting
• 43:22
  to
• 43:23
  teeth.
• 43:23
  No,
• 43:24
  she's
• 43:24
  starting
• 43:24
  to
• 43:24
  teeth.
• 43:25
  That's
• 43:25
  what
• 43:25
  it
• 43:25
  is.
• 43:25
  Yeah.
• 43:26
  We
• 43:26
  can't
• 43:26
  expect
• 43:27
  more
• 43:27
  people
• 43:27
  than
• 43:27
  they're
• 43:28
  capable
• 43:28
  of.
• 43:28
  Yeah,
• 43:29
  exactly.
• 43:30
  And
• 43:30
  if
• 43:31
  they're
• 43:31
  really
• 43:31
  having
• 43:31
  big
• 43:32
  emotions,
• 43:32
  take
• 43:33
  them
• 43:33
  outside
• 43:36
  that.
• 43:36
  Ignore
• 43:36
  their
• 43:37
  emotional
• 43:37
  outbursts
• 43:38
  when
• 43:39
  they're
• 43:39
  older.
• 43:39
  Just
• 43:40
  be
• 43:40
  calm.
• 43:41
  For
• 43:42
  everyday
• 43:42
  misbehaviors.
• 43:43
  This
• 43:43
  is
• 43:43
  interesting.
• 43:45
  What
• 43:45
  she
• 43:45
  saw
• 43:46
  people
• 43:46
  doing
• 43:46
  was
• 43:47
  rather
• 43:47
  than
• 43:47
  talking
• 43:48
  to
• 43:48
  them
• 43:48
  or
• 43:48
  saying
• 43:49
  no,
• 43:50
  parents
• 43:50
  had,
• 43:52
  I
• 43:52
  guess,
• 43:52
  perfected
• 43:53
  a
• 43:53
  look
• 43:54
  where
• 43:54
  if
• 43:54
  they
• 43:54
  gave
• 43:55
  their
• 43:55
  kid
• 43:55
  the
• 43:55
  look,
• 43:56
  like
• 43:56
  I
• 43:56
  know
• 43:56
  my
• 43:57
  dad
• 43:57
  always
• 43:57
  had
• 43:58
  a
• 43:58
  look.
• 43:58
  And
• 43:58
  if
• 43:59
  he
• 43:59
  gave
• 43:59
  me
• 43:59
  that
• 43:59
  look
• 44:00
  look,
• 44:00
  I
• 44:00
  knew,
• 44:01
  okay,
• 44:01
  I
• 44:01
  better
• 44:02
  bathe.
• 44:02
  Yeah.
• 44:02
  And
• 44:03
  that's
• 44:03
  what
• 44:03
  they
• 44:03
  did.
• 44:04
  They
• 44:04
  have
• 44:05
  a
• 44:05
  look.
• 44:06
  You
• 44:06
  give
• 44:06
  them
• 44:06
  a
• 44:06
  look.
• 44:06
  We
• 44:07
  got
• 44:07
  the
• 44:07
  look.
• 44:07
  We
• 44:07
  were
• 44:07
  like,
• 44:08
  oh
• 44:08
  God,
• 44:08
  we.
• 44:09
  Okay,
• 44:11
  who
• 44:11
  has
• 44:11
  the
• 44:11
  look?
• 44:11
  Bevy?
• 44:12
  Oh,
• 44:12
  Bev,
• 44:13
  I
• 44:13
  thought
• 44:13
  you
• 44:13
  said
• 44:13
  your.
• 44:14
  Baby
• 44:14
  and
• 44:14
  I
• 44:15
  was
• 44:15
  gonna
• 44:15
  say
• 44:16
  she
• 44:16
  has
• 44:17
  a
• 44:17
  look.
• 44:17
  Well,
• 44:17
  okay,
• 44:18
  but
• 44:18
  Bev.
• 44:18
  Yes,
• 44:19
  your
• 44:19
  babysitter
• 44:20
  had
• 44:20
  a
• 44:20
  look.
• 44:21
  I
• 44:21
  know
• 44:21
  she
• 44:21
  did.
• 44:23
  The
• 44:23
  minute
• 44:23
  you
• 44:23
  get
• 44:23
  the
• 44:24
  look,
• 44:24
  stop
• 44:24
  us.
• 44:25
  My
• 44:25
  blood
• 44:25
  would
• 44:26
  run
• 44:26
  cold.
• 44:27
  Okay.
• 44:28
  Well,
• 44:28
  anyway.
• 44:30
  Okay.
• 44:30
  And
• 44:30
  then
• 44:31
  so
• 44:31
  we
• 44:31
  talked,
• 44:32
  you
• 44:32
  know,
• 44:32
  telling
• 44:32
  them
• 44:32
  consequences.
• 44:33
  Other
• 44:33
  things
• 44:34
  she
• 44:34
  says
• 44:34
  is
• 44:34
  ask
• 44:35
  questions
• 44:36
  like,
• 44:36
  who
• 44:36
  made
• 44:37
  this
• 44:37
  mess?
• 44:38
  Or
• 44:38
  who's
• 44:38
  ignoring
• 44:39
  me?
• 44:40
  Who's
• 44:40
  being
• 44:40
  disrespectful?
• 44:41
  And
• 44:42
  that
• 44:42
  gets
• 44:42
  your
• 44:42
  point
• 44:42
  across.
• 44:43
  I
• 44:43
  want
• 44:43
  them
• 44:43
  to
• 44:44
  inspire
• 44:44
  a
• 44:45
  thought.
• 44:45
  Yeah.
• 44:46
  Think
• 44:46
  about
• 44:46
  it.
• 44:46
  As
• 44:47
  opposed
• 44:47
  to.
• 44:48
  Again,
• 44:48
  it's
• 44:49
  like,
• 44:49
  don't
• 44:49
  invite
• 44:49
  an
• 44:50
  argument.
• 44:50
  Don't
• 44:50
  create
• 44:51
  a
• 44:51
  situation
• 44:51
  where
• 44:51
  they
• 44:51
  can
• 44:52
  get
• 44:52
  defensive.
• 44:53
  You
• 44:53
  ask
• 44:53
  them
• 44:53
  a
• 44:53
  question
• 44:54
  and
• 44:54
  give
• 44:54
  them
• 44:55
  an
• 44:55
  opportunity
• 44:55
  to
• 44:55
  consider.
• 44:57
  Exactly.
• 44:58
  Exactly.
• 44:58
  And.
• 44:59
  And
• 44:59
  then
• 44:59
  she
• 45:00
  says,
• 45:00
  if
• 45:01
  your
• 45:01
  child
• 45:01
  is
• 45:01
  whining
• 45:02
  or
• 45:02
  complaining,
• 45:03
  what
• 45:03
  they
• 45:03
  might
• 45:04
  actually
• 45:04
  be
• 45:04
  doing
• 45:05
  is
• 45:05
  asking
• 45:06
  you
• 45:06
  for
• 45:06
  more
• 45:06
  responsibility.
• 45:08
  That
• 45:08
  maybe.
• 45:09
  I
• 45:09
  know
• 45:09
  that
• 45:09
  this
• 45:09
  sounds
• 45:10
  hard
• 45:10
  to
• 45:10
  believe.
• 45:10
  I
• 45:10
  know
• 45:11
  they're
• 45:11
  whining.
• 45:12
  It's
• 45:12
  like,
• 45:12
  maybe
• 45:12
  it's
• 45:13
  time
• 45:13
  you
• 45:13
  learn
• 45:13
  a
• 45:13
  new
• 45:14
  skill
• 45:14
  or
• 45:14
  get
• 45:15
  a
• 45:15
  new
• 45:15
  responsibility.
• 45:16
  So
• 45:16
  they
• 45:17
  try
• 45:17
  that
• 45:19
  again.
• 45:19
  Don't
• 45:20
  discuss
• 45:20
  much
• 45:21
  at
• 45:21
  all.
• 45:21
  Don't
• 45:22
  give
• 45:22
  your
• 45:22
  child
• 45:22
  choices.
• 45:23
  Which
• 45:24
  is
• 45:24
  very
• 45:24
  interesting
• 45:25
  because
• 45:25
  this
• 45:26
  runs
• 45:26
  counter
• 45:27
  to
• 45:27
  what
• 45:27
  you
• 45:27
  hear
• 45:27
  in
• 45:27
  some
• 45:28
  other
• 45:28
  Their
• 45:28
  books.
• 45:28
  Don't
• 45:29
  give
• 45:29
  them
• 45:29
  choices.
• 45:30
  This
• 45:30
  invites
• 45:31
  conflict.
• 45:32
  Help
• 45:32
  the
• 45:32
  child
• 45:33
  do
• 45:33
  what's
• 45:33
  needed.
• 45:34
  Change
• 45:34
  the
• 45:35
  environment
• 45:35
  so
• 45:35
  they
• 45:36
  don't
• 45:36
  need
• 45:36
  to
• 45:36
  change
• 45:36
  their
• 45:37
  behavior.
• 45:38
  Do
• 45:38
  what
• 45:39
  you
• 45:39
  want
• 45:39
  them
• 45:39
  to
• 45:39
  do.
• 45:40
  Just
• 45:40
  rather
• 45:41
  than
• 45:41
  saying,
• 45:41
  do
• 45:41
  you
• 45:42
  want
• 45:42
  the
• 45:42
  red
• 45:43
  shirt
• 45:43
  or
• 45:43
  the
• 45:43
  blue
• 45:44
  shirt?
• 45:44
  Just
• 45:45
  say,
• 45:45
  here's
• 45:45
  the
• 45:45
  red
• 45:46
  shirt.
• 45:46
  Put
• 45:46
  it
• 45:46
  on,
• 45:48
  take
• 45:48
  action.
• 45:49
  She
• 45:49
  calls
• 45:49
  it
• 45:49
  low
• 45:50
  talk.
• 45:50
  Parenting
• 45:51
  creates
• 45:52
  less
• 45:52
  conflict.
• 45:53
  Again,
• 45:54
  this
• 45:54
  does
• 45:56
  go
• 45:57
  against
• 45:57
  what
• 45:57
  other
• 45:57
  books
• 45:58
  say,
• 45:58
  but
• 45:58
  this
• 45:59
  is
• 45:59
  what
• 45:59
  she
• 45:59
  says,
• 45:59
  and
• 46:00
  it
• 46:00
  is
• 46:00
  worth
• 46:01
  trying.
• 46:01
  And
• 46:02
  ignore
• 46:02
  misbehavior
• 46:03
  because
• 46:04
  it's
• 46:04
  attention
• 46:04
  seeking.
• 46:05
  And
• 46:05
  even
• 46:05
  when
• 46:05
  you
• 46:06
  pay
• 46:06
  attention
• 46:06
  to.
• 46:06
  Bad
• 46:07
  behavior,
• 46:07
  it
• 46:07
  reinforces
• 46:08
  it.
• 46:08
  Exactly.
• 46:09
  Yeah.
• 46:09
  Yeah.
• 46:10
  Which
• 46:10
  honestly,
• 46:11
  sounds
• 46:11
  accurate
• 46:12
  to
• 46:12
  me.
• 46:13
  They
• 46:13
  say
• 46:13
  that,
• 46:13
  too.
• 46:14
  I've
• 46:14
  seen
• 46:14
  pediatricians
• 46:15
  say,
• 46:16
  listen,
• 46:16
  a
• 46:16
  lot
• 46:16
  of
• 46:17
  kids
• 46:17
  go
• 46:17
  through
• 46:17
  a
• 46:17
  hitting
• 46:18
  phase
• 46:18
  or
• 46:18
  a
• 46:18
  scratching
• 46:19
  phase
• 46:19
  or
• 46:19
  a
• 46:19
  biting
• 46:19
  phase.
