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Making People Better · Divas That Care Network

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  SPEAKER_00: It's Divas That Care Radio.
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  SPEAKER_00: Stories, strategies, and ideas to inspire positive change.
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  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to Divas That Care, a network of women committed to making our world a better place for everyone.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is a global movement for women, by women, engaged in a collaborative effort to create a better world for future generations.
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  SPEAKER_00: To find out more about the movement, visit DivasThatCare.com after the show.
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  SPEAKER_00: Right now, though, stay tuned for another jolt of inspiration.
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  SPEAKER_03: We all seem to have that inner critic inside our heads.
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  SPEAKER_03: I have a committee, the itty-bitty shitty committee.
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  SPEAKER_03: You know what I mean, that nagging voice or voices in my case that knocks us down and drags us down the road of self-sabotage and self-neglect.
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  SPEAKER_03: A strong positive sense of self-esteem is your first step to anything you wish to accomplish.
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  SPEAKER_03: Discover who you truly are, that gorgeous, talented, fabulous woman who deserves recognition and unconditional love.
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  SPEAKER_03: You know the most beautiful thing any woman can wear is confidence.
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  SPEAKER_03: Here on Confidence in Bloom with the Divas That Care Network, I, Tina Spoletini, speak with women living in their own self-confidence about who they truly are, how they found themselves, and how they care for themselves.
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  SPEAKER_03: Today, I'm speaking with Debbie Jo Horton, or DJ Horton.
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  SPEAKER_03: DJ is nationally recognized for her work with small business owners and developing leaders.
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  SPEAKER_03: DJ is a CPA and holds a BSA in accounting from Bryant University and a master's in global organizational leadership from Johnson and Wales University.
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  SPEAKER_03: She splits her time helping grow an international team of Neora independent brand partners and sharing her insights into the aging process on her bi-weekly broadcasts.
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  SPEAKER_03: She is a woman of abundance and enjoys helping others find the abundance they have within their reach with integrity.
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  SPEAKER_03: She is constantly and consistently striving to better herself with personal development and growth, becoming the best version of herself while always having the best intention for others.
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  SPEAKER_03: DJ lives in Riverside, Rhode Island, and is the mom of three, grandma to four humans and four four-legged grands.
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  SPEAKER_03: Welcome, DJ.
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  SPEAKER_03: Thank you so much, Tina.
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  SPEAKER_03: It's so nice to have you here.
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  SPEAKER_03: Now, you are a retired accountant, am I right?
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  SPEAKER_03: Yes, I like to refer to it as a recovering CPA.
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  SPEAKER_03: Recovering?
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  SPEAKER_03: Okay, so I like that.
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  SPEAKER_03: I didn't want to say retired because I don't think you're old enough to be retired.
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  SPEAKER_03: Oh, I love you.
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  SPEAKER_03: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_03: That is why I love talking about all the advantages to aging, especially when you don't look like you are.
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  SPEAKER_03: Right.
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  SPEAKER_03: Exactly.
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  SPEAKER_03: Exactly.
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  SPEAKER_03: So maybe tell us a little bit how you– the word had just slipped my tongue here– how you moved from your CPA business or your tax– I think it was tax, right?
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  SPEAKER_03: You did taxes.
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  SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_03: How did you go from that– you know, professional business to the business that you have right now with Neora?
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  SPEAKER_03: Interesting question.
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  SPEAKER_03: So, you know, life always throws at you things you don't think that you can handle, and somehow it also throws up all the exact things at the exact moment that you need it.
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  SPEAKER_03: And I was, like, living life large.
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  SPEAKER_03: I had an international tax business.
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  SPEAKER_03: I lived...
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  SPEAKER_03: On an island off the coast of Rhode Island for most of the year, but I also spend almost four months out of every year in Costa Rica, and a girlfriend handed me a bottle of night cream and asked me to try it for a week and give her my brutally honest opinion.
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  SPEAKER_03: And I was the type of gal that...
