Latest / Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families / #972 This Week in Parenting: Bluey, BuzzFeed & Bad Impersonations
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- 0:03Speaker 1: It's the Happy Families podcast.
- 0:05Speaker 2: It's the podcast for the time poor parent who just answers.
- 0:10Speaker 3: Now, Okay, today a very serious day on that well
- 0:13Speaker 3: serious is the wrong word. My favorite episode. This has
- 0:15Speaker 3: become literally my favorite episode on the Happy Families podcast.
- 0:19Speaker 3: It's where Kylie and I have a look at this
- 0:21Speaker 3: week in parenting. That's right, we're going to go deep
- 0:28Speaker 3: on what's been in the news in parenting of the
- 0:31Speaker 3: last week, two weeks.
- 0:32Speaker 4: I don't think say we're growing deep.
- 0:34Speaker 3: Okay, well, we're going to be superficial and flimsy and
- 0:37Speaker 3: we're going to talk about what's in the news about
- 0:38Speaker 3: parenting because, let's face it, news. I've had a realization
- 0:41Speaker 3: news is actually entertainment. That's the whole purpose of news.
- 0:45Speaker 3: Really well done news is obviously not that. But when
- 0:48Speaker 3: you look at news websites, most of them are just
- 0:50Speaker 3: coming up with a whole lot of entertainment rubbish. Like
- 0:53Speaker 3: they're not like quality news at all. Anyway, i'd like
- 0:55Speaker 3: ress that's my little rant for the morning. Let's stay
- 0:57Speaker 3: focused today, Kylie. Four stories. Four stories. I have no
- 1:00Speaker 3: idea at all. What are they going to show up in?
- 1:02Speaker 3: You get to play the game. What is story number one.
- 1:05Speaker 4: Our first story this week is a family favorite Blue.
- 1:09Speaker 3: Yes, what's you're looking at?
- 1:11Speaker 4: It's fame?
- 1:12Speaker 3: What's sign?
- 1:15Speaker 5: Of course?
- 1:16Speaker 4: I know where you are? Frisky. ABC over the weekend
- 1:22Speaker 4: released their very first twenty eight minute episode.
- 1:27Speaker 3: Felt like a full feature film compared to the seven
- 1:29Speaker 3: minute episodes. If you haven't caught the Bluey Bug, I
- 1:32Speaker 3: don't know what to say to you. I don't know
- 1:33Speaker 3: how I can help you.
- 1:35Speaker 4: Just last year, I went on an overseas holiday to
- 1:38Speaker 4: America and I was sitting with friends and their family
- 1:42Speaker 4: looked at me and they said, is your family as
- 1:44Speaker 4: obsessed about Bluey as we are. They've got kids literally
- 1:48Speaker 4: aged from about eight through to twenty three, and they
- 1:52Speaker 4: all love Blue.
- 1:55Speaker 3: I heard this really funny thing last week on the
- 1:57Speaker 3: Hamishanity podcast, one of my favorite podcasts are very funny. Guy.
- 2:00Speaker 3: They've got this twenty year old guy who's jumped on
- 2:02Speaker 3: the pod. He's got this secret skill or a special skill,
- 2:05Speaker 3: I can't remember what they call it. And they've said
- 2:07Speaker 3: to him, so what is it that we're going to
- 2:08Speaker 3: test you on? And he's twenty years old. He's memorized
- 2:11Speaker 3: every Blue episode and so he can hear a five
- 2:13Speaker 3: second clip and know the name of the episode that
- 2:16Speaker 3: it's from. Joe Brum, the creator of Blue, was on
- 2:18Speaker 3: there and he couldn't believe this kid. And Hami Shenandi said,
- 2:21Speaker 3: how I mean, you're twenty years old Blue, You're not
- 2:23Speaker 3: exactly the demographic, the target demo. And this guy said,
- 2:26Speaker 3: he was at school his week on the Gold Coast.
