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Splurging On A Trip We Can't Afford · Nick and Kristen in the Podcast

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Hello and welcome to Nick and Kristen in the podcast.
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I'm Nick. That's Kristen.
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We're a married couple. We've got a daughter.
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She's 7. We're going to get to that and
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how we're going out of our way to splurge one last time on a
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big trip. But first I want to get to
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what's something about marriage that nobody warned you would be
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this annoying? Now I feel like I always go
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first, but do you want to go? I I've tried to prepare for this
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so I I think the most annoying thing about marriage that no one
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prepared me for is having to wait to watch a show that I know
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you want to watch. Like I think they're because you
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go to bed before me and I stay up all night and I I have
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nothing to do And all I want to do is watch the shows that I
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want to watch when I want to watch them, but I can't because
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I know you want to watch them and I want to watch them with
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you and that's annoying. So it's not like I, it's not
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like you're making me wait for you.
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It's not like you have decided that I can't watch it.
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You're not telling me what I can and can't do.
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It's just I want to watch them with you, but you're just never
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there so that we can watch them. Wow, my answer is way more
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hurtful than this one. So all right, yeah.
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I mean, I like your answer, but it's it's true, though.
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I mean, I do go to bed early because I have to work.
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I I said marriage, not our marriage specifically, but all
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right, what you? Got Well, I my answer was the
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most annoying thing about marriage that nobody prepared
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for was that you become or I became the cruise director of
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our lives without me knowing. All of a sudden it feels like no
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decision can be made without checking in with me or me
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answering the question. Like it's always like, what are
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we doing today? When are we having dinner?
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What's for lunch? Like where do we want to go
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today? And it's just like, I don't
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know, like I woke up the same person you did.
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Like why all of a sudden isn't required of me to answer all the
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questions about everything. Like, is there laundry going?
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It's like, I don't know, go look, are these dishes clean?
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It's like check you. Don't realize you're going to
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have to answer so many questions right?
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Like. There's so many questions.
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Me. It's Lily too.
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Our daughter. Well, it's Lily too.
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And it's like if you put it into the context, I know you don't
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have a job right now, but if you were to put it in the context of
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a job, like you wouldn't go to your boss in the morning and be
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like, So what, What am I doing today?
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Yeah, It's like, no, you would just do your job, the one that
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you've been doing. Like you wouldn't be like, So
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what are we doing at this event? It's like, no, you would know,
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like why all of all of a sudden when when you're home does like
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full body amnesia come over you And like all of a sudden we
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can't, we can't decide or decipher for ourselves anything.
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I'm married to my boss, so that's one reason why I don't
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care what he thinks I should do because he's assigned me a job.
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He said when you go to work, this is what you do.
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And so I do that as far. But in our marriage, things that
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we do, we do together. So there's things that I want to
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do and I don't know if you want to do them.
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And so I have to check with you. For instance, lunch, could I
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just make myself lunch and be like hope she figures it out?
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Or do I want to decide if you want to have lunch with me and
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if you want to have lunch with me, would you?
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What would you like for lunch like because I am open it just.
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Becomes a just a spiral of questions that I have to answer.
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And if I don't answer them, then it's like, well, I guess
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nobody's eating lunch and it's like, well, no, like just figure
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it out. Like I'll make myself a tuna
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sandwich. Like when did everything have to
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be like collaborated on? It doesn't if you tell me the no
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collaboration is needed, but we have to, we have to come
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together because I don't want to then face the guilt of you
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coming and saying, Oh, did you have lunch without me?
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Like you didn't even think about me.
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I was like, no, I thought about you.
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I just decided to not ask you a question one time.
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And so like, I'm not waiting. I'm not going to get myself in
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because I, I, my level of caring what we do is very low.
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As long as you're there, I'm there.
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And so and you become the director because you like to do
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things and I just like to do what you're doing.
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So like I'm. Yeah.
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I know, but like, would you just never leave the house if it was
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me? No, I would.
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Make my decisions. Would you actually like just
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never go anywhere and do anything?
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Would you just be paralyzed by the weight of the decisions?
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There are things that I want to do, things that I can do, and
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things that I don't do because you don't.
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Want to do that? Are they in the room with us?
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Like I'm looking around at all these things you want to do and
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I don't hear any of them ever coming to the table.
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Because you don't want to do any of those.
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Well, what are they? Like I would like to go bowling.
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OK, but you can't afford it. I know I can't afford it, so I
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don't know. I'd like to go for a walk.
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Sometimes I go look around the mall at the stuff I can't buy
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like. I know I have to be there.
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You don't have to be there, but I'd like you to be.
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I'd like because, you know, we don't hang out much.
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And so since we don't have a show, we don't talk to each
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other anymore. And so this is our only 15
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minutes where we actually engaged.
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I know. And so I'd like you to be
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somewhere that I'm at so that we can like, hang out.
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I know, but like I become the end all be all.
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Like if you came to me and was like, man, I'd love to go walk
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around the mall. Do you want to come walk around
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the mall with me? And I'd be like, I don't feel
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like it. You'd be like, well, I guess I'm
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not walking around the mall then and.
