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149. Bonus Episode: The Shift Preview Call Day 2 · The Shift Podcast

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Welcome to The Shift podcast where you get to hear life
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And come join us inside The Shift.
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Hey you guys, welcome to day two of the shift preview calls.
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Really excited to be here with you guys today as we're getting
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started and people are coming on.
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Since I just started the webinar, let me know if you guys
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can hear and see me. I want to make sure audio,
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video, everything is working well and that the chat box is
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working. And this is also gonna be an
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interactive call. So let's start out.
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If you guys feel comfortable with it, put your name, where
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you're from and what you're hoping to get out of today's
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session. And if you also feel comfortable
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with this, what is a shift that you're trying to make in your
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life right now? And let me know if the chat box
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is working and if you guys can hear and see me OK too.
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All right, so good. I haven't heard anything from
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you guys. Can you hear and see me OK
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before we keep going? OK, perfect.
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Thank you. All right guys, let's get
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started. I want to first introduce
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myself. My name is Janessa Dean.
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I've been a certified life coach for the last four years.
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Actually, I think it's been about 5 now.
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I've coached hundreds of people both inside my programs and
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one-on-one to help them create confidence and get more results
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in their life and really just give you a life coaching tools
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to help hit your personal and professional goals in a shorter
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amount of time. When I found coaching, it was a
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time where I felt like things were kind of unbalanced for me
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with my work and my home life. And when I realized that I could
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create any result that I wanted by the thoughts that I was
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thinking and the feelings that that created by my thoughts, I
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realized I had so much more power over the result that I
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created in my life and how I could show up more confidently
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doing it and navigating all the doubt and the fear.
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So we're going to talk about and build on a little bit.
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What we talked about yesterday was really just how do we create
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confidence and uncertainty? And today I'm going to talk to
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you about how to create momentum once we've decided on a goal and
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a big hairy audacious goal and we want to move forward with it.
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Just a couple housekeeping things before we get started.
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I want you guys to know that the chat box is open, so I'm going
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to make this interactive if I'm going to put the questions in
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there as well. And then when we get to the
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coaching portion, there is a raise hand button down below.
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You can just raise your hand to get any coaching and then I will
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bring you on and feel free to get coaching or watch coaching.
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I think it's just as effective to watch it as well.
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And I'm going to also put the questions in the question box.
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And then also as well, if you guys want to answer that, if you
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prefer to answer that way instead of coming on, we can do
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that too. I want to keep the teaching
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portion really short today because I want ample opportunity
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for you guys to workshop some of these questions together.
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And I do see some of you guys on who are currently working with
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me, so you kind of know what my coaching style is like.
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So I would invite you guys to come on on during that part.
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OK, let's just get started. I also want to mention before we
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get started on the teaching portion, these tools, when I
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found life coaching, it really gave me the permission to go
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after whatever I want and to become whoever I wanted and to
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really listen to my gut, my intuition of this is what I want
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to create and this is the stamp I want to leave in the world.
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And I used to have so much judgment on myself that I was
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just the person who went into communications and wanted to do
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broadcast journalism and then went to banking and then flipped
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to nursing and then went to live coaching.
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I used to have so much judgment, but now I realize it's because I
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know that I have given myself permission to shift in and out
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of any identity that I want. And also I find a lot of
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confidence in knowing that I'm going to continue to listen to
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that. And I what I want to offer you
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guys is being in the identity and making the shift because
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you've listened to that whisper. It is so meaningful to be doing
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the career and the job that you know that you're meant to be
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doing. And so if what I want to give
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you guys before we start the teaching portion is just give
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yourself permission to create and want whatever you want.
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Because sometimes I think we factor in like childhood trauma,
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what our friends want, what our best, what our family wants.
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And I just want to offer for you guys to spend this next hour
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just really giving yourself permission to want what you
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want. Because now being on the other
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side of like now doing life coaching, being an entrepreneur,
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owning my own business, when I wake up every day, I am so
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excited to put this value out in the world.
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I am so excited to work with each and every one of the people
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that I work with because my mission is that I put these
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tools in the hands of more people because they're going to
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take these tools and put this in the hands of friends and family.
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And the ripple effect of that I know is going to be huge.
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And so waking up every day knowing that I listen to my gut
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and I listen to that whisper and I'm doing the thing that I know
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I'm meant to be doing and that I'm good at is so meaningful.
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So I want you guys to be thinking of this in the lens of
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I'm just going to give myself permission right now in this
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next hour to want what I want and go out and create it.
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So I want to start with that. OK, so let's talk about
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creating, creating momentum. Yesterday we talked about how do
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we be confident in uncertain situations and I really taught
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confidence is grown by allowing yourself to feel 2 opposing
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emotions at one time and still take action.
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So we talked about yesterday creating confidence and
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uncertainty is taking that feeling that you know you have
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to bring with you in the car. So for me, it's doubt.