- 2:27Speaker 3: All his friends were getting drunk and he decided to
- 2:30Speaker 3: watch Blue because he didn't want to do what his
- 2:31Speaker 3: friends were doing. And he's watched it again and again
- 2:34Speaker 3: he fell in love with Blue. I thought, how wholesome,
- 2:36Speaker 3: What a great story. Anyway, we need to talk about
- 2:39Speaker 3: Blue on the weekend. Spoiler alert, there will be spoilers
- 2:41Speaker 3: in this three minute conversation. But when we talk about
- 2:45Speaker 3: parenting news, this is such sublime content for our kids
- 2:51Speaker 3: to watch. There's a reason that it's the number one
- 2:53Speaker 3: TV show on the planet. The show is called The Sign.
- 2:59Speaker 3: You're almost just thinking about it. You cried more in
- 3:02Speaker 3: bluey than I've seen you cry in anything.
- 3:05Speaker 4: You're giving away all my secret.
- 3:07Speaker 3: What was it that made you cry the most?
- 3:09Speaker 4: So The Sign is all about a for sale sign
- 3:12Speaker 4: and the emotions associated with that. Now you're getting me
- 3:15Speaker 4: or choked up, and having gone through a number of
- 3:18Speaker 4: moves with our children, was the guilt.
- 3:21Speaker 3: Was the guilt there for you?
- 3:22Speaker 4: It wasn't so much the guilt, it was just reliving
- 3:25Speaker 4: some of those experiences as they walk through their empty house,
- 3:29Speaker 4: oh for the last time. I remember our last home
- 3:33Speaker 4: and being really ready to leave it in some ways,
- 3:37Speaker 4: but that last walkthrough was heartbreaking because, as everyone would know,
- 3:43Speaker 4: when you live in a home, there is so much
- 3:45Speaker 4: attached to that home and to that space. It might
- 3:49Speaker 4: be the first place you brought your children home to
- 3:51Speaker 4: after they were born, it might be where Grandma spent
- 3:54Speaker 4: her last few hours. Like, there's just there's so many
- 3:57Speaker 4: different experiences that you have. You watch your child walk
- 4:00Speaker 4: for the first time, it's just a really personal, intimate space.
- 4:05Speaker 4: And when you know that it's the last time you're
- 4:07Speaker 4: going to see it in that light, or ever walk
- 4:10Speaker 4: through those doors again, it really just pulls at the heartstrings.
- 4:15Speaker 3: And the creators, the scriptwriters, the voice actors, they do
- 4:19Speaker 3: such a beautiful job of highlighting. I mean, you've got
- 4:23Speaker 3: Chili who's not open to talking about the move right
- 4:26Speaker 3: you've got, but.
- 4:26Speaker 4: She's also it's because she doesn't want to add her
- 4:29Speaker 4: anxiety and her concern to her kids, So she's trying
- 4:31Speaker 4: to put on a big brave face about this is
- 4:34Speaker 4: this is going to be an adventure. Kids.
- 4:35Speaker 3: You've got Bandit, who's single minded about I've got a
- 4:38Speaker 3: great opportunity and we need to go and do this, and.
- 4:40Speaker 4: I want to give my kids a better future. I
- 4:43Speaker 4: want them to have what I didn't have.
- 4:45Speaker 3: Yeah. And then we've got little Bingo, Yeah, who's just
- 4:48Speaker 3: excited about the move because it doesn't make sense until
- 4:51Speaker 3: suddenly it does. We sold the house, remember, so Bingo,
- 4:57Speaker 3: you know that when you sell your house, you have
- 4:59Speaker 3: to move out of it, right what?
- 5:02Speaker 4: And that really pulled at my past strings because we
- 5:04Speaker 4: have watched that with our kids that was so excited
- 5:07Speaker 4: about one of our moves, so excited until it happened,
- 5:11Speaker 4: and then all of the realities of leaving behind their
- 5:14Speaker 4: home and their neighbors and their best friends at school
- 5:17Speaker 4: and not going to the same school, and all that
- 5:21Speaker 4: emotion that hits after the fact.
- 5:25Speaker 3: And then there's that wonderful Chinese proverb or parable about
- 5:29Speaker 3: the farmer that I'm not going to go into now.
