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The Storm the Church Doesn't See : No Dating + No Marriage = No Children (Part 1 0f 2) · Goon Tavern

• 0:16
  SPEAKER_00: It is a good morning.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yes.
• 0:20
  SPEAKER_00: I hope you are all doing well.
• 0:22
  SPEAKER_00: It is goon time, ladies and gentlemen.
• 0:25
  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to the Goon Tavern.
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  SPEAKER_00: I am your host, Jamie McKeever, and I tell you, I am just super excited.
• 0:32
  SPEAKER_00: And welcome, welcome to the show.
• 0:37
  SPEAKER_00: You know, I tell you there the this this topic that we're talking about right now is a huge, huge issue.
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  SPEAKER_00: I didn't realize the numbers, and when I looked them up, I was just, it's it's shattering.
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  SPEAKER_00: It really is a big, huge problem that I think the church has blinders on right now.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're talking complete tunnel vision, oblivious, no clue what is going on right now.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it affects a lot of different things, like important things.
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  SPEAKER_00: And we're gonna get right into it.
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  SPEAKER_00: And first of all, I'm gonna have some of my amazing tea right now.
• 1:20
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, that's good.
• 1:22
  SPEAKER_00: It's a vanilla almond, um, I think Republic tea it is.
• 1:27
  SPEAKER_00: So good, so go, so good.
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  SPEAKER_00: And no sugar, which is perfect.
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  SPEAKER_00: Anyway, to get into what we're gonna talk about right now is basically it is it has to do with the demographics of men and women right now when it comes to relationships, marriage, and dating itself.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'm gonna break down a lot of different things, and it probably is gonna end up being a two-part um episode because there's so much to cover in this.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, without any hesitation, so I looked into this and it's a um a research done by uh Morgan Stanley, okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: And pay attention to these numbers right here, okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: By the year 2030, 2030, that's only four years away at this point, less than four years right now.
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  SPEAKER_00: 45%, 45% of women from the ages 29 to 44 will be unmarried and without children.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'll say that one more time, okay?
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  SPEAKER_00: In 2030, which is less than four years away, 45% of women ages 29 to 44 will be unmarried and childless.
• 2:41
  SPEAKER_00: On top of that, okay, on top of that, 63% of young men ages 18 to 29, okay, ages 18 to 29, currently right now are not interested or not even looking into a relationship.
• 2:59
  SPEAKER_00: I'll say that one more time, okay?
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  SPEAKER_00: 63%, huge number, okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: 63% of young men 18 to 29 years old are not even looking into a relationship and they're not even interested in one.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is just this is crazy.
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  SPEAKER_00: I mean, it doesn't take a math scientist to figure out that you put those two numbers again, the 45% of women that are going to be unmarried and childless by 2030, and how men currently, right now, are not interested or even looking into relationships, we're all gonna go extinct, folks.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is just crazy.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, and it's it's the U.S.
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  SPEAKER_00: is no exception.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like there are a lot of other countries in Europe.
• 3:41
  SPEAKER_00: I think there's only a few.
• 3:43
  SPEAKER_00: I saw this one uh map that showed all the countries of Europe, and I think Hungary was the only one that was above replacement rate.
• 3:50
  SPEAKER_00: All the other European countries are below replacement rate.
• 3:53
  SPEAKER_00: So, of course, that's just that's just the idea of like birth rates itself.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's a whole nother issue.
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  SPEAKER_00: But so you have this high amount of women that are unmarried at those age groups, and you have young men that are not even interested in looking into relationships.
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  SPEAKER_00: Why is this happening?
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  SPEAKER_00: Is the question, of course, that we need to ask.
• 4:17
  SPEAKER_00: Well, it's not as simple as just one quick answer.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's multiple reasons for this.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'm gonna try to do my best to break down where I think a lot of the issues are.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's it's multiple issues.
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  SPEAKER_00: At the same time, I don't want to just leave you guys, of course, with this cliffhanger of like, well, everything sucks, like, you know, a climate change documentary, like most of them, that we're all gonna die in 12 years and there's nothing you can do about it.
• 4:40
  SPEAKER_00: So just panic and just freak out and you know, link up in the middle of a freeway and hope you don't get run over.
• 4:48
  SPEAKER_00: So here's a few things I wanted to like go over right now.
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  SPEAKER_00: All right.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you look at um the average age groups, okay, so this is this has to do with average ages of when people are getting married, okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: And we're gonna go a little bit into the past and the present to kind of show those numbers, okay?
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  SPEAKER_00: So in 1950, okay, 1950, the average age for men when they got married was 22.8 years old, and for women, it was 20.3 years old, okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: Today, currently in 2024, men are usually an average age of 30.2 years and women at 28.6 years, okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: And this is important, I'll explain this.
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  SPEAKER_00: So why is it that people are putting off marriage is the question.
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  SPEAKER_00: All right.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you know, I there's there's a lot of different factors for that as well.
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  SPEAKER_00: So the first thing, obviously, people used to get married a lot younger than they used to.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um now I'm happy to say that a lot of my nieces and nephews have married young, and I'm very happy they have actually.
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  SPEAKER_00: A lot of people would gasp at that and say, like, what are you crazy?
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  SPEAKER_00: That's a terrible idea.
• 5:59
  SPEAKER_00: No, it's not.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'll explain why.
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  SPEAKER_00: All right.
• 6:03
  SPEAKER_00: And further on, okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: So the the first aspect of this, okay, of why people are putting this off, okay.
• 6:16
  SPEAKER_00: Is you have it where what happened in the 19 after the 1950s?
• 6:20
  SPEAKER_00: 1960s, you had the birth control pill.
• 6:23
  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: What did the birth control pill do?
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  SPEAKER_00: It basically allowed women didn't have to be as selective with their mates that they chose.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, it allowed promiscuity for both men and women when you think about it, as far as less consequences, because the fear of getting pregnant was lessened.
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  SPEAKER_00: So as a result, you have it now where people are prolonging marriage because the idea of children doesn't even matter anymore.
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  SPEAKER_00: They're not even a value.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
• 6:57
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and that's just heartbreaking.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, you have it now where basically the birth control has allowed the ability where those consequences of not only uh picking the wrong mate is like prolonged because now it can just be about sex.
• 7:16
  SPEAKER_00: You don't have it where women are more selective with their partners, um, including men in terms of like when it comes to their sexual partners.
• 7:25
  SPEAKER_00: So if we look at one aspect, let's just take the the sexual aspect of this, okay?
• 7:30
  SPEAKER_00: If you have it where, you know, you prolong marriage, what ends up happening?
• 7:38
  SPEAKER_00: You have it where more people have more sexual partners, there's more time to fool around, make mistakes, have regrets, contract a bunch of STDs.
