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- 0:00Heidi: This is episode 260 of Teacher Approved.
- 0:06You're listening to Teacher Approved, the podcast helping
- 0:09educators elevate what matters and simplify the rest. I'm
- 0:13Heidi.
- 0:14Emily: And I'm Emily. We're the creators behind Second Story
- 0:17Window, where we give research-based and
- 0:19teacher-approved strategies that make teaching less stressful and
- 0:23more effective. You can check out the show notes and resources
- 0:26from each episode at secondstorywindow.net.
- 0:29Heidi: We're so glad you're tuning in today. Let's get to
- 0:32the show.
- 0:36Emily: Hey there, thanks for joining us today. In today's
- 0:39episode, we are talking about the first week of summer and how
- 0:43to actually decompress, plus we've got a teacher-approved tip
- 0:47for soaking up the full sensory experience of summer.
- 0:50Heidi: But first, let's start with a try it tomorrow, where we
- 0:53share a quick one that you can try in your classroom right
- 0:55away. Emily, what is our suggestion this week?
- 0:58Emily: This week, we've got a couch task for you. You know we
- 1:01love a couch task. Spend five minutes decluttering your
- 1:06teaching Pinterest boards, or your saved TikToks, or those
- 1:10Instagram posts that you've been hoarding all year. Just go
- 1:13through and delete the ideas that now you realize you are
- 1:16never actually going to use, and that way you can easily find the
- 1:19good ideas when you need them.
- 1:22Heidi: Right. This is such an important step if you're going
- 1:24to save ideas, because you got to look for that one anchor
- 1:27chart idea, and then you have to scroll through 400 activities
- 1:31that seem awesome, but you know you, you're never actually going
- 1:34to use these. So just trim the dead weight, keep what's
- 1:38exciting but still feels reasonable, and then just delete
- 1:41what isn't serving you anymore. It makes your saved content way
- 1:45more useful.
- 1:46Emily: Plus, it is also weirdly satisfying, because it's like
- 1:49cleaning out your purse. You don't realize how much clutter
- 1:52you're carrying around until you take some of it out, and then
- 1:54when you do, it's like such a big win.
- 1:56Heidi: Yes, it's like a whole new system.
- 1:58Emily: Yes.
- 1:59Heidi: Well, if you like this idea, or anything else we share
- 2:01here on the podcast, would you take a second and give us a
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- 2:10really helps.
- 2:12Okay, everyone, happy June 1. We know some of you lucky souls are
- 2:16starting your second, or maybe your third week of summer break.
- 2:20Emily: But some of you still have three or more weeks to the
- 2:23finish line.
- 2:24Heidi: Oh, that's rough.
- 2:26Emily: But they will still be at the beach when the early out
- 2:28crowd is heading back in July, so it all kind of evens out.
- 2:32Heidi: Yeah, I guess there's trade offs, but whether you are
- 2:35in those first golden days of break or your golden days are
- 2:39still just a distant bright spot on the calendar, summer is a
- 2:42gift.
- 2:43Emily: The problem with this gift, though, is that it doesn't
- 2:45come with any assembly instructions.
- 2:48Heidi: Yeah, you have been counting down for months, you've
- 2:51been telling yourself, if I can just make it to summer,
- 2:53everything will be fine. And then summer arrives, and you
- 2:56wake up on day one, and you have absolutely no idea what to do
- 3:00with yourself.
- 3:01Emily: So you do what any rational person would do, and
- 3:04you scroll your phone for a while, maybe you take a nap, you
- 3:08feel weirdly unsettled about something you can't quite name,
- 3:11and you wonder if you should be doing something more.
- 3:15Heidi: Or maybe you go the complete other direction. You
- 3:18decide that since you finally have time, you're going to clean
- 3:21out the garage, repaint the bathroom, and start lesson
- 3:23planning for next year. By day four, you're exhausted, your
- 3:27house is half torn apart, and you still haven't done a single
- 3:30thing that feels like summer.
