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Heal Body Shame with Hypnosis - Self-Acceptance That Fuels Real Change · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing
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  genuine. Issues.
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  Brought to you by The Hypnotherapist, demanded by
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  celebrities, CEOs and even royalty, Adam Cox.
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  These recordings took place live from Adam's clinic in London's
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  world famous Harley Street. So get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Hi, it's Adam here. Now this is a hypnosis session
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  all about two things. It's about releasing shame and
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  judgement, but it's also about unleashing a new level of self
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  acceptance. And this session was created for
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  a client that in their past were overweight, but as a result of
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  losing a lot of weight in a relatively short period of time,
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  it meant that they had loose skin.
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  And more importantly, they had certain emotions that they felt
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  were linked to the idea of rejection.
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  Because when they were young, they felt rejected based on
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  their body shape, that they weren't accepted or acceptable.
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  Now the problem is, is that if as a young person you learned
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  that in order to be accepted you're going to use control to
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  change things, then actually you've seen the positive tool
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  that dissatisfaction and shaming yourself can actually create.
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  And there are some people that are advocates of fat shaming
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  because they feel it's motivation.
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  I disagree. I think it's completely possible
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  to accept yourself as you are and still have a desire to
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  change something, in the same way that you can be grateful for
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  your life and still desire to make your life even better.
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  But most people don't think that way.
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  Most people believe that in order to make a change, they
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  have to create so much dissatisfaction in order to
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  create the motivation to create that change.
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  And it can work. But here's the thing, it can
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  work if you are actually able to vary the variables.
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  So if you can eat less and exercise more, and that's what
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  this client did to lose the weight, but loose skin is
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  different. That requires a different
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  strategy. So this requires an element of
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  self acceptance. So it starts with them imagining
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  themselves in swimwear on a beach and two different versions
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  of them. A version of them that is losing
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  in self acceptance but their body looks exactly the same and
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  the other carrying lots of shame and insecurities.
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  Now bearing in mind that they are still the same person with
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  exactly the same body features, it's just one version of them
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  has more self acceptance and the other has more insecurity and
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  shame and they get to see what their life would be like if they
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  let go of that shame and had more self acceptance.
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  Now there is a a great way of believing that if you accept
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  yourself as you are then your self esteem goes up and that's
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  true, but that doesn't mean that you can't you desire to make
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  certain changes. For example, this client, even
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  though they had loose skin, certain parts of their body,
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  they could utilize things like gaining more muscle mass to
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  change not only their body composition and their
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  confidence, but also how their skin is in proportion to their
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  body. But again, it does not require
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  shaming and dissatisfaction in order to build muscle.
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  You can do it from a place of inspiration, aspiration, and
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  growth rather than shaming. So if there is a part of you
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  that you don't like, you're dissatisfied with or that you
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  feel ashamed of certain parts of your body, the kind of thing
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  that you wouldn't like people to see, for example, or you hide A
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  mask or you hope that people don't bring it up, this session
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  could be for you. It's mainly based on the body
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  shape and the loose skin, but it could be based on anything at
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  all, so you can make it fit for your circumstances.
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  And if you like the idea of a more bespoke session actually
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  customized to you and your situation, have a look in the
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  show notes. There's lots of free resources
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  there. Free downloads, free guides,
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  free courses and also the ability to have a consultation
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  call with me as well. For now though, I'd like you to
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  find a quiet, comfortable place where you won't be distracted or
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  disturbed. Relax and enjoy the session.
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  Take a deep breath in, and as you breathe in, breathe in a
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  feeling of pure relaxation, and as you exhale, feel a wonderful
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  feeling of release, not just releasing tension, but releasing
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  anything else, any heavy expectations, any feelings of
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  dissatisfaction. Allow the outward breath to be
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  the release valve and as you breathe in, breathe in a
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  wonderful feeling of acceptance. Imagine a colour that represents
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  self acceptance, bright colour. And as you breathe in, imagine
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  breathing in that bright vibrant colour of self acceptance and as
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  you exhale, release any feeling of inner judgement.
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  Everyone judges, but sometimes judgements can be harsh and
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  unfair. Every single thing that exists
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  could be judged in entirely different ways.