- 5:31Speaker 3: It's been doing the rounds on social media for a
- 5:32Speaker 3: number of years, but they've just done it so well,
- 5:35Speaker 3: so well, such great teaching about resilience and whether things
- 5:38Speaker 3: are terrible or whether they're not terrible. I'm not going
- 5:42Speaker 3: to do the final spoiler about what happens at the end.
- 5:44Speaker 3: I'm just going to say it really hit me in
- 5:47Speaker 3: terms of our great regrets, happy that where where we are,
- 5:50Speaker 3: glad that we've done what we've done, but there's been
- 5:52Speaker 3: real costs associated with it, And seeing the way the
- 5:54Speaker 3: show wrapped up, I just thought, Oh, I wonder what
- 5:56Speaker 3: would have happened if story number.
- 5:59Speaker 4: Two, Guy Sebastian reveals a hack for getting toddlers to
- 6:03Speaker 4: stop having tantrums.
- 6:05Speaker 3: Okay, this showed up just recently on Brisbane radio station
- 6:09Speaker 3: and was replayed on the Daily Mail. Have you got
- 6:12Speaker 3: any special newborn skills that you remember?
- 6:16Speaker 5: It was more centered around like like weird little hums
- 6:21Speaker 5: or noises that my contribution during that time was like
- 6:25Speaker 5: I felt like I had this real knack to make
- 6:27Speaker 5: them peaceful, like this real knack to get them into
- 6:30Speaker 5: a calm space when they'd be blowing up, Like when
- 6:33Speaker 5: they blow up, I would mimic them.
- 6:35Speaker 2: So even at like two years old or one and a
- 6:38Speaker 2: half years old. I think when a kid realizes how
- 6:41Speaker 2: stupid they sound when they're blowing up. It's weirdly worked
- 6:45Speaker 2: with my kids, like they'd be screaming and I would
- 6:47Speaker 2: just do the same thing Adam, like I just mentionally go.
- 6:52Speaker 3: And they It's almost like it.
- 6:55Speaker 5: Was confronting for them so much that they'd look at
- 6:57Speaker 5: me and just go. Is that what I sell on.
- 6:59Speaker 3: Y reactions from I think it was ninety seven point
- 7:03Speaker 3: three in Brisbane and Guy Sebastian sharing his parenting hacks.
- 7:07Speaker 4: I may have done that once or twice really in
- 7:10Speaker 4: our house.
- 7:11Speaker 3: So you haven't read my books either. I had a
- 7:13Speaker 3: Guy Sebastian story for you. I bumped into Guy Sebastian
- 7:17Speaker 3: in Melbourne Airport in the Virgin Lounge one day as
- 7:20Speaker 3: I was flying home from speaking about parenting, got a photo.
- 7:24Speaker 3: Said it was for the kids, but really it was
- 7:25Speaker 3: just for me.
- 7:26Speaker 4: He recognized you.
- 7:27Speaker 3: He didn't have a clue who I was. I'm not
- 7:30Speaker 3: that big of a deal obviously, but Guy Sebastian. I
- 7:33Speaker 3: was so enamored by the opportunity to meet him that
- 7:35Speaker 3: I thought I'm going to send him some books. I
- 7:37Speaker 3: send him a couple of parenting books. Clearly didn't read them.
- 7:40Speaker 3: He didn't read them. I don't say anything about that
- 7:42Speaker 3: in my parenting books. I'm really disappointed, guy Sebastian. But Ball,
- 7:47Speaker 3: you got that one wrong.
- 7:49Speaker 4: What would you say we should do instead?
- 7:51Speaker 3: That's such an important question, and I'm not going to
- 7:53Speaker 3: answer it today because today is this week in parenting.
- 7:57Speaker 3: We're not going to be serious about Actually, you know
- 7:59Speaker 3: what the best thing to do when your kids are
- 8:01Speaker 3: like that is see if they want to hard or
- 8:03Speaker 3: see if they want some space. Literally ask them if
- 8:05Speaker 3: they yell at you, give them some space. Well I
- 8:07Speaker 3: would do that. After I've give mimicked them and mocked them,
- 8:10Speaker 3: they're gone.