• 46:21
  And
• 46:21
  what
• 46:21
  you're
• 46:21
  meant
• 46:21
  to
• 46:22
  do
• 46:22
  if
• 46:22
  your
• 46:22
  kid
• 46:23
  open
• 46:23
  hand
• 46:24
  slaps
• 46:24
  you
• 46:24
  across
• 46:25
  the
• 46:25
  face
• 46:25
  is
• 46:26
  you
• 46:26
  don't
• 46:26
  react
• 46:26
  emotionally.
• 46:28
  You
• 46:28
  take
• 46:28
  their
• 46:28
  hand
• 46:29
  and
• 46:29
  you
• 46:30
  say,
• 46:30
  please
• 46:30
  don't
• 46:31
  do
• 46:31
  that.
• 46:31
  That
• 46:32
  hurt.
• 46:33
  And
• 46:33
  you
• 46:33
  just
• 46:33
  sort
• 46:33
  of
• 46:34
  like,
• 46:34
  leave
• 46:34
  it
• 46:34
  at
• 46:34
  that.
• 46:35
  If
• 46:35
  you
• 46:35
  give
• 46:35
  them
• 46:36
  a
• 46:36
  big
• 46:36
  emotional
• 46:36
  reaction,
• 46:37
  it
• 46:38
  enforces
• 46:38
  this
• 46:38
  idea
• 46:39
  that
• 46:39
  it
• 46:40
  gets
• 46:40
  them
• 46:40
  attention
• 46:41
  and
• 46:41
  that's
• 46:42
  what
• 46:42
  they
• 46:42
  want.
• 46:43
  And
• 46:43
  you
• 46:43
  just
• 46:44
  can't
• 46:45
  give.
• 46:46
  I
• 46:46
  know.
• 46:46
  So
• 46:47
  you
• 46:47
  have
• 46:47
  to
• 46:47
  remember
• 46:48
  that
• 46:48
  in
• 46:48
  the
• 46:48
  moment.
• 46:50
  Counterintuitive,
• 46:51
  though.
• 46:52
  Yeah.
• 46:52
  But
• 46:53
  when
• 46:53
  a
• 46:53
  child
• 46:53
  is.
• 46:53
  Well,
• 46:54
  that's
• 46:54
  what
• 46:54
  they
• 46:54
  say.
• 46:54
  When
• 46:55
  a
• 46:55
  child
• 46:55
  is
• 46:55
  misbehaving,
• 46:56
  that's
• 46:57
  not
• 46:57
  the
• 46:57
  time
• 46:57
  to
• 46:58
  actually
• 46:58
  try
• 46:58
  to
• 46:59
  sit
• 46:59
  them
• 46:59
  down
• 46:59
  and
• 46:59
  teach
• 47:00
  them
• 47:00
  a
• 47:00
  lesson.
• 47:00
  Yeah.
• 47:00
  Because
• 47:00
  it's
• 47:01
  charged.
• 47:01
  Right.
• 47:02
  When
• 47:02
  it's
• 47:02
  a
• 47:02
  charge
• 47:03
  situation.
• 47:03
  You
• 47:03
  wait.
• 47:04
  And
• 47:05
  this
• 47:05
  is
• 47:05
  when
• 47:05
  she
• 47:05
  gets
• 47:06
  into
• 47:06
  the
• 47:06
  whole
• 47:06
  Storytelling.
• 47:07
  Yes.
• 47:08
  Use
• 47:08
  storytelling.
• 47:09
  Start
• 47:09
  talking
• 47:10
  about,
• 47:10
  I
• 47:10
  don't
• 47:10
  know,
• 47:11
  like
• 47:11
  in
• 47:11
  that
• 47:11
  situation,
• 47:13
  there's
• 47:13
  a
• 47:13
  monster
• 47:14
  that
• 47:14
  comes
• 47:14
  out
• 47:15
  when
• 47:16
  children
• 47:17
  hit
• 47:18
  their
• 47:18
  parents
• 47:19
  or
• 47:19
  hit
• 47:19
  other
• 47:20
  people
• 47:21
  and
• 47:21
  they
• 47:21
  take
• 47:21
  you
• 47:21
  to
• 47:22
  the
• 47:22
  land
• 47:22
  where
• 47:22
  they
• 47:23
  tie
• 47:23
  their
• 47:23
  hands
• 47:24
  behind
• 47:24
  your
• 47:24
  back.
• 47:25
  Yeah.
• 47:25
  I
• 47:25
  don't
• 47:25
  know
• 47:25
  what.
• 47:25
  And
• 47:26
  then
• 47:26
  you
• 47:26
  have
• 47:26
  no
• 47:26
  hands.
• 47:26
  And
• 47:27
  then
• 47:27
  you
• 47:27
  have
• 47:27
  no
• 47:27
  hands
• 47:27
  to
• 47:27
  hit
• 47:28
  or
• 47:28
  something.
• 47:28
  I
• 47:28
  don't
• 47:29
  know.
• 47:29
  Don't
• 47:29
  make
• 47:29
  it
• 47:29
  too
• 47:30
  scary,
• 47:30
  but
• 47:31
  make
• 47:31
  up
• 47:31
  a
• 47:31
  story
• 47:32
  is
• 47:32
  what
• 47:32
  she
• 47:32
  says.
• 47:32
  And
• 47:32
  to
• 47:33
  keep
• 47:33
  kids
• 47:33
  out
• 47:34
  of
• 47:34
  the
• 47:34
  water
• 47:35
  when
• 47:35
  they're
• 47:35
  not
• 47:36
  supervised
• 47:37
  is
• 47:37
  they
• 47:37
  made
• 47:37
  up
• 47:38
  this
• 47:38
  horse
• 47:38
  monster
• 47:39
  whose
• 47:39
  back
• 47:39
  gets
• 47:40
  longer
• 47:40
  and
• 47:40
  longer
• 47:41
  and
• 47:41
  it
• 47:41
  can
• 47:41
  fit
• 47:42
  millions
• 47:42
  of
• 47:42
  children
• 47:42
  on
• 47:43
  its
• 47:43
  back.
• 47:43
  And
• 47:43
  it
• 47:44
  will
• 47:44
  come
• 47:44
  out
• 47:44
  and
• 47:44
  put
• 47:45
  you
• 47:45
  on
• 47:45
  its
• 47:45
  back
• 47:45
  and
• 47:46
  take
• 47:46
  you
• 47:46
  down
• 47:46
  to
• 47:47
  the
• 47:47
  bottom
• 47:47
  of
• 47:47
  the
• 47:47
  water.
• 47:48
  And
• 47:48
  take
• 47:48
  you
• 47:48
  away.
• 47:49
  Take
• 47:49
  you
• 47:49
  away
• 47:49
  forever
• 47:50
  and
• 47:50
  adopt
• 47:50
  you
• 47:50
  out
• 47:51
  to
• 47:51
  another
• 47:51
  family.
• 47:52
  Which
• 47:52
  I'm
• 47:52
  like,
• 47:52
  wow,
• 47:53
  that
• 47:53
  sounds
• 47:53
  really
• 47:54
  scary.
• 47:54
  But
• 47:54
  you
• 47:55
  know,
• 47:55
  she's
• 47:55
  saying
• 47:55
  that,
• 47:55
  you
• 47:56
  know,
• 47:56
  she's
• 47:56
  saying
• 47:56
  her
• 47:56
  daughter
• 47:57
  loved
• 47:57
  the
• 47:57
  stories.
• 47:58
  Yeah.
• 47:58
  And
• 47:58
  then
• 47:59
  she
• 47:59
  called
• 47:59
  them
• 47:59
  takeaways
• 48:00
  because
• 48:00
  they
• 48:00
  always
• 48:01
  resulted
• 48:01
  in
• 48:01
  a
• 48:02
  child
• 48:02
  being
• 48:02
  taken
• 48:03
  away.
• 48:03
  Yeah.
• 48:04
  Well,
• 48:04
  so
• 48:04
  I,
• 48:04
  you
• 48:05
  know,
• 48:05
  don't
• 48:05
  scare
• 48:05
  them
• 48:05
  too
• 48:06
  much.
• 48:06
  But,
• 48:07
  but
• 48:07
  it's
• 48:07
  a
• 48:08
  useful
• 48:08
  tool
• 48:08
  when
• 48:09
  they.
• 48:09
  Right
• 48:09
  when
• 48:09
  you
• 48:09
  don't
• 48:10
  want
• 48:10
  them
• 48:10
  to
• 48:10
  do
• 48:11
  something
• 48:11
  that
• 48:11
  typically
• 48:12
  puts
• 48:12
  them
• 48:12
  in
• 48:12
  danger,
• 48:13
  you
• 48:13
  make
• 48:14
  up
• 48:14
  a
• 48:14
  story
• 48:14
  and
• 48:15
  a
• 48:15
  monster
• 48:16
  that
• 48:16
  will
• 48:16
  take
• 48:16
  them
• 48:16
  away
• 48:16
  if
• 48:17
  they
• 48:17
  do
• 48:17
  it.
• 48:17
  Other
• 48:18
  things
• 48:18
  you
• 48:18
  can
• 48:18
  do
• 48:18
  is
• 48:19
  you
• 48:19
  can
• 48:19
  tell
• 48:19
  them
• 48:19
  stories
• 48:20
  about
• 48:20
  when
• 48:21
  you
• 48:21
  were
• 48:21
  young.
• 48:22
  You
• 48:22
  know,
• 48:22
  my
• 48:22
  mom
• 48:23
  made
• 48:23
  me
• 48:23
  eat
• 48:24
  green
• 48:24
  beans
• 48:24
  when
• 48:24
  I
• 48:25
  was
• 48:25
  your
• 48:25
  age.
• 48:25
  I
• 48:26
  didn't
• 48:26
  like
• 48:26
  it,
• 48:26
  but
• 48:26
  they
• 48:27
  did
• 48:27
  it.
• 48:27
  Yeah.
• 48:27
  So
• 48:28
  try
• 48:28
  personal
• 48:29
  stories,
• 48:30
  family
• 48:30
  history
• 48:31
  stories
• 48:31
  where
• 48:32
  lessons
• 48:32
  were
• 48:32
  learned.
• 48:32
  Yeah,
• 48:33
  you
• 48:33
  stories
• 48:34
  are
• 48:34
  great.
• 48:34
  Yes,
• 48:35
  stories
• 48:35
  are
• 48:35
  great.
• 48:37
  You
• 48:37
  can
• 48:38
  use
• 48:38
  stuffed
• 48:38
  animals
• 48:39
  to
• 48:39
  like
• 48:39
  if
• 48:40
  they're
• 48:40
  being
• 48:40
  difficult
• 48:40
  about
• 48:41
  going
• 48:41
  to
• 48:41
  bed,
• 48:41
  your
• 48:42
  stuffed
• 48:42
  animal
• 48:43
  tells
• 48:43
  a
• 48:43
  little
• 48:43
  story
• 48:44
  to
• 48:44
  them
• 48:44
  or
• 48:45
  their
• 48:45
  pajamas.
• 48:46
  Start
• 48:46
  talking
• 48:46
  to
• 48:46
  them
• 48:47
  about
• 48:47
  how
• 48:47
  they
• 48:47
  want
• 48:47
  to
• 48:47
  be
• 48:48
  put
• 48:48
  on.
• 48:48
  Yeah.
• 48:49
  You
• 48:49
  anthropomorphize
• 48:50
  everything.
• 48:51
  Everything.
• 48:52
  And
• 48:52
  then
• 48:53
  we
• 48:53
  go
• 48:53
  to
• 48:53
  Tanzania.
• 48:54
  Okay.
• 48:55
  To
• 48:55
  the
• 48:55
  Hadzabi
• 48:57
  hunter
• 48:57
  gatherer
• 48:58
  tribe,
• 48:59
  one
• 49:00
  of
• 49:00
  the
• 49:00
  world's
• 49:00
  oldest
• 49:01
  cultures.