• 7:50
  SPEAKER_00: And then by the time that you're ready to settle down, you're gonna be basically like, you know, probably about 35 or so.
• 7:57
  SPEAKER_00: And then you all of a sudden want to be monogamous, which is so stupid to me.
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  SPEAKER_00: I really don't understand, like, you know, the secular point of view is is kind of laughable to me because they they want to hold on to this moral code of include uh exclusivity when it comes to like, you know, I want to have a monogamous marriage.
• 8:19
  SPEAKER_00: I don't want to have anyone else be with my spouse except me.
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  SPEAKER_00: But yet they act their whole life as the complete opposite of that.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so what I don't understand with the secular world is like, why even get married?
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  SPEAKER_00: What's the point, really?
• 8:33
  SPEAKER_00: Other than tax uh benefits, I guess.
• 8:37
  SPEAKER_00: That's all I can think about.
• 8:39
  SPEAKER_00: But really, you're setting yourself up for failure because you have already acted like a polygamist, pretty much, you know, before you got married.
• 8:48
  SPEAKER_00: And then you want a monogamous relationship, and then you wonder why you're constantly looking to other relationships, other people in in that you come in contact with like, oh, that might be better, that might be a better option, you know, maybe I'll I'll try that, you know.
• 9:03
  SPEAKER_00: And it just sets up a lot of problems.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if we if we break this down just with sin and everything, okay, there's uh not only sin of like uh fornication, but there's also sin of pornography.
• 9:12
  SPEAKER_00: And let's just look at virginity compared to the past as it is now, okay?
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, so let's just first look at uh women that are virgins on their wedding night, okay.
• 9:23
  SPEAKER_00: Um, surprisingly, I thought this would be a lot higher, but in the 1950s, from what I could find, it was 40 to 50 percent of women in the 1950s were virgins on their wedding night.
• 9:34
  SPEAKER_00: By 2010, 2010 is the earliest study I found, five percent, five percent of all women are virgins on their wedding night.
• 9:44
  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
• 9:46
  SPEAKER_00: Again, the birth control contributed to this for men in the 1950s, it was 30 to 40 percent in 1950.
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  SPEAKER_00: Then by 2010, and this I was kind of surprised about, it's the the numbers aren't that far off, but it is a little interesting.
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  SPEAKER_00: By 2010, surprisingly, five to seven percent of men are virgins on their wedding night.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, someone might say is like, wait, are you implying that like men are less promiscuous than women?
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  SPEAKER_00: It's like that is changing.
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  SPEAKER_00: That is changing, very small percentage, but it is changing.
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  SPEAKER_00: The reason why is because you have the Chads that basically they hit up all the women that they can.
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  SPEAKER_00: And most men, average men, are not getting sex, they're not having sexual relations because they are not part of the elite 1% that a lot of women think they're entitled to.
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  SPEAKER_00: So the percentage of men being virgins on their wedding night is going up slightly, but not but not much.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you took the secular, secular group of people, okay, both being virgins on their wedding night is 0.4%.
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  SPEAKER_00: 0.4% in the secular world, you have 0.4% both being virgins on their wedding night.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: So let's add some more uh data to this, okay?
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  SPEAKER_00: So you would think it would be better in Christian circles, okay?
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  SPEAKER_00: You you would think.
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  SPEAKER_00: Oh, God help us.
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  SPEAKER_00: So virgins on their wedding night.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay, for uh EV, uh evangelical conservative women, it is 15 to 25 percent, okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: All right, so uh for evangelical conservative women that are virgins on their wedding night, it's 15 to 25 percent.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then for men, evangelical conservative men, it is 20 to 30 percent.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay, so compared to the secular generation at 0.4%, you think like, okay, that's pretty better.
• 11:48
  SPEAKER_00: Now here's the kicker, though, okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because that's obviously uh both opposite sex as far as the numbers, them themselves only being virgins on their wedding night.
• 11:59
  SPEAKER_00: Let's look at couples though, okay?
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  SPEAKER_00: Christian couples that are not conservative, okay, Christian couples that are not conservative, five percent are both virgins on their wedding night.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now it's not much better for conservative Christian couples.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you look at conservative Christian couples, it's 10% both are virgins on their wedding night.
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  SPEAKER_00: So let's just let's just think about this, okay?
• 12:27
  SPEAKER_00: Especially with with the church, because that's you know the prime audience here, but at the same time, I understand there might be some secular people that aren't Christians that might be listening to this.
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  SPEAKER_00: We uh are so foolish into thinking this one prolonging marriage is stupid, it's a bad idea.
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  SPEAKER_00: The whole need to find yourself career idea is just really retarded.
• 12:51
  SPEAKER_00: It really is.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that doesn't mean that the idea of getting an education is bad.
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  SPEAKER_00: But when we end up prolonging marriage, what are we open ourselves up to as believers?
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  SPEAKER_00: Do you really think that, especially for men, men and women, that they go through puberty at 13 years, okay?
• 13:15
  SPEAKER_00: Let's say they don't get married until like, let's say 35, okay?
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  SPEAKER_00: That is 22 years, 22 years to hold off sexual urges that are naturally given to you by God, okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: You really expect for that many years to go past and the temptation, the vulnerability, what you might be exposed to, that that's all of a sudden just gonna like become easier as you get older.
• 13:46
  SPEAKER_00: It's not.
• 13:47
  SPEAKER_00: But what we're doing in the church is we are encouraging prolonged marriages.
• 13:54
  SPEAKER_00: I mean, I would say there's probably a lot of sermons that talk about men manning up and and you know, uh getting a career, getting a job and everything, which is good.
• 14:03
  SPEAKER_00: I have no problem with that.
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  SPEAKER_00: I think that's I think that's a good thing to teach young men to do, to give them a goal, a vision.
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  SPEAKER_00: I think that's very valuable.
• 14:12
  SPEAKER_00: I do not think, though, however, though, it's good to encourage that of women, okay?
• 14:18
  SPEAKER_00: And for two reasons, okay.
• 14:19
  SPEAKER_00: There's two like sides of this coin of why this is taking place, all right.
• 14:24
  SPEAKER_00: Um, if you want to have it where young men are gonna be pure on their wedding night, they're not gonna be exposed to pornography, you're just fooling yourself.
• 14:33
  SPEAKER_00: We are really just lying to ourselves.
• 14:35
  SPEAKER_00: Uh, you have it right now, basically, where Christian men, 75% view pornography on a consistent basis, okay?
• 14:43
  SPEAKER_00: And sadly, women are not that far beyond.
• 14:46
  SPEAKER_00: At 45%, women look at pornography Christian in Christian circles, this is, by the way, not secular, on a regular basis, okay.