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  SPEAKER_03: Like, I washed my face with water.
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  SPEAKER_03: I don't like to admit that now, but I did not do any of the things.
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  SPEAKER_03: Didn't wear the makeup, nothing.
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  SPEAKER_03: I grew up on a farm, and I didn't have time for that.
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  SPEAKER_03: And it's not...
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  SPEAKER_03: Like I would get up at 2 o'clock in the morning and be on a Skype call with one of my clients in another country.
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  SPEAKER_03: I am not getting up an hour earlier to put my face on.
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  SPEAKER_03: Like what you see is what you get.
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  SPEAKER_03: That was my attitude.
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  SPEAKER_03: And she was really smart in having me take a before picture.
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  SPEAKER_03: She'd text me every night to use it and then have me take an after picture.
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  SPEAKER_03: When she sent the pictures back to me side by side, All the crow's feet were gone, not diminished, but gone.
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  SPEAKER_03: And I went, she doctored the pictures.
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  SPEAKER_03: And, of course, I go back to my phone and my pictures, and nope, those were my pictures.
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  SPEAKER_03: Those were my results.
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  SPEAKER_03: So it was easy to use, and it didn't take any time at all.
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  SPEAKER_03: You just put it on, go to bed, wash it off in the morning.
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  SPEAKER_03: And I thought, I can do this.
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  SPEAKER_03: So I'm going to start my skincare routine with one product.
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  SPEAKER_03: The results were incredible.
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  SPEAKER_03: And then I did her tax return, and I went, what on earth is this woman doing that she's making this kind of money?
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  SPEAKER_03: And lo and behold, I decided that, you know, brilliant tax mind went, huh, wait a minute.
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  SPEAKER_03: If I join the business, I can write off my skincare by using the last week of my bottle as a sample for somebody else.
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  SPEAKER_03: Yes, please.
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  SPEAKER_03: So I jumped in, and I earned my money back in 62 days doing this.
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  SPEAKER_03: taught simple strategies in 15 to 20-minute segments, three to five hours a week.
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  SPEAKER_03: And I thought, okay, I can do this.
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  SPEAKER_03: Well, then my husband was diagnosed with terminal cancer.
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  SPEAKER_03: And you cannot do someone's financials sitting in a doctor's waiting room week after week.
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  SPEAKER_03: But I could say, hey, Tina, you're sitting here with me.
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  SPEAKER_03: week after week, would you watch this video and give me some feedback?
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  SPEAKER_03: Would you try this product and give me some feedback?
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  SPEAKER_03: And, you know, with a 30-day money-back guarantee, the only thing you have to lose is wrinkles.
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  SPEAKER_03: So it grew while my practice shrank.
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  SPEAKER_03: And after he passed away, I was left with the, what do I do now?
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  SPEAKER_03: And I chose fun.
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  SPEAKER_03: This Neura business is a ton of fun.
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  SPEAKER_03: The people that I have met, the money is great, don't get me wrong, but that is not top of mind when I talk about my business.
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  SPEAKER_03: The relationships that I've built, the confidence that it creates in others and being a trainer of leaders and development of leaders, this was like the perfect thing for me to do.
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  SPEAKER_03: And when I say...
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  SPEAKER_03: I developed friendships that will last a lifetime.
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  SPEAKER_03: I would get phone calls at 5 a.m.
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  SPEAKER_03: in the morning here on the East Coast from people who didn't make a dime off of my sales because I was not in their downline.
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  SPEAKER_03: And I would get, what can I do to help you today?
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  SPEAKER_03: And it made me realize just how precious life is and how precious those relationships are that we're cultivating.
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  SPEAKER_03: Because as I said, they did not make a dime off of doing anything for me.
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  SPEAKER_03: But when I told that story the first time, I realized that most of those people lived in California.
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  SPEAKER_03: They were sitting there a long time to get up or stay up at 2 o'clock in the morning to call me at 5 because they knew I had to get a boat.
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  SPEAKER_03: That's dedication.