• 49:01
  Tens
• 49:02
  of
• 49:02
  thousands
• 49:02
  of
• 49:02
  years
• 49:03
  old.
• 49:03
  Old.
• 49:03
  Where
• 49:04
  they
• 49:04
  hunt
• 49:04
  animals
• 49:05
  and
• 49:05
  they
• 49:05
  gather
• 49:06
  honey
• 49:06
  and
• 49:07
  yams
• 49:08
  and
• 49:08
  the
• 49:08
  fruit
• 49:08
  from
• 49:09
  the
• 49:09
  trees.
• 49:09
  And
• 49:09
  they
• 49:09
  live
• 49:10
  like
• 49:10
  their
• 49:10
  ancestors.
• 49:11
  Which
• 49:12
  is
• 49:12
  amazing
• 49:13
  that
• 49:14
  they
• 49:14
  can
• 49:14
  do
• 49:14
  that
• 49:14
  in
• 49:14
  the
• 49:14
  age
• 49:15
  of
• 49:15
  the
• 49:15
  Internet.
• 49:15
  Well,
• 49:16
  I
• 49:16
  guess
• 49:16
  maybe.
• 49:17
  Yeah.
• 49:18
  But
• 49:18
  that's
• 49:18
  how
• 49:18
  they
• 49:19
  live.
• 49:19
  And
• 49:20
  they
• 49:20
  raise
• 49:20
  the
• 49:21
  most
• 49:21
  confident,
• 49:21
  self
• 49:22
  sufficient
• 49:23
  children
• 49:23
  in
• 49:23
  the
• 49:23
  world.
• 49:24
  Yeah.
• 49:24
  So
• 49:25
  we
• 49:25
  meet
• 49:25
  Beli,
• 49:27
  a
• 49:27
  five
• 49:27
  year
• 49:27
  old
• 49:28
  who
• 49:28
  is
• 49:28
  carrying
• 49:29
  a
• 49:29
  baby
• 49:29
  on
• 49:30
  her
• 49:30
  back.
• 49:31
  And
• 49:32
  when
• 49:33
  the
• 49:33
  author
• 49:33
  gives
• 49:34
  her,
• 49:34
  offers
• 49:35
  her
• 49:35
  a
• 49:35
  muffin.
• 49:36
  The,
• 49:36
  the
• 49:37
  child
• 49:37
  takes
• 49:38
  it
• 49:38
  and
• 49:38
  immediately
• 49:39
  starts
• 49:39
  giving
• 49:40
  it
• 49:40
  to
• 49:40
  her
• 49:40
  little
• 49:40
  brother
• 49:41
  rather
• 49:41
  than
• 49:41
  eating
• 49:42
  it
• 49:42
  herself.
• 49:42
  Gives
• 49:43
  it
• 49:43
  to
• 49:43
  her
• 49:43
  brother
• 49:44
  without
• 49:45
  being
• 49:45
  prompted.
• 49:46
  Yeah,
• 49:46
  just
• 49:46
  immediately
• 49:47
  gives
• 49:48
  it
• 49:48
  to
• 49:48
  the
• 49:48
  baby.
• 49:49
  Yeah.
• 49:49
  And
• 49:49
  she
• 49:50
  helps
• 49:50
  the
• 49:50
  author
• 49:51
  raise
• 49:52
  her,
• 49:52
  her,
• 49:52
  you
• 49:53
  know,
• 49:53
  watch
• 49:53
  her
• 49:54
  child.
• 49:54
  Rosie
• 49:55
  adores
• 49:55
  her.
• 49:56
  She
• 49:56
  watches
• 49:57
  children
• 49:57
  in
• 49:57
  the
• 49:58
  community.
• 49:58
  She's
• 49:58
  five
• 49:59
  years
• 49:59
  old,
• 50:00
  she
• 50:01
  carries
• 50:01
  water,
• 50:02
  she
• 50:02
  digs
• 50:02
  for
• 50:03
  food.
• 50:04
  And
• 50:05
  again,
• 50:05
  in
• 50:05
  this
• 50:05
  culture,
• 50:06
  the
• 50:06
  hunter
• 50:06
  gatherers,
• 50:07
  they
• 50:08
  don't
• 50:08
  tell
• 50:08
  the
• 50:09
  children
• 50:09
  what
• 50:09
  to
• 50:10
  do.
• 50:10
  They
• 50:10
  let
• 50:10
  them
• 50:10
  figure
• 50:11
  it
• 50:11
  out
• 50:12
  and.
• 50:12
  They
• 50:12
  don't
• 50:13
  even
• 50:13
  encourage.
• 50:13
  They
• 50:13
  just
• 50:14
  do
• 50:14
  what
• 50:14
  they're
• 50:14
  doing.
• 50:15
  And
• 50:15
  the
• 50:15
  kids
• 50:16
  watch
• 50:16
  because
• 50:16
  there's
• 50:17
  not
• 50:17
  much
• 50:17
  else
• 50:17
  to
• 50:18
  do.
• 50:18
  You
• 50:18
  watch
• 50:19
  and
• 50:19
  you
• 50:19
  can
• 50:19
  participate.
• 50:20
  As
• 50:20
  soon
• 50:20
  as
• 50:20
  you
• 50:21
  feel
• 50:21
  ready
• 50:21
  and.
• 50:22
  You
• 50:22
  learn,
• 50:22
  you
• 50:23
  start
• 50:23
  helping.
• 50:23
  Yes.
• 50:24
  Yeah.
• 50:24
  And
• 50:25
  the
• 50:25
  direction
• 50:25
  that
• 50:26
  they
• 50:26
  get
• 50:26
  at
• 50:26
  all
• 50:27
  is
• 50:27
  very
• 50:27
  subtle,
• 50:28
  very
• 50:28
  indirect.
• 50:30
  Parents
• 50:30
  use
• 50:31
  questions,
• 50:32
  consequences,
• 50:32
  puzzles,
• 50:34
  change
• 50:34
  changes
• 50:35
  in
• 50:35
  the
• 50:35
  environment
• 50:36
  to
• 50:36
  get
• 50:36
  kids
• 50:36
  to
• 50:36
  do
• 50:37
  what
• 50:37
  they
• 50:37
  want.
• 50:37
  But
• 50:38
  it's
• 50:38
  very
• 50:39
  low
• 50:39
  talk
• 50:39
  again.
• 50:40
  Yeah,
• 50:40
  yeah.
• 50:41
  And,
• 50:42
  and
• 50:42
  that
• 50:43
  makes
• 50:43
  the
• 50:43
  author
• 50:43
  wonder
• 50:44
  if
• 50:44
  by
• 50:44
  constantly
• 50:45
  telling
• 50:45
  her
• 50:45
  daughter
• 50:45
  what
• 50:46
  to
• 50:46
  do,
• 50:46
  is
• 50:47
  she
• 50:47
  creating
• 50:48
  all
• 50:48
  the
• 50:48
  conflict
• 50:49
  in
• 50:49
  their
• 50:49
  lives?
• 50:49
  Sounds
• 50:50
  like
• 50:50
  it.
• 50:50
  Sounds
• 50:51
  like
• 50:51
  it,
• 50:51
  yeah.
• 50:51
  By
• 50:51
  issuing
• 50:52
  commands
• 50:52
  and
• 50:52
  giving
• 50:53
  Rosie
• 50:53
  choices,
• 50:54
  is
• 50:54
  she
• 50:54
  limiting
• 50:55
  her
• 50:55
  behavior
• 50:55
  and
• 50:56
  just
• 50:56
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• 50:56
  to
• 50:56
  control
• 50:56
  her?
• 50:57
  Yeah.
• 50:58
  And
• 50:58
  she
• 50:58
  says,
• 50:58
  you
• 50:59
  know,
• 50:59
  she
• 50:59
  thinks
• 50:59
  that
• 51:00
  all
• 51:00
  of
• 51:00
  this
• 51:00
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• 51:00
  going
• 51:01
  to
• 51:01
  teach
• 51:02
  her
• 51:02
  and
• 51:02
  make
• 51:02
  her
• 51:03
  a
• 51:03
  better
• 51:03
  person,
• 51:04
  but
• 51:04
  in
• 51:04
  reality
• 51:05
  it's
• 51:06
  making
• 51:06
  her
• 51:06
  less
• 51:07
  respectful.
• 51:08
  Kids
• 51:08
  can't
• 51:09
  process
• 51:10
  that
• 51:10
  much
• 51:11
  verbal
• 51:11
  instruction.
• 51:12
  Kids
• 51:13
  are
• 51:13
  much
• 51:13
  more
• 51:14
  show
• 51:14
  and
• 51:15
  then
• 51:15
  do
• 51:16
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• 51:16
  it's
• 51:17
  like
• 51:17
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• 51:17
  you
• 51:17
  want
• 51:17
  them
• 51:18
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• 51:18
  learn
• 51:18
  something,
• 51:18
  demonstrate
• 51:19
  it,
• 51:20
  you
• 51:20
  know?
• 51:20
  Yeah,
• 51:21
  right.
• 51:22
  And
• 51:23
  then
• 51:23
  she
• 51:23
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• 51:23
  about
• 51:24
  how
• 51:24
  these
• 51:24
  kids,
• 51:25
  the
• 51:25
  children
• 51:26
  have
• 51:26
  autonomy,
• 51:27
  which
• 51:27
  she
• 51:28
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• 51:29
  from
• 51:29
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• 51:29
  or
• 51:30
  independence
• 51:30
  in
• 51:31
  that
• 51:31
  they
• 51:32
  do
• 51:32
  have,
• 51:33
  they
• 51:33
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• 51:33
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• 51:34
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• 51:34
  They're
• 51:34
  able
• 51:35
  to
• 51:35
  do
• 51:35
  a
• 51:35
  lot
• 51:35
  of.
• 51:35
  Things
• 51:36
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• 51:36
  make
• 51:36
  their
• 51:37
  own
• 51:37
  choices
• 51:37
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• 51:38
  Make
• 51:38
  choices,
• 51:38
  but
• 51:39
  they're
• 51:39
  contributing
• 51:39
  to
• 51:40
  a
• 51:40
  group.
• 51:40
  It's
• 51:41
  not
• 51:41
  like
• 51:41
  they're
• 51:41
  free
• 51:42
  to
• 51:42
  do
• 51:42
  whatever
• 51:42
  they
• 51:42
  want
• 51:43
  for
• 51:43
  themselves.
• 51:44
  They're
• 51:44
  part
• 51:44
  of
• 51:44
  a
• 51:45
  group
• 51:45
  and
• 51:45
  they
• 51:46
  get
• 51:46
  that
• 51:46
  from
• 51:46
  a
• 51:47
  very
• 51:47
  early
• 51:47
  age.
• 51:48
  Yeah,
• 51:48
  yeah.
• 51:48
  And
• 51:49
  they
• 51:49
  take
• 51:49
  pride
• 51:49
  in
• 51:50
  contributing.
• 51:50
  And
• 51:51
  again,
• 51:51
  kids
• 51:52
  want
• 51:52
  to
• 51:52
  feel
• 51:53
  useful,
• 51:54
  so
• 51:54
  give
• 51:54
  them
• 51:54
  opportunities
• 51:55
  to
• 51:56
  be
• 51:56
  useful
• 51:56
  and
• 51:57
  actually
• 51:57
  useful,
• 51:57
  not
• 51:58
  artificially
• 51:59
  useful.