• 14:54
  SPEAKER_00: Um, so if if we're thinking that somehow there's going to be um the idea of purity on those numbers, it's just it's just crazy to me.
• 15:10
  SPEAKER_00: It is just downright just uh exhaustive and sad to even read such numbers, okay?
• 15:18
  SPEAKER_00: So what what are we gonna do in that regard?
• 15:22
  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
• 15:23
  SPEAKER_00: So we can, of course, if if the the idea is that we're gonna have it where we're okay with people just putting off of marriage, and that that's just gonna make things easier, it's not in terms of like purity.
• 15:37
  SPEAKER_00: There's all this baggage that comes with it.
• 15:39
  SPEAKER_00: The longer you prolong, like as I mentioned, you got 22 years to for young men that might struggle with pornography, have multiple partners, maybe by that time because of failed relationships, um, not being wise with what they view, accountability, um, having relationships that are unequally yoked, that do not share their values.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is where we are right now.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the same thing goes for like women.
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  SPEAKER_00: We have it where we encourage women to go off to college and they go through the communist grinder, compare uh depending on what uh college they go to, because there's very few that are not just Marxist little grinders that people go through.
• 16:29
  SPEAKER_00: We expect that our young Christian daughters that are really 18 at the time, they're still immature, they're gonna be in a secular environment that promotes promiscuity, that it's okay, you should be yourself, explore your sexuality, be who you want.
• 16:48
  SPEAKER_00: And that not only opens them up to being vulnerable in the sense of their faith, losing their faith, going into massive debt, um, having it where they possibly fall into uh bad choices with their relationships and therefore either contracting STDs or possibly getting pregnant, having multiple prop partners and then not being able to uh pair bond, which is a thing for women.
• 17:19
  SPEAKER_00: And so we are setting up couples because of the current climate of how it is, even with Christianity, and we have to look at ourselves from time to time and ask ourselves, is this the best way to go about this?
• 17:33
  SPEAKER_00: Are we encouraging the right things?
• 17:35
  SPEAKER_00: But there's two, there's two uh sides to this coin as well for men.
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  SPEAKER_00: So the question is not only just okay, these are some issues with prolonging marriages, those are just a few.
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  SPEAKER_00: But there's even like more, okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: Why is it that, okay, let's say uh some might ask is like, well, a lot of these men don't get married young because they just want to goof around, they're not taking life seriously, rather sit in the basement and play video games, as we always hear, okay.
• 18:02
  SPEAKER_00: Partially, that might be true in some cases.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't believe it is for all, but here's the third thing, too.
• 18:08
  SPEAKER_00: We have trained women unknowingly, because it is a habit of ours, that to marry a man who doesn't make a lot of money or is not established, women don't want a man like that.
• 18:22
  SPEAKER_00: And so they're whereas back in the day in the 50s, it used to be like, oh, okay, you only make uh 20,000, which was probably not even 20,000, it was probably less than that considering the 50s.
• 18:35
  SPEAKER_00: But women were more inclined to marry a man because he had the job and he was a good worker.
• 18:39
  SPEAKER_00: That was enough.
• 18:41
  SPEAKER_00: Um, I don't think that is the case today.
• 18:44
  SPEAKER_00: I think there is this high uh expectation that a lot of young women look for in their soon-to-be spouse that is way higher than young men are able to accomplish.
• 19:01
  SPEAKER_00: I mean, think of it.
• 19:02
  SPEAKER_00: When you're young, I mean, I can go back.
• 19:04
  SPEAKER_00: What was I doing in my 20s?
• 19:05
  SPEAKER_00: I wasn't making that much money.
• 19:07
  SPEAKER_00: I can tell you that.
• 19:08
  SPEAKER_00: You know, maybe if I was lucky, I might have been making maybe 20,000, 25,000.
• 19:16
  SPEAKER_00: And considering that the average income, even right now, I think is, if I'm not mistaken, I think it's like um, I think 37,000 is the average income.
• 19:27
  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
• 19:28
  SPEAKER_00: So there is no six figures income that's happening, all right.
• 19:33
  SPEAKER_00: And there's very few men, even today, that even make that much.
• 19:37
  SPEAKER_00: So if a lady's standard is that high, it's granted that she's not going to even look at a young man, even if he was wanting and seeking to be married at a younger age.
• 19:50
  SPEAKER_00: Now, I will say there's probably also a lot of young men that probably have put it off as well because they just don't care.
• 19:57
  SPEAKER_00: I mean, obviously, with the numbers, we have that 63% of young men aren't even looking into relationships or even dating.
• 20:05
  SPEAKER_00: So now the question is also with the women, why is it that it's so late that they are gonna be childless and unmarried from ages 29 to 44 in less than four years, 45% of women.
• 20:19
  SPEAKER_00: That's crazy.
• 20:20
  SPEAKER_00: So on the women's side, though, too, you have it where a lot of ladies, it takes them, they want to go to their career, they want to go off to college, they put in all their effort during their youthful years.
• 20:34
  SPEAKER_00: And um, and here's something I want the ladies to consider that are listening, okay.
• 20:40
  SPEAKER_00: So I was shocked to find this out, but like in terms when it comes to egg production for women, okay.
• 20:47
  SPEAKER_00: Um after 30, 30 years, okay, the production of a female egg uh development goes to 50% after 30 years.
• 21:02
  SPEAKER_00: It drops 50%.
• 21:05
  SPEAKER_00: At 35 to 20 at 35, it drops another 20%, or it's only 20% capacity.
• 21:15
  SPEAKER_00: And then 40 at 40 years, it's less than 5%.
• 21:21
  SPEAKER_00: So if we're gonna have it where these numbers, I just I just want ladies to really consider this, okay?
• 21:31
  SPEAKER_00: If if the average age from the numbers that we looked at was like 28, okay, you have two years, and then your egg production is gonna drop 50%.
• 21:43
  SPEAKER_00: And then if you wait until you're 35, it's gonna go down to 20%.
• 21:47
  SPEAKER_00: And then if you wait till 40, it's less than five percent.
• 21:50
  SPEAKER_00: But that's not really a scare tack at that's just that's just science, okay?
• 21:56
  SPEAKER_00: And I think when we are encouraging our daughters.
• 22:00
  SPEAKER_00: To use the the time of their youth to pursue a career that um to climb the corporate ladder or be a boss babe, whatever that be, is that really best for them?
• 22:15
  SPEAKER_00: Is the question that we need to be asking ourselves.
• 22:17
  SPEAKER_00: We are putting our daughters in situations that makes them vulnerable to sexual promiscuity.
• 22:24
  SPEAKER_00: Depending on the college they're going to, they're going to have their faith really wrecked and challenged, which isn't a bad thing to be challenged per se.