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  UNKNOWN: Wow.
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  SPEAKER_03: Not to a business, but to a human being.
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  SPEAKER_03: And that is what feels my fate of being a New York brand partner.
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  SPEAKER_03: And knowing that the company really puts values and people above everything else is just absolutely incredible.
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  SPEAKER_03: So I sold my international practice five and a half years ago.
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  SPEAKER_03: So no more taxes.
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  SPEAKER_03: I file taxes, but I do not prepare them.
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  SPEAKER_03: I pay the woman that bought my business to prepare them for me, and I just write the check.
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  SPEAKER_03: Wow.
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  SPEAKER_03: And now, isn't that like, I mean, I'm sure you loved your job as an accountant.
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  SPEAKER_03: You know, all our jobs have something we don't love, right?
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  SPEAKER_03: But, I mean, you wouldn't get into something like accounting if you didn't really like the numbers.
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  SPEAKER_03: Right.
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  SPEAKER_03: Right.
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  SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_03: So, New York is an MLM.
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  SPEAKER_03: But, you know, I know, like, I sold...
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  SPEAKER_03: Well, I still sell Rodan and Fields.
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  SPEAKER_03: And when I started with that, I couldn't believe, like, the change in...
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  SPEAKER_03: Like, first of all, you're surrounded by these people that want to support you.
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  SPEAKER_03: They want to help you grow.
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  SPEAKER_03: But even just in personal growth, like, I...
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  SPEAKER_03: You know, I started...
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  SPEAKER_03: down this path of personal growth and I owe that all to Rodan and Fields.
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  SPEAKER_03: It set me on a path.
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  SPEAKER_03: Not everybody likes the MLM work and not everybody is meant to do that, but it also opens up so many different pathways for us to expand our growth.
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  SPEAKER_03: Wouldn't you agree?
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  SPEAKER_03: Yes.
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  SPEAKER_03: Absolutely.
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  SPEAKER_03: And, you know, people have had different experiences with network marketing.
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  SPEAKER_03: And so a lot of times, you know, they're basing it on that experience that they had, which is not necessarily the experience they would have with every team or with every company.
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  SPEAKER_03: So I, you know, being a CPA, having a CPA background, I always was very...
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  SPEAKER_03: critical, we'll say, about those kinds of companies.
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  SPEAKER_03: But what I really loved about finding the right company is that even as a CPA, I will tell you the best, absolutely hands down, best business model there is, is direct sale.
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  SPEAKER_03: Why?
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  SPEAKER_03: Because you don't have to spend Thank you so much.
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  SPEAKER_03: And I love, and I'm not even sure that you are aware of this, Tina, but seven years ago, Miura and Jeff Olson sued the Federal Trade Commission in the United States, the FTC, because they were trying to skirt around the law and bully small businesses, not just direct sales, though that was a definite focus of theirs, but one of the things they were trying to do was to not allow the use of independent contractors to and only be able to pay those independent contractors on their personal sales, not a team commission or any other bonuses.
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  SPEAKER_03: And a lot of direct sales companies folded, not necessarily because they were a bad company.
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  SPEAKER_03: It was just that they didn't want to fight or spend the money to fight or have the money to fight to make it right.
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  SPEAKER_03: Well, seven years ago, we decided that we weren't going to let them bully us or anybody else because other small businesses use that same type of model.
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  SPEAKER_03: If you think of a real estate broker, a real estate broker has agents underneath them.
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  SPEAKER_03: They make a percentage of the commissions that those agents get, but they also hold all the licenses.
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  SPEAKER_03: So there's multiple reasons why you would do it that way.
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  SPEAKER_03: And if the FTC continued on that path, they could have shut down So many small businesses, and in the United States, small businesses make up the majority of the economy.
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  SPEAKER_03: And in direct sales, more than 80% of those brand partners, distributors, whatever you want to call them, are women.
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  SPEAKER_03: And That's their way of contributing to the family outside of a normal nine-to-five job and not give up the role of raising your children.
