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How to Choose Joy and Have a Great Day · The Inspired Speaker Network

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Hey, everybody.
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Are you having a great day?
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Yes.
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Oh, no, you're not.
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It's okay.
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I got you.
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I'm Tif Loeffler.
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Welcome to Positively Yours.
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I'm going to share Tif's tips, techniques, and
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a little bit of magic to help you
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up level and have a great day every
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day.
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Are you ready to get started?
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Yeah!
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Oh, you're not?
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That's okay.
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I still got you.
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Let's go.
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It is all well, fine, and good to
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want to have a great day.
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And also, where is this all going?
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I love when I ask myself these questions,
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and just in case you're also asking, I
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would love to do my best to answer
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that in this moment that we have.
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I love that there are the concepts of
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the internal and the external mind, and how
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we grow up, and how we have our
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experiences shape who we are today, and having
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a great day in the present moment is
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everything because we only have today.
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But when I say we only have today
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or we just have today, today is everything
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because we're making a powerful choice to be
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in it.
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And that's what I love.
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And we are actioning, and we are doing.
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And if we need to relax a bit,
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be a bit reflective.
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Take a rest, take care of ourselves.
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I would like to offer to have a
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great day, to take a fabulous stand for
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your greatness.
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That is not selfish.
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I like to call it selfing, just selfing,
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selfing.
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They're selfish.
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They're selfless is where you give everything away,
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all your power, all your resources, all your
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energy, because someone else just decided you're making
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the decisions.
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And I call that selfing.
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I know that some people say, oh, adulting
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is so hard.
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And then I think, yes, and also grown
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-up being is super awesome because when you're
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a grown-up, you feel like you can
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make more decisions.
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I will say randomly, you know what, if
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I stop by the bakery and buy myself
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a donut, yeah, I could do that.
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Guess what?
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I'm grown-upping.
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That's I want it.
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I got the, I got the funds.
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I've got the transportation.
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I have a few minutes and I'm hungry
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for a donut.
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Yay.
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That's an example of I feel grown-upping
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adulting in a fabulous way.
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And once in a while, that's how I
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have a great day saying to myself.
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I'd like a donut today.
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Thank you.
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Okay.
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So again, selfing, so I appreciate being able
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to talk about that a bit.
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I want you to think about self-care.
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It's selfing.
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Okay, and it's for you and what's best
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for you is best for everyone because you're
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coming from a place of integrity and a
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grounded love for yourself that is not only
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grounded on this beautiful planet that we're on
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but it's also connected to the stars because
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we're all stardust.
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We came from stardust kind of amazing and
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we're here living our lives.
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And we have the rest of our lives
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to live.
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So this is where I'm so excited to
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talk about the vision the vision of why
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why is Tif always talking about it's important
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to have a great day and I thought
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about also why I say it's a great
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day, you know, have a nice day have
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a nice day.
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I like that.
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There are some some songs in movies and
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television have a nice day doesn't always mean
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have a nice day and I could tell
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you to have a good day and good
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is good, but is it great?
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That's why I just think let's set the
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standard for ourselves very high and also very
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achievable.
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We are here to have a great day
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every day as best we can because we
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are here to have a great life and
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it starts with today.
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You take it one day at a time.
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And there are highs and there are lows
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and the reason I've talked about the internal
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and the external is simply because we have
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days where we don't even know for having
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a great day.
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Am I having a great day?
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I mean, I know I'm having parts of
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a great day.
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And for me just having a moment of
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a great day recognizing it that is such
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an easy wonderful flowing way of having a
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great day.
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Just remind myself, you know what I had
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lunch with a friend today.
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Oh, I got to talk to someone about
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what I'm working on and a very excited
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for me.
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Even if they're not I'm excited for me.
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That's awesome.
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I remember that.
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Oh, I took a walk today.
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I was out in nature.
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I saw wild animals because there's wild turkeys
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that walk around and it's so fun to
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see that I got to have a delicious
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cup of coffee.
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That was a carded cardamom.
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I can say a cardamom vanilla latte and
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I've never had one of those before and
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it was super delicious.
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That is a great day.
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And then when you build upon all of
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these that to me is how we start
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to create that world vision of other people
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having a great day when we can talk
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about and celebrate all the wins any little
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win is a win and there's a very
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I feel without being able to scientifically talk
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about it why it is important for us
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to put more emphasis on the syllables of
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having a great day.
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Your brain is wired to.