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  I want you to imagine someone with a scar could be judged as
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  unlucky or ugly, as a hero or a victim.
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  And I want you to imagine. Imagine an animal like a puppy
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  and just imagine but if that puppy was born without one leg.
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  Some people would perceive that puppy to be even more cute or
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  adorable, while others would perceive it to be deformed and
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  not even have a right to exist. So when you breathe in that self
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  acceptance, I want you to imagine unlocking the lens of
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  self acceptance that perceives who you are through a lens of
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  positive evaluations. The moment a perceived floor
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  becomes an attribute of a wonderful quality like
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  determination, empowerment, then suddenly it loses all of its
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  power to create shame, to create dissatisfaction.
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  So as you breathe in and breathe out, I want you to imagine a
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  public beach. And I'd like you to imagine
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  there you are, and you have two different versions of you.
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  Imagine a version of you oozing in confidence and self
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  acceptance. Your body shape is exactly the
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  same, but that version of you fully accepts every part of your
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  body shape. And then imagine another version
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  of you, riddled with insecurity, feeling that everyone will
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  judge, look, stare, comment or mark.
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  And in both cases it's exactly the same version of you.
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  The only difference is 1 version has full self acceptance and the
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  other has 0 self acceptance. And I want you to imagine both
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  versions of you go down to the public beach only with swimming
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  shorts on. But I want you to observe how
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  differently they interact with the environment.
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  That confident version of you, brimming with self acceptance.
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  See that version of you smiling as they walk down the beach,
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  playing in the water, maybe jogging or just lying in the
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  sun. But the other version of you
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  tries to hide in places where fewer people would be, doesn't
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  move around so much. And I want you to create a
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  perception. A perception that these emotions
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  create self fulfilling prophecies.
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  The version of you with full self acceptance feels that
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  because they accept themself, other people accept them too.
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  They notice the smiles, the eye contact, words of friendliness
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  or positivity, but observe the version of you filled with
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  insecurity, fear of judgement, self shame.
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  That version of you will pick up on any looks of disapproval.
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  That version of you will pick up on facial expressions avoidance.
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  I want you to get a sense then how you feel about yourself
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  creates the world around you, and the more you believe that to
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  be true, the truer it becomes. So just imagine seeing both ends
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  of the spectrum, one enjoying the beach, 1 tolerating the
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  beach, 1 interacting with other people, the other avoiding
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  people, and both are possible for you.
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  The version of you filled with self acceptance does not pretend
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  they are perfect. Self acceptance does not mean
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  perfection, it just means that they accept who they are for
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  what they are and it doesn't limit them from wanting to
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  improve. But they can improve from a
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  place of progress not to suddenly be good enough.
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  Growth through progress and improvement feels different to
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  exactly the same progress that comes from the stick of
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  dissatisfaction. Some people believe that they
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  can only be happy when they get to their destination.
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  Others happily travel to the same destination, and I wonder
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  what your unconscious would rather do.
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  Be happy one day when you meet some arbitrary rule or standard
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  as to what is acceptable, or to consider yourself already
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  acceptable with a desire to eat well?
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  Exercise to evolve from a position of progress and self
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  improvement, not from a place of self loathing.
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  And as you imagine, looking at both versions of you there on
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  the beach allow your mind to take you even deeper, relaxed.
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  That's it. I want you to feel that you're
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  unconscious. Your body is not under attack
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  anymore. Allow the muscles in your face
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  to relax, your shoulders to soften, and the abdomen all the
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  way round to your hips to be allowed to be just as they are.
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  And notice as you breathe in and breathe out slowly.
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  You are in your body. You are not on trial in your
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  body when you say, drift back in time to that version of you when
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  you were just 18 years old. See how you looked, your body
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  shape. Observe a moment where you felt,
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  then rejected, unwanted. I want you to see the expression
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  in your face. At some point that young brain
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  of yours added 1 + 1 and came up with three.
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  A thought, a seed of an idea was planted.
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  I'm not acceptable as how I look now, and if I change my body
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  then I can earn acceptance. The belief wasn't weakness, it
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  was adaptation. A craving for love, connection
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  and approval. And all that weight loss that
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  followed wasn't vanity, it was a craving for connection.