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  SPEAKER_03: So we did that.
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  SPEAKER_03: Seven years,$23 million in legal fees later.
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  SPEAKER_03: Last Thursday, a federal court judge who typically sides on the side of government and the consumer came down and in summary said that all of the Federal Trade Commission's requests were denied, that we won hands down.
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  SPEAKER_03: They left absolutely no room for the FTC to appeal and came out and said that in light of a vigorous compliance program and proactive efforts, NIORA takes to curb problematic statements of their brand partners through training, they are hands down the gold standard in direct sales.
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  SPEAKER_03: We made history by challenging the FTC and their overreach with a landmark ruling.
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  SPEAKER_03: So from this point forward, any case will be measured against Neora because 90% of our total sales our personal use, not because we make stock inventory.
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  SPEAKER_03: That is just so incredible.
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  SPEAKER_03: And what I love beyond the fact that we won hands down was the fact that our leadership in the field and in corporate were willing to put our values first.
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  SPEAKER_03: They didn't make any compromises.
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  SPEAKER_03: They said, nope, this is what's right, and we're going to back that up with everything we've got.
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  SPEAKER_03: And as one of the leaders in the company, that was huge to me.
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  SPEAKER_03: I, in addition to having my international tax practice, also had an international leadership and management development company.
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  SPEAKER_03: And personal development, it runs through my veins.
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  SPEAKER_03: My passion, my mission in life is to help make people better.
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  SPEAKER_03: And as a CPA, I thought I was helping in a very small way, but in finances, which is an important way.
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  SPEAKER_03: But I really feel that with my podcast, Advantages to Aging, and as a founding brand partner with Neora, and especially with the ruling that just came down, that I am helping make people better and positively impacting the lives of millions.
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  SPEAKER_03: Wow.
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  SPEAKER_03: Yeah, that's huge, right?
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  SPEAKER_03: It is.
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  SPEAKER_03: Go ahead.
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  SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_03: Yeah, so many.
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  SPEAKER_03: I don't know a whole lot about Neora.
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  SPEAKER_03: I do have a friend that is a partner.
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  SPEAKER_03: But it's mainly skin care and hair care.
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  SPEAKER_03: Am I right?
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  SPEAKER_03: So it's skin care, hair care, wellness, and weight management.
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  SPEAKER_03: Exception of our Slim and Skin, which is a marine collagen.
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  SPEAKER_03: All clean, plant-based products.
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  SPEAKER_03: Right.
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  SPEAKER_03: Right.
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  SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_03: That's awesome.
• 16:30
  SPEAKER_03: I don't really want to talk about, like, Neora and the product.
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  SPEAKER_03: I want to talk more about you.
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  SPEAKER_03: But, I mean, obviously, you know, Neora has a lot to do with who you are today because your mission, like you said, is to make people better.
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  SPEAKER_03: And, you know, with Neora and their products, I mean, obviously, that's part of how you do that.
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  SPEAKER_03: Now, you have a podcast, and it's called Advantages to Aging.
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  SPEAKER_03: Am I right?
• 16:58
  SPEAKER_03: Yes, you are.
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  SPEAKER_03: Right.
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  SPEAKER_03: So what are the advantages to aging?
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  SPEAKER_03: Tell me.
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  SPEAKER_03: Oh, my goodness, Tina.
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  SPEAKER_03: There are so many advantages to aging.
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  SPEAKER_03: And I don't care if you're in your 20s or your 90s.
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  SPEAKER_03: If you wake up tomorrow, you've aged.
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  SPEAKER_03: And you have a choice.
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  SPEAKER_03: We all have a choice.
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  SPEAKER_03: not only every day but every moment of every day and how we're going to react to things how what our expectations are and if you are constantly focused on the negative and i love my mom dearly she is the reason that i hear and exist but she has a very negative mindset to aging if you asked her she said she would say she absolutely doesn't but she is the type of person that she's always saying, well, wait until you hit your 30s.