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Remember things that weren't so great in order
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to not do them again fabulous and that
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is okay.
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That's a good thing and also let's expand
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upon that and multiply it and how do
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I say this just compounded by saying yes
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and also when I consciously choose to recognize
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that something is going great today and even
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just take a moment to anchor just go
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you know what I'm on this podcast right
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now.
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I am having a great day.
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This is awesome.
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Take a breath and just feel it.
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In my body just right now feeling good.
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I'm feeling great.
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I'm feeling great.
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See right there.
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I could have just just right there.
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I said, yeah, I'm feeling good.
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Excellent.
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It's good.
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You can start there just start with I'm
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feeling okay.
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Feeling fine feeling good.
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I'm feeling great.
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I'm actually feeling great and then your body
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and your mind synergistic and they think and
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they feel she likes that and she wants
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more of that than perhaps let's be open
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to the possibility of more of that because
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I will tell you it doesn't take much
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I've seen it in others and in myself
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that you can very quickly not have a
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great day because you are either not recognizing
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all the great things that are happening or
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through any moment in time something will happen
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and all of a sudden you're like what's
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even happening to me?
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Am I having a great day?
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Maybe I'm not and that's not a good
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thing or a great thing.
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So what's great?
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I'll tell you what a better world for
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me is simply people recognizing that they have
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the choice to make your date great when
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people are feeling great more often than not
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so I will say more often they are
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they're happier.
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They have a joy in their life and
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joy doesn't mean that toxic positivity of the
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sky's falling everything's great.
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What joy means is you are feeling all
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of it fully because you know that is
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what you are here to do on this
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planet and also that involves the happiness the
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fun the whimsy and it's not just for
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a certain tiny moment in time or certain
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special occasions.
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No, that's I'm feeling kind of a little
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lightheaded right now.
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It's so fun to think about people who
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have joy in their lives who are having
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a great day more often are healthier because
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they're taking steps to create the world that
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they want to live in for themselves by
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getting enough sleep by moving their bodies by
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eating delicious foods that are good for them
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for resting for recreation for being with people
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that they love for connecting that key of
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C that connection and again kindness.
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Kindness is not weakness.
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Kindness is the most incredible strength that there
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is because we are here for one of
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two feelings.
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We either feel into the fear or we
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feel into the love and when you are
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filled with love that is the most powerful
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feeling and it expresses itself in many ways
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including be kind to each other.
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I could think of an example right now
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of a that it just happened today a
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kindness was exchanged.
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I went to lunch with a friend and
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I was a bit distracted and not only
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did I leave my sunglasses on the counter.
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I left my sweater on the counter and
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I didn't even realize I forgot my sunglasses
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till I got to the car and also
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and I'm just going to share with you.
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I realized I hadn't left a tip and
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there is no way that I am going
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to leave with I couldn't even leave out.
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I just thought maybe I know I have
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to go back not even thinking about the
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sunglasses and I went back in and I
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saw I want to clear my table.
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I know they do it for me, but
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they're busy.
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I want to help them and I went
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up to the counter and they have a
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little tip jar and I put the tip
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in there.
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I'm so grateful that I remembered to do
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that because I don't want to drive home
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thinking and I thought wait, and I just
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happen to ask, you know, I'm not sure
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I might have left my sunglasses and sure
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enough, they gave me my sunglasses and also
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my sweater, which I totally forgot about and
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I'm making this an example of a great
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day and I said, oh, thank you so
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much.
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I gave them the opportunity to help me
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have a great day and I'm so happy
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that I was having a great day and
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let them know that and I think that
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that's just one tiny random example of we're
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here on the earth to take care of
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each other.
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We're not here to do anything other.
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We are here to have fun and get
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things done and my vision is to do
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my very best to help people recognize within
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themselves that they have the power to make
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the choices to have a great day.
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I would love to tell you I have
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all the answers.
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I have many ideas.
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I have visions.
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I have support all over the place.
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I am your cheerleader and also.
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I am very humble to say I am
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not the answer.
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I can't tell you what to do or
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how to do it much as I'd like
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to at times.
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I can simply be myself and you can
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simply be yourself and together we create a
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great day through that through living in joy
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through having a great day by being us.
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When I think about how I would like
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the world to be, you know, if I
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could wave the magic wand, but guess what?
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I can wave the magic wand every day
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by going out there and treating myself with
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utmost care and confidence and respect and love
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and being who I am.
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You know what?
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It's okay to be me.
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It's okay to be you.