• 22:35
  SPEAKER_00: But are they ready for such an environment?
• 22:39
  SPEAKER_00: I hear it all the time, even when it comes to public schools, like with younger kids, it's like, oh, they're missionaries.
• 22:43
  SPEAKER_00: No, they're not.
• 22:44
  SPEAKER_00: They're not missionaries.
• 22:46
  SPEAKER_00: They don't understand their faith.
• 22:47
  SPEAKER_00: They don't understand exactly what they believe, they don't know how to defend the faith.
• 22:52
  SPEAKER_00: And you're sending them out to a godless, pagan, you know, basically death cult campus called public schools, and you're hoping that your kids are going to come out okay.
• 23:03
  SPEAKER_00: They're not.
• 23:04
  SPEAKER_00: They're just not.
• 23:04
  SPEAKER_00: And that's why a lot of people leave the church in uh after they go to college.
• 23:10
  SPEAKER_00: Now, granted, when they go to college, they're a little bit older.
• 23:14
  SPEAKER_00: And let's say they do keep their faith, but we are setting them up, I think, for an unhealthy environment.
• 23:21
  SPEAKER_00: And the same even goes for young men.
• 23:23
  SPEAKER_00: Not all young men need a college degree to make a good living.
• 23:27
  SPEAKER_00: I currently myself am a pipe fitter.
• 23:30
  SPEAKER_00: I make good money.
• 23:32
  SPEAKER_00: And um, I think the trades are a great place for men to go to if you're wanting to avoid um being in debt and to have a good job that pays well with good benefits.
• 23:46
  SPEAKER_00: It's something that I think we should encourage um more than just the college norm.
• 23:51
  SPEAKER_00: I understand that a lot of the older generation, that's what they push a lot.
• 23:55
  SPEAKER_00: I just think at this point it's just not worth it.
• 23:58
  SPEAKER_00: The amount of cost and what you get out of it, you got to do some kind of calculator like this.
• 24:03
  SPEAKER_00: Add up the cost of your education and then what you're going to make from that, say, education once you get out of college and you finish it.
• 24:13
  SPEAKER_00: If it ends up that you're not making enough to pay off your student loan, then it's a joke.
• 24:18
  SPEAKER_00: It's not really even worth making the effort to go after such a degree.
• 24:24
  SPEAKER_00: And for ladies, I would say this.
• 24:26
  SPEAKER_00: If you're, if you're really wanting to be a mother, if you're really wanting to be a mother, and I know that some people will not agree with this and I don't care, but I would say this if a if a young, if you as a young woman are wanting to be a mother, and you might say at some point in your life, okay, at some point in your life is before age 30.
• 24:49
  SPEAKER_00: That's the truth of the matter.
• 24:51
  SPEAKER_00: So if you're wanting to build this huge career and you're gonna wait until you're 35, okay, by 35, 20% of you you have of your egg production exist at that point.
• 25:01
  SPEAKER_00: And that is not a scare tactic to just be like, oh, well, older women don't have value or they're just baby makers.
• 25:09
  SPEAKER_00: It's just the reality.
• 25:10
  SPEAKER_00: Like a lot of women want to be mothers.
• 25:12
  SPEAKER_00: They do.
• 25:13
  SPEAKER_00: So I would be doing a disservice by not warning my sisters in Christ of this issue that they might not be considering.
• 25:22
  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
• 25:24
  SPEAKER_00: I understand that for men, they don't have value because they don't make much money until probably their mid-30s.
• 25:33
  SPEAKER_00: And so a lot of women are not interested in men because they're not established, they don't have a huge career, they're not making a lot of money.
• 25:40
  SPEAKER_00: And it's kind of like there's a difference.
• 25:43
  SPEAKER_00: Here, here, I want, I want ladies that are listening to like really hear me out on this, okay?
• 25:47
  SPEAKER_00: Because I hear a lot of times like, well, he has to make as much money as I do, or he has to have the same amount of education.
• 25:54
  SPEAKER_00: Those things do not mean anything for a good marriage.
• 25:59
  SPEAKER_00: They do not mean anything.
• 26:01
  SPEAKER_00: They might look good on paper, they might look good in the sense of like materialism or uh security, quote unquote.
• 26:10
  SPEAKER_00: But here's the thing down the road it doesn't matter what job you have, what degree you have, you can lose a job at any time in your life, you can become crippled any time in your life.
• 26:18
  SPEAKER_00: We have forgotten to realize that when you go into marriage, you prepare for the absolute worst and you accept your vows based on what that outcome may be and what it might not be.
• 26:33
  SPEAKER_00: And so if we get so caught up into this materialism, basically, like, well, he has to make as much as I do, he has to have the same education as I do, well, sure, he probably could.
• 26:43
  SPEAKER_00: He could probably be a crappy husband.
• 26:46
  SPEAKER_00: He probably doesn't love God as much as he should.
• 26:48
  SPEAKER_00: He probably doesn't treat you as well.
• 26:50
  SPEAKER_00: But hey, at least the bank account is always in the black.
• 26:56
  SPEAKER_00: He doesn't really spend much time with our kids.
• 26:58
  SPEAKER_00: He's not a very good spiritual leader, but hey, he's got that degree.
• 27:03
  SPEAKER_00: He's making those six figures.
• 27:04
  SPEAKER_00: I got my money.
• 27:06
  SPEAKER_00: Ladies, ladies, please make it make sense to me, all right, if that's really the value.
• 27:13
  SPEAKER_00: I mean, it's just as shallow the same way around.
• 27:15
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, let's just let's just flip the script to be fair, all right?
• 27:20
  SPEAKER_00: If there was the idea that men are like, well, she has to be hot, she always works out in the gym, her body looks great, but boy, she's a terrible woman.
• 27:31
  SPEAKER_00: She nags, she complains, she doesn't respect me, but man, she looks smoking hot.
• 27:37
  SPEAKER_00: And every time I'm around my guy friends, they all wish that they had a wife like mine.
• 27:44
  SPEAKER_00: So what I'm saying is if we if we want to take scripture to the nth degree, yes, a husband should be a provider for his household.
• 27:52
  SPEAKER_00: But but ladies, hear me out.
• 27:54
  SPEAKER_00: If you are only looking at his bank account, his career, his job, or his education, you're really missing the whole character of the man as a whole, which is the most important part.
• 28:07
  SPEAKER_00: I'm sorry, but I hear it so many times on social media posts and everything.
• 28:11
  SPEAKER_00: When you ask these ladies what they're looking for, and it's all these material things or these physical things.
• 28:18
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, he has to be six feet, he has to have six pack abs, six figures and a six inch, you know.
• 28:24
  SPEAKER_00: I do not think that that are those are the main things that you should honestly be looking for in a husband.