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For me, it's a lot of pressure and then also moving forward
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within sometimes an opposing feeling that I'm going to
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generate at the same time. So usually that's courage, great
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resilience. For me, it's resilient.
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So when I'm doing something new or when I'm stepping into a new
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identity, I know that I am going to feel a tremendous amount of
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pressure and that also I want to generate resilience.
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So when I generate resilience and pressure at the same time, I
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teach myself to take forward action with both of those, and
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that just really helps me create momentum.
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So today we're going to talk about how do we create the
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momentum to just get started, put ourselves into gear and then
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get the ball rolling and get the wheels pedaling so that we can
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keep pedaling and at some point not have to be pedaling as hard,
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but coasting when we're riding a bike.
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The first thing in really learning to create momentum for
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yourself is recognizing the thoughts your brain is offering
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you that are slowing you down or even pulling you back.
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For me and for lots of you guys, you might be similar to me where
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I'm really good at taking a lot of action.
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But what I've learned over the years is that, yeah, I can take
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a bunch of action and get the result that I want, but
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oftentimes I feel burnt out at the end.
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So what I've been really teaching myself over the last
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couple years are what are the actions that I want to be taking
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that will move me forward from abundancy instead of scarcity.
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So before, when I took a lot of action, I'm like from scarcity.
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It's like I have to do all these things to create what I want.
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And now it's like I asked myself, before I make the list
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of the actions I'm going to take from abundancy, from me already
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believing that I'm going to get the result.
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And then I'm going to figure it out.
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What do I think is the next best step?
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And sometimes it's the same actions, but usually it's a lot
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less. And so to do that, we really
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have to get clear of what are the thoughts that our brains
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offering us that are having us slow down or having us pull
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back. And I'm going to give you some
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questions to really think about what those are.
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Getting into motion is the hardest part because when you
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make a decision to really go for something or when you sign that
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offer for that new job, immediately thoughts are going
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to come up. Immediately an obstacle is going
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to come up. How many of you guys have
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decided, OK, I'm going to switch jobs now or switch careers and
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then you have a family member pass away or you have you get in
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an accident and you have this big financial burden?
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I really believe that that's the way the universe is testing us
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is if we really want it or not. And I believe that when we set a
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big goal for ourselves, usually an obstacle is going to come up,
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whether it's like a physical obstacle or a circumstantial
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obstacle or whether it's an obstacle in our brain.
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And I just know that and I come to expect that.
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And what's different in coming to expect it is that you're on
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to yourself when those thoughts start to happen.
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So I want you guys to think about that.
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Just know when you make a big decision, obstacles are going to
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come up and be ready for them. And I'm going to give you some
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questions to kind of think about with that.
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Taking action is also actually easier than spending time in
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your brain drama. So how many of you guys are
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faced with the decision whether it's like, do I move to this job
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or do I do this job? And they could be very, very
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similar. It could be similar to the
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coaching I gave yesterday where she was like, do I work ER or
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ICU? So very similar jobs, very
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similar to departments. And your brain likes to spin in
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the back and forth of it so much that you're just only thinking
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about that one decision. And one thing that I want to
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offer you guys is that we can spend a lot of time in our brain
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drama. Our, our brain tells us, oh,
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this is a really useful time indulging in this decision.
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But what is easier is just believing and making a decision,
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committing and moving forward. It's easier to believe that it's
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possible for you to make the right decision than to believe
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that it's possible for you to make the wrong one.
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And when we think that we're not capable of something like her
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coaching yesterday was, well, what if I make the wrong
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decision? And then she indulged in that.
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When we think about we can't do something and we're not capable
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of it, we spend a lot of time beating ourselves up and that
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takes a lot of energy. It takes a lot of brain energy
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and it takes us out of momentum. Versus it really is easier to
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just believe I'm a good decision maker and to just make the
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decision and move forward. I know it doesn't sound easier
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because your brain wants to offer you a lot of drama about
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it, but it really is easier to believe it's possible for you
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than to not believe. And I also wanna say that again,
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indulging and spinning in this indecision feels useful to our
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brain, but it just keeps us stuck and it keeps us stuck
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longer. Something that I've been
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thinking about too. And I had one of my clients
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asked me that the other day. They said how do I really enjoy
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what I'm doing on and working on now while also wanting something
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better for myself. It was almost like she was
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asking me at like if I want something more, if I want this
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result in the future then I won't enjoy now like I then I
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won't enjoy the present. And I told her how you can enjoy
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the present and still be the person who knows you're meant
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for something more or want more is to find the joy in the
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process. Because here's the thing, the
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majority of us feel like we want to get there because it's going
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to be better when we get there. Or we're chasing the feeling of
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what we think we're going to get when we get there.
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But when you arrive, you realize that it's not better there than
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it is here. And so where you where you want
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to connect these to and become the person who loves the present
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while also striving for more is finding the joy in the
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challenge, finding the joy in the journey, finding the joy in
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who you're becoming and getting to that person.