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And also sometimes it's nice to have some
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support and I think that's cool.
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There are times where I have heard people
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say, well, you don't want to say you
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want to help people.
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I get it.
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Sometimes words can trigger us.
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So whoever you're connecting with, please understand it's
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okay to say to them.
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If you said this, I it's kind of
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I'm not quite sure what you mean about
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that or maybe I'm feeling a little.
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I understand that sometimes we're like, do I
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really need help?
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I don't know that I need help.
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Why are you telling me I need help?
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Is there something wrong with me?
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Hey, there's everything right with you.
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And also we have moments where I might
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need a little extra and that's what I
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love about helping supporting people.
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There's a difference between supporting someone and enabling
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them.
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There's a difference between helping someone see how
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they can truly help themselves or cater to
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someone's.
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A victim mode, a martyr mode.
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We're all there at times.
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I've been there, but that's not how to
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have a great day.
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That's giving away your power and you are
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very powerful and power is excellent.
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And I take the bold declaration that to
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have a great day means you are powerful.
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We have seen too many instances of people
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who are not nice people.
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I'm going to say they're complete jerks and
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they're very powerful and you think great.
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I become powerful then I'm a jerk.
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I'm here to tell you that's not how
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it works and I had a thought pop
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in my head and I must also remind
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you that time and money do not equate
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freedom.
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I just had to say that I know
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you're like, where is this coming from tip?
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That's kind of out of kind of what
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here's what I mean.
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It does not take a lot of time
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or a lot of money or any of
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either to have a great day.
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And also you could have all the time
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in the world and all the money in
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the world.
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And if you don't take your power.
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It doesn't matter.
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You could still have a completely awful day.
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Those things do not equate a great day
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and I wanted to bring that in just
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to remind us that it's okay at any
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given time to have that because people all
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the time talk about well, when you have
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the time and the money and the free,
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you know, that equals the freedom the freedom.
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I feel I'm going to be a bit
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arrogant.
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I admit and just say hey, I feel
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that in order to have a great day
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requires neither.
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It simply requires that you take a powerful
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stand to be in the present moment and
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say I make a choice right now.
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That's how you have a great day and
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then guess what resources reveal themselves and you
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are able to see how time which is
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this interesting kind of constraint in our 3d
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world that we're on this planet and money
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that is simply in exchange for goods and
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services can work with you rather than against
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you and I'm all about working with people.
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Okay, you know you can either you know,
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the enemy friend thing.
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I'm all about making friends.
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Okay, I'm not here to do anything other
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than make friends have fun and get things
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done.
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So that's where I want to talk in
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a little bit about hey.
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I am open for comments and conversation and
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what I think is so cool is that
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we're here on the inspired speakers Network platform
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where if you are connected here or in
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YouTube, you can make comments, which I think
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is super cool.
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And if you're not on a platform that
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can do that and you would like to
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then feel free to join us here because
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I think and feel and know that having
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well inspired conversations.
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Speaking in an inspired way is quite a
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lovely way to have a great day and
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for a vision.
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Of what a world looks like in which
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people are having a great day is when
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they do feel that they have the freedom
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to say that because it's rooted in love
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and we are here to connect with each
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other and we are here to build upon
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our experiences and our adventures life is an
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adventure.
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Sometimes the adventure can feel not great.
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It can feel very sad or very hurtful.
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It can make you feel sad or scared
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or angry and I understand that that just
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saying that I feel the weight of it.
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And also there is always that possibility to
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take a moment take a breath and say
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I get it like right now is just
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not feeling that great and also I can
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take a breath.
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I can take a moment.
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And know that in this moment just right
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at the moment, even if something tragic just
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happened just okay that happened and right now
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I'm taking a breath and it's okay and
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from that beautiful moment that precious moment.
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Okay, your brain says, okay, I get you
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at this very moment.
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But what about yeah, yeah, or what's gonna
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okay.
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Yeah, yeah right now just a moment.
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I'm right here.
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So I'm really happy and grateful and joyful
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that I am creating a world for myself
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and I am building things right now right
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now.
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The podcast was the first grand expression of
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that vision for being here for people working
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and playing with them to create a great
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day and I love this podcast.
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It's so much fun and I'm so looking
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forward to all the wonderful people that I
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will talk to and all of the grand
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ideas and the amazing experiences and the fabulous
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adventures to share and it just starts with
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today.
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Just having that moment inside of you that
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says, you know what?
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Today is a great day and it feels
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great.