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Is life a journey or a destination? · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim. Every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places her chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the chicken coop so today I want to talk to
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  you about your point of view, with Life Is Life Journey or a
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  destination? Do you have a destination in
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  mind for your life and you're completely focused on just
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  getting to that destination? Or do you think of it more as a
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  journey? And the reason why this is an
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  important thing to know about yourself is that we often talk
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  about in coaching will often talk about to someone have a
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  growth mindset or a fixed mindset.
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  And none of us want to admit that we have fixed mindsets.
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  Let me, let me make that very clear.
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  When I bring this up with clients, they'll say, I'll ask.
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  Do you believe you have a growth mindset, or a fixed mindset and
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  everybody says growth. And I always chuckle because
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  it's one of those things that's like, you might think you have a
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  growth mindset. And, and this is myself
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  included. In this category, there are
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  certain areas where I will believe I have a growth mindset,
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  but I really have a fixed mindset and it shows up and I
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  have to work on To fix it because a fixed mindset is very,
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  very limiting and a fixed mindset.
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  Gives you a lot of problems when you're trying to expand your
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  life. And, you know, do more with
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  yourself, it is very challenging.
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  Anybody who is a perfectionist who's listening to this, you
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  have a fixed mindset and it is arduous to deal with it because
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  there's only one way to do it. And if it's not that way, then
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  it's wrong and you have to throw it out and start over.
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  Or whatever it might be, you have to redo it and it's
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  limiting it gives you a lot of opportunities to learn.
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  Let's say, let's just leave it that way.
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  It gives you an awful lot of opportunities to help yourself
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  and figure out how to make it more of a growth mindset.
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  But when you think of it, in terms of, is your life, a
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  destination or a journey, the destination is very much, a
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  limited fixed mindset. And the journey is all about the
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  growth mindset. Now, you might be asking how,
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  why, what is the reason for that?
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  Well, if you're on a growth mindset and it's all about a
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  journey. As you're going, you're willing
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  to stop along the way and try different things.
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  You're willing to take in information and shift the
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  directions. You might be going.
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  So let's use the road as an example, since we're talking
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  about it as a journey. So if I'm Saying, I'm going to
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  drive from Boston to San Francisco and I know that's what
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  I'm doing and I've got a general idea of the trip if I'm in a
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  fixed mindset, I'm focused on just getting to that
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  destination. I just want to get to the
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  destination and I don't want to have an experience along the way
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  that is anything, but the drive and getting there, if I'm in a
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  growth mindset and I'm all about the journey, I'm going to be
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  having my maps. I'm going to have the same
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  intent. I'm going to get somewhere.
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  But along the way, I might find out there are some cool things
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  to see as I'm driving. There is a restaurant.
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  You have to have a piece of pie at and it might be 15 minutes
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  out of the way, but you know what that experience is going to
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  be so unreal? I got to go try that.
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  Cherry pie. I have I have to go or I've got
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  to go see the largest penis, largest ball of yarn that's ever
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  been made, or I've got to do something quirky and you know
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  stop and take a class on how to milk.
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  Like goats, I don't know, it could be anything, but I'm open
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  to the experience of the trip as, as much as I am getting to,
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  on to that destination. And when you do those things,
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  when you open yourself up and you get to that point where
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  you're starting to see things as a journey, as opposed to a
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  destination, the growth mindset takes on.
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  Well, that's going to help me become more of who I'm supposed
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  to be. And that may even Change my
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  outcomes. That's why.
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  Throughout the year when I'm coaching with clients I often
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  ask them. Hey, check in.
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  Is this goal still something that you are focused on?
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  Is this a goal that you're still intent on?
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  Because if you've ever written down goals, you know, sometimes
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  that same goal doesn't get hit in a year and then it travels
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  from time to time to time to time year to year to year.
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  And you wonder, why is this still even on my list?
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  Why is this even showing up again?
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  I've never made it. Well, part of that.
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  Can be not saying it's absolute but part of that can be because
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  you have not grown and taken into the growth into that into
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  consideration in the process of it and you just keep putting it
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  in, you have such a fixed mindset about it that you can't
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  see past it and you're not taking into consideration all
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  the growth and maybe it's just not even a goal that you want
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  anymore. Maybe it's just not even part of
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  who you are anymore and it has to go.
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  Maybe it just doesn't fit the new person that you are.
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  And that's why it's so important to know this stuff.
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  That's why it's so important to understand my parameters of well
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  am I seeing this as a journey or am I seeing this as a
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  destination because if I can focus on being on a journey, if
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  I can focus on, this is not finite in one sense where it's
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  just got to be one way. Then I'm open to more
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  possibilities. Just like having these chickens.
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  I started off with, you know, an idea of I was going to have 15
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  Chickens. That was my thought.
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  I was going to have 15 chickens. Anybody who has ever had
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  chickens knows, there's something called chicken math
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  and that's why I have 43 and actually 47.
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  Now with all the babies and it becomes okay, well, can I beat
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  myself up for this? No, I just changed my parameters
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  and I realized more and I realized what they give to me
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  and I realized a different way, I wanted to see it and I took
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  that information in and I can become more flexible, I can
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  become more. Growth oriented in the process.
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  So the point is, when you start to look at things differently,
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  things change. So I want you to take the time
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  to consider do I think of my life as a destination or a
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  journey? Do I think of specific
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  situations as a destination or a journey?
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  Do I think of each little tiny part of myself as growing or do
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  I think of it as holding me back and the You contemplate, this
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  the better off you're going to be because you'll start to push
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  yourself into that growth mindset into that Journey.
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  Phase if you will. All right guys, I will see you
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  tomorrow and I hope you have a blessed day.
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  Bye.