• 51:59
  You
• 51:59
  know,
• 52:00
  if
• 52:00
  your
• 52:00
  kid
• 52:00
  helps
• 52:01
  you
• 52:01
  fold
• 52:02
  the
• 52:02
  laundry
• 52:02
  or
• 52:03
  something,
• 52:03
  you
• 52:03
  know,
• 52:03
  don't
• 52:04
  just
• 52:04
  like
• 52:04
  refold
• 52:05
  it
• 52:05
  when
• 52:05
  they're
• 52:06
  done.
• 52:06
  Right.
• 52:06
  You
• 52:07
  know
• 52:07
  what
• 52:07
  I
• 52:07
  mean?
• 52:07
  Like,
• 52:07
  let
• 52:08
  their
• 52:08
  contribution.
• 52:08
  And
• 52:09
  this
• 52:09
  is
• 52:09
  going
• 52:09
  to
• 52:09
  be
• 52:09
  super
• 52:09
  hard
• 52:09
  for
• 52:10
  me
• 52:10
  because
• 52:10
  I
• 52:11
  am
• 52:12
  compulsively
• 52:13
  neat,
• 52:14
  but
• 52:14
  I
• 52:14
  want
• 52:15
  to
• 52:15
  do
• 52:15
  this
• 52:15
  stuff
• 52:15
  with
• 52:15
  my
• 52:16
  daughter.
• 52:16
  I
• 52:17
  want
• 52:17
  her
• 52:17
  because
• 52:18
  they
• 52:18
  say,
• 52:18
  you
• 52:18
  know,
• 52:19
  a
• 52:20
  three
• 52:20
  year
• 52:20
  old
• 52:21
  that
• 52:21
  messily
• 52:22
  Folds
• 52:22
  laundry
• 52:23
  and
• 52:23
  like
• 52:23
  half
• 52:24
  does
• 52:24
  dish
• 52:24
  wishes
• 52:25
  is
• 52:25
  a
• 52:25
  9
• 52:25
  year
• 52:26
  old
• 52:26
  that
• 52:26
  will
• 52:26
  actually
• 52:27
  do
• 52:27
  these
• 52:27
  tasks
• 52:27
  well
• 52:28
  and
• 52:28
  help
• 52:28
  you.
• 52:28
  And
• 52:29
  help
• 52:29
  you.
• 52:29
  You
• 52:29
  know,
• 52:30
  it's
• 52:30
  interesting.
• 52:30
  This
• 52:30
  is
• 52:31
  when
• 52:31
  I
• 52:31
  got
• 52:31
  to
• 52:31
  thinking
• 52:32
  about,
• 52:32
  like,
• 52:33
  at
• 52:33
  Testing
• 52:33
  mom,
• 52:34
  we
• 52:35
  help
• 52:35
  families,
• 52:35
  you
• 52:36
  know,
• 52:36
  get
• 52:36
  into
• 52:36
  schools
• 52:37
  and
• 52:37
  different
• 52:37
  types
• 52:37
  of
• 52:38
  schools,
• 52:38
  and
• 52:38
  there's
• 52:39
  all
• 52:39
  kinds
• 52:39
  of
• 52:39
  different
• 52:40
  early
• 52:40
  childhood
• 52:40
  education
• 52:41
  programs.
• 52:43
  You
• 52:43
  know,
• 52:43
  there's
• 52:43
  some
• 52:43
  that
• 52:44
  are
• 52:44
  very
• 52:44
  traditional,
• 52:45
  teach
• 52:45
  math
• 52:45
  and
• 52:46
  English,
• 52:46
  and
• 52:46
  there's
• 52:46
  others
• 52:47
  that
• 52:47
  are
• 52:48
  much
• 52:48
  more
• 52:49
  progressive
• 52:49
  and
• 52:49
  kind
• 52:50
  of
• 52:50
  let
• 52:50
  the
• 52:50
  child
• 52:50
  leave.
• 52:51
  And
• 52:51
  then
• 52:51
  there's
• 52:52
  Montessori,
• 52:52
  which
• 52:53
  I've
• 52:53
  always
• 52:53
  loved,
• 52:54
  where
• 52:54
  they,
• 52:55
  you
• 52:55
  know,
• 52:55
  teach
• 52:56
  kids
• 52:56
  a
• 52:56
  lot.
• 52:56
  You
• 52:57
  learn
• 52:57
  a
• 52:57
  lot
• 52:57
  in
• 52:57
  Montessori.
• 52:58
  But
• 52:58
  one
• 52:59
  part
• 52:59
  of
• 52:59
  the
• 52:59
  curriculum
• 53:00
  is
• 53:02
  kids
• 53:03
  do
• 53:03
  things
• 53:03
  around
• 53:04
  the
• 53:04
  house.
• 53:04
  They
• 53:05
  learn
• 53:05
  to
• 53:05
  sweep,
• 53:06
  they
• 53:06
  learn
• 53:07
  to
• 53:08
  clean
• 53:08
  dishes.
• 53:09
  And
• 53:09
  I
• 53:09
  remember
• 53:10
  talking
• 53:10
  to
• 53:11
  a
• 53:11
  parent
• 53:11
  once
• 53:12
  who,
• 53:12
  who
• 53:12
  said,
• 53:13
  you
• 53:13
  know,
• 53:13
  he
• 53:13
  toured
• 53:14
  the
• 53:14
  school
• 53:14
  and
• 53:14
  he's
• 53:14
  like,
• 53:15
  they're
• 53:15
  teaching
• 53:15
  kids
• 53:16
  to
• 53:16
  clean.
• 53:17
  That's
• 53:18
  not
• 53:18
  education.
• 53:19
  It
• 53:20
  sounds
• 53:20
  like
• 53:20
  one
• 53:20
  of
• 53:20
  the
• 53:20
  Russian
• 53:21
  parents.
• 53:21
  Well,
• 53:21
  I
• 53:22
  don't
• 53:22
  know,
• 53:22
  I'm
• 53:22
  just
• 53:22
  like,
• 53:23
  it's
• 53:23
  like
• 53:23
  I'm
• 53:23
  thinking,
• 53:24
  huh,
• 53:24
  you
• 53:24
  know,
• 53:25
  I
• 53:25
  thought,
• 53:25
  well,
• 53:25
  that
• 53:25
  is
• 53:25
  part
• 53:26
  of
• 53:26
  the
• 53:26
  curriculum.
• 53:26
  It's
• 53:27
  a
• 53:27
  big
• 53:27
  part
• 53:27
  of
• 53:27
  the
• 53:27
  curriculum
• 53:28
  is
• 53:28
  getting
• 53:28
  children
• 53:29
  to
• 53:29
  be
• 53:29
  helpful
• 53:29
  at
• 53:30
  home.
• 53:30
  And,
• 53:31
  you
• 53:31
  know,
• 53:31
  and
• 53:31
  if
• 53:31
  you
• 53:32
  believe
• 53:32
  in
• 53:32
  this
• 53:33
  kind
• 53:33
  of
• 53:33
  thing,
• 53:33
  Montessori
• 53:34
  might
• 53:34
  be
• 53:34
  right
• 53:34
  for
• 53:35
  you.
• 53:35
  I
• 53:35
  don't
• 53:35
  know.
• 53:35
  Well,
• 53:36
  it's
• 53:36
  about
• 53:36
  the
• 53:37
  foundation,
• 53:38
  right?
• 53:38
  That
• 53:38
  is
• 53:39
  a
• 53:39
  foundational
• 53:39
  learning.
• 53:40
  It's
• 53:40
  not
• 53:40
  like
• 53:40
  we're
• 53:40
  literally
• 53:41
  just
• 53:41
  teaching
• 53:41
  these
• 53:41
  kids
• 53:42
  how
• 53:42
  to
• 53:42
  clean.
• 53:42
  Right.
• 53:43
  We're
• 53:43
  teaching
• 53:43
  them
• 53:43
  to
• 53:44
  be
• 53:44
  considerate
• 53:44
  of
• 53:45
  their
• 53:45
  environment,
• 53:46
  to
• 53:46
  be
• 53:46
  considerate
• 53:47
  of
• 53:47
  the
• 53:47
  fact
• 53:47
  that
• 53:47
  they
• 53:47
  are
• 53:47
  part
• 53:48
  of
• 53:48
  a
• 53:48
  family.
• 53:48
  They
• 53:48
  are
• 53:49
  not
• 53:49
  the
• 53:49
  center
• 53:49
  of
• 53:49
  the
• 53:49
  universe.
• 53:50
  Right.
• 53:50
  And
• 53:51
  that
• 53:51
  contributing
• 53:52
  is
• 53:52
  meaningful
• 53:53
  and
• 53:53
  important
• 53:54
  in
• 53:54
  whatever
• 53:55
  way
• 53:55
  they
• 53:55
  can.
• 53:55
  And
• 53:56
  in
• 53:56
  this
• 53:57
  way,
• 53:57
  it's
• 53:57
  cleaning,
• 53:58
  it's
• 53:58
  helping
• 53:58
  to
• 53:58
  keep
• 53:58
  their
• 53:59
  home
• 53:59
  nice
• 54:00
  and
• 54:00
  tidy
• 54:01
  and
• 54:01
  comfortable.
• 54:02
  In
• 54:02
  the
• 54:02
  future.
• 54:02
  If
• 54:03
  they're
• 54:03
  part
• 54:03
  of
• 54:03
  a
• 54:03
  team
• 54:03
  at
• 54:04
  work,
• 54:04
  they're
• 54:05
  going
• 54:05
  to
• 54:05
  be
• 54:05
  more
• 54:06
  considerate
• 54:06
  of
• 54:07
  the
• 54:07
  other
• 54:07
  people
• 54:07
  around
• 54:08
  them.
• 54:08
  They're
• 54:08
  part
• 54:08
  of
• 54:08
  the
• 54:08
  group.
• 54:09
  They're
• 54:09
  gonna
• 54:09
  notice
• 54:09
  things
• 54:10
  that
• 54:10
  need
• 54:10
  to
• 54:10
  get
• 54:10
  done
• 54:11
  tasks,
• 54:11
  and
• 54:12
  they're
• 54:12
  gonna
• 54:12
  take
• 54:13
  initiative
• 54:13
  and
• 54:13
  do
• 54:13
  them,
• 54:14
  because
• 54:14
  that
• 54:14
  is
• 54:14
  ultimately
• 54:15
  what
• 54:15
  they
• 54:15
  are
• 54:15
  learning.
• 54:16
  Exactly.
• 54:17
  Yeah.
• 54:17
  And
• 54:18
  she
• 54:18
  just
• 54:18
  talks
• 54:18
  about
• 54:19
  how,
• 54:19
  how,
• 54:20
  you
• 54:20
  know,
• 54:20
  first
• 54:20
  she
• 54:21
  realizes
• 54:22
  she
• 54:22
  is
• 54:22
  giving
• 54:23
  her
• 54:23
  daughter
• 54:24
  tasks
• 54:24
  that
• 54:24
  may
• 54:25
  be
• 54:25
  too
• 54:25
  hard
• 54:25
  for
• 54:25
  her
• 54:26
  to
• 54:26
  do,
• 54:27
  which
• 54:27
  creates
• 54:28
  frustration.
• 54:28
  Right.
• 54:29
  And
• 54:29
  making
• 54:29
  requests,
• 54:30
  using
• 54:30
  a
• 54:30
  lot
• 54:31
  of
• 54:31
  language
• 54:31
  and
• 54:32
  not
• 54:32
  useful,
• 54:33
  not
• 54:33
  as
• 54:33
  helpful
• 54:35
  and
• 54:35
  that,
• 54:35
  you
• 54:35
  know,
• 54:36
  so
• 54:36
  she,
• 54:36
  she's
• 54:37
  having
• 54:37
  a
• 54:37
  lot
• 54:37
  of,
• 54:39
  I
• 54:39
  don't
• 54:39
  know,
• 54:39
  she's.