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It's just. Like you, you go.
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Oh man, I really wanted to walk around the mall.
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Well, I guess I could do. That.
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It's just like, just go. I don't want to walk around the
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mall alone. I want to walk around the mall
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with you. So like, I get that you're
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independent and you don't care if I'm anywhere with you.
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I would like you to be hanging out with me whenever I can.
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I know it's just 1000 questions. Why don't you want to go to the
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mall? What's wrong with you?
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What's what did you are you and if I didn't ask like no, it just
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sounds awful. If I didn't ask like an awful
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time. If I didn't ask you questions,
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we'd never do anything because you make plans and then you just
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do the plans. Yeah, I make the plans and then
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I wake up and you go, what are we doing?
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And it's like, oh, hey, like, because I knew nothing would be
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planned from you. Yeah, I have the whole day
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planned. I don't make plans, so I'm the.
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First director of life. I wake up, I put on my little
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captain's app. Captain Fun over here.
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Hey everybody, guess what? Everybody get up because we're
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going on a hike today. Then after that we're going to
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the farmers market and everyone's like yay, and I'm
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over here managing snacks and all this kind of stuff.
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It's like everyone's just having a great time.
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We're all just following people. Up having the best time except.
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For me, yeah, everyone, I would get the snacks.
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You got to delegate. Like if you, once you figure out
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what we're doing, tell us what to do.
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No, see, you're a grown person. You go shame.
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Moss, I know I'm supposed to be here at this thing, but what is
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it that I do? Can you make me a list?
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Give me a title No. Just figure it out.
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Make me snack direct. Assistant Captain Fun.
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Just get to it I'll. Be the one that backs us next.
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All right, so let's talk about Speaking of someone playing
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cruise writers. We're going on a cruise that
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Kristen 100% planned. And why wouldn't I?
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Just proving it because I don't make decisions in this house, so
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it's fine. I let Kristen 'cause he makes
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all the best decisions. So we're going on a cruise.
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She decided to splurge and go. All out.
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Well, OK, so this the context needed here.
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She just dropped thousands of. Dollars I dropped thousands of
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dollars that I had OK, this was money I had saved.
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And I was like, I have no immediate need for this money
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right now. Wouldn't that be nice?
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And it was like the greatest moment of my life.
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I was like, I can just drop this money on a cruise for my family
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and it's not going to affect me because I had two full time jobs
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and Nick had a full time job so. I was like one month.
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We had three full time. Incomes and I was like this is
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amazing. My, I have zero credit card debt
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like this. This is fabulous.
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I'm going to splurge. I'm going to have super fun.
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Three weeks later after I paid for this cruise fired.
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And so it's paid for. It's like, all right, we're
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going OK. But the thing that I splurged on
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is we're going on this Disney Cruise, which already is just
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outrageous for what it is, but I paid for us to be concierge,
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which is like the VIP kind of experience.
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Yeah, I'd never heard of concierge before until you came
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to me and said because like things in life, there are tears.
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To everything, to the fun, you want to have more fun, pay more
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money. And I hate I'm everything
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against this, but my thing was the reason I chose this is
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because this is probably the only Disney cruise that we're
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going to go on. Lily's not super into Disney.
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I'm not. We wouldn't go like without her.
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It's really just a sort of test the waters and introduce her to
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cruise life. And then after that, we're going
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to go on Carnival, you know? What I mean?
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Like we'll go somewhere that we actually want to go.
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And this is sort of just like the gateway into the cruise
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world. And I had heard through the
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Grapevine like, if you want to do anything on the ship, you
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have to be concierge. If you want to see the plays, if
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you want like a seat at the pool, you have to be concierge
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because they'll save the seats for you.
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And they'll also save the seats in the theater.
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And so you don't have to wait for an hour or two in a line to
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get. In there.
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If you want to meet Mickey, you don't have to wait for three
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hours while mom stands in line and everybody has fun.
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And I was like, no, I want to have fun on this cruise too.
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I don't want to spend time waiting in line and then texting
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everybody when we're at the beginning of the line.
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So I got this and now I'm starting to see like all the
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things that come with Concierge and it's starting to make me
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feel really bad about my decision.
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Yeah, like I hate it so much. And because I, I, it's such a
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class division on so many levels.
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I hated when they started bringing it to Disneyland where
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like you need the fast pass, you got a book ahead and you have.
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Like all these? Like it's just, I don't, I hate
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the fact that you have to pay more for more fun to have the
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same fun that should be available to everyone.
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And it's on many different things that I have this problem
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with and and I feel terrible about.
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It I do too and. At the same time, I'm very
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excited to do these things. Right.
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But I'm going to feel bad the whole time I'm doing it.
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I watched, I watched a video. So concierge, you get to have a
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cabana like on the beach, you have to pay extra for it.
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So it doesn't like come with it. But like I got a cabana on the
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beach and they're like, if you want out of the brutal Bahamas
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sun, like you need to have this cabana.