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And to do that, we also have to really deeply tap into desire
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and really asking ourself, what is it that we desire?
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I talked about this at the beginning, giving yourself
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permission to think about what it is that I really want.
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Because if you can get to the reason why you really desire
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this, then you don't need to lean on motivation and you don't
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need to lean on discipline. So these are asking yourself
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like, what are thoughts that you need to create about the
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challenge? And I don't know about you guys,
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but when I had a challenging situation, sometimes it's hard
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for me to get to. But the more majority of the
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time I'm like, I love challenges.
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I'm the person who when my kids can't figure something out or my
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friends are like, I just can't get to this thing that I'm
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trying to get to. They come to me and they're
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like, what do you see? And I'm like, oh, I love this.
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Let's like work this out. Let's like pencil out all the
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different ways to get there. I just love the challenge.
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And so this has been something that I have been really playing
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around with. And then also like just finding
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the joy in the becoming. Another example that just came
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up for me that I want you guys to think about is I ran my first
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half marathon a couple years ago and I was like, you know, there
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were some days where it's like I don't know if I want to go for
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this nine mile run or the Six Mile run or these or the days
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where it started to pile up. And I realized like I just found
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the joy in building myself and becoming the person and running
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the race. So running the half marathon was
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great and finishing was great. Like that all felt good.
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But honestly, it felt so good to just become the person who could
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build in learning how to run the half marathon.
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And so I want you guys to think about this as you are maybe in
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the messy middle and you're maybe making the shift.
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Like how can you find joy in the journey?
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How can you find joy in becoming that person and in the process?
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One example that I wanted to give you guys, I am just so
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floored by watching this. And it's OK if you guys don't
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like Taylor Swift, but she does this documentary and it is
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following herself of her heiress tour.
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But it it's like a docu series of her filming it behind the
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scenes. And she's talking about before
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she decided to do it, it was during COVID and she just had
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this idea that she wanted to make this like a movie and an
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experience and an emotional experience that took her fans
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through the creation of all these different albums that she
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made. And she said, I want to do
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something different that maybe no one's done before and that
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for sure she hadn't done before. She's like, I want to commit to
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having them experience a whole spectrum of emotions throughout
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all of the throughout all of the the nights that she ran the
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tours and she gave it to her team.
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And her team's like, that's going to be a 3-4 hour set list.
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And she's like, yeah. And they're like, you're going
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to be dancing the whole time. And she's like, yeah.
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And what I loved about this docu series was she listened to this
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whisper. She committed to the idea and
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she committed to having the outcome even though she hadn't
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gotten all the people yet and created the whole thing.
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And the end result of this was momentous.
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It was people felt all of those emotions.
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And she committed to doing something that no one has done
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before. She committed to listening to
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the whisper, making the vision and seeing it all the way
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through. And I loved this because I
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thought we have to be willing to be a leader sometimes and we
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have to be willing to see the vision before anybody else does.
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And sometimes that means, and I've shared this before too,
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when I wanted to become a flight nurse, my husband and my family
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were not on board with it. And sometimes that means you
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have to be willing to go 1st and you also have to be willing to
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carry the belief and the vision for other people.
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And I just knew that I wanted this so much that after I did
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it, they would see it. And if they didn't see it, it
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was going to be OK because I believed in myself and I was
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willing to go 1st and do it. And so I really want to offer
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for you guys, take yourself seriously.
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Honor what you've set out to do. Honor your commitment to your
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ideas, even if no one's done it before or even if no one in your
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family has done it before or you maybe you don't have an example
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of it. And be willing to take criticism
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and not let it mean anything about you.
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Be willing to find so much joy in the journey and the challenge
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that when you do get criticism, you're like, oh, OK, I could see
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how you could think it. But also I still love my idea.
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And also, I still love being willing to go first, hold
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confidence in the outcome in this messy metal, even if it's
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failure after failure. Hold confidence in that and hold
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confidence in the journey of who you're becoming before you get
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there. Because what I tell everybody,
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like it feels so good once you get to flight.
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That's my other program that I coach in the flight prep
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Academy. It feels so good once you get to
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flight, but also it's about who you become in the process of
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getting there and that person that you can just be so proud of
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in in that person before getting that offer.
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Being a leader is a willingness to go first too.
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And I just want to offer you guys that being the leader
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doesn't always feel good. But I know from like, like most
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of you guys like me, I feel this burning inside me to put forth
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out these life coaching tools and whatever it is for you that
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you're like, hey, I really want to create this, but I don't know
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anybody who's done it or I really want to shift into doing
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this. And I don't have anyone that
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that I know who has done it. It's being willing to just
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follow that and go 1st and feel uncertainty at the same time.
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So I want to also tell you that that burning inside of you is
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harder to not listen to than to listen to.