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  SPEAKER_03: This is going to start to go wrong, and that's going to start to go wrong.
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  SPEAKER_03: Wait until you hit your 50s and you start to go into menopause.
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  SPEAKER_03: Well, I was medically induced into menopause at the age of 32 when I had to have a hysterectomy.
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  SPEAKER_03: So there's like, I'm not going like, well, I'm still in my 30s, so I'm not going to wait until I'm in my 50s.
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  SPEAKER_03: Like, I'm going to be thankful every day that I had that hysterectomy, which potentially saved my life.
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  SPEAKER_03: Like, it's about the mindset of getting older.
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  SPEAKER_03: You have the choice to focus on the negative.
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  SPEAKER_03: You have the choice to focus on the positive.
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  SPEAKER_03: Whatever it is that you choose to focus on, that's what you're attracting into your life.
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  SPEAKER_03: So why on earth would you want to be focusing on the disadvantages of getting older?
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  SPEAKER_03: Right.
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  SPEAKER_03: And who says, right, like, wait until you're in your 50s and menopause sets in.
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  SPEAKER_03: Who says that menopause has to be a negative experience?
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  SPEAKER_03: Right?
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  SPEAKER_03: True.
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  SPEAKER_03: I mean, it's all in the eyes of the beholder.
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  SPEAKER_03: I did not ever have to buy another tampon or napkin ever.
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  SPEAKER_03: At least not for my throat.
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  SPEAKER_03: I remember saying that to my mom, and she said there's more to it than just that.
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  SPEAKER_03: Right?
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  SPEAKER_03: It's the way your body feels inside.
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  UNKNOWN: Right.
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  SPEAKER_03: But I mean, I'm in the middle of it right now.
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  SPEAKER_03: And I feel like some days I feel better than I did when I was in my 30s,
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  SPEAKER_01: right?
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  SPEAKER_01: I mean,
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  SPEAKER_03: most days I don't.
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  SPEAKER_03: But there are still those really good days.
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  SPEAKER_03: But I wouldn't say that I always feel crappy, right?
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  SPEAKER_03: And that's what I...
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  SPEAKER_03: No, and there are things that you can do to help combat that.
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  SPEAKER_03: And it's not meaning that you need to go to the gym every day.
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  SPEAKER_03: It's about making sure that you are getting enough water.
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  SPEAKER_03: That's the...
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  SPEAKER_03: Big, huge thing.
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  SPEAKER_03: The older you get, the more water you need.
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  SPEAKER_03: And a lot of people go, like, oh, no, because then I'm in the bathroom all the time.
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  SPEAKER_03: Not if you drink it consistently throughout the day in small amounts.
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  SPEAKER_03: And build yourself up.
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  SPEAKER_03: Like, if you're only drinking four ounces a day, well, don't turn around and change it to 60 or 80 ounces, like, overnight.
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  SPEAKER_03: Like, no.
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  SPEAKER_03: Incrementally go up.
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  SPEAKER_03: That is key to...
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  SPEAKER_03: to good health is being hydrated.
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  SPEAKER_03: As you age, it's easier for dehydration to set in and it also has more noticeable, I guess would be the right word, side effects.
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  SPEAKER_03: So there are things that you can do in terms of taking care of yourself so that you don't have to worry about being on medications.
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  SPEAKER_03: I'm in my 60s and My mother is always saying, yeah, well, wait until your medications double.
• 20:43
  SPEAKER_03: And I was like, well, Mom, I'm not on any medications.
• 20:45
  SPEAKER_03: And she goes, well, of course you are.
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  SPEAKER_03: You're in your 60s.
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  SPEAKER_03: And I'm like, what does that have to do with anything?
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  SPEAKER_03: Like, I am healthy.
• 20:50
  SPEAKER_03: I don't have– I am not on any prescription medications at all, none.
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  SPEAKER_03: And she doesn't believe that.
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  SPEAKER_03: So I'm like, well, it's not possible.
