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Rabbi Moshe Haber Path of the Just-Fearing God More Than People: Beautifying Mitzvot 10.27.25 · Rabbi Moshe Haber - Daily Mussar/Weekly Perasha

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  Now you don't say this. We've been talking about the
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  idea of doing this for to the fullest term is called Hassi.
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  So most recently we dealt with Hassi Mira Shamaya.
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  Mira shamaya meant overall recognizing that God's evolved
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  in every single area and that creates a fear of God.
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  He gave us three steps for that and that was, if I remember
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  correctly, one was to recognize how unbelievably powerful Hashem
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  is, and then a part of it also was to realize how awesome my
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  sham is and which is very similar.
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  And the third one is in comparison, how small we are.
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  And we explain how you out Jemayim is really it should be
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  first on our list, but really we're more fearful and conscious
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  of what people think naturally, that's how it is than we are of
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  what God thinks. And it should be the other way
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  around. That's how it is, right?
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  The camera says that when students came in to visit a
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  certain rabbi and they asked the rabbi for a blessing empty
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  before he passed away. He said I bless you that you
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  should be as fearful of Hashem as you are a people.
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  And then he said that's the blessing you're going to give
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  us. That's it.
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  And he said, I wish this is comes true.
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  In other words, it's very difficult to actually applied to
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  be so conscious of God like you are a people.
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  That's the way with life is fine.
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  We discussed this at length. Now you have.
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  Why? Why is?
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  Why is that? Because right, people really
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  start to fear God, God forbid when things are going South,
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  right, right. That's when you start to
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  reflect. But the person that provides
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  like what is the brain work like that?
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  The person that is the source of everything good in your life
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  doesn't get that type of respect.
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  I guess we take things for. Granted, the one I mean God is
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  always here. They're very simple is because
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  the first reason he gives because God doesn't seem like
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  he's in the room. So if I if you're going to look
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  at me funny, All right, let's say that's that's it turns out I
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  have AI don't know what I have a stain on my Jack and you're
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  looking at my stain the whole time and I realize that.
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  So I get embarrassed, right. So that feels much more real.
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  And the fact that maybe I has Shem said is I said something
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  long yesterday, right. One is right here, it's present,
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  it's real, and the other one feels distant, abstract and hard
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  to see. And because of that, for
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  whatever reason, we are much more in the moment now.
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  We are in the distance. That's just the way mine works,
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  even though I shouldn't have got a million more time of power
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  then whatever's in front of us. Take for example, what's going
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  on in the politics, right? People are nervous, people are
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  scared, people can't sleep. I've met a multiple hysterical
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  woman in the last few weeks, multiple who have said things
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  are like, oh, I'm moving here, I'm moving there.
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  Way moving Exactly. I'm exactly the the golden
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  place. I don't know where it is right
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  until something happens over there too, but it's hysteria.
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  And you say to yourself, and I'll be the same way.
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  Yarat shamayim should be much more prevalent than yarat some
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  person who has limited control. And the reality is it's front
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  and center. It's in our minds, it's what we
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  see, and it scares us. Fear of heaven is much more
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  distant and that's why it takes work to make Hashem in your
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  life, to bring Him in front of your face, to recognize he did
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  this, He did that, He did the other thing, and then he
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  realized how much he's here. And then your fear becomes a bit
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  more about God than a little less about people.
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  If we ever get to the point that it's equal, we'll literally got
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  to adore for a person to really see God in the same state as
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  they see people. Those are the most Hashu people
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  in the world. And I'm talking about, I don't
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  want to say a handful. There's maybe a hand.
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  It's it's a very difficult thing to attain.
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  Our job is to get to some level, to think about Hashem somewhat
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  and to have a degree of fear of Hashem, to watch what we say, to
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  watch what we see, to watch what we think, all because God is in
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  the back of our mind. That's the idea, is it?
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  Is it? More the handful?
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  Is it more in the Jose Bischewaba people or is it?
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  You see it No, because whether the tribe people have an
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  interesting mix, they have a lot of God in their mind, but
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  there's a lot of other things that are bringing into
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  Tishewell. It's in the very, from what I've
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  seen, it's in the very genuine people who worked on themselves
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  the entire life. And the reality is you don't get
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  to that level unless you're constantly working in yourself.
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  Everything in life requires a lot of levels of musar.
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  The most Hashu people that I know work on themselves
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  constantly, and they're very real people.
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  Real means they really sit and think about their thoughts and
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  think about what bothers them and think about what they're
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  working on. And they developed themselves
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  slowly to a point. They get angry less, they get
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  insulted less. Yeah, less busy.
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  We'll come up with all those things that we want to get to.
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  It's a lifetime of work. And they got.
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  And the reality is, you know what your mind is, what you want
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  to be, you want to be in that world.
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  You don't want to be busy with what so and so things and what's
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  those things and what people are going to say.