• 28:33
  SPEAKER_00: I think you're way, way off target.
• 28:36
  SPEAKER_00: We have to get away from the idea of equating education and what the job of a man is equals that he has a good character.
• 28:46
  SPEAKER_00: Because I'm telling you, it doesn't.
• 28:47
  SPEAKER_00: It's the same way as the verse says, like, beauty is passing, but a woman who fears the Lord will be praised.
• 28:54
  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
• 28:56
  SPEAKER_00: So, guys, if you're looking for a woman, and yes, I'm not saying attraction isn't important.
• 29:02
  SPEAKER_00: On both sides, you should be attracted to your partner, okay?
• 29:06
  SPEAKER_00: I think we tend to shy away from that as like there's like like like sex doesn't equal attraction or like sex is bad.
• 29:14
  SPEAKER_00: No, there's a whole freaking book in the Bible that talks about sexual relations, and it's pretty graphic, honestly.
• 29:20
  SPEAKER_00: It's like uh a Christian porno, if there could ever be such a thing, which is credit crazy.
• 29:25
  SPEAKER_00: I can't believe that just came out of my mouth, but it really is in a way.
• 29:28
  SPEAKER_00: But sex is a worship of your body to God to honor your spouse with, and it goes both ways.
• 29:37
  SPEAKER_00: You don't own your body, husbands, and the wife doesn't own her body, but you both serve each other with it.
• 29:45
  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
• 29:46
  SPEAKER_00: Anyway, but so getting back to you know, the ladies, when it comes to your egg production, this is something you really need to take into consideration.
• 29:57
  SPEAKER_00: You can pursue your college education, but if you're wanting to be a mother someday, prolonging that is going to be very difficult.
• 30:05
  SPEAKER_00: And it's getting even harder.
• 30:06
  SPEAKER_00: Men's testosterone is dropping drastically.
• 30:09
  SPEAKER_00: It could, there's a number of factors, it could be chemicals, it could be the food we eat, how we take care of our bodies, a number of other things, okay?
• 30:19
  SPEAKER_00: And um, it's becoming harder and harder for people to have children.
• 30:24
  SPEAKER_00: So, ladies, I totally can't say this any stronger.
• 30:30
  SPEAKER_00: If you are wanting to be a mother someday, I would say, you know what, get a get a job while you're waiting to find a spouse that's gonna, of course, provide for you, learn some life skills in that regard.
• 30:44
  SPEAKER_00: But I would honestly discourage the idea of a career with a degree because you're going to then have it where you and your spouse have twice as much debt.
• 30:54
  SPEAKER_00: The possibility of you being able to stay home with the kids, if that is a desire that you have, which I think is biblical in my opinion, um, it's gonna become much harder because you're gonna have to pay off that debt some way.
• 31:08
  SPEAKER_00: And if you both have to work, then you're gonna subcontract out your kids to either a public education system or a daycare, and you're not gonna be raising your kids, someone else's.
• 31:19
  SPEAKER_00: So it's it's a huge issue.
• 31:21
  SPEAKER_00: Um, prolonging marriage is not the way to go.
• 31:25
  SPEAKER_00: That's just another example that I have right there.
• 31:28
  SPEAKER_00: Another huge uh problem that is happening of why the huge gap where it, like I talked about in the very opening, of how you have it where 45% of women are gonna be unmarried and childless by 2030, ages 29 to 44.
• 31:46
  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
• 31:47
  SPEAKER_00: And also in the same uh study, you have 63% of young men are not interested or not even looking into a relationship.
• 31:56
  SPEAKER_00: I mean, if you take those numbers, okay, that many men, that many women, people aren't getting married.
• 32:02
  SPEAKER_00: Well, there's another factor to that that comes into play, and college is a result of it, okay?
• 32:08
  SPEAKER_00: So men, surprisingly, men are becoming more conservative, and women are becoming more liberal, okay?
• 32:22
  SPEAKER_00: So, why is this happening?
• 32:25
  SPEAKER_00: Is probably the next question you might be asking.
• 32:27
  SPEAKER_00: Well, women don't want traditional roles anymore as much as men are looking for.
• 32:36
  SPEAKER_00: As men are becoming more conservative, women are becoming more liberal, and men are becoming more traditional in what they're looking for in a spouse.
• 32:44
  SPEAKER_00: And the traditional would be the wife stays with the children and makes a home, and she takes care of the household.
• 32:54
  SPEAKER_00: She um, you know, takes care of the well-being of the kids, you know, while the husband is out working and the husband comes home and he provides the money so that she can stay home with the kids so that they don't have to subcontract out their kids to being raised by godless hedons in a public school, okay.
• 33:15
  SPEAKER_00: And women are becoming more liberal.
• 33:17
  SPEAKER_00: Well, there's two factors of this, okay?
• 33:19
  SPEAKER_00: If if you have it where I what people don't understand is that a lot more men are not going to college as much as women are.
• 33:28
  SPEAKER_00: So right now, women make up to 55 to 60% of all college graduates.
• 33:34
  SPEAKER_00: I'll say that one more time.
• 33:35
  SPEAKER_00: So, like women make up to 55 to 60% of all college graduates.
• 33:40
  SPEAKER_00: Men, on the other hand, make up to 40 to 45% of all graduating classes.
• 33:47
  SPEAKER_00: So you have more women going to college, which means more opportunity for women to become more liberal, to lose their faith, to be run through sexually if they have multiple partners and they make that mistake.
• 34:04
  SPEAKER_00: Whereas men are not going to college as much because they become feminized a lot of colleges.
• 34:09
  SPEAKER_00: So why would a man want to go to a college where they can basically just beat down about their toxic masculinity in every class and have to just basically hear that crap?
• 34:18
  SPEAKER_00: A lot of men don't want to deal with it anymore.
• 34:19
  SPEAKER_00: And that's why they're walking away from college.
• 34:21
  SPEAKER_00: Plus, there is probably a rise in trades where more men are taking up the trades.
• 34:26
  SPEAKER_00: And honestly, I would say this honestly, for myself personally, why here's a few reasons why I love the trades.
• 34:33
  SPEAKER_00: I don't have to work with women a lot.
• 34:36
  SPEAKER_00: And I know that's going to offend a lot of people, but I don't really care.
• 34:38
  SPEAKER_00: But it really is true.
• 34:40
  SPEAKER_00: I like the fact that I work with men.
• 34:43
  SPEAKER_00: I don't have to worry about sexual harassment issues.
• 34:46
  SPEAKER_00: I don't have to worry about the temptation of women being around me.
• 34:49
  SPEAKER_00: I don't have to worry about uh if there is women, that would be flirtatious or the whole uh you know environment that comes with it.
• 34:58
  SPEAKER_00: Now, granted, there are still um women in the trades.