- 3:32Emily: Yeah, those are the two failure modes we're calling them
- 3:36guilty rest and the productivity trap, and it's easy to fall into
- 3:39one or the other.
- 3:41Heidi: Or both. Honestly, both. You start with guilty rest, and
- 3:45then you panic about wasting your summer, and you swing hard
- 3:48into the productivity trap, and then you crash again. It's a
- 3:51whole cycle.
- 3:52Emily: Yeah, we know that cycle well. When we were both still
- 3:56teaching, we had plenty of summers where we came home from
- 4:00the last day of school, and collapsed on the couch for, you
- 4:02know, two weeks, and not in a restful way. In the I literally
- 4:06cannot make a decision about what to do with myself way, and
- 4:09you just kind of become a vegetable on the couch.
- 4:12Heidi: Yes, become part of the couch.
- 4:14Emily: Yep.
- 4:14Heidi: It was a combination of being so depleted that we
- 4:17couldn't function and not knowing what to do that was
- 4:20productive, but still gentle. So we just defaulted to zoning out
- 4:25until we could stand the thought of starting to think about the
- 4:27next school year.
- 4:28Emily: And then we dove in with fire. We had a whole system
- 4:32where we spent mornings working in Heidi's room, and then
- 4:34switched to my room after lunch, because I had a swamp cooler on
- 4:38my room, and Heidi had no air conditioner.
- 4:40Heidi: Yeah, and calling it a cooler is a stretch. The word
- 4:43cool. Of course, you know, the front office had AC, but the
- 4:47rest of the building was just, we're just at the mercy of that
- 4:50humidifying swamp cooler.
- 4:52Emily: I can feel the stickiness now.
- 4:55Heidi: Yeah.
- 4:56Emily: Don't miss that. But no matter your default approach to
- 4:59summer, having a plan helps, so we are offering a third option
- 5:03today. No guilty rest, no productive overhaul. We're going
- 5:06to do something in between.
- 5:07Heidi: Now, before you feel any pressure set in, let us reassure
- 5:12you that this is not about getting stuff done. To borrow
- 5:15one of Phoebe's great quotes from Friends, this isn't a plan,
- 5:19this isn't even a pluh, it's just a way to give the first
- 5:22week of summer some intentional handholds, so you don't lose it
- 5:26to drift or guilt.
- 5:28Emily: And if you're already on your break, that's fine, just
- 5:30start where you are, we are totally flexible here.
- 5:33Heidi: And if you've got a while to go to your break, just save
- 5:35this for later, it will come in handy.
- 5:37Okay, day one of your break, the prompt is to close in style.
- 5:41Your nervous system needs a signal that something has
- 5:44actually changed. You've spent the last 180 days walking into
- 5:48the same building and doing the same things. If you close out
- 5:51that last day of school the exact same way you closed out
- 5:54yesterday, your brain doesn't really clock that anything is
- 5:58different.
- 5:59Emily: So, let's mark the occasion. If you're low in
- 6:02energy, do the action hero version. Drop your teacher bag
- 6:05in the hall closet, then shut the door and walk away like
- 6:08you're an action hero walking away from an explosion. Do not
- 6:11look back, the bag is dead to you now.
- 6:15Heidi: Just take out any dirty dishes first, because I know I
- 6:17would make that mistake.
- 6:19Emily: Yeah, don't leave your lunchbox in there, that'll be
- 6:21sad.
- 6:22Heidi: Yeah, please avoid that. But if you really want to
- 6:25celebrate your moment of freedom, you could even turn on
- 6:28an epic song as your personal soundtrack. I checked, and I
- 6:32found a playlist on Spotify called Songs to Walk Away from
- 6:36an Explosion in Slow Motion, and I am partial to Seven Nation
- 6:41Army, but I think this playlist has convinced me to try some
- 6:45Fleetwood Mac. It kind of has a good pep to it.
- 6:47Emily: Okay, well, of course, there is a playlist. I love it.
- 6:52So, I guess we'll link to that in the show notes, but do be
- 6:55aware that some of the songs are not kid-friendly, so be careful
- 6:58if your epic moment will have an audience. Maybe put your
- 7:02headphones in. This is just for you.