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  You don't want the detail you like.
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  Because as much as we are busy with that, that's how shallow we
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  are. It's reality.
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  As much as we are busy with other people have to say which
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  everyone is to a degree that dictates how shallow and
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  conscious to how real you are. The more you're out your mind up
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  against the more you're out Adam is the more real genuine you can
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  become and that's how we'll go again.
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  These things are layers and layers and layers.
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  A lifetime of worked where at 1:20 you want to say that I got
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  there. I was able to overcome kavod.
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  I was able to overcome caring what people have to say.
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  This is a lifetime work reality for many reasons.
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  Now let's see about kavod, not Kavod, the people, the kavod of
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  Hashem. This is 362.
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  Now for a little bit, Hine second line of Hine kavota
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  mitzvahikada. Another area where a person
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  wants to be very good and dedicated is to do mitzvot with
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  kavar, which means to do them in the full way, and that is to
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  take any mitzvah. It could be a mitzvah of vulav
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  ET dog suka could be mitzvah of to feel in.
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  It could be learning to be praying, whatever the mitzvah
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  may be and do it in. There are 1,000,000 levels.
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  Do it at the best level he can do.
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  That's a couple of the mitzvah. That's another area where a
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  person wants to be very good at. We just discussed Yidad
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  Shahmaya, very difficult. We want to work at that, and I
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  discussed couple with Shamaya and couple with Shamaya,
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  interestingly enough, is this, how well do you do in mitzvah,
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  For example, you're building a shoe.
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  How nice do you beautify the inside of a shoe?
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  I'm talking about how big you make.
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  How nice do you beautify the inside a shoe?
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  How pretty is the hijal? You're making a set with
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  dedicating A savitra. How nice does a case look?
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  And you say, why is that important?
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  That's Kabul tamitzvah. You're adorning, in a sense,
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  God's existence, if you can say that, and that's what you're
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  doing all right. So so that you should do it like
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  that if that's your intent. Oh for sure, this is not for
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  others. This is again of that real area
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  that a person can easiest looking for building among the
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  shoe, just so you get covered, build something crazy, you know,
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  some gold. Just so people talk about that.
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  All the other things keep those ideas outside of the turtle.
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  Those are not turtle ideas I'm talking about.
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  Again, you're talking about a pure thought.
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  Someone is a genuine person, someone who's guided properly.
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  Again, this is another area maybe hitting a literally a
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  hitting a rough spot. This is another area that can be
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  misconstrued, misunderstood, misapplied, and we've seen it
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  throughout the drift world where people have misunderstood this
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  concept. I'm talking about a guy who
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  maybe this is an extreme, but a guy who's living on a very small
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  *** check and he decides to dedicate a lot of money to that
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  throat. He's not doing that for cavort
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  because people don't know how much you pay.
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  If he tells people like I did, I can't take that out the window.
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  But if he doesn't tell people, right, So why is he doing that?
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  He likes me. It's what he wants his kids to
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  see how much he cares about. It's what that's special.
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  Someone who goes ahead and builds the biggest, craziest,
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  you know, and you got to make sure the guys get the right
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  Cavanaugh. Otherwise, I don't know.
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  That's not this Kavod Shamim is really beautify A mitzvah.
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  And again, it's got to be about Hashem.
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  It's not about me. Why?
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  Why are you mentioning the examples that are considered
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  misguided? Because those examples end up
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  becoming another angle to beautify my cover.
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  And that's again, the something we want to avoid because you
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  always say this, it all comes back to people's cover.
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  And a person has to avoid allowing these avenues.
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  You know, if the guy's a, let's say, a nasty guy, but he spends
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  a lot of money on his talit, something wrong, right?
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  The guy is a difficult person and he's all busy with how what
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  kind of Sofia he got to write his selfie toda.
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  Again, something's not right there.
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  Kavod mitzvot means he's a good person who wants to do more for
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  Hashem and his Ave. To beautify something for Hashem
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  is to take God's mitzvot and to build them up.
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  That's the reason to be so real with yourself.
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  That's the hard thing, which is hard to be right.
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  You're really looking in the. Mirror and.
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  Yeah, yeah, yeah. He's in Montana.
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  He's in Montana. And when he's doing everything
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  is about your approach and how real you are.
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  And again, being that we live in a world that is popularity
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  driven, being that we live in a world that's publicity, meaning
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  that people get destroyed by disrespect, it makes these
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  things much more difficult. And that's you have to be much
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  more real. So if you're donating a favorite
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  to that and you're donating it to a place and no one knows,
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  right? And you're doing it because
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  otherwise they don't have to a beautiful thing.
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  And that's real, right? If you are, I don't know,
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  something like that, you're building in a place that
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  otherwise will not be able to build a If you're buying a
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  toilet and you decide you know what the answer is, person
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  making a class. Do you want the one that was
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  spun by someone else or religious with you on the one
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  that was spun by the guy who's I went to the McVeigh yesterday.