- 8:11Speaker 4: It's not so much that sometimes I felt like the
- 8:14Speaker 4: kids are just so in their own headspace that some
- 8:19Speaker 4: external noise it shifted their thinking.
- 8:23Speaker 3: For a second bit of mockery, let me ask you this.
- 8:26Speaker 3: If you're having a bad time, you're having a bit
- 8:28Speaker 3: of a meltdown, and you do something like just go ah,
- 8:31Speaker 3: if I look at you and with a big smile
- 8:32Speaker 3: on my face, go ah, are you gonna look at
- 8:34Speaker 3: me and say, oh, you're so funny? Hilarious, hilarious, I
- 8:38Speaker 3: don't think it's going to be good for our relationship.
- 8:40Speaker 3: We can do better, guys, Sebastian. That's all this week
- 8:49Speaker 3: in Parenting Story number three.
- 8:52Speaker 4: Just a quick content warning on this one. This is
- 8:54Speaker 4: actually quite heavy. If you've got small children, you might
- 8:57Speaker 4: just want to pause for a minute. US FBI have
- 9:01Speaker 4: issued a warning worldwide about some violent online groups that
- 9:07Speaker 4: are targeting kids between eight and seventeen, exploiting them to
- 9:11Speaker 4: produce child sexual abuse videos, self harm, and even suicide videos.
- 9:17Speaker 1: The FBI calls it financial sextortion. Minors coerced into sending
- 9:22Speaker 1: compromising images of themselves, some by networks of criminals overseas
- 9:27Speaker 1: operating off scripts.
- 9:29Speaker 3: Every now and again we talk about how there's this
- 9:31Speaker 3: sextortion thing happening. We had Julian mcgrant, the e Safety
- 9:34Speaker 3: Commissioner for Australia, talking with us on the podcast just
- 9:38Speaker 3: recently about how much this is evolving and how much
- 9:41Speaker 3: it's happening. But the FBI in America is now warning
- 9:45Speaker 3: that violent online groups are operating on the most popular
- 9:50Speaker 3: platforms social media sites, my bile apps and if you
- 9:53Speaker 3: want to become part of the group, essentially they say
- 9:57Speaker 3: you need to go out and live stream or up
- 10:00Speaker 3: load videos depicting usually kids, harming animals or committing self harm,
- 10:08Speaker 3: or in the worst scenarios, taking their lives or acting
- 10:13Speaker 3: violently towards other people. These groups exist, they do it
- 10:17Speaker 3: to gain notoriety and obtain high levels of status. They
- 10:22Speaker 3: are genuinely out there trying to do the wrong thing,
- 10:24Speaker 3: and then once the victims have been filmed and uploaded.
- 10:29Speaker 3: The FBI is also saying that these groups will then
- 10:31Speaker 3: use extortion and blackmail tactics like threatening to swat or
- 10:36Speaker 3: docks the victims if they don't comply with further requests,
- 10:42Speaker 3: so they continue to manipulate them and harm them. Just
- 10:44Speaker 3: for those who are not familiar with the terms, to
- 10:46Speaker 3: s what somebody literally means to make a prank call
- 10:50Speaker 3: to police or emergency services in an attempt to bring
- 10:54Speaker 3: about the dispatch of armed police officers, such as a
- 10:57Speaker 3: SWAT team to a particular address. And doxing is the
- 11:02Speaker 3: action of obtaining and publishing personally identifiable information on the
- 11:07Speaker 3: Internet with malicious intent so that people will go around
- 11:10Speaker 3: to your house and do horrible things, or say horrible things,
- 11:12Speaker 3: or ski you or that kind of thing. It's really,
- 11:14Speaker 3: really serious stuff, and I wanted to bring it into
- 11:17Speaker 3: this Week in Parenting, even though we usually have a
- 11:18Speaker 3: lot of fun with this particular segment, purely because it
- 11:22Speaker 3: is in the news. It is happening. And even though
- 11:24Speaker 3: people keep on saying it's never going to happen to
- 11:26Speaker 3: my family, this stuff is happening. It's happening all over
- 11:29Speaker 3: the place all the time. And I'm sorry, but we
- 11:32Speaker 3: need to really monitor what's going on with our kids
- 11:33Speaker 3: in their social media use because they can be at risk.