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  SPEAKER_03: And of course it's possible.
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  SPEAKER_03: She had the expectation of having to be on all kinds of medications as she got older, and she is.
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  SPEAKER_03: She's diabetic.
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  SPEAKER_03: She has AFib.
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  SPEAKER_03: She has asthma.
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  SPEAKER_03: She has sleep apnea, which she refuses to deal with.
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  SPEAKER_03: You know, there's like all these things because that's what she was expecting, and that's what she's getting.
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  SPEAKER_03: And I'm not saying that if you never expect to get sick, you won't ever get sick, but you bounce back faster, right?
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  SPEAKER_03: You have a different attitude when something does happen.
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  SPEAKER_03: This is temporary.
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  SPEAKER_03: Right, especially if you are looking after yourself.
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  SPEAKER_03: Exactly.
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  SPEAKER_03: If you're looking after yourself, you're doing all the right things.
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  SPEAKER_03: You still might get sick, but you will heal from it a lot easier or it may not come as strong as others that don't look after themselves.
• 21:53
  SPEAKER_03: Exactly, exactly.
• 21:54
  SPEAKER_03: And it's also a matter of attitude, right?
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  SPEAKER_03: I mean, that's not to say that by having a positive attitude, you'll never get a terminal illness.
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  SPEAKER_03: That's totally not true.
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  SPEAKER_03: But the quality of your life and the end of your life is going to be so much better than someone who has a negative attitude and still goes through that.
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  SPEAKER_03: They typically pass away faster.
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  SPEAKER_03: They give up.
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  SPEAKER_03: Whereas someone with a more positive attitude says, all right, what can I do to, one, help ease my family and my loved ones into my passing?
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  SPEAKER_03: And there's still a whole lot I want to get done.
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  SPEAKER_03: So let's see how much of it I can get done.
• 22:40
  SPEAKER_03: You know, we have a choice every day whether or not we want to be happy.
• 22:44
  SPEAKER_03: And in that choice comes a lot of other little choices that...
• 22:52
  SPEAKER_03: create the life that we're living.
• 22:54
  SPEAKER_03: So that's, you know, one good choice or one bad choice isn't going to make it go one way or the other, but there are so many things that as we spend more time on this earth, we learn a lot of things.
• 23:09
  SPEAKER_03: Like, and the topics that we cover are, like, all over the place.
• 23:14
  SPEAKER_03: So it's not just, like, health-related, although I do, there's, Dr.
• 23:20
  SPEAKER_03: Green is, been a guest three times, and he really talks about going through menopause and hormone replacement.
• 23:27
  SPEAKER_03: And when I was growing up, I was always told, and again, think about who it's coming from, my mother that has the negative mindset of, you know, like, wait as long as possible before going on hormone replacement because hormone replacement is horrible.
• 23:43
  SPEAKER_03: You'll have all these negative side effects.
• 23:45
  SPEAKER_03: Well, in talking with him, I found that I should have started way back when because I would have been able to take the hormone replacement therapy.
• 23:57
  SPEAKER_03: At my age now, the risk of heart disease is way too high.
• 24:03
  SPEAKER_03: It's not something that I would want to risk.
• 24:08
  SPEAKER_03: So not that I have like bad hot flashes or anything like that because I still take very good care of myself, but know what it is that your, you know, what your options are.
• 24:19
  SPEAKER_03: Know what those options are so that you can make your decisions based on not necessarily what other people think, but having done the research, not a Google search, but a research of what those options might be.
• 24:35
  SPEAKER_03: I've had a guest on a couple of times that talks about caring for someone with Alzheimer's or dementia and things that you should be I love that.
• 24:47
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
• 24:52
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
• 25:16
  SPEAKER_03: Aging has never been a positive conversation by any means.
• 25:23
  SPEAKER_03: And I noticed like back, you know, like in the early 2000s, my husband and I bought some property in Phoenix and we were, you know, you're driving around and we're trying to get to know the city.