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  Can you choose the guy? I went to McVeigh and no one's
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  going to know about that. You just don't have your own
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  sake. It's a beautiful thing that is
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  real, but once there's publicity involved is when you have to
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  decide why am I doing this? And it's possible it doesn't
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  have anything to do with our shin and then it takes away the
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  whole beauty. Let's read the silence of it.
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  He says the Basuka ZE Levan veil.
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  ZE Levan veil means this is my guard and I want to beautify him
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  and he can't beautify the guard. You can't beautify his miss.
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  What? It's not hell if I know from
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  it's what? I'm going to beautify his miss.
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  What? See.
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  See. Nah, Nah to feline.
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  Nah, right? You give him a choice.
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  Your son's going to vomit. You give me a choice.
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  Do you get the basic one or do you get the better one?
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  You want to do this, probably. You get the better one, but you
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  don't tell everyone about it, right?
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  You're making a separate identicating 1.
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  You want to get the basic one. Generic 1.
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  You can only afford the basic. You do the basic one for sure.
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  You do what you can do. But if you can do more and you
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  do more, and you don't make it about you, you make it about the
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  beautiful thing. You have a choice.
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  Let's say you have the basic 1 is worth.
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  Let's say a total, right? I don't know the price of total
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  today. Let's say $20,000.
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  OK, am I off? Not the case.
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  Forget the. Case 33. 33 OK 34,000 Now you
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  have an option of upgrading. How far should you upgrade?
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  You should upgrade up until the value of a third of your money
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  or a third of the total. So you can go up a big number.
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  You can go up to let's say that's what I example 45 total
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  different price right and you could spend if you decide to
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  spend even more, you can assume that is going to give you the
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  money for the point being a person should beautify my sorts.
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  He's going to bring now many sources.
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  Dots have talked to him is talking about this constantly.
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  Shen daiba Soto mitzvah levada. It's not enough to do the
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  generic mitzvah. You would never take the generic
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  pill. It's not enough to do the
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  generic mitzvah. It's better to respect it and to
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  glorify it. All right?
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  And to get out of the mindset which says let me just do the
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  basics. Let me get away with it.
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  More than that, we'll do more. An idea of idur mitzvah is to do
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  more. That's what he tells you right?
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  Well, that seem in me Sheikh Kale a lot more.
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  You take yourself out of their minds that what he says Rabbi,
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  is it good? Did I do the job?
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  That's not enough. Say more.
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  I want to do more. I should be honest.
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  But again, it's got to come over your place.
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  If it's coming from publicity place, we say, oh wow, look what
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  he did. You see she's so and so you see
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  how so and so unbelievable because I'm doing so well.
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  Da da da. I'll see you later.
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  That's not what I want to do, right?
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  That's the mindset. Oh no.
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  What what about go to the to the love guy, right?
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  And they kind of sketch you a little bit to how great The
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  thing is. So you're paying more for
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  something you shouldn't be paying more, but if your intent
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  is good. Do you this and Yan perfect this
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  and Yan, you dictated that occasional as well.
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  Again, well, these concepts, the main point is the outcome and
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  the outcome is that you're showing more love and mitzvah,
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  you're showing that you want to spend more on this and something
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  else. You showing yourself, showing
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  your wife, showing your kids, because what we care about, and
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  that is the outcome. If it so happens to be you spend
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  a lot of money on your love and it turns out that you got
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  sketched, you still showed showed just the same.
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  No, not for you totally for you right to build you.
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  It is all building you and developing you.
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  Specifically in these areas you got Shamayam and Kapoor
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  Shamayam. These are areas where you are
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  meant to display through these avenues more of a respect of
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  God, more of a care to glorify God.
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  All these things like a person decides I want the shul to look
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  nice to my house or the Gemara that says the the highest
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  building in town should be a shul or the idea that someone
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  says I don't know these type of concepts.
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  Someone said they want to spend a lot of money for my money on
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  the mitzvah. All my feeling that I spend on
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  them as Rizal that I have, that's when I put the money in
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  these type of concepts of all concepts we are showing.
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  This is what matters to me and that's therefore take me to
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  matters. Other things, I'll give you an
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  example and make you make you feel a little better is tuition.
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  In a sense people hate the tuition concepts, right?
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  We all do. No one likes tuition, but at
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  least you can feel comfortable by the fact, listen, you spend
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  money on a lot of things, right? You spend loads of money on a
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  lot of things. At least this is a mitzvah, and
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  it's a very important mitzvah. One of our biggest
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  responsibilities out there is to teach our children.
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  So I'm not saying the school has the right to create these
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  numbers. I'm not showing it makes any
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  sense. At least you can know you're
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  showing what you do with ease. You're showing this is what I
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  appreciate is what I value stop is.