• 54:40
  She's
• 54:40
  realizing
• 54:41
  a
• 54:41
  lot
• 54:41
  of
• 54:41
  things
• 54:41
  about
• 54:41
  her
• 54:41
  own
• 54:42
  Parenting
• 54:42
  and
• 54:42
  wondering
• 54:43
  if
• 54:43
  these
• 54:43
  sorts
• 54:44
  of
• 54:44
  trying
• 54:44
  some
• 54:45
  of
• 54:45
  these
• 54:45
  things,
• 54:45
  things
• 54:46
  in
• 54:46
  her
• 54:46
  world
• 54:47
  will
• 54:47
  work.
• 54:48
  And
• 54:48
  that's
• 54:48
  what
• 54:48
  she
• 54:48
  starts
• 54:49
  to
• 54:49
  do.
• 54:49
  And
• 54:50
  they
• 54:50
  also
• 54:50
  mentioned
• 54:50
  that
• 54:52
  allowing
• 54:52
  kids
• 54:53
  autonomy
• 54:54
  gives
• 54:54
  them
• 54:55
  confidence,
• 54:56
  inner
• 54:57
  drive,
• 54:57
  motivation,
• 54:58
  and
• 54:58
  much
• 54:59
  better
• 54:59
  executive
• 54:59
  function
• 55:00
  skills.
• 55:00
  Right.
• 55:01
  And
• 55:01
  that's
• 55:01
  important.
• 55:02
  When
• 55:02
  we
• 55:02
  talk
• 55:02
  about
• 55:03
  executive
• 55:03
  function,
• 55:03
  we're
• 55:04
  talking
• 55:04
  about
• 55:04
  things
• 55:05
  like,
• 55:06
  you
• 55:06
  know,
• 55:07
  just
• 55:07
  being
• 55:07
  able
• 55:08
  to
• 55:08
  manage
• 55:09
  your
• 55:09
  time
• 55:09
  and
• 55:10
  like
• 55:10
  control
• 55:10
  your
• 55:11
  emotions.
• 55:11
  This
• 55:12
  is
• 55:12
  also
• 55:12
  a
• 55:12
  form
• 55:12
  of
• 55:12
  metacognition.
• 55:13
  Right.
• 55:14
  Being
• 55:14
  aware
• 55:14
  of
• 55:15
  your
• 55:15
  surroundings
• 55:15
  and
• 55:16
  stuff.
• 55:16
  Yeah,
• 55:17
  yeah.
• 55:17
  Well,
• 55:17
  Medicaid.
• 55:18
  Yeah,
• 55:18
  that's
• 55:18
  really
• 55:19
  hard
• 55:19
  to
• 55:19
  teach.
• 55:20
  Right.
• 55:20
  And
• 55:20
  it,
• 55:20
  it
• 55:21
  takes
• 55:21
  a
• 55:21
  long
• 55:21
  time.
• 55:22
  It
• 55:22
  takes
• 55:22
  a
• 55:22
  long
• 55:22
  time
• 55:23
  practice.
• 55:23
  Yes.
• 55:24
  10,000
• 55:24
  hours,
• 55:25
  according
• 55:25
  to
• 55:25
  Malcolm
• 55:26
  Gladwell.
• 55:27
  Right.
• 55:28
  But
• 55:28
  anyway,
• 55:28
  but
• 55:29
  it's,
• 55:29
  but,
• 55:30
  you
• 55:30
  know,
• 55:30
  but
• 55:30
  if
• 55:30
  your
• 55:31
  child
• 55:31
  is
• 55:31
  surrounded
• 55:32
  by
• 55:32
  that
• 55:32
  from
• 55:32
  the
• 55:32
  time
• 55:33
  they're
• 55:33
  little
• 55:34
  and
• 55:34
  they're
• 55:35
  stepping
• 55:35
  in
• 55:35
  and
• 55:35
  they're
• 55:36
  helping
• 55:36
  and
• 55:36
  they're
• 55:37
  doing
• 55:37
  and
• 55:37
  they're
• 55:37
  part
• 55:38
  of
• 55:38
  the
• 55:38
  community,
• 55:38
  the
• 55:39
  community
• 55:39
  they
• 55:40
  live
• 55:40
  in
• 55:41
  and
• 55:42
  they're,
• 55:42
  you
• 55:43
  know,
• 55:43
  made
• 55:43
  to
• 55:43
  feel
• 55:44
  useful,
• 55:45
  then
• 55:45
  they're
• 55:45
  going
• 55:45
  to
• 55:46
  get
• 55:46
  it.
• 55:46
  And,
• 55:46
  and
• 55:47
  this
• 55:47
  will
• 55:47
  help
• 55:47
  them
• 55:47
  as
• 55:48
  they
• 55:48
  grow
• 55:48
  up.
• 55:49
  So,
• 55:50
  and
• 55:50
  they,
• 55:50
  they
• 55:50
  do
• 55:50
  talk.
• 55:51
  Again.
• 55:51
  It,
• 55:51
  this,
• 55:52
  this
• 55:52
  concept
• 55:52
  just
• 55:53
  comes
• 55:53
  up
• 55:53
  in
• 55:53
  all
• 55:53
  of
• 55:54
  these
• 55:54
  societies.
• 55:55
  Here
• 55:55
  they
• 55:55
  call
• 55:55
  it
• 55:56
  an
• 55:56
  alloparent
• 55:57
  family,
• 55:58
  where
• 55:58
  a
• 55:58
  child
• 55:58
  is
• 55:58
  surrounded
• 55:59
  by
• 56:00
  five
• 56:00
  to
• 56:00
  six
• 56:00
  people
• 56:01
  that
• 56:01
  they
• 56:01
  bond
• 56:01
  with.
• 56:02
  Key
• 56:02
  people,
• 56:03
  key
• 56:03
  people,
• 56:03
  including
• 56:04
  it
• 56:04
  could
• 56:04
  be
• 56:04
  another
• 56:05
  child
• 56:05
  that
• 56:05
  they
• 56:06
  learn
• 56:06
  from.
• 56:07
  And
• 56:07
  they
• 56:07
  talk
• 56:07
  about
• 56:07
  how
• 56:07
  important
• 56:08
  it
• 56:08
  is
• 56:08
  to
• 56:08
  learn
• 56:09
  from
• 56:09
  other
• 56:09
  children,
• 56:10
  not
• 56:10
  just
• 56:10
  adults.
• 56:11
  And
• 56:12
  that
• 56:12
  if
• 56:12
  they
• 56:12
  see
• 56:13
  other
• 56:13
  children,
• 56:13
  like
• 56:14
  older
• 56:14
  children
• 56:14
  doing
• 56:15
  things,
• 56:15
  they're
• 56:16
  going
• 56:16
  to
• 56:16
  want
• 56:16
  to
• 56:16
  do
• 56:16
  what
• 56:16
  the
• 56:17
  older
• 56:17
  children
• 56:17
  can
• 56:18
  do.
• 56:19
  And
• 56:20
  so,
• 56:20
  you
• 56:20
  know,
• 56:20
  if
• 56:21
  you
• 56:21
  can
• 56:21
  get
• 56:21
  your
• 56:21
  child
• 56:22
  into
• 56:22
  a
• 56:22
  group
• 56:22
  of
• 56:23
  children
• 56:23
  of
• 56:24
  different
• 56:24
  ages,
• 56:25
  again,
• 56:25
  that
• 56:26
  is
• 56:26
  a
• 56:26
  Montessori
• 56:27
  concept.
• 56:27
  The
• 56:28
  Montessori
• 56:29
  older
• 56:29
  kids
• 56:29
  help
• 56:30
  the
• 56:30
  younger.
• 56:30
  Kids
• 56:31
  because
• 56:31
  it
• 56:32
  gives
• 56:32
  the
• 56:32
  older
• 56:32
  kids
• 56:32
  a
• 56:33
  sense
• 56:33
  of
• 56:33
  responsibility.
• 56:34
  And
• 56:34
  younger
• 56:35
  kids
• 56:35
  look
• 56:35
  up
• 56:35
  to
• 56:35
  older
• 56:35
  kids
• 56:36
  and
• 56:36
  are
• 56:36
  much
• 56:36
  more
• 56:37
  likely
• 56:38
  to
• 56:38
  try
• 56:39
  and
• 56:39
  duplicate
• 56:40
  what
• 56:40
  an
• 56:40
  older
• 56:40
  kid
• 56:40
  is
• 56:41
  doing
• 56:41
  versus
• 56:42
  getting
• 56:42
  verbal
• 56:42
  instruction
• 56:43
  from
• 56:43
  a
• 56:43
  parent
• 56:43
  and
• 56:43
  trying
• 56:44
  to
• 56:44
  compute
• 56:44
  that
• 56:45
  and
• 56:45
  spit
• 56:45
  out
• 56:45
  the
• 56:46
  right
• 56:46
  behavior.
• 56:46
  Right,
• 56:47
  right.
• 56:47
  And
• 56:48
  that's
• 56:48
  what
• 56:48
  causes
• 56:48
  so
• 56:49
  much
• 56:49
  conflict.
• 56:50
  So,
• 56:51
  you
• 56:51
  know,
• 56:51
  so,
• 56:52
  so,
• 56:52
  yeah,
• 56:52
  so
• 56:53
  the,
• 56:53
  so
• 56:53
  the
• 56:53
  author
• 56:54
  just,
• 56:54
  you
• 56:54
  know,
• 56:54
  recommends
• 56:55
  maybe
• 56:55
  can
• 56:55
  you
• 56:56
  build
• 56:56
  your
• 56:56
  own
• 56:57
  alloparent
• 56:58
  little
• 56:58
  community
• 56:59
  or
• 56:59
  mixed
• 57:00
  age
• 57:00
  group
• 57:00
  playgroups
• 57:01
  for
• 57:02
  your
• 57:02
  children.
• 57:02
  And
• 57:03
  that
• 57:03
  might
• 57:03
  be
• 57:03
  something
• 57:03
  that's
• 57:04
  very,
• 57:04
  very
• 57:04
  helpful.
• 57:05
  Yes.
• 57:06
  They
• 57:07
  also
• 57:07
  really
• 57:07
  value
• 57:07
  a
• 57:08
  person's
• 57:08
  ability
• 57:08
  to
• 57:09
  make
• 57:09
  their
• 57:09
  own
• 57:09
  choices
• 57:10
  because
• 57:10
  they
• 57:10
  believe
• 57:10
  that
• 57:11
  kids
• 57:11
  sort
• 57:12
  of
• 57:12
  intuitively
• 57:13
  know
• 57:13
  best
• 57:14
  how
• 57:14
  to
• 57:14
  learn
• 57:15
  and
• 57:15
  grow
• 57:16
  in
• 57:16
  a
• 57:16
  way,
• 57:16
  which
• 57:17
  I
• 57:17
  thought
• 57:17
  was
• 57:17
  an
• 57:17
  interesting
• 57:18
  idea,
• 57:18
  because
• 57:19
  kids
• 57:19
  don't
• 57:20
  know
• 57:20
  very
• 57:20
  much,
• 57:21
  but
• 57:22
  when
• 57:22
  it
• 57:23
  comes
• 57:23
  to
• 57:23
  learning
• 57:24
  they
• 57:25
  are
• 57:25
  very,
• 57:26
  they're
• 57:27
  impulsive.
• 57:27
  So
• 57:28
  they
• 57:28
  do
• 57:28
  what
• 57:28
  immediately
• 57:29
  feels
• 57:30
  right.
• 57:31
  Which
• 57:31
  I
• 57:32
  thought
• 57:32
  was
• 57:32
  interesting
• 57:32
  because
• 57:33
  like
• 57:34
  we
• 57:34
  really
• 57:34
  a
• 57:34
  big
• 57:35
  thing,
• 57:35
  an
• 57:35
  element
• 57:36
  of
• 57:36
  western
• 57:37
  parenting
• 57:37
  is
• 57:37
  control.