- 7:05Heidi: And if you have some energy left after your dramatic
- 7:08walk away, round up some teacher friends, hit the pool, or go out
- 7:11to dinner, whatever marking the occasion looks like to you.
- 7:14Emily: But you really don't have to do anything big. It just has
- 7:17to feel like a signal. The point is to put a period on the year,
- 7:22to end the day differently than every other day has ended for
- 7:25the last nine months.
- 7:27Heidi: And that's our whole goal for day one. On day two, it's
- 7:30time to write your I can finally list.
- 7:34Emily: I love this, because making a list makes me feel like
- 7:37I'm doing something productive, but this list, the stakes could
- 7:41not be lower on this list. You sit down and you make a list of
- 7:44everything you can do now. You can finally drink your coffee
- 7:48while it's still hot. You can finally go to the bathroom
- 7:51whenever you want to. You can finally meet a friend for lunch
- 7:54on a Tuesday.
- 7:56Heidi: And it's okay if they sound really small. That's the
- 7:58point. The list isn't supposed to be impressive. It's just
- 8:02supposed to name all of the tiny things that you have been
- 8:05deferring for months, because when you put them on paper, you
- 8:09realize how many of them there are, and that makes that shift
- 8:13from school year mode to summer mode feel real.
- 8:16Emily: And if you're in the teacher-approved club this
- 8:18month, we have a printable I can finally list waiting for you in
- 8:22your member resources as part of our tired teacher summer
- 8:25planner. So, if writing it out on a fresh piece of paper feels
- 8:28nicer than scrolling it on the back of an envelope, we got you.
- 8:32We will have the link in the show notes if you want to check
- 8:34it out in the club.
- 8:36Heidi: Now, day three's task is to close the loops, and this one
- 8:39sounds slightly less fun, but stick with us, because it pays
- 8:43off.
- 8:43Emily: This is when you do a brain dump of every open school
- 8:46task that's floating around in your head. The thing you forgot
- 8:49to email the office about, the kid you wanted to follow up
- 8:51with, the supplies you need to reorder for next year. Just get
- 8:55it out of your brain and onto paper.
- 8:58Heidi: We're calling this the loose ends list, and you don't
- 9:01have to do any of it. You just have to decide when you're going
- 9:05to deal with it. Urgent things can go in the do now column,
- 9:08less urgent stuff goes in the do later column, and then anything
- 9:12you decide that really isn't that important can go in the let
- 9:14go column.
- 9:15Emily: The reason this matters is that those open loops are
- 9:18what nag at you while you're trying to relax. Your brain
- 9:21keeps pulling them up, like, hey, remember this, hey, what
- 9:24about this one? Once they have a home, your brain can let them
- 9:28rest. It is a small step, but it makes a huge difference in how
- 9:32restful the rest of summer feels.
- 9:34Heidi: And club members, we have a sortable list for this in your
- 9:38member resources too. It's in the same place as the I can
- 9:41finally list.
- 9:43Emily: Day four's task is to reconnect with fun, plan
- 9:46something fun for this day, whatever fun means to you.
- 9:49Heidi: If that seems like a tough ask, because you have
- 9:52forgotten what fun feels like, that's okay. Pick something that
- 9:56used to be fun, or something that sounds fun in theory, and
- 9:59try it. Maybe that's rounding up friends for a hike, or maybe an
- 10:03afternoon of jigsaw puzzling with snacks is more your speed.
- 10:06Whatever is enjoyable for you is the right answer.
- 10:10Emily: Jigsaw puzzling is definitely more my speed than
- 10:13hiking, but just remember, fun is not a luxury, it's actually
- 10:18how you recover. So, you're not being self-indulgent by planning
- 10:21a fun day, you're helping your system recuperate after being in
- 10:25high gear for so many months.
- 10:27Heidi: On day five, it's time for a creative nudge. This is
- 10:31about waking up the parts of your brain that get turned off
- 10:33during the school year. When you're teaching, you are
- 10:36constantly managing logistics and putting out fires. The
- 10:39creative, playful parts of your brain don't get a lot of air
- 10:42time, so they get a little rusty.