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Sometimes we pull back and we decide not to go for it because
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we're like, oh, this is going to feel uncomfortable or this is
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going to feel like fear or this is going to feel like doubt.
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But how many of you guys have lived with regret because you
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know you've wanted something and you just have never gone for it?
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That feeling of regret is going to be much harder to live with
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than just feeling discomfort or doubt and going for it and
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getting into the momentum. OK, so that's the teaching
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portion. I have some questions now I want
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to ask you guys to think about. I'm going to put them in the
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chat and then I'm also going to read them out loud for those
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people who are listening back to this.
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And then I would love for you guys to come on and tell me your
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thoughts and maybe get some coaching on this.
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So question one I want you guys to think about is what actions
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are you not taking because you are avoiding discomfort and
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immediately you should know what's coming up for you.
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Question 2, What's the negative emotions that you would have to
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be forced to feel if you forced yourself to take the action?
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If you forced yourself to take the action in one that you know
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that you're not doing, what's the negative emotion that you
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would have to be willing to feel?
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For me, it's pressure and it's doubt.
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Those are the two that always come up for me.
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And then three is who is a you who could just allow that
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emotion? Like if you could just become
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the person who's allows pressure and and doubt, who, who would
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that person be? What what would he or she be
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like? OK, who would like to come on
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and discuss these or get some coaching on it?
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I was making the making sure the raise hand button worked.
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Especially anyone on here who is my current clients who's willing
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to kind of showcase what it's like to workshop through some of
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these questions. All right, Nathan, I'm going to
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bring you on. Let's go.
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Well, I feel like you directly called me out so I had to raise
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my. Hand, you always say that.
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I love that. Your your questions have
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disappeared since I've become a panelist.
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Oh, no. OK.
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But you can't see any of the questions on there.
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Not anymore now. Can you now?
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Over. Let's see.
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No. OK, are you cool if I just read
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them out loud to you? Go for it.
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OK, question #1 is what actions are you not taking because
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you're avoiding discomfort? 2 is what's the negative emotion
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that you would have to be forced to feel if you forced yourself
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to take that action that you weren't taking in question one
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and three is who is the you who could allow that emotion?
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And feel free to let me know if you want me to repeat them.
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Any of them. OK, so the first one, what
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actions am I not taking because of whatever emotion?
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I mean, or even if it's not the emotion, like what action do you
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think that you're not taking because you're avoiding
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discomfort right now? I mean, to be honest, right now,
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currently I don't feel like I'm avoiding much, but I don't think
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I'm, well, I mean, a lot have happened since we last talked to
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now so oh. OK.
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So it's kind of hard to get all into it.
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Well, what question do you feel like stumped on or where?
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I mean, I can quote you on anything.
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So where are you kind of like with these questions?
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Where are you feeling like maybe you are wanting to workshop it a
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little bit? Well, so it's not that I feel
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like I'm avoiding action or anything right now.
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That new information has come up and I'm just kind of stuck
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again, OK? Because we don't know what's
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going to happen again. OK, so let's talk about this
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because I've heard you say this before.
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So I think it's really helpful to be on your brain about why
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it's telling you that you're stuck.
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So tell me why you feel stuck. And if you don't want to share
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circumstances, that's OK, but tell me why you are feeling
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stuck in indecision or in this decision.
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Well OK, I'll share. There's nothing like damning or
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anything but. So for anyone unaware, my wife
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is military and we have a move coming up soon.
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Up until this last week we had no idea where it was going to
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be, we just knew it was going to be sometime this summer.
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So we finally got a list of locations that we could
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potentially move to. In that list, we don't know
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which one we're being selected for for at least another week to
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a month. Two of them are overseas
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assignments, 3 of them are here stateside.
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And like we talked about in the past, Janessa, I was kind of in
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that like do I move towards going towards Yarna School or do
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I gear towards going back into the military myself?
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There is a lot of caveats and asterisks to a lot of this.
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So it let's just start with if we do stateside, we get selected
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for a stateside assignment. I have looked at those States
26:37
and they are only accepting ICU experience for CRNA school.
26:46
So, and that's at least minimum a year, but they prefer to OK,
26:56
so it's like, well crap, kind of have to start again from square
27:00
1. If.
27:01
If we get stateside, if that is the path I go down and then that
27:10
leads into some whole other things, but I'm not going to get
27:12
into that right now. Where specifically are you
27:15
feeling stuck? Because I'm just curious for
27:26
you, Nathan, if it's just lots of decisions and that's what's
27:29
having you pull back. I guess you could say that it's
27:35
just I need information in order to know what I need to what my
27:41
next steps needs to be. OK, I actually think this is a
27:45
step before this for you. OK.
27:49
Because circumstantially, yes, you need information to be able
27:53
to make decision of what you want to decide.
27:56
But what's keeping you from being able to trust that when
27:59
you get those circumstances, you'll be able to do it?