• 57:38
  Yeah.
• 57:38
  In
• 57:39
  a
• 57:39
  way
• 57:39
  that
• 57:39
  it's
• 57:39
  just
• 57:40
  not
• 57:40
  in
• 57:41
  these
• 57:41
  other
• 57:41
  communities.
• 57:42
  They're
• 57:42
  not
• 57:43
  trying
• 57:43
  to
• 57:43
  control
• 57:43
  the
• 57:44
  pace
• 57:44
  at
• 57:44
  which
• 57:44
  their
• 57:44
  kids
• 57:45
  learn
• 57:45
  things.
• 57:45
  They're
• 57:46
  not
• 57:46
  trying
• 57:46
  to
• 57:47
  rush
• 57:47
  them
• 57:47
  from
• 57:47
  skill
• 57:48
  to
• 57:48
  skill.
• 57:49
  They
• 57:49
  understand
• 57:49
  that
• 57:50
  all
• 57:50
  of
• 57:50
  these
• 57:50
  skills
• 57:50
  require
• 57:51
  a
• 57:51
  long
• 57:51
  time
• 57:51
  to
• 57:51
  build
• 57:52
  a
• 57:52
  foundation.
• 57:52
  And
• 57:53
  then
• 57:53
  you
• 57:53
  build
• 57:53
  on
• 57:54
  that,
• 57:54
  you.
• 57:55
  Practice,
• 57:56
  you
• 57:56
  model
• 57:56
  it.
• 57:57
  Yeah,
• 57:57
  it
• 57:57
  takes
• 57:58
  a
• 57:58
  lot.
• 57:58
  The
• 57:58
  last
• 57:58
  thing
• 57:58
  you
• 57:59
  try
• 57:59
  and
• 57:59
  do
• 57:59
  is
• 57:59
  control,
• 58:00
  which
• 58:00
  is
• 58:01
  hard
• 58:01
  because
• 58:01
  it
• 58:01
  truly
• 58:02
  is
• 58:02
  such
• 58:02
  a
• 58:02
  tenet
• 58:03
  of
• 58:04
  western
• 58:04
  parenting.
• 58:05
  Knowing,
• 58:06
  you
• 58:06
  know,
• 58:06
  what
• 58:06
  are
• 58:06
  my
• 58:06
  kids
• 58:07
  doing,
• 58:07
  where
• 58:07
  are
• 58:07
  they,
• 58:07
  who
• 58:08
  are
• 58:08
  they
• 58:08
  with,
• 58:08
  for
• 58:09
  how
• 58:09
  long,
• 58:09
  what
• 58:09
  are
• 58:10
  they
• 58:10
  going
• 58:10
  to
• 58:10
  do
• 58:10
  after
• 58:10
  school,
• 58:11
  what
• 58:11
  this,
• 58:11
  that.
• 58:12
  And
• 58:12
  it's
• 58:12
  like
• 58:13
  apparently
• 58:13
  that's
• 58:14
  not
• 58:14
  super
• 58:14
  useful.
• 58:15
  Well
• 58:15
  that's,
• 58:16
  that's.
• 58:16
  It
• 58:17
  certainly
• 58:17
  isn't
• 58:17
  how
• 58:17
  other
• 58:18
  kids
• 58:18
  around
• 58:18
  the
• 58:19
  world
• 58:19
  are
• 58:19
  being
• 58:19
  raised.
• 58:20
  She
• 58:21
  talks
• 58:21
  about
• 58:21
  raise
• 58:22
  your
• 58:22
  child
• 58:22
  with
• 58:23
  minimal
• 58:23
  interference
• 58:24
  while
• 58:24
  creating
• 58:25
  an
• 58:25
  invisible
• 58:26
  safety
• 58:26
  net.
• 58:28
  And
• 58:29
  try
• 58:29
  to
• 58:30
  give
• 58:30
  your
• 58:30
  child
• 58:31
  the
• 58:31
  ability
• 58:32
  to
• 58:32
  entertain
• 58:33
  and
• 58:33
  take
• 58:33
  care
• 58:33
  of
• 58:34
  themselves
• 58:34
  as
• 58:35
  much
• 58:35
  as
• 58:35
  possible.
• 58:36
  Solve
• 58:36
  problems
• 58:36
  on
• 58:37
  their
• 58:37
  own,
• 58:38
  make
• 58:38
  up
• 58:38
  their
• 58:38
  own
• 58:38
  games,
• 58:39
  they
• 58:39
  can
• 58:39
  play
• 58:39
  with
• 58:40
  the
• 58:40
  corn
• 58:40
  dolls.
• 58:42
  Plus
• 58:43
  it's
• 58:43
  less
• 58:43
  stress
• 58:44
  and
• 58:44
  expense
• 58:44
  for
• 58:45
  you,
• 58:45
  the
• 58:45
  parent.
• 58:45
  You
• 58:46
  don't
• 58:46
  have
• 58:46
  to
• 58:46
  sign
• 58:47
  them
• 58:47
  up
• 58:47
  for
• 58:47
  all
• 58:48
  those
• 58:48
  classes.
• 58:49
  No.
• 58:49
  See
• 58:49
  what
• 58:50
  they
• 58:50
  actually
• 58:50
  want
• 58:50
  to
• 58:51
  do.
• 58:51
  If
• 58:52
  your
• 58:52
  child
• 58:52
  asks
• 58:53
  you
• 58:53
  about
• 58:53
  something
• 58:53
  and
• 58:54
  seems
• 58:54
  interested
• 58:54
  in
• 58:55
  trying
• 58:55
  it,
• 58:55
  then
• 58:55
  do
• 58:56
  that.
• 58:56
  But
• 58:56
  it's
• 58:56
  not,
• 58:56
  not,
• 58:57
  don't
• 58:57
  foist
• 58:58
  all
• 58:58
  this
• 58:58
  stuff
• 58:58
  on
• 58:59
  your
• 58:59
  kids.
• 58:59
  It's
• 58:59
  not
• 59:00
  useful.
• 59:01
  I
• 59:01
  also
• 59:01
  really
• 59:01
  like
• 59:01
  the
• 59:02
  point.
• 59:02
  If
• 59:02
  you
• 59:02
  believe
• 59:03
  in
• 59:03
  evolution,
• 59:04
  apes
• 59:05
  produced
• 59:05
  such
• 59:06
  slow
• 59:06
  maturing
• 59:07
  offspring
• 59:07
  that
• 59:08
  the
• 59:08
  only
• 59:08
  way
• 59:08
  that
• 59:09
  we
• 59:09
  could
• 59:09
  have
• 59:09
  evolved
• 59:09
  this
• 59:10
  far
• 59:10
  is
• 59:10
  if
• 59:10
  mothers
• 59:11
  had
• 59:11
  help.
• 59:12
  Right.
• 59:12
  You
• 59:12
  know,
• 59:13
  I
• 59:13
  mean
• 59:13
  it
• 59:13
  is
• 59:14
  apparently
• 59:14
  like
• 59:14
  we
• 59:14
  are
• 59:15
  unlike
• 59:15
  any
• 59:15
  other
• 59:15
  species.
• 59:16
  Most
• 59:16
  species
• 59:17
  are
• 59:17
  not
• 59:17
  quite
• 59:18
  self
• 59:18
  sufficient
• 59:19
  within
• 59:19
  a
• 59:19
  couple
• 59:20
  months,
• 59:20
  but
• 59:20
  they
• 59:21
  can
• 59:21
  mostly
• 59:22
  survive
• 59:23
  after
• 59:23
  a
• 59:23
  year
• 59:23
  or
• 59:24
  so.
• 59:24
  Think
• 59:24
  of
• 59:25
  infants.
• 59:26
  Imagine
• 59:26
  putting
• 59:26
  a
• 59:27
  one
• 59:27
  year
• 59:27
  old
• 59:27
  in
• 59:27
  the
• 59:28
  world
• 59:28
  and
• 59:28
  being
• 59:28
  like,
• 59:28
  all
• 59:29
  right.
• 59:29
  Good
• 59:29
  luck,
• 59:29
  figure
• 59:30
  it
• 59:30
  out.
• 59:30
  Yeah,
• 59:31
  yeah.
• 59:31
  It's
• 59:32
  like
• 59:32
  what
• 59:32
  it
• 59:32
  takes
• 59:32
  to
• 59:33
  support
• 59:33
  a
• 59:33
  human
• 59:34
  baby
• 59:35
  to
• 59:36
  maturity
• 59:37
  is
• 59:38
  so
• 59:38
  much
• 59:38
  time,
• 59:39
  effort
• 59:39
  and
• 59:40
  resources
• 59:41
  that
• 59:41
  if
• 59:42
  we
• 59:42
  really
• 59:43
  were
• 59:43
  just
• 59:43
  like
• 59:44
  a
• 59:45
  whale
• 59:45
  for
• 59:45
  example,
• 59:46
  like
• 59:47
  whales
• 59:47
  give
• 59:47
  birth
• 59:48
  and
• 59:48
  then
• 59:48
  it's
• 59:48
  just
• 59:49
  the
• 59:49
  mom
• 59:49
  whale.
• 59:49
  I
• 59:50
  mean
• 59:50
  I
• 59:50
  guess
• 59:50
  there's
• 59:50
  a
• 59:50
  pod
• 59:51
  but
• 59:51
  it's
• 59:51
  mostly
• 59:52
  a
• 59:52
  mom
• 59:52
  whale
• 59:53
  responsible
• 59:53
  for
• 59:53
  the
• 59:53
  kids
• 59:54
  calf.
• 59:54
  But
• 59:55
  like
• 59:56
  whales
• 59:56
  are
• 59:57
  giant,
• 59:57
  right.
• 59:58
  You
• 59:58
  know,
• 59:58
  they
• 59:59
  must
• 59:59
  be
• 59:59
  more
• 59:59
  self
• 59:59
  sufficient.
• 1:00:01
  I
• 1:00:01
  imagine
• 1:00:01
  after
• 1:00:02
  like
• 1:00:02
  a
• 1:00:02
  year
• 1:00:02
  or
• 1:00:02
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• 1:00:03
  that
• 1:00:03
  whale
• 1:00:03
  is
• 1:00:04
  just
• 1:00:04
  sort
• 1:00:04
  of
• 1:00:04
  like
• 1:00:04
  the
• 1:00:04
  Pods
• 1:00:05
  problem.
• 1:00:05
  Yeah.
• 1:00:06
  And
• 1:00:06
  not
• 1:00:06
  the
• 1:00:07
  mom.
• 1:00:08
  Right.
• 1:00:08
  I
• 1:00:08
  mean,
• 1:00:09
  Yeah.
• 1:00:09
  I
• 1:00:09
  mean,
• 1:00:09
  we,
• 1:00:10
  we
• 1:00:10
  as
• 1:00:10
  a
• 1:00:10
  species,
• 1:00:11
  we
• 1:00:11
  require
• 1:00:12
  so
• 1:00:12
  much
• 1:00:12
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• 1:00:13
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• 1:00:13
  it
• 1:00:14
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• 1:00:14
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• 1:00:14
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• 1:00:14
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• 1:00:14
  the
• 1:00:15
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• 1:00:15
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• 1:00:16
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• 1:00:17
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• 1:00:17
  us
• 1:00:17
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• 1:00:18
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• 1:00:18
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• 1:00:19
  imagine.
• 1:00:19
  Just
• 1:00:20
  to
• 1:00:20
  be
• 1:00:20
  clear,
• 1:00:20
  I
• 1:00:20
  do
• 1:00:21
  believe
• 1:00:21
  in
• 1:00:21
  evolution.