- 10:44Emily: Let's turn one of those channels back on. Is there an
- 10:47old hobby you keep meaning to get back to, or a new thing
- 10:51you've been curious about? Maybe you want to pull out the
- 10:54watercolors you bought three years ago, try that recipe
- 10:57you've been saving, or buy a fresh notebook and just doodle
- 11:00in it.
- 11:01Heidi: And again, this is not supposed to be ambitious. If you
- 11:04spend an hour doing it and decide it's not for you, that is
- 11:07fine. The point is the trying, not the outcome.
- 11:10Emily: Okay. Day six, and it's our favorite. Your very
- 11:13important job for this day is to give yourself one indulgence.
- 11:17Pick something that you would normally feel guilty for
- 11:19enjoying, and lean all the way in.
- 11:22Heidi: If you're not sure where to start, you can try borrowing
- 11:24a tradition from Iceland and plan an Isbiltur. I think that's
- 11:28how you say it, and that is an ice cream road trip. I love that
- 11:33they have a culture around this. Pick the best ice cream shops
- 11:36within driving distance and visit one, or you know, go big,
- 11:40hit three of them in one afternoon, but if you're gonna
- 11:42do that, maybe just skip the double scoops.
- 11:45Emily: Yeah, I would need to remember the lactaid.
- 11:47Heidi: Oh, definitely.
- 11:49Emily: Or spend the whole day catching up on The Real
- 11:51Housewives in your pajamas, maybe with a charcuterie board.
- 11:55Heidi: Or read a romance novel cover to cover, or stay up way
- 11:57too late watching movies, or get a really nice coffee and drive
- 12:00around with the music up.
- 12:02Emily: And here's why this matters. The thing that makes
- 12:04most of these activities not feel restful is the guilt. You
- 12:09watch four hours of TV, and you feel terrible because you should
- 12:13have been doing something productive. You eat the ice
- 12:15cream, and you feel bad about it later.
- 12:18Heidi: But making a planned exception to your normal
- 12:20standards just takes the guilt off the table. If you wake up on
- 12:24day six and you've already decided today, I have permission
- 12:27to enjoy this thing I love, no judgment allowed, it transforms
- 12:31the experience. The same activity that would have left
- 12:34you feeling gross now feels restorative.
- 12:37Emily: Okay, we've made it to the end of our first week. It's
- 12:40day seven, and today's task is to peek ahead at the rest of the
- 12:44summer and start thinking about what you want to get out of it.
- 12:48Heidi: But we're not going to talk about making a bucket list.
- 12:50Instead, we are going to make a joy list. Dee Michelle Perry
- 12:54posted about this on Instagram, and we think she nailed it. So
- 12:58I'm just going to read what she said. "Bucket lists can start to
- 13:01feel like to do lists, and I don't need any more to do lists.
- 13:05They can be overly aspirational too. I want my seasons to be
- 13:09about where my attention is placed, not what I have
- 13:11achieved. Social media comparisonitis is a real thing.
- 13:16That's why I'm creating a monthly joy list that's
- 13:19accessible, adaptable, affordable, and creates
- 13:22anticipation for things to look forward to each month."
- 13:25Emily: Yes, and that's the goal, right? Bucket lists, man, they
- 13:29can turn into to-do lists, and then we feel like we failed if
- 13:32we didn't check off enough of them by Labor Day, which is why
- 13:35I always refuse to make a summer bucket list with my kids,
- 13:39because I just know it will hang over me all summer, but a joy
- 13:43list is different.
- 13:44Heidi: Yeah, a joy list is, what would I love to pay attention to
- 13:47this summer, not, what would I love to accomplish. Just think
- 13:51about the things you want to notice and do, and taste, and
- 13:54spend time on.
- 13:55Emily: And those four words from her post are so useful:
- 13:58accessible, adaptable, affordable, and creates
- 14:01anticipation. Your summer doesn't have to look like the
- 14:04summer you see online.