28:05
Nothing. I mean, I don't think it's like
28:11
a lack of faith in myself or anything that would be from
28:17
accomplishing the goal. It's just all the nitty gritty
28:21
steps to get there, which we've talked about, are not my
28:26
favorite thing to do, but I'm trying to work on that as well.
28:30
OK, OK, so this is perfect. Let's talk about this for a
28:32
second. If we thought about you, let's
28:39
Fast forward five years. Yep.
28:41
And we don't have to put a profession on it.
28:44
So maybe it's the military job, maybe it's ACRNA job.
28:47
We're fast forwarding five years.
28:48
But whatever it is, you're so you love it.
28:52
And you're like so glad that all of this like moving, not moving,
28:57
having to do for things, jump through hoops, like you're so
29:00
glad you went through that because it helped you become
29:03
that person. What if you could like, pull
29:09
from him? What would he tell you about all
29:12
this time of like uncertainty and all of these decisions in
29:17
the different pathways? What?
29:18
What wisdom would he give you? He would probably say, man that
29:23
sucked, but good thing he kept doing.
29:26
Yeah. So what comes up for you with
29:31
that wisdom of what he told you? Man that sucks, but good thing
29:34
you kept with it and you did it. I mean, just keep your head
29:40
down, keep pushing regardless of you know which path it is, and I
29:48
mean just keep moving forward with it.
29:56
And also one thing that I want to pull you back to my hunches
29:58
to like, just like this kind of loss of like control of like
30:02
where you going to live, what's the job, what's the state, all
30:04
of those things. That's like my hunch that you're
30:08
kind of feeling. My other thing that I want to
30:12
offer you is like, really bring yourself back to what is it that
30:16
you have control over? Like what is it that you're
30:18
certain of, and what is it that you do have control over?
30:25
Sure. I mean like I'm still trying to
30:33
get more general requirements for any path forward out of the
30:39
way. Like I have my CCRN that I'm
30:43
taking Friday. So good.
30:47
And just knowing that, OK, what was I going to say?
30:57
Well, I asked you like, what are you certain of and what do you
31:00
have control over? Right.
31:03
So more general stuff like the CCRN and oh God why do I keep
31:12
getting hung up on this right now.
31:14
Well, because I think that your brain wants to answer it with
31:16
like all the things that you're doing.
31:18
But more of like the question is, and we talked about this a
31:22
little bit yesterday, like navigating uncertainty.
31:25
The reason why you can show up confident and uncertain
31:28
situations like where you don't exactly know what's next is when
31:32
you are certain about yourself and like trusting yourself and
31:37
like certain that you know, for me, like I'm, I know I'm going
31:41
to always figure it out or I'm going to find the resource
31:44
that's going to help me do it, whatever the situation is.
31:47
So when it comes to that like what are what do you have
31:51
control of and what are you certain of when it comes to you
31:55
and making big decisions or navigating moves and changes?
32:00
I If I turn inward, I know if it's something I really want
32:07
then I will be able to get there.
32:10
It's just a matter of when. So I have faith in that.
32:18
It's just getting through. I guess the negative emotion
32:20
that I'm feeling through all this is I am pissed.
32:25
Oh OK, OK. Is it possible?
32:32
Well, first, like, tell me, do you know why you're pissed?
32:35
Tell me why you're pissed. A lot of it is past
32:41
circumstance, which again, I know I have no control over, but
32:45
it still upsets me. Like I've worked this hard to
32:50
get to this point and I'm trying to move forward, but for
32:56
whatever reason, whether it's like CRNA only requiring ICU or
33:01
if we get overseas, like I don't even know if I'm going to be
33:04
able to have a job. Like it's hard to get to this
33:09
point and now it's like I'm taking steps back.
33:13
OK, if you weren't pissed, what's the alternative?
33:17
Like if you just like, let's just like go there for a second.
33:20
If you had no power to be like brain powered available to feel
33:25
pissed anymore, what would be that motion that if you could
33:28
choose it if. I could choose it.
33:34
If I could choose, I would just be confident in whatever I am
33:42
doing next and not have any doubts or fears of regret later
33:48
on. OK, well also I wonder for you,
33:53
Nathan, is is you're unsure because you don't want to regret
34:02
steps that you haven't taken yet or decisions you haven't made.
34:09
Like you're kind of like tiptoeing around decisions
34:11
because you don't want to regret them later.
34:20
I don't, no. That's something I can
34:24
definitely like, sit and think about.
34:27
OK, OK, well then I'm going to give it to you very plainly just
34:30
because I know you too is you can definitely let yourself be
34:36
pissed. Like that's definitely a choice
34:38
that you can have. You can totally, totally have
34:41
that choice. I want to offer that to you.
34:43
There's lots of situations where I'm like, I'm just going to be
34:45
pissed and I'm going to give myself this amount of time.
34:48
But when you are pissed thinking about the past and what has
34:53
stopped your past circumstances to moving forward now, what are
34:57
you not doing? Not progressing.