• 25:34
  SPEAKER_03: And I remember all the billboards were all about, you know, Botox and like cosmetic surgery and, you know, making your body thin.
• 25:45
  SPEAKER_03: And I thought, oh my goodness, what kind of a world are we living in?
• 25:48
  SPEAKER_03: Like aging has become like...
• 25:51
  SPEAKER_03: You know, it's like it's a demon now, right?
• 25:55
  SPEAKER_03: And at the time I used to think, man, if we could make it to 60, we're doing great.
• 25:59
  SPEAKER_03: Like how many people don't make it to 60, right?
• 26:03
  SPEAKER_03: Why do we have to be 60 and look like we're 20, right?
• 26:08
  SPEAKER_03: I mean, I don't really get that.
• 26:10
  SPEAKER_03: I don't understand the whole, you know, vanity part of that.
• 26:16
  SPEAKER_03: I think it's, you know, a blessing to get old.
• 26:19
  SPEAKER_03: I mean, nobody wants to get old.
• 26:21
  SPEAKER_03: But when we look at the old people around us, we think they've lived this beautiful life, right?
• 26:29
  SPEAKER_03: Well, as I often tell people, especially if they say, well, I earned all these wrinkles, but I don't know whether or not you earned them smiling or being really grumpy.
• 26:40
  SPEAKER_03: So take care of yourself.
• 26:44
  SPEAKER_03: Look as young as you want to look because oftentimes...
• 26:50
  SPEAKER_03: And this can go either way, you know, whether you're older than what you look or you are younger than what you look.
• 27:04
  SPEAKER_03: People's first impression of you is made in less than one second.
• 27:10
  SPEAKER_03: So they are not making a decision on who you are, what you stand for based on your brilliance.
• 27:16
  SPEAKER_03: It is 100% on the way you look and the way you carry yourself.
• 27:21
  SPEAKER_03: So it's that energy.
• 27:22
  SPEAKER_03: It's not just the way you look, but that energy.
• 27:24
  SPEAKER_03: And if you reflect aging or being negative, people don't want to be around you.
• 27:31
  SPEAKER_03: If you're like, oh, I'm going to have to take care of them because they're older.
• 27:38
  SPEAKER_03: I love when people think that I'm a lot younger than I actually am.
• 27:45
  SPEAKER_03: But on the other hand, I also have a friend who is in their early 40s, and they've had a hard life.
• 27:54
  SPEAKER_03: But their attitude also reflects that.
• 27:56
  SPEAKER_03: They've had cancer three times, survived it, and I'm like, be thankful you survived it, not be focused on the fact that you've had cancer three times.
• 28:04
  SPEAKER_03: You've won three times.
• 28:06
  SPEAKER_03: Like, where is your mindset here?
• 28:08
  SPEAKER_03: And people think that she's older than me.
• 28:14
  SPEAKER_03: I'm twice her age.
• 28:15
  SPEAKER_03: Wow.
• 28:16
  SPEAKER_03: Well, not quite.
• 28:17
  SPEAKER_03: Wow.
• 28:17
  SPEAKER_03: Close.
• 28:19
  SPEAKER_03: Wow.
• 28:20
  SPEAKER_03: Well, I know my daughter and I...
• 28:23
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
• 28:25
  SPEAKER_03: My daughter and I get mistaken for sisters, and sometimes I look at these people and I go, seriously, like I look older than her, right?
• 28:33
  SPEAKER_03: But lots of people ask us if we're sisters.
• 28:36
  SPEAKER_03: Well, you know, my daughter and I have the same thing, and my daughter says...
• 28:42
  SPEAKER_03: Excuse me.
• 28:42
  SPEAKER_03: So do you think that she looks young or I look old?
• 28:48
  SPEAKER_03: I just leave it.
• 28:50
  SPEAKER_03: I'm like, you know what?
• 28:51
  SPEAKER_03: Just take the compliment and leave it at that.