- 14:07Heidi: Yeah, there's no summer police. You're not failing if
- 14:10you don't go on a trip or host a backyard party or do whatever
- 14:13else the algorithm is currently telling you summer's supposed to
- 14:16be. Make the right summer for you.
- 14:19Emily: And we're going to be coming back to this idea of
- 14:21designing your summer in our next few episodes, so stay tuned
- 14:24for that. But first, let's recap our summer decompression plan.
- 14:28Day one, close in style. Day two, write your I can finally
- 14:32list. Day three, close the loops. Day four, reconnect with
- 14:36fun. Day five, revisit creativity. Day six, do one
- 14:40indulgent thing, and day seven, peek ahead and make a joylist.
- 14:45Heidi: You don't have to do these in order, and you don't
- 14:47have to do all of them. If you are already into summer break,
- 14:50start with whatever makes the most sense for where you are.
- 14:53Emily: And if you still have a few weeks until the end, use
- 14:56this episode to get your wheels turning. What do you want the
- 14:59start of your break to look like? Give yourself something to
- 15:02look forward to as you calm overhyper children and inventory
- 15:05all your cupboards.
- 15:07Heidi: If this idea resonates with you, you might already be
- 15:10thinking about how to bring more intention to every season, not
- 15:12just summer. And that's the heart of our upcoming book,
- 15:15Structure and Spark. It's the framework for letting each
- 15:19season of the school year work for you, not against you. And
- 15:22it's available for pre-order now. The link is in the show
- 15:25notes, if you want to take a look.
- 15:27Emily: Now for our teacher-approved tip of the
- 15:30week, where we share an actionable tip to help you
- 15:32elevate what matters and simplify the rest. This week's
- 15:36teacher-approved tip is to make a summer sensorium. Tell us
- 15:40about it, Heidi.
- 15:41Heidi: Well, we have talked about this before, back in
- 15:43episodes 134 and 199. But since it happens to be summer again,
- 15:48how is it summer again? I'm so confused, but it is summer, says
- 15:52the calendar and the weather outside, and my allergies, but
- 15:56that makes this the perfect time to revisit this idea. So, a
- 16:00quick refresher on what a sensorium is. Your sensorium is
- 16:04your different sensory perceptions taken as a whole. So
- 16:08your brain takes the inputs from each of your senses and
- 16:10assembles them into your perceived experiences of a
- 16:13moment, or you know, a day, or the whole season. So, if you
- 16:17want a summer that actually feels like summer and not just
- 16:21three months that happened, you have to intentionally include
- 16:24the sensory inputs that make it feel that way.
- 16:28Emily: And that's actually a really fun exercise, because you
- 16:31just need to take a minute to think about your favorite summer
- 16:34sights and sounds and textures, tastes and smells, then decide
- 16:38how to include them in your plans.
- 16:40Heidi: Yeah, think about how enriched you'll feel after a
- 16:43summer of sweet, drippy watermelon and chlorine-scented
- 16:47kids and twinkling fireflies and backyard dance parties and
- 16:51walking in the grass.
- 16:52Emily: This is the magic of summer, and none of those things
- 16:55require a big expense or a big plan. They're all just sensory
- 16:58experiences that you can fold into a regular Tuesday, and it
- 17:02ensures that you're really savoring the full scope of what
- 17:05the season has to offer. So, make yourself a summer
- 17:08sensorium. You can jot it down on a piece of paper, or Teacher
- 17:12Approved Club members, you can use the sensorium page in our
- 17:15summer planner.
- 17:17Heidi: All right, to wrap up the show, we are showing what we're
- 17:19giving extra credit to. Emily, what gets your extra credit this
- 17:22week?