35:02
Yeah, when for you, when you're pissed, it just keeps you in
35:07
your past, right? It doesn't have you looking
35:10
forward. So I believe that you're the
35:13
person that can do this and get to where you want to be, whether
35:16
it's CNA or your military goal, Pissed all the way because
35:19
that's just who you are. You're a hard worker.
35:21
But the alternative that I do want to offer you is that we
35:25
can. I'll let go of that piss.
35:29
I mean, maybe that's going to take some time.
35:31
We're going to need to process it through and why exactly you
35:33
are. But you could also do it with
35:36
letting go of being pissed and being confident the whole time.
35:43
Both ways are going to get you there.
35:46
Yeah, I hear everything you're saying loud and clear.
35:50
It's just going to take some work.
35:52
Yeah, yeah. So maybe right now, what would
35:55
it look like to be pissed? Because we're not going to get
35:59
over that. We're going to just allow it for
36:00
right now and then also generate a little bit of confidence at
36:04
the same time so that we can look forward.
36:12
Yes. What might that look like for
36:18
you? I mean, honestly, I think I'm
36:28
already doing it, I just need to be more cool with it.
36:36
Yeah, honestly, I think it's you just need to give yourself more
36:39
credit. Yeah, 'cause we forget to do
36:42
that. We're like, wait, You're like,
36:43
wait. I am kind of doing it.
36:46
I am pissed and I am moving forward and I am confidently
36:50
taking the actions and I am thinking about my future right
36:52
now and then it's like, OK, how are all the ways that I am doing
36:56
it? How do I give myself credit that
36:58
I'm doing it? Yeah, yeah.
37:00
It's like myself Credit. Yeah, like it's the giving
37:03
yourself credit that will actually create the momentum for
37:06
you. That's the key for you in this
37:08
conversation. OK.
37:12
How does that feel for you it? It's relieving in a sense that
37:23
like I'm already doing it. Like what?
37:27
What's the whole like? What's the hang up here?
37:30
Totally. So in that sense, it's good and
37:33
relieving that I can like just kind of pinpoint it.
37:36
Yeah. But I am also still just feeling
37:39
that again, I haven't given myself credit in decades so.
37:46
Yes, just. Flip it.
37:48
Yeah, yeah. What's gonna the flipped
37:50
conversation part of this is it's actually not discomfort
37:53
that you have to feel to start momentum.
37:55
It's giving yourself credit, which is uncomfortable for you
37:59
to start the momentum. But for you, it's like giving
38:04
yourself credit, telling yourself all the things that
38:06
you're doing, chalking up all of the winds, writing those down.
38:10
That's what's gonna create the momentum.
38:13
But that's the uncomfortable thing for you right now.
38:15
Mm hmm. But once you create that
38:18
momentum, giving yourself credit is going to be putting you in
38:21
motion and that's going to become easier too.
38:24
And you're going to realize the credit, like giving yourself
38:27
that credit, those alkalades, those wins, that's what's going
38:31
to keep you going and get you unstuck.
38:36
I really think that like that's key for you.
38:41
I agree. OK, you got this.
38:45
Yep, for. Sure, keep us posted and let us
38:47
know how it goes. You know I will.
38:49
OK. I love it.
38:50
Thanks for getting coaching on that, Nathan.
38:54
OK, if I can figure out how to put you back.
39:07
OK, so good. I have a couple more minutes, so
39:12
I want to open this up to anybody else.
39:14
If anything came up for you or you want some additional
39:17
coaching on any of these questions, just gonna give a
39:21
second. If anybody wants to workshop it,
39:23
raise your hand. OK, so good.
39:37
I want to thank you guys for being on and thank Nathan for
39:42
being willing to go 1st and workshop that.
39:44
So I mean coaching him, you just realize like sometimes it isn't
39:49
discomfort. Sometimes the discomfort is the
39:51
thing that is hard for us, which is chalking up our wins and is
39:58
giving ourselves a little pat on the back, and that is what's
40:01
going to create the momentum. So I'm so glad that we found
40:04
that for him too. It's like sometimes we are the
40:06
people who just love discomfort but then giving ourselves like.
40:11
Saying, yeah, Oh yeah, you are doing it, you are doing a good
40:14
job. Like that's the thing that we
40:16
need to do more of because it has our brain recognizing, Oh
40:20
yeah, we are doing it. We are starting to create the
40:24
momentum. So I loved that coaching.
40:26
I want to offer you guys if you want to continue taking this
40:30
conversation deeper and you want to continue creating the
40:33
momentum towards what you want and start applying these
40:36
concepts right away in your everyday life, Come join us
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program. I'm going to tell you right now
40:46
everything that includes, I'm going to show you the member
40:48
portal and the private podcast link and then give you more
40:50
information on taking this further.