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  It was survival. So with that new perspective,
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  take a moment now to acknowledge the intelligence of that
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  response. That body did what it thought it
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  had to do to protect you from emotional pain.
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  And imagine that younger version of you standing in front of you.
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  Now they're on the beach. Notice their effort, their
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  determination, their hope that changing the body would finally
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  create safety and acceptance. But I want you to let them know
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  the reality. They don't have to be accepted.
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  They don't have to earn love. I want you to tell that 18 year
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  old version of you they can accept themselves 100% and still
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  have a desire to change it. Dissatisfaction is not required
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  for change. I want you to go forward in time
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  when they've lost that weight and see them with the loose
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  skin, remaining body fat, the marks on their skin that
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  represent that change and tell them they are not evidence of
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  failure. They are evidence of history, of
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  effort, of resilience. Their body isn't unfinished,
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  it's experienced. And that shame, that quiet,
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  corrosive voice, was never your own voice.
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  It was a perception of your own insecurities, of what others
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  would think or say. And imagine returning that shame
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  to where it belongs. Not with anger, just with
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  clarity. Just imagine sending it floating
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  out there on the ocean on that beach.
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  I want you to imagine a full length mirror there on that
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  beach, still observing that self accepting version of you and the
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  insecure version of you, and knowing that you're somewhere in
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  between for now. And imagine looking at yourself
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  in that full length mirror, seeing your waist, the abdomen,
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  the thighs, and instead of evaluating, measuring, judging,
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  you simply acknowledge this is my body, it's not my enemy and I
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  accept it 100%. And I want you to feel the
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  difference between acceptance and giving up.
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  Acceptance is not defeat. Acceptance says I stop attacking
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  myself and growth says I choose to care for myself.
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  And when they work hand in hand, they are not opposites, they are
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  partners. Rather than having to choose
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  acceptance or control, you can embrace both.
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  Accept yourself fully, control your behavior, your thoughts to
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  improve yourself from a place of progress.
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  And I want you to feel from this place.
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  Motivation feels different. Movement becomes appreciation.
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  Nutrition becomes respect. Training becomes collaboration.
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  Not punishment, not correction, but communication.
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  I want you to feel that when you choose to exercise, you feel
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  like you're investing in yourself.
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  And when you choose to eat high nutrition meals, you're saying
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  that you value your quality of life.
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  And when you really feel connected to your mind and your
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  body, I want you to feel that you are truly listening to
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  yourself. And I want you to imagine a
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  future now. A future of self acceptance with
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  a desire to make slow, steady progress, and that body that
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  feels accepted responds faster than a body under criticism.
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  That your progress accelerates when it's no longer blocked by
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  shame, and that future version of you stops chasing a body to
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  fix the past and starts building a body that supports the future.
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  And I want you to feel a quiet sense of pride begin to emerge.
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  Not pride in your appearance, but pride in your integrity.
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  Someone that accepts themselves fully while still evolving.
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  That is emotional maturity, that is ownership, and from this
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  moment forward, any improvement you make comes from self
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  respect, not self rejection. Your body becomes a partner in
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  growth, not a reminder of pain. Those two versions of you on the
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  beach start to return and you get to decide which one
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  integrates with you. The version of self acceptance
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  or the version that uses insecurity as a stick to
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  motivate you through pain. When you're ready to choose
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  which one you integrate with, let me know by nodding your head
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  and allow that version to come back into your body.
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  And now you look at yourself through the mirror.
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  You look at yourself through their eyes, full of self
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  acceptance and the other version of you.
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  They're still there on the beach, still hiding in the
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  shadows. It's time to return to the
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  present. But I want you to get a sense
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  then any rejection and pain is no longer in you.
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  It's in that other version of you there on the beach.
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  What comes back when I count from one to 10 is a version of
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  you that feels light aligned and full of self acceptance.
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  That's it. Take a deep breath in through
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  your nose and out through your nose.
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  Wiggle your fingers, wiggle your toes.
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  Connect and calibrate into the here and the now as I now count
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  from 1:00 to 10:00 to awaken you.
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  Starting to count 123 waking up 456 more alert 7-8.
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  Open your eyes. Open your eyes 910 Wide awake,
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  Wide awake. Wide awake.
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