• 35:02
  SPEAKER_00: I usually call them clipboard chicks, and I know that sounds offensive, but I don't care because that's the truth of the matter.
• 35:08
  SPEAKER_00: So whenever they say that 2% of plumbers are women, or 1% of electricians are women, most of them are a part of the safety crew.
• 35:18
  SPEAKER_00: They are the clipboard chicks, and what I and the reason why I call them that is because they are these chicks that walk around with a clipboard that basically look for any nook and cranny of how you're violating the safety thing, which honestly just fits into how a woman thinks.
• 35:32
  SPEAKER_00: They are nurturers and they care about men not hurting themselves and being stupid because men are pretty reckless with our work ethic because we want to get the job done.
• 35:42
  SPEAKER_00: And sometimes we'll cut corners and we get hurt as a result of it.
• 35:45
  SPEAKER_00: That's how it's always been in the trades.
• 35:48
  SPEAKER_00: And honestly, it's a little frustrating sometimes because I think they go overkill sometimes to the point of where it does stifle productivity.
• 35:57
  SPEAKER_00: It's not so much that you know the safety is really like the main uh pushing point of everything.
• 36:04
  SPEAKER_00: Sure, you don't want to be stupid, you don't want to be reckless, but a lot of times it's it's it's overkill from my perspective.
• 36:11
  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
• 36:12
  SPEAKER_00: So so as men are becoming more conservative and women are becoming liberal, we have this huge gap of values, even within the church.
• 36:22
  SPEAKER_00: It's very strongly in the church as well, these this gap of values.
• 36:26
  SPEAKER_00: So as women are becoming more left-leaning and men are becoming more conservative, men are having less opportunity to find a spouse that they're looking for.
• 36:36
  SPEAKER_00: And now there might be some people on there who say, like, well, maybe men should become more liberal.
• 36:41
  SPEAKER_00: No, I don't think that's the answer because liberalism is stupid.
• 36:45
  SPEAKER_00: And it's stupid because it's not pro-children.
• 36:49
  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
• 36:49
  SPEAKER_00: If you want to say that, like, you know, the idea of being left is pro-children, all you have to look any further is abortion, public education, trans pervert groups, um, not to mention all the demonic forces that surround being anti-children, the pedal rings, sex trafficking.
• 37:10
  SPEAKER_00: It's just downright wicked.
• 37:12
  SPEAKER_00: And it stems from a lot of those things that have taken place because of feminism.
• 37:17
  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
• 37:17
  SPEAKER_00: Abortion, the public education system, the changes to it, the trans pervert group, all those have been enacted because of feminism.
• 37:26
  SPEAKER_00: And it's also a shame because it was men who allowed such things, because women always have to appeal to the patriarch to even have such power.
• 37:36
  SPEAKER_00: So us men became weak.
• 37:38
  SPEAKER_00: We allowed the women to castrate us, and as a result, we have basically the birth control pill, abortion, and we have promiscuity, and we allowed this to take place.
• 37:49
  SPEAKER_00: And it was weak men that allowed it to take place, and women just took on the baton and they ran with it, they ran far with it.
• 38:02
  SPEAKER_00: Ah, good tea.
• 38:04
  SPEAKER_00: Good tea.
• 38:05
  SPEAKER_00: Pardon me.
• 38:07
  SPEAKER_00: So, um, so uh if you have this issue, then with men and women becoming this gap is just widening, widening.
• 38:16
  SPEAKER_00: Year after year, it's just getting more and more this way.
• 38:19
  SPEAKER_00: And I know that we hear this a lot.
• 38:22
  SPEAKER_00: It's like, you know, I'll hear it's like it's like, why do these why do these men not want to date these women?
• 38:27
  SPEAKER_00: What what what's their what's their problem?
• 38:29
  SPEAKER_00: What what she's a nice girl, she's pretty, what what's the problem?
• 38:34
  SPEAKER_00: It's because uh they are not traditional.
• 38:38
  SPEAKER_00: They are not.
• 38:39
  SPEAKER_00: I mean, if the promiscuity is this high, if the value system is of the the gap uh is widening, okay, in terms of values, what is that going to do?
• 38:58
  SPEAKER_00: And so everything, everything is just changing rapidly, and I think a lot of pastors do not see what is happening here.
• 39:08
  SPEAKER_00: A lot, a lot of pastors, God bless them, like they're they're obviously older as they should be because they have the life experience.
• 39:16
  SPEAKER_00: But I think one thing that a lot of pastors are very, very blind to right now, and please, please listen, is dating has changed drastically when it comes to what it's like out there environmentally.
• 39:29
  SPEAKER_00: It is not the same as the 1990s.
• 39:33
  SPEAKER_00: By not by a long shot, okay.
• 39:37
  SPEAKER_00: And I think if we really want to look into like what is what is happening right now, it is gonna cause huge problems.
• 39:50
  SPEAKER_00: These these numbers are not gonna hold up for much longer.
• 39:53
  SPEAKER_00: You're gonna have less and less marriages in the church.
• 39:55
  SPEAKER_00: The the church is not gonna grow.
• 39:57
  SPEAKER_00: If there are gonna be marriages that do take place, the divorce is gonna be high because the value systems are so unaligned.
• 40:04
  SPEAKER_00: And it's not even just the factor of everything else.
• 40:08
  SPEAKER_00: You you the prolonging, you know, marriage, you're gonna have the opportunity for promiscuity and pornography use, which is gonna really hurt your spiritual walk and your future relationship that God provides for you.
• 40:25
  SPEAKER_00: If you prolong marriages, the odds of you having children is less and less as you get older, ladies.
• 40:32
  SPEAKER_00: And for men, they're not gonna be pushed either to grow because I'll tell you this if you get married younger, and here's another thing, ladies, you have to consider too.
• 40:42
  SPEAKER_00: Men strive when they have something to live for.
• 40:46
  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
• 40:47
  SPEAKER_00: And a lot of young men, because they're still trying to figure out life in general, they don't have that opportunity because what marriage does that to you.
• 40:54
  SPEAKER_00: So it sometimes, and I know that some people say, like, oh, this is a gamble.
• 41:00
  SPEAKER_00: So what are you saying?
• 41:01
  SPEAKER_00: I should marry someone and he doesn't know where he's going in life, he doesn't know what he wants to do.
• 41:04
  SPEAKER_00: And I'd say, if he has a heart to honor God and you see that aspect, everything else will follow.
• 41:13
  SPEAKER_00: He will step up, you know, and get a good job and a career.
• 41:18
  SPEAKER_00: Why?
• 41:19
  SPEAKER_00: Because he's he's then having to take care of a spouse, he's no longer just looking at himself and nothing else because he has to now take care of another human being.