40:53
So the biggest thing that I want to tell you guys and everything
40:57
that includes is this. These are all the things that I
41:00
love about my coaching programs. These are all the things that
41:02
I've loved being in coaching programs and I really want to
41:05
integrate them into to this one. One thing that is included
41:10
inside of the shift is a weekly live coaching.
41:13
I love these calls because if you guys could feel the desire
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and motivation and the things that we talked about creating
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momentum and going first and being a leader, it feels so good
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while you're on the call and then you get off the call and a
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couple days later obstacles come up and life is lifing and things
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are happening and you feel it fizzle out a little bit.
41:31
Well, you get right back into that 7th day and then there's
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So I love being able to to take real situations from your life,
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apply the tools to them, and then have that support and
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41:47
I just think these calls help you think differently, make
41:49
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41:52
spending more time getting stuck in your mind.
41:55
And I think transformation really happens when you practice
41:58
it, not only just listen to it, but then start to integrate it.
42:01
And that's the workshop, the coaching portion of all of the
42:04
calls. All of these replays will be
42:05
housed in the member portal. So you can go back and watch
42:08
them if you can't make it live. I don't want anybody to be in
42:11
this perfect student mindset for this.
42:13
This is really to give yourself one hour each week to give put
42:18
your oxygen mask on 1st. I really believe when you do
42:21
that, then you have so much more energy.
42:23
You have so much more time. And whether it's coming to the
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call live for the one hour, listening to the replay for a
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one hour, or listening to the replay on the private podcast
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link while you're walking, it's dedicating that one hour to
42:35
yourself for really like mind management, self development and
42:39
accountability. And I really feel like on my
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calls when I show up weekly, it gives me the time back to really
42:49
surge forward and to really declutter my brain.
42:53
So that's why I love the integration of the weekly calls.
42:58
It also will help you tap back into every week your goals and
43:02
what you really want and what you're moving forward with, even
43:04
when obstacles are coming up. This thing that I just added is
43:07
something that I've just added to all my programs and I really
43:09
wanted to integrate this as a part of the program.
43:12
And this is a private podcast feed.
43:14
If I can't make it to my group programs live, I love listening
43:18
to it on the go, whether I'm in the car, whether I am working
43:21
out or whether I'm on my walk. Sometimes I feel like when I'm
43:24
in motion, that's where I can integrate some of this coaching
43:28
and these tools the best too. So I have a a private podcast
43:32
feed for all of the replays. So if you're an auditory
43:34
learner, which I am, and you don't want to watch it the
43:38
replays back that way, you can listen to them.
43:40
And I'm going to show you what that looks like inside the
43:43
member portal in just a second. The third thing that I really
43:46
include in this is a community group chat.
43:48
I love being able to have communities.
43:50
I think this is where we really thrive and being with rooms in
43:54
rooms of people of where we want to be and with the same
43:57
commonality of of just like the same growth mindset.
44:01
The community is a place where you can ask questions, share
44:03
your wins that work through challenges in real time, and
44:06
then you can be surrounded by people who are committed to
44:08
growth as well. These community group chats, I
44:10
love this because you can get support 24/7 and you can get
44:13
coaching in between calls from me or from anybody in the group
44:17
as well. So you can tap in in those in
44:19
between our sessions. And I really think that when you
44:22
put yourself in rooms, you're moving forward intentionally,
44:26
the standards that you have rise as well.
44:29
And I think this is what's created a lot of success for me
44:32
by always having a mentor and being in these rooms of these
44:36
people who are thinking at high levels that I am thinking at.
44:39
And again, are where I want to be.
44:41
So the member portal is where you're going to have your own
44:46
username and password. You're going to be able to
44:48
access all the replays. I plan on doing courses and
44:51
trainings and workshops. Those are all going to be in
44:53
there for you as well. And then I am going to be
44:56
housing my six step process to make any shift in your life in
44:59
there as well. And I'm going to talk to you
45:00
about that in just a second. But I want to show you the
45:02
member portal so that you can see exactly what it looks like
45:05
and you can see how easy it is to navigate.
45:14
Can you guys see my screen? Hang on, let me go back to here.
45:29
OK? Hopefully you guys can see my
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screen. Just let me know if you can.
45:35
This is the member portal, so when you join, you're going to
45:38
get a welcome letter with your own username and your password.
45:41
You're going to see the shift in there, and then you're going to
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be able to go to the welcome video.
45:45
This just tells you what to expect to get started.
45:48
The welcome letter will also outline all of that for you,
45:51
exactly what the calls are going to like, what to expect on the
45:54
sidebar. You're also going to see our
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date is going to be Thursdays at noon Pacific Time every
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Thursday, and then we start April 9th together.
46:02
The Zoom link will be the same. It's there.
46:04
And then here's our community group chat too, that you can go
46:06
into all the weekly replays once they start April 9th will be
46:09
housed here. And then I will also have a sick
46:13
or the six step process of getting making any shift in your
46:17
life there. And I'm going to talk about what
46:20
exactly that is in just a second as well.