- 11:38Speaker 3: Further to that, we need to monitor who they're spending
- 11:40Speaker 3: time with because maybe they're spending time with somebody who's
- 11:42Speaker 3: trying to get into one of these groups, and how
- 11:44Speaker 3: devastating would that be. So that's our heavy news story
- 11:48Speaker 3: for this week in Parenting. Let's do our final one number.
- 11:51Speaker 4: Four a nice light buzz Feed.
- 11:55Speaker 3: I'm glad we're going light after where we've just been.
- 11:58Speaker 4: But BuzzFeed did ch recently and found twenty one celebrity
- 12:03Speaker 4: rules that might make no sense at all or might
- 12:07Speaker 4: make some sense.
- 12:08Speaker 3: Yeah, So in the parenting context, let me run these
- 12:10Speaker 3: ones by you. Some of these rules are fantastic, and
- 12:12Speaker 3: some of them make celebrities look even more out of
- 12:15Speaker 3: touch than they already seemed to be. I'm going to
- 12:17Speaker 3: start with one of my absolute favorites. I'm just going
- 12:19Speaker 3: to zoom to the bottom of this twenty one parenting
- 12:22Speaker 3: sort of idea list. This one comes from the one
- 12:25Speaker 3: and only Gwyneth Paltrow. Gwyneth Paltrow's kids were not allowed
- 12:29Speaker 3: to watch TV in English. In twenty twelve. The actor
- 12:33Speaker 3: told in Style that she only let her children watch
- 12:36Speaker 3: TV if the shows were in Spanish or French. When
- 12:39Speaker 3: I'm in France, I go to Boulevard Bonmachow and buy
- 12:41Speaker 3: all their cartoons. She said, what do you think, good one?
- 12:44Speaker 3: Do you like that? Do you think that if the
- 12:45Speaker 3: kid's going to watch TV, we should make sure that
- 12:47Speaker 3: they're watching it in Spanish?
- 12:48Speaker 5: El gringo, pushy problemente, problematic growth.
- 12:52Speaker 4: That's that's one way of doing language lessons by immersions.
- 12:58Speaker 3: Three words out of touch. Here's another one. Kurston Bell. Sorry,
- 13:01Speaker 3: not Kurston Kristen Bell. It says Kristen Bell. I thought
- 13:03Speaker 3: I always thought it was Kurston Bell. That's how into
- 13:06Speaker 3: celebrities I am. Kristen Bell and her husband Dax Shepherd
- 13:09Speaker 3: with one of the most popular podcasts on the planet,
- 13:12Speaker 3: and of course, Kristen Bell from The Good Place. In
- 13:14Speaker 3: a twenty twenty interview with self, Kristin said it's very
- 13:18Speaker 3: important that her daughters share a bedroom. She says, I
- 13:22Speaker 3: think their lives will be easier than most other people
- 13:24Speaker 3: on the planet and develop a good character. It's important
- 13:26Speaker 3: to always be going through something. I like the fact
- 13:28Speaker 3: that they will have to figure out how to share
- 13:30Speaker 3: a bedroom, figure out how to share a closet, figure
- 13:33Speaker 3: out how to share their space. If that's the worst
- 13:35Speaker 3: thing about your life, that you have to share a
- 13:37Speaker 3: bedroom with your sister, you're going to be okay. I'm
- 13:40Speaker 3: hearing that, Kylie, And I'm thinking now that our third
- 13:44Speaker 3: daughter has moved out and we've got three kids at home,
- 13:46Speaker 3: they've each got their own bedroom. Have we done the
- 13:48Speaker 3: wrong thing? Kristen Bell's making me feel insecure about our
- 13:51Speaker 3: parenting choices.
- 13:53Speaker 4: Having gone through the process a number of times, we've
- 13:55Speaker 4: shared rooms, we've had separate rooms, we've shared rooms, and
- 13:58Speaker 4: we've gone back and forth. There is something profound that
- 14:01Speaker 4: takes place when our children have to learn how to
- 14:04Speaker 4: navigate sharing their personal space.