• 41:31
  SPEAKER_00: Well, if we have it where that procrastinates until he's like 30 years old, which is the average age of when men get married nowadays, is he really gonna have everything together by then?
• 41:45
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe he will, maybe he won't.
• 41:50
  SPEAKER_00: But you gotta like look at the whole picture.
• 41:53
  SPEAKER_00: The material isn't as important as the spiritual.
• 41:57
  SPEAKER_00: Because I truly believe if like the spiritual foundation of what makes a biblical man, if it's there, the rest will follow in time as he grows and as he matures, as opportunities come up.
• 42:10
  SPEAKER_00: Because it's way different than it's it think about it.
• 42:15
  SPEAKER_00: It's there's no risk for a young man if he's in a house with several other guys splitting the rent and he only has to pay$350 or$600 a month per se.
• 42:26
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, depending on, of course, where he lives.
• 42:30
  SPEAKER_00: There's not a lot of drive that's going to come from an environment like that for a young man until obviously he gets much older and he gets tired of having to live with several roommates, and then he finally makes a change.
• 42:42
  SPEAKER_00: But finding a woman that he loves will totally push him faster in that direction than waiting.
• 42:49
  SPEAKER_00: So, ladies, I would encourage you to find a man who has those godly principles that you can witness in his life that they're there.
• 43:00
  SPEAKER_00: Because I would say a lot of times they are there, even though let's say the man is not developed maturely in other areas of his life in terms of career or he doesn't make a lot of money, but he does work.
• 43:12
  SPEAKER_00: Like he does work, okay.
• 43:14
  SPEAKER_00: Um, hard work is important.
• 43:17
  SPEAKER_00: You want to see that characteristic in a man, but hard work is more important, I would say, than what's his degree or his specific job.
• 43:27
  SPEAKER_00: Is he being responsible with his bills?
• 43:29
  SPEAKER_00: Is he being responsible with his money?
• 43:31
  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
• 43:32
  SPEAKER_00: And I would say, men, you want to see women like that too.
• 43:35
  SPEAKER_00: You you don't want to just marry a woman that's just constantly just spending money like crazy on her nails or her hair or frivolous trips that she can't afford just because she wants to post videos and likes on her Instagram.
• 43:48
  SPEAKER_00: All right.
• 43:49
  SPEAKER_00: That's not something you want to look for either.
• 43:52
  SPEAKER_00: We need to get back to the basics of what makes a good wife and what makes a good husband, and have that be.
• 44:00
  SPEAKER_00: The soul purpose and the soul focus of what we're trying to find in a mate.
• 44:07
  SPEAKER_00: The materialistic aspects of all those other things are frivolous.
• 44:12
  SPEAKER_00: And the those certain worries, because okay, I can get it.
• 44:16
  SPEAKER_00: Like a man might worry is like, well, is she gonna take care of herself?
• 44:20
  SPEAKER_00: I don't want my wife to, you know, gain a lot of weight.
• 44:23
  SPEAKER_00: And I know the ladies right now, you know.
• 44:25
  SPEAKER_00: How dare you! But I don't really care, you know.
• 44:28
  SPEAKER_00: So it's like, I mean, here's the thing like like men are visual creatures, they want to be attracted to their spouse.
• 44:34
  SPEAKER_00: And a lot of times men will just overlook the whole, like, you know, what you physically look like as you get older, okay.
• 44:40
  SPEAKER_00: But take care of yourself, ladies.
• 44:43
  SPEAKER_00: And that's something that you can strive for and you should want to strive for as a spouse that loves her husband, okay?
• 44:50
  SPEAKER_00: And the same goes with guys.
• 44:52
  SPEAKER_00: You don't, hey, don't get like super fat and plumpy just because you know you got married, okay?
• 44:57
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and the same worry I would say that, like, you know, women might be like, Well, uh, are we gonna be able to make money?
• 45:03
  SPEAKER_00: It's like if if the bills are being paid, if he's responsible with the money, you also have to acknowledge that.
• 45:12
  SPEAKER_00: Like, it's it is not uh, you know, uh financial abuse to say no to something because you can't afford it.
• 45:20
  SPEAKER_00: If if you're wanting to go out with your friends and the budget doesn't call for it, that's not financial abuse.
• 45:26
  SPEAKER_00: That is within the budget that is in place.
• 45:30
  SPEAKER_00: You have to acknowledge that.
• 45:32
  SPEAKER_00: So if you're wanting him to be the spiritual leader, which involves the financial as well, that has to take place.
• 45:40
  SPEAKER_00: So that being all said, okay, if we're gonna have like these are just some of the major issues that we have currently right now.
• 45:51
  SPEAKER_00: So you not only have the overall numbers that I mention about women that are gonna be unmarried and childless, and young men are not looking into relationships right now, these are some of the reasons.
• 46:04
  SPEAKER_00: The we have prolonged marriage.
• 46:07
  SPEAKER_00: By prolonging marriage, we are now having it where basically um for the sake of independence, we are now sacrificing and I would say honestly, damaging the possibility of having unity in a marriage.
• 46:23
  SPEAKER_00: I will say this right now: if you're a strong, independent person, do not get married.
• 46:28
  SPEAKER_00: And I know that goes against everything the feminists want to say, because the feminists will say, like, I'm a strong, independent woman.
• 46:34
  SPEAKER_00: It's like, well, then why if you don't need no man, then you're gonna have that same attitude when you get married.
• 46:41
  SPEAKER_00: And that's just not gonna fly.
• 46:43
  SPEAKER_00: It's not gonna work.
• 46:44
  SPEAKER_00: Because eventually that just is gonna be tiresome because it becomes this very um entitledistic spirit that doesn't involve a team effort of the wife being a helper and the husband being the leader.
• 47:00
  SPEAKER_00: And for you to come alongside him and help him along with his mission, because you're gonna want to fight that because you're so independent, and you're gonna question everything that he does and how he does it.
• 47:11
  SPEAKER_00: And why are we saving this much money and why can't we go on this trip?
• 47:15
  SPEAKER_00: And well, I don't know if we I want to move to that location.
• 47:19
  SPEAKER_00: And and then it becomes this just this disaster because you have trained your mind all the more because you are now older.
• 47:26
  SPEAKER_00: You're like probably in your early 30s or 35, you're more set in your ways, and that goes for men and women.
• 47:32
  SPEAKER_00: You become more set in your ways.
• 47:34
  SPEAKER_00: The possibility of unifying with a spouse becomes less likely because you have figured out life on how it should look like.
• 47:42
  SPEAKER_00: You probably have, you know, because you're older, you have baggage of either pornography or sexual relations that you had before you met your spouse.
• 47:50
  SPEAKER_00: So then that also makes intimacy more difficult because the possibilities of thinking of past relationships and comparing them becomes more frequent.