46:22
Then you're going to also see the private podcast link.
46:25
This is what it's going to look like.
46:26
You're going to be able to click on this button here and then you
46:29
can put that this is an individual RSS link.
46:32
You can put this URL in any podcast platform that allows you
46:37
to listen to a private podcast. And then one I update the calls,
46:42
which will be by 5:00 PM Pacific Standard Time every Thursday.
46:46
They'll be the calls in the one reportal and then you'll also
46:49
have it directly sent to you from your podcast platform as
46:52
well. And as you can see, I the very
46:55
first thing that I put in here is the welcome video.
46:57
So you can listen to that. If you'd rather listen to it,
46:59
then watch it. So that's what the member portal
47:03
looks like. I just wanted to let you guys
47:05
know that I structured this program this way because I know
47:09
what it's like to read books, listen to podcasts, and just
47:11
think about what you want. And I don't think that's enough.
47:14
I think we need application accountability, community and
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support. And this is what really will
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help you keep you from pulling back in your old patterns and
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letting yourself get stuck and be in the obstacle set that your
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life is offering you. The shift is going to give you
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the tools, the space to apply them, the accountability to
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follow through, and the community to reinforce it.
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And I wanted to make this lifetime because I know that
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you're going to constantly be making shifts in your life,
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intentional, unintentional job changes, career changes,
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identity changes. You might go through a breakup
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or you might lose your job. Like this is how I want to
47:51
support you with life coaching tools for all of these things
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and identity shifts. We're constantly, if you're a
47:58
doer and someone who's an overachiever, we're constantly
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making a different identity shifts and shifting in and out
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of what we're wanting. And I want to just help you
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become the person who can handle the hard, find joy in the
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challenge and move forward and create momentum.
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This entire program for the lifetime membership for
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everything that I listed out is $1200.
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I have a painful option and I have a three monthly payment
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for you guys too. And great.
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I wanted to let you guys know if you Join Now, there's a special
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Join Now you are going to get to be a part of this process and
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workshop it and I will coach it with you guys.
48:56
You can see the live integration and then this framework is going
49:00
to all be housed inside the member portal.
49:02
This is a six step process that I'm going to go over.
49:04
We're going to start the very first week and we're going to go
49:06
through six weeks of working through this process together
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starting April 9th. Each week on our call, we're
49:12
going to workshop this and then I'm going to put that in there
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for it to live inside the member portal.
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So the first step is listening to the whisper.
49:20
I'm going to teach you how to have self-awareness, how to
49:22
decide and commit to get yourself unstuck and to be a
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good decision maker. Step 2 is declutter your brain.
49:28
I'm going to teach you how to have doubt and uncertainty, how
49:31
to declutter your brain, how to recognize the negative thoughts
49:34
and emotions without judging them and moving forward
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confidently. Step three, I'm going to teach
49:39
you how to, when you create a vision story redirecting, what
49:42
is your purpose? What is your why, what is your
49:44
desire of what you really want? And then we're going to create
49:46
that vision. Step 4 is tapping into
49:49
capability. A lot of us think that we have
49:51
this ceiling of what we're capable of.
49:52
I'm going to teach you how to stretch and grow your capability
49:56
and your capacity. Step 5 is going to be how do we
49:59
get future focused? How do we no longer live in the
50:02
past of what we think that we're capable of and how do we pull
50:06
from the future to create a plan to move forward?
50:08
Step 6 is the last one, action acceleration.
50:11
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instead of scarcity? I'm going to really teach you
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joining. And I want to leave these last
50:32
couple minutes for any questions that you guys might have.
50:38
Feel free to type them in the chat box.
50:42
I think there's AQ and a box too, but you can just put them
50:44
in the chat box. That'll be easier for me.
50:48
Anything that we covered today or any questions about the
50:51
shift? OK, as you guys know that if you
51:03
have any questions, you get off this call and you're like, Oh my
51:05
gosh, I was just thinking about this thing and I couldn't I, I
51:07
didn't, or I didn't feel comfortable putting it in the
51:10
chat box or coming on live to ask it.
51:12
I want you guys to know that you can reach out to me by e-mail or
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51:21
And I'm happy to have a conversation with you about any
51:24
of the thoughts that we were talking about today, creating a
51:26
momentum or about joining us inside the shift.
51:28
Tomorrow is going to be our last preview day.
51:30
And I'm going to talk to you about how do we take everything
51:33
that we talked about and declutter our brain.
51:36
Decluttering our brain is the most important step that you can
51:38
take because when you have a managed mind, you're going to
51:41
take very different actions. You're going to have more
51:43
control. You're going to be able to make
51:45
high level decisions with lots of clarity and get unstuck.
51:49
Thanks guys for being on today. And hopefully I will see all of
51:52
you guys tomorrow and inside the shift.
51:55
We'll see you guys. Bye.
51:59
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