- 17:22Emily: Okay, I'm giving extra credit to a foldable silicone
- 17:27sink topper. So, I have a broken sink. I have two sinks in my
- 17:32bathroom, and one of them has a crack, and I need to deal with
- 17:34that, but I haven't. So, the water is turned off to it, so
- 17:37it's not being used for anything. And one of my
- 17:41daughters has also decided that that's where she likes to get
- 17:44ready, is in my bathroom, where there's room, but she was
- 17:47dropping things in the sink all the time, and just making a
- 17:50mess, and I was like, ah, more counter space would actually be
- 17:53more helpful. So this sink topper, it has holes in it, but
- 17:56they're not big enough for, like, your stuff to fall
- 17:58through, and you just put, you just put it out over the sink,
- 18:02and they come in a couple different sizes, depending what
- 18:04size your sink is, and you suddenly have all this extra
- 18:07counter space, and it even has enough room that if you wanted
- 18:10to turn your sink on, you could.
- 18:12Heidi: Is it flat like a tray?
- 18:13Emily: It's flat like a tray. Yes,
- 18:15Heidi: I've been like picturing something that you curve that
- 18:17you like set in the sink.
- 18:19Emily: No, no, no, no, it's flat, and it goes far enough out
- 18:22from the side of this sink that it's sturdy enough that it can
- 18:26go across.
- 18:27Heidi: Oh, that's cool.
- 18:28Emily: You know, and stay sturdy. So, I think this would
- 18:31be helpful any place you need more counter space, especially
- 18:35if you only have one sink and a small counter, and you need a
- 18:39little extra space, or like in a half bathroom that just has one
- 18:42little sink, but someone needs to get ready in there, you just
- 18:45pop this out, and it's really easy to fold up and put it away,
- 18:47too.
- 18:47Heidi: Well, that's handy.
- 18:48Emily: It is handy. What are you giving extra credit to, Heidi?
- 18:52Heidi: Okay, well, this is much less handy, but I'm giving extra
- 18:54credit to the trend of romanticizing your life. It's in
- 18:59my algorithm, it's all over Instagram recently, and the idea
- 19:02is to just take your regular life, but make it feel like an
- 19:06event we're showing up for. And I love that thought, but you
- 19:10know, I'm busy, and it doesn't seem super practical. But I
- 19:13happened to see some mugs on sale at the store, and they had
- 19:16a cute one that was shaped like a teacup and decorated with
- 19:19tulips, so I grabbed it, and I use it to take my nighttime
- 19:22pills, and it really is just been the most fun little change
- 19:27up. It's like having a tea party with my melatonin. I even got,
- 19:32oh my gosh, I even got a fancy teaspoon, so now I stir glycine
- 19:37into my pill water, like I'm in Downton Abbey or something.
- 19:42Emily: I love it.
- 19:44Heidi: I could have, like, I could have got a teacup, teacup,
- 19:46but I'm storing this in my bin with my pills, so I needed some,
- 19:50I swear a teacup wouldn't be sturdy enough, so the mug works
- 19:53perfectly, and it's just been just a little smile at the end
- 19:56of the day. I love it.
- 19:56Emily: If you're really trying to feel like you're going back
- 19:59in time, you can pretend that you're stirring laudanum into
- 20:02your dream.
- 20:02Heidi: Oh, man, I would sleep so good after that. Way better than
- 20:06glycine and melatonin. Well, put that on the list, that'll be our
- 20:12next extra credit.
- 20:13Emily: No, it will not.
- 20:15Heidi: Okay, well, DM me for that one.
- 20:19That is it for today's episode. Get started on your
- 20:23decompression plan, or save this for whenever your summer
- 20:26actually starts.
- 20:27Emily: And don't forget about our book, Structure and Spark,
- 20:31that is available for pre-order. The link for that is in the show
- 20:34notes, and it is a great way to support us if we've ever helped
- 20:37you with the things that we share.
- 20:41Heidi: We hope you enjoyed this episode of Teacher Approved. I'm
- 20:44Heidi.
- 20:45Emily: And I'm Emily. Thank you for listening. Be sure to follow
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- 20:51episode.
- 20:51Heidi: You can connect with us and other teachers in the
- 20:54Teacher Approved Facebook group. We'll see you here next week.
- 20:57Bye for now.
- 20:58Emily: Bye.