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So I booked that again when I had money and money.
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'S no object. I've got three.
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Yeah, I. Was like, oh it's fine, just pay
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for it. And I saw a video and I was
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like, here's why you book Cabana at the the Island resort.
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And it showed like 400 people playing in the water and every
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inch of the sand taken. And then it panned to where
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there's like a bunch of buoys separating and it panned to an
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empty beach with like 4 kids playing in the water.
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And it was like concierge versus everyone else.
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And I was like, that's disgusting.
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Like it just feels disgusting that my kids going to be like
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have the beach to herself. Like no, no waiting in anything.
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And we have a Butler that comes and brings us.
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Lunch and it's not even like the highest you can.
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Pay for all this is. Like we're still poor.
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We're the poor concierge. Like you can go up tears from
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this. And I was just like, wow, this
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is so disgusting. We have our own, our own pool,
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like, we have our own like lunch area where you could have your
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own lunch that has upgraded food, not the swine that
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everything everybody else eats. And I was just like, Oh my God,
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it's awful. I thought I just wasn't going to
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have to wait in stuff. Yeah, even then I would have
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felt bad, like even then, Yeah. Because like they waited for an
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hour and then I just walk in like from the beach.
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I'm like private beach to just like.
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And it feels like I feel like I'm better than them.
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Oh, totally. But and I think that they think
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that I think they're better. And so it's like.
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I'm not better than anybody. And like, another thing that
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sealed the deal is from the, the boat to the beach, it's like a
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mile walk. And they, they were told me
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they're like, Oh yeah, don't worry.
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Like we'll have a private golf cart for your family so you
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don't have to walk. And I was like, Oh my God, Can
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you imagine? It's again, it's cool because
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it's a. Good thing to experience.
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I would pay. For it and and again, like when
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we had three full time incomes, it was very much like, let's
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just really splurge, let's have a really great time.
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And and but now it's like we're setting the precedent.
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And it's. Like, Oh no.
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Honey like. This is never going to happen
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ever again. Like we're never going even on
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another trip up. It's like it's going to be like
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five years. Enjoy your vacation the 1st
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until you graduate. Yeah.
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And so that's why we didn't refund it.
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I don't know if we can get it refunded but.
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Yeah, I would lose a bunch of money on it.
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Yeah. And so now that we have no
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prospects and like we're now more into let's just go live
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this amazing life for three days and then come back and hate
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everything and just go back to work like and then and never
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live that again. So this.
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Is like, this is a once in a lifetime experience.
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We are 100% never doing this again.
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I know, I know that she's going to enjoy the Disney Cruise, but
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she doesn't care about the Disney aspect of it.
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So once that's over and done with, we'll probably never ever
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do do this ever again. You can clip this next year when
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I'm like, oh, by the way, we're going on a Disney cruise.
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I saved all year and donated a plasma because she had such a
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blast. But it's one of those things
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where it's like, I never plan on doing this again.
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So this. Is it?
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I'm going to be just know I'm going to be very upset sitting
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at my private pool drinking my Mai Tai that was delivered by a
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Butler to only me, enjoying just the sun.
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That's my portion of the sun that bakes me, but only.
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Perfectly, it doesn't. Yeah, it's not as UV rays.
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And then somebody, I know we're running out of time, but
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somebody said, oh, and don't forget to tell the concierge
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staff, like what you would like when you come back to your room.
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They said, we love those little ice creams that are in the shape
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of Mickey and like dipped in chocolate.
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And they said. So we told them like, hey, every
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time we come back to our room at the end of the night, can you
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give us one of those ice creams? And every single night there was
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a somebody waiting there at their door giving them the ice
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cream. Hey, Happy family.
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Here you go. And I was like, how do you even
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ask for that? I would be so embarrassed to be
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like, hey, can you make sure that like I never have a
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different or like can I have a different towel for every single
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time I wipe my face? I forget what movie that is, but
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it's like the person that went to drink.
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It's like, can you make. Oh, I think it was How I Met
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Your Mother. Yeah.
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Which is like I always have every.
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Time. This always has to be full.
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Make sure it's always full. She drinks it, she puts it down,
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she gets a new one. Yeah, Like, thank you.
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That's how it's going to be. It's so insane.
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We get to board the boat before anyone else and then we get
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escorted to a restaurant that is only open for us for an
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exclusive lunch that no one else gets to take advantage of.
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And it sounds like we spent hundreds of thousands of dollars
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on it. It was just slightly more
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expensive than just going. On it was actually somewhat of a
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decent deal. Like, I mean, it's it's
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outrageous. You could go to it like a seven
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day Alaskan cruise with how much we're spending on this.
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But still, it was like, oh, like, that seems kind of worth
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it to like not have to stand in line to stuff when I had three
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jobs. Well, we'll tell you it's not
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till August. So everything he changed.
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It's going to be the greatest time of our lives.
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We're going to come back and we'll be so sad to be poor.
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It's. Just going to be the we're the
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highest of highs and the lowest of lows.
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