• 1:00:22
  I
• 1:00:22
  know
• 1:00:22
  there's
• 1:00:23
  some
• 1:00:23
  debate
• 1:00:23
  on
• 1:00:23
  the
• 1:00:24
  topic,
• 1:00:24
  however.
• 1:00:25
  Yeah.
• 1:00:25
  From
• 1:00:26
  my
• 1:00:26
  pov,
• 1:00:27
  you
• 1:00:27
  think
• 1:00:28
  that.
• 1:00:28
  No.
• 1:00:29
  It
• 1:00:29
  was
• 1:00:29
  the
• 1:00:29
  world
• 1:00:30
  designed
• 1:00:30
  us
• 1:00:30
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• 1:00:31
  be
• 1:00:31
  taken
• 1:00:32
  care
• 1:00:32
  of
• 1:00:32
  by
• 1:00:33
  multiple
• 1:00:33
  people.
• 1:00:34
  Yes.
• 1:00:34
  And.
• 1:00:35
  Yeah.
• 1:00:36
  And
• 1:00:37
  one
• 1:00:37
  of
• 1:00:37
  the
• 1:00:37
  last
• 1:00:37
  things
• 1:00:38
  she
• 1:00:38
  does,
• 1:00:38
  because
• 1:00:39
  we're
• 1:00:39
  getting
• 1:00:39
  to
• 1:00:39
  the
• 1:00:39
  end,
• 1:00:39
  is
• 1:00:40
  there
• 1:00:40
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• 1:00:40
  a
• 1:00:40
  chapter
• 1:00:41
  on
• 1:00:41
  sleep,
• 1:00:41
  how
• 1:00:42
  she
• 1:00:42
  tried
• 1:00:42
  to
• 1:00:42
  use
• 1:00:43
  a
• 1:00:43
  lot
• 1:00:43
  of
• 1:00:44
  these
• 1:00:44
  concepts
• 1:00:44
  that
• 1:00:44
  she
• 1:00:45
  learned
• 1:00:46
  to
• 1:00:46
  help
• 1:00:46
  her
• 1:00:46
  child
• 1:00:47
  with
• 1:00:47
  sleep,
• 1:00:47
  who
• 1:00:47
  she
• 1:00:48
  was
• 1:00:48
  having
• 1:00:48
  a
• 1:00:48
  lot
• 1:00:48
  of
• 1:00:48
  problems
• 1:00:49
  with
• 1:00:49
  it.
• 1:00:50
  So
• 1:00:50
  she
• 1:00:50
  takes
• 1:00:51
  us
• 1:00:51
  through
• 1:00:51
  her
• 1:00:52
  process
• 1:00:52
  for
• 1:00:52
  that
• 1:00:53
  where
• 1:00:53
  she,
• 1:00:53
  she
• 1:00:54
  kind
• 1:00:54
  of
• 1:00:54
  models.
• 1:00:55
  Rather
• 1:00:55
  than
• 1:00:56
  telling
• 1:00:56
  her
• 1:00:56
  child
• 1:00:57
  it's
• 1:00:57
  time
• 1:00:57
  to
• 1:00:57
  go
• 1:00:57
  to
• 1:00:58
  bed
• 1:00:58
  and
• 1:00:58
  getting
• 1:00:58
  into
• 1:00:59
  a
• 1:00:59
  whole
• 1:00:59
  thing
• 1:00:59
  about
• 1:00:59
  it,
• 1:01:00
  she
• 1:01:00
  just
• 1:01:01
  models
• 1:01:01
  and
• 1:01:02
  she
• 1:01:02
  says,
• 1:01:02
  you
• 1:01:03
  know,
• 1:01:03
  hey,
• 1:01:03
  my
• 1:01:03
  body's
• 1:01:04
  telling
• 1:01:04
  me
• 1:01:04
  I'm
• 1:01:04
  tired,
• 1:01:05
  I'm
• 1:01:05
  going
• 1:01:06
  to
• 1:01:06
  go
• 1:01:06
  to
• 1:01:06
  bed.
• 1:01:07
  And
• 1:01:07
  then
• 1:01:07
  she
• 1:01:07
  gets
• 1:01:07
  ready
• 1:01:08
  for
• 1:01:08
  bed.
• 1:01:09
  And
• 1:01:09
  then
• 1:01:09
  she
• 1:01:10
  talks
• 1:01:10
  to
• 1:01:11
  Rosie
• 1:01:11
  and
• 1:01:11
  says,
• 1:01:12
  rosie,
• 1:01:12
  what
• 1:01:12
  would
• 1:01:12
  a
• 1:01:13
  big
• 1:01:13
  girl
• 1:01:13
  do
• 1:01:13
  right
• 1:01:14
  now?
• 1:01:14
  Rather
• 1:01:14
  than
• 1:01:14
  forcing
• 1:01:15
  her,
• 1:01:16
  just
• 1:01:16
  encouraging
• 1:01:17
  her
• 1:01:17
  to
• 1:01:17
  calm
• 1:01:17
  down,
• 1:01:18
  get
• 1:01:18
  her,
• 1:01:19
  be
• 1:01:19
  her
• 1:01:20
  teeth
• 1:01:20
  brushed,
• 1:01:20
  get
• 1:01:20
  her
• 1:01:21
  pajamas
• 1:01:21
  on.
• 1:01:23
  And
• 1:01:23
  then,
• 1:01:23
  see,
• 1:01:23
  she
• 1:01:23
  suggests,
• 1:01:24
  hey,
• 1:01:25
  why
• 1:01:25
  don't
• 1:01:25
  we
• 1:01:25
  practice?
• 1:01:26
  Let's
• 1:01:26
  be
• 1:01:26
  quiet,
• 1:01:27
  let's
• 1:01:27
  still
• 1:01:28
  our
• 1:01:28
  bodies
• 1:01:28
  and
• 1:01:29
  mind
• 1:01:29
  and
• 1:01:29
  see
• 1:01:29
  if
• 1:01:29
  we
• 1:01:30
  can
• 1:01:30
  calm
• 1:01:30
  down
• 1:01:30
  and
• 1:01:31
  read
• 1:01:31
  a
• 1:01:32
  book
• 1:01:32
  and
• 1:01:32
  get
• 1:01:33
  tired
• 1:01:33
  and.
• 1:01:33
  And
• 1:01:33
  somehow
• 1:01:34
  sleep
• 1:01:34
  has
• 1:01:35
  become
• 1:01:35
  much
• 1:01:35
  less
• 1:01:35
  of
• 1:01:35
  a
• 1:01:36
  problem
• 1:01:36
  in
• 1:01:36
  her
• 1:01:36
  life.
• 1:01:37
  Well,
• 1:01:37
  it's
• 1:01:37
  reframing
• 1:01:38
  it.
• 1:01:38
  Yeah.
• 1:01:39
  Yeah.
• 1:01:39
  And
• 1:01:40
  she.
• 1:01:40
  So
• 1:01:40
  it's
• 1:01:40
  an
• 1:01:40
  interesting
• 1:01:41
  way
• 1:01:41
  that
• 1:01:41
  she
• 1:01:41
  never
• 1:01:42
  did
• 1:01:42
  before.
• 1:01:42
  It
• 1:01:43
  was
• 1:01:43
  always
• 1:01:43
  a
• 1:01:43
  problem.
• 1:01:43
  And
• 1:01:44
  now,
• 1:01:44
  now
• 1:01:44
  it's
• 1:01:45
  not
• 1:01:45
  so
• 1:01:45
  much.
• 1:01:48
  And
• 1:01:48
  the
• 1:01:48
  author
• 1:01:49
  talks
• 1:01:49
  about
• 1:01:49
  how
• 1:01:49
  now
• 1:01:50
  she
• 1:01:50
  uses
• 1:01:50
  so
• 1:01:51
  much
• 1:01:51
  of
• 1:01:51
  what
• 1:01:51
  she
• 1:01:51
  learned.
• 1:01:52
  You
• 1:01:52
  know,
• 1:01:53
  not
• 1:01:53
  everything.
• 1:01:53
  You
• 1:01:54
  may
• 1:01:54
  not
• 1:01:54
  be
• 1:01:54
  able
• 1:01:54
  to
• 1:01:55
  implement
• 1:01:55
  it
• 1:01:55
  all,
• 1:01:55
  implement
• 1:01:56
  everything
• 1:01:57
  in
• 1:01:57
  our
• 1:01:58
  modern
• 1:01:58
  society
• 1:01:59
  today,
• 1:01:59
  but
• 1:02:00
  there
• 1:02:00
  are
• 1:02:00
  a
• 1:02:01
  lot
• 1:02:01
  of
• 1:02:01
  ideas
• 1:02:01
  you
• 1:02:02
  can
• 1:02:02
  take
• 1:02:02
  from
• 1:02:02
  this,
• 1:02:03
  I
• 1:02:03
  think,
• 1:02:04
  and
• 1:02:04
  bring
• 1:02:04
  into
• 1:02:04
  your
• 1:02:04
  own
• 1:02:05
  life.
• 1:02:05
  Totally.
• 1:02:06
  Yeah,
• 1:02:07
  totally.
• 1:02:07
  I
• 1:02:08
  really
• 1:02:08
  hope
• 1:02:08
  I
• 1:02:09
  can
• 1:02:09
  implement
• 1:02:09
  elements
• 1:02:10
  of
• 1:02:10
  this,
• 1:02:10
  this
• 1:02:10
  book
• 1:02:11
  with
• 1:02:11
  my
• 1:02:12
  kids.
• 1:02:12
  I'm
• 1:02:12
  sure
• 1:02:13
  you
• 1:02:13
  already
• 1:02:13
  are.
• 1:02:13
  I
• 1:02:14
  mean,
• 1:02:14
  I
• 1:02:14
  watch
• 1:02:14
  you.
• 1:02:15
  You
• 1:02:15
  were.
• 1:02:16
  I,
• 1:02:16
  I
• 1:02:16
  was
• 1:02:16
  at
• 1:02:16
  your
• 1:02:17
  house
• 1:02:17
  the
• 1:02:17
  other
• 1:02:17
  day.
• 1:02:17
  You
• 1:02:17
  were
• 1:02:18
  cooking.
• 1:02:18
  You
• 1:02:18
  had
• 1:02:18
  the
• 1:02:19
  baby
• 1:02:19
  strapped
• 1:02:19
  to
• 1:02:20
  you.
• 1:02:20
  You
• 1:02:20
  were,
• 1:02:21
  you
• 1:02:21
  were
• 1:02:21
  what?
• 1:02:22
  The
• 1:02:22
  baby
• 1:02:22
  was
• 1:02:23
  what
• 1:02:23
  kind
• 1:02:23
  of
• 1:02:23
  watching
• 1:02:23
  everything
• 1:02:24
  you
• 1:02:24
  were
• 1:02:24
  doing
• 1:02:24
  while
• 1:02:24
  you
• 1:02:25
  were
• 1:02:25
  cooking.
• 1:02:26
  She
• 1:02:26
  wasn't
• 1:02:27
  really
• 1:02:27
  helping,
• 1:02:27
  but.
• 1:02:27
  No,
• 1:02:28
  but
• 1:02:28
  that's
• 1:02:28
  okay.
• 1:02:28
  I
• 1:02:29
  don't
• 1:02:29
  expect
• 1:02:29
  her
• 1:02:29
  to
• 1:02:29
  help
• 1:02:29
  at
• 1:02:29
  the
• 1:02:29
  point.
• 1:02:30
  She's
• 1:02:30
  too
• 1:02:30
  young.
• 1:02:30
  Yeah.
• 1:02:31
  But
• 1:02:31
  you
• 1:02:31
  know,
• 1:02:32
  she
• 1:02:32
  just
• 1:02:32
  discovered
• 1:02:33
  her
• 1:02:33
  fingers.
• 1:02:33
  Yeah.
• 1:02:35
  Time.