• 28:53
  SPEAKER_02: Yeah, but it's not necessarily a compliment for them.
• 28:56
  SPEAKER_02: No,
• 28:58
  SPEAKER_03: for them it's not.
• 28:59
  SPEAKER_03: You're right.
• 29:00
  SPEAKER_03: But I take it as a compliment.
• 29:01
  SPEAKER_03: I don't let my daughter speak.
• 29:07
  SPEAKER_02: I love it.
• 29:08
  SPEAKER_02: How old did you say your daughter was?
• 29:11
  SPEAKER_02: She's 22.
• 29:13
  SPEAKER_02: Oh, my God.
• 29:14
  SPEAKER_02: I have a
• 29:14
  SPEAKER_03: grandson older than your daughter.
• 29:16
  SPEAKER_01: Oh, my goodness.
• 29:21
  SPEAKER_03: You were a baby when you started your family.
• 29:24
  SPEAKER_03: Oh, thank you for thinking that, but it's totally not true.
• 29:27
  SPEAKER_03: Wow.
• 29:30
  SPEAKER_03: It does matter that you take care of yourself and you expect.
• 29:35
  SPEAKER_03: I've said from the early...
• 29:39
  SPEAKER_03: I mean, even as a kid, I said I'm going to live to 117 and I'm going to be very healthy, have all my brains about me.
• 29:46
  SPEAKER_03: Oh, good for you.
• 29:47
  SPEAKER_03: I'm like midlife at this point, beyond midlife at this point.
• 29:53
  SPEAKER_03: Wow, I love that.
• 29:54
  SPEAKER_03: So give our listeners the advice that you would give yourself to live to be 117 because that's like, you know, that's a great number to pick.
• 30:06
  SPEAKER_03: What would you tell our listeners to get there?
• 30:10
  SPEAKER_03: What I would say is, first, what you expect is what you get.
• 30:16
  SPEAKER_03: But it's not what I expect in this moment.
• 30:18
  SPEAKER_03: It's what I expect long-term, day after day, moment after moment.
• 30:23
  SPEAKER_03: So watch your thoughts, because those thoughts are what you really believe, whether you're voicing them or not.
• 30:30
  SPEAKER_03: If they're bouncing around your head, you're giving value to them.
• 30:34
  SPEAKER_03: So feed yourself with positivity, positivity.
• 30:38
  SPEAKER_03: Like, know that anything is possible.
• 30:40
  SPEAKER_03: All you have to do is decide and then take action.
• 30:44
  SPEAKER_03: So that means taking good care of your body because guess what?
• 30:49
  SPEAKER_03: You only get one.
• 30:50
  SPEAKER_03: It means taking care of your mind because what you put in your mind is what your life resembles.
• 30:59
  SPEAKER_03: And three is to always be kind to others, starting with you.
• 31:07
  SPEAKER_03: I love that.
• 31:08
  SPEAKER_03: Thank you so much for joining me today, DJ.
• 31:12
  SPEAKER_03: Well, thank you, Tina, for asking me.
• 31:14
  SPEAKER_03: You are always such an inspiration.
• 31:16
  SPEAKER_03: I am looking forward to seeing you again soon.
• 31:21
  SPEAKER_03: Oh, and you will.
• 31:22
  SPEAKER_03: You will for sure.
• 31:23
  SPEAKER_03: Thank you so much, DJ.
• 31:25
  SPEAKER_03: Confidence in Bloom is a celebration of self-love, a confirmation that you're an amazing, desirable, brilliant, gorgeous, talented woman, even though you may not look like a screen star or a supermodel.
• 31:35
  SPEAKER_03: The truth is they don't even look like that.
• 31:37
  SPEAKER_03: We offer unconditional love to our partners, our children, our extended family, even our pets.
• 31:43
  SPEAKER_03: It's high time we got out of our own way and learned to unconditionally love ourselves.
• 31:47
  SPEAKER_03: Chic definitely does come in every shape, so if you want something to believe in, start with yourself.
• 31:53
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