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Bullying with a Capital “B” Part 1 · 5–Minute Parenting: Tips to Help You Raise Competent, Godly Kids.

• 0:32
  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to another episode of 5-Minute Parenting.
• 0:35
  SPEAKER_00: Today we're going to talk about bullying with a capital B.
• 0:40
  SPEAKER_00: What parents can do, part one.
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  SPEAKER_00: Bullying is becoming a huge issue affecting younger and younger children.
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  SPEAKER_00: Comparatech conducted a survey of over a thousand parents of children over the age of five with these results.
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  SPEAKER_00: Forty-seven point seven percent of parents with children ages six to ten reported their children were bullied.
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  SPEAKER_00: 56.4% of parents with children ages 11 to 13 reported their children were bullied.
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  SPEAKER_00: Bullying increases the risk for depression, anxiety, sleep difficulties, lower academic achievement, dropping out of school, and even suicide, according to the National Bullying Prevention Center.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is an excellent link for information.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm going to put it in the notes.
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  SPEAKER_00: More than half of all teenagers in America today see bullying as a major problem among their peers.
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  SPEAKER_00: In a Pew research survey, teenagers were asked directly about bullying and ranked it as a problem above drug and alcohol addiction.
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  SPEAKER_00: About 28% of U.S.
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  SPEAKER_00: students in grades 6 to 12 reported experiencing bullying.
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  SPEAKER_00: About 30% admitted to bullying others themselves, and 70% say they have seen bullying in the schools.
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  SPEAKER_00: Research shows that most bullying occurs during the middle school years, but about a fifth of high school students reported being bullied on school property.
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  SPEAKER_00: Another 15% said they'd experienced cyberbullying, a whole other area of bullying.
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  SPEAKER_00: So let's look at the definition of bullying and the different kinds of bullying.
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  SPEAKER_00: As defined by the U.S.
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  SPEAKER_00: Department of Health and Human Resources, bullying is aggressive, repeated, unwanted behavior that includes an imbalance of power between the children.
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  SPEAKER_00: Kids who bully use their power, whether their physical strengths, access to embarrassing information, or popularity to control or harm others.
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  SPEAKER_00: Bullying can be classified into four types: verbal, social, physical, and damage to property.
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  SPEAKER_00: Verbal bullying is saying or writing something that is cruel to intended to harm, and includes such things as making inappropriate sexual comments or threatening to cause pain.
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  SPEAKER_00: Social bullying, sometimes referred to as relational bullying, involves hurting someone's reputation or relationships and includes spreading rumors or causing intentional public embarrassment.
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  SPEAKER_00: Physical bullying involves hurting a person's body and can include actions like hitting, kicking, spitting, pushing, sexually abusing, or taking one's possessions.
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  SPEAKER_00: The fourth type of bullying involves any type of intentional damage to a child's property.
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  SPEAKER_00: And now, because of the prevalence of media technology such as phones, email, chat rooms, instant messaging, and online posts, children must deal with electronic bullying or cyberbullying.
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  SPEAKER_00: Cyberbullying is not really a different type of bullying, it just involves an electronic context.
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  SPEAKER_00: It includes verbal bullying and social bullying.
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  SPEAKER_00: So how can parents help their child deal with bullying, whether they are directly affected or know others who are being bullied?
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  SPEAKER_00: Only about 20% to 30% of students who are bullied notify adults about the bullying.
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  SPEAKER_00: If your child admits to being bullied, first let them know you are on their side.
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  SPEAKER_00: Second, help them realize they are not to take the blame for being bullied.
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  SPEAKER_00: The bully is the disturbed one, not them.
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  SPEAKER_00: Third, just because a bully says something about them does not make it true.
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  SPEAKER_00: Fourth, remind them of their value in God's sight.
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  SPEAKER_00: And fifth, help them understand that no one can make them feel inferior without their permission.
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  SPEAKER_00: Next week, we will look at some traits of a bully child and ways you can help, for the lack of a better word, bullyproof your child.
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  SPEAKER_00: So join us next week for part two of bullying with a capital B.