• 1:02:35
  But
• 1:02:35
  anyway.
• 1:02:36
  And
• 1:02:36
  I
• 1:02:36
  bring
• 1:02:36
  her
• 1:02:37
  everywhere.
• 1:02:37
  Yeah.
• 1:02:38
  And
• 1:02:38
  I
• 1:02:38
  Bring
• 1:02:38
  her.
• 1:02:39
  I
• 1:02:39
  feel
• 1:02:39
  like
• 1:02:39
  my
• 1:02:39
  aloe
• 1:02:40
  parents
• 1:02:40
  are
• 1:02:40
  obviously
• 1:02:41
  my
• 1:02:41
  extended
• 1:02:42
  family,
• 1:02:42
  like
• 1:02:43
  you
• 1:02:43
  and
• 1:02:44
  my
• 1:02:44
  mother
• 1:02:44
  in
• 1:02:44
  law
• 1:02:45
  and
• 1:02:45
  my
• 1:02:45
  sister
• 1:02:46
  in
• 1:02:46
  law
• 1:02:46
  and
• 1:02:46
  everybody,
• 1:02:47
  but
• 1:02:47
  also
• 1:02:48
  the
• 1:02:48
  ladies
• 1:02:49
  at
• 1:02:49
  the
• 1:02:49
  nail
• 1:02:49
  salon.
• 1:02:50
  Everybody
• 1:02:50
  who
• 1:02:51
  love
• 1:02:51
  my
• 1:02:51
  daughter,
• 1:02:52
  the
• 1:02:52
  community.
• 1:02:52
  As
• 1:02:53
  if
• 1:02:53
  she
• 1:02:54
  were
• 1:02:54
  their
• 1:02:54
  own.
• 1:02:54
  I
• 1:02:55
  know,
• 1:02:55
  it's
• 1:02:55
  true.
• 1:02:56
  Everywhere
• 1:02:56
  you
• 1:02:56
  go
• 1:02:57
  in
• 1:02:57
  the
• 1:02:57
  community,
• 1:02:57
  it's
• 1:02:58
  like,
• 1:02:58
  oh,
• 1:02:58
  everybody's
• 1:02:59
  like,
• 1:02:59
  they
• 1:02:59
  know
• 1:02:59
  the
• 1:03:00
  baby.
• 1:03:00
  It
• 1:03:00
  is.
• 1:03:00
  I
• 1:03:01
  know,
• 1:03:01
  it's
• 1:03:01
  really
• 1:03:01
  sweet.
• 1:03:02
  It's
• 1:03:02
  really,
• 1:03:02
  really
• 1:03:03
  sweet.
• 1:03:03
  It
• 1:03:03
  is.
• 1:03:03
  So
• 1:03:04
  what
• 1:03:04
  do
• 1:03:04
  you
• 1:03:04
  think
• 1:03:04
  about
• 1:03:05
  this
• 1:03:05
  book?
• 1:03:05
  I
• 1:03:06
  loved
• 1:03:06
  it.
• 1:03:06
  I
• 1:03:06
  would
• 1:03:06
  recommend
• 1:03:07
  it
• 1:03:07
  honestly,
• 1:03:07
  to
• 1:03:07
  anyone,
• 1:03:08
  anyone
• 1:03:09
  who's
• 1:03:09
  even
• 1:03:09
  thinking
• 1:03:09
  of
• 1:03:09
  becoming
• 1:03:10
  a
• 1:03:10
  parent.
• 1:03:10
  I
• 1:03:10
  think
• 1:03:11
  that
• 1:03:11
  this
• 1:03:11
  is
• 1:03:11
  a
• 1:03:11
  really
• 1:03:11
  valu
• 1:03:13
  because
• 1:03:13
  it
• 1:03:14
  reframes
• 1:03:14
  things,
• 1:03:14
  it
• 1:03:15
  puts
• 1:03:15
  things
• 1:03:15
  in
• 1:03:15
  perspective.
• 1:03:17
  I
• 1:03:17
  think
• 1:03:18
  as
• 1:03:18
  we've
• 1:03:18
  learned,
• 1:03:18
  it's
• 1:03:19
  like
• 1:03:19
  so
• 1:03:19
  much
• 1:03:19
  of
• 1:03:19
  western
• 1:03:20
  parenting
• 1:03:21
  ideas
• 1:03:22
  are
• 1:03:22
  new
• 1:03:22
  and
• 1:03:23
  they're
• 1:03:23
  not
• 1:03:23
  time
• 1:03:24
  tested
• 1:03:25
  and
• 1:03:26
  a
• 1:03:26
  lot
• 1:03:26
  of
• 1:03:26
  them
• 1:03:26
  are
• 1:03:27
  frankly
• 1:03:27
  counterproductive.
• 1:03:29
  And
• 1:03:29
  we
• 1:03:30
  need
• 1:03:30
  to
• 1:03:30
  be
• 1:03:30
  more
• 1:03:30
  patient
• 1:03:31
  and
• 1:03:31
  understanding
• 1:03:31
  with
• 1:03:32
  ourselves.
• 1:03:32
  And
• 1:03:32
  also,
• 1:03:33
  just
• 1:03:33
  reading
• 1:03:34
  all
• 1:03:34
  of
• 1:03:34
  these
• 1:03:34
  books,
• 1:03:34
  you
• 1:03:34
  just
• 1:03:35
  realize
• 1:03:35
  there
• 1:03:35
  are
• 1:03:35
  so
• 1:03:35
  many
• 1:03:36
  disparate
• 1:03:36
  parenting
• 1:03:37
  ideas.
• 1:03:37
  You
• 1:03:38
  kind
• 1:03:38
  of
• 1:03:38
  just
• 1:03:38
  have
• 1:03:38
  to
• 1:03:38
  pick
• 1:03:39
  and
• 1:03:39
  choose
• 1:03:39
  what
• 1:03:40
  works
• 1:03:40
  from
• 1:03:40
  everything
• 1:03:41
  thing
• 1:03:41
  for
• 1:03:41
  you.
• 1:03:42
  No
• 1:03:43
  two
• 1:03:43
  children
• 1:03:43
  need
• 1:03:44
  to
• 1:03:44
  be
• 1:03:44
  parented
• 1:03:44
  the
• 1:03:44
  exact
• 1:03:45
  same
• 1:03:45
  way.
• 1:03:45
  Right.
• 1:03:46
  I
• 1:03:46
  think
• 1:03:46
  that's
• 1:03:46
  the
• 1:03:47
  message
• 1:03:47
  of.
• 1:03:47
  It's
• 1:03:48
  fun
• 1:03:48
  to,
• 1:03:48
  to
• 1:03:49
  read
• 1:03:49
  all
• 1:03:49
  these
• 1:03:49
  books,
• 1:03:50
  pick
• 1:03:50
  out
• 1:03:50
  the
• 1:03:50
  ideas
• 1:03:51
  that
• 1:03:51
  make
• 1:03:51
  the
• 1:03:51
  most
• 1:03:51
  sense
• 1:03:52
  to
• 1:03:52
  you,
• 1:03:52
  give
• 1:03:52
  them
• 1:03:52
  a
• 1:03:53
  try.
• 1:03:54
  You
• 1:03:54
  don't
• 1:03:54
  like
• 1:03:54
  them,
• 1:03:54
  toss
• 1:03:55
  them
• 1:03:55
  right
• 1:03:55
  back.
• 1:03:55
  Yeah.
• 1:03:55
  And
• 1:03:56
  there's
• 1:03:56
  a
• 1:03:56
  lot
• 1:03:56
  more
• 1:03:56
  out
• 1:03:57
  there.
• 1:03:57
  Yeah.
• 1:03:58
  Limitless.
• 1:04:00
  We're
• 1:04:00
  learning.
• 1:04:00
  We're
• 1:04:01
  learning.
• 1:04:01
  Yeah.
• 1:04:01
  Okay.
• 1:04:02
  There
• 1:04:02
  are
• 1:04:02
  so
• 1:04:03
  many.
• 1:04:03
  And
• 1:04:03
  you
• 1:04:04
  guys,
• 1:04:04
  there
• 1:04:04
  are
• 1:04:05
  so
• 1:04:05
  many
• 1:04:05
  more.
• 1:04:06
  Right?
• 1:04:06
  This
• 1:04:06
  podcast
• 1:04:07
  could
• 1:04:07
  go
• 1:04:07
  on
• 1:04:07
  for
• 1:04:07
  even
• 1:04:07
  neons.
• 1:04:08
  Well,
• 1:04:09
  we
• 1:04:09
  read
• 1:04:09
  every
• 1:04:09
  single
• 1:04:10
  book
• 1:04:10
  I
• 1:04:10
  know,
• 1:04:10
  and
• 1:04:11
  new
• 1:04:11
  ones
• 1:04:11
  come
• 1:04:11
  out
• 1:04:12
  like.
• 1:04:12
  Every
• 1:04:12
  week
• 1:04:13
  right
• 1:04:13
  there.
• 1:04:13
  So
• 1:04:14
  it
• 1:04:14
  is
• 1:04:14
  very
• 1:04:15
  interesting.
• 1:04:15
  You
• 1:04:15
  just
• 1:04:15
  get
• 1:04:16
  the
• 1:04:16
  big
• 1:04:16
  ideas
• 1:04:16
  and,
• 1:04:17
  and
• 1:04:17
  go
• 1:04:17
  with
• 1:04:17
  them
• 1:04:18
  and
• 1:04:18
  give
• 1:04:18
  it,
• 1:04:18
  give
• 1:04:18
  them
• 1:04:19
  a
• 1:04:19
  try.
• 1:04:19
  But.
• 1:04:20
  And
• 1:04:20
  the
• 1:04:20
  beauty
• 1:04:21
  of
• 1:04:21
  this
• 1:04:21
  book,
• 1:04:22
  unlike
• 1:04:22
  some
• 1:04:22
  of
• 1:04:23
  the
• 1:04:23
  others,
• 1:04:23
  is
• 1:04:24
  you
• 1:04:24
  can
• 1:04:24
  just,
• 1:04:24
  you
• 1:04:25
  can
• 1:04:25
  listen
• 1:04:25
  to
• 1:04:25
  it,
• 1:04:26
  you
• 1:04:27
  know,
• 1:04:27
  so
• 1:04:27
  even
• 1:04:27
  if
• 1:04:27
  you
• 1:04:28
  don't
• 1:04:29
  have
• 1:04:29
  time
• 1:04:29
  to
• 1:04:29
  sit
• 1:04:29
  down
• 1:04:29
  and
• 1:04:30
  read
• 1:04:30
  it,
• 1:04:30
  it's
• 1:04:30
  one
• 1:04:31
  you
• 1:04:31
  can
• 1:04:31
  listen
• 1:04:31
  to.
• 1:04:31
  So
• 1:04:32
  I
• 1:04:32
  thought
• 1:04:32
  that
• 1:04:33
  was
• 1:04:33
  helpful
• 1:04:33
  too.
• 1:04:34
  Totally.
• 1:04:34
  Yeah,
• 1:04:35
  totally.
• 1:04:35
  Well,
• 1:04:36
  thank
• 1:04:36
  you
• 1:04:36
  guys
• 1:04:36
  so
• 1:04:37
  much
• 1:04:37
  for
• 1:04:37
  joining
• 1:04:37
  us
• 1:04:38
  us
• 1:04:38
  for
• 1:04:38
  an
• 1:04:39
  episode
• 1:04:39
  of
• 1:04:40
  Other
• 1:04:40
  People's
• 1:04:40
  Parenting
• 1:04:41
  and
• 1:04:41
  we
• 1:04:41
  will
• 1:04:42
  see
• 1:04:42
  you
• 1:04:42
  again
• 1:04:43
  next
• 1:04:43
  week.