• 47:59
  SPEAKER_00: And it's even just a natural statistic.
• 48:01
  SPEAKER_00: Like, if like people that are married virgins have a way less divorce rate, way less.
• 48:08
  SPEAKER_00: So it's really disgusting and sad that for Christian conservative couples right now, 10% are both virgins on their wedding night.
• 48:19
  SPEAKER_00: That is an absolute failure of the church.
• 48:21
  SPEAKER_00: And I think, you know, we have to have a balance within the church.
• 48:26
  SPEAKER_00: You know, is there forgiveness and there is grace?
• 48:30
  SPEAKER_00: But at the same time, there are consequences to our bad choices and our sin.
• 48:37
  SPEAKER_00: And I think sometimes we like to think that, like, you know, well, they're redeemed and Christ can save and Christ can change.
• 48:44
  SPEAKER_00: And like, yes, yes, amen, hallelujah.
• 48:48
  SPEAKER_00: At the same time, don't deceive yourselves, men and women, that your past sexual escapades do not have an effect on your future, not only um, not only in terms of the marketplace when it comes to uh finding a spouse, like people are gonna consider that.
• 49:10
  SPEAKER_00: I have to understand too with my past, you know, like the past of me being divorced, that that is gonna cause, you know, that has caused, you know, people to question like, hey, is this person someone that I really want to get involved with?
• 49:24
  SPEAKER_00: What was the reason they got divorced?
• 49:26
  SPEAKER_00: Was it on biblical reasons?
• 49:27
  SPEAKER_00: Was it on unbiblical reasons?
• 49:29
  SPEAKER_00: The same comes with being promiscuous.
• 49:31
  SPEAKER_00: There are consequences that carry on, even if, let's say, that person does get married and finds a spouse.
• 49:38
  SPEAKER_00: And it doesn't mean that just because someone has had that past that they can't find a good spouse.
• 49:44
  SPEAKER_00: But let's not lie to each other and say that there isn't it isn't going to be difficult because it is going to be difficult.
• 49:52
  SPEAKER_00: And we know that God's word is set up a certain way and he has certain rules for a purpose.
• 49:59
  SPEAKER_00: But when we trend to, you know, mock that idea or lessen it down as oh, well, you know, so and so, yeah, they messed up.
• 50:08
  SPEAKER_00: And like we we have to take sin serious.
• 50:12
  SPEAKER_00: We really do.
• 50:13
  SPEAKER_00: And I think there's there's a there's a balance.
• 50:17
  SPEAKER_00: I think we we should not we should not rejoice when someone gets pregnant out of wedlock.
• 50:24
  SPEAKER_00: There has to be a moment of grief and sadness as a result of it.
• 50:30
  SPEAKER_00: Yes, there is a new life that's gonna come into the world, and thank God for life, no matter which way it's conceived, but let's not fool ourselves that there's not gonna be difficulties with come with that.
• 50:41
  SPEAKER_00: Think of it, the the single parent has so many issues and so many setbacks.
• 50:49
  SPEAKER_00: And I know that there are probably like, you know, men and women that are listening to this and like, yeah, he's telling the truth, but they feel it every time they go and ask someone out, or every time they go on a date, and then that person on the date finds out, like, oh, you have kids.
• 51:05
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, okay.
• 51:06
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know if I want to get involved in that.
• 51:10
  SPEAKER_00: And I know that's not popular to say that thing because we want to, we we can't lie to people, but I'd rather tell someone, hey, don't touch the stove because you're gonna get burned.
• 51:26
  SPEAKER_00: And I don't want you to get your hand burned, so don't touch it, than to tell them after the fact that they touch it, like, hey, you can go to the hospital and you can be healed, and they'll wrap it up and they'll give you skin grafts and you'll be all good and set to go.
• 51:41
  SPEAKER_00: And that's all true.
• 51:43
  SPEAKER_00: But I would rather warn someone ahead of time so that they have a clear picture of what is gonna come as a result of their sin.
• 51:53
  SPEAKER_00: I don't want to tell them the antidote afterwards.
• 51:56
  SPEAKER_00: I rather tell them the cure before it to avoid it entirely rather than have it where they learn the hard way.
• 52:03
  SPEAKER_00: So our actions in the past have huge consequences.
• 52:09
  SPEAKER_00: The promiscuity, the pornography watching, whether we go to college or not, what that means for our spiritual growth, the outcome of it, is it gonna be best for us in the long run?
• 52:22
  SPEAKER_00: And so these are some things that, you know, are just one thing.
• 52:26
  SPEAKER_00: And we're gonna be talking about a whole nother uh other things to like kind of add on as well in the next episode.
• 52:34
  SPEAKER_00: But this is a huge uh blind spot that I believe the church has right now.
• 52:39
  SPEAKER_00: I think we are stuck in the 1990s with this idea that like dating's the same, and oh, we just have a group of singles get together and they hit it off and like, oh, everything's fine.
• 52:50
  SPEAKER_00: But you're finding a lot of uh men are not able to find spouses because they're so misaligned with their values and their goals.
• 52:59
  SPEAKER_00: And feminism is a huge part of that.
• 53:01
  SPEAKER_00: And I would say that honestly, like encouraging uh a lot of these young ladies to go to college is not a good environment for them either.
• 53:11
  SPEAKER_00: And I don't think it is best, and I know that there's gonna be pushback from that, but that's just I'm just telling the truth, though.
• 53:19
  SPEAKER_00: And if we can't tell the truth, then we're setting up young men and women for failure.
• 53:25
  SPEAKER_00: And then we wonder why the divorce rate is so high, why you have it where people are not satisfied in their relationships, there's conflict, there's different misaligned values, and the divorce rate is so high within the church.
• 53:41
  SPEAKER_00: And so this is just a taste of what is right now and what's gonna happen, like you know, with our next episode.
• 53:49
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm really excited because you know, I think this is important, but like right now, I think the encouraging thing to say is this evaluate your reasons why you want to go to college.
• 54:01
  SPEAKER_00: I would encourage women, hey, consider the guy and look at his character, not his education, not his bank account.
• 54:11
  SPEAKER_00: And for men as well, look for a spouse that wants traditional values and cares about becoming a mother and a godly wife.
• 54:19
  SPEAKER_00: And I think if we set a foundation like that, we will be better off.
• 54:22
  SPEAKER_00: So until next time, I'm GM McKeever.
• 54:24
  SPEAKER_00: Thank you for tuning in for the Goon Tavern.
• 54:27
  SPEAKER_00: Until then, Christ is king, serve him till the end.
• 54:31
  SPEAKER_00: Love you guys.
• 54:32
  SPEAKER_00: Talk to you later.