- 14:07Speaker 3: You haven't answered my question, though, Should we stick them
- 14:09Speaker 3: back into a room and have them share.
- 14:11Speaker 4: No, I'm fine for them to have a little time.
- 14:13Speaker 3: I'm really enjoying the fact that there's no more fights. Okay,
- 14:16Speaker 3: I'm just going to do two more because we need
- 14:17Speaker 3: to wrap this up and get our time. The Kardashians
- 14:20Speaker 3: always people who are really in touch with the common man,
- 14:24Speaker 3: really really know what's going on with people, generally. Courtney
- 14:28Speaker 3: Kardashians kids aren't allowed to use the MICROWAVEA is it
- 14:31Speaker 3: going to nuke their brain? Yeah, that kind of thing. Yep,
- 14:33Speaker 3: Cardi B and Offsets. Kids aren't allowed to go to sleepovers.
- 14:37Speaker 3: We had a big conversation on the podcast just recently
- 14:40Speaker 3: about that one and my other favorite one, the other
- 14:43Speaker 3: one that stood out heaps when I was having a
- 14:45Speaker 3: look at this one comes from Jennifer Lopez. Jalo's kids
- 14:49Speaker 3: are only allowed to use electronics on Sundays.
- 14:54Speaker 4: What do you mean by electronics? You mean computer screens?
- 14:57Speaker 4: Are you talking about hair dryers?
- 15:00Speaker 5: Oh?
- 15:00Speaker 3: No, they're allowed to use electricity. They're allowed to use electricity.
- 15:04Speaker 3: We're talking about electronics, so screens. Basically, here's what she said.
- 15:06Speaker 3: In twenty fifteen, Jalo told E News about Sunday Funday.
- 15:09Speaker 3: In her house, it starts with the late breakfast. We
- 15:11Speaker 3: sleep in, she said, even the kids sleep in. I mean,
- 15:14Speaker 3: Jalo sounds like she's a party animal, doesn't she. And
- 15:16Speaker 3: Sunday Funday they work towards that because they don't get
- 15:19Speaker 3: to use their iPads during the week or play video
- 15:22Speaker 3: games or anything because at school time and they have
- 15:24Speaker 3: to be good in school, and then they get Sunday
- 15:26Speaker 3: Fun Day. It's something I made up so they could
- 15:29Speaker 3: work towards it and behave I'm thinking exactly the opposite
- 15:31Speaker 3: Sunday Fun Day, like, let's get out and do something,
- 15:34Speaker 3: not Sunday Funday. Oh cool, Let's sit in the living
- 15:35Speaker 3: room and steir at our iPads. Anyway, that's Jlo's parenting.
- 15:39Speaker 3: I wonder if she actually does that. I wonder how
- 15:41Speaker 3: well she's kept to it, or if she did it
- 15:43Speaker 3: one week and went, yeah, that worked really well, and
- 15:46Speaker 3: I'm going to tell the whole world about it. I
- 15:47Speaker 3: just thought that was fascinating. A couple of other ones
- 15:49Speaker 3: that showed up that I really loved Matthew McConaughey and
- 15:52Speaker 3: Camilla Alva's kids have to speak Portuguese. Drew Barrymore's kids
- 15:55Speaker 3: aren't allowed to act. And last but not least, Chrissy
- 15:59Speaker 3: Tea and John Legend don't post things on social media
- 16:02Speaker 3: that their kids will find embarrassing when they grow up.
- 16:04Speaker 3: I presume they're talking about the kids, because I've seen
- 16:06Speaker 3: what Chrissy Teagan posts on her Instagram, and I think
- 16:09Speaker 3: her kids would find it embarrassing when they grow up.
- 16:11Speaker 3: I'm just putting them out there, Kylie. Thank you so
- 16:15Speaker 3: much for joining me for this week in parenting. The
- 16:17Speaker 3: Happy Families podcast is produced so wonderfully, so brilliantly, so
- 16:20Speaker 3: profoundly well by Justin Rawt from Bridge Media. Craig Bruce
- 16:24Speaker 3: is our executive producer, and if you'd like more information
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